tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post6544891892815771475..comments2024-03-28T14:13:44.030+01:00Comments on Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Man Gives Girlfriend Reasons He Cannot Introduce Her To His Parents After 4 Years Of Dating..stella dimoko korkushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04701817813874851226noreply@blogger.comBlogger67125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-19615119432052088152020-12-09T05:49:47.505+01:002020-12-09T05:49:47.505+01:00Its the calmness for me,the lady s still talking l...Its the calmness for me,the lady s still talking like this after the bombshell...<br />Unfortunately lady,Alice is the REAL chick,I'm afraid you have been a SIDE for 4years!!TheLagosShopper(Everything sold in lagos markets/popular UK brands!https://www.blogger.com/profile/09465151835503776084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-38919849552598599262020-12-08T11:08:40.572+01:002020-12-08T11:08:40.572+01:00She was dating herself
He was catching cruise
T...She was dating herself<br /><br />He was catching cruise <br /><br />They were not in the same book<br /><br />Talkless of same pageJet lihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17291507452349893969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-83903150489912617352020-12-08T09:20:33.895+01:002020-12-08T09:20:33.895+01:0014:02 no matter your excuses (yes they are excuses...14:02 no matter your excuses (yes they are excuses), you are SELFISH.<br />Actually, you are HEARTLESS!<br /><br />You knew her tribe and broken family status won't fly with your family yet you are stringing an only child along! FOR WHAT???!<br />So that when you finally marry from your tribe, this lady will go and commit suicide? ๐ก๐ค<br /><br />Wicked soul forming 'I really really love her' when it is your selfish emotional needs you love.<br /><br />Don't worry, when your sisters get married, you will see 'how invested they are in your happiness or that of their own husbands and children.'<br /><br />FOR THIS CAUSE SHALL A MAN LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER TO CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE;AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-31167874187820560362020-12-08T08:10:35.294+01:002020-12-08T08:10:35.294+01:00NIB, Yes, you are right on that one. After all, w...NIB, Yes, you are right on that one. After all, we have atheists who are celibate as well. Sadly, the generation of the same society who saw the sacredness of sex back then now see it as an old enforced rule and do not care about being, "old fashioned ( like they call it) anymore. We now hear phrases like, " sexual liberation". Like you already said they keep upgrading from one level of sin to another and won't be stopping anytime soon. So, what to do? <br /><br />I agree with your comment too because I suspected you were addressing a general society and that was why I felt the need to be explicit that ( for Christians) it goes beyond believing that alone and acting along that line. (Close your legs and he gets serious ) because in the end even if one of those men decide to stay because he respects the standard of a particular woman who is to say he isn't going to get out there to get it from some other women who would easily let him have his way while acting like he believes what she believes. <br /><br />Same way biblical ways of handling issues don't apply to everyone for not everyone is a Christian, I also believe applying worldly tactics to grasp the intricacies God laid down between sex and commitment between men and women) isn't the way for Christians to go as well. It can only take people far but the journey has just begun. Sadly, most Christians may not know that. They may not know such methods of doing a thing may make things hard for them in the future even after those men has made an honest woman out of them.<br />Hmmm...Just so you know, you are one of my favourite people on here๐ค๐ค๐ค<br /><br />5:44, 05:51 Thank you! I noticed wasn't explicit enough hence I expatiated. ๐ค๐ค๐ค<br /><br />Vermillion, Thank you and thank God for your father and God bless you too for imbibing his teachings. It is one thing to teach your children the right path and it is another thing for them to follow.๐ ๐ ๐<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Sabella. ๐น๐น๐นhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10874213444607757438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-12545109319852376672020-12-08T07:21:40.033+01:002020-12-08T07:21:40.033+01:00Sabella your second paragraph is so on point. I...Sabella your second paragraph is so on point. I'm super grateful I am very very close to my Dad. He thought me independence and how to carry myself so idiot men without standard avoid me. It really helpe me and I even turned to relationship counsellor to my friends๐. Its helping me in marriage now. Everyone should have standards! It prevents some very stupid individuals from having access to your life not to talk of trying to mess if upVermilionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15187613282218892068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-57103246120972780822020-12-08T05:51:41.619+01:002020-12-08T05:51:41.619+01:00Sabella I am the anon 21:57 up there. Thanks once ...Sabella I am the anon 21:57 up there. Thanks once again for taking your time and explaining further.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-28919421886747456762020-12-08T05:44:24.403+01:002020-12-08T05:44:24.403+01:00Ha Sabella sweet your point is everything. God ble...Ha Sabella sweet your point is everything. God bless you so much. I really needed this and it came at the right time. I like all of yours point and every Christian woman needs to read this. I like the angle you always write from. I now see why I never liked all those relationship books because it was too confusing for me and now I know why. Keep being you. I am bookmarking your comment. Stella thank you for this blog I have learnt a lot. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-8150044811700910802020-12-08T02:17:02.808+01:002020-12-08T02:17:02.808+01:00Oh wow thanks everyone for the response. @Sabella,...Oh wow thanks everyone for the response. @Sabella, I agree with you - your point applies to how an individual (single Christian woman) should reason while making her decision; in other words it's best to date men who believe in and practice celibacy of their own accord and not those who practice it cos the woman is withholding it in hope to get commitment. My point is also for the society at large - not everyone is a Christian, but if a large number of women withheld sex, whether for religious or self-respect or any reason, there would still be to a great extent, more commitment, more marriages, less single mothers, less adultery and so on. Remember that our ancestors were not Christians but they still saw the sacredness of sex as something that should be within marriage. That was how the society was held together. Of course we'll never have the times back cos the world is fated to progress with age, but the bone of it is still, our 'simple disobedience' to God led to this present society. We progressed from fornication, to adultery, bestiality, homosexuality, transgenderism, orgies, pedophilia, BDSM..etc [Some argue that these have always existed but still, not as much as it exists now]NiBnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-17968137700663532202020-12-07T23:53:47.205+01:002020-12-07T23:53:47.205+01:00โคโคโคโคโคโคโค@NIBโคโคโคโคโคโคโค@NIB Jeweluchi Chocolat Noir ๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03228525728889091388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-14525791031048575442020-12-07T23:05:30.430+01:002020-12-07T23:05:30.430+01:00I read it and understood her perfectly but what I ...I read it and understood her perfectly but what I am saying is, that is the way it is in the world as it is right now. Hookups, FWB, one night stands, orgies, debauchery and all other vices are the order of the day. A larger percentage of men and women are hooked on the recent sex culture that right now most people do not know how to have good relationships anymore. <br /><br />Trust me, I know... that is why we have so many relationships books around making money off ignorant men and women. ladies are stressing themselves perusing books like, "How to make him want you', the bitches rules, be the desirable woman he can't resist" when all they need is the Bible. Because the kind of men they are basing their writings on aren't the kind you aiming for. By the time you see how much God adores you, you lack tolerance for any man that wants to drag you the ground. All that relationship advice outside of God words aren't needed to start with if ladies just avoid these sorts of men in general. I mean the worldly kind of men. <br /><br /><br />Take a few of the advices from those books, " Do not have sex on the first date", why? because a worldly guy would naturally expect that of you anyway. What about the "three months no sex rule", do you need that if the man you are with is someone with the same biblical principles as yours? I was talking from the angle of a Godly/worldly guy. I just feel a lady who wants to stay chaste even if not for a religious reason needs to know that at the end of the day that is the best/strongest reason to shed light on her path. Yes, even if you weren't religious you will still feel the same way about keeping off pre-marital sex but, how you go about getting rid of those lust-filled hyenas will be different and less stressful. Your source will determine how fast you handle the eradication of those men. <br /><br />Many men may easily grab sex and not commitment till they are ready and ladies want commitment. That kind of men, ladies who have biblical standards do not have business with them and they are best avoided all together rather than trying to make them come correct by withholding sex to see your worth. Withhold sex because that is how it ought to be and you should be with a man who feels that way too. Because the bitter truth is, even when those kind of men are ready for commitment their view of sex still stands. They are still the same person they were who hunger and grab sexual offers when the chances presented itself and the only difference is just that they are now ready for commitment. They do not see sex as sacred and will still grab sexual offers after marriage. Commitment to you does not change their low assessment of moral standards. <br /><br />Now, even though to an extent your general statement about the different desires of men and woman is likely true it doesn't apply in the right context when talking about a virtuous man . Yes, he also wants sex but willing to make a commitment to get it but know this, you are not the one making it wait for it because he also wants commitment and not just sex. Whether you dangle it like a carrot or not he has enough self-restraint to hold back due to the personal conviction he made by himself( just like you did) and not you making it for him by withholding sex and that's the different.<br />Sabella. ๐น๐น๐นhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10874213444607757438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-47786969525932855902020-12-07T22:03:58.411+01:002020-12-07T22:03:58.411+01:00It doesn't dear. I met one that made me think ...It doesn't dear. I met one that made me think I was the best thing to happen to him. I traveled abroad and said no to another relationship because of him. Didn't even know that he almost married another lady when I was away. I came back and we continued. He moved to a new apartment. In fact, I helped move his things from the old apartment. He wanted us to settle down asap or so I thought. We agreed on a date to visit his family but he was very busy that day so it never happened. He started acting funny. I suspected he had other women in his life. I left hurt. Thankfully, another opportunity came for me to travel abroad so I left. Two years later, I saw his wedding pictures on FB. His marriage ended after just three months. He wrote me on FB apologizing for the way he treated me. Said that it's because of where I come from (Mbaise). I am happily married and settled abroad. Thank God for saving and blessing me. It doesn't end well for them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-19632558967307071542020-12-07T21:57:37.466+01:002020-12-07T21:57:37.466+01:00Please Read what she is saying again.Please Read what she is saying again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-19288128868109545412020-12-07T20:36:44.405+01:002020-12-07T20:36:44.405+01:00Sorry i meant
^ "If you do not have it before...Sorry i meant<br />^ "If you do not have it before we meet then you don't have it after. I am NOT going to enforce it on you overtly or covertly".<br /><br />Just realised the errors are much๐<br />Can't correct all๐ <br />Sabella. ๐น๐น๐นhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10874213444607757438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-56007150216482975612020-12-07T20:14:42.703+01:002020-12-07T20:14:42.703+01:00Anon, if you really really love her like you claim...Anon, if you really really love her like you claim, make an effort and FIGHT for her! It won't be easy, but TRY.<br /><br />If all things fails, you can now move on.<br /><br />DON'T move on without making efforts. It's not fair!<br /><br />Sometimes our families are not as difficult and complicated as we assume in our heads. Someone needs to make a move and break the jinx.<br /><br />All the bestAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-82404111361688062712020-12-07T19:48:36.383+01:002020-12-07T19:48:36.383+01:0017:19 Most cannot meet up. They weak-willed. You w...17:19 Most cannot meet up. They weak-willed. You will have to be patient and prayerful to meet the right one deserving of you. Still that should not bother you because I am sure the ones you talked about are not the kind of men you want. Please next time when a boy gets stupidly offended please leave him there and stop everything right there. What is your business if he gets angry? I am even angry you said he got angry. <br /><br />Always trying to do the bareset minimum yet looking for a queen. How can you be bereft of all morals and lacking in principles. Some think having money is all there is.<br /><br />I recall how I use to cut guys off with no compassion when I was single. The generation of men I had came across in the past were nothing to write home about. These are men you would expect to do right based on their resume. Well, The weak ones who couldn't meet up to my standard respectfully avoided me. The shameless ones got disgraced. They meet some girls who allow them be stupid and they assume you will take it too. <br />There was one who disturbed my friend for my digits she got tired and gave it to him, pleaded with me to be his friend though I wasn't interested in him only for the filthy thing to tell me he wants us to be friends with benefits. I laughed till tears came rolling down my cheeks.๐ I lost my cool and made him wish he had never met me. He later came over the next day with wrapped gifts to apologise that he was wrong but I was disgusted and left him there. He was just surprised you he met a different woman, he was still filthy. I thought to myself 'you want to be friends with benefits and you came to meet me of all people?" This guy obviously do not like himself.<br /><br />One called and asked we meet for the first time in his house. I just blocked him. He later apologised with another line and picked a suitable place but I told him off even though he had made a reservation. So you knew the right thing to do the first time but you were testing how far I would let you be stupid? You act stupid once you are history. Like! I am not the one..I am definitely not the one.<br /><br /><br />I get your point NIB but I personally do not think I am meant to teach you how to have standards as a man that you live by. If you do not have it before we meet then you don't it after. I am going to enforce it on your overtly or covertly. <br /><br />Why should a man wait on a woman to teach him how to have sense? I understand where you are coming from NIB However, The moment you let me school you on how to treat me or any other woman and be respectful as a man is be towards a woman then you are history. You become a weakling and lose your manliness in my eyes. <br /><br />Ladies should close their legs not because they want a man who isn't deserving of their respect to respect them and see reasons to be with them but because it is the right thing to do. Still even if he accepts like some do. They keep you chaste while still being filthy out there. Get close to your maker he will never let you marry wrong you will find out one way or the other. A man who is not bold to stand before your maker at the altar to claim all of you has no business debasing your body. <br /> <br />Sabella. ๐น๐น๐นhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10874213444607757438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-28841306551533861132020-12-07T17:29:45.783+01:002020-12-07T17:29:45.783+01:00Life will shock you! You'd expect them to be w...Life will shock you! You'd expect them to be wrenched but life has it's own plot twist I tell you.Picture (G Wagon)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02028645508216253149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-38346092893192310802020-12-07T17:27:47.037+01:002020-12-07T17:27:47.037+01:00Never give a man your money. Let's start there...Never give a man your money. Let's start there. Never date a man who stands to gain way more from you be it status, money, Visa, etcAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-18877672462501504662020-12-07T17:26:31.261+01:002020-12-07T17:26:31.261+01:00I'm telling u. If ladies made a more conscious...I'm telling u. If ladies made a more conscious effort to keep their legs closed, a lot of these men would have incentive to come correct n step their game up. Love is not this complicated or painful. It's humans with their lust, indiscipline and impatience making it so. Looking for instant gratification is not good. When your legs are closed you can really vet a man, his interest level, how responsible he is. When a man has nothing to offer a lady, the first thing he will do is try to rush her into sec because men know a woman's judgement gets clouded when they start having sex. Don't forget. Men start knowing how to finesse women from a very tender age while women are raised to be nice and think everyone has their best interest. So her ability to see that man for who he really is, reduces drastically after sex n she starts becoming more emotionally invested than the guy. This gives the guy enough time to lie, manipulate, play her, only if he truly loves her will he stay and marry but that is the exception to the ruleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-27944393863215168392020-12-07T17:19:04.530+01:002020-12-07T17:19:04.530+01:00God bless you and your apt comment. It is just th...God bless you and your apt comment. It is just that easy. I'm not so adamant about refraining from premarital sex for religious reasons but I have been making a conscious effort to refrain from sex until the guy invests in me emotionally financially, with quality time etc. Because men value what they have worked for. Do u know that no man I have met has been able to meet up?? So I have been abstinent not cus of religion but because most of these men are so used to women giving it up easy that they are now so lazy to do the bare minimum. Small talk the guys will start bringing mouth to kiss then have the audacity to get offended when I pull back. Common date these guys haven't taken a girl out on but they think they deserve a kiss and sex. Na wa o The bar is really on the floor. Things dey really occur oAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-894894835756045272020-12-07T17:06:14.670+01:002020-12-07T17:06:14.670+01:00I believe NIB on this opinions, once women stop gi...I believe NIB on this opinions, once women stop giving men their pleasures, men will seek for commitment urgently. It is because, they know next lady is waiting at the door to continue from what you left. Abstain from sex before marriage. Onichabor Christopher Ifeanyihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09416233437067485813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-57357519138963381132020-12-07T16:56:53.900+01:002020-12-07T16:56:53.900+01:00I am Anon 14:02 and I appreciate the comments
@ ...I am Anon 14:02 and I appreciate the comments<br /><br />@ Alexander, yeah I knew her tribe before asking her out. We started out as friends and it metamorphosed into a beautiful relationship.<br /><br />@ Classy, it's not about the sex. As a matter of fact, we've been mostly celibate. The sex was rather even before we started dating. Once we became serious, we more or less stayed off sex.<br /><br />@ Abrodian, thanks for understanding my predicament. Contrary to what others think, I really really really do love this girl so much. It's not like I can't damn the consequences , but I know how difficult my family is.<br />I don't want my kids growing up being enstranged from my family. <br /><br />@ Anon 15:17, if she was my sister, I would feel bad. I'm really not comfortable in this situation because this is someone I actually do love and want to get married to.<br /><br />@ Mao Akuh , thanks allot<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-6566941668249567272020-12-07T16:49:37.480+01:002020-12-07T16:49:37.480+01:00Something like this happened to someone I know. Sh...Something like this happened to someone I know. She gave her best to a relationship of so many years. She served the guy and her sister as if she was married to them. The guy later disappointed her. She lost herself, much money and her time to that nonsense relationship. Women should learn to value themselves better and always know they are beautifully made. They should always be ready to trash out any ill behaved guy for their peace of mind.Omajaccyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12132189379425081900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-28653174524318228912020-12-07T16:07:27.809+01:002020-12-07T16:07:27.809+01:00You gave yourself a deadline at 26?These are the u...You gave yourself a deadline at 26?These are the unnecessary pressure that you women put on yourselves and end up scaring men away.<br />At 26, you should be thinking of getting your Phd and making yourself valuable so that any man who comes into your life wouldn't hesitate to take you home to mama.<br />Go back you sch young lady and make something out of your life.Rockforcenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-27851534022731254272020-12-07T15:54:44.132+01:002020-12-07T15:54:44.132+01:00No. It doesn't end well.No. It doesn't end well. LadyT/worth more than a thousand dollarshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06820567967090659068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-352385313518803988.post-72331527082621573892020-12-07T15:31:32.522+01:002020-12-07T15:31:32.522+01:00There is no guarantee that after meeting the girl&...There is no guarantee that after meeting the girl's family he will marry her. The chic should move on.Mao Akuh (Oriflame)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13700514188857440402noreply@blogger.com