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ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO NEEDED QUICKLY
I shared my location and situation with him. We talked at length and I even told him I was just managing due to the economic situation. We ended the call that day and I went about my business.
Two days later only for me to get a call from this same cousin again telling me that he would be visiting my location soon because he had a business to do here and would like to see me before leaving.
Few days later again, he called me that he's in my location lodged somewhere and I should visit him, I joyfully went for old times sake and to visit. When I was about leaving, he jokingly said let me even pay you a visit let me know where you stay and I took him to my one room apartment.
Early this month, I was in my room when I just heard a knock on my door, I opened and saw him unannounced with a big travelling bag. He said he came to do something in town briefly and he has been staying with me since then, it's almost a month now.
He's bringing absolutely nothing to the table, he goes out daily to his construction work and he's not even sharing any bill and I didn't envisage living with anyone unplanned. There's no sign of him leaving now and I don't know what to do
Heheheheheheh this is cousin scam:......Kai!!!!!
Why didnt you ask him how long he would be staying? Tell him that you do not want t stay with anyone and would like him to leave as soon as he can or you tell him to contribute to feeding...
Very nonsense behaviour. So, what stopped him from calling you before he arrived. If you don't look for how to get him out, na one year you go count.
ReplyDeleteThe guy used mbaise sense nah, he knew what he was doing by coming unannounced. Me can't tolerate such tho.
DeleteIf you are a male, tell him your babe is coming. If you're a she, tell him that your bobo is coming, you need space.
Delete5 years lol
DeleteDear Poster, This kin cousin sef...Someone you may have not been interacting for years and gbam!! He is already living with you....This one na guy man sense...
ReplyDeleteYou need to be careful about this said cousin...Are your people aware he is staying at your place? Or are you in talks with his family too to know about this cousin of yours....
Be careful that he is not faffing around and just thought to stay over your place...
Type a letter on behalf of landlord stating that he or she is aware that you are accommodating someone else which is against his or her rules. Failure for you to comply attracts a 6 months quit notice... Show him the letter and let him know he has to leave.. Have someone act as caretaker that will come to flat dramatically warning you about the letter....
I hope it works!
All the best and be vigilant!
This should work and I think is the best solution.
DeleteThis advice by Saint is good.
DeleteThis works
DeleteWhy do you habitually post twice and then delete one?
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ReplyDeleteThis is very well what I don't tolerate. As a matter of fact it doesn't matter who you are, you don't visit me without first notifying me. Even more so you don't come to my place to stay without my explicit and implicit agreement.
ReplyDeleteI have had to send a brother away who visited to stay without informing me. I didn't even allow him step into my apartment.There are things I hold sacrosanct and that is giving each and everyone deserved courtesy. It is rudeness to move into the hones of people without seeking permission.
OP, you are soft and soft people take last always. Kick that irresponsible bum of a cousin out of your home. I assure you it doesn't matter how long you keep him, he will not appreciate it nor value it tomorrow.
Thank you Dog..poster take this advice 👆 if you're being soft with him,he'll never leave..put your foot down and let him know he has to leave..why did you even allow it to get to a month? ..the more you delay the more it'll be hard to get rid of him..he's never going to appreciate anything you do so no need to try to please anyone at your own expense..kick him out fast!
DeleteThis is local 419. He planned everything and he not leaving anytime soon. You have to talk to him. He should come out plain and tell you his plan.
ReplyDeleteYahoo yahoo cousin. Stop feeding him . In fact,lock your apartment and go stay somewhere for the mean time.
DeletePoster, are scared of this your said cousin?
ReplyDeleteWhy not speak to him as you'd speak to a family member. Lay your concerns to him and see if he'd adjust. If he doesn't, he should kindly leave.
No one entertains an impromptu or unannounced visit in this economy.
If he had applied common sense, he should know to contribute financially and otherwise to create a balance. At least, you'll then have to only worry about your privacy that he badged into and the inconveniences that comes with it.
Have a heart to heart talk with him.
Are you male or female? Make we know how to take advice you
ReplyDeleteIt’s very simple. If you’re a guy tell him your babe is coming to stay with you. Arrange for a female friend to come with giant load and even another friend claiming that’s her sister. Tell him it’s just for a while and he should perch somewhere. Change your locks and if he asks tell him your babe isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. The end.
ReplyDeleteHe is not working in any construction site, the going out daily is all part of the format. Tell him to leave asap that you will be needing your space.
ReplyDeleteThe guy knew what he wanted to do from the onset, he's a cunning fellow..poster just let him know he has to go as you are not in a position to accommodate him..give him an ultimatum..he didn't even have the courtesy to let you know his intentions so no need to feel bad..if you're not firm with him, you'll be stuck with him for a long time o..all the best!
DeleteBut it's 'who stays in Port Harcourt', not 'whom stays'.
ReplyDeleteBring in a girlfriend. Let her know what you want and leave the job for her.
ReplyDeleteBe warned, you may not have any more ties with him at the end.
Cousin isonu. Call him to order. I don't like,what I hate. 😠😠😠
ReplyDeleteTell him to leave.. give him a week tops
ReplyDeleteA week is too long, he should leave now now.
DeleteReminds me of one girl that stayed at mines during service and refused to leave. Woke up one morning and asked her to get out. Very annoying girl
Poster, be like me and kick him out asap!
You can't ask him to leave oooo, tomorrow is pregnant my dear,it was very bad of him showing unannounced with his belongings,why not have a heart to heart chats with him on how he should contribute in paying bills and other stuff?
ReplyDeleteHuh?!
DeleteVery pregnant my dear. Just ask him to contribute and if he fails to do so then ask him what his future plans are and take it from there
DeleteThat your cousin is a conman, look just tell him that you will be traveling and would like to lock your door, as you can't leave the house for him, then see his reaction to it.
ReplyDeletePoster invite your girl over but explain things to her before you do then leave the rest for her,or if you don't have a girl friend invite any of your reasonable female friend over. I get gist on this my opinion. I dey come first.
ReplyDeleteIn what ever action you employ to send him away, just bear it in mind that it won't end well. Things like this don't end well.
ReplyDeleteUse your landlord to do the job of sending him away with the claim that his tenant doesn't accommodate anyone regardless of the relationship while you will be pleading an acting innocent.
In whichever way you choose to use in sending him away, just bear in mind that it won't end up well. Things like this don't end up well...
ReplyDeleteUse your landlord to do the job for you with the claim that his tenant do not keep other people regardless of the relationship, while you will be pleading and acting all innocent around you cousin.
This is not funny I don't like people behaving this way. Someone like me that so love my space he would go by force
ReplyDeleteYou need to have a conversation with him ans ask him when he will be leaving to his base, let him know that your guy paid for that apartment and he is coming around weekend to see you and spend some time with you.
ReplyDeleteLet him understand he is not welcome at all because you did not discuss this with your man before he came and that shouldn't be allowed. If you keep mute this guy will stay forever and you will be crying 😢 😭
I am sorry but I had to hahahahahahahahahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteYou gave him a soft landing to take advantage on, if you have given him rules from the first moment....... He won't have been this comfortable.
ReplyDeleteTell him to come and be going biko🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteSo last year, one of my hubby's cousin called me and said she wants to give her brother our address so when next he is in town, he will come pay us a visit, immediately my antenna was screeching cuz her brother na proper efulefu🤣🤣🤣.
E no reach one hour she called again and said she is still waiting for my address, I should send it to her via WhatsApp, I called my husband immediately and gave him situation report🤣🤣🤣, he said I shouldn't try sending it to her, immediately my MIL called me(she can listen in someone's conversation eh)😂😂😂😂 but that day I was glad she did cuz she called dear cousin and told them not to step foot here🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Mil has no filter, she go put am for your body woto woto, I was grateful that day eh
You need to tell him to leave. Send it as a message if you can't say it.
ReplyDeleteCalculated move from a cunny cousin.
ReplyDeleteAsk him nicely to leave.
Pack your bag and tavel. Tell him you are traveling for something tomorrow. Plan with your neighbors , tell your neighbors to alert you anytime he leaves so you will come back. If you have a friend around your area, you can go and stay there with your cousin believing that you traveled far.
ReplyDeleteThe most uncomfortable situation ever. Ask him what his plans are biko
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