ADVICE NEEDED
I need your sincere input and advice for a friend
What can you advice this friend of mine to do in this situation?
He got married to a single mother, and accommodated the child who will turn 15 this year.
He got married to a single mother, and accommodated the child who will turn 15 this year.
When their marriage clocked 5 months, the lady suffered stroke and till now, the guy has been spending a lot of money on her sickness.
By November this year, their marriage will be two years old.
My friend is fed up already and needs sincere advice. The wife's family has not been helping financially and left him to it all alone and now, he is financially handicapped to continue the wife's treatment....
My friend is fed up already and needs sincere advice. The wife's family has not been helping financially and left him to it all alone and now, he is financially handicapped to continue the wife's treatment....
What should he do?
Don't be biased please.
Don't be biased please.
This is tough and I am so sorry he has to go through this...
Truth of the matter is that the wife is no longer the responsibility of her family, though they can help out if they deem fit and out of blood ties grounds....She is now your friends responsibility and the marriage is until death do them part, in sickness and in health, for better for worse!!!
Let him meet with her family and see if they can arrange something how to help him out with caring for hr
Why do you have to add her single motherhood into the narrative? So it would have been easier on your friend if she's not a single mother? Let him abandon her and her child and do whatever he likes.
ReplyDeleteNa make we for know say the man use him hand carry plenty problem
Delete"Why do you have to add her single motherhood into the narrative?"
DeleteWas it:
To test whether you guys would make or give unbiased comments or advice?
Make the story complete as to the man's financial challenges?
Advice on how to deal with the child?
Whatever, why does it rile You & Co?
If the post was about a Baby Daddy, you would -
Not have asked why his Baby Daddy status was mentioned.
Have asked why he did not call on his Baby Mama to nurse him.
Have said that it is when "they" know they are sick or perceive sickness that "they" marry to slave women as wives.
See that you did not have any progressive advice for him on how to raise funds or get her family to support, or even get the Baby Daddy to support, or take over the care and welfare of his 15 year old child in order to lighten the husband's financial load?
All you gave is the usual.
#Yinmu
For better for worse.
DeleteTrust God for His wife's healing process
Does her family have and not helping? has he reached out to them that he needs help? Whatever decision he wants to take, he should not abandon her because tomorrow is pregnant.
ReplyDeleteMe trying to connect her being a single mother to the entire story but can't find one.
ReplyDeleteSame here !!
DeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteTake SDK's advice....This is the truth she has highlighted in her red ink...However he can reach out to her family to discuss her care and for support....
It is well...I wish her a speedy recovery and May God provide for them financially...
All the best
When one is the sole caregiver of a sick person, the tendency to be overwhelmed and frustrated go dey.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear about your friend and his wife's situation.
But ask your friend if he was the one down, what does he think his wife would do?
Your friend needs help, he should seek for help from her family and his family and just breathe.
If he had support, he probably wouldn't feel this overwhelmed.
This is not the time to check out
Let him seek for financial help from his wife's family, he has already tried, I pray God helps him.
ReplyDeleteThis is marriage,you took your vows before God and man
ReplyDeleteIt's till death do you part
If the roles were reversed,would she leave you if you fell sick?
He needs to reach out to her family if they are in position to help. He has been there for her, his resources are exhausted. If every other channel has been drained dry then as a last resort, he should reach out to her family if they can help.
ReplyDeleteThey gave her to him in marriage, they didn't cast her out. Let him be subtle about asking them for financial involvement and not be too direct. How they respond will say a lot about what kind of family they are.
So sorry for what your friend and his wife are going through.
ReplyDeleteLeaving at this moment, won't be the best. This is the time to prove his love to her. He should discuss with her family and see if they can render any help.
I pray for God's healing hands to rest upon her in Jesus name 🙏
Poster ndo,your friend is sincerely overwhelmed both physically and financially. Marriage is for sickness and in health. I pray God's healing upon her life. God will continue to strengthen you. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteLife uncertainty can happen to anybody so am with Stella on this which an addition that you friend ,family and his family can be of help but he can contact the boy father if he knows him to take responsibility for him @15yrs and with the child mother physically incapacitated it is lawful to sue the father of the boy for neglect.Yes the law covers that ,he can be forced to take responsibility.That is not your responsibility even though you married his mother and if he is not responsible just look for justice court website on line and submit a petition ,he will be summoned even if he is not in Nigeria physically online
ReplyDeleteI pray for Divine healing and help for the man and his wife,and may the Almighty God strengthen the man in every situation.
ReplyDeletewhat is she been a single mom got to do with anything? do you think the woman would have left if the roles were reversed ? men think for better for worse is just by mouth. mtchewww. also if they had hit a jackpot after their marriage, would he have asked the woman's family to share in their new fortune ? so why is he expecting the woman's family to help financially ?
ReplyDeleteyour friend should speak to the wife's family and see how they can assist him. The wife is his full responsibility since they are married, her family can assist if they have. Your friend should speak with her family to be sure they can even assist or have been waiting for him to make some moves. It's well with your friend and his wife, he shouldn't give up on her.
ReplyDeleteSending Her Lovee ❤️
ReplyDeleteMay Almighty God Heal Her In Jesus mighty name..
I Pray For Financial Breakthrough In Their Life AMEN 🙏
Hello iya Boys
What does accommodating the child has anything to do with the story?
ReplyDeleteIf he is tired, let him approach her family and seek for support.
Well she is your friend's responsibility now no matter how old the marriage is. I pray that God gives him the fund or a total healing to the wife. If he leaves her now, he is leaving her for no one
ReplyDeleteAsk your friend if reverse was the case what would he expect from the wife. Let him think and answer himself honestly and then do to the woman. It's really simple.
ReplyDeleteThe wife is his responsibility, and he should handle it. If she were in good health, he likely wouldn’t be complaining. The fact that she was a single mother should not have been mentioned, because he went into the marriage fully aware of that.
ReplyDeleteYour friend wants someone to say it’s okay to leave the lady
ReplyDeletePlain and simple.
DeleteWhich kind gbese be this? Marriage wey person never enjoy. The devil does too much ooo. Crazy
ReplyDeleteUnfortunate situation.
ReplyDeleteLet him seek for help from the wife family.
If he was the person under this sickness,the wife would have seen him through it..
I pray for healing for the wife.
Unfortunate situation.
ReplyDeleteLet him seek for help from the wife family.
If he was the person under this sickness,the wife would have seen him through it..
I pray for healing for the wife.
He should go into prayers. This could be a projected at tack on her or the marriage.
ReplyDeleteThis is his life test. Only God knows why this is his test. If he is squeezed financially then it is no problem to ask for help.
ReplyDeleteActually, I don’t know how other families are but if this woman was one of my siblings I would be providing support, cooking meals for a period and letting them freeze so it would take some of the pressure off. I would help clean and do laundry for them and also provide funds. I could never leave a loved one who is incapacitated at the mercy of a spouse, sorry. Unless she is an only child the siblings and parents should be helping out some.