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Monday, May 16, 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

Two young Ladies..One is 24years old and the other is 26years old but both have a different mind set...








NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MONEY MONEY MONEY!!!

Stella a friend introduced me to your blog. Am so glad i met you. My name is Onyii 24 yrs old. Am in a relationship with a man who proposed to marry me, whom am presently confused with becoz of the recent issues we both are having. 

I have been dating him for over 5 months and he doesn't provide my needs. He only gives me when i demand so much for a particular thing. I told him i was no longer interested becoz he didn't make any impact in my life since i met him, i still felt alone becoz i took care of all my needs myself. He pleaded with me that he is not a stingy man that he just has some financial constraint and promises to be providing for me when he gets back on his feet again, he told me this after i told him i was no longer interested. 

My question is, could it be possible dat he is broke or could it be that he is naturally stingy. The thing is,i am really scared if he's going to provide even after he gets his financial issues settled becoz he hasn't been providing from the onset.


You are too young for this life's path you have towed....He hasnt impacted on your positively?have you impacted on him?why do some people just look for relationships that pay their bills?
Sweetheart you didnt even mention anything about love?Hmmmm.
Let the others advice you but before i round up let me ask....Hope you are in school or went to school?GO AND WORK AND EARN YOUR OWN MONEY AND PROVIDE FOR YOURSELF....even me that is married,i earn my own money and cannot remember the last time i waited for any man to buy me anything,my hubby hides money in my wallet becos i dont bother him.
Respect yourself money wise in any relationship or marriage!


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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
  CHRONICLE OF A HOPELESS YOUNG WOMAN

Good Day Stella.

Thank you for the good work you have been doing through your blog. 

 I do not even know where to start this, but I let me start from here, I am a 26 year old girl with a troubling accommodation problem. I seriously have an accommodation problem I need to rent my own house and and move away far from my aunties before I do any of the crazy thoughts in my head. Let me give you a little tip of the iceberg of my life. it's going to be a bit scattered because I do not know how to tell stories so, your red pen is welcome, and it's just a brief of my life.

I have never had a home, my grand father before he died tried his best to give me a sense of belonging but despite his efforts, it never worked out. All my life, I have moved from one aunty's house to the other, basically, I was the maid of the family, because once this person have need of a help, am shipped to where she stays, and if the person is through or tired of my services, I get sent to the other person, and that is how the circus has been going, I went to 6 secondary schools.  you would ask if I do not have my own family, my father, mother or siblings. well, I think I do have a family, my is alive but does not want me right from when I was a baby, she is not even in good terms with her family, I spent all my life with my maternal grand parents and aunty's, I do not know about a father, I have never heard a hush word about him from anyone in my maternal home, and despite my diggings, I could not find anything. my mother was never part of my life. 


I never even knew I had a mother till the day I first saw her, I was in primary six then, and I can remember that no one told me who she was, my instinct just told me so. You can imagine how excited I was after confirming it and I so wanted to have that mother daughter relationship, but she did not, and disappeared again. 

Am a graduate, thanks to one of my extra ordinary good aunt and my grand father who insisted that I must go to school, because I was a very intelligent girl (I can't say for now) trust me, if not for my grand father's stubborn insistence, my other aunty's would have made sure I dropped me from school. I recently started working, I earn N30k which is hardly enough for my feeding and transport fair for the month, I do it because I want to be leaving the house everyday and not be reminded of my age and my mates accomplishment and how sending me to school was a waste of money and at my age I do not have a suitor or husband. 

I do not know the last time I bought a shirt for myself. I graduated in 2010 from one of the best federal schools that I got in miraculously because no one believed I could get admission, infact they prayed against it and when I got it, my grand father insisted I must go to school, he trained me himself with the help of that my extra ordinary good aunty. The others had rich husband's but they could not be bothered. Surviving in school was hell, because maybe a whole semester, I would be sent not up to 10k, I would manage with food stuffs my extra ordinary aunt makes sure I always came back to school with and some of my friends who because I cook well decided to make me their cook, so they bring money for foodstuffs and we cook. 

I pulled through university Stella by God's grace, because in my final year, my grand dad fell seriously ill and could not send me money again and my extra ordinary good aunt's business crumbled and never picked up, I always thank God that he allowed my last school fees be paid before that tragedy struck. since graduation, I have not been able to get a good job. I have gone to a thousand and more interviews, with no luck, am sure that 80 of companies in Nigeria and Lagos precisely have my CV in their data base.

I have been taking care of myself financially fully since after my graduation, how I do it, I do not know. I just know that am alive. my aunties that have money have never said, how are you doing, or sent me money even when I went for service and was stuck in a strange land with no help, my calls and plea for help financially help fell on deaf ears, but somehow, I managed nearly got myself killed but I pulled through. I am this kind of overly shy and timid girl, even a child can win me in an argument because I hardly talk. I prefer to coil in my shell and not be noticed, all these because of the training I was given. I have not been able to keep a man in my life, absolutely no luck in that area. 

At times, I wonder if God is playing a chess game with my life. 

The thing is, I need to get away from my family, they say your family either takes you higher or brings you down, this one's are determined to bring me down and useless and make me dependent and be a servant to their kids. My aunty I stay with presently has decided to make my life a hell for me, in cooperation with the others,  not that she and her sisters have not been doing that all my life, but it has gotten so worse that all I think about is suicide these days, I have always had that thought, but it's beginning to flash through my mind a lot daily and am scared. My grand father is long dead, but I owe it to my extra ordinary good aunt to take care of her, and it kills me that I can not now that she really need help.

Am pleading, I want to be free, and the only way I can do that is if I stay far from them.  I need to rent an apartment of my own, and I do not even have 5k savings. I need to be free from their psychological  torments. I know if am alone, am going to make progressive steps with my life. Where I currently work is in Festac, so I was hoping with help to get a self contain in that area so, I would not be spending much on transport and be able to save enough to make impact a little and for the next rent.

PLEASE I NEED HELP
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Thanks


My Dear I pray you find help.Please this young woman is really broken and was scared that her number be displayed becos of those who cuss out anyone who put their info out,I had to convince her.We have been on this matter for a while now.
Please stay away from bringing her down if you cannot help....




165 comments:

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    1. I try forcing myself to read this chronicle, but I just can't

      Mayb later

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    2. Poster 2, I pray God receive help from this platform. Some people are so callous, they want only them to succeed in life.

      Poster1, relationship is not about money biko.

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    3. Oh my God poster 1, you need to know yourself worth for crying out loud how can you just depend on someone who isn't married to you or your father to spend all he has on you? Can't your work and take care of yourself? So because he isn't giving you money as you want he is now stingy? How many times have you given him any gift or tried to spend on him? You better change this your mindset, people like you are the reason why men think all ladies want from them is money. Please leave him so he can find someone that will appreciate even the little he gives her.

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    4. P1 .are you a prostitute?? Why naija babes always about money???thats y dem dey kill una anyhow .
      Foolish lazy whore ..
      Go get a life bitch . Why must man pay your bills?Golddigers here and there

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    5. Poster1 no comment for you because you are not wise

      Poster2 be grateful you had a grandad and an aunt that helped you through school, some had nobody and had to sell pure water or Ddo bricklaying jobs to meet up. Instead of complaining about your aunts using you why not be grateful you have a roof over your head? You earn 30k some graduates earn 15k. Be grateful be prayerful be thankful and watch God do wonders. If they're using you as a househelp do your chores and pray to God in your heart to help you don't come here begging. Stay with them until prince charming comes, it's people like you that excel in life, you've started well don't end up being a beggar. When your rent expires who'll pay? SDK? Then you would have to sell your body. Be wise

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    6. Poster 2, stay put with those ur rich aunties, use their old clothes, use their old Peruvian hair. Dress well, make up well. Stroll around d neighbour hood evenings & weekends,follow them 2 church. I bet u will get urself a rich hubby.
      Don't be silly, now DT ur supposed to reap where u sowed, u want to move out.
      I'm shocked u hvnt gotten pregnant for one of ur rich neighbours since, babe! U are slow mbok.

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  2. Poster1: despirado
    Poster2: may u fine help you re looking for.

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    1. Poster one lazy ass bitch. It is because if people like you that make guys believe, that most women are after money. You won't go and look for work or something that will be yielding u money, instead of depending on a man, silly parasite.

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    2. Poster one: its your type that give women a bad name. Pls get off your ass and go look for a job. At your age you're depending on a man. Shame on you.

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  3. Poster one what have you done for him? You too has not contributed positively to his life.

    You better get something doing or you walk away. You are a lazy small girl. Get away osho free like you.

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  4. Poster 1, run from him.
    Don't marry a poor man. He will take out his frustration on u later.
    There is absolutely nothing wrong in a man providing for his family. That is why he is a man. As long as the wife is not a yeye woman

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    1. @ James I am sure someone typed this for you! But if you did type this yourself, Congratulations oo!!!

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    2. D girl na him family James?

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    3. James, I agree totally! Why do Nigerian women suddenly have this "Good. Wife complex"

      For heavens sake, value can be financial and otherwise. Stella, your husband even takes the initiative to sneak money into your wallet because he knows that as a woman, you need it. As a man, he'll give you. Nobody is saying you should take men as a bank but love is sacrifice. Why do you buy expensive things for your kids, when they ask and when they don't. It's because you know that nice things will make them happy and give them good memories.

      Please give me a break with all this talk about being independent. A man should do his job! Poster, run. If he can't even buy you cheap gifts now that he's broke, will he buy expensive ones, if he becomes rich?

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    4. Congrats James! I was on the lookout for your typo. if you stop that, am sure the comments session will be kinda boring

      Poster 1, why not open bank and operate men savings account

      Poster 2, God will bless your hustle, you are close to breakthrough

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  5. Poster 1 get a job and stop waiting for a man to pick your lazy ass.
    5 months and you want the man to sell his kidney to feed you, he is even nice and pleasing for your patience. If you had other richer men offering you wouldn't be here asking us silly questions.
    I bet all you know and want in life is for a man to take care of you.
    You have no shame
    He is proposing to marry you indeed.
    If he isn't good enough for you because he can't provide for you financially as you want, then leave him for some other girl that will stay long enough with him to build with him with the little he has and not squander it.


    Poster 2 the Lord is your strength.
    I don't think this is a chronicle though. It could have come up in IHN.
    This one my comments are not getting approved,let me be quiet before boss lady would come for me.
    Pims mouth.

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  6. Poster two is only God that can help you, prayer is the masters key.

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  7. Poster 1
    Leave if you can't cope, only you knows where and how the shoe pinches.

    Poster 2
    I pray help locates you. It is well

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  8. @Poster 1, let's hope it's beacuse of the financial constraint he's facing that is making him behave that way, but be very sure he's not a stingy man before you marry, so don't rush to marry him my dear

    @Poster, God will send you helper and may he send me helper too.




    *Larry was here*

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  9. Poster 1,
    Let him go jare...there are many fishes in the water!...
    Someone that didn't share the little he had with you...
    Mtcheeeww....

    Poster 2,
    Your written English sucks for a graduate...well,lemme not yab you much because of your fragile heart!...
    My advise for you is to get a rich boyfriend that would be taking care of you!...
    Don't tell me you are a good girl cos being a good girl don't pay...

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    1. Na so them de get rich boyfriend?? E for good oh.

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    2. Indeed a robust animal, that's what you are. Kai

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    3. You don't disappoint at all, I knew you'd say something stupid. You're talking about written english like you understand english perfectly yourself.
      Go and sit in one corner and think of your bitter life, you never have anything positive to say while you're at it try and lick some honey to sweeten your miserable and bitter soul

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    4. Smarty pants! Why don't you correct your own written English before finding fault in someone else's?

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    5. Are you sick?

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    6. You're such a bad egg in the house... stinking up the whole place!

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    7. Sorry to say but you are everything wrong in a woman starting from your useless name

      How can you say that well articulated piece sucks...do you write any better?

      Moron like you with your useless and senseless advice.

      You are probably the problem of Nigeria..

      Ode buruku

      Stella please publish this mumu needs to see this

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    8. Chineke! Linda complaint about someone's grammar. The world is truly coming to an end!

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    9. See who is talking abt spoken English like as if u she can even speak correct English to save her life.

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    10. It has just been confirmed that you are fantastically stupid.

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  10. Poster2: tell us about ur runs, if it was paying well, u wldnt write this lenghty chronicle oh, and wat do u mean by " you don't know how uve been surviving? Ofcus men hv been shinning ur congo for money!
    I find it difficult to help ur type, cus an average nigerian lady wlnt help anyone... She don buy brazillian hair finish?

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    1. Don't imprint your personality on someone else. The fact that you sleep with men for money doesn't mean everyone does.

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    2. It's goes to show how ignorant and foolish you are. The issue at hand now is she needs help and you come here ranting like a fool

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    3. Nd may God punish u for that . Who need ur stupid help. Ur type like an idiot. M sure u dnt even have to help urself. Bloody hypocrite. An average nigerian Lady wld help
      Not everyone is like u. Idiat!!!!!

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    4. New eve God bless u!!!!! U think bcos u r lose evry1 must b like u, rubbish!!!!

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  11. @1, Olosho loading.
    @2, get out of ur shell and mix up with sharp girls, how can u not ve a man in ur life, ur grand pa & aunty managed to see u thru sch & u are still complaining, do wat ur mates are doing, I hate dull girls, ur family back ground has notin to do with ur foolishness, u are not smart.

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    1. She needs to sharp up, family fun try send u go school,mix up with people anyhow anyhow nd think!!!! Poster 1, d tin is ur kind of mentality is common among Nigerians, abroad partners share bills nd woman no ds wait for man nd that's y Stella who knows Wat am talking about gave u that reply. What are u bringing to d table yourself ? See as u de give yourself headache because man no give u money lol.. I know a man should provide but don't depend on him either or send chronicle because of that !! Develop yourself too.. Am sure if your friend ask u for money, u can't bring cos u don't have

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    2. *family don try...*no de wait

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  12. At poster 2, God will meet you at the point of your need and send help your way. But if a house is rented for you, and a one year rent is paid for you by a kind soul here, how do you intend to pay continuous rent over the years?

    I will advise that you save very well now. If you used to save e.g 2% of your rent before, please increase the percentage so that you have enough by the end of the rental year to renew. Yes the psychological trauma you are in right now is really not healthy for anyone but sincerely speaking, you will pay heavy bills you never thought of if you decide to be on your own. Bills like rent, security, water rate, feeding, personal upkeep, cleaners fee and so on. Help will come your way in Jesus name but start saving, so you can continue from where your helpers extended help stops.

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    1. Can you help with the email I can send chronicles to?

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  13. Here's my dilemma...my man is 'too perfect'. He doesn't drink, smoke, go out or given to womanising. I have access to everything and not once have I found him wanting. He's fine, 6'3, intelligent and financially sound.
    I want to at least for once see other women around him and him turning them down. I want him to go out...go home late even once, get drunk... just do somethnig silly once in a while.He's too damn perfect!

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    1. Then...when girls approach him .you will start screaming ..man snatcher. .mssteeew if you are serious but his info out there and see if he won't waltz outta ya life

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    2. Are u dating Jesus christ???

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    3. I can bet the relationship is still very young.

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    4. Hahahahahaha I pity u.

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    5. If i were u i'd be more scared, its not possible to be that perfect.... Something huge is loading.

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    6. When he starts don't complain carry yaself by yaself go find trouble always pray to God to leave him d way he is,my boo is like that buh have seen him telling girls he doesn't want them he is cute sha, just pray and leave him ohhhh

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    7. I could say the same for my husband, xcept for the height being 5"9..... Yeah, i could type what u just typed 6yrs ago, now he's a totally diffrent man i loved n married, if i wsnt the patient wife, the marriage wld have collapse 3yrs ago. Just keep pushing his buttons here n there to see a glimpse of what he'd eventually turn into, of u can. They're mostly wolves in sheep clothing.

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    8. Insecurity has built house on top your brain..
      Why do you need to put pressure on a decent man because you're not like him.
      Don't you read the chronicles of other women?!!!
      Please leave him to look for someone that deserves him because you don't.
      Please Visit Ikeja underbridge, the kind of men you want are plenty there..
      SMH.

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    9. See your life ? I don't think you are normal at all.

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    10. He's GAY...and I don't mean happy o! He is G.A.Y

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    11. U wld soon get wat u wish for. Just chill. Devil.girls re on their way

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    12. He is gay... That's exactly how my friend's husband is, only to discover that he is gay. He is bin perfect to cover that up.

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    13. Mumu! Millions are praying for that kind of man here you are complaining. My hubby is exactly as described and I a was always looking for ways to make him pissed off both he never losses his temper.When I read and hear what people go through in the name of marriage I always kneel and thank God.Such men are rear to find.Thank God I didn't listen to my ex when he came begging I would have left this sweet guy for another chick to marry.Yes he was even a virgin."covers face"

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    14. Ungrateful babe. Send him my way na. Rubbish

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    15. Pls dash mi na....mbok!

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    16. Is that what you call perfect?

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    17. @atheist. The relationship is 2yrs, did the introduction last week.
      @Nwaamaka...Get you bipolar, lying, low self esteem smeared life fixed before you can talk about what perfect is.

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  14. Poster one, if u wanna eat a toad, eat a juicy fat one. u wan form miss independent from now?
    Abeg o, join team tax collector even if u have ur own mulla, collect, collect, n collect.

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    1. Don't get it twisted. Please learn to also digest after reading.

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    2. Portharcourt Grand ashawo will soon open ur yansh here watch out.

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    3. Money money Money very important. If your boo is not a giver no need sticking around.

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  15. I'm not trying to bring poster two down o

    But I feel is because of the new bill passed on this blog "some giveaway money to be shared among jobless graduates " that's why she sent this in.

    If truly you are true, may help locate you and may God shower you with his blessings.

    Poster 1 : please are you a disabled human being? I see future housewife in you. You type no dey like stress themselves but sabi chop money.

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    1. Nwa Amaka... Try what harder? Are you okay?

      Better respect yourself and think about the new personality you would showoff. Empty vessel.

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  16. Poster two, sometimes u need to find ya momma. Shey if u become a big shot later, she would crawl out n say 'that's my daughter'.

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    1. Will finding her mother sort out her condition ?

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  17. Very stupid POSTER 1. AT 24 U still depend on a man for ur needs. Foolish Fool. What have u brought into that relationship apart from sex? What can that man point to that you've helped him achieve? This stupid sense of entitlement is the reason most men don't value your kind. The man is probably weak & that's why he's still begging u. What are u bringing up the table in ur relationship? Yet u come here to say he hasn't impacted anything in ur life. He owes u nothing!!! The least u could do is be appreciative. No-one owes u anything at ur age. U better take responsibility for urself, & stop dwelling in ur classlessness and begging attitude. Go find urself a job or handwork & earn ur income apart selling pussycat in ur so-called relationship. Good riddance to bad rubbish!!!

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    1. Egbon cool down. *offers glass of water*

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    2. She dey see the man like her fada.

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    3. D reason y poster 1 is vexed is because she has gbenshed the guy.If not she wunt be expecting him to pay all her bills,she feels d guy is indebted to her cos. My dear calm down ehn no be so.Take small small dey lick nsala soup.

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  18. My rules-Be A Boss,Date A Boss,'Build An Empire*as much as I love to be pampered and spent for by man,I also love to make my own money even if its not that much..for the 2nd time!!I'm with stella on this..what do you do apart from waiting for a man to invest on you?ole ni e..see ya small mouth like the cemented moi-moi that producer posted..be independent and have something to offer,only then can you meet a true Boss
    Poster 2-i pray help locate you..its well

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  19. Poster 1: You have no idea what a relationship really is..... you just need a guy to subsidize your life! Impact this, impact that, you are just another basic longthroat.

    I am all for a guy not being stingy but, girl you are the piproblem here.
    Your guy who proposed marriage within 5 months of dating has financial constraints and you have no idea....... are you guys in a "have you eaten" relationship or what. You really have no business being in a relationship, grow up so you can add value to people in your life.

    Just for patronising sake.......watch him closely, dig deep, read your bible and pray hard. You could wait forthe singles version of war room.......bla bla bla......SMH.
    Your story is irritating in an obvious gold-digging way.


    Poster 2:I developed extra-ordinary patience trying not to be extra-ordinarily confused. You have life, sound health, and despite your travails and the needlessly drawn out narration of them.......to touch soft hearts i guess...... you got educated, you have a living mother somewhere....w.ho could change for the better tomorrow, and you have a job, despite how small the pay. What i mean is, you have something, upyou are better than a lot of people........believe me.

    The suicide storyline is heavy and overplayed.....but i guess that is how you feel bow. Do not kill yourself pls!
    Hopefully, extra-ordinary help will find you.

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  20. I know God will pick up call poster 2.poster 1 u no get issue

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  21. Stella I am glad you are an independent woman that is great. But I don't think that poster 1's concerns should be dismissed. I think the man is stingy, poster run. A man should be able to take care of a woman, no matter how little. I have learnt from experience that a generous man will share with you out of the little he has. A stingy man will have nothing but excuses. If you did not ask he would have kept quiet to continue gbenshing you for free. Such men are wicked. I advise you to leave, except you find he genuinely doesn't have, but at least he ought to be generous with his time and affection and concerned for your well-being. Also like Stella said concentrate on how you can earn more to better take of yourself. But the truth is no matter how rich a woman is, she wants her man to take care of her.

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    1. Get away you ! So the guy should be footing all her responsibility because she is handicapped right ? She no even talk if she love the guy, all she is looking at is the size of his pocket.

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    2. U all should reason with poster1,she is not saying d man should foot all her bills all she is saying is at least he should be able to buy her tinz,he his claiming he his broke and he want to put d ring on her finger so aw will they survive.

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  22. Stella don't be fooled, this whole story is fake. It's nt straight. You know in life you can be able to fool just one person but can't fool a crowd. This story is so fake, my instinct never fails me. It is a whole lot of money she is going to get out of this scam message. Please bvs be wise.

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  23. Poster 2,may God provide you with the help you're looking for. So sorry for what you going through...the Lord is your strength.

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  24. I haven't read chronicles 2, but Stella dearie, Gbam, I love the advice you gave poster 1. Women should work hard and be financially sound. I do not depend on anyone, man or woman to pay my bills. I work and earn my monthly pay and if I start recounting the bills I pay, most people won't believe me. At my age, do I expect my mum to be feeding me? Hell to the NO. God help us all. Even if I have to work 10 jobs, as long as it is flexible and fits my schedule. I am always ready.

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    1. But you are in ur mid 40s, so urs is justifiable. B4 nko at ur age who wan come take care of you? Except horseband but u neva marry so wait

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  25. Poster one: At ur age ur mates are building careers, but u're here bringing only pussy to the table and forming beggar with choice. E go soon over u. I'm female and at ur age I was earning my own money & providing for my family.

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    1. Through sleeping around. I know your type.

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  26. Poster 2,you are not alone.I'm in the same boat as you just slight differences.we are even age mates,but I know my parents just that they moved on with their lives after a broken marriage and wouldn't care if I'm alive or dead.I just pray a lot begging God to settle me.I've seen it all in this life I didn't beg anybody to bring me to.I will be listening to advices here too cos I really need it.

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  27. OMG poster 2, God will surely provide a helper to you. I can imagine what your going through but thank God they didn't push you into marriage but that's what they do in many cases. Don't worry you will survive.

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  28. Poster 1: msheeeew.
    Poster 2: may help come your way dear. I can imagine what you are going through.

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  29. Poster 2 l pray that your helper locate u..it is well dear.
    This too shall pass over .
    Your testimony is loading.

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  30. Poster 1 you be gold digger.
    Poster 2 may God help you find help.

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  31. Dear poster2, i feel ur pain n understand ur plight quite perfectly. i am in ur kind of shoe. mine is that i even have a father who accepted my much later in life but he threw me out of his house wen i cud not get myself a husband within his stipulated time frame. it was not easy coping up with life without a job or barely a job that cant pay ur house rent let alone other bills. i was humiliated and made to feel like a no body. thanks to God i got a job last April that if nothing else can take care of my basic needs even though i have not been paid yet. The Almighty who did it for me will also do it for u. Trust in Him, it might tarry a while but do not give up.

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  32. Poster 1.. you just started 5 months and you have started complaining. You all wants men to validate you girls. Dont you see how the economy is. Everyone is now stingy. Am sure the man wants to be sure of his place before giving out.
    If you cannot take it leave the relationship. I hope you have not allowed him to start gbenshing you like James will say.

    Poster 2... I pray God you get the help you needed. Families bring down or lift up. I pray God send helpers your way. Just be rest assured that things will work well for you.

    Dont give up on yourself.

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  33. Poster 1, marry him....we await another Chronicles.

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  34. Poster 1. You will tell me if you're disabled or handicapped that you are waiting for a man to care of your financial needs.

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  35. Poster2 I can relate to your story. May God grant you your desires. In Jesus name. All the best.

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  36. Poster 1 u b agboro and oloi burukun,all dis lazy girls wy dy find men wy go cari dem and dia family for head,wat do u mean he doesnt take care of ur needs dat means u want too Mari him bcos of money den wen d moni finishes u will send chronicles saying he beat u up blah blah nd u want 2 leave d marriage criminals roaming around everywia

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  37. Only a fool and an idiot will curse out poster 2. Her post just made me sober. May we never abuse the privileges we have

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    1. To scam u will be so so easy.

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    2. Yes dere are a lot of scam artist but dis story doesn't look like 1. I am not a judge of original or fake stories but I don't think u shld spoil d chances for this poster. All u can say is investigate properly before u assist her.

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  38. Only a fool and an idiot will curse out poster 2. Her post just made me sober. May we never abuse the privileges we have

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  39. Poster 2.my dear God will bless you.Good things are coming your way

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  40. Please whoever has the capacity should help Poster 2. Thank you. As for Poster 1, reading ur Chronicle jst got me pissed. You need God's intervention in ur life. Mtchewwww

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  41. Poster 2, may help locate u In Jesus Name...but why is it that some aunties and uncles could be so evil? I hope we don't have such people as bvns; people that maltreat their maids, driver, nieces, nephews etc

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  42. Poster one you are a fucking miserable good for nothing leech...Stella gave you the best advice now run along

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  43. #1 - Please go and work.

    #2 - May God sends help to you asap. Keep talking to God. Some rich aunties' blood are hotter than boiling water. God will see you through Poster. CHeer up and trust in HIM more.

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  44. Stella, a man that cannot give his partner 1/2 kobo or even 1/4 kobo from the 1 kobo he has is to be avoided seriously. Just thank God for your husband, because he is a good man.

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    1. Gbam!!!!! Madam abeg even if every1 is yabbing u and calling u a gold digger don't agree for him ooo. Dt man is stingy and not broke anytin. A man who gives wld still gv u sumtim no matter how small. This how u ppl wld see signs and chuk head bcos u want to bear Mrs .

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    2. God bless you both. Stingy is stingy.

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  45. Poster 1 E b lyk say Drogba dey ur head,stay there and be looking for rich guys so far ure not disabled get a job so you can takia of yourself. Poster 2 pls i beg you in the name of God don't ever think of suicide, struggle your way to the top so your wicked family members can see how God has helped you in the journey of life. I once sold amala at ikeja while growing up, so please suicide is not an option i pray God will arise for you and settle your case on time.

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  46. Poster 1 at your age you are either studing or learning something meanable for your life, stop depending on men for money. Poster2 God will take you out of this situation.

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  47. Geez, i wrote that mighty error-ridden piece...... wow!
    My opinions still remain for poster 1......poster 2, i am sympathetic here despite how that came out. Goodluck!

    Goes back to sleep......cold lazy day.

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  48. Poster 2 :God has big plans for you.I cried reading this cos we are both the same age and face almost the same challenges.In my case,my father was never there for us.My mom brought i and my sibling up with the help of my aunties.My aunties are wonderful and i pray for them everyday.They have seen me through university in a reputable university in Africa and we are in the process of starting my masters in the United States.I know there are no jobs and i know how depressing it can be.I cant ask any of them for anything cos they have really tried for me so na small small hustle person dey carry chop.Just stay strong and never put your hand into anything that'll make you ashamed.God bless you and keep you.I dont have much but i'll support the little way i can.

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  49. poster2.. your story touch me oooo, I pray god will send help your way

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  50. Poster one !. You are just a piece of shit, hope you know that. You just met a guy in five months and you want to put all your burden on him. Is he your father ?
    What if you don't have a man won't you take care of yourself ? You better go and get something doing and find a way to take care of your petty self.
    You are not even a wife material, I just pity that guy that's dying on top of your matter. If na me, I go just gbensh you tire, throw you out from the window once I know all you want us money. Oloshi.

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    1. Look at you. Stingy bastard. You're saying she shouldn't have any expectations of a man who wants to marry her? I pity who go marry you. You're not husband material.

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  51. poster2 i know and understand a little about what you are going through because i have been there,i lived with so many greedy aunties while my mother was away in Europe, i am still there in the sense that i still stay with my aunty in an uncomfortable living situation,most times i just want to disappear for sometime,im working now and saving up so i can move out .my plan b is to find my way out of this country where i wont have to see or have anything to do with any of them lol .you have to surround yourself with good friends ,be patient and dont let your situation turn you into a bitter person.
    Help will locate you.

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    1. @Anita, ENOUGH OF JARE!
      Abusing your aunties!
      Your own mother that is in Europe and don't give 2 kobo about your life nko?
      You are living in a free house and eating free food, and you are complaining? Won't you do chores if you are oj your own or in your morher's house?

      Poster 2, if your story is not a scam, I sincerely pray that the God of the fatherless and motherless will locate you through a helper. BUT, if this is scam, I invoke the wrath of God that sent the 10 plagues to Egypt to visit you! Say AMEN.

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  52. Exactly my thought. If you can't help her please don't call her to rain abuses on her. That you have is because of God's grace.

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  53. Hmmm @ Poster 1. Money money money???? Is that all you are focused on within the 5 months you've dated this man? How about finding out more about him and what he is about? You come across as someone who is in it for all you can get.You NEED a job.

    @ poster 2. Help is near do not faint and give up.

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  54. James James James how many times have I called you? Stop making me laugh biko. Haba can't you be nice for once.

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  55. James James James how many times have I called you? Stop making me laugh biko. Haba can't you be nice for once.

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  56. Poster 1 :I used to be of the school of thought that love conquers all but na lie.Get that money.On the other hand,things might be bad for him.5 months is too short to start making demands.You should allow him to use common sense to do the one he can.I dated somebody for a year plus and i was just the understanding girlfriend,instead i spent my money buying him gifts.One gift i no see in return.A friend of mine was saying how her 'stingy' boyfriend gave her 150k instead of 250k she asked for,i just put hand for head.All hands are not equal i know but men should make little effort.Send your babe airtime once in a while,give her money to make her hair/nails etc.Women,buy your men gifts,wrap it and write a note saying how much you appreciate everything including the little things and he will strive to do more.The men that receive and refuse to do well are just blood sucking demons

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    1. If 5 months is too short to make demands, its also too short for him to be talking marriage.

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  57. Me hehn, am at a crossroad, can't even concentrate at work..After getting out of a four years relationship that was smeared with abuse and control issues, I decided nigerian men are trouble and am done with men.I even sed I wil marry a white guy when am ready. I stayed single and celibate for over a year just minding my work till early dis year when I met a guy thru my family frend.. He had told me about his frend and colleague he wanted me to meet who is although a divorcee due to circumstances,a really great guy but I wasn't that interested at all. Until I met dis guy and he's been d best ting that has happened to me in recent times ..he's amazing, knows how to treat a woman, a perfect gentleman and we click like av neva done with anyone b4, as much as I tried to fight it, I fell hard for him.. I have been enjoying my new found bliss jejely until last weekend wen I found out his age and I almost fainted.I initially assumed that he wil be in my family frends age group(mid to late 30s), only for me to find out he is in his early fourties. I am 26, how do I cope with this? Isn't d age gap absurd? I don't want to be a widow early in life or put my kids thru any wahala.. What about health issues like erectile dysfunction etc that affect men from their fourties..I av cried my eyes out, he thinks a future for us is possible..he is serious about me but I dnt know wot am going to do..he doesn't look or act his age at all, hes soo cool and we av loads of interests in common..am stil in shock but apparently he found out about our age difference before I did and he said he was worried I would react like this.. Pls has anyone been in dis situation? I need mature counselling and advice. Why does life and love have to be able unfair?

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    1. Do you love him truly? If yes, please go ahead. Age is just a number. My cousin's husband is about 20yrs older and they are doing sweetly well. About death, we all will die someday. Younger peeps die early so too? Just pray hard and get your facts about his first marriage before you swin deeper. Do not let his "lovey doviness" blindfold you. Men like that gat experience in treating women very very well. Should incase you say yes and marry him, treat his kids well if he has any. My one cent. Hmmmnnn! I am tired of typing.

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    2. @anno 16.50,All the things you mentioned can happen to a guy in his 20s,Erectile dysfunction & death issue is not by age.Enjoy your relationship & stop worrying about things you have no power over.

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  58. Poster 2: Go out and mix up with people. Why are you subjecting yourself to pity ? I hate reading stuff like this.
    Get out of your shell and rebrand yourself and stop the story telling.
    Thank God you are a graduate, please behave like one.

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  59. RHI that one Ogechi, 25 years old that lives in Abuja is a 'husband snatcher' in the making. My cousins fiancée just returned from the USA on a visit. The chic's elder brother is his friend and this guy seniors her with like 14 years o...she bumped into him at the airport in Lagos and the innocent guy na, using that "small girl family-friend" eye to look at her, innocently exchanged numbers because it was so good to see her(or so he thought) after seeing her last when she was about 10yrs old. That's how she started calling 6 times in a day telling him ever since she saw him she couldn't stop thinking of him. The dude made it clear that he has a fiancée and is getting married very soon. You know what she said? "How come you are getting married to Someone else and not me?" He don't think she was serious and shoved it off. She persisted, he deleted her number after noticing that she's up to something, but she still kept calling even though it was obvious he was avoiding her like a plague. He even shouted and cursed at her a day b4 he returned to USA cos he couldn't take it anymore... Now the guy is back in U.S, madam Ogechi got his U.S. number somehow and started telling him she sees that he loves his woman and doesn't want to get in between them but she really likes him and she doesn't mind being his 2nd wife.Na this one shock me pass...so much for not wanting to come in-between them. What's wrong with girls dese days? And I hear she's from a decent, morally upright home.
    Decoders epp... Clue: she has a certain friend in Lagos named Betty. How can a 25 year old girl be so desperate and have such a plan for her life because she see fine bobo from America... Girls are evil o, I know men and their philandering ways but the way some girls hunt men down is something to worry about. Her persistence is what annoys me...I know she will continue even though he has threatened to involve her family, I'm doing this so Ogechi and girls like her will see and have a rethink. Do you really think u can get happiness from coming Inbetween a happy couple in love, esp when the man doesn't even send you? Why don't u focus on finding true love and pray God favors you? Na wa sha!

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  60. Am moved to tears by poster two.as a guy,my twin sis and I faced something not so different.
    We became close to our maker and broke even.

    Be more open my dear.God can send help to you through a man who would still not want to manipulate you.or a woman ,anyone.

    I have given money to many ladies I didn't even go to visit once.

    You can simply walk up to anyone you perceive is rich.whether or not you know them.tell them your plight.

    Before then pray to God for favor,and he will give you a voice that no man can gainsay,a boldness that no human can withstand.

    Launch out my dear after praying be bold as a Lion. There are many good people that God has sent to his children.

    Don't let depression take your life,
    LAUNCH OUT.
    BOLDNESS UNTO YOU IJN

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  61. Poster 2.. I dont know what to tell u, but u can help urself by being more social. U went to a university and u have no friends? Na wa oo. God help us.

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    1. Honestly! Poster 2 I have seen nd heard about girls that would even approach people they feel are rich to help them, even if na to stand for outside company sef

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  62. @ poster 2; I pray God helps you not only financially, but also out of that poverty mentality. First of all, your extended family do not owe you anything; your mom and dad gave up the responsibility of looking after you. Have you ever stopped to think about what your aunties and co are also going through? Aaaaba why does one always have to feel entitled???

    Notwithstanding, I pray God forgives your aunties and other family members for any evil they have done against you; and I also think you need to ask God for forgiveness for not trusting him enough to do for you since he is your almighty father.

    I pray things work our for you sha

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    1. I like your way of reasoning 17.03.
      Poster 2, you are privileged to have aunties that even care enough to allow you stay with them, when your own mother that gave birth to you don't care an inch about your life, please you should be grateful to your aunties, and go out to socialize.

      You are an adult, they cannot restrict your movements.

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  63. @p1 . You dey mad ni?? Wetin dey do all this naija babes sef??why all ur mentality based on man must pay your bills? Una parents don die? Dat's y u ppl will cry to death in your life cos most are oloshos looking for men to pay your bills ... what abt you making money and feeding him too?white ladies are the best 'cos they never date for no 1s money ,they will rather suport.
    Asewo go get a life and stop looking for man to feed your wretched family.

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  64. Help will come your way, Poster 2

    poster1, please get a life!...do you even work at all? be depending on man for everything tschewww

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  65. And you have a better command of the English language? I picture u so called Queen of blog to be a very fat lonely woman who has life only here on this blog. Abeg shift teeth.

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  66. Poster1, at your age don't settle less than your happiness. If money makes you happy please go for it.
    Poster2, may help locate you.

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  67. WOW!!! Stellacious, you just spoke my mind about the first post. I love you more for that unbiased and well composed comment. As fir the poster you are a dumb ass, continue looking for men that "Has not make positive impact in your life,by giving you money".... you hear!!! I will be here to read another chronicle from you on how you need money to move outta yo husband house.
    POSTER 2: Your tribulations are already over for coming out here. So relax and be gateful.

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  68. Poster 2. M not sure you just need a home. How do u sustain it. Perhaps a lucrative trade. BV's help

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  69. Hmm poster 1 pls do not depend on a man for everything,d moment you do dat that's d very moment u become a slave to him.Tommorow u will still be d same person to send us chronicles saying ur husband is abusive.Borrow urself brain oh

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  70. Poster 2 please make lemonades with the lemons life has given u. U r a graduats which makes life better. Acquire skill on YouTube if u can't afford physical training, explore ur talent or do a biz alongside ur job. No amount is too small, I started a biz with my allowee n I'm makin 5-6 digits weekly. Begging is not the solution because it's never enough to cater for all ur needs.

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    1. Pls tell me the business that gives 5-6 digit weekly... I don't mind starting one...

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    2. Miss Lawyer.. ur English gave email headache..

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    3. Ur English gave me headache

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  71. Poster1: I can relate gosh I hate stingy men

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    1. Ashewo...do you freely dash your toto? You wan squander pesin sweat, e say no and the person is stingy? You're a LEARNER

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  72. Poster 1, you need Jesus. So you want to eat where you have not sowed?









    Comment by BelieveAll.com

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  73. Poster 1, you need Jesus. So you want to eat where you have not sowed?









    Comment by BelieveAll.com

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  74. Poster 2: Getting your own place is probably not the ideal solution for you right now. You need to be empowered. From what I've just read I'm not sure how you will come across in an interview. Where you are staying right now, are they demanding for part of your salary? Are you paying rent? Food? Do you have a bank account? If you make 30k/month I think you should be able to save at least 1000 from it every month. You need to ginger your swagger. Use your current situation to your advantage. I'll recommend learning a trade. Research to see which one will suit you. I'm sure SDK will support you by helping you to promote it once you are done through IHN. I can pay for the training provided you are serious. Your plan to move with nothing saved up has lots of loopholes. You need to have a plan and right now I don't think you do. Suicide wise, gurl stop the self pity. You are comparing yourself to others or your aunts kids. You are you and your path is different. Right now you have shelter, food and a job. Do you know many people right now will do anything for that? Not just in Nigeria. So many homeless people with no bed to sleep on at night, a job to go to in the morning or a cellphone that you obviously have. You have to learn to see the good in your life. So if you kill yourself now all your grandpa n the good aunts effort will have been for nothing. Anyways, when you are ready we can do an IHN to find a good place for you to learn to do something you can supplement your salary with. My email is kejinola@gmail.com and start going to church if you are a Christian and join a group. You need to start interacting with people and have a sense of purpose. If you are not a Christian start going to the mosque, don't know if they have young adult groups, usher, choir and things like that. If they do you should find somewhere to serve.

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  75. Anonymous
    16 May 2016 at 17:03 my thoughts exactly. Am not saying poster 2 does not need help but she feels so entitled. Please go and get a second job, Pray and fast also my dear. May your helper locate you by the special Grace of God.

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  76. Poster2.my story and yours are similar,your situation is even better than mine because you had a grand father,I had nobody.till date I never knew who my father was,Your aunties are merely wicked but mine practice witchcrafts.They move from one witch doctor to another,from Edo to Benin republic to make sure I don't move up in life.These facts they tell me face to face not that I discovered but I survived by believing in God,totally and heartedly holding on to God and never thinking evil towards them.Our neighbours bought me a jam form and the day of the exam i forged sickness because each time was sick iam pushed out of the house to go and die outside.Today iam a lawyer.How did I survived? I took to writing exams for all the runs girls on campus and runaway for ever from every body after youth service.No body can help you but your self.Help from any body is temporarily.Believe nobody owes you nothing.Today I only see these so called aunties on covers of Nigeria "celebrity's" magazines as role models.

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  77. Poster 1...it's about time you come out & admit that you're an ashewo looking for where to dig gold. The worst thing anyone would do is to marry you because your type will hip generational problems on them to cater for.

    Poster 2... You're so incoherent I could barely understand or flow with the chronicle & to think you were bragging of being a graduate & VERY intelligent but can't spell to save your life? Biko next time focus on your issues and NOT self-praise

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  78. Ur story is touching but for a lawyer this English is very poor and let's leave autocorrect. The english is poor.

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  79. Poster two. You write very well. Can you teach? Please consider that.
    What you need is motivation. Listen, life is tough. But you need to break out of all the unpleasant things you have experienced in life and tell those things that they do not define you. You need to forgive all the people that could have helped you but did not. They are not your God, they do not determine your future in any way. Look up to God for renewed strength. Yes. Get closer to him, talk to him, ask him to come into your life and rescue you. Some one told me, "the opposite of fear is faith". I want you to believe, have faith that the future is bright for you: say it out every morning. No matter what is happening in other people's lives, yours will be special. Your race will end in flying colours. Just keep doing the right thing. You will be fine. Always always put your whole trust in God. He never fails. I am a witness to that.

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  80. poster 1 , goan face ur studies and get a life. i am in my 30's not married and i have never depended on a man. i work and take care of my needs. if i marry a very rich man , its a plus. am financially ok.
    poster 2, pls learn a trade like hair plaiting. its very lucretive. get a room around agboju or alakija. festac houses are expensive. i stay there.

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