According to her,She was married to a banker, she was just an OND holder working in one company as a junior staff, she also got to know about her status while pregnant, the husband was negative, I think women are more easily to be infected than men, it's Very easy for a man to infect a woman than for a woman to infect a man, that's why we see that most discordant couples are with a positive wife and negative husbands.
Back to the woman's story, the husband decided to tell everyone about her status, and she was stigmatized, was abandoned by everyone,this was in early 2000s when there was no much sensitisation about the virus. The child was taken away from her immediately after birth, she said she was not even allowed to hold her child.
She shamefully relocated from the city because no one except her elder sister wanted x to associate themselves with her
Arv wasn't everywhere like these days, she was going from one prayer house to the other, she sold everything to buy one famous Dr that was rumoured to have the cure but she was getting worse until she was introduced to a hiv care centre, she said she has given up on life but after she was placed on drugs, she started feeling better and alive.
She was lucky to be getting employment with the ciphl ( not sure if I get it right) the people taking care of positive people, the pay wasn't much when she started but she was determined, went for part time and she's now one of their top staff there.
After 14 years, the husband started sending people to her that she should come back, since she hasn't remarried and she hasn't seen her son ,she said she only saw him twice , anytime she tried to connect the husband will tell her he's with his sister in Abuja .
She said she accepted so at least she will be close to her son again,not knowing the man had diabetes and one leg already amputated ,he was only looking for a care assistant, the woman said she was even ready thinking she will at least be seeing her child, but to her surprise the man refuses to bring the child back from Abuja, she didn't take eyes to see him until the man eventually died of diabetes, cos by the time she went back, his health had really gotten bad ,he was married to 2 different women but they both left him after some time,if only one had stayed with him and cared for him, his condition would have been well managed and he'll be alive and living well.
Till today,the woman said she doesn't have a relationship with her son, every attempt to get him close is always met with bricks wall.
Her story is a very sad one. But one thing about her is , despite everything she's always happy, always ready to help. If you go to her house now, you'll see lots of people, she said those people are now her family.
Life is full of surprises.
I feel for her but thank God she is in a good place.
ReplyDeleteI know a lady in my former area that died of HIV, she knew but kept going to religious houses for cure, guess she was ignorant, She also kept it from her husband till she got really sick and was hospitalized but then nothing could be done again.
So much wisdom to gather from this story. She was stigmatized and put out to sun to die and she ended up living well beyond what was expected. Just like she survived then, I feel strongly that she will one day have a relationship with her son. He probably was told horrible things about her that he needs to erase from his mind first. So many awful things were spoken about those living with hiv in the past. Many made it as though the disease was some punishment from God and ppl automatically assumed carriers were promiscuous or sexual deviants. May God continue to bless and uplift her.
ReplyDeleteThe amount of diabetic amputations that are happening these days is alarming. That disease is silently ravishing the globe and all ppl seem to be in fear of is cancer. Diabetes is even causing blindness and all kinds of problems. It’s terrible. That man had to die alone and rejected just like he rejected his wife when she needed him most. We better start loving each other and being kind cause it is the same bank account that we sow loving kindness into that we will have to reap from when we need it.
Interesting story
ReplyDeleteWow 😮, this is sad,I feel sorry for the woman,I pray she connects with her son.
ReplyDeleteWhy is it that those philandering men hardly contract HIV?
ReplyDeleteThis girl what is your problem
DeleteThanks for sharing this insightful story. I pray and hope the woman reconnect with her son.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad the woman is fine
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing. I know her son will come around soon
ReplyDeleteI promise to do hiv test anytime I travel out of my town, I don't want it done in my town in case I cast 😢
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteWow. People have stories o. So sad
ReplyDeleteThis is a typical example of some illnesses being worse than HIV.
ReplyDeleteDiabetes to me is deadlier than HIV.
The man thought he was better off by spreading the news about her status and taking her son away from her.
Why not quietly dissociate himself from her without tarnishing her image.
It is well with her.
Maybe she could use social media to see if she can find son; the boy should be in his twenties and would be probably be on the platforms.
I have seen families reuniting just from one write up on SM.
From the write up,the boy isn't interested in reconnecting with the mum
DeleteI am positive and my spouse is negative. I just don't know how. I attend NIMR and at one time they were doing a research on this phenomenon. It needed my spouse to sign and accept but the request was met with refusal. I take my drugs, we have 2 healthy children all born negative. By the way the marriage is 15 years to date. It is well.
ReplyDeleteSorry, sign for what? It is well with you in Jesus name
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