tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post3824079677924003562..comments2024-03-29T11:50:05.564+01:00Comments on Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...stella dimoko korkushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04701817813874851226noreply@blogger.comBlogger106125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-12953444187203813692019-05-27T05:30:07.279+02:002019-05-27T05:30:07.279+02:00Which part of Yoruba does that cos I’m Yoruba and ...Which part of Yoruba does that cos I’m Yoruba and I am not aware of such a thing as traditional hot and cold bathAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-77982766703492455822019-05-26T22:51:48.748+02:002019-05-26T22:51:48.748+02:00All these omugwo stories I hear can really be anno...All these omugwo stories I hear can really be annoying, thank God I did mine by myself although it wasn't easy having a toddler and a new born but God has been faithful. I don't even know how I will react to unpleasant things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-79924394725398633062019-05-26T10:09:38.579+02:002019-05-26T10:09:38.579+02:00Anon 6:40 Let me give you free advice that might s...Anon 6:40 Let me give you free advice that might save you. With the thing you wrote (if that's how you really think) it won't be difficult for a pastor to convince your DIL that you're a witch. The sad part is that you may not be. All they have to do is meet a mischievous pastor or even a genuine one who says something they don't understand cos human language is too limited to accurately convey things of the spirit. And God doesn't always tell you everything like that.<br /><br />Let me give you an unrelated example. Last year, I sacked my designer. What happened? I was on my own and I heard her name in my spirit. I researched her online (someone I already know) and kept wondering what was wrong cos I wasn't picking up anything else. So, I didn't know if my hearing her name was for good or bad. Barely two hours later, I saw a new pic of a man on her post on my Instagram feed. She called him her father but I've met her biological father once so I knew that's not him. Plus the man in the pic is too young to be her biological father, I guessed he's her spiritual father. But there was no name so I didn't know who he was. As soon as I left Instagram, I heard a different name in my spirit. I went online, even if I knew of the person whose name I had just heard. I knew cos some years ago, the person committed a terrible crime. Wasn't a rumour, it actually happened and he never apologised even after going to jail. And I thought, "But I know of this man, what I supposed to see that I don't already know?" It was as I was about leaving Google that a recent pic of the man caught my eye. My heart cut as I returned to Instagram; it was the same person she put up. That's when I understood why I heard her name. Her association with such a man means she can NEVER work for me again. Cos I no know what spirit is moving her, the man's crime was that bad. Everything good she had done up to that point became irrelevant.<br /><br />Now, I didn't say she's a witch. And I wasn't fighting with her. All I heard was her name, his name and worked it out. Imagine if something similar happens where you're already tensioning your DIL, then a pastor gets a revelation that you're standing between your son and his wife. Or they hear your name when they're praying. An immature or hasty person will interprete that to mean you're a witch but that is not what they actually heard. All they know is that you're an obstacle. And depending on how they phrase their prayers, you're finished. All your DIL has to do is show God proof of her marriage if it's Him that ordained it, stand on Gen 2:24 and Matt 19:6, do "to whom it may concern prayer" for anyone who doesn't want me and my husband to be one. I guarantee you it will hit you, especially if her hands are clean! Or your son's fiance can honestly pray against anything preventing my God-ordained marriage from coming to pass, or that will be a problem in my marriage. Like joke, mother-in-law to be will die. The babe might not know what happened, she'll think it's coincidence. She didn't call your name and she didn't call you a witch cos you may not be so that isn't what she focused on. But cos of your mindset that your son should choose you over her, you have violated those scriptures cos a man can't truly be one with his wife if his mother is preferred over his wife. And if you die during or after those prayers, she (and your son) will take that to mean you're a witch, even if you're really not. <br /><br />This is the reason why many MILs who are not actually witches, don't live long enough to enjoy anything from their children. You've done something that put you in a category you shouldn't ordinarily be in. It's you people that create your own problem.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-54694891513839504592019-05-26T09:38:38.474+02:002019-05-26T09:38:38.474+02:00Being a mother is stressful on its own. I don’t kn...Being a mother is stressful on its own. I don’t know if it’s your first but it challenging to nurse two at ones. She has twins guys. She needs help. <br />Poster, here is my advice: you have to be real patient and diplomatic with your mother in law. <br />She has good intentions and it may conflict with the way we raise our children in abroad. <br />1. Say a positive word before giving her feedback.<br />2. Simply let her know force feeding is not allowed here, the consequences for you, your husband and people in the household who engaged in such act. Give specific examples and point out her best intentions.<br />3. Determine in your heart, your taking care of three people. Most MIL expectations coming abroad is that they are their to relax... girl you have to buckle up and do the work. If she helps... thank her very well lol<br />4. Don’t threaten your MIL oo. Put yourself in her shoes( new environment, diff ways of doing things). Be very patient, pray and breathe<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-88884061379811552812019-05-26T08:31:04.255+02:002019-05-26T08:31:04.255+02:00None should be chosen over the other but your chil...None should be chosen over the other but your child should prefer your happiness over his wife's? Not because she's wrong but cos you gave birth to him? Clap for yourself. The wife is the one that doesn't have mother. MILs, the thing you didn't like when your own MIL did to you, don't go and do to your DIL! You know when you're doing bad. This is how some of you behave, you scatter your child's marriage, a cycle is created and the next we hear is that it's generational curse that's worrying marriages in a family. It's not that those things don't exist but sometimes we should be honest and say it's the MIL's manipulation. Na una dey first cry, "She came from nowhere, married and turned my son against me" when you don't get your way. Who told you your DIL came from nowhere? If you love her, will you insult her by saying that? You want her to take what your daughter won't take in her own marriage, na you first born boy. Do you people think anybody is really happy when their mother scatters their marriage? <br /><br />I've seen a case where a new wife, her brothers-in-law didn't accept her till they saw their mother didn't like her! Yes, real life. They told her, "If our mother liked you, we'd have concluded that something is wrong with you. We're all married, we know our mother." Babe think say na play till wedding date was fixed. The mother of the man did so many things like Patience Ozokwor. When babe was crying, the man's brothers told her, "But we told you this is who our mother is." On her wedding day, the bride didn't know that the driver was armed, one brother-in-law sent the driver and told him, "My mother can do and undo, I know her. Do whatever it takes to make sure nothing bad happens to my brother and his bride." The mother wasn't allowed to know the route they were taking to church! Shebi that mother too will cry that they've turned her son against her cos he won't let her maltreat his wife. RME. <br /><br />We all know when our mothers are problematic. My husband and I were warned at different times about each other's mothers, we thought it was minor. If not that we both remembered and determined to fight for our marriage, only God knows what would have been our fate. Many of you will go to church and pray loudest but want to be allowed to behave anyhow cos you are manipulative. Sooso gi muru nwa. Anybody that allows his/her mother scatter his/her marriage is a fool; a mother that feels honoured when her child is fighting with the spouse, is wicked. You don't know there are some bad you do as a mother that can wipe out the memory of all the good you've done. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-3393289011506282122019-05-26T07:43:08.976+02:002019-05-26T07:43:08.976+02:00@anon 06:40...The right thing is for a child to pr...@anon 06:40...The right thing is for a child to prefer their spouse happiness to their mothers or fathers. That's why mother in laws also have husband's. Haba...You have not done a child a favor by bringing them into this world, they didn't force you, it was your decision, and it is your responsibility to take care of them, and expect nothing back. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-13174674225850440562019-05-26T07:21:54.853+02:002019-05-26T07:21:54.853+02:00Don, I wasn't force fed as a child. In fact, i...Don, I wasn't force fed as a child. In fact, it is when I became an adult that I saw that some children being force fed. No matter the excuse, it's dangerous and stupid. These are even newborn babies! <br /><br />You don't know me, so speak for yourself. I have an equal opportunities marriage; what I can't take from my MIL, I will not allow my mother to come and do in my house. I can't allow my husband endure what I refuse to. My husband and I have a pact, we don't quarrel or even carry face for each other cos of what anybody's mother is doing. Any mother that doesn't like what we do, should stay away. My MIL was shocked to her bone marrow the day she discovered she couldn't make my husband and I to fight. Just like I have made my mother to understand that I will not choose her over my husband. As long as my husband and I aren't killing each other, we didn't call you so stay on your own. We all know when our mothers have wahala. The way my MIL can't say nonsense about me to my husband is the way my mother dares not trash-talk my husband. The way you suffered to birth and train me is the same way his mother did. I didn't do him a favour by marrying him, neither did he do me a favour. So don't allow the devil use any of you. In fact, both mothers say my husband and I have used juju on each other, that's why we don't argue, RME. So, we will be "good children" if we fight cos of them, I hear you. Don't come from wherever you're comfortable to make me uncomfortable because you gave birth to one of us, cos it won't end in praise for you. We won't abuse or fight you (God forbid) but by the time you find yourself in your village explaining to elders and king's cabinet what you're gaining from scattering your the home of the child you trained and they give you a name, you'll understand what you've done to yourself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-81273331919008772912019-05-26T06:42:34.844+02:002019-05-26T06:42:34.844+02:00but why do your people always do things the crude ...but why do your people always do things the crude way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-13917130395464021132019-05-26T06:40:56.921+02:002019-05-26T06:40:56.921+02:00no one should be chosen over the other,but when yo...no one should be chosen over the other,but when your child prefers his wife's happiness over yours then you would know it's not worth it loving only your child,let us learn to shoe love to others haba.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-85182268599571589182019-05-26T05:32:07.155+02:002019-05-26T05:32:07.155+02:00When it comes to ur kids, better speak up.
BTW, w...When it comes to ur kids, better speak up. <br />BTW, why did ur MIL and not ur mother come for the Omugwo. <br />My MIL knows she can't try meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-30775418751647067022019-05-26T04:09:15.231+02:002019-05-26T04:09:15.231+02:00A mother-in-law is the mother of your spouse, not ...A mother-in-law is the mother of your spouse, not your mother. She will never be your mother - unless something has gone very wrong, someone lied to you & your spouse, and you've ended up committing incest. You people keep terrorising wives to treat her MIL like her mother; she's NOT her mother! Does the MIL treat or think of her like her daughter? Why can't the MIL buy gifts, tolerate and do the other stuff y'all keep wanting a wife to do to curry favour? <br /><br />BTW, does any sane human being believe that a mother should be chosen over a spouse? Are you really training that child, not because it's your job but because you are under some sick notion that they'll choose you over everybody else as payback? Lol. Let me shock you - motherhood (and fatherhood) is a job that God trusts you with. You do your job, you go home, you give account. You don't turn into a god because you did a job you were supposed to do! Yes, some jobs they take effort and a piece of your heart. But at the end of the day, it's a job and nothing more. That's why if you die, your child will normally survive but if they die, a part of you goes forever - you need the child more than they need you. You're not so special that you're doing something that another mother hasn't or isn't already doing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-2089594667138588862019-05-26T03:51:09.145+02:002019-05-26T03:51:09.145+02:00Anon 21:35 A mother dying before her child(ren) is...Anon 21:35 A mother dying before her child(ren) is very natural. That's supposed to happen. That's why children can survive and in some cases, it can be like nothing happened. On the other hand, no woman truly gets over the loss of a child cos it's unnatural. No matter what they say and even if they have other children, a woman never gets over it. <br /><br />This MIL is a stubborn woman that came to cause problems. That's why she has no problem abusing a new mother. I'm very sure this MIL can't try half of this nonsense in her own daughter's house. That thing of "you will become MIL too" is rubbish cos that will not happen if this MIL kills her grandchildren. Unless the poster has other children she hasn't mentioned. Behave how you like in your own house, don't go to your grown son's house to act like a witch. Y'all need to stop manipulating people into accepting wickedness as normal, in the name of "showing respect". Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-84393324996465220002019-05-26T03:34:58.515+02:002019-05-26T03:34:58.515+02:00Anon 16:24 I don't care whose mother she is. Y...Anon 16:24 I don't care whose mother she is. Yes, I'd say the same if it was the poster's own mother trying to kill the poster's children. See eh, omugwo isn't compulsory. People without mothers find a way to handle new baby ish. Don't come and say you're doing omugwo, as a trick to scatter your child's marriage and kill their child(ren) for them. That is witchcraft. Y'all get stupidly sentimental about stuff; it's her husband's mother so she should ignore the fact that her children are in danger? Are you insane? If the woman is unable to adhere to simple instructions cos of old age, is she not a danger to herself too? You people want to wait until someone's babies die, then you'll write RIP and tell her to leave it for God. <br /><br />Poster, I pity you. Sacrifice your children's lives cos you want your MIL to see you as a respectful DIL. If the worst happens to your babies, your marriage will not survive. Two birds killed with one stone. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-90905720854067875362019-05-26T01:27:56.329+02:002019-05-26T01:27:56.329+02:00Poster is sick. "Her son, her son", that...Poster is sick. "Her son, her son", that's her husband and father of her children she's referring to o. Spoiled brat. Your coven of evil DILs full SDK, we know them. Winsh dem.Lol!noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-19000954743045266332019-05-26T00:08:50.742+02:002019-05-26T00:08:50.742+02:00@anon 21:20..the right thing is for a child to cho...@anon 21:20..the right thing is for a child to chose their spouse over their mother's. There is a reason they are called married "couples". Couples are just two people. A man shall leave his mother and father, and go meet his wife. It never said take your mother with you, so she come make decisions for you. All this mother in law has to do is respect her daughter in laws wishes. Her home, her rules, and they all can live in peace. We all expect these DIL's to take their MIL's as their mother, but nobody ever suggests that the MIL's takes their DIL's as their daughter, and that is the problem. Love is both ways. I love people who loves me.. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-6585174852813756682019-05-26T00:03:23.628+02:002019-05-26T00:03:23.628+02:00@anon 21:35..the difference is, I will not go to m...@anon 21:35..the difference is, I will not go to my DIL's and try to control her home. I will respect her decisions. I can only be boss in my own home. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-55829810143552539682019-05-25T23:32:38.771+02:002019-05-25T23:32:38.771+02:00Stop force feeding babies and infants. A Naija gra...Stop force feeding babies and infants. A Naija grandmother/nanny was recently incarcerated for about 20 years in Maryland for the death of a child she force fed. Plus, omugwu isn't by force, ladies. Take care of your own kids. Shine eyes o.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-59461638568199901372019-05-25T23:30:30.182+02:002019-05-25T23:30:30.182+02:00That baby bathing that yoruba women do ehn.... whe...That baby bathing that yoruba women do ehn.... when i was a teenager watching my mom do it for my nephews and nieces oh how they cried! I was always teary eyed myself. Then i got married, my mom was no more but my mother-in-law did it for my first daughter. I didn't like it at all as the baby cried a lot. But I eventually realised that my first baby was a fussy baby but after the bath massage, she would sleep like she was drugged. Plus within a month she became very strong, her grip very strong and firm. People were asking what i gave her to eat. When I had my second baby, mother-in-law could not stay for more than a week. No one advised me to bath my baby and massage her body the exact same way. She slept very well after each bath ehn; i made sure i timed her breastfeeding right after bathing so she would sleep with a full tummy. Men my babies were beautiful and healthy. They're big girls now. We tend to condemn what we don't understand.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-68969753585290243092019-05-25T22:01:58.639+02:002019-05-25T22:01:58.639+02:00How could you ever think of arresting your childre...How could you ever think of arresting your children's grandma?You are not a good person.Sugar babehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16884489850279939101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-57356395390694067582019-05-25T21:35:47.946+02:002019-05-25T21:35:47.946+02:00Some women act like gods once they have kids, no o...Some women act like gods once they have kids, no one can come near their kids, a lot of women have died and left kids behind and many were well taken care off,remember tomorrow your DIL will not also agree with your style of doing things so take it easy with the mama.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-55701187223230925652019-05-25T21:32:08.452+02:002019-05-25T21:32:08.452+02:00"She will be all over licking her feet""She will be all over licking her feet"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-57383867489121401142019-05-25T21:20:43.706+02:002019-05-25T21:20:43.706+02:00My pikin this and that until they grow up too and ...My pikin this and that until they grow up too and choose their wives over you, if only we could show tolerance and love more than we pray and fast this world would be a better place, do you know praising the woman and buying her little gifts, even smiles can change the whole setting of things,your mother in law most times is a preview of your future with your kids partners so becareful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-88137658184117441952019-05-25T21:17:45.518+02:002019-05-25T21:17:45.518+02:00If I tell you its going to be easy I'll be lyi...If I tell you its going to be easy I'll be lying. Please try to tolerant your mother in-law till she goes back to her base and always keep an eye on your kids when she is around them to avoid story that touches the heart but don't stop her from taking care of them. Apply wisdom in your dealings with her so that the environment will be peaceful for you all. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-144607407459430032019-05-25T21:14:26.232+02:002019-05-25T21:14:26.232+02:00She lack hone training, just like the rest of the...She lack hone training, just like the rest of them shouting all around. They are not difficult to spot. It's as a result of poor background and upbringings DON™https://www.blogger.com/profile/08420101668507002956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-29611584952837597902019-05-25T21:11:47.533+02:002019-05-25T21:11:47.533+02:00I am here wishing my MIL was alive, my hubby talks...I am here wishing my MIL was alive, my hubby talks about how strict she was etc I love her so much even though I never met her, I am also blessed with the gift of loving other people's kids.<br /><br />Women work hard and achieve your dreams and greater heights stop hoping that your kids will shoulder all your burden at old age, most people disrespect poor MIL, how many well to do mums will do Omugwo for you. If her MIL is okonjo she will be am love licking her feet. Silly people,once they go abroad they start to look down on locals thinking everything oyibo does is perfect, oyobo has told you guys to allow your kids be transgender so go ahead and do it.<br />Force feeding is wrong so find a way to tell the mama to stop but tone down that hatred of yours.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com