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Friday, September 26, 2014

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives


You got a story that is bugging you and you want to share?send us your narrative to read but remember that there are three sides to every story - your version,his/her version and the truth.








NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MARRIAGE CALLED OFF BECAUSE BOO LOST HER JOB.


Two weeks ago I lost my job that's was when I knew that dear fiance has dual personally.I called him and told him.he said I should sue them due to the circumstance surrounding my dismissal..its not like he wants to sponsor the legal battle ooh..
After I told him God knows best he said OK..and that was when it began,he asked if I could get another job immediately...I said I didn't know.
We were suppose to have our intro November 23,2014 but he has stopped calling since I told him I can't take up another job and legal battle with my old employer...
Last night he called and said there is a problem,he said he ain't gonna marry a liability ,that he was gonna have to take care of my parents and siblings since I am jobless...
Infact the engagement is off until I get a job soonest...I begged and begged saying this wasn't the best time to leave me and he said "then look for something".Stella as am talking to you even my mum is surprised ooh..he didn't take her calls too..
I never knew jobless women are not qualified to get married oh!


*I am not saying what he has done is right but he probably chickened out because he has seen the financial pressure dealing with your family has put on you.Its a pity he bailed out.Stop begging him....So what would have happened if you both were already married and you lost your job?Anyway I think his walking out just saved you from a bad situation marriage wise.good luck.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
ANOTHER DOMESTIC VIOLENCE STORY


Good morning Stella,my name is Mrs ****** Susan.I recently sent you a mail that I needed you to help me market some properties, please protect my identity. I got married at the age of 22 to a man of 36 and I have 2 beautiful boys,my marriage is 6yrs.my problem started immediately I said my vows to my husband till this minute as I type this mail.

I was in 100 level when I gave birth to my first son,immediately I got preggy he stopped touching me,it didn't really bother me cos I was still young and didn't want disturbance at that time, after I gave birth,it took him another 8months to come close to me and immediately I took in,cos I didn't really expect it would happen that fast. fast forward,I started having discharge and feeling itchy in my private part so I went to the gynecologist who then told me I had staphylococcus after series of test conducted, I didn't believe what I heard.

He came home and I asked him and he didn't deny it,I asked when,where and how long has he been cheating on me?and he told me it was when I was pregnant with our first baby,I cried my eyes out and slept off.he pretended to have turned a new leaf until I gave birth to my 2nd baby and the madness increased,he would rather sit in the bar to watch football with his friends, even when I try to call him to tell him I needed him,he would snap on the Fone and say ''woman you know the nature of my job'' whereas in the background I would hear girls and music playing, if he comes home eventually and he's sleeping close to me I could still feel and smell the volume of alcohol he has consumed.

One night I called him to have a one on one chat with him,like begging him to stop drinking and saving for the kids education and he said ''please stop insulting me,do you think every time I'm drinking I buy it for myself,someone bought the drinks for me'' and I said OK.I started noticing some funny behaviour like dropping 1k for me to run the house and if I complained he would say to me to calculate all the 1k he's giving me every month if its not 31k.

I was surprised,this is the man that I know how much he earns and other deals he does,so I told him ''please honey you know that we don't buy foodstuffs in the house,that same 1k will make soup,buy pure water,buy hypo and detergent to wash the clothes for the house,please add the money together give it to me at the end of the month''.

He got angry stood up and said to me ''So I will go to work and labour for my money and give it to you to spend,my dear you must be in dreamland''

Jesus!...I screamed, this was the man I dated 2yrs before we got married, I met him in church,we were both workers,I cried and cried until there was nothing left of me.I was living in that hell hole,he would not let me have friends,even in the compound, I was not visiting and people don't visit me,I was always depressed and had inferiority complex,I started having difficulty in breathing and could only feel my breath stopping on my chest.

I bottled a lot of things in my mind with no one to turn to,Fridays for him is the D day and I dare not challenge him,all I did was watch and pray.i cannot forget the first the he lay his hands on me,as usual he left the house and dropped 1k,I told him that I wanted to visit a friend,who happens to be his friends wife, he said OK,I was glad he said OK since he never allowed me go out,got to my friends place and back to the house.

Hmmm,my hubby came home my kids and I were already sleeping I opened the door went back to the bedroom and I heard him shout ''where is my food'' I didn't believe my ears,he came to meet me and I said to him ''shebi you told me to visit my friend,I entered keke marruwa chattered to her estate N500,I bought caprisone and biscuit N200 as I was trying to give him the breakdown on how I spent the money,I just felt one insane slap hit on my face and immediately I fell on the ground,this was the same man that I have been collecting this one thousand Naira without complaining for years.

As I bent there crying I noticed him coming to hit me,he said ''you are still laying down there get up and go and look for what I'll eat'' he picked me up and pushed me to the kitchen,I was still crying knowing that the kitchen was empty,I ran to the room to pick some of my stuff,he came in and collected everything, ''give me those things, useless fool,you want to pick it?did you buy it with your money''? he asked me,as I stood there watching him pack my things he seized my Fone and was forcing me outside the door,I was struggling with the door handle he continued pushing me saying,''you wanted to go abi?leave my house,I picked you from the street,you will go back to that street''.

I was shouting and pleading with him cos I knew I had no where to go,he succeeded in pushing me out and immediately he jammed the door and locked it,I stood there for a while with tears in my eyes,i looked at the thickness of the night,how the man that once showed me undying love could turn his back on me,I didn't believe what just happened..
I am still there waiting and crying to God for a miracle.


*Abeg this story get as e be....I am sorry i do not know what to advice you on...use your tongue to count your teeth and please if you go back inside make sure you organise your kitchen well.I am not in support of Domestic violence,just addressing where you might have gone wrong.



152 comments:

  1. Stella, organise her kitchen how? How Stella. There is no excuse for domestic violence, none whatsoever. She gets 1000 naira to feed a family of 4 weekly. That can't even buy meat talk less of veggies and other ingredients. so please how does she organise her kitchen.

    The story sounds like a story though.

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    1. 1k daily. She shd thank her stars. I collect 20k monthly. Don't even know how we survive.

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    2. What sort of men did most of you marry? Are you not working? And as for the poster, ask your hubby to give you 7k per week since you have no clue how to manage 1k per day.

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    3. 1k daily for feeding n u can't use ur head,pls try and manage the money and also save frm it.the are pple that don't ve dat much and yet d survive.ur kids are still young so they won't eat much.learn how to manage money.

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    4. I wonda the way some of u talk... tell me how u can manage 1k daily and save too.. she has to cook hope u kw that, and u saying nonsense dint u read that he doesn't allow her out side?

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    5. @ 1st writer who told u jobless woman don't get married? Cos I was jobless when I married my hubby in fact I was a banker and I resigned imidietle he asked me to marry him cos I don't want to suffer anymore and he went ahead to marry me,we HV been married for 2yrs now and am still jobless and he still takes good care of me so my dear is so bad for u that your man did not see anything good in u but your job....his a lazy and selfish cheap man.as stellar said thank God he show u dis on time cos had it been u guys r already married and u lost your job he will just stary beating u everyday cos he sees u as an incm.

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    6. @ Narrative 2, I hope you finished your university. You need a job.your man will appreciate you better when you bring something to the table. You guys have to make a team. Believe me, your man will change when you have a job. But, how can you have 1k and spend 700 yet no dinner on the table. Infact ask God for wisdom.

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  2. tory number 1,abeg dont ever go back to that fiance of yours ,he wants you for sentiment not love ,abeg forget him and move on with your sweet life ,you are btter off without him ,his a compound fool.

    tory number 2.iam speechless,the things that happens in marriages this days,especially niger marriages.how can a sane man be giving a woman 1k naira to run a home ,that is wickedness in high places.

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  3. Poster 1, I know its not easy but thank God you guys ain't married yet. A guy that loves you, looks beyond that. That means he came for money not love.. Abeg, forget him and forge ahead. Look up to him, the author and finisher of your faith, its well.

    Poster 2, so sorry for your story but my dear, you need a break. You are still young to be passing through this heart break. Give him some space and look for something to keep yourself busy and be steadfast with your prayers.... Its well my Dear.

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  4. U depend on him for everything don't u know it'll put a strain on him? My dear go and borrow money and start something no matter how small , u made urself unappealing to him and have u taken care of the smell in ur cunt ? U need to sort that out ,Stella did a post on it recently .reappeal to ur husband again ,you can do it.

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    1. YOU ARE A COMPOUND FOOL 2:19PM.
      ITS PEEPS LIKE YOU WITCHES KILL TO MAKE PEPPERSOUP!
      BASTARD OF A PERSON!
      HE MARRIED HER WHILE IN SCHOOL IGNORANMUS WHO WON'T READ TO UNDERSTAND!
      GET A JOB? IS IT NOT POSTER #1 THAT LOST HER ALMIGHTY JOB AND HER FIANCE CALLED OFF THE ENGAGEMENT?


      #2 Poster, what happened to cooking ordinary okro with Eba? Why spend #500 on Marwa keke and #200 buying caprisone and biscuit? You should spend within your means. I blame you! Go and make peace with your husband and be preparing plain ordinary meals using fish. When he complains tell him that is what the money can cover. Everything is sense and not gra-gra!

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  5. Prayer is the key to successful marriage

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  6. You re still waiting for him to open d door? Like seriously u hv no family, no friends.and u re a graduate! Mmmm.1k everyday to run a family of 4, then beats u up for nt mking dinner.chineke I ve heard alot

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  7. He seized your phone? How did you send this mail to Stella?
    Oluyomi Odukoya

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    1. Oluyomi, where have you been? Would like to get in touch with you. I live in Egbeda. How can I see you?

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    2. Oluyomi! Stop hyping yourself abeg. Egbeda ko

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    3. Mummy Debby, what's your mail address? Anon 6:08, just because you have multiple personalities, it doesn't mean others have.
      Oluyomi Odukoya.

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  8. I stil don't get it o! Wat's wit all diz marriage wahala here and der? Shuuu. N2 case is shocking o. He rlly get as e be abeg.

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  9. Poster one God saved you from one chance . Is marriage not supposed to be for better for worse ? Any person that places money before love is not worth loving move on Abeg . Let's assume you lost ur job while married is that how he ll divorce you ??!!.

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  10. na wa ooo

    Narrative 1.......He ain't gonna marry a liability?....Harsh Man.....abeg dont beg him

    Narrative 2.....Abusive husband....na wa oo...ds one wen dem meet for church change character like ds...talkless say if to say na for Club she meet am..he for turn to Beast

    The good lord uphold you two(Narrative ONE n TWO)



    @Galore

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    1. Na church brothers worse pass o, I always avoid them like a plague

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  11. N1, Its better be late than never. N2, you can go to your friend's house or the church. At times it baffles to here victims say they have no where to go. Maybe cus am not a victim but I av been victim of circmztance before yet I went to live in a church I knew no one. There's always a place to go pls, just go

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    1. I can relate to her not havin a place to go. When my hubby was abusive both physically and verbally, my parents told me not to come home, our church pastors where his parents, my friends were single and most of them sharing one-bed apartments with boyfriends. Now tell me, where could I have gone?

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  12. BVN2: are you trying to say you dropped from the sky?
    The story get as he be true true

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    1. Somtyms wen I c som pple's comment I just marvel cos uve not been in dat situation, I hv parents, I hv uncle's n aunties but it's gud as havin none, God forbid if such happen 2 me I dnt hv a place 2 go to! N some funny tradition could giv tribute 2 nt havin a place 2 go (o.

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  13. #1 God jst showed u a sign 2 stay away 4rm d guy,as u can see d luv depends on wot u hv,ppls let him go cos God is sending a divine life partner 2 u who ll acceppt u 4 who u r,#2 dnt know wot 2 advice do,u hv seen d handwriting on d wall,u dnt need 2 be told wot 2 do as soon as possible,r/mba ur life is so important than a violent hubby,be wise

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  14. #1 if he is an igbo guy, forgerrit, he was in love with the fact that you were working.

    #2 - hmmm, you said he collected your phone, what did you send the mail with?
    You are still standing there for real?
    He said he picked you from the street? O_O

    Koolblend if this is you, your marriage was dead a long time ago.

    If it's not you, poster why didn't you complain the first time he gave you 1k for feeding? The things we read on SDK blog fa.
    My dear, go back to the street he picked you, while there, get something doing. He doesn't respect you because you are jobless kapish!

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    1. Bia dis stupid anon 2:27 wat does he being an Igbo man got to do with her story biko..how is it relevant here
      Anuofia mmuo!! Msheww

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    2. Point of correction! Igbo men don't even need ur money, they believe in being the breadwinner and having an oriaku as wife... chop my money... so go figure

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    3. Ajebuta,your head is there..
      Most igbo men don't like their wives contributing at home..infact,they see it as an embarassment to their personality. They marry you and marry your family members as well...
      that's why they don't rush into marriage..they like making all the money in this world before settling down..
      Sorry to say,most men from the west don't make good husbands..

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    4. Tah shut up.my husband is an igbo man.see enything I want I get.am not working yet but I leave like a queen.even my suitors then were igbo and d spent like no tomorrow. So leave this igbo man thing.at d 2nd poster, beg him n get a job.if it continues then take drastic action.God in heaven I sincerely thank you for the kind of husband u gave me, he's not perfect but he's perfect for me

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    5. U're very mad oo, an igbo man has big ego and will not want a woman's money cos he doesn't want insult

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    6. All this una gist na about igbo men in the 80's n 90's. Ibo men diz days dey even collect from women to feed. Story!

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  15. This are reasons why I never
    ,ever wanna get married. God will see you through.

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    1. *these are*
      Errrrm! Just say u never see who wan marry u.

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  16. Nawah ohhh. Poster don't you have parents? Brothers and sisters? Abeg run for your life.

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  17. @poster of called off wedding pls go for thanksgiving as God just delievered u from a life time of depression. congrats hun.

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  18. Oturugbeke........ poster 1) dat ur guy funny oooo imagine if u were married to him and u lst ur job hian abeg run for ur dear life jare he's jst a greedy Asshole dis shows dat he loves u bcos of ur job now dat there's non he took off na wa for naija men oooo I keep asking were is dat love dat dey said it endures all things?

    2) ur story blike naija movie wey d starting go interest u and d ending go confused u.... if my man dey give me 1k a day den use 5h and keep d rest for myself.... cheating, stingy,+beaten÷by std=domestic violence babe no b me go tell u say make u leave ooo like dey always say on dis blog God hate divorce but if I were in ur shoes I think God will understand y I divorce dat mumu of a husband

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  19. Nnnaaaa mehnnn...
    2nd narrative,what did I just read??..
    My dear,please get a JOB!!!..no matter how small it is..
    What kind of person is your husband??..
    He cheats,no money,you don't go out,no love making the worst of it all is the beating part...
    Please,if you can divorce this man,do it asap...He is a beast and sadist...

    Narrative 1:just thank God he left biko..am sure he is a yoruba man..worst men to get married to in Nigeria...biko move on,your Mr right will locate you soonest..

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    1. I just dey wonder! What kind of men are we breeding des days??? *sighs*

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    2. And you had to go tribalistic. SHM for you. May God deliver you from d hatred in your heart.

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    3. Linda are you not a housewife? Be sympathetic to her! Is it that easy to get a job? Look at #1 and what about her children? Who would give her money for creche or nanny? Please let's be factual and realistic in giving advise.

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  20. Women shuld always thread carefully wen it comes to marriage

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  21. I'm sorry but the second story makes no sense. You sound like he gives you 1k everyday and there is still no food in the house? Madam the money is hardly enough but it is something pls. Begin to manage well and don't even think that I am saying this because I am not in your shoes,I tend to always put myself in people's shoes before I say anything. His attitude is bad alright but you can also bend to suit it or you leave the home,shikena!

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    1. Thank you. She's a careless woman. A spendthrift. You don't have money but can use 200 naira to buy caprisonne and charter cab of 500 naira. Wat happens to you staying in your house or begging the friend to come over.

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    2. It's true,if we try being realistic,poster 2 should learn to manage cos 1k a day can at least make a small pot okro soup dat will last 2days,(when it's not like it's a house full of relations,only she,hubby and kids isnt?)d next day 1k should buy d children's indomie or whatever is it dey like to eat,d next should make a pot of tin tomato stew etc.etc!the point is at least there is something for everyday,u manage!if u can't afford to put meat in d soup u can mince pomo and crayfish,am sure when u were a student on campus,u learnt to manage ur life when u became broke,so why not now?and also stop buying things or looking at things u can't afford,shop according to ur class and pocket!well till u get your own job and start making ur money.cos inasmuch as ur husband is a sadistic animal cos of his violent approach,u push the beast in him out with ur wastefulness and lack of management!btw u never told us if ur hubby really earns so much?cos if he is barely on an average salary,he actually cannot afford to give u,not like he doesn't want to.!
      ....alot of truth seem omitted from dis story#eyelashes#well forgive me,u know how it really hurts cos u wear d shoes,if he is such a terrible man,pls leave him!

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  22. BLOG ANALYSER: @second Story, My dear, u are in a difficult situation. U shouldn't have spent the onek on transportation. However, 1k iis just too small to manage a home in this modern Nigeria. U have to start something, talk to your pastor to talk to him to allow u get a job or start a business. It is well. @first story stella said it all. So men are selfish nd greedy, forget him ur future is bright.

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  23. N 1, Please sing with MOI. *singing* Thank God he is gone thank God he is gone..The guy nah fair weather friend. N2, Your story get K leg, in your case i for like to hear from oga at the top.

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  24. You ought to to be grateful to Jah for not getting married to that man.
    @story 2, i am confused. Find the missing piece.
    GOD BLESS NIGERIA.

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  25. N1 : that your fiance is a fool, thank God it happened before the wedding, so he can't pick your mum's call?If it were him who lost his job, would you leave him?My dear beg no more, your real husband is coming. A woman should work,be able to fend/contribute 2family upkeep but that shouldn't be a criteria 4marriage!
    N2 : Hmmmm, a man gives you 1k and you use am chatter keke? That's why you didn't cook?The man shouldn't hit you that's just wrong!

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  26. Story number 1,I perfectly side with ur fiancé,he has his burdens and u have yours why shd he take on his own and still inherit urs becos u lost ur job and he married u,for ur own self value pls get a job becos if u don't frustration go kill u for inside that marriage and u may be telling the story of poster number 2.

    Number 2,from ur first paragraph I had the impression u were an estate agent,what do you mean by u contacted stellino to help u market some properties and then go ahead to give us that cock and bull story,get a job and stop being a liability.yes men shd take care of their family but u are prolly the reason why ur husband drinks becos he needs to take his mind off his liabilities .Men are also human beings hoha!!!!women are helpers to men not liabilities!!!!

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    1. I hate to curse but u're obviously very useless, Abeena... u should be given a very dirty slap, imagine d nonsense

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    2. Lol @Abeena go and read your bible and find out the primarily responsibility of a man. Am sure u d number 1 story ex fiance. Mtchewww go get a life sucker.

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  27. Narrative one: I want you to put your two hands on your head and say ori yomi mo dupe Jesu (my head has saved me Thank you Jesus ).......girl you don't know what God has done for you o......haaaaaaa......... what if u were married to this man and then you lost your job......I believe he will start behaving like all other self centered men........see wipe your tears sharp sharp.......what did I say?.....wipe your tears and stop begging the motherfucker............ get your life back and move on..........imagine your mum calling him and he is not picking up........as if man Don finish for this world?......mtchewwww.......... oloshi......... don't let anyone sweet mouth you into marrying this man Coz u go suffer........


    Narrative two: abeg, this story is one sided .......stop pointing all the blame on your husband .......you too hear yourself ......he gave you money (no matter how small) for house keep and you use the money to chatter keke to a friends place without cooking for your husband ........a wise woman uses her hand to build her home while a foolish woman uses same hand to pull down her home........please be a wise woman.

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    1. Gbam. God bless you.

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    2. I dnt really blame her.. she told her husband and he said she should go, what was he expecting and lemme tell u she is human y won't she visit think of it, not like she gets the money in bulk and doesn't save

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    3. Exactly my thought!! How could u have the whole money on transport! When u told him u want to go out u should have begged him for transport and hear what he will say, I don't support domestic violence and I don't even wish it for my enemy, plz just take a break honey, wipe ur tears, all will be well.

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  28. N1: Babe, what's the status of your family? Are you the breadwinner? Is yes, I don't blame the guy. Nowadays, men are tired of taking more than they can chew.

    So I know where the guy is coming from but in another light, he may not be yours. Wait for yours and don't marry another's.

    See it as a blessing in disguise.

    N2: Sob stories about marriage these days is wearisome! Babe, you are 28. You still have a life to live. Pick up yourself and chart a course for your life.

    It may not be easy but you can do it. Build up yourself, make a beautiful meaning of your life and watch that man CRAW to have you back. He sent you out; let him come back to get you pleading and begging and you lay down the rules cos you'll have the upper advantage by that time.

    The girls that are shacking him won't tolerate 1/3 of the bullshits you have tolerated. That's when his eyes will clear.

    Don't forget prayer. Ask GOD to transform your life beyond your imagination.

    On the otherhand, it could be spiritual. Marriages are being attacked these days. GOD help us all.

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  29. N1: Inukwa! So men are now this calculating towards their fiancees. Hmm.. in my humble opinion, that man did not truly love you. Sorry!

    N2: Hian, is all I can say! So what about the property u asked Stella to help u market?

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    1. Double Hian Nki nwannem. #dat Udi chic

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  30. Narrative #1, BV I'd advise u to leave the man. He's nt worth u. Stop begging him. He only wants u cos of the job. He's nt man enough..what kind of man behaves that way? Leave him and pray for a better job. Some people are just inconsiderate. What if he was the one that lost his job, he'd expect u to stay with him ryt? Dats too bad. That's a sign dat u shouldn't continue in planning the wedding. Hold on and remain steadfast.
    Narrative #2, as I am not married now, I really don't knw what to advise you on. U knw what to do already. Just leave the house. What of ur parents, ur siblings, or friends? Pls leave before he kills u... pls before getting married, let's seek the face of God concerning our partner. God is not wicked to give u a wicked spouse. Pele darling and don't forget to LEAVE before he use u for asun.

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  31. Narrative #1: Ur story is both amusing & sad. While i wouldn't advice u to keep begging, it's vital for u to get a job or a source of livelihood. U'll get to meet ur better half later. it's definitely not him.
    Narrative #2: U didn't state whether u graduated or not. Find something to do ASAP. The burden is killing ur husband. You ain't contributing to the upkeep of the family @ all. That's no good enough. You can buy foodstuffs & beverages in bits with d daily 1K. All d best.

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  32. #N1: Please stop begging that guy. This type of man would have turned you into punching bag if you had lost your job after marriage, these guys are not loyal. Na wa oh! Different stuffs we see every day.
    #N2: I don't even know what to tell you. Someone gives you 1k everyday for food and you spend all without even making noodles for him? What women go through in marriage!
    Abeg madam, i'm assuming you must have finished your education by now, please get a job for crying out loud! When you start earning some money maybe his attitude will change. Women stop crying DV, learn not to provoke your man.

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  33. Hmmm, when a man doesn't want you nothing you do pleases him! This is why I don't think I wanna get married ! The trouble is way too much ! Pele o dear . I just want to finish all I've to , strive n get that job I desire . Then I know which way I wan follow. Marriage in don't even think of it at all. Pele o domestic violence babe. Dunno what to advice sef . GOD is in control .

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  34. #N1: Please stop begging that guy. This type of man would have turned you into punching bag if you had lost your job after marriage, these guys are not loyal. Na wa oh! Different stuffs we see every day.
    #N2: I don't even know what to tell you. Someone gives you 1k everyday for food and you spend all without even making noodles for him? What women go through in marriage!
    Abeg madam, i'm assuming you must have finished your education by now, please get a job for crying out loud! When you start earning some money maybe his attitude will change. Women stop crying DV, learn to not provoke your man.

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  35. No 2, Please find something doing that would fetch you money pls! Outta that 1k @least u can save N200 from there it could be petty stuffs to seLl. The Lord is your strength.
    Mz-T

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  36. Madam poster abeg which kind story be this? He collected ur phone how did u send this message to Stella? And ur still de crying? Sorry for what happened to u, may God restore piece in ur marriage.

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  37. Pele posters. In others news... pls wot am I hearing about Tiwa & Teebillz marriage & the d pregnant side chic??? Oriegwu

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    1. Please, it shouldn't be true! Ha! My Tiwa's heart go shatter. *sad*

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    2. Please spill.and jay em let it be true.

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    3. La Katie I see u. Ur aproco is on anoda level! Hehehe

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  38. Madam poster abeg which kind story be this? He collected ur phone how did u send this message to Stella? And ur still de crying? Sorry for what happened to u, may God restore piece in ur marriage.

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  39. The kind of stories I read on this blog are so amazing. I hardly comment here but these narratives got me speechless. Infact I am still tongue-tied sef. No word of advice biko

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  40. Poster A, my question is do you really expect that a husband should take up your his wife's family responsibilities because he is marrying her?This is why some men disrespect their wives,come and train my younger siblings through University and give my parents monthly allowance which is highly shameful. At the end of the day, if he starts misbehaving, they will tell you to die there.

    I am not justifying his actions, infact, I think he is a bit selfish, insensitive and going about it the wrong way but dude is scared. Talk to him, try and get a job and watch events unfold.

    That's how one of my colleagues was looking for 400k to bury a wife's relative, he said his wife's family said that was his contribution and he had to produce it within a specified period.

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    1. Seriously? 400k? What a kind of family is that? When its not his FIL or MIL? What rubbish! Poster #1 boo must have seen the liability of his fiancee's family and bailed out!

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  41. Ihekire Tony

    Number one story: is only someone you love with all your life, that can break ur heart, someone you don't love can't break ur heart. Ask God for the grace to deal with it.

    Number two story: please I will advice u to find something doing, to support urself and ur kids. And stop saying u have nowhere to go to, ur man will be using it against u. Lastly tell ur husband that real men show off in the gym, not on their wife's body.

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  42. Stella abeg is it true that tiwas marriage is breaking down ... Heard today is tee bills bday but nothing from her..

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  43. @poster no 1 are u still surprised @ dt niqqa? What he is doing is making u 2 audition 4 a space in his life and no body has the right to that. True love is unconditional and this guy is giving u a condition 2 get a job or else..

    Use ur tongue to count ur teeth!




    *lips sealed and watching*

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  44. 1: What's with women that beg men to stay? Have you no self worth? You have not even started the journey, the irresponsible man has chickened out over a temporary problem. If he had suggested a shift in the wedding date while you sort your employment issues, it would have been understandable.

    And why does he feel your parents and siblings will become his responsibility? Is that how you portrayed your family? You sef, is it that you are not interested in looking for another job? That's what your tone suggests.

    2: His statement said it all. "I picked you from the street, you will go back to that street". He probably sent you to school and so expects maximum loyalty from you. Please check yourself and see if you are giving as much as you expect. I'm sure if we ask him, his own chronicles will fill up a post.

    You market properties, can't you use your money to buy food in bulk and then save his daily 1k. How can you have an empty kitchen and pantry? Lets apply common sense please. It looks like you deliberately looked for trouble. Not all women can leave abusive husbands. If you are married to a wife-beating fool, don't be a glutton for punishment. Avoid confrontations please.

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  45. I am married to a beast in human form. God pls help me.my husband is a thief 419, olé, cheat, borow borow, e no dey ever pay,no b say he broke o!

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  46. To 2nd..u caused ur own problem.1k daily can stil be manageabl.u showed hm dat d one ws nt enuf by denying hm food? De tym u planned t go t a friend,dd u ask hm fo transport? I kno u must hv a littl savings nd u neva called hm dat u hv used d money unles at nyt wen he wantd t eat dinner...contnue t put ur home n disarray.

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  47. N1; God just saved your ass, just b grateful.

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  48. N1 boys are not smiling, what we have now are a bunch of lazy men. They don't want liabilities yet the expect us to be like our mothers. My dear good riddance to bad rubbish. Thank God for opening your eyes now before you end up with stories that touch

    N2 You are a young lady fight for your right to live.

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  49. 1st Narrator, Let me be honest with you dear. Than man does not love you. Is it your fault that you lost it? What if you were already married to him, will he divorce you because of that. So, what is the excess of his relationship if he cant be there for you through thick and thin. Some men are useless. Thank God he already showed who who he really is. You better let him be and do not make the stupid mistake of begging him. He is the man and he should fight for you. There are better guys out there...

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  50. i dont understand how some men reason at times oooo! because she lost her job,u now cald off d engagement.my dear girl it simply means dat he was in love with ur money and not u.he doesnt want to spend his dime on u.his was actually a gold digger.

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  51. These two women have same problem which is called independency,,the two of you need to learn how to establish urselves and be independent women,,,husbands respect pple like dah ,both of u are liability,learn to earn ur own money,it's a waste of tym coming here to cry like a wolf at night !this is the tym 4 u guys to dust urselves up and get ur hands busy

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    1. Independency Kelvin?

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    2. Look at this small fool of a child talking! Would you be happy if your father called your mother a liability because of a temporary set-back? Mind your words people! What if its him that lost his job? I have no pity for #1 because she must have talked like you before to women that don't work, now she and her kind would know how it feels to be at the receiving end! I pity you kelvin, you are yet to handle responsibilities that is why you can spew this rubbish from your mouth!

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  52. @ NO 1..GOD JUST SAVED U FORM A DEVIL.IF U GUYS WERE MARRIED AND U LOOSE UR JOB EHN?NA GBEGE BE DAT..HE IS SELFISH I HATE HEAR STORIES LIKE DIS.I HAVE A FRIEND THEN THAT USED TO TELL ME HE WONDER HOW AM DATING A GIRL THAT'S NOT WORKING WHEN I HAVE BETTER OPTION OF A PRACTICING LAWYER AND A GIRL IN 1 IT FIRM THAT HE CANT IN HIS DREAMS...NO BE SAY I ONLY DATED HER, SHE IS NOW NW WIFE AND GUESS WHAT? AM SO PROUD OF HER.PLS MOVE ON UR MAN WILL COME.

    @ NO 2..THE LORD IS UR MUSCLE OOO..I DNT KNW WHAT TO SAY OOO. BUT U NEED TO TALK TO HIM IN 1 OF HIS LUCID MOMENTS AND TELL HIM HOW U FEEL. 1K FOR WETIN NW AND HE GO EXPECT U TO LOOK GUD FOR HIM ON TOP 1K?MEN SEF,WE TOO FOOLISH!!! AS A MAN U HAVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR UR HOME.A SUCCESSFUL MAN LIKE MY LATE FATHER WILL SAY IS A WOMANS HUSBAND IF NOT U ARE DADY EMMANUEL,DADDY TOBI,DADDY TOLA...MMMSSHHHEEEWW

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  53. Story No1: The man is a fair weather friend. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

    Story No. 2: This story sef! I do not support domestic violence and I will never, but your action shows that you are still a novice in the institution called marriage. He gave you 1K for feeding, you spent it on visitation and expect him to clap for you when he comes back. Go and look for a job. The man is not happy that you are a liability. Good luck to both of you. Rose

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  54. Poster 1 go n thank God for saving u, everything happens for a reason, and yours is glaring. He wants an already made wife which means love is out of it, hell of a marriage in the making, be grateful. Poster 2 u waited for it to get this bad b/4 u start talking, u have entered 1 chance. What do u mean by u have no 1, r u an ophan? Don't get it.

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  55. Story 1.
    You should be happy he showed his true colors before u tied the knot with him. Am guessing you and your family got a lot of financial problems which he may not be able to handle hence......he bailed.
    Move on!

    Story 2
    Pathetic story! Really pathetic.

    You need to endure it, try to give him food at all times, let's know where the problem is coming from. I guess you ain't working?

    If yes, Its the major part of the problem. When you depend on a man for everything, this is the behaviour you get.
    You irritate him, he sees you as a liability and gives you no iota of respect.

    You need to rebrand yourself madam.
    All the best!

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  56. 1] Sweetie consider urself lucky nd give thanks to God cos he loves u; he just saved u from wat would ve turned out to be a life of misery nd sorrow. Dt guy is a beast nd he doesn't deserve u, pls stop begging him already cos its not ur fault dat u lost ur job, neither is it ur fault dat d man u were about to get married to turned out to be a bastard! Go look for a job nd get ur life together, u will find dat special One meant for u....
    2] Madam Susan ur story is quite touching but unfortunately ur not d only woman going through such in their marriages, nd d main reason why ur husband treats u wit such disdain nd disgust is cos u depend solely on him for everything. U don't have a job or any other source of income nd he knows dat without him u have nothing, dats why he has no respect for u nd treats u like trash.Just like d first poster he sees u as a liability..
    So all I can tetell u is look for a job, something to kip urself busy wit nd stop asking him for everything, den u put it all in God's hands nd pray he changes. ...OR u leave nd go bak home to ur family! !
    But u sef why didn't u cook wit d money he gave u instead of using it to go see ur friend, so u think he'll be happy wen he finds out u didn't cook any food?? Msheww

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  57. BV 1: sorry for ur loss of job but there cld be some sense in what r fiancee did. I guessed he has seen how ur family members are so dependent on you and probably he has assissted at some point in time too and he felt its not economically wise to carry the burden alone if he eventually marry considering the employment situation of the county. He ought to sit you down and point all these out to you rather than just chicken out the way he did. He goofed
    Get yourself together and if at the end of the day you guys ended up together,just know he isnt the type of hubby that support when u have a problem. Leave him and position urself for a brighter future.you dont need a man b4 you can be happy.

    BV2:if u r a so-called reader of this blog,you ought to have known how we have advised others with ur kind of situation.how do you expect a man to feed u,clothe you and feed you and also be responsible 100% for everything in the house to respect your opinion? Get out and get ur hands and brain busy. Save and if he doesnt change,exit the house knowing fully well you have a job and savings. Lazy women dont get respect even from in-laws... Abi u no see say stella who is the boss of this blog is working her big ass off just to have her own personal money...huh? Or u think say to maintain this her blog and also take care of the home na beans? Get busy

    #no1 egba boy

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    2. Egba boy you are so myopic in your thinking! You and ALL the IDIOTS that continue cussing out home- makers don't know NADA! You ALL open your maggot infested mouth to say SHIT! Did postet#1 know she was going to lose her job? What if she was married already and was not able to get a job after ward, would you and your lots call her lazy and a liability? And if YOU lose your own almighty job that makes you feel like a god over women that are not working, and not able to get another fast, would you be happy to be called an infidel? Many of you spewing rubbish here, your mothers were once house wives before they got something doing when you all were old enough to be left alone or take care of yourselves! So learn to cut home-makers some slack!!!!!!!!
      And I am so getting pissed off with wives who come here complaining about every ISH! SUCK IT UP! OR MEET YOUR FAMILIES! OR DID YOU ALL FALL FROM THE SKY BEFORE YOU ALL MARRIED?

      SDK please post. Thank you.

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    3. A man can do all of that and still respect you cos its his job and he can afford it. It just depends on the type of man he is.

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  58. Lol Stella for your last advice/comment
    Gist2: ur story really get as e be. He took your things from u and left u with your phone to be sending message to Stella?
    Oriegwu in Linda's voice..
    And d 1k thingy happened for years? Inflation no dey work for your hubby side that he thinks d 1k of five years ago wil stil work in 2014... u sef that has been receiving 1k since your number6 no tell u say u shd get work? even teacher job sef...your hubby has seen u finish.
    Gist1: that ur ex is a piece of d devil. So because u lost your job e no gree marry again. It's all ryt.
    Let him go..dnt beg him..he is one of those useless men that put eyes on wife money.
    Shameless mufu

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  59. N1----ur hubby to be does not love u,sorry to say,ΐ min,who does dat???he is such a QUEEN,dis is definately a red sign u gotta watch out for,i bet u,hez gonna make life miserable for You wen u eventualy get married to him...u berra tank God for opening ur eyes to see dis..
    N2----me i dnt know wat 2 say concerni ur matter o,y didn't u tel ur hubby 2 kindly give U tfare 2 ur freinds place instead of using house feeding money 2 chater KEKE 2 ur fndz place....wisdom is profitable to direct ma sista......on a second note,if u feel ur mariage is begining 2 choke you..kindly seperate from him even if its for a while......(Enemuwe Thelma)

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  60. Why do I have dis feeling dah these two women are lazy pple..some1 pls correct this impression

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  61. Blogvistor 1 u want ur future husband to carry all the burden of ur marriage abi...u 4 kukuma tell say make he go find chibok gals for sambisa forest dah one wud be easy,,only him asoebi,,only him aso oke only him canopy, only traditional wedding ,only him white wedding, only him introduction,only him responsibility of ur whole family, only him provide 4 u and ur future kids,aaahhhhhhh na ur toto clean pass madam....am glad dah he has discovered that he's faster than usain bolt by running,.

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    1. Kelvin shut up. She has been working, she lost her job and the man ran. You cant read right? What is lazy there? You that is always commenting, do you have work?

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  62. Poster 1, i really don't know but your fiance chickening out immediately you lost your job might be a sign. Its understandable if he does this after some months when he sees you aint making any effort but him doing this immediately you loast your job is unfair. Its this period he is supposed to be by your side. Anyway don't beg him again, concentrate on getting a job for your own sake not for his. If he sticks around and you are meant to be, it will work out. If he doesn't hold on, then God might be doing you a favour. All is well.
    Poster 2, your narrative is too long oh. Just do things that will make you happy and keep you occupied. Then always pray. God will fix your home

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  63. Post comments na madam stellina....abeg na here most of us dey do our amebo.....

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  64. Madam Stella, enable comments biko.

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  65. am nt in support of dv 2 sha bt he gives u 1k 4 fud everyday so y on earth wil u use d one he gave u dat day 4 miscelleneous expences instead of 2 use cook food as usual,bt wetin u been want make he chop if he com bak?am sure its dat ur frnd's ouse u went 2 dat adviced u 2 do dat,its nt right,me sef wen i go out nd com bak home and dere's no food,d house de shake bcos if am d one at home will sure cook 4 dem e com be say na man,e nor gud na,plz try nd avoid doz tins dat get him mad ok?God wil help u

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  66. MUGAMBO Hates men who lay hands with violent intent on women!! Lucky u were not id'd!

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  67. 1K to manage a home..... May God never let me find myself in such predicament in Jesus's name... Amen.
    I would have left long ago with my kids to start a new life, but then i am independent and cannot rely on any man for money.
    My dear, the only advise i can give you is to find your independence. Let your husband know that whatever he can do, you sure can do better.

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  68. Nna mehn! this two stories get as them be ooo....1st poster, may God bless u with another job plus husband
    2nd poster, hmmmm..I cant help but ask where u got the phone u used in sending this SOS mail to stellz, no vex oo na question i ask, by d way may God soften the heart of ur hubby...plus he needs christ more than stellz ( as regards to what Dino said)

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  69. #N1 you should thank God for rescuing u from the hands of an evil man o in fact Na one chance you for enter o if you eventually marry the guy.
    #N2 Your story left me speechless o don't know what to advise but maybe you should talk to your pastor about it or someone your husband respects that you know he'll listen to..Pele o God save us from wolves in sheep's clothing o.

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  70. Poster#1- Read Post#2 - This will be you if the man married you and you remain jobless. He will resent you.
    Poster#2 should also read post#1. Women pls empower yourself, may God help us all.

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  71. Dis one nor concern me

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  72. #1 Start praising GOD for delivering you from that guy. In fact, its a thing of joy, God will light up your path soon, be focus and prayerful.

    #2At-times, we 'women' are the architect of our problems. From your post, its like you are graduate, yet you don't have any handwork, no job, nothing and expect your man to respect you 200%. Think of it. While outside, you should've cried in your nakedness and see whether God won't help you,though N1k is small, but you shld've saved something or you didn't do 'akawo/contribution' of N150 everyday and pay yourself small salary every month. All you need is honest prayer n genuine praises and God will help you. Like as SDK says, use your tongue to count your teeth. There must be som1, your husband listens to, talk to that person to intervene then try do something to help yourself.

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  73. D ppl wey neva get married dey ask God Y yle d ppl wey dey inside dey find way out!...pls ladies get a job 4 urself b4 marriage n v self respect...its not d tune dey used 4 dating dey wil use wen u get married 2 dem!

    @story #2 If u were not jobless ur story wil b a diff tin. U beta plan ur life well now n get out n look 4 job 2 do afterall u married @d age of 22 so I guess u r 28 now so dere r still job opportunity 4 u. Some men r just beast n needs crazy wife 2 befit dem. @All..learn 4rm her marriage story n pray 2 God 4 a beta hubby if dere i§ still any

    #1...u won't blame d guy c0s probably ur family i§ a liability 2 him accordin 2 ur story n coupled wt ur own joblessness wil b a bigger burden n probably he needs a helping hand 4rm u. So 2 ♍ƺ look 4 job now u r still single c0s married ladies stand a smaller chance. n if u still love him go ahead n marry him #MyOpinion

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  74. N1. Don't have any comment for you because God loves you and want something better for you.
    N2. You had better sit down and manage wateva ure being given.
    I remember wen I got married, my hubby drops 3k per week. From 12k to 15k and now 20k. But I don't complain. I just do wat I can and leave d rest.
    But surprisingly, he transferred 1.6m into my acct for me to buy any car I want because he just changed his car too.
    Am not buying any car rather am channelling d money into my biz.
    Patience is a virtue.

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  75. Poster1...Just take a walk
    Poster 2...my darling...I am so sorry ok. Dry your tears, don't cry again. God will bless you so much that you will remember yesterday and laugh.
    Get a job, no matter how small. Ask God to bless the works of your hands and see blessings happen to you.

    Sharrat to qutie...mwah
    Sdk bouncer...happy birthday girl
    Generals wife...you are the best.

    Pinkshell. ..it seems you woke up on the right side of your thin mattress today...good for you.

    Ehm


    XOXO MYSTERY

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    1. Xoxo i love u jare..
      One of d awesome peeps dat bring me here
      *throws u a fat kiss*

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  76. 1k for managing house? Nawaa ooo. But looked in another way its 31k which is somehow big. If only it can be given together. Mehn thank God for my hubby oo. When I gush about him and use his pic as my dp some ppl will be like na only you marry. I will rather praise the one who tries than rant about a bad hubby jor. May God give those with bad hubbys the strength to pray and to carry on

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  77. In other news, I just had great sex with my married boyfriend. Married older men are the bomb. He sucked and grinded me so good I came and came and came.
    Asides the sex, he's such a wonderful person. I love the way he takes care of me. Thank you Lord for making our paths cross 5months back.

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    1. The likes of you will come here to insult Dabota. She's way better than you lots, at least he put a ring on it! But you're just a dirty little secret to your married bf.

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    2. Hahaha... don't u worry girl... let him continue grinding u and better enjoy while it lasts. One day u'll marry too and another babe will be grinding ur hubby in return. What u sow, u shall reap!

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    3. How do you feel?

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    4. We wey get sense dey run away from married men, you dey run enter. Lol. No matter how good he is to you, he ain't yours my dear. Leave him before he leaves you.

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  78. Stella Dimoko korkus for the first time in the history of dis blog, I agree wit u totally @ 2nd story!
    Infact no addition.

    Madam u av bin managing dis for years now, so plz keep managing, the lord is ur strenght.
    And plz stop d confrontation, so dat d man wld nt disfigure u.

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  79. THE STORY IS PREGNANT WITH QUESTIONS AND CONFUSION.

    DID YOU DO SOMETHING TO HIM?
    DON'T YOU HAVE YOUR FAMILY?
    HE IS 14 YEARS OLDER THAN YOU?
    DID YOU THROW YOURSELF AT HIM OR DASH YOURSELF TO HIM?
    DID YOU DATE HIM LONG ENOUGH?

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  80. Nigerians and our way thinking. Poster #2, I apologize on behalf of most these people commenting. They are either unmarried, never experienced what you are going through or brainwashed. Men are like children. I know you have only told your side of the story, but I what I can decipher is that the person you married is not who you thought he was. Please the beating is a no-no and also the STD issue is a bigger no-no. You have to get your relatives involved and please avoid depression by deliberately making yourself happy. Finally, please be prayerful, God is truly the only one that can help. It is well with you and your family.

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  81. When I read some stories here, I can't help but thank the Lord for the blessings I have, I have no reason to complain. @ poster #2, girl you made some major mistakes in the foundation stages of ur marriage. How can ur hubby be giving u 1k daily and u go dey open hand collect? What kind of food do u guys eat in the house cos 1k will not do jack for a family of four with two kids. Malnutrition levels. My advice to u is get something doing ASAP. If you were in Ph I would have employed you cos I'm looking for a sales girl.

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    1. You must be stupid for dis your response.
      Employ a graduate as a sales girl? Am sure you didn't think before typing. Hoeloshi.

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    2. You calling me stupid, tie ur legs together and pretend to be a mermaid. What's wrong with being a sales girl or shop attendant? Its a job. At the end of the month she goes home with nothing less than 20k. How much has she be earning? Its lazy ass neanderthals like you that complain there's no job and screw around. I have a job to give out, and yes I need a graduate. Now go and hang urself. Wretched waste pipe.

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    3. @ Linda, I don't know the planet you're living on, but girl come down to earth. There are no jobs in Nigeria. Its not wickedness for me to want to employ a graduate as a sales girl. What kind of business do you even do? And what kind of ppl do you employ? Primary six cert holders? Come down from ur virtual world, look around and count urself blessed. Some graduates earn 15k monthly.

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  82. Hi Stella I always comment under anon I don't have a blog name so I'm surprised to see my comment under gossip cop ng pls how did this happen an explanation will be appreciated . Thanks

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  83. Thank God poster 1 for your loss is a blessing in disguise.

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  84. @ anon 6:35, so u ara so hapi nd flauntin it dat u ar slipn wif anod woman's husby, rite? Gud 4 u. Bt rememba KARMA is a bitch. Wen u get married nd ur husby starts cheatn u go arnd cryin. Do u knw wat harm u ar causin 2 d woman's home. Fink abt ur life nd retrace ur steps. Bt wat goes arnd must surely nd definantly wud kom arnd.

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  85. @ poster no1 just go fo r thanksgiving bcos God has showed u d other side of ur hubby to be & no2 pls manage wit whatever ur hubby gave u.

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  86. story 2# report him to your parents, his parents and your pastor. He is a very stupid and wicked man. I pray God doesnt give me such a man or else, una go hear for channels news say one ibo girl slaughter her husband #notkidding

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  87. The 2 stories brought out the realities on ground! #2 looks like a sequel of #1. Don't you all get it? If #1 still goes ahead with the marriage regardless of her jobless-status, her story might end up like #2! Because while waiting for a job she might get pregnant, and who wants to employ a pregnant woman, that is how she would become a housewife and the abuse would start! Is she to be blamed or deserved to be cursed? Nobody knows tommorow!

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  88. Narrator 1: you don't ve problem joo. God has buttered your bread. Try and keep yourself busy while searching for another job
    Narrator 2: Babe, 1k is small and also a lot too. I know a lot of things it can do, like make soup that would last 2 days. It can buy a paint of beans which you can eat for at least 1 week. That beans can make moi-moi and akara. It can buy rice etc.
    The truth is that right now since its only Oga that is bringing you ve to maximize the little you get.
    I have a feeling that your hubby sees you as someone a tad extravagant so that's why he avoids giving you money in lump sum.
    Another thing you can do is to sit down and analyze your expenses. Put them down and show hubby. This would show him that you aren't just asking for the money to squander.
    Communicate darling with facts men love facts.
    And least I forget get more organized in your. Make a food timetable if need be that way you wont be racking your brain every day on what to cook. Take care and be strong ok. You are now a mama mmadu.

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  89. Women be wise! Only a mad man will start to beat you if you don't provoke him. Don't try to over "mother" a man. He comes home late, smelling of booze, ignore him at the time o. Him eye no clear and booze dey tell am say na superman he be. Know your man, study him, know the moments when he is approachable, when he is irritable. I think she was just being difficult, we women know how to turn the smallest things into huge mountains, just like you could have whipped up a meal with 1k somehow, you can also make the situation between you and your husband bigger than it could have been. Marriage be say, one na goat, d oda na sheep. Women STOOP TO CONQUER.

    tegasil.blogspot.com

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  90. Narrative 1- aunty free the nigga, a man that loves you will encourage you, if he can't find you another job, he will support you till you do.. No be business partnership.
    God just saved your neck.
    Imagine this happened after marriage while you got pregnant? Rejoice babay. Jesus loves you.

    tegasil.blogspot.com

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  91. Stella you are so bloody annoying and make stupid comments sometimes......soo so stupid, from all she said is it organizing kitchen that will stop the problem?

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