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UNABLE TO MOVE ON
I gave birth on October 19th. My mom was already at my place to start omugwo. I had post partum depression as a result of the Labour room drama and tear that I was given during the birthing process.
I gave birth on October 19th. My mom was already at my place to start omugwo. I had post partum depression as a result of the Labour room drama and tear that I was given during the birthing process.
I couldn't eat and breast milk wasn't coming. Anyways, my mom stayed for 3 weeks and she left on Friday 11th November Hale and hearty but she slumped on Monday being 14th November in her house.
She was rushed to the hospital. Her BP was very high. Blood sugar was over 500 (we never knew she had sugar) She was in a Diabetic Coma all of a sudden. We prayed. We changed her hospital immediately.
They did CT scan and there was no brain damage.
We continued hoping and praying. By 7pm that Monday evening, we got news that the sugar level had dropped to 132. Everyone was excited because at that time she was moving her body though unconscious.
Our prayers then was that at least before Tuesday morning she would wake up.
My mom never woke up.
At 12midnight I had a dream, I and baby usually sleep in the sitting room most nights. My mom came and sat beside me on the cushion, looked at me with a sad face and left.
I woke immediately and looked at the time. I started praying positively that i wish it means she has woken up physically. I wrote on my family group chat "Any update" but no one responded.
I felt its too deep into the night, and decided to leave it till early morning. After about 30 mins, my hubby joined me in the sitting room and I asked him why he is awake. He said nothing.
I hardly sleep since I gave birth so I was awake most of the night. My husband was awake too and I became worried. When i ask him, he will say nothing. Long story short, I was the last person to know because everyone was scared cos I just had a baby and my mom was just in my house about 4 days prior to her demise.
Now I can't even breastfeed again cos I can't eat again.
My baby is on formula cos my world has been shattered. its over one week my mom left me in this world and her 59th birthday was some days back. I don't know how to move on. There is so much I want to tell her. I need help..
This brought memories of my mum and the shock i got when i heard she had passed on at 59 years.. Its been 22 years and i thought it was too hard to move on... Now i remember her and smile... You will be fine, just make sure your mental health is in check and eat so that you dont break down.
This brought memories of my mum and the shock i got when i heard she had passed on at 59 years.. Its been 22 years and i thought it was too hard to move on... Now i remember her and smile... You will be fine, just make sure your mental health is in check and eat so that you dont break down.
If your condition is really bad, let anyone you trust help you out with the baby so that you can rest and sleep a lot, it will also help you.
Make sure that you communicate how you feel to your hubby s that he does not bombard you with demands for nacking, cos that is the last thing you need with this mood that you are in....
Oh dear
ReplyDeleteI cried reading this but u will be fine..I don't know how,but look at ur child and be hopeful
It's well even in the dang well
DeleteDeath is the worst thing in this life. NOTHING prepares u for that pain.
DeleteI pray that God will console you and your family
DeleteYou will be fine. Rest.
DeleteIt's not easy but everything will be fine.
This is really sad. Sorry for your loss.
DeletePlease remember your baby, she need her Mummy too. You'll be fine
I am so sorry. It's never easy losing a parent especially at a vulnerable time as post partum. Take heart ,my dear.
ReplyDeleteHowever, remember you are also a mum now. That helpless baby needs you more than ever now. You have to will yourself to be better for your baby. You already have memories of your mum. You have to be here to create new ones with your child. Remember to look until God too. Most times, our faith keeps us afloat the dark sea of depression.
My kisses to you and baby.
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Sorry for your lose Poster. It wont be easy. Cry all you can and learn to live with it. God will see you through.
DeleteWell said AK047.
DeleteSo sorry for the loss of your mom, please don't think too much about it because of the little baby and your health, yeah I know it's not easy. May her soul rest in peace.
Anne K
Well said AK047.
DeleteSo sorry for the loss of your mom, please don't think too much about it because of the little baby and your health, yeah I know it's not easy. May her soul rest in peace.
Anne K
I love this comment! God bless you ak047
DeleteSo sorry dear, maybe you should listen to preachings and gospel music to calm you. Your mom is in a better place dear. #hugs#🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteSorry sis,its not easy but you need to be calm and be good for yourself and baby.
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in peace and May the Lord comfort you and yours.... please take heart.
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ReplyDeletePlease stay strong for your baby as you mum would love for you to do so. Sorry
So sorry for the lose of your beloved mum. She's in a better place. I pray you find comfort in God as he continues to renew your strength. And please try eat something for the sake of your new born baby. You will surely overcome this sorrow.
ReplyDeleteChai you will be fine, God is your strength
ReplyDeleteI don't even know how to start consoling you cos this is painful, may God console you and give you strength to move on. May Mama's soul rest in peace
ReplyDeleteThis is so painful to read. It's easier said than done but just try, try to be strong for your baby so that you don't fall sick. I really don't know what to say. Take heart my sister. You'll be fine
ReplyDeleteNot easy this world is just somehow ,pray you will be fine
ReplyDeleteThanks heart dear. Just be good to your cutie
ReplyDelete@nacking lol Stella this remind of when I lost my cousin who was like a big sis to me and also a mother. I was newly married and pregnant I spoke to her few hours before she died. This cousin of mine was literally everything my big sister wasn't. She had been planning my wedding long before I even see husband that is to tell you how dear and close we were. My wedding was suppose to be in July of that year but she died around April, I refused to go ahead with the wedding as I was so devastated, angry, confused and scared of life. someone I spoke to, she died while giving birth so u will understand my fear of doing any wedding as I was scared too that I will die.
ReplyDeleteWhy I bring this up was that during my mourning days which was horrible everyone was scared for me because of how close we were and my condition too, all my hubby could do was to be asking of sex at even at midnight when I couldn't sleep nor eat despite been pregnant. God forgive me I hated my hubby and wish he was not around me then. I thought he would have been the best person to console rather he complicated everything.
5 years after I still miss my sweet cousin and wish she is here cos she would have my back even when all turned against me when the marriage ended. I miss her badly and wish she could come back to earth.
My dear just take heart, losing a love one can be painful and traumatizing, I pray to God to give you the Grace to move ahead.
It is well.....
I’m sorry
DeleteYou shouldn't have gone to marry such a selfish man, take heart, your cousin would most likely with her kind heart wished you to be a solid mommy to your baby
DeleteSo sad reading this.pls you have to be strong for your baby.life is so short,this minute we are here,the next minute,we are gone.
ReplyDeleteOmg,so sorry about your mum's demise,take each day at a time,time heals all wound.🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteSorry darling
ReplyDeleteHave sex if it will make you feel better
Oh dear, so sad. It is well. I pray God give you the grace to bear this great loss. May her soul rest in peace 🙏.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for the sudden passing of your mum. I don't know how to console you but i asked that the Lord console and carry you at this trying period.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, sorry about your loss. Mine happened 2 years ago and I have not been able to forgive myself. People say give it time but the loss of a loved one I don't know if time heals it. Be strong.
ReplyDeleteCommiserations, poster. May the Lord comfort your family.
ReplyDelete😔😔😔🤗🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteI can feel ur pain, i lost my dad 5yrs ago, and i still feel the pains of his demise, he was my best friend, things i could not tell my mum, i tell him, take heart dearie, God will give u the fortitude to bear the loss, don't rush to heal, take ur time, cry and grief till u are satisfied if not u might not heal properly
ReplyDeleteLosing a loved one is never easy. You have to be strong for your baby
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in peace .Amin
i pray God comfort you
ReplyDeleteHmmmm sorry dear ☹️
ReplyDeletePoster you will be fine. First it will be difficult and after sometime you will be fine. We have all passed through this and we came out strong. You are a mother, a wife, a sister. Your baby, husband and siblings need you. Be strong dear
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you are Traumatized and you are at a crisis point. Pls cry if you must. Shout do anything but let it out. A friend lost his wife last week. She had Leukemia. And she was pregnant. The baby was removed and is okay. But she didn't. All of this is painful. The trauma is because you didn't see it coming. May the Lord heal your heart.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry abt ur mum's death,it is not easy my anuty went for amugwo in her daughter's house and she fell sick and died even before she finished the amugwo..it was not easy for my cousin sis then,but by Gods grace she is moving on small small..the lord is ur strength
ReplyDeleteOmg, this really broke my heart "abiyamo Ku oro omo😢😢😢😢" may her soul rest in perfect peace. It may take time,but you'll be fine. Please try to stay positive because of the new born, your mum will be happy wherever she is if she sees you and the baby blossoming. May God comfort you🤗🤗🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss poster, hang in there, God will come through for you
ReplyDeleteSo sorry, poster. If you are a Christian pls call upon the Holyspirit to comfort you.
ReplyDeleteYour baby needs you, pls be strong 🤗
I'm sorry about your loss.
ReplyDeleteAwwww, our babies are birthday mates. Motherhood is tough even without tragedy. I am so sorry for your loss and I pray you find the strength to carry on for your baby's sake.
ReplyDeleteOmo na only my mama remain o. And my prayer is that she lives to see all my children and children children, please Lord protect and preserve her.
ReplyDeletePoster time heals all.
You will be fine, try to eat and rest o so you don't breakdown.
It is well with you.
Take heart dear. Please be strong for your new baby.
ReplyDeletePlease take each day as it comes. Try to eat no matter how small. I believe God will strengthen and comfort you in Jesus name.
ReplyDeletePlease come take some hugs, kiss 💋😘 please put yourself together and be strong for your baby. You will be fine with time, stop feeling bad cos she just left your place before it happened. It could have still happened if she didn't come to your place or was still around.
ReplyDeletePlease find closure with your husband and baby. Your mummy is in heaven watching you and your family. Take heart, please take care of your baby.
Get someone to help you out with work and the baby so that you can heal.
Poster may the Holy Spirit, who is the greatest comforter, comfort you.
ReplyDeleteMay the holy spirit comfort you.
ReplyDeleteI've there, 9yrs ago and the pain is still fresh.
You'll be fine sis,time heals💖🤗
Poster, I could feel your pain right here but you will be fine. God and your mum gots you.
ReplyDeletePlease be strong for your baby.
It's well with you.
Please take heart poster. May God comfort you and your family and may your mummy’s gentle soul rest in peace and in the bosom of the Lord. Amen. She’s in a better place. Please stay strong.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry poster.God pls don't let my mom die now ,cos she is my prayer warrior,she sees any bad thing b4 it happen nd pray for us her children,she can pray nd fast for Africa,buh me I can't.. God keep her healthy in good health...I love u so much mom
ReplyDeleteCome here let me hug you🤗🤗🤗🤗 dear poster. I've lost both my parents and crave parental love so bad, and the thought that none of my parents saw my kids is heart wrenching. So I understand you perfectly, but listen, you will be fine (wipes tears). I pray for you that God will comfort you at this time. My love to your bundle of joy.
ReplyDeleteThis brought tears and memories because I had similar experience but now I am getting over it because of my children, God will comfort and console you,in Jesus name
ReplyDeleteIt is well poster
ReplyDeleteMay God console you and your family and loved ones.
Not easy but God will surely comfort you 🙏
So sorry for your loss. May the lord comfort you at this time.🤗
ReplyDeleteAccept my condolences dear poster
ReplyDeleteIt's well
Precious holy spirit please comfort this dear sister. Let your peace overwhelm her right now in Jesus name Amen.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, so sorry for your loss. May the Holy Spirit comfort you!
ReplyDeleteYou are now a mummy. A mummy to that little baby. Please take care of your baby. You are his/her world right now.