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Thursday, April 16, 2015

Chronincle Of Blog Visitor Narratives

Na wah,this life ain't easy at all.some have it good and some have it so bad...where is the balance?








NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MARRYING A STERILE MAN,THE DRAMA AND THE EXIT

I promised that I was going to share my story some day on your blog and I'm taking that shot today.

I got married at 25 after I had finished school and my husband was quite older than I was but it wasn't a problem because being respectful is in my DNA thus submitting to him took no skin off my nose.
 He was a regular good guy and was quite caring but by the end of the second year there were cracks in the relationship. I can't tell at what point it started but I just realized somewhere down the road that he had become a stranger.
 He was the only son of his mother and it was quite natural that I caught the anxiety bug early in the marriage when a pregnancy was not forthcoming. The infertility journey is one I wouldn't wish anyone no matter how much I resent them.
 Where didn't I go? What didn't I drink? Churches, fellowships, local midwives, herbal homes (not native doctor mbok). Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt, Benin, Enugu, Aba, Onitsha, Awka...........I waka wella. I underwent all sorts of procedures ingested all sorts of tablets and concoctions but none worked. It was physically, emotionally and financially draining.

 Meanwhile na only me dey waka the waka o! DH kept saying that he had no problem and I was the reason we weren't getting pregnant. How did he arrive at that? I had an irregular cycle and a very bad case of dysmenorrhea. He never submitted himself for any test and didn't want to discuss IVF (not that we couldn't afford it)

 As our relationship deteriorated I became so insecure and miserable that I started........yes you heard me......SNOOPING!

Going by the experience, I won't advice anyone to walk that road (snooping I mean). It will only make things worse. I must confess that all that I discovered through snooping helped me to know what I was really up against and to realize that I married a man with dark secrets and a skirt chaser. But all the information made me more miserable and changed nothing. I am totally against snooping now. Trust me on this, ignorance is bliss!
  His philandering ways got worse and the few times I dared to question him, he told me straight up that since I wasn't getting pregnant, he had to try other women until someone gave him a child. 

I was so heart broken I became a living dead. I tried talking to my sister in law because the burden was heavy but I couldn't tell her the true situation of things so she couldn't really offer objective advice. I wasn't very comfortable putting my marital business out there. (But to all the false and money mongering pastors out there, who took my money and made my situation more complicated, una do well o! You all shall get what's coming to you o!)



 It got worse (I can't say all that transpired here). He stopped having sex with me at some point (over 10 months) and e pain me no bi small because me sef like the thing but he no send me and I was too scared and miserable to attempt adultery.
 To cut a long story short, I stumbled on a pack of strange looking tablets, I googled the name and learnt it was medication for sterility! I was confused, angry, weak, sorry for him, and angry again. After all he had put me through? 


Hmmmmmm............issorai! I couldn't tell anyone about it but I kept hoping and praying that every thing would be fine but nothing changed. What broke the camel's back?

 We had an altercation and he was going on an on about all sorts, from nowhere, I blurted out "why are you hiding the fact that you're sterile"? He gave me a thunderous slap and I cried, I cried for myself, for him, for what the marriage had become, unrealized dreams, the wasted years, lost opportunities, I just couldn't stop. Later that night, I told him we needed a break from each other. 

He said it suited him just fine since I was too stupid to go out and get pregnant by another man. I didn't know how to respond to that.


 The next morning, I picked a few things and left the house. All I really wanted was to give him a break but somehow I never went back. I realized that I deserved to be happy and I couldn't be happy with him. That was how the marriage ended. He refused to let me take the rest of my things because I won't let go of the marriage certificate which I needed to process the divorce. It is over now.


Hmmm i guess you do not need advice but just want to unburden your mind....your husband actually said you should have gone out to get pregnant?And he kept blaming you for the kids not coming?wow!

what could have caused his condition?I feel so sorry for him.
When you discovered you should have had a heart to heart talk with him and not throw his condition in his face,that was so wrong!
I wish you all the best in finding love again.

 #teamsnoop members are gonna tear you apart today.


make i run oh..



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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE ABORTION QUESTION

Dear Stella,

I am an ardent reader of your blog so I thought I should mail you for an advice.

I am engaged to the love of my life and we were planning a fairytale wedding‎ when I found out I am pregnant. This is the second pregnancy this year. 

I dont know if I should abort it or not. My fiance is adamant about keeping it but my fear is that we are just starting up and I dont know what effects this will have on our finances. 

Also I used the morning after pill -postinor 2 twice after I got pregnant because I really didnt know I was pregnant. The hospital said I should come back in a few weeks to ascertain the baby is ok but I am confused as to if I should keep it or not even if the scan comes out good.

Please i need advice on what to do.

Thank you.


You are asking if you should abort a baby????
My dear make i siddon and read advice











196 comments:

  1. I beg u in jesus' name dint abort any child cos d later trauma is a virus. Even though nothing happens but d thought alone will remain with u till u die. Don't say I didn't warn

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    1. Why are we women so weak or wicked? I see people blaming the woman, why didn't she go back and all sorts. Are you all ok? That man is the devil himself, the least he could have done was support her from his family since he can't man up and confess his being sterile.

      And you stella, what do you mean by throwing his condition is in his face? He put her through hell and disgraced her before the whole world. And he knew it was his fault. If I were the one I would have called a village meeting, not just family o. And tell them my story, ending with their son has been the problem all along because he is not a real man.

      Do you know that, that devil of a man will still be acting like she was barren? No hypocrite should advice her to have gone back. And to think he still refused her picking her things.

      Abeg madam, I hope you're now married with a child to shame that man and his entire family.

      Stella do you know what Nigerian women go through cos of delayed child birth? And it's so annoying when you act like you've never been in Nigeria. Germany must have wiped out your memory Stella.

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    2. @poster1 : I feel so sorry for you.
      Men keep blaming women 4 there infertility since 1900 BC.
      Your husband is proud n arrogant at the same time,instead of him to face the problem, he is looking for who to blame.
      He was hoping that someone will get pregnant outside n hang the baby on his neck.
      Some men shall
      I will you all the luck in this life
      You deserve to be happy.
      @poster2 : please don't abort that baby.

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    3. I love ur comment anonymous..from it looks like u've had an abortion before..i av had one too..wish I cld knw u so we cld tok..i've nevr been bold enough to tok to anyone abt mine apart from my bf..really wld like to knw..@ poster 2- do not abort d baby, the trauma after is unbearable

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    4. Jaymummy, na umunna meeting I for call with the packet of the medicine o....mtcheww, useless man

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    5. Poster one, wat if u hadn't snooped???? U would have still been living in misery na, y regret it?? Na wa for u o! Dust yourself and move ahead with your life, get job and start mingling. Your EX hubby is a wicked man!!!!!!!!!!

      Poster 2: I kneel down beg you leave that innocent baby, unless after checking in weeks time u re tod specifically by the doctor DAT the foetus is affected, den and only den u can abort it. Other than that kip the pregnancy o. Marriage/children comes with blessings.

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    6. @Jaymummy ,you just gave the right advice.@ second poster abeg in the name of God don't harm dat child.afterall you guys are getting married . Having a flat tummy on ur wedding day does not guarantee a happy marriage cos if things go south he will blame you solely and call you selfish.

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    7. Am glad some girls can openly talk about the trauma they go through after abortion,may God heal those of you who are bold enough to condemn it while some others will keep acting like its normal to murder a baby,while screaming the hardest when an adult is killed,nothing like keeping your virginity till you marry,it gives you peace of mind,it is very beneficial,even though some girls pretend that fornication is normal a lot of them weep in secret.girls be wise.

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    8. Oyibo woman wld ve slapped the living day light out of him before leaving...Probably get him arrest for deciet...This has nothing to do with race..Poster 1..u did the right thing

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    9. I also learnt the hard way..........snooping ain't worth it.

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    10. Stella sometimes I wanna knock u. U are saying she shouldn't have told him off the way she did about being sterile? Did u read what he put her tru by making her feel that she was the infertile one? Abeg abeg, she should have called him out on CNN sef. Nonsense.

      Imagine this life. Poster one is looking for a child and poster two is attempting abortion. What a life full of irony.

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  2. Wow poster 1,
    You are very wise to leave...
    I must commend you for that...
    What's up with your ex??...has he gotten any girl pregnant??...
    Biko move on with your life and don't ever go back again...

    Poster 2,
    Biko keep that child since you guys are engaged....

    Hold your ear and read my lips...don't touch that baby..

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    1. P1 I wish you luck in finding love again. P2. Don't touch that baby.

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    2. You see this your advice for poster I and 2 ehnn, e follow.
      Just chop kiss! And thank you for typing exactly what I would have.

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  3. The word condom is dead..
    Pple like flesh to flesh no be small..
    when u were screaming "harder harder" u no know say belly fit enter?
    Mtchw.

    P1 d man is not remorseful.
    Forget him..
    he has released all his akamu jehova outside n he won't stop.

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    1. Lol@harder
      You haff spoil finish

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    2. This lady ehn..which one is "Akamu Jehovah "again?...lmao
      Ur sense of humour na dieeee...

      Poster 2- keep the baby.

      Poster1- am glad u took a walk...If na me,his entire village no go sleep for night ooo...i'll use "ekwe' to announce to everyone, from their traditional ruler to the least person there...I will kip shouting it that their son's AMU is weak....His "abunna" cannot perform.

      Men be deceiving themselves since 1893..mtcheew!!

      Chinwenmeri.blogspot.com

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    3. Hahahahahahahaha the two people I will love to meet on this blog is blackberry babe and Mamie chai very funny fellows. @anonymous chinwenmeri u got me laughing and farting lol

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  4. Stella suga Kork you really resemble that tortoise wey dey crawning nor be only running

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    1. Lmao
      Bad mouth no pimples

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    2. Poster 2: you are just so dumb with a fish brain. You talk about not wanting to keep your baby because of finances, but you are on the verge of having a fairytale wedding? How sweet!

      Your dumb skull needs to be reconfigured.

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    3. As in stells killed me with that tortoise picture..anytime she says "make I run oh"..na usain bolt I dey always imagine..until I saw dis..lwkmd..stellscocks of life

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  5. Poster1 I don't understand u ohhh,u re against snooping,yet snooping answered many questions u were seeking answers to for long?if u didn't snoop would ve known dat ur husband was sterile? Answer me,poster2 shey abortion dey sweet u bah? Oya go do am if he dey sweet u,mtewwwww

    ********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********

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    1. Snooping helped me to know what I was dealing with, but the emotional trauma that came with it was major. I won't snoop in my next marriage. I don't want to die early jor

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    2. Poster 1. At begining Ur ex acted based on frustration and He didn't know how to face it. U are suppose to have a chat with him we U found out. My cousin had same experience but they day she found out abot her husband she confronted him in a calm and matured way from that moment things changed and they fought it togeda. They have 2 kids now. The husby was actually angry and didn't know how to face it, but there's ended very well bcos of the way it was handled.Wish U the best in finding love again.

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    3. Am not married yet, but after snooping on ex messages, I dnt plan 2snoop ever again

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    4. If I had snooped I would have known that my husband was having a child with someone else

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  6. Poster one... Ur hubi wicked... Shai...... So he allowed u go tru dat stress wen he knows he was at fault.. But y did u not go back... Abadoning him was not d rite choice.... At least u wud have left for sometime and cum back... So dat u both can look for a way out... He is ur hubi weda in good or bad time.... U were suppose to support him..... I feel sri for ur hubi..... I aslo feel sri for UUUU... Divorce is not d answer... Well uve made up ur mind...... Just let God guide uu

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    1. You are a fool. So she should stay there and die from misery abi. The man was bot even civil enough to support her but flagrantly blaming her for his problem. She should stay till she gets Aids abi. I detest foolish women who live to please society. Poster pls send this lady your ex's number and address so she can take over from you.

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    2. Are you serious? Do nigerian girls still have this "De there till you die" mentality?
      Support him over what? Something he didn't accept as his problem? If he had told his wife he was sterile, she would have stood by him....

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    3. Like you read my mind...

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    4. But her hubby never supported her .never went to the doctor with her ,didn't even wana entertain IVF or other solutions .so what would have changed ?

      He is sterile . He knows and is using drugs to combat it yet letting his wife think she's the only one with the problem .is that u or Stella's definition of love ?tell me?

      She's better off without him . Marriage isn't a do or die affair .

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    5. Jaymummy that is not enough to call her a fool.
      Haba!
      You know Men with pride and other rubbish they exhibit when they are wrong is so annoying.
      Poster 1. sorry for all the trauma your hubby let you pass through, after your annoyance you would have gone back so you guys will resolve it, You guys would have planned together. U guys would have done Ivf (a Donor).
      This is a small issue that would have been managed without any problem.
      Since you are out and have made up your mind, success to the journey of Love and happiness.

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    6. U don't have sense...after allowing her to go through all that stress, for even having the guts to tell her that she's stupid for not letting another man pregnant, that man is a devil! Will u advise ur sister to remain there after all that? So its women that should chop shit because of their man's pride? Mtchw, oshisco. Poster 1, don't go back. Life is meant to be enjoyed, find a way to enjoy yours

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  7. Narrator 1: you made me laugh at your story. like how you used laughter to quench the bitterness you felt. God will give you a good man.
    if you dont want your husband, i wont force you to go back.

    Narrator 2: why did you open your legs if you know you are a goalpost that a goal will enter.

    keep the baby dont abort. if you worship in a catholic church, they dont mind about the pregnancy. so enjoy your upcoming son or daughter. Good luck

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  8. Poster 1, I feel so sorry for ur marriage, wen u got to kn about his situation, u shld ve just insisted on the ivf and let him kn subtly dat u are aware of his predicament, dat wld ve saved ur marriage. Well, I guess u dnt need advice sef. All d best. Poster 2, are u for real? U wanna abort coz of financial strain but u wan do fairy tale wedding? Using postinor no dey affect African babies oh, in fact with my first child, I tried to abort by mixing alomo, 2sachets of alabukun, and postinor, I took d whole bottle of alomo, Tah d boy just perch for one side oh, wen I realized dat no matter what I take, unless I go under knife wch I wasn't ready for, I left d Belle, and to God be d glory, he's so frosh and strong ehn, so forget dat postinor, e no fit affect d baby unless u sha wan stupidly abort. But I advice u keep ur baby to avoid stories dat touch after marriage oh

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    1. Lmaooooooo @ the concoction you drank! You try o

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    2. So east to judge others all because stella said so,the truth is in health and social care you can't say you know how that person feel or how u would react cos you are not in her shoe

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  9. Let me sit and read comment

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    1. Poster1.it is well with you,I feel sorry for you.stay strong Poster2.say no to abortion

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  10. Poster 1, I Believe In Doing Things that makes me Happy Nd Satisfy Wit My Conscience, If walking Out of that Marriage Makes U Happy, then Do it, Everybody Deserves To B Happy
    Poster 2, I hate Abortion, but did u nt tel ur guy 2 Use Protection since u no that ur Nt Ready...

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    1. Don't mind her, she enjoys flesh to flesh

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  11. Ok..before I comment on the second post..Stella please..put your self in her situation before u blame her for the way she acted..the way he hid his condition from her and let her go through the pains..lemme remind you that she stumbled upon the drugs..so don't blame her..the way u do advice people sometimes tire me..I know its your opinion..but just had to say it..

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    1. Gbam!
      Stella, we are dealing with African men here no be oyibo
      African men are so cunny
      If it was to be the wife's fault, second wife 4 don enter since.
      Y didn't he talk to the wife about it in the first ?

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    2. The thing sef tire me. Sometimes it will be like Stella did not read the story well. The man is a mean SOB, allowing her to go thru mess and even badmouthing her on top of it. He was mean to her When he knew the prob was from him and u say she shuudnt have thrown it in his face? I would have called a family meeting sef and if possible carry gong go village square!
      Wicked man! All those stuffs this lady has ingested may end up causing more harm to her. But he relaxed and was secretly taking medically appproved drugs, living life to the fullest while she wallowed in misery.

      Poster 2, fairytale wedding on the blood of your unborn baby right? Why can't u reduce ur budget for d wedding in order to save for the baby ahead of time?
      Rather than thinking about abortion....GO DOWN on ur knees and start praying that your baby will be alright. FAST for that baby's wellbeing so that the scan will show a healthy baby without effects from the postinor. U need to rewire ur brain and start Thinking Like a mother because u may not get another chance

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    3. Please ladies stop taking postinor 2, most of the ones sold are fake, not to talk of the long term effects on your womb a and body as a whole..Pls take this advice

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    4. Indeed African men r cunning
      not. Take responsibility. Husband oj bf oh Pastor oh. N see how Pastor publicly disgrace women. Non of the Pastors saw this? Indeed But to all the false and money mongering pastors out there, who took my money and made my situation more complicated, una do well o! You all shall get what's coming to you o!) God better hear his children prayers. Abused in religon. Poster 1 please break all soul ties with ur ex.my opinion is that he used his sperm trade for wealth

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  12. Poster 2, who u wan put innocent blood on?

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  13. Yes to Freedom.
    No to abortion.


    I snoop once a year and treat all fuck ups at once.

    #Teamsnoop

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  14. 1} Dear you've been through a lot oo chai. Anywas I commend you for getting out of there with your life. God bless ya with your own man!

    2} Say NO to abortion!

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  15. Poster: that was wicked and very selfish of your husband.

    Why are you saying ignorance is bliss and you are against snooping, if you had snooped earlier , won't you have found out all along , that he was sterile and that was the reason for no kids.......

    Pls !! The shame is on him, pick up yourself, since he obviously he isn't even willing to make things work and see about other assisted reproductive mechanisms.

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  16. @1, am sure u are one of those miserable married women who insult single girls on this blog, ya all come here pretending that ur marriages are perfect, anyway u took a very good decision, good luck.
    @2, y are u asking if u should abort d baby, did u not know about his financial status before opening ur legs, abeg shift joor.

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    1. So ur very sure she insults pple? Buhari shd hire u to manage SUREP!!
      Women talk anyhow!!! Forgetting u wud need help tomoro...Abasikan utor ekpok ami!!

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    2. You will one day be married and I wish u all the best.

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    3. Angelray how re you so sure she insults peeps in this blog?so sure of what you dont know.

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    4. Angelray, I normally don't dignify such ignorance with a response. I hardly post comments and I have never insulted anyone here or any other social media platform. Ladies don't make such careless statements, be guided.

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    5. Angelray how re you so sure she insults peeps in this blog?so sure of what you dont know.

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    6. Angela u can say that again and again
      . One married lady insulted me in my face. Unbeknown to her the Lord reveals the real deal.

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  17. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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    One: ur ex na die i swear..... He wanted yu to cheat?? Thank God for ur life...
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    Two: thunder!!! (someone help me complete it)
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  18. Poster 1
    Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

    Poster 2
    Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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  19. Dear poster 2..I don't know why you are asking us for advice..you have a man that wants to marry you and he is the father of your child..what else do u want us to say????..keep your baby please.. That is the best gift of nature

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  20. Poster two: pls don't abort that child
    Hasten wedding plans, that's all.

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  21. 1st poster your husband is a demon! Kai! I weep for this story. It is well. E-hugs. True love will find you

    2nd poster you are stupid! May God forgive you. Mtcheewwwww

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  22. Poster 1 sorry abt your ordeal, it ll all end in praise. I'm still gonna snoop tho even if Jupiter falls on top earth I will snoop till thy kingdom come. Snooping saved my life and there is nothing blissful about ignorance. The truth is weather you snoop or not, we all know as women when all is not well with our relationships.

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  23. Abortion? Noooo don't even think of it,talk him in to keeping the baby.will u be alive if ur mother aborted you.its a sin

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  24. So touching.......@poster 1
    Pls don't abort the child@2
    H_M

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  25. Narr 1:
    Thank God you left that sham of a marriage.
    Some men sha. So egotistical and wicked!
    So all the while, he was the one with issues yet he made you go through all that stress alone? The stress of touring different cities to find a solution.
    Hmmmmm
    Some men are wicked sha

    My God will punish any idiot that thinks he can make my life hell, Amen!!
    Nonsense.


    Lady IGO will come and post her comment, how she knows someone in the exact same shoes as you, and probably advice you to go and beg your sterile ex hubby.
    Lady Igo, I hail o..

    Narr 2:
    ..............

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    1. Don davido abeg go Saturday lags eith lady igo, she's skways knowing someone that has been tru all d chronicles lol

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    2. Lolz.

      Quicksilver, mmbok, leave Lady Igo ooooooooooooooo. I suspect she's either a Pastor or a Pastor's wife who people go to for counseling koz she always has a true life experience cum story to back up her advice.

      Rolanda nko, that one na " epic epistle inside chronicles "
      But I like their comments sha. I usually read the first 2 lines of every paragraph then skip to d last line.
      Shikina

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    3. Thanks dear. No man will mess with you in Jesus name

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    4. At 25 for that matter.
      I say Amen for you o.

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    5. Hehehehehehhehehehe

      I taya 4 that Lady Igo oh.
      Guys, see one of her earlier comments on this blog

      "I know a lady who was looking for fruits of the womb and was given a "cat's meat" to eat in "a prophet's" house. After the meals, she took in (and of course they took her in). Her baby cries exactly like a cat and indeed grew up to be a wild cat. He fights any and everything. It was this boy that first killed his dad by strangling him with his bare hands. Eventually, he killed the widowed mom. No police could arrest him; his powers are just extraordinary. His stock in trade was rapping; both girls and boys and married women. And how did he eventually die; yes it always ends in death. He raped the wife of "a bigger cat" and he simply ripped him apart. The whole family buried in one place all because a lady was not patient enough and ate "ordinary meat".
      Solution to the one you've eaten so far: Confess, fast and pray and participate in the communion as Jesus taught (yes that's the only allowed eating; unleavened bread and grave vine juice) and see your liberty. Please read Luke 22 and do this before you become pregnant again..."


      This woman na comedian. True

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    6. Hahahahhaha..i think say na only me don notice...she has a story for every chronicle...
      My favourite line is "There is this woman I know,she's been married for 10 years...She's the wife of a missionary etc

      I love u LADY IGO...and I love reading ur comments...*kisses 2u*

      Chinwenmeri.blogspot.com

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    7. Anon 16:52
      Hahahahahahaha
      Your are so silly, but not far from the truth.

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  26. Poster 1. Its well with u, I no kuma like snooping before.

    Poster 2, hmmm this should have a decision btw u and ur finance, which kain advise wan help ds situation nau. U said ds s d 2nd pregnancy ds yr, obviously something went wrong with the ist though u didn't say anything bout it. As for the effect of postinor 2 on ur pregnancy don't rili think dt shud b an issue. Follow ur heart, take d decision u want to buh do not regret whatsoever u conclude at. Make una sef dey careful next time biko. Cheers

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  27. The chronicle is here again! Hurray!!

    Now Lady Igo will come with her many cock, fowl and tortoise story! That woman sef! Hahhahahha(she taya me oh)

    Ronalda will come with her agony aunt column.

    Sisi Eko with her responsible comments.

    Jay em will take out time from her busy Australian schedule to advise the poster.

    Bonapart, long grammar.

    Iphie will give her intelligent summation.

    XOXO mystery with her streetwise advice.

    Eze nwanyi will debunk the whole chronicle.

    The General's wife will hug the poster till poster will forget what even happened in the 1st place.

    Kevin efe will say "poster, it is well..."

    Chizoba ibebuike will abuse the poster's choice and set her brain back to hard reset.

    Linda Eze, the boss. Native and relevant advice.

    Mamie will tell you her DH can't try such.

    Some anonymous like me will do gbegborun ati gbefila. Waiting for the next quarrel to set...

    Don't you just love SDK blog?
    Fun place


    #running#

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    1. Lmao... Omg @ chizoba to hard reset...
      Tgw, these hugs u r sharing, there's ebola o....lol

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    2. Lol... You have said it all.....are you a phycologist?

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    3. Hehehehhehe,ur a nut case!!!
      I love SDK blog joor...it only happens here!!!

      Chinwenmeri.blogspot.com

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    4. Hahaha, why are you anonymous??? Hilarious! Please put a face on this comment.

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    5. Choi, so so funny.
      You forgot cynthia iyede's usual 'holy Sister' comments

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  28. Stella no be only heart to heart talk and not throw his condition in his face, that her husband can kill person abeg, what a heartless man, so he knew he was the one responsible and he put her thru emotional, financial turmoil and she went thru it alone Haba! He shld have just come clean and let them do the IVF instead of hiding it and even if he hid it sef he shld nt have been blaming her for their childlessness. She no even throw am for e face well, she wld have put it on all the social network and then tagged him. See as the thing they pain me *bites finger till it bled*

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  29. poster 1 :i love u so much for going out of ur way to leave such a man ,u did urself a huge favour.Men can be selfish when they know they r the problem they will want to mke u kill urself for coming to this world.Meanwhile ,they r the cankerworm shorteniing ur lifespan.Now, when its obvious they are the cause of the problem they want by force peace or they want to u lick their smelly feet and oet them so they do not feel bad.Curses upon them biko such men do not deserve pity cos these women r ppls dotas too.U threw it in his face ?hahahahaahahahah intersting read, guess what u got ur own pound of flesh in a funny way.

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  30. See them hypocritical and judgemental blog visitors forming I hate abortion, keep the pregnancy but will be the first to insults single mothers and celeb baby mamas. I pity anyone that follows ur advice

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    1. Are u stupid? Is she Single?
      She is about to get married and what more..her fiancee wants her to keep it.

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    2. She's getting married soon..
      Why get rid of the baby when she will be trying for another one soon?

      And she stated that this is the second pregnancy this year..Anony,this is April ooh.

      @poster 2.hasten up your wedding plans.
      Fairy tales are forever.. With a sexy ball gown.. you will look stunning.

      You can have as many fairy tale events as you like..Starting with a Baby Shower...lol

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    3. Just do the right thing,avoid fornication, if you fight anyone who is against fornication/adultery you are actually fighting God,shikena,you are actually sending messages to God telling him you hate his laws so prepare for answer from him.bye

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  31. P1, it is well with you.....P2, you are planning a fairy tale wedding and you don't know what a baby to both of you would have on your finances? Didn't I read well or the grammar confused me Clap for yourself madam, He's a God of hundred chances you hear.

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  32. Poster 1, I feel so sorry for ur marriage, wen u got to kn about his situation, u shld ve just insisted on the ivf and let him kn subtly dat u are aware of his predicament, dat wld ve saved ur marriage. Well, I guess u dnt need advice sef. All d best. Poster 2, are u for real? U wanna abort coz of financial strain but u wan do fairy tale wedding? Using postinor no dey affect African babies oh, in fact with my first child, I tried to abort by mixing alomo, 2sachets of alabukun, and postinor, I took d whole bottle of alomo, Tah d boy just perch for one side oh, wen I realized dat no matter what I take, unless I go under knife wch I wasn't ready for, I left d Belle, and to God be d glory, he's so frosh and strong ehn, so forget dat postinor, e no fit affect d baby unless u sha wan stupidly abort. But I advice u keep ur baby to avoid stories dat touch after marriage oh

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  33. my heart goes out to poster one, I'm glad u left before murder became the case, as for stella, e jor má binu o, why will she have a heart to heart? na at this point them they get heart to heart? when the man knowingly said she was the problem etc and did not have a heart to heart with her nko? did he have a heart to heart when he started philandering? heart to heart ko,ynash to ynash ni! see ehn,it gets to a stage in a relationship that you knw u shud give up abeg. except your the king or queen of lost causes*hiss* that stella talk take style vex me abeg . anyway that husband......I gat no words for am o. cos if I talk am as e do me ...........

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    1. Don't mind Stellz with the kind advice way she dey give atimes.Why should she have a heart to heart with an obviously egotistical heartless & wicked man,who intentionally hid his medical condition & allowed his wife to bear all the consequences of his sterility.Chai!that your husband is stone hearted.He didn't even love you,& sterility would have been the reason he didn't get married b4 you came along.
      Thank God you left & I wish you all the best.
      Poster 2,I have nothing to say to you.

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  34. LADY IGO SAID

    TO POSTER ONE: you did "everything" went "everywhere" except to one place; to one person; you never went to God, the maker and owner of the brand called "marriage"; what a pity! Had you fasted and prayed to God, he would have come to your aid and healed your home. Even now, it is not too late to consult him in fasting and praying; you your life to get back on track. For you to know peace.

    TO POSTER 2: THE CONSEQUENCES OF ABORTIONS:
    There is something ABOUT ABORTIONS which I'd like us to see. When one kills (or encourages the killing of; see Prov. 6:16-17) innocent children, the consequences are three. 1. You deny yourself the joy of having a home (remember the Hebrew midwives who spared babies against Pharaoh's advice to kill them; God rewarded them with families; Ex.1) 2. You risk "sudden death" in the hands of another fellow/accidents etc. remember Gen.9:6 and thirdly, you deny yourself eternal life! What a life! God isn't going to call you to glory if you do not repent. Jesus said; come to me all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest; that's Matt. 11:28. If you do not repent, you'd keep on laboring for the Serpent. But if you repent and make Jesus your Lord today and begin to read your scriptures; you'd find peace and the above three lots will not be yours. God bless you.

    I know a lady who aborted 3 kids for a man that eventually did not marry her. She was left high and dry; heartbroken and miserable. She bought an SUV to "console herself" and hit the road. While going to another state to with her sister, she was on the highway when she saw "three little kids crossing the road". She screamed, "three kids, three kids . . ." to her bewildered sister who kept shouting that she was not seeing any kid on the road. This lady matched the break at top speed and the vehicle somersaulted many times. She died on the spot and it was her sister that told the story.

    LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.

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    1. Lady Igo!you always know someone.lol! anyways ur story de sweet sha

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    2. Omnipotent, Omnipresent, omniscient Lady Igo.

      No be small thing. The all knowing.

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    3. How did her sister knew she aborted 3 times??...
      Easy with this your nollywood forge forge..

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    4. Bwahahaha was waiting for these lol u nor dey fall my hand

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    5. Quicksilver!!!! Your attention is needed here o

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    6. All liars shall go to hell.....

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    7. You always have a story to tell.ahn ahn u too tory.kilode gan?

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    8. U like story sha.ahn ahn wotapun?

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    9. Lady Igo, you amaze me. You think I didn't pray, fast, sow seeds and do charity works (still do)? I am one of those people that don't have to sweat for anything. I just tell God and it's done. When he didn't answer my prayers and I had certain dreams, I knew it was time to throw in the towel. After years of emotional abuse which by the way is much worse than physical abuse, I have no regrets leaving.

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    10. Hahaha Lady IGO, I hail you oooo....
      You have example to all chronicles....
      Take am easy dey lie sometimes before you no go no boundaries again
      Choi!

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    11. You and your lies. Please start writing nollywood scripts and free us. Mchew.

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    12. I love u LADY IGO WITH REGARDS ...

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    13. Lol
      I've never paused to read your stories...
      But today after someone's observation about your comments up there I decided to look out.
      True LADY IGO didn't disappoint.

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    14. 16:39, don't mind Igo and Stellistica. You did well. Only the person that has not walked in your shoe will not understand what you went through. I gave birth to girls first, I know what I experienced before God blessed me with boys later. Then not to talk of not getting pregnant. And the useless man knew his condition and let you suffer. He has no human heart. I disagree with you about no snooping, was it not what helped you to know the kind of man you are married to and his sterility? He expected you to commit adultery for him? Smh. Enjoy your life.

      Narrative 2, you concern is more on the fairy tale wedding you are planning. Nansense. Why not use condom after the first abortion. Got pregnant twice in a year! Smh Its your body and life, if you like evacuate or not, I was not there when you were collecting fuck and screaming the roof down! Rubbish!

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    15. Poster 1 please tell us the dreams. @Lady I- the lady died bc of guilt. She didn't believe she was 4given and didn't 4give herself.

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    16. Na wao, three kids three kids. She died on the spot and her sister told the story. The sister appear for her dream to confess the details abi she record the details before she died. Lady Igo please the story never Finish biko come back and complete your story.

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  35. Poster 1 - After snooping has saved your life, you are saying we should not snoop. My sister you are very rude o!!

    Please Divorce is not an option, go back to your husband and try to work it out. If he does not agree before you move on completely. Meanwhile please forgive him

    Poster 2 - Don't even try it. You have no reason whatsoever to be asking for this kind of advise. You made a mistake but now guys are engaged to be married. You wont be the first or the last to marry with pregnancy. Abortion is a form of murder.

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    1. Lol @ you are very rude o. I forgave him the day I left him. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.

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  36. Poster 1 - I really feel for you... The wasted years wasted energy, depression, fear, anxiety, money spent YET your hubby know he was the cause! He is WICKED & I don't blame you for cracking. Who won't crack in your shoes? Stella biko no blame her for telling him his condition ; what of him that put her under psycological trauma for years? Imagine blaming you for not getting pregnant outside on his behalf! Men your hubby is capable of murder mbok! He kept you in the dark & when you snooped out the truth he turns the table on you & blames you for not been a fucking adulterer like him! Does he think God will heal him with this kind of behaviour he is exhibiting? Don't blame your self for snooping cos in this case it was your saving grace. Ignorance Sometimes is not bliss.... Sometimes it kills. May God restore all the wasted years & beautify your life.
    Poster 2 - You want us to tell you to commit abortion? OYO is your case. The bobo is getting married to you, he wants the baby, he is happy so what is your problem? Do you think the baby will starve when you give birth? The baby won't biko! Do not use your hand to buy kasala for your self.

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    1. Thanks Ayodeji for your understanding. To think that you don't even know half the story. May you and yours never have my experience

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  37. THELMA ENEMUWE said...
    Poster1--the fact that ur hubby hid his medical condition from you is enof for you to annul the damn marriage....what a wicked heartless man he is...even him saying you ought to go get urself pregger by anoda man.....i pray you find love,joy,and full restorations in your quest for happines...
    Poster2---keep that baby,even if its pap u can afford to feed him/her with,better days are coming...nor say SDKERS nor wan you oo by the time u start TTC for 25yrs after wedding..
    *faithful BV enemuwe thelma*

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  38. Poster One - You said it all. The Centre could not hold. In hindsight, maybe there are things you could have changed? Your approach? Gentle discussions? It looks like your husband was equally tired so I apportion no blame. He could have discussed his situation with you and both of you could have worked out a possible situation. You most likely were extremely wounded when he blurted out you were too stupid to go out and get pregnant by another man. There are so many assisted pregnancy options out there. However, too late to cry over spilt milk. I hope you pick up the pieces of your life and be happy.

    Poster 2: U went all the way with your fiance, you are about to get married and you are here asking us silly questions. If you want fairytale wedding, either do it sharp sharp before your pregnancy shows or you want until after you have given birth and then have your fairy tale wedding with your child as little bride or groom. You wont be the first. Loads of celebrities and mere mortals have all walked down that route so you wont be the first...... Chin up and face the consequences of your action!!

    Dig Deep and Challenge Yourself

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  39. Poster One - You said it all. The Centre could not hold. In hindsight, maybe there are things you could have changed? Your approach? Gentle discussions? It looks like your husband was equally tired so I apportion no blame. He could have discussed his situation with you and both of you could have worked out a possible situation. You most likely were extremely wounded when he blurted out you were too stupid to go out and get pregnant by another man. There are so many assisted pregnancy options out there. However, too late to cry over spilt milk. I hope you pick up the pieces of your life and be happy.

    Poster 2: U went all the way with your fiance, you are about to get married and you are here asking us silly questions. If you want fairytale wedding, either do it sharp sharp before your pregnancy shows or you want until after you have given birth and then have your fairy tale wedding with your child as little bride or groom. You wont be the first. Loads of celebrities and mere mortals have all walked down that route so you wont be the first...... Chin up and face the consequences of your action!!

    Dig Deep and Challenge Yourself

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    1. Dear, I was at the brink of insanity. Leaving was the right choice

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    2. It's not fair, you have Given up on your other half. I believe your story is only beginning, please don't Give up yet. Your miracle could be right around the corner.

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  40. THELMA ENEMUWE said...
    Poster1--the fact that ur hubby hid his medical condition from you is enof for you to annul the damn marriage....what a wicked heartless man he is...even him saying you ought to go get urself pregger by anoda man throws a pix of the devil u married in disguise.....i pray you find love,joy,and full restorations in your quest for happines...
    Poster2---keep that baby,even if its pap u can afford to feed him/her with,better days are coming...nor say SDKERS nor wan you oo by the time u start TTC for 25yrs after wedding..
    *faithful BV enemuwe thelma*

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  41. THELMA ENEMUWE said...
    Poster1--the fact that ur hubby hid his medical condition from you is enof for you to annul the damn marriage....what a wicked heartless man he is...even him saying you ought to go get urself pregger by anoda man throws a pix of the devil u married in disguise.....i pray you find love,joy,and full restorations in your quest for happines...
    Poster2---keep that baby,even if its pap u can afford to feed him/her with,better days are coming...nor say SDKERS nor wan you oo by the time u start TTC for 25yrs after wedding..
    *faithful BV enemuwe thelma*

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  42. THELMA ENEMUWE said...
    Poster1--the fact that ur hubby hid his medical condition from you is enof for you to annul the damn marriage....what a wicked heartless man he is...even him saying you ought to go get urself pregger by anoda man throws a pix of the devil u married in disguise.....i pray you find love,joy,and full restorations in your quest for happines...
    Poster2---keep that baby,even if its pap u can afford to feed him/her with,better days are coming...nor say SDKERS nor wan you oo by the time u start TTC for 25yrs after wedding..
    *faithful BV enemuwe thelma*

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  43. I don't understand o.
    Is abortion now food that you hunger for it even though the guy in question has accepted and you guys are about to get married.
    Imagine you are planning a fairytale wedding but you don't have enough to take care of an innocent child.
    Poster 2- you don't have any problem, you just suffer from STUPIDITY.

    Poster1- happy you left and you getting back on your feet now...you are a wise woman.

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  44. Come poster 1 wetin u dey yarn? Dat snooping is nt good nd ignorance is bliss. I stand 2 correct u dt snooping is highly recommended even our bible say my pple perish because of lack of knowledge. Abi na lie I talk?

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  45. @Anonymous 15:30 - LOL!! You get time oh!! To sit down and analyse every one's mannerisms.

    Nwannu - what is my own mannerism? No, dont tell me.... I am of the school of thought that what you dont know will not hurt you.....

    Dig Deep and Challenge Yourself

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  46. N.1 YOU SNOOPED AND FOUND OUT HE WAS TAKING DRUGS FOR STERILITY YET YOU WERE HOPING AND PRAYING EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE?! You are too dull. You never suspected him? Not even for one day. Na your burden be that. Don't come complaining here. You should have arranged a truck to carry all your things before confronting that man. And he slapped you ontop. Chai. I don't feel sorry for you.

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  47. 2. No matter what, do not abort the pregnancy.

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    1. Poster 1 u made a wise move,some men re just heartless.

      Poster 2 please and please dont go for abortion. You re planning for a fairytale wedding that would probably be the talk of the town but you Seem to forget something here, Wedding lasts just for few hours but marriage is a life time thing. Forget that your fairytale wedding and cut your coat according to your size.
      If you can afford an expensive wedding,you can also afford to take care of a child.
      Wisdom is profitable to direct.

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  48. ed Dreamz currently on jupiter i don help you complete your words ooo....

    dont mind the idiot, opening her legs, thinking it is water the man is pouring inside her.

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  49. hmmmm......That man's ego though
    I'm against divorce but then if u r happy then its all good

    Poster2....I'm still trying to phantom fairytale wedding,financial constraint and the need to abort a child when u r pregnant for your husband to be
    Someone help me pls

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    1. Maybe na tube abi rubber gown wey dey gum body she get for mind before na.
      As belle done trow way that one look for kaba with design wear go court and marry simples!
      Design your gown according to your condition dats all

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  50. Poster 1 thank God you left him that man is very wicked and only God knows what he would have done to you if you had not left Stella you sef how else would she have said it to him the man deserves no sympathy poster God wiill send a man that will give you peace of mind
    poster 2 You did the first abortion and nothing happened to you so another one is hungrying you to do already you are a mother of one dead child and you want to add another one

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  51. Better don't tamper with that child gosh u r heartless
    Children are blessings from God and can change situations for good

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  52. Lady Igo please just shut the F up. So you think she didn't do all that? It's better she left that man. He's a beast.

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  53. Poster 2..pls do not abort the baby..it is nt jst d process dat is painful. The trauma after the abortion is even more painful..i've been dere and still dere- the guilt alone will Almst kill u, the Thot that u might never gt pregnant will be dere..pls dnt abort d baby..u are Almst married..pls dnt..d trauma and experience is nt funny @ all..

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  54. Wo, Stella leave that thing!!! I snoop once in a while and I treat my husband's fuck ups promptly!! It has saved my marriage and kept him on his toes. He now calls me a witch and I am ok with that. Poster 1, if you are married in the Catholic Church, go and seek an annulment based on deceit and move on with your life. Marry again and be happy!!!

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  55. @ anon 15:30 cant help laughing. u try

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  56. please do not abort your baby...God will fight for u

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  57. At poster 2, u want to have a fairytale wedding and you are complaining about finances. Pls how old are you. Children pls stop sending chronicles. So you cant half your wedding expenses, have a small wedding and keep your baby. I am not trying to judge you, but u sound really dumb. I am sure from the monetary gift u get during d wedding, it can even buy you baby things.
    You are more concerned abt having figure8 in ur weddn dress and havn fairy tale wedding dan ur future..................FOREVER 16

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  58. Poster 2:your story is like a novel I read,"not so happily married " by Toyin Fabunmi, you can download it freely on okadabooks, exactly. I wish to contribute to this but if you get to read this, try and download this novel, then decide.
    ## you have done wrong by getting pregnant before marriage because the law is still" though shall not defile the bed" yet you want to do bad by going against the law, "though shall not kill", pls, pls and pls...ddon't ddo anything to that gift God has blessed you with, ask God for forgiveness and take care, happy married life in advance .

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  59. Poster 1. Ignorance isn't bliss, he was having unprotected sex outside, apart from being without a child he could have gifted you HIV. Why would you even want an adulterous man not using protection to sleep with you? Is that how low our women have been made to sink?

    Poster2 and all other naive women listening stop spoiling your ovaries and cervix with postinor.
    Either get long term birth control or make him use a condom.

    You are planning to marry and you want to abort oya na. When you marry and no kids come he will insult you very well for killing all your kids.

    Jeez why can't you use condoms when you are not ready for kids? Later now you will come and be begging Nigerians to raise money for kidney failure and cancer from all these self prescribed drugs

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  60. Honey pls keep d baby,I promise u...u will b full of joy wen d baby arrivers

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  61. So tired to construct comment for

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  62. ‎#1: Going through a divorce is tougher and more emotionally draining than people realise, even if you're the petitioner. May I suggest a couple of things to make the transition  bearable? 

    Allow yourself to grieve. Yes honey, grieve! It may be a blessing that you left, still you must go through the grieving process. The emotional wounds will heal eventually but the scars remain for a lifetime. They are there as a constant reminder of where you're coming from and where you certainly don't want to ‎end up again.

    Soul searching is imperative because you need to take stock of your life. You have to know what part you played in the breakdown of your marriage. It takes two to tango, even if your dance partner is a monster, it's never 100% the fault of the offender. Both of you are responsible, even if you accept only. 5%. Sweetie, it isn't accusatory, it's to know what you did or didn't do in your previous marriage and ensure you take steps to avoid a recurrence should you wish to remarry.‎‎ Don't rush into another relationship regardless of how amazingly "juicy" it appears. The next guy who surfaces may not be "the one", please, my love, be extremely vigilant.

     A broken marriage leaves both parties damaged inside, some more severe than others. Don't be fooled by how liberated and happy you may feel, the damage is in there. If you don't take out time to heal, you'll be like a ticking time bomb just waiting for the right time to detonate. You'll go into a new relationship oblivious to the baggage from your past. Before you know it, you'll start noticing certain patterns repeat themselves and you're bound to overreact due to the "once bitten, twice shy‎" mentality which is only a defence mechanism. Before you realise it, a potential husband material will slip away .‎

    Allow yourself heal well enough to allow a second chance at love and happiness. With the healing process comes forgiveness. Forgive your ex for you not him. You need to forgive him for your sake, only then will you experience that peace from within. 

    Don't be surprised if some of your friends withdraw, some people actually believe divorce is contagious and some men don't want their wives hanging out with a divorcee. It takes adversity for people to reveal who they really are so brace up, honey, it may be a bumpy ride for a while. Expect the unexpected when dealing with people you think you know. ‎

    By the time you've dealt with your past, a whole new world emerges and you'll be ready to start again. I pray you make the right choices so whatever pain you had to endure will be worth it.
    #hugsnkisses.‎

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  63. Hmmm @ poster 1 sorry dts all I can say @poster 2: hmmm dt postinor matter na waya pls abstain from sex if u don't want d blessing of sex kpaish!!!!!! Postinor no dey work have tried it twice and it failed me I ve two beautiful children thanks be to God.

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  64. N1, men with such problem don't own up easily, they wait for the woman to find out herself. I wonder why u didn't go to the doc together to at least know the cause of the infertility. Note: snooping wasn't d 'causer' it's just unfortunate yours ended this way. Snooping is sweet Biko, what u don't know kills faster. What if u got more than divorce, he was even urging u to get a child outside, which he would've used against u in future. U v a better chance of restarting all over again.
    Simple rule of snooping: if u can't handle d outcome of it, maintain ur lane.
    N2, u r engaged & u r thinking abortion. If anything should go wrong at d process, u sure know u r on ur own. That baby may be d biggest source of ur happiness tomorrow.

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  65. Financial constraints yet u wanna do fairy-tale wedding?adongerit.

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  66. Podster 1, tell me you are kidding right, ighorance is whaaaat? So you would rather end as a lonely bitter old lady. You better start dancing shoki thanking your GOD that your snooping grant you deliverance the hot slap not withstanding. You are still young dust yourself and start afresh, as for your ex let him keep living in denial.
    Poster2, two years into your fairytale wedding you will know whassup when you start running from church to ijaw women to hospital in search of the babies you are termination now. Then that your boyfriend will tell you he's trying with other babe outside.

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  67. Podster 1, tell me you are kidding right, ighorance is whaaaat? So you would rather end as a lonely bitter old lady. You better start dancing shoki thanking your GOD that your snooping grant you deliverance the hot slap not withstanding. You are still young dust yourself and start afresh, as for your ex let him keep living in denial.
    Poster2, two years into your fairytale wedding you will know whassup when you start running from church to ijaw women to hospital in search of the babies you are termination now. Then that your boyfriend will tell you he's trying with other babe outside.

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  68. To all the wonderful ladies here who do not know half the story and are so encouraging, may you never go through what I did. I wish you all peaceful homes and eternal bliss with your spouses. For those who think I didn't try, I can only laugh. For the young lady that thinks I'm bitter and miserable, I am at peace. It would have been nice to reply everyone individually but I haf tayad abeg........lol. Aunty Stella of life, you have a beautiful soul and I know that divorce is not pleasant to your ears but I will send you a rejoinder so you get a clearer picture. May God bless everyone on this blog. You all are wonderful people including the miss know all(s). I love you all and I'm glad to be a part of this blog. Hugs and kisses

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    1. God strengthen u poster. Don't mind all the hypocrites esp ladies on this blog. I don't get it. They want you to stay and die there. The marriage was already over.


      Thank God you found your peace. You will smile again. Heart to heart talk my fair butt!!!

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    2. May God strengthen you my dear.
      E no easy.

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    3. I love the way you sound, poster. You seem happy and at peace and that is good. Above all, you believe in God and that is excellent. Hold on to God. He loves you more than any man has or ever will love you. He is your strength. TRUST in HIM. Your latter will be greater than your past.

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    4. Poster well done, I wish you the same. Its better to leave with your life than die in a loveless marriage.

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  69. poster 1 you said snooping is not good but that's how you found out that your husband was sterile, you should be thankful that you snooped and saved yourself days and months of wondering why you couldn't get pregnant.
    stella said you she shouldn't have rubbed it in his face, i totally disagree cos he made her drink everything and cry and feel bad about not being able to have a baby when he knew all along that he was the problem and also used it as an excuse to cheat on her plus he also rubbed it in her face so why shouldn't she have done the same? is she not human with feelings???
    plus that man is desperately evil telling her to have had a baby by another man so he can use it against her in future? that was just bad
    leaving him was the right thing to do, pls move on with your life and live it to the fullest
    happiness is the most important factor in any marriage.
    poster 2 no need to abort since you';re getting married just make sure the baby was not affected by the postinor you took.

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  70. "We are just starting up". "I dont know what effects this will have on our finances".
    YET you are planning a fairytale wedding!!!
    Some of you really have your priorities all screwed up! If the 2 of you are just starting up, why have a massive wedding that you cannot even afford?!
    Just go to the registrar's general and have a court wedding. You can have a small reception afterwards for close family and friends!

    Efua

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  71. P1-I feel sorry for you and your now ex husband... all the wasted years, emotional trauma and money. Stella is saying you should have had a heart2heart with him. Couldn't he have done the same? Knowing he was the 'causer'. E get some way wey person go follow u talk,u no go know the time wey u go just lash out wetin u no suppose say.
    I pity the man o but he no try at all.
    If u are happy away from him,then by all means keep it that way.By his grace, u'll have ur own tiny patter of feet soon.

    P2-As much as i would like to say u are silly i wont. You are engaged to be married soon. Your man wants u to keep. Wetin remain? u see dick,u de find the one wey get hair abi.2 abortions in a year! if u no fear God,fear ur own life na.
    The way i see it, you seem more concerned with your fairy tale wedding. If you are so worried about ur financial stand biko cut the cost of ur "fairy tale wedding" so u can do something tangible in preparation for the baby. Why u de rush sef if ur pockets never solid wella. I pray for your sake, the baby is okay o. Make e no be say u don deform the poor baby with postinor. Please keep ur baby. With marriage comes responsibilities. Urs just happens to be coming earlier than u planned.

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  72. Wooow, what a world. The 1st poster spent years and money looking for a baby, 2nd poster just got one and wanted to abort. What a world. Please keep the baby. 1st poster : your situation is complex but a man like that doesn't deserve you. You've gotta move on...life goes on.

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  73. Soooooooooooooooo you allowed a STERILE man to slap you.


    Hmmn.

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  74. Poster one im very glad you left your husband. The fact that he knew he was sterile and even tried to apportion the blame on you shows how evil he is. He married you under false presence. I only wish you were able to plan properly and take all your things away. I'm glad you left , Bc he is a bitter and violent man.

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  75. Poster 1 . The marriage was deceitful. Any of such marriage can be annulled, meaning it never existed.

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  76. P2, do check if d foetus is okay, if not do abort. U wont want to break a have a broken child, but if its okay, keep it, u and ur bf wont regret it

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  77. Poster 2, you are engaged and already planning your wedding but you would rather satisfy a fantasy than have a real home. You are not ready for marriage!!!

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  78. Poster 1, your man is evil....everyday for 5 years he watched you suffer....he has no heart and I cannot blame you for leaving...if only he had left his ego ago and confided in you as his wife,..

    You would've covered his shame and found a solution together. ..me, I wouldn't have just left ohhh, I would've called family meeting and let his people know why...evil men everywhere

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  79. Snooping is good joor.
    Atleast it helped you.

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  80. LADY IGO SAID:

    FOLKS, BEING A MISSIONARY'S WIFE, PEOPLE; LADIES MEET ME ON DAILY BASIS FOR COUNSELLING AND PRAYERS. WE MOVE FROM PLACE TO PLACE (PRESENTLY NOT IN THE COUNTRY) . . . SO FOLKS, DO BEAR WITH ME AND THESE TALES . . . AND PLEASE I MEAN IT WHEN I SAY;

    I KNOW SOMEONE . . .

    LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.

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  81. I like this poster. Well mannered and cultured. U mama do good work for ur upbringing thank her.

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  82. Poster 1 hope ur not the pesin am thinkin?hmmm Anna ........????

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  83. I had 1 abortion so many years back and even tho I have gone for confessions I still feel the guilt like it just happened now u want to have a second abortion babes sit ur add down and talk to ur self by ur self

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  84. 1:its a pity u had to marry such a cruel man.marriage should be about honesty but he failed u in that aspect.believe me darling,there are better days ahead for u
    2: I don't really see that as a question.. What do u expect us go tel u?to abort an innocent child?.deep inside u,u knw the right thing so do not turn deaf ears to ur conscience.

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  85. Poster 1 your mata pass me o..I leave for odas to ansa.
    Poster 2, if you dont want to be a murderer dont thonk of touching dat baby.You and your guy enjoyed doing all dat led to it no is d time to face the music..

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  86. @poster 2. i have been through dis 3 tyms. please don't do it. the trauma is terrible. i have prayed and cried and begged for forgiveness but evryday i still find myself crying n begging for forgiveness. dis happened 10 years ago and i cant still forget. am so scared i mite not have kids again. it is terrible. u are blessed the guy still wants to marry u. pls do a small wedding and keep the baby.

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  87. Abortion poster, I am in the same shoes as you although our situations are slightly different. I am married with 2 kids and I have been on contraceptives but somehow I have fallen pregnant.

    My husband has told me if i should attempt to abort the pregnancy then i should also abort myself from the family. Funny right, not that he would even know as I would just pretend to go to work one day and head over to one of the abortion clinics here( I am abroad so its easy peasy here) but I have been having nightmares, the last one I had I saw myself in the graveyard looking for someone. This is the second time I am having dreams of being dead.

    Nobody teach me to just leave myself as I am, that is also my advice for you my dear, if you commit the crime you must do the crime, not literally now but I am sure you know what I mean right.I know its hard cos I was planning to leave work and go back to school, I have lots of clothes which I am yet to launch, I have so many plans and then a baby which I never planned for has come to re-plan everything for me, who am I to say no to God.

    Please accept your fate and move on dear, God be with us both.

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  88. Poster 1: Please walk away, you are not married and can get your marriage annulled, not a divorce bcos your husband knew about his condition but failed to inform you. (deliberate deceit). These men are not loyal, with his attitude and behaviour your life will be a living hell. If you decide to have a child outside he will never love or accept the child. Is this the kind of life you want. Be wise and run for your dear life and sanity. Hugs!

    Poster 2: You are getting married and ur fiancee wants the baby. Dont be silly and disobedient, you are busy thinking about fairy tale wedding instead of how to take care of your unborn baby. Besides whats up with ppl and UNPROTECTED SEX! What were you expecting? Yeye! Kindly wait for the results from the scan and take it from there, no need to jump the gun.

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