Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

Na wah!!!

 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

AGGRIEVED SINGLE MUM

I am a single mother of a ten years old boy,DH is late,died 2007,got married when I was 21.

I met another guy during my finals in school(2011)he's IBO,I am a Yoruba girl,we loved ourselves because he was the only one who accepted me back then,last year I had to relocate to another state but we were still in the relationship,last week,he travelled to his village and I called to ask of his welfare,then a lady picked the phone and said he's his wife and I should stop disturbing him.

I was shocked because this is a man that I had to get a transfer back to Lagos just be sincere with him because he was complaining,I was even the one who packed his suitcase that morning when he was travelling,I  confronted him via bbm chat and he said while I relocated he met an IBO babe and he did his traditional marriage with her last December,and we WERE still together as at last year.

Please note-we had a little disagreement last year December and we made up early this year,even all his friends are telling me he loves me but I am confused.

Dear bvs..please advise me,should I continue or wait till I see him when he comes back.

Aggrieved single mom.

Continue with what?continue with the lies?He is not a truthful man,please move on already.Perhaps you think no one else will accept you because you have a kid right?Nonsense.

Please leave him,dont wait for him to come back,if you have things in his place,move them out before he comes back and move on!

Dont mind his friends,they will be telling the other lady too that she is the only one he loves!

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 NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

DESPERATE SEARCH FOR A CHILD AND DECISIONS PENDING....

I remember in one of the rants I posted how I ‘regretted’ being a good Christian girl who was loyal, faithful and committed to relationships. I was in a relationship for 10 years from my first year at the university to my first love who my friends felt I should leave after I graduated. 

They said he was ‘crawling’ after me because he finished 3 years after I left due to his ‘extra years’,  only for the ‘brother’ to go and impregnate a girl after he got a job in Abuja. I moved on and married a nice man but we discovered after that he had fertility problems. 

My family and close friends advised me to leave but I decided to stay because I expect spouses to have each other’s back through thick and thin. By the time his issue was solved, Docs diagnosed me having endometriosis and I am most times in pain. The only solution recommended for this excruciating pain is hysterectomy.

 I had failed IVF attempts and almost died from hyperstimulation from one of the attempts.  I would love to adopt but DH is vehemently against it and believes we can have kids through surrogacy (eggs and sperm still OK).  

My attempts at adoption from Nigeria have been frustrated by Naija govt, agencies and stringent rules against foreign adoption both in Nigeria and where I live. 

There is a rule against paying for surrogacy where I live and I have not been able to find someone who would surrogate since I can’t openly solicit for one. Going to the US where payment is allowed through an agency is worth my 5 year salary, the money I don’t have now.

 My husband and I are no longer talking or sleeping in the same room due to our arguments on my “unreasonable and over desperate search for a child”. He says he’s not complaining and that I am risking my life by not having the hysterectomy.

 I smell divorce because things have gone downhill. I am thinking of moving back to Nigeria to look for a surrogate or adopt. My family thinks it is a stupid decision since it will be difficult to get a job if I come back and I am not business savvy.

 Husband can leave if he wants but I want have a child to call my own. I feel stupid for not leaving at a much younger age, Christian or not.

What do I do? Please be kind in your advice. I am so sensitive right now and at my wits end.

Legal adoption in Nigeria is not easy as well ooooh..There is a blog visitor who got a baby after years of waiting,I am sure if she reads this she will advise you in anonymous mode.I you do not have a job in 

Nigeria you are not even qualified to adopt and no one will agree to surrogacy.

First things first....if your life is at risk,what is stopping you from having the OPERATION?

Health is wealth,take care of your condition before thinking of bringing a child into your life.

GOD bless you and guide your steps.