tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post3290688377326984874..comments2024-03-19T05:33:00.080+01:00Comments on Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DIARY---Part 2stella dimoko korkushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04701817813874851226noreply@blogger.comBlogger198125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-8489392590228156062013-06-12T08:45:08.106+02:002013-06-12T08:45:08.106+02:00such heart breaking stories!
God kee all of you st...such heart breaking stories!<br />God kee all of you strong-Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-17125989055100878402013-06-12T08:44:33.974+02:002013-06-12T08:44:33.974+02:00such heart breaking stories!
God kee all of you st...such heart breaking stories!<br />God kee all of you strong-Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-67038620931473248952013-06-12T08:35:52.857+02:002013-06-12T08:35:52.857+02:006kids each one conceived after the beating and the...6kids each one conceived after the beating and the rape.....the rape happens almost everyday...rape becaos i say no..<br /><br />at first i was so blind in love and thought he loved me and was just jelos...the beatings never stoed,was too ashamed to tell anyone......the first rape,i conceived the twins and after then i just couldnt go.....i didnt graudate from the uni cos he stoped me from taking my final exams,,,he almost killed me and i had to stay at home,,,,after the kids came it just wasnt possible.<br /><br />everytime he beat me blue and black he wud force himself on me and beg in tears,at first i wud beg him to sto crying and later i would just lay down crying.......i finally ran with my six kids in tow cos i cudnt leave them with him for fear he might sexually abuse my dauighters.<br /><br />we are presently far from him,he has sent msgs threatening to do the worst when he see me but i am too far away for him to catch me and God is my solace.<br /><br />i am presently more concrned with trying to get my children counselling cos all six of them came out with bruises inside.<br /><br />Ms kay your story is touching..i am hapy you left.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-80076398286722659952013-06-12T08:29:26.340+02:002013-06-12T08:29:26.340+02:00@hauefe whats your present situation?your story is...@hauefe whats your present situation?your story is so sad but dont relive your mothers sad life...i see you going that line despite ur strong resilence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-66817495154210235392013-06-12T08:26:05.976+02:002013-06-12T08:26:05.976+02:00if you stay becos of the kids and he kills you,you...if you stay becos of the kids and he kills you,you have yoiurself to blame....if you love your kids leave before the decil enters his head...i know cos i lost someone from dv...he said he didnt ,mean to kill her but he choked life out of her and broke down crying...she died,he didntAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-27368916615015121782013-06-12T08:23:02.157+02:002013-06-12T08:23:02.157+02:00if you stay and you die,no one will know your stor...if you stay and you die,no one will know your story...take a stand and live for the sake of those who love you..so many children are motherless from dv saga.its wrong...i cant even begin to imagine in real life some of the tins i have read it...appalling,shocking,gruesome and wicked .....God is still alive !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-87775381326460822802013-06-12T08:20:06.113+02:002013-06-12T08:20:06.113+02:00shocking posts.Ms kay you are so strong!shocking posts.Ms kay you are so strong!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-22647010763826849102013-06-11T19:54:07.749+02:002013-06-11T19:54:07.749+02:00God bless you all, Stella ah, God bless you too!!!...God bless you all, Stella ah, God bless you too!!!Mena UkodoisReadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08395537925341263961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-32294999307417337392013-06-11T19:18:04.448+02:002013-06-11T19:18:04.448+02:00Which police? Nigerian Police? They will ask you t...Which police? Nigerian Police? They will ask you to go back home and obey your husband! They are jokers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-65529705769154543972013-06-11T16:20:35.396+02:002013-06-11T16:20:35.396+02:00Just to ask a question? Has any of us tried report...Just to ask a question? Has any of us tried reporting these cases of threats and beatings to the law enforcement agencies? These are crimes against humanity that should be punishable by law. Hmmmm, I sit here and wonder when this cycle of abuse will end. Mothers were abused, now daughters are being abused, in the future grand-daughters will be abused, and it goes on and on, one generation taking over the abuse of the other. All forms of abuse are demeaning and leave wounds and scars that only God (through the sacrifice of His Son), and heal and take away. I have a story too, just as we all do, and soon the world will hear my story and testimony of triumph too, when it is all over. Thank you all for sharing your stories, now I know I am not alone in this.<br /><br />UkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-75166484644730054962013-06-11T15:23:47.528+02:002013-06-11T15:23:47.528+02:00*...have learnt
*..of your life
*...work mightily*...have learnt<br />*..of your life<br />*...work mightilyRubynnia https://www.blogger.com/profile/01770196109895719185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-67201536818059181582013-06-11T14:14:02.136+02:002013-06-11T14:14:02.136+02:00Chief Mrs, GBU so much! One thing I have learn reg...Chief Mrs, GBU so much! One thing I have learn regarding union of a man and woman is if no vow was exchanged between the two, then there was NEVER a marriage, just cohabitation!<br /><br />Mrs E, did you both exchange marital vows to love and to cherish till death do you part? If NO, then you are just a live in lover(I'm sorry if I sound harsh here).<br /><br />That man just wasted 6 GOOD years of your live but not to worry, you can redeem yourself by starting afresh; it's never too late except you think it is.<br /><br />He has another family elsewhere hence his refusal to have babies with you. Please leave him and let your destined man locate you.<br /><br />Dedicate yourself afresh unto GOD, ask him to replace the years wasted and follow him all the way and see him works mighty in your life. It is well with your soul.Rubynnia https://www.blogger.com/profile/01770196109895719185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-12152157611835254352013-06-11T10:16:35.886+02:002013-06-11T10:16:35.886+02:00@Mrs E, please leave as fast as you can. This is n...@Mrs E, please leave as fast as you can. This is no marriage. Are you sure he is not married to someone else? You are lucky, you have no kids with him. Your own husband is waiting for you! Please discuss with your parents about the traditional rites and the fact that you bought all the stuff with your money. They would advise. That wedding never took place. You entered one chance. Good luck girl. Move fast. Dont let him meet you on his next visit.Chief Mrsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-89375927856298623212013-06-10T23:02:47.600+02:002013-06-10T23:02:47.600+02:00My story only lasted for 4 months but I am so asha...My story only lasted for 4 months but I am so ashamed to say and ask for GOD forgiveness every day that I had an abortion resulting from it.<br /><br />the 1 month was fine, nothing special, wasn't the wonderful love story beginning you get, just normal. A month later I got pregnant, what was I thinking my GOD, please forgive me. Everything started from there. The guy started to be abusive, manipulative, he would come up with all kind of things, accusing me<br />of cheating on him, telling me how he could tell i just had sex with someone else that he could smell it, started spraying perfume all around, saying that I would give him HIV that I may already have it. <br /><br />The next thing he started saying was that he would disfigure to the point that no one will even recognise me, not even my parents, so much I went through within such a short time. Being pregnant I would be in the kitchen for the whole day, not having eaten anything, or there would be nothing home to eat.<br />I was still in university at that time and very naive.<br />I saw all the writings on the wall but still though that it would get better.<br /><br />I remember praying, asking GOD whether he was the one and I clearly remembered GOD answering me thrice in different dreams where unknown people are warning me and telling me to stay off that guy, I would wake up pray and brush it aside and saying to GOD that that's not the good reply that GOD must be wrong. Who was I to think that GOD can be wrong, never ever can my dad in even would want something bad for his daughter, I should have listened to his message to my dream.<br /><br />Cutting the story short, sometimes the signs are there GOD is showing it to us but we don't want to see, please let's be honest GOD would never ever want you to suffer, so if a boyfriend or husband is treating you right and you know deep down you that it's unlikely that he would change and you've prayed to GOD and there's still no improvements there must be a good reason why!<br /><br />GOD'S CHILDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-63053187860671371632013-06-10T19:40:58.043+02:002013-06-10T19:40:58.043+02:00Mrs E... you have to divorce your husband in a cus...Mrs E... you have to divorce your husband in a customary court if you had a traditional wedding. Speak to a lawyer to see what other options you have legally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-56748119997832938322013-06-10T16:08:14.758+02:002013-06-10T16:08:14.758+02:00Oh dear Mrs E, so sorry. One word, don't waste...Oh dear Mrs E, so sorry. One word, don't waste your time, get out of that marital cum mental confusion before you lose the grace which God has bestowed upon your destiny. If a man who's been married for 6years refuses fertility counsel, or refuses to visit a doctor, it could be becos he already knows the reasons behind it. Pray tell, he prolly has another family somewhere whom he spends the week with. Maybe he has kids already, who knows. If you need closure to this before you move on, then get off your behind and seek the truth..by going to his village or family house. And the TRUTH shall set you FREE. Bet you'll find a God fearing person to emancipate you from his very obscure life style. At 36 all hope isn't lost, begin again my lady. God be with you! <br /><br />@anon 1:14pm. I rejoice with you, after-all you haven t married him yet. But hold on, apart from the fact that he dropped out of school, is he in any other area less of a man? Perhaps, is he jobless, a woman beater, a bad lover..?etc. Because...if the only lie you've detected is that he is a graduate, well, maybe he lied to meet up with your high standards, depending on the criteria you sought of him. Or are you afraid he may have lied about many other things too? So take anger out for now and scrutinize him properly before you make any irascible decisions. God help u! <br /><br />Daughter of Zion<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-51226932480990981392013-06-10T15:36:00.693+02:002013-06-10T15:36:00.693+02:00wow.. you inspire me, i think you should write a b...wow.. you inspire me, i think you should write a book to encourage pple that are going through this or have gone through this.<br /><br />Please what did you do after you left and what happened to your kids afterwards?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-3888125470290263362013-06-10T13:14:41.855+02:002013-06-10T13:14:41.855+02:00Not sure if this falls into the DV bracket but I j...Not sure if this falls into the DV bracket but I just found out that the man am engaged to dropped out of sch many yrs ago.I feel humiliated beyond comprehension.d wedding is off!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-16823153802140038072013-06-10T12:41:27.324+02:002013-06-10T12:41:27.324+02:00........
Mrs. E said
We started living together as...<br />........<br />Mrs. E said<br />We started living together as husband & wife. her younger sister came to stay with us. he prefers giving the lady money for food instead of me. I felt nothing at first, after all, I always go to work & she stays at home. The day I complained on why a wife will be in the house and a sister will be collecting feeding allowance for the house. I got the beating of my life. I was dragged out of the bath room naked to the full glare of the sister.<br /><br />I left the house the next day to my former house cos my younger sisters are still there. His pleadings and that of his friends brought me back. He traveled to Liberia for an official assignment for a year, when he came back, he decided he needs to see his parents after a year absence. behold he traveled to his village with another woman to introduce to his parents as his new wife. reasons was that am yet to give him a child. was I expected to give birth to a child while he was away?. his mother accepted the new woman but his dad said he must see me first. they tried to hide the issue from me but somehow I got to know. when I asked him why he decided to marry behind me, I got the beating of my life. He denied he ever went home with another lady. <br /><br />After this incidence, he became more loving, more caring, decides to leave his phone on 2/4. I became more confused if actually the story I heard about another woman/lady was true/false.<br />Some of his sisters who use to be loving and friendly had all turned their back against me. 6 years gone, we are yet to have a child... he lives in another state while I live in another state. I have made several efforts to relocate to where he stays but he bluntly refused. reasons that his job is such that posts him from one place to another. he can not grantee his stay in a particular location for more than two years. May I say he has been posted to 4 different states since the last 6 years. he visits my base every Friday and stays till Monday morning.<br /><br />I am really fade up and confused. doctors said I have no reasons not to get pregnant. He has avoided every effort for us to visit the same hospital on this infertility issue. his phone is always off when ever he is with me. reasons that he sneaks out of the office every Friday and will not want his superiors to know his whereabouts. Am making efforts to leave this marriage.... Am l actually tied to him with this traditional wedding....... Can a lady married traditionally get divorce in court? Does he have another wife else where....... am not getting younger, I was 36 last month.<br /><br />worried soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-45053916620437825372013-06-10T12:05:40.653+02:002013-06-10T12:05:40.653+02:00Mrs. E said
On the 4th of April, 2007, I left to ...Mrs. E said<br /><br />On the 4th of April, 2007, I left to the village with all the things I bought for the traditional rites against the 8th April being the day of the traditional/wine carrying. My parents and siblings invited some of their friends, I invited some as well because we did not print cards (low key I said). on the d day, food was cooked, drinks were ready, my father called a DJ saying he will never welcome a low traditions/wine carrying for his first daughter. all was set but my husband was no where to be found. his parents, siblings and some of his people came and told us he called to say he was still on his way. I cried my eyes out. guest started murmuring and left one after another. I felt it was a movie but lo it was real. at about 6pm when almost every body had gone except for immediate family members and his people. the man drove inn. blamed his lateness on holdup on his way. ie. he left abuja to East on the d day of the traditional wedding. (1st sign.). We did the little we could do that night and the rest was completed the next day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-9974131881174921162013-06-10T11:34:17.723+02:002013-06-10T11:34:17.723+02:00Sis Stella, I have read this DV post several times...Sis Stella, I have read this DV post several times and wish to write my story here and as well seek advice from the wonderful women in this forum. My name is Mrs. E. I did traditional wedding in 2007 and yet to do either the white or court wedding, all efforts to persuade my husband to do the white/court wedding is to no avail.<br /><br />I and my husband were being introduced to each other by his friend. Our first discussion were centered on marriage. as an adult, I said okey, we courted for for three months and decided to see our parents. the introduction was done during our second visit and we agreed that we will do the traditional wedding in a low key and later do the white wedding in an elaborate way. we fixed 8th April, 2007 as the d day. In my state, the traditional rights is a little expensive, the list of the items for the traditional/wine carrying was handed over to my husband and he handed over the list to me with the excuses that he does not have time to go to market and buy the needed items for the traditional rights. I collected the list, started buying the items one by one with my money until I bought everything in that list few weeks before 27th April.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-55543422810867313302013-06-10T01:32:31.288+02:002013-06-10T01:32:31.288+02:00Am in TearsAm in TearsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-20984919259467606062013-06-09T08:23:44.951+02:002013-06-09T08:23:44.951+02:00Am relieved to see the strength of my fellow women...Am relieved to see the strength of my fellow women in the face of adversity. I have been so traumatised that for 10 years after we separated I have not been able to have another relationship or re-marry. Am 42 and childless! I still see the several attempts he made on my life and hear his threats. I did seek professional counselling but the trust is something am stiLl grappling with! Just don't understand how a human being can derive pleasure from dehumanising his fellow human being! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-16462308425114444022013-06-09T00:17:44.942+02:002013-06-09T00:17:44.942+02:00Some Niggarz mehn! SMH... Madam i may not be in an...Some Niggarz mehn! SMH... Madam i may not be in any position to advice u but try involve a third party; someone he'll listen to like ur pastor or a trusted friend... Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10236783839070491781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-34515928784371270722013-06-08T20:58:51.760+02:002013-06-08T20:58:51.760+02:00I've been married 10yrs and my husband has nev...I've been married 10yrs and my husband has never hit me physically but emotionally he has assassinated me. He wants a master servant relationship where he is worshipped and begged even when he is at fault. this I have been doing for years but have resolved not to do again. since i stopped, he can stay weeks without talking to me. I had thypoid and was on AM/PM injection for 3 days yet my husband did not say a word to me, would not eat at home, comes very late and goes off to bed without a word to me or our children. worst is that there's no one in his family that can talk to him, though he says he does not like 3rd party involvement in marriage yet he can never bring himself to discuss with me. i got married at 27 yrs as a virgin and at time feel he married me just to have sex with me since i insisted on no premarital sex. i am a christian but seriously considering divorce though i have not been financially independent since i lost my job some yrs back. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com