This is for the Couch section but i do not even know how to introduce it cos I am confused kinda....
Read and discuss if you understand what he means..*wink*
''Good day madam stellz;please if you can put this up in the "couch section" on the blog or any other section;i would really Appreciate..To the point now!
Few days ago;i and some of my course mates were together, discussing about life and then the issue of marriage came up.. We talked at length about it before the issue of "COURT MARRIAGE" came in...we all were trying to find out its true meaning regarding marriage and what it signifies in every union;that is if it depicts "TRUE LOVE" or "LACK OF TRUST" on the other hand..
we all stated our views on that,yet so many were on the side that they can never go for A court marriage;cos it means they are planning for A divorce ahead of time and that simply means the two people involved don't love or trust each other,but are just getting married for the benefits that might spring up at the end,which includes claim over Assets etc.. and that's why/where i need to read other BV's point of view regarding "court marriage".. So my questions are:
1) Before or After the Traditional/white wedding;Would you advice your other spouse for A court wedding??
2) If you are to go for A court wedding;what are your sole intentions?? And what do you plan to achieve at the end??
3) What is the essence of A court marriage?? Does it have anything to do with Trust or True love??
Thanks as you post this!! Because i really want to be enlightened more regarding this...
@MARTINS ABOY
The poster wrote my mind and those questions are the questions I have been wanting to know the answer. Oya comments start rolling
ReplyDeleteTrust ke?
DeleteAm hungry oooooh
Even if you don't go to court physically to exchange rings, you must register your marriage in court and a certificate will be given to you to take to your church and when you sign in church you return a copy to the court.
DeleteI don't know if all churches do same though(anglican and some few churches I know do)
It has nothing to do with trust or true love.
Trad is marriage in the eye of your culture.
DeleteChurch is marriage in the eye of God.
Court is marriage in the eye of the law.
Everyone should do all 3.
So that the case of people like jide kosoko wont happen to anyone. And with a court certificate u can lay claim to your partners property easily.
When u want to travel abroad, u will knw d true value of court marriage.
DeleteRide on.
Somebody like me is all about court marriage, church wedding can be boring and stressful, i dont havr such time and i am not the event type, i just need something simple
DeleteThe Catholic church asks for evidence of court and trade marriage to be able to register to wed. Thankfully my LGA gives traditional marriage certificate, so I have all 3, laminated in my closet...lol.
Delete1st of all, there are a lot of reasons why one should do a court wedding. I won't go into all the details but I'll mention a few. We are in Africa where we have different unfavorable customs and traditions. Court marriage is commonly referred to as a marriage with statutory backing. Where a person marries under customs and traditions, the marriage and inheritance would tend to be controlled by the mans customs. So imagine those customs where the woman is not allowed to inherit anything after she may have struggled with the man or what will befall the mans children. Court wedding/ statutory marriage automatically gives what the man owns to the wife. The wife is the 1st on the list before his children. This reason alone prevents a lot of hardship and protects the women and children of a marriage. The law would always favor the immediate family. Court marriage simply excludes the application of customs and tradition. I can't go further but I think as Africans, this happens to be the most important reason for having a court wedding. I'm open to criticisms. I love to learn
Delete@swag fresh, when did you become an anglican? The last time I checked you were from pentecostal background abi? pardon me if am wrong.
DeleteNot all Anglicans do that.
If you marry in a registered church then your wedding is also recognised statutorily. Most of these new generation churches aint registered.
Delete@Tuscany, u are wrong. Payment of bride price is a foundation for statutory and church marriages. Church marriage is just mere celebration.God acknowledges all forms of marriages btw a man n woman.
DeleteAdanne, i never said here that I'm from a pentecostal background. I was born into an Anglican family. My parents are still Anglican till next tomorrow. All of us except my brother are pentecostal.
DeleteNa our parents church we dey marry sha
Dumb question and a lot of dumb replies sorry to say....a court marriage certificate is the only legal document recognised nationally and internationally. That's all you need to know. That should be your real reason and that's why most churches ask you to do a court wedding before the church ceremony. That'd the end of this chapter abeg. Ask people who have travelled out of the country which document is recognized by the embassy. Abeg make ina go boil indomie jor. NEXT!!!
DeleteI don't see anything wrong in having a court marriage and no! it is not about trust...I don't even fantasise about having a church marriage, let us do what we will do and face the reality already...all this paparazzi for church I know get time.But to me o, I prefer the court to church...I have never even tot about all these you stated before now.
ReplyDeleteExactly....
DeleteExactly My dear.As far I'm concerned,once I've done my court and trade.Every other thing is secondary and just for show.There's absolutely nothing wrong with court wedding.It's very important.It shows that you're legally married and therefore secures your place as a woman in terms of inheritance for the woman that is.Also,it has nothing to do with distrust.
DeleteIt has nothing to d with trust...i see it as eg, we register birth,death,change of name etc...so what not register your marriage too?
ReplyDeleteHave we ever ask the origin of court marriage. When we know the origin, then we can now know wether it's important or not.
DeleteIf they tell you the origin, you will not border to have a court marriage if you don't plan leaving naija as a couple or visiting western world as a couple.
I'll write about it later.
Why*
ReplyDeleteThis Martins aboy you can smart pass your shadow ehn,small boy wey too know
ReplyDelete😂😅
DeleteHehehe
DeleteHmm. Court marriage is the legally recognised form of marriage. You need it for so many things. Imagine wanting to travel out with your family and you need visa preps and all, how will you let the embassy know u are really married?will you take your traditional marriage wedding album to them? You need it for when your wife needs to change her name to yours.abi she no go change name? I had my court wedding 2 weeks b4 my trads or white wedding. That document is very useful. May God not let us see cases of divorce
ReplyDeleteCatholic Church gives the same certificate issued in court to their members after marriage..
DeleteI think either if love is attached or not, everyone should be ready to sign prenupts. It even brings about the basics of love.
ReplyDeleteTo my fellow women, hold your ears... If you like confuse yourself like those people discussing and don't do court marriage you hear! As far as I'm concerned white wedding means nothing, just a jollof rice eating show. Forget trust or divorce or whatever, court wedding is the only recognized wedding in my eyes and the eyes of the law.
ReplyDeleteYour birth was registered when you were born; that's why you have a birth certificate
ReplyDeleteDeath is also registered and a death certificate is given.
Marriage is also a civil event and is registered as such; "marriage certificate".
If you plan to travel out of Nigeria as a "married person" or transact with the federal government or provide evidence of change of name in applying for a passport etc. you need this "marriage certificate"; period.
Yes, if there is a divorce proceeding, the marriage certificate is needed but just like a death certificate is needed by banks for next of kin to claim e.g. dividends. A greedy person is greedy, an untrustworthy person is so. Court or no court wedding does not change a thing; Jesus changes people to work out their salvation by fasting to discipline the flesh and depending on his grace. According to Jesus' teachings, a girl is married when her bride price had been paid; so let the husband into the V then. Every other thing after that is formality.
You said it all...
DeleteThank you oh!!!
DeleteAfter my traditional wedding,I became pregnant
Knowing our church wouldn't wed us coz I was pregnant,we just planned our registry wedding,did it with few friends and family.
I fit do1 marriage blessing later,Na hubby dey disturb me sef...
What I know is dat my people have handed me over to my hubby's family,and dey blessed our marriage.
My marriage is also recognized by the law also(REGISTRY WEDDING)
My pastor will always say and I quote"PAY A WOMAN'S BRIDE PRICE AND SHE'S UR WIFE"
Your pastor is right @amanda. In my church, if no evidence of traditional marriage they won't even wed you.
Delete1-Yes
ReplyDelete2-To avoid unnecessary friends and family interference from either side
When the inevitable happens ans also to protect your spouse
3-It doesn't have anything to do with trust or love.
As for divorce it's even easier to divorce with just church wedding or trad,do you know what it takes to divorce your spouse with the process of court.
At no2 reason, what of if there's a WILL??
DeleteCourt marriage has nothing to do with trust issues or love. It's all about securing your marriage legally in case of incasity
ReplyDeleteMy dear, trust or no trust you have to protect yourself, Ive seen good men change.
ReplyDeleteFor beginning love dey sweet, if not for anything do it for your unborn children thats in terms of asset now
Is not court wedding per say. It is marriage registry. I did mine after traditional marriage. I had nothing in mind just that I felt everyone is going to the registry let me go too. But It is important for those that don't k ow the difference between their immediate family and extended families. Men are always skeptical abt it and I really don't know why. Is not as if the woman will kill you and inherit your properties. Most women want it for security sake in case the husband kicks bucket.
ReplyDeleteLol @ kicks bucket court marriage Is very very important especially for those that want to travel out.
DeleteNawa! The rate of ignorance.what has divorce got to do with court/registry marriage? Immediately after I do in the church wedding. The couple is taken into the priests chamber or registry or even a corner of the church; here they co-sign Form E which would become their marriage certificate and can only be legally broken by a court of law. At your Court wedding the couple also co-signs same Form E which can only be legally broken by a law court. The only visible difference is that court/registry wedding is faster economical by your choice. When an intending couple is trying to protect each other's interest in case of divorce, they sign a Pre-nup. Court marriage has no risk of divorce. People divorce for lack of understanding and irreconciliable differences.
ReplyDeleteI marvel at the rate of ignorance displayed in this post. Please marriage is marriage whether court or church. If u intend to travel out of Nigeria better go to the registry. Why must everything have extra meaning to Nigerians? Tufiakwa.
DeleteImmediately after couples say "I do" in the church wedding,
DeleteCourt/Registry wedding is faster and economical
@Martins Aboy, why not face your studies first, come out with the best result and become somebody before dwelling so much on marriage. As I dey see am, u go like woman too much.
ReplyDeleteIti bori bo,there is no limitations to knowledge
DeleteLol...James hennn! Leave martins alone jare.
Delete@Martins Aboy...you too sabi...Sure guy wen wan marry sure woman
ReplyDeleteAs per the said topic.....I think having a court wedding does not have anything to do with trust....
For me,I will prefer Traditional and church wedding to court wedding
Court wedding sound too "military" for me
@Galore
Martin go and read your book. You want to marry now?
ReplyDeleteHahaha epic advice
DeleteWell,in my case,i did a court wedding (express sef)before traditional and white wedding.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby's family and mine was delaying on the plan and hubby felt that he doesn't have patiance for series of delay,he woke up one day and asked for my permission for court wedding and I concurred,immediately we went to Registry,paid for sharp sharp,and on the third day,we got married,and hubby left for work from there lol
Then he got me pregnant,immediately we announced that we are pregnant,and married in the court,that they should go ahead with their delays and planning whenever they are ready,and immediately marriage plans was in Ernest as they did want my tommy to show,marriage course sef I no kukuma do,and within 2 months we did traditional and white wedding respectively.lol
Ahhhh.....madam, where u not the one that sent love wahala chronicles?
DeleteAhhhh.....madam, where u not the one that sent love wahala chronicles?
DeleteNot me
DeleteI'm grateful to God for sparing moi life..armed robbers big shame on you*tuueh*
ReplyDeleteAbeg I will just read comment
God pass them. U are covered by his blood.
DeletePraise God
DeleteEeyah....Thank God for your life.
DeleteThank God for your life
DeleteWoow!blunt Ijebu thank God for your life.
DeleteShanzEmpire
Access of a court marriage is to get your marriage register under the law
ReplyDeleteIf your church is register and recognise by law you don't need any court marriage because the church marriage certificate bear the federal govt seal
I want to know too
ReplyDeleteCourt means peace of mind that you are His one and only.
ReplyDeleteOh you really wish,i literally forced my hubby to court after our traditional and church marriage.That very day I caught him talking to his side chick that he has done what I wanted,that it still doesn't change anything between them.
DeleteThank God for you my sister. Na dem loose,will he still be dating her after 5 years? NO!. At least you have protected your kids and your future.
DeleteThere is nothing wrong in court wedding in fact some churches require you to do a court wedding i think they issue a sort of license which you present to the church before a church wedding can take place.It is also good to ensure fairness when couples cant 'deal' again in terms of property or finances.
ReplyDeleteCourt means peace of mind that you are His one and only.
ReplyDeleteTo answer your question. Some churches have now become legal places of marriage, that means , if you are wed there automatically the 'court' legal aspect of marriage has taken place as well as the religious blessings . Churches that are not registered places of marriage can only bless you and technically you won't even be married, to prevent this , the churches insist that you are legally wed in the registry before they can wed /bless you. I got married in the church , but I had to go to my local government to apply for a license , so I did not have or need a separate court /registry marriage.
ReplyDeleteAny Human being with a brain should insist on being legally married because that is the only way you can be protected and claim the rights that come with marriage .That certificate is recognized at home and abroad and has nothing to do with divorce .
Traditional marriages are not always easy to prove, and they are the easiest to dissolve . Return bride price and the marriage is over .
U just said what I wanted to say. Thanks for saving me the stress of typing.
DeleteSome churches don't give that certificate issued in the court and that is the 1 embassy (if u apply for visa) will accept
ReplyDeleteFrom my little knowledge, I believe people do court wedding because it is very useful for documentation purposes esp in the case of people wanting to seek foreign visa and co. On the other hand, I don't see much difference in the sense that to marry in the church (I'm sure of Orthodox churches like Anglican and the like, don't know of pentecostal churches), you still have to get a license from the registry to give the church to sign and return. So both involve legal documentation.
ReplyDeleteIf you have any intentions of travelling out,be it for vacation or whatever,the embassy only recognises the marriage certificate issued by the court coz just a few churches have the license to issue those certs.
ReplyDeleteSome churches don't give that certificate issued in the court and that is the 1 embassy (if u apply for visa) will accept
ReplyDeleteCourt wedding is becoming very necessary these days not because of lack of trust but to protect one's rights nd properties from terrible in-laws nd all as the wife or husband will be recognised as his/her next of kin.
ReplyDeleteHaving a court wedding in my opinion has got nothing to do with trust or love even if it partially insinuates that.
ReplyDeleteFirst, a court wedding certificate is the only recognized wedding certificate by law i think and it has it's benefits. it's the only thing that presents you and your spouse as husband and wife whenever the need for anything that has to do with the country's laws arise.
Two, no one ever prays to get divorced, no one anticipates divorce before his/her wedding. So, it's not a question of trust or love, it's about doing what you need to do, what's right. What happens if after 10years your love for each other grows cold and you think getting divorced is what's best for you two/your family? No one prays for that but my dear, shit happens.
I wouldn't advise anyone not to have a court wedding.
Court marriage simply means getting married legally backed the law of ones country, this implies that the couple have decided that the law will have a final say in their marriage if separation or divorce occurs.
ReplyDeleteWomen will support this type of marriage cos of the security it offers; in Nigeria, unfortunately the benefits of a court marriage is minimal, you won't be getting half of his assets, Infact you're lucky if you get child support.
Because of our culture, I'll say insistence on a court marriage means lack of trust in ones partner. It could also means getting prepared for unforseen events eg untimely death and claim of ownership of the deceased properties (inlaws are still winning this war in Nigeria still)
i never post here, but today, i just have to. under the marriage Act, once u marry under it, in the event of your death, or the death of your spouse, where d dead spouse fails to leave a will behind, the Act takes effect. i guess ure not ignorant to the unbelievable customs and traditions in nigeria which either forbids a woman from claiming her husband's properties upon his death and many others....? marriage under the act stops dis from happening. the living spouse and the children are entitled to benefit from the estate of the deceased spouse. also, another benefit of conducting a court marriage is that it stops the other party from conducting a 2nd marriage (either customary or not) while still in the first marriage. please have a court marriage. its for the benefit of both parties.
ReplyDeleteBetter pikin with better sense
DeleteThe essence for me was legal documentation. I didnt have a church wedding (I dont care for all that wastage abeg!) So with my marriage documented it has a legal backing which I can use for such processes as procuring a visa etc. And, make I talk true, I wouldnt want to be thrown in the lurch if, God forbids, anything happens to my marriage or hubby. I love my hubby no mean say my papa send me go school for nothing. I am an educated woman and know how best to protect myself and children in case of any happenstances. Its my choice, you can play 'Romeo and juliet' with your life, e no concern me.
ReplyDeleteMe i did church traditional and court marriage. And i'm seriously regretting the court marriage till date as we are seperated but can't get divorced cos he lives abroad and insists over his dead body will he be a part of divorce. Although i have moved on with my life and even have kids for my new partner which my ex husband isn't aware of,i still don't feel very free and confident. His lack of not signing the divorce papers makes it feel like i'm living the wrong way. PS; I didnt have any child in my first marriage,i did not even miss my period for once,that's why i don't get what exactly he's still holding on to.
ReplyDeleteNo child of the marriage but you are cohabiting and already have children for this new person.
DeleteMy dear you need to initiate and conclude your divorce procedure ASAP!
I assume your marriage (the registry) was conducted here in Nigeria. If it was then you have no problems at all. Go file the papers. Your hubby has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to sign irrespective of where he lives.
You need to commence the process ASAP cos whether you like it or not you are legally married to that man abroad in the eyes of the law world over.
Would love to talk more on this with you.
Please drop your contact email under this comment as you would need professional help to the very needful.
ANONYMOUSLY MOI
My dear, under the marriage act, and matrimonial causes act, once u guys have lived apart for up to seven years, the court automatically grants u a divorce, proceedings or no proceedings. Just have evidence that u have lived apart for up to 7 yrs and the court will Anull the marriage.
DeleteMy 2 cents marry in court and forget the rest, with the following points to backup my view.
ReplyDeleteA) for change of name, international passpt etc
B) for visa purposes
C) for proof that you are the legitimate spouse
D) for claim of property i.e in events of death, pension.
E) dissolution of marriage i.e if your horseband gives you serki or brings a baby mama, you sue his sorry a$$.
Anyways if you dont want to do court, mmfuna ibaga, pray you have all boys and or children, because MIL got no chill.
The sue case doesn't work well in Nigeria,you will be tagged as an evil wife.Its better you leave if you can stand the heat.
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DeleteI think Court wedding is all about having a legal "Security in marriage" personally I don't see it having anything to do with lack of trust or love for one's partner.
ReplyDeleteIn a world where people are now abusing their marital vows, I think this is just there to keep People in check.
Lemme read comments
ReplyDeleteSpot on
ReplyDeleteI sincerely think Nigerians should be the only country going through all these 3 ceremonies oooh. I'm exaggerating. LOL
ReplyDeleteWe did the 3 and sincerely speaking... I wish we did one of any sometimes... the fuss no be here biko. Thankfully,no one keyed into my "crazy" idea and I so much cherish the memories.
That aside,Martins court wedding became imperative when young widows and their kids suffered so much after the death of their benefactor.
Women were left hanging after years of marriage with nothing...the customary courts didn't favour them either. Informal emergency courts amongst kins didn't help the women either.
It became clear that the customary courts to some extent relied on flimsy things like....the man didn't have a male child etc to give out their final judgement.
It doesn't have anything to do with lack of trust...more or less like making sure all parties involved in the Sacrament of marriage are treated well. Infact it is evidence of love and commitment!
The church we wedded in actually worked hand in hand with the registry and handled that aspect personally. You MUST get your forms sent to the church from the Registry for final signing.
Some Men have this school of thought that they might lose in the end and I frankly do not understand why.
They feel Court Marriage also called Civil marriage favours only women.
This is a marriage recognised by LAW.
It is an evidence of a Marriage Contract between two people.
Anglican issues Court certificates.
ReplyDeleteAboy face your studies, anyways
Court Marriage/Wedding is good and nothing attach to it.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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The only thing that will make me have a court wedding is when am rich and wealthy nothing else.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
I prefer court marriage than any other form. Traditional is good but white wedding to me na waste.
ReplyDeleteIn most countries, Court Marriage is the legally recognized form of marriage; I live in a country were court marriage is just for the file. The most recognized form of marriage here is Church weddings. It is after you wed in the church that you will take your wedding certificate issued by a priest to the court and they will file your marriage.
ReplyDeleteCourt marriage is highly recognized in Nigeria as well as the other types of marriage.
In Nigeria though, most people resort to getting married in the court because of the way most women were treated after they lost their husbands or when there is a divorce
COURT MARRIAGE IS THE ONLY LEGAL RECOGNISED MARRIAGE.
ReplyDeleteReading comments
ReplyDeleteThere are only two legalised and recognised systems of marriage in Nigeria. A court marriage or marriage under the Act(Marriage Act and Matrimonial causes Act) which is the monogamous marriage. The other system of marriage is the traditional marriage, regarded as the polygamous system of marriage. A court marriage forbids either spouse from contracting any other marriage while the initial marriage subsists. If you want to get married to someone else, you must first get a dissolution of marriage by a competent court, this is known as a divorce.
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If you get married the traditional way without a court marriage, the husband is free under the customary law to get married to as many wives as he pleases. This is one reason why most ladies insist on marrying at the Registry, with this, the husband can not marry another woman, even through paying her bride price(traditional marriage). Some men still go ahead to pay the bride price of another woman but that is actually a criminal offence known as bigamy. The first wife can file a criminal charge against her husband or apply to court through a motion on notice, praying the court to grant an order declaring the 2nd marriage illegal or preventing the husband from taking a 2nd wife.
The problem is, most married women don't know their rights and those who know, would be reluctant to sue their husbands to court. Families and friends will prevail on the wife not to go to court. Women who insist on going to court end up being frustrated because apart from the fact that some male judges are secretly guilty of the same offence, the courts always favour reconciliation and will stay proceedings for months to encourage reconciliation.
A church wedding, if conducted in a church registered and authorised to issue marriage certificate and have a marriage register, is the same thing as a court marriage. The marriage certificate given by such churches are collected from the Registry. The advantage the church wedding has over marriage at the Registry, if you are a christian, is the privilege of taking your vows before God and the church. It has a more spiritual flavour and blessings. However, a wedding in a church that isn't authorised to issue marriage certificate, is simply a celebration of marriage with no legal benefits guaranteed by the Matrimonial Causes Act. If you've done a traditional marriage and a church wedding where you signed the marriage register and you were issued a marriage certificate, going for a Court marriage becomes superfluous as it is simply a repetition.
Thank you for this.
DeleteCourt wedding takes place after traditional marriage. Court wedding before traditional marriage makes that traditional marriage void
ReplyDeleteWhy ?? Please expatriate cos I had my court marriage some drs before traditional and never did white wedding.
DeletePART 2.
ReplyDeleteThe reason some couples prefer marriage at the Registry is, they find the requirements of a church marriage too stringent. Some churches have very strict rules which isn't the case with marriages at the Registry. Some couples feel doing the three will make the marriage more secure but that isn't necessarily the case.
To answer your questions;
#1. If you have already done a traditional marriage and a church wedding where both of you and several witnesses signed the marriage register and were issued a marriage certificate, there's no need for a court marriage.
#2. Like I stated earlier, a court marriage is a monogamous marriage and it protects the rights of both parties and should either spouse go against the terms of marriage, the offended party can seek redress from court. Getting a divorce is more cumbersome unlike the traditional marriage where simply returning the bride price ends the marriage. If you get married at the Registry, you cannot file for divorce within a period of 2 years post matrimony, so you are stuck with your spouse for at least 2 years. There are certain exceptions like where exceptional hardship will be placed on the party wishing to end the marriage as soon as possible. E.g domestic violence or where a spouse's lifestyle can be injurious to the other spouse, like drug abuse or chronic sexual perversion.
#3. Any form of marriage should be built on love and trust. Choosing a court marriage is like having an insurance. Securing your marriage doesn't necessarily mean you don't trust your spouse. It's the best way to protect yourselves from "eventualities". In case a husband dies, his widow and their children will have the protection of the court when the "vultures" come fighting for property.
What people frown at is the agreement known as a prenuptial agreement where the richer spouse protects his/her wealth by making sure his/her spouse isn't marrying just for the largesse. That's where the issue of love and trust comes up. Some of the clauses in prenuptial agreements can be brutal! It reduces the solemnity of marriage into a business arrangement of some sort. You can get married at the Registry without signing any prenuptial agreement but you must comply with the conditions of the marriage or you could face legal actions.
However, if you want a divorce from your spouse, if you wedded in a church where you were issued a marriage certificate or you had a court wedding, the marriage must be dissolved at the relevant High Court and it is a horrible and strenuous procedure. If all you did was a traditional marriage, the dissolution is less stressful. As a matter of fact, returning the bride price ends the marriage but if there are unresolved issues like custody of the children or child, or either spouse isn't ready to end the marriage then the petition for divorce must be filed at the relevant Customary court.
I hope I have satisfactorily answers your questions?.
Learn to also include SOURCE. Plagiarism is a crime dear Epistle Copier
DeleteExcuse me silly anonymous, some of us are well trained lawyers who read Family Law even up to Post Graduate level. Ronalda did not even go deep sef, she only covered the basics you learn in 300 level. If Na me write, u for see epistle Na....so many issues involved in marriage. What happens where husband and wife divorce, husband was the breadwinner and wife was a housewife, who gets what, under what circumstances will custody of children be given to one party or joint custody to both. Dey dere make pant wear you. Mbok!!!
DeleteGot married to a skunk. He was cheating on me with the househelp so my dad came n picked me up. Now hubby is insisting that my dad shld visit his parents to make peace. It's culturally unacceptable. So I'm in a fix. Should I file for a divorce. Cos my dad Wld nt step foot in his father's house. That's an abomination. Pls help. PS we have a 2 year old child.
ReplyDeleteThe Nigerian Society of today, Court Marriage is of the necessity.
ReplyDeleteBut Nigerians now have abused it so bad that, court or no court they go away freely with negative intentions.
Magistrate and the law not even helping matters.
My dear find someone who is willing to share your life with, go to court, make it legal and hope the society does not corrupt your union.
Only legal marriage is court marriage. You can't do much together as husband and wife unless you have been married in court.
ReplyDeleteThe country recognizes court marriage, traditional is for the family, Church is for God. Lame man analysis
ReplyDeleteDo you want to forgive him and take him back? He doesn't seem remorseful . He should be the one begging , he will trample all over you if you go back like that. His parent should be the ones begging . Anyway , I don't know much about tradition so I will keep mute . If you truly want him back, you and your family can go and do what he wants .
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your various contributions on this Topic..
ReplyDeleteWe learn Everyday!!
I really appreciate and ve learnt a lot reading through all comments..
Madam stellz you are the "Bump"..**smile**
God bless you all!!
@MARTINS ABOY
An you're the bumper. Hahahaha
DeleteFor me anything i did once that not work for me i will never do it again
ReplyDeletei married in court and she changed after the marriage and all become shitt.
so if i find love again and she remind me about doing a court marriage
with her,,,mennh i will end the union next day
When a divorced man with male children who did court marriage but not church marriage
ReplyDeleteWant to remarry the second marriage in church along with court marriage who actually becomes the first wife.
The one with court marriage only or the one with church marriage.