tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post4533739645168736109..comments2024-03-29T07:43:26.787+01:00Comments on Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...stella dimoko korkushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04701817813874851226noreply@blogger.comBlogger92125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-13421841379684055532019-10-26T21:21:46.726+02:002019-10-26T21:21:46.726+02:00I live in the UK and truth be told , I don’t fancy...I live in the UK and truth be told , I don’t fancy dating a white man . I have been in a couple of relationships with them but culture difference just irks me . So I jejely stuck to what makes me comfortable. I’m dating a cameroonian guy right now and I’m having the best time of my life . <br />That Leicester girl candid opinionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05456772794753227843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-91613775890042535542019-10-26T16:55:05.939+02:002019-10-26T16:55:05.939+02:00I'm amused seeing all this talk about if he lo...I'm amused seeing all this talk about if he loved her he will accept all. <br />Oyibo man is doing the exact same thing women do.<br /> <br />On this same blog time and again what I've noticed is that women don't marry for love but open their eyes well and marry the person best placed to provide for them. <br />How many women can honestly say they married the man that they loved the most? Marriage honestly doesn't have to do with love alone, so many calculations go into it. <br /><br />The oyibo man has dispassionately looked at her family situation and is asking questions about issues that concern him.<br /><br />Helping out ones parents and immediate family members is a noble thing, but carrying everyone's matter on your head is not good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-53644801536943887452019-10-26T13:21:43.036+02:002019-10-26T13:21:43.036+02:00Shut up already!!!Shut up already!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-20952389748875592192019-10-26T12:44:54.611+02:002019-10-26T12:44:54.611+02:00Anon 11:13 there is nothing to learn the hard way ...Anon 11:13 there is nothing to learn the hard way mate. Yes I love to eat free cake especially this cake that refuse to accept the word no and refuse to leave me alone. Is God going to come down and help me or is he going to send someone to help me. <br /><br />He is fully aware and understands that nothing will ever happen between us because i only date and will marry a black man. He has accepted and made peace with that and he is seeing and dating other girls too.<br /><br />Please stop bleeding under my comment; I'm an adult and he is an adult. <br /><br />Have a nice dayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-57538499890324340652019-10-26T11:13:36.802+02:002019-10-26T11:13:36.802+02:00You let him indeed. No is in the dictionary. You w...You let him indeed. No is in the dictionary. You want to have your cake and eat it but it doesn't work that way. I hope you don't learn it the hard way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-32697537728387485692019-10-26T10:01:37.438+02:002019-10-26T10:01:37.438+02:00I think your hubby was very rich and generous too,...I think your hubby was very rich and generous too, and we shouldnt expect that standard for every man in love. However i also think this man in question sounds slightly manipulative or just pure ignorance. Use your head poster, dont disclose everything and also dont put your family issue on your head too much, so you dont get exhaustedProudly feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16947979181005073589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-3012143411495409922019-10-26T06:57:58.369+02:002019-10-26T06:57:58.369+02:00Her parents are in Nigeria. What insurance are you...Her parents are in Nigeria. What insurance are you on about again? Comprehension is key! I doubt you are white! Mtchewwww Nmasinachihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08199292323999727418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-53883615862107534092019-10-26T06:08:28.700+02:002019-10-26T06:08:28.700+02:00I will advice you not to lie. Always tell the trut...I will advice you not to lie. Always tell the truth to your husband no matter how difficult it may be. If he ever finds out you lie about money it may end your marriage. He was sincere and told you how he feels. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He is confuse and trying to understand your culture. Your need wisdom dear. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-36237302038908914712019-10-26T03:02:29.452+02:002019-10-26T03:02:29.452+02:00I don't care or need his love and i make that ...I don't care or need his love and i make that very clear to him. I also make it clear i only date black guys. <br /><br />I also don't need anything from him but he insist infact i make more money than him. He refuse to take leave me alone re helping me so i let him. He begs to help me so i let him.<br /><br />Most say 80% of his gfs have been black but he makes it clear he likes dating black girls. His fetish is for his own pocket as long as he doesn't cross the line with me we are good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-91449540321098438192019-10-26T02:34:56.902+02:002019-10-26T02:34:56.902+02:00Anon 18:12 hmmm be careful oo. The day you leave h...Anon 18:12 hmmm be careful oo. The day you leave him he might say it’s either him or no one. All this spending on you and you continue to take his money hmmm. Just be very careful. Some Oyinbo people sabi love a little too hard sometimes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-76658542273469285472019-10-26T00:42:42.074+02:002019-10-26T00:42:42.074+02:00I agree with you Anon 16:26. I don't know why ...I agree with you Anon 16:26. I don't know why everyone is hyperventilating. That yours worked out a certain way doesn't mean hers will work out the same way. I haven't seen anything wrong with what boyfriend said. His concerns are valid and I didn't read anywhere you wrote that he's complaining. You're the one making all the assumptions. Communicate your expectations for the future and if you can't reach middle ground, then yes reconsider moving forward. But don't throw a good thing away when you don't have all the facts yet. Drenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-53110656530350849962019-10-26T00:03:17.445+02:002019-10-26T00:03:17.445+02:0017:33, so she won’t have any savings for the rainy...17:33, so she won’t have any savings for the rainy day? 3 accounts? Really? Lol. She better not be in the States, by the time bills will start rolling in, she will turn that 3rd account to her savings account. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-49278876425093929942019-10-26T00:00:20.409+02:002019-10-26T00:00:20.409+02:00Stella has said it allStella has said it allMakashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00649217659265021205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-29337777160188521052019-10-25T23:03:36.677+02:002019-10-25T23:03:36.677+02:00Waooooooooo waooooooooo i love your comment 😍Waooooooooo waooooooooo i love your comment 😍Lillysimplehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04621896101686061248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-58958605344998059492019-10-25T23:03:17.573+02:002019-10-25T23:03:17.573+02:00what da fuck? I always stand with white people on ...what da fuck? I always stand with white people on this issue. Africa is messed up. Why should a grown man or woman send money to another grown man Or woman? he only condition I may agree to send or give money to anybody is only for health reasons. Even at that I always advise people to do health insurance. Black people are too lazy abeg.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-89355323136525454222019-10-25T22:44:22.668+02:002019-10-25T22:44:22.668+02:00If I'm honest with you, its either your man is...If I'm honest with you, its either your man is fully supportive he isn't. It also depends whether you're on the same wave length or you are not or else this is something that will cause issues in the long term.<br /><br />I'm in a inter-racial relationship and my hubby did not understand why I cared for others. I was very clear and honest about why I was supporting g family members the way I was and although he didn't agree, he respected and supported my decisions. I also respect his views and don't ask him for money or directly ask for financial assistance with my family members.<br /><br />However, my hubby regularly contributes towards my family without it being a burden and I guess its because I stick my agreement of whatever I need to take care of in our home and what I do with my extra is up to me.<br /><br />If your man is understanding and loves you, it shouldn't worry him but you both need to be clear about who pays what = what percentage you each contribute to the household.<br /><br />With regards to food, it would be helpful if you can cook both african and non African food (spicy and not Spicy). It would also be helpful if your man can cook or at least learn to cook what he likes because I'm sure you wont want to be making 2 separate dishes all the time.<br /><br />My hubby doesn't like spice but he eats whatever I give him then asks why I add so much spice like I want to punish him. He cooks for himself and the family regularly so there is no issues with food.<br /><br />In fact, he now cooks jollof, plantain, he makes stew but not one you will like at all. <br /><br />When two people cherish each other and want to make it work, certain things won't matter as you will both be determined to make it work and it will work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-38335247030492574602019-10-25T22:32:20.574+02:002019-10-25T22:32:20.574+02:00The guy only date black girls? Then he doesn't...The guy only date black girls? Then he doesn't love you he simply has a fetish.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-17068854135251048232019-10-25T21:39:31.101+02:002019-10-25T21:39:31.101+02:00Such an ungrateful family. Glad you are okay now.Such an ungrateful family. Glad you are okay now.EV https://www.blogger.com/profile/02286556556239350048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-47564863859420725912019-10-25T20:26:02.829+02:002019-10-25T20:26:02.829+02:0018.12 you are just a user. See mentality!18.12 you are just a user. See mentality!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-23071570516273957742019-10-25T20:22:46.004+02:002019-10-25T20:22:46.004+02:0017.06 does their problem become yours though? Love...17.06 does their problem become yours though? Love is reciprocal. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-43268188057258354182019-10-25T20:21:26.679+02:002019-10-25T20:21:26.679+02:00For me i have stayed here in Europe for 20yrs the ...For me i have stayed here in Europe for 20yrs the 1st 10yrs i was helping home with the help of My ex husband and My salary My Dear family took advantage of it to the extent of My siblings not doing anything for themselves u Pay school fees in a expensive school they All fail to pass because of partying in the end My ex husband got tired i too then we decided to bring My young Sister big mistake if you People see the way she cd quarrel with my ex husband and abusing him Telling him how she is not poor in africa the man was so disappointed it got to the extent where she cdnt lift a finger to do anything the man was so bitter because he was helping Them he started chatting on Facebook with different women until i filed for a divorce and they My family i helped mocked me and calling me names etc i just moved on and I met a Nice man 7yrs ago he doesnt belive that People shd depend on each other rather work to make yourself confortable. I stopped sending money home i needed to build up myself and do what makes me happy and AM indeed happy about My decisions if family dont apreciate u why kill yourself for Them. I used to work many hrs to send money home at the end of the month there is nothing left for me. Now i enjoy My money with my Kids My husband provides for us though he travel alot he makes sure All is good those i suffered for are now feeling the heat of working and providing for themselves nothing is for free in this world some times families take advantage when you are abroad they dont do anything but wait for manna to fall from heaven. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-84845822914719335552019-10-25T20:11:56.555+02:002019-10-25T20:11:56.555+02:00Like Stella said... He doesn't love you enough...Like Stella said... He doesn't love you enough to understand where you come from and what it entails. Today it's health insurance, tomorrow it could be no circumcision for my baby boy or no spanking in my house. <br />Is it today that we have started to see interracial marriages and hear success stories about it? <br />My brother refused to propose to his wife and told her I won't until you come see my parents/family in their default settings and if there's mutual acceptance then we can take the next step. Sisi arranged her next leave, came down to Nigeria, came to the village (it was August meeting period) and stayed a whole month...1st time of coming to Africa. She saw default setting true true. <br />We thought he was taking it too far but we later understood what he was aiming for. Understanding and accepting and appreciating where your intented comes from is paramount. <br />Now she makes a mean egusi soup and her jellof skills is fire, appreciates my family and the Igbo culture and what it entails because she understand that it was what moulded the man she fell in love with. If there's a family contribution to make, she's the one that stays on my brothers neck till he makes his own. <br />You love him enough, does he? Abi his is determined by if your parents have medical insurance or if you don't have to render financial assistance back home? The same oyibo that will will all their property and money to charities? Ehn yours is also a charitable assistance abi? Ralu mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12849704443614060925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-20360119005813083192019-10-25T19:28:38.253+02:002019-10-25T19:28:38.253+02:00Poster you both are not compatible,plz read Stella...Poster you both are not compatible,plz read Stella's advice 4 _5 times pleaseDiamondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15321433540362475961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-77225684903911655652019-10-25T18:51:25.234+02:002019-10-25T18:51:25.234+02:00This isn't a matter to lol. I just shake my he...This isn't a matter to lol. I just shake my head whenever I hear people say "Ooooooh we're so in love." If love was all that was needed for a marriage to work, everyone who get and stay happily married to the first person they fell in love with.<br /><br />Your boyfriend has a valid point with health insurance. Is there a reason you haven't gotten it for your parents? What if you lose your job and your parents fall ill? <br /><br />'Hate' is a strong word to use for food that's the norm for the person you're dating. I get it if there are some foods on each side that the other doesn't like. I don't understand how that's going to work unless you or he's willing to keep making two sets of meals. My husband is Nigerian but there are things he doesn't eat that I swear by cos they're really healthy. And it's not just hype, I actually feel a difference in my body. I've tried to get him to like and adopt them, but man's not having it. By contrast, there are things he insists on consuming and I wince cos all I can see is the sugar and salt content. Since it's not every single food, we just agree to disagree but the result may be different if it's a case of "Oh, I hate all the foods you like and were raised with" cos some foods are a huge part of who we are. Imagine dating a Yoruba guy and saying you're disgusted by ewedu, or a man trying to be with an Efik girl and he hates afang. And it's not that the cook is bad. At this point, it's not just about personal preferences or health considerations; it's a low-key rejection of the person. <br /><br />This is the first time I'm hearing that with a Caucasian love interest, you ALWAYS have to go Dutch on outings. I have an issue with feeling entitled to a man's money but I have Caucasian friends who have no problem paying for stuff from time to time for female friends or women they're dating. And it's not like these guys are super rich, so maybe that's a conversation you need to have. <br /><br />Are you the first African your boyfriend has ever known? If yes, introduce him to Nollywood films and other Black folk. How else will he learn that sending money and gifts to parents is just something that we do? He may even be inspired to try it with his own parents. <br /><br />If you both are not ready to meet the other halfway and even adjust to make compromises for each other, break up now else you might do so during wedding planning. The Real OAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14618012771772602864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-41944105225090850782019-10-25T18:40:20.363+02:002019-10-25T18:40:20.363+02:00My husband is white. He was/still is fascinated by...My husband is white. He was/still is fascinated by our culture. He now tells me when meals aren’t spicy as the previous ones, this is someone that used to eat white rice and ketchup! Lol<br />He likes spicy food but not too hot, he wants to help out without even asking. He is currently working on getting my brother over here. <br />Like some BVs have pointed out, he sees my family as his, he doesn’t waste time to remind me it’s his family too.<br />It’s so hilarious when he repeats things I say in pidgin and igbo...he’s adorable, lol.<br />He would tell everyone he’s Nigerian by marriage , I could go on and on.<br />This is what you two should really utterly address, it shouldn’t be an issue if he truly understands and if you’re not going overboard with it too. The key is balance! <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com