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SHOCKED AND CONFUSED
I just started dating someone in another city from where i live and we are slowly getting serious and i have been excited cause it looks like this is my last bus stop...
However i got a shocker recently when he took me to see his mom's younger brother who happened to be my sugar daddy when i was in the University...I saw the frown on the mans face when he recognised me..The reason he recognised is cos of my legs..I wont talk much on that here but he recognised me when we were leaving he asked for my number in front of my guy and my guy asked me to give him...He called me and said the only way he would allow me marry his Nephew is if i confess and tell him and let him decide if he wants to go on or not....... wicked old man!
I am at a cross road!
My guy says i can tell him anything and we will walk through it together...Should i tell him and risk losing him?
Are you OK´´???? Tell who what? You dont know the Uncle and never met him...Let him talk and make sure you deny him well and walk out of the relationship...If you agree and he marries you, that marriage is dead on arrival. you better use that your coconut head to think very well...This is the problems, una don gbensh the whole men wey dey Naija, if you leave this one now, how are you sure that you wouldnt have gbenshed the gateman of the next one?
na wah..
keep shut and dont confess anything oh.
Please send in your chronicles eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh
How is he wicked? If na you, you go gree? Better confess and be free and save yourself a huge embarrassment.
ReplyDeleteWhether you tell your guy or not. Your sugar baba would tell his big sister about you and she would believe him. He is her younger brother and they grew up together so it is his word against yours and trust me , she would believe her younger brother and not you. Nobody in the family will take your side. The man's wife does not even need to be in the know. All the man has to do is call his sister aside and his other sibling and expose everything. He won't be embarrassed to tell her, he carried University girls after all she is his sister not his wife. She in turn would tell the other siblings. Your man would break up with you and if he doesn't which I doubt he wouldn't your in laws will frustrate you because you were not just a side chick to a random man but to their relative.
DeleteYou see why it's not good to be sleeping with yam, dog, ant, elephant because of money and pleasure. What goes around comes around.
DeletePoster forget about marrying that guy.
Ladies whatever you are doing heaven is watching. It will come back knocking o.
22:33, did the poster mention that her man's mum is still alive?
Delete09:32 Did she mention that she is dead or her man's siblings are non-existent?
DeleteLmao Stella o 😂
ReplyDeleteIt’s possible that your partner already suspects something about your past with his mother’s younger brother, perhaps that’s why he encouraged you to open up, assuring you both could face anything together. But even if you decide to tell him and he forgives you, you may need to prepare for a different kind of challenge: the potential for mistrust, suspicion, and feeling constantly watched could create an emotional toll and disturb your peace in that relationship.
ReplyDeleteStill, it's worth reflecting: is it better to build a relationship on truth, even if it’s difficult at first, or to withhold something significant and hope it stays buried? Trust, once broken or shaken, can be rebuilt but not without honesty.
Are you sure staying silent would truly give you peace in the long run?
Wahalard. Something you would have told you man immediately after leaving his place that he was one of your toasters back in the days and you ate his money without delivering your constituency hence his anger.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure the said Uncle wouldn't want his wife to know about his philandering ways so he will let sleeping dogs lie.
😂😂😂😂 Without delivering your constituency..This is funny
DeleteOMG😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteMen are in trouble
Gbam!
Deletesee better point.
DeleteMorally bankrupt comment
DeleteMiss Aboki you say his wife? His wife must have seen him with different women and doesn't care anymore. Uncle may open up o, forget that thing. His wife will not shake.
DeleteAnyway, poster follow Miss Aboki 's advice
Lol
DeleteMa'am, you red response is a blast😂
ReplyDeleteOh dear..
ReplyDeleteThis is complicated..
When your pass catch up with you..
* past.
Deletepast catches up. Take note
DeleteI won't even marry the guy if I were you. You never see husband o.
ReplyDeleteThe condition the uncle gave you is fair enough, let the man decides if he still wants you but we both know no man will agree to marry such lady, so it's better you dust your wares and keep looking for another man
The only way he could allow you marry his nephew yen yen yen, the man is not ok, that is your past and, this is your present and future ignore the man and don't ever tell your guy anything. Everyone has their past.
ReplyDeleteThat is her past? Lmao. Like the past doesn't come to bite ass in the future. Sometimes, you guys drop comments that you can't practice
DeleteThat man is his uncle, not friend. This issue should not be taken lightly. She should come out clean.
You that dropped this comment, if you find out your son's wife was once a side chic to your brother, how would you feel?
Abeg waka pass my comment that's my opinion not your business hian.
DeleteWhich past?
DeleteShe should just face front.
What if the uncle has proofs that they dated?
I asked you a simple question and you couldn't answer it. Lmao.
DeleteOh baby! You suppose use your street OT know say this thing na dead on arrival....As a sabi girl, you suppose dey date (I no say gbensh o) other men instead of to put all your eggs for one basket....
ReplyDeleteIf to say you dey date other men as you jam agbako with this your bobo uncle wey still dey find Okafor's law for your hand, you for don gbes; tell this bobo say e go be 🤞🤞 move to another level...You no go dey ask whether you wan go confess or not to your bobo.....
I no say past na past...I no fit judge you but make you learn from this...Make you no fall for him blackmail oh, you go regret am cha! cha!!.....
Woswobi!! Use your tongue count your teeth well especially the ones wey dey back back....
Na the best I fit wish you oh....
Phoenix what happened to your blog ID? Why is it showing "unknown"
DeletePoster wọn tí bá esoro gidi,wòbi move on kólé work. The uncle will be your nightmare.
DeleteTell him. If you don't, he'll later find out. Let him decide if he will stay or not. This Uncle is vindictive and will ask for s#x again.
ReplyDeleteHe is not vindictive. If you have a son in the shoes of the nephew, you would still say your brother is vindictive?
Deleteposter please tell your man the truth and allow him decide if he will marry you or not. Please do not hide this one since the uncle has threaten to expose you. Tell your man about it and be truthful about it, that was your past and not your present. Hope you didn't tell your man that you are a virgin when you both met?
ReplyDeleteTell him that since the day you saw that his uncle you have been thinking, his face has been very familiar to you but you just confirmed it. Tell him about it and allow him get angry or walk away. If you start to cover up from now, that uncle will never let you rest in that marriage. Please do not pretend you don't know him cos you don't know the heart of that his uncle.
Keep shut o to avoid story that touch. Don't confess anything
ReplyDeletePoster,I will advise you to come clean with your boyfriend. If the relationship breaks because of your past,so be it. I don't like lies,neither to be deceitful. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteChronicle advisers to women:
ReplyDeleteKeep shut, deny it, never confess. Lie, deceive, manipulate, pretend, make false accusations.. etc etc
IHN News:
Mumu, come to my inbox,- can you explain how you share the same bank name with a thousand others?
Mumu: ooh! What a small world. Wow. So I have neighbours here, we must have used the same pos agent..
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The world is in cycles, what goes around, comes around.
I don't envy most of you husbands here, and I don't pity them either,. They should have done their due diligence before, whatever he's getting now is his cup of tea.. a madam Quack here always make me laff.. you can deceive the whole world but not me sha.. enjoy you 'lovely' marriage oh🤣😂.
@Ezege, I go give you won gist on Saturday so you go shine your eyes more,. See you in your column boss
Just confess, anything that comes you take, it's better you let him know yourself,your man is not perfect,he has his own past too.please don't wait for his uncle to break the news. Don't forget to update us please.
ReplyDeleteJust tell the guy the truth and keep it moving.
ReplyDeleteYou never see husband.
Una leg too dey open.☹️
All you people telling her to keep shut and not admit, if it were your sons and brothers in this situation, will you give the same response? Bunch of hypocrites.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, na Dante fit una
Yes
DeleteBecause if he likes her what’s the point knowing what happened
Are you minding this lost generation?
DeleteDon't mind them. Dishing what they can't practice. The hypocrisy is loud.
DeleteIf you didn't tell him the marriage may continue and he will later know by himself which will be very bad.
ReplyDeleteSince your guy says tell him anything and you guys will go through it together just find a way and tell him the truth simple, it will help you to know your stand and have peace 🕊️
Again even if you leave without telling him he may still know everything so what's the need
How will he know
DeleteIf you get liver no confess but if you don't confess
ReplyDeleteTell your guy if you want to. Don't do it because someone from your past wants to blackmail you.
ReplyDeleteSophia and Davidos fathers friend part 2..please tell him and allow him to decide or forever be pussy indebted to his uncle. If you don’t tell him he won’t too but your puna go hear am
ReplyDeleteYou mean Sophia dated Davido's father's friend?
DeleteHmmm..... What do we have here? Someone trying to dodge karma? I'll get back to that in a bit.
ReplyDeleteOP please pray tell, how exactly is it that you got recognised through your legs? This must be a first in history. Your face is so ordinary that your legs had to stand you out? Why? Could it be because they've been spread so far apart in unholy collecting that they've stayed apart ever since?
Back to your post. I find your naivety amusing. You think it is your unpretty arse who has confessing to do? It doesn't occur to you that your former sugar daddy might have receipts? And that he might show your man?
There's no win here for you. Whether you do or you don't you are damned either way. "Honey, I shagged your uncle" isn't really a glowing testament now is it?
Sugar daddy isn't sugaring no more and you are about to find out the hard way. Welcome to the karma shop, you are getting exactly what you deserve.
The way a man and a woman reasons on issues like this are quite different.
ReplyDeleteIf you open up,which you should;you would lose this your current relationship.For sure!
If the man(his uncle) tells him he had something to do with you back then,do you really think and believe your man would take your words over his?
Your man took you to see his uncle,that means he holds his uncle in high regard,because we men don't take a woman to show anybody who we don't value or hold in high esteem.
So why do you really think lying is the way forward? And that he would take your words over that of his uncle?
Own up to your past,if he can live with it and marry you,fine..else you take it as a reward for your lifestyle in the past.
A marriage built on the foundation of lies,can NEVER LAST!
His mum would also hear it from him(her brother),and no woman wants a retired OS to mother or carry her grandkids,plus there would surely be no regards from your entire in-laws to you,and one way or the other;you need your in-laws support today or tomorrow when marriage is concerned in Nigeria..
For every action or reaction,there are consequences,Cheers!
@MARTINS
Sane comment, well broken down💯.
DeleteMy take home; "a marriage built on lies can NEVER last". Spot on!
Wao!! Very well written. Poster,this👆.
DeleteWell written bro.
DeleteMay the oil on your head never run dry (Amen).
DeleteAs long as there is no evidence stop talking to the uncle and move along
ReplyDeleteWaka or stay? Waka!!! Don't confess any past relationship to any man. Take a walk from the both of them, if your conscience can't carry the discovery.
ReplyDeleteYou better tell the guy before the uncle tells him because either now or later it will still be known ;when they tell you people to give your life to Christ ;it is outdated see the result,don't listen to those who asked you to lie with bold face ,it will be known I like the uncle .
ReplyDeleteIf the uncle tells him, just deny
DeleteNo not deny ,you should have said she should just lie with bold face but you know lie can't be covered for ever ,it will leak one day
DeleteNo not deny ,you should have said she should just lie with bold face but you know lie can't be covered for ever ,it will leak one day
DeletePoster must you marry this particular guy, biko find someone else because this type of drama doesn't end well...
ReplyDeleteWhen you said the man asked for your number, I thought you were going to say he threatened to blackmail you if you refused to continue your illicit affair, but in this case, he asked that you let his nephew know so he can decide. So how does that make him a wicked man?
ReplyDeleteHe is kind enough to give you the autonomy to confess and shape the story whichever way you like, rather than him spilling the beans and salting the wound. Yet you still fault him.
I believe we have treated a situation similar to this on this blog in the past.
The lady did every every with the guys uncle and realized he was her former sugar daddy. She was asking if she should go to the family celebration on Christmas eve and face the man and risk being exposed or run away from the family gathering and break up with her fiance. I wonder how it turned out for her.
https://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2024/12/chronicle-of-blog-visitor-narrative_0965441675.html?m=1
Better tell him and let him decide.
ReplyDeleteIf its you..would ypu be happy?Your brother nko?
I'm out
Just come clean and be free
ReplyDeleteAaaahahahahahahHHaaaaaa Stella don kill me finish!!! Hhhmm. Inside life matters.
ReplyDeleteMadam you are still waiting and praying for a life partner. Don't marry that guy.
On a second thought,
Yeah 👍 you can fast and pray for the uncle to die. It's permitted.
"It's permitted" where, please?
DeleteWhy should the uncle have to pay for their sins with his own life?
DeleteIsn't that somebody's husband, who will become a widow? Somebody's father who will become fatherless? Somebody's helper etc?
Why think such a wic.ked thought?
Why being so selfish, self centered and inconsiderate?
If it were a relation of yours, would you wish them this?
In life, you can't always have your cake and eat it.
Op, two options:
1: tell your fiancé and face the consequences. Note that he can never trust you around his uncle or men.
2: look for an excuse and leave the relationship.
Note also, that that man is a good man. He didn't demand anything from you, other than his nephew (blood) to make an informed decision.
He didn't even reject you or inform his sister,relations or nephew . You should be grateful
Don't even think about denying. This is his uncle and not just an acquaintance. You need to come clean whether the uncle tells him or not. You might very well lose the relationship,yes but you'll be at peace. Just accept it as one of the consequences of your past indiscretion and learn from it.
ReplyDeleteTell you fiance what? That's a bitter old man. If the man later confesses, tell your man that the day he took your number, he started calling to ask you out, but you refused..he doesn't even have evidence. Useless man
ReplyDeleteConfess nothing! If it's easy let him do the Confession himself.
ReplyDeletePlease come clean. If it is God's will, He will show you mercy. If not, move on.
ReplyDeletethe sugar daddy is wicked. the young lady has made a mistake. allow her to move on with her life. let the past remain in the passed
ReplyDeleteOk now we love you for supporting us, and won't attack you for being insensitive anymore
DeleteCoconut head🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteNne Abeg Forget The Marriage
Kole Work oooo..
Hello iya Boys
it's only a devil that brings someone passed to present
ReplyDeleteTell him because you can never be comfortable knowing that someone that knows that part of ur life is in close proximity to ur husband (if you end up marrying him). Do you want to live ur life in constant fear.
ReplyDeleteShe should make her man to cut off from the ashewo uncle since he doesn't want to respect himself
DeleteThis is dead on arrival.Forget everything and move on.Life happens.
ReplyDeletePoster you be street nau, tell your man say him uncle na your toaster. Tell him that his uncle toasted you and disturbed you for a relationship when you were in school but you didn't agree. That he called you again after seeing him with you and was still disturbing you. Tell him that you can't marry him because his Uncle will not allow you to enjoy the marriage.
ReplyDeleteThen go ahead make him promise you to stay far away from his uncle as you don't want him near your marriage.
Finish!
He won't believe anything uncle says and he will keep him at arm's length.
Before telling him this, block his uncle in all corners before he calls you and records it or sends you a message and show your man as evidence.
You should have done this on the first day you met his uncle. Why don't you have sense like this nau?
May my daughters be smart o.
Ontop marriage? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHim and his uncle should become sudden enemies because of her. It might even degenerate to his mom, who might be robbed into the whole thing. Cause chaos, division, disagreement in a family, before you even enter?..nah wah ooo. Abeg nah 2nd Jesus Christ the Messiah and saviour of the world the fiancé be?
We should be careful ooo. And try not to be selfish and self centered.
How do you think one will do all these I mentioned and God will bless the marriage?
Marriage that you ain't even sure what the outcome will be in 10 years time (spouses in marriage are like wrapped gift items. You don't know or can't fully ascertain what's inside, until you unwrap). Not worth it abeg. Again poster, you know the right thing. Confess or leave
Instead of you to pray that your daughters don’t have cause to do something like this that will stain their reputation and yours, you are praying for them to be manipulative (smart in your words)
DeleteA lot of you here are disgusting. Tufiakwa
It is only a fool that would believe that excuse.
DeleteThe uncle will just go ahead and tell his brother or sister(depending on who he is related to) and his parent would take it from there. The family won't even rate or like her whether the son believes her or not.
Very good advice 👍
DeleteLet the adulterous old man go to HELL
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteNot addressing this won’t save you from what’s already in motion. Because you can’t build love on edited history - it’ll collapse like a house with no foundation. So, it’s a cliff edge - and only truth can build the bridge across.
It is self-denial not to believe that the past has legs - it walks, talks, and sometimes shows up wearing your uncle-in-law’s face. You’re not here because of what you did in uni; you’re here because life’s testing the woman you've become. If this man truly is your “last bus stop,” then let him see your full luggage labels, scars and all.
Love built on secrets will always shake when truth knocks. Tell your man, not out of fear, but from strength. So that you don’t hand your Uncle-in-law that power. Own your story before someone else narrates it with venom, planting the truth like a landmine in your future. If he stays, it's love fortified. If he leaves, at least you didn’t betray both him and yourself.
Secrets rot relationships from the inside out. Rip the plaster, let the chips fall, but let them fall clean on you.
***I see you, Dante. You are right, Martins.
Op sorry I'm commenting too much on this. Don't h.ate me for it please. Abeg.
ReplyDeleteJust that many advices here didn't seat right with me.
I will start by saying, I'm not judging your past. But what you will do now, will determine if you truly repented from your past and have truly become a better you.
Let me ask this. If a murd.erer was caught and he repented? Should he still serve his punishment or should be let go freely.
If the criminals of CBex get caught and they repent, should dey go to jail or let go?
People don't always for their consequences because of God's mercy and grace, but it's not always the way we want it to be for everyone.
Why do we know what every other person deserves and should get, except us?
If you go ahead and marry him in deceit, know that you are in for a long thing.
You can't cover a wrong with another, then another, then another.
That's what has led to many people around the world, doing very e.vil things. All in an attempt to cover their track.
Please open up or leave. Be rest assured there are many other good men that surpasses your fiancé in every way, that will still find you in the nearest future, if this didn't work out.
Moreover, what if it's God's way of saying don't enter this home? But you want to "girridie there?
Marriage is meant to be a forever journey. It takes alot of work to keep it going after many years. So imagine if he gets to discover later (it must definitely come out someday), and he resents you forever?
A broken engagement, is far far better than a broken marriage
Poster, my candid advice to you? Don't confess anything to him, just walk away from that relationship...Most Nigerian men don't forgive things like this. He will never trust you again. He will act like he has forgiven you , string you along and then BOOM, you hear he has married someone else...PLEASE WALK AWAY!!! THIS IS DEAD ON ARRIVAL...Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteThe boy is not a virgin neither was his mother most likely even though we are not privy to her past. Tell your boyfriend a watered down truth of what transpired and minimize it all the way. If he leaves, he will end up with someone else’s sugar baby. Good riddance
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