tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post3769276791585615313..comments2024-03-28T09:26:39.676+01:00Comments on Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Mrs Dee's Corner -Myth Versus Reality Of Nigerians In The Diasporastella dimoko korkushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04701817813874851226noreply@blogger.comBlogger55125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-22871743994185450702020-06-21T05:56:53.910+02:002020-06-21T05:56:53.910+02:00How long does it take to get a shared apartment or...How long does it take to get a shared apartment or a survival job? I know people will call you wicked, but everyone needs to protect their kids. Even your own siblings can be sexual abusers to your kids. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-87414161182913571792020-06-20T18:44:31.624+02:002020-06-20T18:44:31.624+02:00Sorry dear 😔Sorry dear 😔BluntBabyBoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04964392868471246912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-85347071927054862552020-06-20T08:13:15.220+02:002020-06-20T08:13:15.220+02:00Mama vee, I am truly sorry about my comment under ...Mama vee, I am truly sorry about my comment under your post . I was just so angry about what happened to your brother and felt like it could have been stopped but I do not know your family and the circumstances surrounding what happened to him and I was terribly out of place to blame you and your family. <br />I am sorry to have caused you more pain.<br />I hope you get to see this. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-73593596509355743162020-06-20T00:52:58.191+02:002020-06-20T00:52:58.191+02:00@21:55 thank God they are not doing well?
You mig...@21:55 thank God they are not doing well? <br />You might want to check your own character too. Mysticnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-60946005631146730262020-06-19T21:55:52.318+02:002020-06-19T21:55:52.318+02:00As for me i stopped that nonsens they Are ungratef...As for me i stopped that nonsens they Are ungrateful i have My children to take care of the ones i brought to Europe All turned against me thank God they Are not doing well i also cut contact with them i regreat bringing them but God is faithful i dont luck anything AM ok. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-675345936627632222020-06-19T21:30:00.534+02:002020-06-19T21:30:00.534+02:00Exactly. You made excellent points. Exactly. You made excellent points. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-29505494215828747502020-06-19T20:42:04.555+02:002020-06-19T20:42:04.555+02:00I have an aunt who traveled abroad about 10 years ...I have an aunt who traveled abroad about 10 years ago. Before she traveled, she lived with us for a while and I always knew her to be stingy. I knew that nothing was going to change when she traveled. She was the type that would always ask but never ever gave. Even when her fiance (now husband) would send her loads of things from the US, she would never give you a top or pant. He used to send lots and lots of things but she never, ever gave me or my siblings or even my mum anything. Not even chocolate. All she did was take and take and take from us. <br /><br />After she traveled, we reached out a couple of times but most times she wouldn't pick or she would be dismissive. Anyways, me I moved on. Thank God we're doing really fine. We don't have to be at anyone's mercy. I never even knew she had my number all these while. I noticed a few months ago that there was a foreign number who sent me random messages like, happy Easter, merry Christmas, happy new month once in a while.. <br /><br />I spoke with her elder sis (who lives here in naija) we got talking and she told me that her sister (the one abroad) has another baby. I was really happy and I got to know that she's been the one sending the random messages. I decided to send her a message. Very sweet message oh. Asking about her family and congratulating her on the birth of her son. I also mentioned that I didn't know she was the one all the while. Her response was very sharp, straight to the point and dismissive. Nothing has changed all these years. <br /><br />I just wanted to be cordial. I wasn't going to ask for money or anything. I never ever ask for money from anyone. I am very proud. My siblings and husband complain all the time. Why would I ask a relative for money? I've never ever asked for help from my friends abroad. Never. Even when I help them out with stuff and they want to reciprocate the kind act by sending me money. I refuse it. My aunt made me feel bad oh. I'm never reaching out to her ever again. Make everyone dey their dey. <br /><br />To people outside naija, I know that some of your friends and family are entitled. Some of them constantly disturb you for help but not everyone in naija is hungry. Someone of us are doing very well (Thank God) Sometimes we reach out because we just care to know how you're faring. Don't shut everyone out because of a few bad eggs. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-69642440188952675172020-06-19T20:18:16.668+02:002020-06-19T20:18:16.668+02:00Eka Joy may God continue to bless you and may God ...Eka Joy may God continue to bless you and may God lift up your family back home as well. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-34719782837204267472020-06-19T20:17:34.808+02:002020-06-19T20:17:34.808+02:00@busy bee, how can you call someone who helped som...@busy bee, how can you call someone who helped someone who traveled an entitled beggar? If things are fine for the person who traveled abroad, what's bad in him/ her sending help once in a while to those who helped him travel if he can afford it? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-48645784696542220352020-06-19T20:14:47.148+02:002020-06-19T20:14:47.148+02:00@mama vee, I'm so sorry for what your brother ...@mama vee, I'm so sorry for what your brother went through and his going through. .I can't imagine all you and your family are passing through as well. So sorry.. Praying for a turn around for your family. Love and light. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-31239921123573936072020-06-19T19:16:47.075+02:002020-06-19T19:16:47.075+02:00Shut up Busy Bee. Are you alright? HianShut up Busy Bee. Are you alright? HianAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-37998877500295331502020-06-19T18:40:12.282+02:002020-06-19T18:40:12.282+02:00Anonymous 16.02, your words stung like 'bee st...Anonymous 16.02, your words stung like 'bee sting'<br />Yu dont know my family circumstances! How dare you come onhere and judge myself and my family? Who the fuck do you think you are???<br /><br />Is it a crime to help a distant relative who turned out to be a bloody paedophile? I'm absolutely disgusted by your response but thanks all the same<br /><br />Now I wish I hadn't shared this as it's something that hurts so deep & has pushed me to the brink of suicide to be quite Frank! I already felt like I failed him plus he refused to open up despite all the interventions we staged to get him clean! <br /><br />Why am I even trying to prove myself to a total stranger? <br /><br />I pray you get yours, then you'll "get it!" OLUYA!!! OLOFO!!!M A M A VEEnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-38478443884431123022020-06-19T17:18:55.539+02:002020-06-19T17:18:55.539+02:00I think the important thing is to pray to have an ...I think the important thing is to pray to have an understanding family back home cause It’s not all the time things would be rosy out there. Low key your folks back home is expecting you to remember them. <br />I personally don’t see a big deal in sending my family some money or stuffs when I was out there. Infact I enjoyed it. But what my family never did was force me to send stuffs. My sisters are still out of the country and the last thing my mom does is remind them to send this or that... not like we are all round wealthy, we are just ok. Like it was so bad my one of my sister’s husband had to tell my younger sister and I to please ask for things from them. <br />If you can send, please do. And if you can’t, don’t be pressured...take your time. Convince Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09791977958332145739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-26837080511945040322020-06-19T17:16:51.694+02:002020-06-19T17:16:51.694+02:00I have learned my lesson dealing with people in Ni...I have learned my lesson dealing with people in Nigeria. If you live in the city, you are a hustler. I cannot care less. During this coronavirus, the only people I sent money to are the old women in the village. N10k to a widow goes a long way and the prayers no be here unlike the ingrates in the city. The people in the village seem to appreciate financial help more no matter how much. If juju dey kill from helping villagers, I would have been dead. Help the poor.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-46389012791642081542020-06-19T17:12:34.581+02:002020-06-19T17:12:34.581+02:00It is the same as village people thinking that any...It is the same as village people thinking that anyone that moves to Lagos will become rich especially as shown in Hollywood movies. Truth is that there are people living under the bridges in Lagos or living 10 people in one apartment in Lagos or doing menial jobs in Lagos. Of course, some people living in Lagos will go home during festivals and pretend that everything is well to the envy of his mates in the village. Substitute Lagos for diaspora in the scenario above and you will get the gist. Nigerians love to see the successful ones only. They may make money in dollars, pounds or Euro; but they spend the same money there. Using exchange rates to determine their success is idiotic. A month rent in UK may be a year's rent in Nigeria. I paid N1m ($2300) for a 2 bedroom apartment in PH which is still less than the monthly rent in a good place in Southern California. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-29999911854010450532020-06-19T16:48:28.700+02:002020-06-19T16:48:28.700+02:00👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍Picture (G Wagon)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02028645508216253149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-33245089515009167082020-06-19T16:47:36.739+02:002020-06-19T16:47:36.739+02:00You are very correct 12:30 I like how people livin...You are very correct 12:30 I like how people living abroad are voicing out! Money doesn’t grown on tree overseas.Picture (G Wagon)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02028645508216253149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-87648398975628108672020-06-19T16:45:59.688+02:002020-06-19T16:45:59.688+02:00I have a lot of people in the abroad,but I don'...I have a lot of people in the abroad,but I don't expect anything from them. It's not easy for them there too,I know cos we talk about their struggles too. The only person who has ever sent me money from the abroad is my younger brother and I even pity him most times cos he is sponsoring himself there in school without any help from home. I appreciated the little he sent cos I know he could have used it for something else himself. Just cos you helped someone doesn't mean they owe you their life. Have you bothered to ask how they are faring there too? And anyone that has more than enough and refused to help his "poor relatives" back home,well...leave him or her to her conscience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-15861689509660445362020-06-19T16:27:49.851+02:002020-06-19T16:27:49.851+02:00WOW. If you want to HELP someone, HELP them and wi...WOW. If you want to HELP someone, HELP them and wish them well. Not that you will be standing on their head forever wanting them to send something to you. If you can't give and remove your mind then LOAN them the money with interest and let them pay you back. Also, why are your lives so stagnated? You that could help someone to travel and you are still waiting for them to send you peanuts many years later? No progress? Maybe it's time for you to travel out and come and wash poo and have the money instead of remaining in Nigeria and becoming a professional ENTITLED BEGGAR.busybeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06796286669156569954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-40863497091569013342020-06-19T16:24:18.844+02:002020-06-19T16:24:18.844+02:00So sorry Mama Ve, please don't give up on your...So sorry Mama Ve, please don't give up on your brother, you guys should continue to support him through prayers and make him seek professional help Abroadian Bvhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00007199646065962964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-52720932739944994892020-06-19T16:07:45.800+02:002020-06-19T16:07:45.800+02:00I have a brother in USA, na only when issues dey,a...I have a brother in USA, na only when issues dey,and he wants me to pray n fast that he will contact me, but I know its not easy over there too, my prayer is for everyone to be OK, not to look up to someone before you can eat. treasures ( new dawn����)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06445377590613049854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-90682798224473073852020-06-19T16:02:41.882+02:002020-06-19T16:02:41.882+02:00I blame you and your family for what happened to y...I blame you and your family for what happened to your brother. You saw a vibrant young boy changing before your eyes and could not find it out. If he would not open up to pple at home, at least you can afford therapists over there he can open up to. Everyone moved away from home and your brother suffered. I blame you and your parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-65657951354870360472020-06-19T15:56:58.986+02:002020-06-19T15:56:58.986+02:00I live in UK with my kids, my spouse is the one ...I live in UK with my kids, my spouse is the one who is sending money for our maintenance every month Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-13985868682149317682020-06-19T15:56:04.903+02:002020-06-19T15:56:04.903+02:00wow I'm sorry you had this type of experience ...wow I'm sorry you had this type of experience with an old friend .maybe people only contact her to ask for money but she should have heard you out first ..its all good don't hold anything against her Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-58694315632814364832020-06-19T15:47:05.321+02:002020-06-19T15:47:05.321+02:00I have all my siblings living abroad,two in the US...I have all my siblings living abroad,two in the US and one in Germany but dont expect them to take care of my expenses,if they send me cash,fine,if they dont its all good.Am the last but that entitlement mentality is something i dont have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com