Move On Or Hang On?.....Blog Visitor Sob Story!

Such stories should be read in the morning when people wake up and start questioning God and forgetting that they have another chance....another day is given and someone else' story will be made lighter if you share in their worries.

It will amaze you all to know that 80percent of the stories here end up with posters making the right decisions because of your advice,cuss out and call out.

Thank you and God bless everyone who helps in giving advice.

Now read this shocking recount....Drug dealer husband who has threatened kidnap?Oh no,no,no,no!!!

She asks...

''Do I move on or keep waiting for him?

I am 29 Years old, been married for six years with a daughter but I have not spent 4months together with my husband till date.  Just one day I saw drugs in the house and when I asked him he was very furious and I reported to his mum but his mum advised me to join him instead of complaining. 

I was surprised to hear that from a mother then I told her I wouldn’t that was where our conflict started. Immediately after our wedding I put to bed, he came back to Nigeria to visit us from Dubai, just 3months after he travelled abroad again and never came back since 2009.

He gave me stories that he had issues which I believed and prayed along with him. He assured me everything will be better then I kept on hoping. My Mother in law tried to stop me from going back to school since I just put to bed that there are business I could do instead of going to school and make more money, but my parents intervened and asked me to come home so they can keep paying for my education while my mother took care of the baby.   

 All the while he never sent us money neither does his family care about our up keep. All I did was to put up with my family during those periods and I had no job.  His Mother wanted me to be her sales girl in her profession and stop wasting my time in school, which was far from what I wanted for myself, I struggled through school, served and now working . I didnt want to be a village champion all in the name of marriage. 

He called me last year January and gave me good news that things are getting better that he’s out  from prison and has started hustling like every other man. I was very happy that I can get assistance from him in raising our child but I never knew he was not ready for us. He called me severally to send money to him which I did hoping he’s using it to chase money over there.

I asked him for money to get an apartment in Lagos yet he chose ikeja and a 3 bedroom flat and gave me 300k. How do I get such an apartment in lkeja, I told him where I can get such house he asked me to add money and get it. Honestly I do not have and even if I have I won’t give because I feel I am giving him hope that’s why he’s not responsible enough.  I am working presently and my salary is a bit fine to take care of just me and my baby. 

In fact I am getting better financially yearly, I am not rich but I am not poor either.

Since May this year he has not called me  just because I didn’t get the apartment where he told me, and also asked for my permission to marry a white lady which I disagreed . 

His 300k is still intact and I have saved it and probably will get an apartment with it whenever I feel like. Presently I am living with my family and the place is still fine by me because they take care of my child when I am at work or need to travel.

My brother called him to find out why he has abandoned us ,he told my brother  that I should take any decision I like that he won’t speak to me again until when he’s in Nigeria and that would be to get his Daughter.  I have called him severally to see what the problem is, also called his parents maybe they can intervene but they do not seem to care,his mother said she can only assist me if I come back to live with her. 

Moreover that my husband complained that I give him ill luck and hes tired of the marriage so I should give his child to his mother so that she can take care of her while I stay apart with my baby.  I have refused to visit my mother in law, because I am afraid she could take the child forcefully and I will lose her forever.

I Have called my husband severally yet he doesn’t pick my calls, just to know if we can talk things over, all he told me when he called back was I should take his daughter to his family and if I want I can go with her but for now he’s not ready to discuss with me, and if I fail to do so, he would find a way of kidnapping my child giving me 2 months ultimatum which will elapse by October. 

My family has decided to dissolve the marriage which I agreed to but deep down I love this guy despite all he and his Family has done to me,  I pay her fees, shelter, food clothing all alone now they want me to give her up. The annoying part is that he does not want to talk to me at least to know the next step I can take but now my Dad asked them already to take back the dowry and he seems not to care. 

He has not called my Family to say a word about it and now I keep getting suitors but I don’t know if I should consider marrying again or keep waiting for him? But I am tired of living alone.''

*Before you do anything else,go and file a complaint that he has threatened to kidnap his child.Get a lawyer involved...thats more important than thinking about remarrying!...your leg is still inside one chance and you are asking if you should jump from a moving train.

Sort yourself out with estranged hubby before you consider another leap..na wah!