tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post519013130154517244..comments2024-03-28T11:34:47.191+01:00Comments on Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative - UPDATEstella dimoko korkushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04701817813874851226noreply@blogger.comBlogger81125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-84019625811126347462022-08-03T20:03:02.584+02:002022-08-03T20:03:02.584+02:00@17:36, very true o. He might not take her to that...@17:36, very true o. He might not take her to that America. SHE NO GO EVEN SMELL AIRPORTAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-64519484425659618222022-08-03T19:58:49.070+02:002022-08-03T19:58:49.070+02:00just one month nahim wahala plenty like this. I be...just one month nahim wahala plenty like this. I bet you if you marry that man you will regret for the rest of your life. If you even move to that his house na wahala because he will not stop accussing you of cheating on him. Abeg o run for your dear life and for your peace of mind. The red flag is just too much and its very obvious. Honestly that man go make your life miserable. And y is he talking about ivf at this early stage abi him kini no dey work? Ko olorun ma je ka ri asu oAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-51512475466436960012022-08-03T19:38:46.016+02:002022-08-03T19:38:46.016+02:00🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😃😄and if he starts that his nonsen...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😃😄and if he starts that his nonsense silent treatment and he is far away in America, how will you guys communicate specially wen kids start coming in. Make God no let us see bad thingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-4945087948303715422022-08-02T14:37:00.230+02:002022-08-02T14:37:00.230+02:00Poster, involuntary HA escaped from my mouth when ...Poster, involuntary HA escaped from my mouth when I got to him being obsessed.<br />If you can cope with these in the next 50 years, then go ahead but as someone that has been married for 9 years and has enjoyed utmost love and respect from her husband, I'll tell you to ABORT MISSION!!!Babes®noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-62375366094161590762022-08-02T10:36:12.576+02:002022-08-02T10:36:12.576+02:00Poster please ignore the scared of loosing rubbish...Poster please ignore the scared of loosing rubbish talk<br /><br />The man no be husband<br />He ain't right in the headAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-55370968975594776252022-08-02T10:35:14.107+02:002022-08-02T10:35:14.107+02:00I know two ladies who did this years back in Naija...I know two ladies who did this years back in Naija. They ended up marrying the one-month courtship guys. One got here & found out hers wasn’t honest about his work. Though a college grad, he drove a taxi but brought a woman in a very lucrative high paying/regarded profession, deceitfully. The second guy had a white collar job but they fought often, about money & divorced after several children. I didn’t think the time was enough to know & marry a guy. I was told it was not unusual in their culture. <br /><br />Here are red flags that make it seem he has/had a family here & may have had a marriage that didn’t work out. Nothing wrong if he is honest & has learned from his past.<br />1. It’s bizarre to be talking about IVF before marriage & months/years of trying to start a family. IVF is for fertility challenges, not an appetizer from a restaurant menu!<br /><br />Does he have females but wants males, like FFK? What does that tell you about his mentality? Who talks about that within a month of dating when from your narration it doesn’t even seem you are “there” yet? Does he or the introducer think you are desperate at 32? You are too young to be seen as desperate & a bad marriage is a foretaste of hell. <br /><br />Should you not have a say since you haven’t even tried at all for a baby before going through a harrowing IVF? IVF isn’t the 1st step in trying to start a new family. It’s a sign of someone with a family who wants “a surrogate for gender selection”.<br /><br />2. He appears insecure & controlling. It could be evidence that he is not being totally honest with you to rush a woman into a “court marriage” within a month. Will you have a say in the relationship? He even had your life planned out & rented a place for you to stay without your say-so , you neither received a formal proposal nor said “yes” formally with his engagement ring on your finger! He overreacted to the issue of loaning your friend your car, collecting the card from you & giving you an attitude afterwards like you solicited another man. <br />3. I hope he wasn’t trying to take advantage of your naivety. Domestic violence among naijas here is common when a controlling guy brings a woman here but realizes she is smarter than he thought. The fights start & I hate to say this, it’s common among the couples that had these whirlwind dating, our version of “imported Naija mail order brides”. The type Trump the quintessential narcissist prefers as shown by his penchant for east European Ivana & Melania. Controlling guys feel they are easier to manipulate because they will feel indebted. Of course we know it’s not true once the passport comes out they stop to being doormats. You seem to have a master-subordinate relationship where he makes decisions without your input. It will get worse. <br />4. I’m not trying to put his profession down but law isn’t always a well paying profession here unless you finished from a top program or you practice immigration law with lots of “ I will pay in-installment ” naijas. Don’t be fooled by the $700 offer. It’s not a small amount but it could be a bait. Don’t get here & start paying it back by working odd jobs like a slave. Find out what he really does for a living. Ask questions. <br />5. You didn’t tell us if you found him attractive & fell in love with him. You seem a little taken by the fact that he is from here. If you do not feel attracted to him or love him let him go. If you love him, have someone here help you pay for a backround check on him. I nearly hired a convicted armed robber for a sensitive position but for the procedures in place for a thorough background & drug test just because an acquaintance asked me to help her daughter’s boyfriend. Needless to say privacy laws forbade me from telling her my scary findings! <br />May God give you the spirit of discernment & help your own man find you in Jesus nameAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-42875312932040689122022-08-02T10:10:38.297+02:002022-08-02T10:10:38.297+02:00@shay
Glory to GOD for that o@shay<br />Glory to GOD for that oAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-86392270322510865152022-08-02T09:20:49.523+02:002022-08-02T09:20:49.523+02:00Na why dem dey use money shit on uns head. Salary ...Na why dem dey use money shit on uns head. Salary ko, pension ni.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-58348589302464608062022-08-02T08:37:30.881+02:002022-08-02T08:37:30.881+02:00Poster
Ignore this
You are not called to mould o...Poster <br />Ignore this <br />You are not called to mould oh <br />You are not a potter <br /><br />‘Mouldable’ people are teachable.<br />This guy doesn’t seem teachable.<br /><br />He will capture you and you won’t be able to escape <br /><br />Sha go ahead if you want to <br /><br />Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-12802105158613506352022-08-02T08:32:47.304+02:002022-08-02T08:32:47.304+02:00Madam
I beg you please. Run. Run.
This WILL NOT...Madam <br /><br />I beg you please. Run. Run.<br /><br />This WILL NOT GET BETTER <br /><br />He’s obsessed with you and would control you.<br />This is not love <br /><br />My friend married someone like this and the marriage has ended as we speak.<br /><br />The man never lets her talk to men but talks to women.<br />He didn’t want her to work.<br /><br />And he was a master silent treatment guru.<br />His silent treatment was second to none <br /><br />Sis please run<br /><br />Please I’m begging you <br />Please <br /><br /><br />But if you want to go ahead, do but I assure you that your chronicles never finish. No be curse, na truth <br /><br /><br />Mma NwachukwuAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-39185554661143016312022-08-02T08:08:42.727+02:002022-08-02T08:08:42.727+02:00I don’t think it a red flag . The guy does not wan...I don’t think it a red flag . The guy does not want his investments on you wasted . Period . And you lady , u seem to over react and complain about everything. <br />See ehn , when u meet a guy he does not ave to be 10/10 , you have to put in a lot of work and mould him to your taste!! A guy that wants to place you on salary is a generous guy o !!!<br />Don’t be deceived ! Calm down pls !! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-18445283595177458702022-08-02T02:18:26.253+02:002022-08-02T02:18:26.253+02:00RUN for your dear life! Marriage is meant to be en...RUN for your dear life! Marriage is meant to be enjoyable. This isn’t it!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-21586145856470136912022-08-02T02:02:58.050+02:002022-08-02T02:02:58.050+02:00You guys know she doesn’t have to get pregnant or ...You guys know she doesn’t have to get pregnant or marry him without going to America right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-72136911589863855222022-08-01T22:18:01.112+02:002022-08-01T22:18:01.112+02:00Keep on moving, the lord is preparing something sp...Keep on moving, the lord is preparing something special for you.excited courtesyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00206713776636439046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-7649016443946184332022-08-01T21:11:12.999+02:002022-08-01T21:11:12.999+02:00He’s not a narcissist
He’s clearly scared of losi...He’s not a narcissist <br />He’s clearly scared of losing her to someone else<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-35774250691682698802022-08-01T21:08:52.284+02:002022-08-01T21:08:52.284+02:00He’s not married
He’s immature
I’ve heard this sa...He’s not married<br />He’s immature <br />I’ve heard this same story in different ways. In fact my cousin’s friend is doing the leave the girl in naija for now thing. It’s the same fear that the girl just wants to use them for America Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-31968524686419225062022-08-01T20:37:12.509+02:002022-08-01T20:37:12.509+02:0018:45 this things play alot, he will never bring h...18:45 this things play alot, he will never bring her to America,NEVER! mark my words. This kind of men have a partner o,Fear them. She will just keep making babies here and live in that house of his. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-18368503374495372942022-08-01T20:33:55.430+02:002022-08-01T20:33:55.430+02:00He will not because there is a limit to what he ca...He will not because there is a limit to what he can do there, she will walk away he will loose. He knows very well what he is doing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-24171306573838868012022-08-01T20:33:52.287+02:002022-08-01T20:33:52.287+02:00Nothing is off. They are narcissist, he needs supp...Nothing is off. They are narcissist, he needs supply but this woman is self aware, she's won't be a victim easily. Proudly feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16947979181005073589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-25784465651842673902022-08-01T20:32:19.862+02:002022-08-01T20:32:19.862+02:00I tell you. Me sef, I cry ehn. ChaiI tell you. Me sef, I cry ehn. ChaiProudly feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16947979181005073589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-30661027714532462342022-08-01T20:25:41.448+02:002022-08-01T20:25:41.448+02:00You better use your tongue to count your teeth. Do...You better use your tongue to count your teeth. Do not marry that Man. Sometimes, it is better to stay in Nigeria and be happy than come to the US and be miserable. I have seen the way some of our girls are treated here. I have stepped in to help a few times. Some cases are so bad that some of these men will not even buy a winter jacket, nor cookies for their wife. Being new and without friends, they often times have no one and no where to turn to. Please, be careful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-18133146549035483942022-08-01T20:15:07.435+02:002022-08-01T20:15:07.435+02:00The guy seem to get too many wahala abeg, and you ...The guy seem to get too many wahala abeg, and you seem like a cool lady who knows what she wants. Neat Cut &Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11838157508271021392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-56807665505049303462022-08-01T20:12:01.964+02:002022-08-01T20:12:01.964+02:00This guy is a narcissist. Poster you will cry aft...This guy is a narcissist. Poster you will cry after 10 years. If you divorce him, he will take your kids and you will cry. Read about narcissist. You have to allow him to control you, worship him, but if you resist. You will cry. Your family will go against you cos they have sweet personality outside. Chai you will cry, but if you desperate, go for it. Proudly feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16947979181005073589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-90714842918550006842022-08-01T19:55:09.887+02:002022-08-01T19:55:09.887+02:00Hmm this Kind of person nawa o. I can't fit co...Hmm this Kind of person nawa o. I can't fit cope at all. He will pressurize you until you loose your mind. Nne you're not overreacting bikoGod's favourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00058265033620715451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-18044951970664251872022-08-01T19:54:33.830+02:002022-08-01T19:54:33.830+02:00Everywhere red! Thank God poster seems not despera...Everywhere red! Thank God poster seems not desperate. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com