Thursday In House News

 Hailings.........

THURSDAY MEMO

How is everyone doing? I am doing just fine!.....I am here watching my Cappuccino machine make me a cuppa.......Its grinding the coffee....Didi tell you guys it is supposed to be my Christmas present from my darling husband?it came early cos my wahala for it was much and he was scared i would pass back and buy a cheap nonsense brand that would spoil in one week...  hehehehehe..

A glass of Cappuccino costs 4,20 and i always order for two....This machine cost 850 euros and the one i wanted to buy was 50 euros..hahahahahahahahhahha...I still have that Nigerian thing in me to immediately change he amount to naira in my head and scream.... who else lives abroad and converts money like this?

Lets play a game in the comment section....

List one thing you hate the most and what you do when the thing you hate the most happens to you....

ME- I hate being taken for granted...oh i hate it with a passion and when it happens, i freeze and walk away from whoever or whatever.

YOU- 

Enjoy the rest of the day, Christmas don near finish and Blessings just yanfu yanfu everywhere.....

''Eze Ebube ......I am so glad that you found me worthy oh Lord...''

Hugs to you all..make i quick post cos of BV Sandra....lol

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SANTA GIVEAWAY 3rd LIST

Please send your account details to Data seller Waju if your ID is on this list....

Unfortunately not everyone will be chosen .

The next and maybe final list will be posted tomorrow...when I post the final list, I will state how much each person will get.....Interesting right? Na Baba God dey run things.

21- BV Jojo Lee

22- Drama King Teejays Corner

23- Pinkys corner

24-Dogs corner

25 -Inside the Mind of a woman going through motherhood

26 - Noorious for Jesus

27- Person Living With A Positive Status

28 -BV Acenene 

29 -BV Bennycoco

30 -BV LilyAngel 

The ID's on the first and second lists are....

Check well to see if you have sent your account details and gotten a mail back....

1-BV Gloglo 

2-BV Simply Divine  

3-BV Triple C  

4-BV Adunni  

5-BV Kosidumzy 

6-BV Excess3code 

7-BV King Jerry  

8-BV Teacher NK  

9-BV MichoHay 

10-BV Abionah

11- BV Mystic

12-BV CEO Empress

13- BV Hallel

14 -BV Spongebob Squarepants

15- BV Babe Kaima

16- BV The Beloved One

17- BV Altuage

18- BV Rhapsody

19- BV Chika (Licious) 

20- BV Big Mama

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10 Things You Should Always Keep Private, and why guarding them will change how people treat you.

1. Your net worth (how much you earn, save, or have in the bank). 

I began with this because money facts reshape relationships instantly. You may want to argue it, but it’s the fact. People measure you, strategize around you, or pitch for you the moment they know numbers, and that automatically makes you a target for expectations, manipulation, and entitlement. You can share your financial goals, not figures, and if you need help, consult a trusted adviser, not a public audience of people who don’t matter that much to your decision-making process.

2. Your true ambitions and timetable for success.
This is because ambition is very fragile, and when you broadcast plans, critics, saboteurs, and even helpers who don’t share your standards can derail you. The moment you start to share your ambition with just anyone and everyone, you begin to get unsolicited advice, premature pressure, and a scoreboard before the game is even played. If you must tell, tell only those who have already shown consistent support and competence, not the crowd.

3. The full story of your trauma and family dysfunction.

 Your trauma is yours to heal, not everyone’s material for gossip or sympathy theatre. Vulnerability with the wrong people becomes ammunition, which is why you must guard your vulnerability. If you must discuss this, let it be with professionals, trusted mentors, or a small circle that’s proven consistent over years.

4. Exact health diagnoses, mental health struggles, or treatment plans. 

Health is an intimate matter, oversharing it invites pity, stigma, unsolicited views, and misinformed commentary. What it does is that in the eyes of people, you are automatically reduced to your diagnosis, or they weaponize it in arguments and power plays. Share only what’s necessary for support or workplace accommodation; otherwise, keep the mechanics between you and your clinicians.

5. Who you are investing time into (mentors, lovers, partnerships). 

Relationships, whether professional or personal, are delicate experiments, and announcing intentions makes them political because it will make alliances become transactional, expectations heighten, and there’s a likelihood of jealousy distorting the outcome. You may reveal progress of your relationships, but never the prototypes.

6. Your plan for escape, whether from a toxic job, marriage, or community. 

Escape plans require safety and timing, and once exposed, the toxic system reacts, often violently. There will be sabotage, blame, legal or social retaliation, and emotional pressure to stay. My best advice to you would be to document, prepare, and tell only a legal or counseling ally and one trusted friend.

7. Your negotiation bottom line (salary threshold, deal breakers). 

In a negotiation, your leverage is your silence. Reveal your floor and you hand someone the power to squeeze you just above it. In order not to be lowballed, exploited, or guilted into concessions, learn to practice silence, ask questions, and anchor from value, not from desperation.

8. Private acts of kindness you want honored, not publicized. 

When generosity becomes currency for attention, it stops being generosity. Privacy will preserve your intention and avoid creating transactional expectations.

9. The inner mechanics of your marriage or closest partnerships. 

I say this because the world will register your intimacy into drama, blame, or advice you never asked for. Your partner’s dignity deserves protection, and that’s why you can’t afford to share anyhow with just anyone or the public. Friends choose sides, social media performs judgment, and small problems become public crises. If there’s anything at all to share, please have private rituals of accountability and agree on boundaries for what you’ll share.

10. Your long-term strategies and personal survival structure. 

Not every plan is meant for public announcement. The world should see results, not your scaffolding.

Finally, you need to know that people treat what they know about you differently from what they don’t, and privacy is not cowardice, it’s an act of self-respect. The less the world knows about your scaffolding, the more it must judge you by what you build, not by the scaffolding you used to survive.
Protect what’s vital always.

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WEIRD FACTS

----All 13 minerals required to sustain human life can be found in alcoholic beverages: calcium, chloride, chromium, copper, iodine, iron, magnesium, manganese, phosphorus, potassium, selenium, sodium, and zinc.

----A study found that if your face suggests that you’re alert and slightly happy, people are more likely to perceive you as intelligent.

----Sleeping on the job is acceptable in Japan, as it's viewed as exhaustion from working hard.

----You can't please everyone.

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A PRAYER FOR MY GENDER

My gender, hear this well.....
Pregnancy is not the key to any man’s home.
Hold on to what he is truly looking for... value, character, purpose, and dignity.
Be a woman strong enough, confident enough, and complete enough that any man would desire to have you in his life.

Don't use motherhood to buy love, use wisdom to guide your heart. 

A child should be a blessing not a bargaining chip. 

Choose sense over sentiment.
I only expect women with value to understand this message.

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A SOOTHING MESSAGE FOR A HEARTBROKEN WOMAN

He called you always…
He replied quickly…
He flirted…
He texted you first…
He gave you a sweet nickname…
He made you feel happy…
He told you he loved you…
He got you attached…

Then suddenly…
He barely answers.
He started slacking.
He stopped calling.
He stopped acting right.
He treated you differently.
He stopped saying “I love you.”
He stopped flirting.
He cut you off.
He broke your heart…
And he left.
The painful truth?
Almost every woman has experienced this kind of heartbreak.

But listen, sis…
Adjust your crown.
Sometimes God allows you to meet a few fakes before He leads you to the real one who will love you without stress, without excuses, without confusion.

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THINK CLEAN

Many people don’t realize that the most dangerous enemy is not outside… it’s the quiet voice inside their mind that keeps telling them:
“You are not good enough.”
“Don’t bother trying, you will fail.”
“People are better than you.”
“You don’t deserve anything good.”
That inner voice is not your friend, it is your enemy.
It doesn’t protect you… it limits you.
It doesn’t correct you… it cripples you.
It doesn’t encourage you… it drains your confidence slowly.
Let me explain something deeper:
Your mind listens to you more than anyone else.
Whatever you repeat to yourself becomes your reality.
If you feed yourself negativity, your life starts shrinking.
If you feed yourself courage, your life starts expanding.
The Truth
You cannot build a better life while listening to a voice that is trying to destroy you from the inside.
You must learn to silence it, challenge it, and replace it.
Tell yourself:
“I deserve peace.”
“I deserve good things.”
“I will not shrink myself to please negativity.”
“I refuse to be my own enemy.”
Build yourself.
Speak life into your mind.
Fight that inner voice every time it rises.
And watch your confidence come back stronger.

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