Could it have been a mistake? Yes
Was it? Well you don’t know so it all depends on whether you trust his word or not

Wanting it doesn’t make you agay though. Some people enjoy it and that’s that

Heterosexual couples engage in anal sex… myself included…he trying to trick u is not a ground for divorce. He probably got carried away..
U can enjoy it with lots of lubrication
U can allow him as special treats; anniversary, birthday

You can still have the discussion with him one more time to find out why he did what he did, listen to what he have to say and make sure him agree never to try it again. Give him another chance to prove to you it was a mistake and not an intentional thing.

If after this time he still repeated the same thing, just walk away because that already confirms your question. If you ever leave the marriage in the future, you don't need to go into details of what went wrong. You can tell people tou both are not compatible, no need to tell them he did this or that. Is not all details one have to let out when you have any misunderstanding with your partner.

You better leave if you know you can, before he tries it again with you ,especially by using tricks. Hopefully he doesn't make you delirious in order to have his ways with you. He surely knew what he was doing. He simply lied and taking you for a fool, to believe his excuse of not knowing what he did. In fact, it is an insult to you for him to claim he didn't know.
You can't trust such a fellow. A trickster. Be very careful so he doesn't succeed in assaulting you through the back door.
Do not give into such! Never! The repercussions are not good.

The Observer.

You are not over reacting, END the marriage. He is not to be trusted and that is an issue.
No relationship is perfect but I should be able to sleep with my eyes and senses closed without having to worry about being drugged.
He might not be a gaybriel but he sure likes it.
You can't pretend for long. If you can't give him that, he will go out to get it. Are you ready to live that kind of life? I do not think so.
Be careful before he drugs you and forces it on you.

Maybe it was really a mistake. I’ve made similar mistake once with my wife, I was thrusting from behind in the dark and it slipped off and I quickly slipped it back in without looking and only realized what i did when she screamed and pulled away from me. I apologized and we eventually moved past it.

I don’t think this one time he clearly stated was a mistake is enough grounds for divorce.

‎Anty keep quiet and behave like a living wife joor😅 maybe it's a mistake or he just wants to do some experimento🙄
‎or he he wants a tight hole check ya puna,he may not be Agagay jaree
‎have some discussions with him,if he is agay sef you gat to get some signs before now,abeg this never reach to divorce nah unless you be wan run before now😅

That was very wrong of him. And it was deliberate. Something that caused a tear isn't a mistake nah.

When you are calm, sit him down and have a deep talk with him.

Tell him this is something you will never try and if it's something he can't do without, then it's better you both go your separate ways, to avoid cheating in future or other issues related to this.

So, just accept it's a mistake and talk it over with him, never to try that kind of mistake again

Meanwhile, Maybe you should put extra bulbs in your rooms, so he can see clearly next time.

He clearly said it was a mistake, and apologized so what's the fuss about? Why not give him the benefit of the doubt? You can then react if he tries or talk about it again.

But sometimes I wonder why someone would prefer the second hole. Very disgusting!

You hubby loves gbenshing from the back. He is only pretending that it was a mistake. If you believe that was a mistake, then i have an airport to sell to you in Akwa ibom.

What a disgusting move

Maybe for now, refuse to do doggy as you have less control in such a position. For other styles , insist on guiding him in to avoid "mistaken location". Some people fantasize about such things. My hubby tried it once long time ago but my quick reaction prevented it and my reaction after that told him to never try it again. Once he tried videoing us and before he could set the light, i blocked him and warned him to never try it again. Both times he said, he just wanted to do something new but i was vehement in my rejection of such. All these were over 10 years ago and it has never come up again. He knew that i would walk if he ever tried it. Thank God i am not a "pick me" or "male centred" and he knows it.

My dear,what happened is not something to brush aside because it involves trust.
Your husband attempting something you had clearly discussed and rejected before marriage is not the best. However, this alone does not mean he is g*y.
The real issue is that he crossed a boundary you had already established. If it was genuinely a mistake, he should take full responsibility, sincerely apologize, and respect your boundaries going forward. If he continues to ignore your wishes or tries to pressure you again, then that is a serious issue that should not be ignored.
Before making a final decision about ending your marriage, consider having an honest conversation with him and, if possible, seek guidance from a trusted Christian counselor or mature spiritual leader.
If people ask why your marriage ended, you are not obligated to explain intimate details. Simply saying, We had irreconcilable differences and could not continue the marriage, is enough.
May God grant you wisdom, healing, and peace as you seek his direction.

I can say with 99% confidence that your husband's attempt to penetrate your anus was an accident, a type that is not uncommon. Your husband probably wasn't gay. A gay person would typically know that anal sex requires preparation, plenty of lubrication, and clear consent. It isn't something you should attempt without taking those precautions.
Though our society forbids an act like this, a lot of couples still engage in it and they enjoy and also derive great pleasure from it. Just like any other se**ual act, it carries it own risks when not done properly. It is not as disgusting as most people think. When done properly, it can be very pleasurable.

I can only imagine the emotional toll this has taken on you. Being in a situation where trust is questioned can leave one in a bad state of mind😔

My dear.pls leave if you can't do it.There are alre a lot of women doing it secretly to stay married.And ones they start having health issues their husband will dump them

Nobody should be forced into doing anything that they do not want. That you discussed it prior to marriage and he knows your mindset on it, he should have respected your stance. Trying to sodomize you is evil. Thank God you don’t have children and can easily walk away.

This kind Mistake Is Very Expensive ooooo
Mayben You Both Should Try Meeting Again And See What He Will Do
Before You Take Actions ..


Hello iya Boys

Poster,has he tried this before? If no,then it was likely influenced by his friends, I'm saying this from experience.

I am really learning a lot from Sdk blog 👍

Poster, I have not experienced this & don't pray to. But I believe God's words should be the guilding light in your marriage 💡.Anything outside it brings destruction.

Chai ..I came late..truth be told; I use to have this ex gf that love this trips..she introduced me to it and we were cool.. divorce bawo? Question him..calm down.. na cruise sha lol

God please forgive us human beings because we have erred tremendously.

Chai! What is this? Anus that is made for poo, people put their long John into it? The devil lied to you all that feels that you are enjoying it.

Go to hospital a lot of them are pooing from a stoma now( since God gave you an anus for poo, you said no, you want to use it for enjoyment. Ok now, use it for enjoyment and use your stomach for poo then.

I think you should discuss this with him with an open mind .let him be honest with you. If this is a fetish that he wants to explore, then you can decide to take a walk. All the best

How can you be with someone you do not trust. He said it is a mistake yet you do not believe him. Marriage means nothing to this generation. Everything small thing, I want divorce. No room for dialogue.
What time of the day did the sxx happen, was there light in the room, is your viggy tight that one will mistake it to anus? So many questions needs answer. Talk about it together . Let him understand how taking you throught the anus can harm your life. Talk!. Talk!. In any relationship, you must talk and resolve issues.

Poster, you and I both know it was not a mistake since you talked about this before marriage. I can't tell you to leave your marriage, let that decision come from you and you alone. DO NOT care what people think. If I were in your shoes best believe I don leave you dey go... honestly your best bet at this point if you are a christian is go to God in prayer.. tell him to show you everything you need to know about your husband. I did not say go to pastor, go to GOD himself and after that make your decision, but in the meantime please try not to fall pregnant oh!!!

The people saying it was a mistake are all maad! Didn't you read where she says he went ahead to try it again? POSTER, RUN 4 UR DEAR LIFE!!! God abeg, make no infidel near me oh! Disgusting set of creatures!