Hmmmmmm...
Dear Bvs,
I am in a fix and i cannot reveal any story cos i dont know who might be reading..
Do i keep this pregnancy which i am not sure is for my husband or for my man friend who forced me?
Do i pretend its my husbands own and have the baby?
Do i flush it out and forget what happened?
Or do i walk away knowing revelations will break my marriage and break me? My husband will throw me to the curb than support me.....
Its still early stage and nobody knows......
What do i do?
Ah my red pen don finish oh...
My saliva don finish too. I nor get mouth to talk 😩
ReplyDeleteIt was an error, i meant male friend....we were not intimate before he did what he did.
DeleteIf you can, do blood test dna to confirm. You don’t have to tell either of them or ask for samples. There are other ways to eliminate one as the father or not
ReplyDeleteBut don’t have the other man’s baby. Take it out of u can’t confirm
Don't abort an innocent baby ooo. What if he or she is destined for the throne?
DeleteThrone destiny fixer @ 16.16. It's a special kind of detergent they used to wash your brain sha. You sound beyond help.
Delete16:16 So many lives destroyed with that thinking
DeleteIt is well with you, Poster. If you are not sure about who knows the pregnancy,it may be better to abort it than take a chance. I hope this gives you a wake-up to reassess your marriage and life. Cheating while married is a no-no.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know what’s so difficult in fidelity in marriage that y’all just keep breaking your vows and putting yourselves in trouble!
ReplyDeleteYou better take out that pregnancy but if you can’t and must keep it, you better let that man know it’s not his and leave his life for him to find someone capable of respecting their marriage vows.
“or for my man friend who forced me?“
DeleteHe's not her boyfriend. The poster implied that he forced himself on her .poster am I right?
Deleteflush it or leave the marriage.
ReplyDeleteUna dey do things ooo. ANG would have had a feild day on this post.
ReplyDeleteYou should have asked us before sleeping with your husband and another man. You slept with another man apart from your husband, you get mind. You did not even wear rubber but you did it raw and you are asking us what to do. Anyways, do as you so wish cos you are an adult.
ReplyDeleteRead again. It was forced
DeleteStella use green write am🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeletePoster, just do what your heart tell you to do.
Don't give your husband another man's child. He doesn't deserve that. You were the one who stepped outside your marriage to have a man friend, so why should your husband be the one to bear the consequences?
ReplyDeleteI can't unsee your husband as the primary victim in this situation. If he throws you to the curb when he finds out, that would be a completely normal human reaction.
Delete“or for my man friend who forced me?“
I am sorry, so you meant your male friend?
DeleteIf your husband knew you had a male friend, then it means he was also okay with platonic friendships in general and he is a man totally secured in his marriage who knows the woman he married and trusts her enough to be faithful. So if you confide in him why would his main reaction be to distance himself from you?
The rapist is banking on the fact that you wouldn't tell your husband out of fear hence his audacity. I wish your husband can stand by you and fight for you. Personally, I think you should tell your husband and if he is the kind of husband who would treat you badly rather than being there for you in your traumatic moment, then good riddance.
The baby might even end up being your husband's and you would have just aborted your child.
Casey na man you trust like this
DeleteDid I hear force you? As in he forced himself on you? I'm so sorry you are carrying these alone. Know that, please get him to confess the grape on phone then arrest him 1st.
ReplyDeleteVery nauseating! Bear the consequences of your mistake. Your husband doesn't have business in raising another man's child. It is better to leave the marriage ,because you can't stay faithful ..so what?
ReplyDeleteGo stick to your man friend. You scattered everywhere...
Imagine, your man friend forced you! Dey fear God. Sis if your husband is not the father...NEVER deceive him
Delete“or for my man friend who forced me?“
I'm so sure, you will moaning and dripping with vagina juice when the penis was in your vagina at some point.
ReplyDeleteI will advise you abort the foetus ASAP to avoid disaster in the future.
May GOD have mercy on you.
My own is, how did she get so comfortable with him that the man had the nerve to force himself on her?
DeleteSorry for what you are going through.
Poster are you sure you were forced? Or you are just another of majority of women that will never take accountability for their actions. Irresponsible gender.
ReplyDeleteWhat’s the reason for this
DeletePls have sense
Under the law any child born in a marriage is fathered by your husband unless proven otherwise. Have your child. Even as a pro choice person it would take an extreme situation for me to tell someone to end a pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteIf you were forced as you claim then you did not consent, if your conscience is free then God has set you free. Keep your baby and stay away from that person. Face your marriage and never ever be led astray ever again. It is not for a married person to be overly close to any person of the opposite gender that they are unrelated to. Then to be in a physical space where you’re alone. If you do not create the environment then nothing can ever happen. Never create the environment in the first place. All the best
How do you expect your husband to support you: a cheating wife with a receipt to show for it. My advice to you is....... if your marriage scatter, just know that you caused it.
ReplyDeleteFace your reality; after ur man friend forced u? Why didn’t u use contraceptives… abeg flush the pikin…
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you report that you man friend to the authority for forcing you and he didn't respect the fact that you are married. Na wa o. God abeg.
ReplyDeleteLet me ask, you went to his house to spend a night or what? How did he find the opportunity to do such? If you went there to spend the night people would blame you for doing that
Reporting is not always in one’s best interest
DeleteBetter take it out if you know what's good for you
ReplyDeleteExplain the full situation so that we know how to advise
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you report the rape incident to your husband when it happened?
ReplyDeleteReally
DeleteRead some of the comments above and the answer is there
Its in early stages.... take the child out. no need for long talk. You have already analyzed the situation and the answer should be clear.
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