STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED....
Pls Stella I need advice
I am a 26 yrs old single lady and I work with a Federal government agency in Osun state. God has blessed me in all ramifications most especially career wise. But one thing is missing and that is a soul mate.
My parent helped me to secure this job. Ever since then, they have never failed to remind me of why I have refused to bring a man home. I relocated from Lagos to Osun state immediately I got this job because I felt the cost of living in Osun state is low compared to Lagos.
Ever Since my relocation to Osun state in 2018, have not met the kind of man I want. The kind of guys I keep seeing are Yahoo guys, guys that called themselves miners in crypto currency and guys with fish pond that i have never seen .
I have always wished to get married to a guy that is decent and that is into careers like medicine, Computer gurus, law, Engineering, theatre art, Entertainment etc. My aunty in Lagos has been advising me to relocate from Osun to Lagos that I can't get the kind of guy I want in Osun state.
BVs my question is Should I relocate to Lagos in search of a husband or I should stay back in Osun state hoping to meet the kind of career driven guys I want? In my place of work, you can only apply for compassionate transfer once. I am feeling if I relocate to Lagos and I later see a husband living in Port Harcourt.
It will be difficult to get another compassionate transfer.
*Hmmm meeting someone is Osun state might be difficult but then again i dont know what Gods plan for you is... please dont move anywhere yet...
It may depend on the LGA or area u based in Osun sha. Unless you are saying it's hard to see career people there.
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DeleteMy dear pray to God to give u a good man. Keep praying to God dats all.
If you will retain your job by all means relocate to Lagos or ibadan
DeleteThe number of eligible bachelor's would be very slim in a town like Osun, especially in the fields you mentioned, they would have moved to promising states.
Please try lagos or ibadan, grow yourself while waiting for somebody's son and don't let your parents weigh you down.
my dear you are 26, nothing is missing in your life. focus on your career and be social, go out with friends, attend parties and be active in church/mosque. He will find you.
DeleteAunty..stay put and enjoy ur Sound State cuz am sure soon you will laugh last your challenges..
ReplyDeleteThere are several responsible men in Osun state, just that, you need to be calm and don't be too desperate so as not to fall into wrong hands..
Even in Lagos, some men look responsible but they are not,,na scammer plenty pass for Lagos sef..if care is not taken, some men in Lagos will use u as a client.
My good Lord will soon, give u ur heart desires
My dear stay in Osun working then use you holidays to visit fun places where u can meet interesting people. Nigeria parents should start learning not to put their girls on their toes cause of marriage. Marriage isn't the ultimate goal. Enjoy your singleness now while it last. Don't use desperation and enter marriage that will frustrate the hell out of you my sister.
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DeleteLol @ fish pond i have never seen, poster you are so funny😂😂.
ReplyDeletePlease relax and take your mind off this whole husband search, you will meet a great guy and eventually settle down okay🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
That statement is quite funny ooo, fish pond iveI never seen 😂😂
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ReplyDeleteThere's no need to rush and you need to take your time,ma'am
ReplyDeleteWork in Osun, weekend or holiday grooves in Lagos. Shoot your shot on SM if you see your spec. No dulling anywhere you are babe. May you locate the bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh. Amen
Delete26 is rather too young for this level of desperation. Resist the pressure from your parents and allow God take the wheels concerning your marital life
ReplyDeleteAs for relocating back to Lagos, it's a NO for me. God's will is always available in any location we find ourselves if paradventure it isn't He alone will relocate you without any input from you.
Enjoy your single status while you still have it
👌👌 @ God's will is always available in any location we find ourselves if paradventure it isn't He alone will relocate you without any input from you.
DeleteIt is even easier to find a correct guy in osun than Lagos sef
ReplyDeleteI had a project in that state and other Southwest states. God! I pity this country. Practically every young man there is into yahoo. Same with Owerri and Enugu. Abi na Asaba. The young men are into Yahoo, while their female counterparts are into prostitution. If you visit their universities, you'll nearly run mad by what you see. The signs of the future of this country isn't encouraging at all.
ReplyDeleteMadam you need luck to meet the type of guy you want. You might meet him and discover you're not his type. The number of decent men doing well for themselves is dwindling day by day. Join a professional program. You just might be lucky. Don't redeploy just yet. You might just end up marrying a man based in another city which will warrant you relocating to his station.
Somehow e no easy for women o. They can't approach a man. They have to wait for a man to approach them no matter how long it takes.
No.
ReplyDeleteI read it on sp some days back
God sent a star to direct astrologers from the east to locate where Jesus Christ was born, He can equally cause a meeting in Osun with your dream man, pray and believe. God will visit you soon
ReplyDeleteMost of the people in osun state are civil servants,old people sef some about to retire from active service,the young ones are either into auto dealing or bar business or filling station owners,large percentage of them are married o.The youths are into yahoo.Relocate .I am from osun state so i understand what you are saying.As a woman seeking the face of God for a man of your dreams,i do not think osun state is good for you.I also relocated from there,tho the state is peaceful serene and low in terms of standard of living.Relocate and go to lagos or abuja.There's no place where one can't meet the man of one's dream but at times the environment you find yourself sometimes influences some things.Relocate abeg.
ReplyDeleteAsk and you shall receive, seek and you shall find ,knock and the door shall be opened unto you. may the good Lord grant you your heart desires,Amen.
ReplyDeleteTonia
Youre 26 and already pressured into getting married?do you want to leave the job that is now gold in Nigeria to chase man in Lagos?Omo I tire for the kind youths we have now I swear.
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DeleteHmmn. You should ask God what His plan for you is, from there you would know whether to relocate back to Lagos or remain where you are.
ReplyDeleteI used to work for a govt parastatsl in ogun state then I thought I would find a good man in the town where I worked but instead got married men and the likes as the potential husband's. It was only in church n with my colleagues I was able to socialise still no show. I eventually quit the job for other reasons moved back to Lagos n carried on with my life, God intervened in the matter. Today I m no longer single.
What am trying to say is that we need God's guidance all the time to make decisions Cos what we think is good for us might not be in God's plan. Your relocation to Osun state may have not been in God's plan. Seek God's face bfr u make further decisions
This has been posted before o
ReplyDeletePlease hold on and dont move to Lagos. God has a plan for you. Continue in prayers and lean not on your own understanding. He will visit you soon. God knows how to settle his people.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is that location is very important. You can stay in Osun and spend your weekends or leave period in Lagos or any other state of your choice. Also, is it possible that you don't go out. I don't necessarily mean clubs but hang outs and fun spots as well. Also try and volunteer to go for business meetings. Register in a hospital with really cute doctors and so on. Bottom line is to just make yourself a popular face wherever you go
ReplyDeleteI’m from osun state, oshogbo to be precise. My uncle lives there and is a pharmacist but now married and relocated to the abroad but has his business in oshogbo.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is that you seek God’s face about His plans for your life. As for your parents tell them as they helped you find job they should also help you find man. Turn the pressure on them and know peace.
Shalom
Good advice. Turn the tables right back on the parents🤣🤣🤣
DeleteYou get better job before 26 years sef its that not enough for you to trust that God can give you your divine husband? Sis fix your eyes on God he will definitely comfort you psalm 27 vs 4.
ReplyDeleteSo if I’m getting this straight.You want to leave your job to go to Lagos to find a man(it’s not even certain that you will find one) and transfer your liabilities to him cos in everything you just said,you didn’t mention finding another job in the Lagos you’re going to.I’m not understanding
ReplyDeleteWhat were you reading?
DeleteShe intended to ask for a compassionate transfer which is available to employees to use once. She would still have her work if she moved to Lagos, not unemployed. But could not use the compassionate transfer ever again.
Poster why did you relocate at first?
ReplyDeleteBetter remain where you are. Is it that there are no decent career men in osun state? Hmm.
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteI beg to disagree that you can't meet the kind of man you are looking for in Osun.
One thing about relationships is that, sincerely we are mostly not who we want. And that can be a major issue. It's just in a way like faith - you can't keep praying for what you don't believe in and expect it to come through. Some peoople have met their soulmate in remote locations. It's all about being what you have prayed for. You can't tell me that there's no "guy that is decent and that is into careers like medicine, Computer gurus, law, Engineering, theatre art, Entertainment etc" in that area of Osun that you are. Instead, that they don't meet up with the standard you've set for yourself, would be more appropriate.
My advice would be don't relocate anywhere, except your work mandates it. Otherwise like someone suggested up there, go for holidays in those other places that you think have better chances. Realistically in the end, we can only attract our kind of mindsets. Keep an open mind and trust in the will of God. You can trust the will of God and not be open to surprises, because you are all about the kind of what you want. Do even understand what God has prepared for you? Even in a hole, one can still find fulfillment.
May God comfort you soon, and heal your desire.
Happy Sunday.
God is not limited by geographical space in giving one a husband or any other blessings.
ReplyDeleteThe only thing I noticed in your story is that you did not even mention him; yes, God or any trust in him at all.
Have you given your life to Christ? Then begin to call on him. For "in all things, the Lord works for the good of those
that love him and are called according to his purpose." Rom. 8:28. Do you love him?
And please, do not look at the person's career, look at the person's character.
Lagos actually is the hub of the yahoo guys.
I believe you can meet who you're searching for in Osun State, ask God for direction, even if you're living in the core rural area, he can come for a party or he drives along and his vehicle breaks down( Nollywood method). Don't misuse that one opportunity of relocating because of this,you can even meet on social media, be open minded.
ReplyDeleteCheck your lifestyle and dressing for you to keep on attracting Yahoo boys, there's something about you. If you notice their girlfriends have this dress sense that's unusual and lousy lifestyle.
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ReplyDeleteJust save your money. Give yourself another two years and in that two years save like you have never done before. Then if nothing promising shows you will have some solid financial foundation that should allow you to relocate with ease.
ReplyDeleteBia, lagos girls too are looking for husband oh! Be guided!
ReplyDeleteDear poster, firstly, you are too young to be bothered about hubby at this age. You can aspire but not to this extent, 26? No nah. Cool off and enjoy your stay in that state. There is a reason God wants you to be there. You will see your match. Adhere to Stella's advice. All the best...
ReplyDelete26 is not young,u people wants her to be 30 before thinking of marriage? I got married at 25,so 26 isn't young
Delete21:35, e no tire you? I wonder how 26 is too young to be married
DeleteGood men are scarce, just relax and enjoy your self and have fun. If it comes it comes. Don't rush oo or u will rush out. Me that have been praying for one since I was 23 have not jammed one, na fuck boys and married men dey rush me but I know deep down that my God will surprise me. My rushing days are over.
ReplyDeletePoster, it's good to want to be married at 26 but if your husband has not found you, what to do? Focus on your career for now. God can bring your husband to even your village if he wants to. Relax... keep praying. You need to marry right not just marry soon. Do not relocate... I wish you well.
ReplyDeletePoster, put yourself in a position to be found. That way, you'll attract the right people. For you too be attracting miners and co means you're not positioning right yet
ReplyDeletePls relocate,I am speaking from experience
ReplyDeleteOsun state guys that mumble before they speak 🤣🤣 ooornn how are you? Ooorn good morning
ReplyDeleteChronicle has been posted before.
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