BREAKUP LOADING
A Lot of things are going on in my life now but the one that makes me saddest is that I am considering breaking up with my boyfriend of 6 months who has loved me limitless and has a lot of the characters I am looking out for in a spouse....
I want him but something deep down me keeps questioning my decision.It feels like I am unsure i want to marry him,with my brain and all my calculations,this man should be good for me but my spirit disagrees with me for nothing sake.
Though I had my fears at the start,i tried to talk it out with him,I will feel better and go get back to square 1.
I am considering ending it so I can just enjoy one straight month of peace without struggles.The fears are choking me and I feel like if I keep pushing my fears aside,I may become resentful and I won’t have energy to fight for the marriage where necessary. I am just tired. Has anyone been through this phase? Did it turn out well? I have never struggled to breakup,but this one, I have cried more than 4 times just thinking about it.
Hmmmm this is strange!!!
Your spirit man sees the future and is warning you about something you are yet to walk into.......Please end it since you dont have peace of mind......
May God grant you wisdom on how to handle this.
ReplyDeleteI was in your shoes 2 years ago, I let him go and I regret it. Letting that guy go is still one of my biggest regrets in life.
Forget that thing you think you are regretting. It wouldn't have ended well if you married him. It's better you missed him from afar because that your imagination wouldn't have worked out. This is nature, if someone is treating you right but you don't feel inner peace in the relationship, just give yourselves time and the true nature of the person towards you will surface. He may be treating his new woman the way you want to be treated now but you wouldn't have had the kind of peace of mind that his new babe has because your spirit doesn't align with his.
DeleteIt depends on what is driving this feeling, is it that you fear success and want to self sabotage, or is it your guts telling you that deep down something is off with him? Only you know what the answer is.
ReplyDeleteYeah you have to first figure out what’s causing the feeling and then you can decide after that.
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DeleteNa village people na or trauma. Many Nigerian men and women are damaged, need therapy but will never get therapy. Normal thing.
DeletePoster,your inner peace and intuition matters. Tell him you need a break,to sort yourself out. Seek the face of God concerning your fears in fasting and prayers. And God will reveal everything to you. 🤗🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteIt's not always spirit man. Sometimes it's unresolved trauma causing you to have cold feet and sabotaging your happiness to be truly happy. Past trauma will cause you thinking there is something bad about to happen because subconsciously you think you do not deserve a good thing so when a good thing comes your way, you will find every excuse to run from it. Please pray for God to remove your trauma; known and unknown and seek help if it's possible.
ReplyDeleteI just typed this before seeing your comment. Definitely a trauma response
DeleteI sense that you have a spirit husband. Hmm
ReplyDelete6 months is too soon. I would give it sometime. I was in the same board 2 years ago. I was so unsure I even went to the mountain to pray. On the way down I heard a voice tell me to leave that relationship on the mountain but everything about him was so perfect so I couldn't figure out why. There were a lot of things going on in my life and family at the time. 2 years later I now realise that I was experiencing very intense spiritual warfare especially against marrying. I am very glad I took my time, continued to pray and allowed things to unravel naturally. He is such a great man. I would advise you to take your time.
ReplyDeleteYou can do as your spirit want and have the peace your heart is looking for but hope your village people are not in this relationship. Make sure you pray before you end it.
ReplyDeleteWhat is all this?
ReplyDeletePlease end it
ReplyDeleteFor you to keep holding back means your spirit is trying to alert you
Please break up with him
SHe didn't mention any bad thing about him. From what she wrote, she is not ready.
DeleteIt's just fear my dear
DeleteIt's butterflies nine your stomach
Don't let over spititualising stuff mess up your happy day
But pray tho
It's just fear my dear
DeleteIt's butterflies nine your stomach
Don't let over spititualising stuff mess up your happy day
But pray tho
Poster, just six months and you are afraid of what??
ReplyDeleteInstead of deceiving yourself and leading him on, why not you let him know, break up the relationship and free him till when you are ready.
Yes nah, since you are not free with him and you are always afraid.
Forget about him just break up with him ,get your peace first
ReplyDeletePoster what are you afraid of? Are you scared of commitment?? You really need to know the problem.
ReplyDeletePlease calm down and pray about it before making any decision.
Nsogbu. This life eeh. Nawaooo.
ReplyDeleteSo what are your fears actually? Has he done some terrible things to you that you are questioning if he is truly the one? Please seek the face of God before you end it.
I pray God grant u wisdom in this situation
ReplyDeleteI was in this same shoes 8years ago with my boyfriend, I had to seek counsel and was advised to pray that it might be some spiritual husband somewhere fighting against me getting married,because he was really a nice man with excess yards of husband material, but deep down in my spirit I felt something off . I prayed but was still disturbed in my spirit which I ignored and went ahead with marriage plans. Barely 7months into the relationship we got married,and after which I began to see the real man I married. There was no peace in the marriage, he made life a living hell for me,I reported him severally to the pastor that advised me to go ahead with the marriage that it was a spirit husband fighting me but it didn't help,I called his family together to complain and his siblings asked me if I didn't date him that he had always been like this that's why they all avoid him. I wish I can go on and on so my dear pray seriously about it and listen closely to your instincts, you will find the answers you need.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should pray very well about it before you end it, so that you won't lose a good man since you said he's always been good to you, your instincts may be telling you something some times, because human beings can pretend and hide their true colours.
ReplyDeleteIf you're the type of person that usually has premonitions, then follow your gut feeling. If not, sis it's the trick of the devil
ReplyDeleteI’ve experienced that too
ReplyDeleteIt can be frustrating because you can’t see anything but your mind won’t rest
I love good things so there was no issue of trying to sabotage it. I checked deeper and saw things my spirit saw first
If you don't have peace doing something, it's wise to back so you don't regret your decisions later.
ReplyDeleteMake telling God about everything a habit. He hears and will lead you, just pray about it and fully trust Him on all issues, not only about marriage alone.
Peace is a determinant of where God is. That inner turmoil, unrest is your inner man trying to move you away from what your physical eyes can't see at the moment. Ask God for help and guidance, so that when you leave, you don't rush and come back again. Brainwork and human logic can make you do so, so do it with God's help.
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ReplyDeleteListen to me.
Pray and ask God for mercy.
Ask God to show you mercy and reveal you what you should know.
Please don’t ignore this feeling. It might be spiritual husband, it might not be
Ask God to open your eyes and in one week you will see and you will know if to proceed or not.
Go on a fast and seek God
Hold ur chest and tell urself. Repeat this word I am a evil spirit. Devil is using me.
ReplyDeleteIt's your hormones
ReplyDeletePerimenopause
Your first impression about a person the first day you met the person is actually the real definition of the person. Follow that first impression. It's a signal that you shouldn't ignore. Forget all the good things you are seeing now and follow the first time message you received subconsciously because that first scene that played in your head on the first day will play out again, this time will be in the physical when the time comes. Your fears are valid, your spirit is telling you something that you don't need to ignore. You described him as a good man yet your mind is not at ease with him, lol,. My sister that's a big sign that you shouldn't ignore, I tell you this. You think your instinct is a joke?
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