ADVICE NEEDED
What will you do if an ex reached out to you for financial help after 4 years?.
This is someone that the both of you were so in love but due to genotype issues you both went your separate ways.
He quickly moved on and started a family. Meanwhile you're still single after 4 years but financially stable.
He suddenly remembers you because he heard that you're doing well financially and reached out to you to support him and his family.
What will you do if you are in my shoes? will you support him or ignore him?
He quickly moved on and started a family. Meanwhile you're still single after 4 years but financially stable.
He suddenly remembers you because he heard that you're doing well financially and reached out to you to support him and his family.
What will you do if you are in my shoes? will you support him or ignore him?
If it was me? I would give him something and block him permanently!
You can also decide to ignore him and not give him anything but he didnt hurt you did he?You parted ways cos of the genotype and he probably stayed away so that it would be easy for both of you..Now he has no choice but to beg for help, it may have taken him a lot to ask...Please help him....
Poster,help him from your heart genuinely. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿. God will bring your husband soon.
ReplyDeleteBlessed is he that gives than recieves. when you give to the poor, you lend to God. This should be your mindset
ReplyDelete@Straight guy, correct. Now pls apply this scripture to yourself!
DeleteYou can help him, but set limit
DeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteNa you get yam and knife....There are some decisions you make and bear the consequences....So you decide on what you want to do....
All the best...
How did he treat you while you were dating?
ReplyDeleteWhat does your heart currently ask you to do?
If you decide to help, ensure you create a boundary and protect yourself so that you don't end up being used.
Help him but draw boundaries, don't let him turn you to ATM card or side chick or both
ReplyDeletevery important.
Deletei will help him if i have or can afford what he is asking from me. Is not like he left you and married someone else but he left so that you both can have peace and rest of mind. Assist him if you because turn do turn around. You may also be attracting good things in your life, do not help him and feel hurt that he did not marry you. Genotype issue is a very serious thing one should not over look because when the chips are down that man will run aways an all the millions you feel you have today may not even save you. Sorry that you are still single but God will bring a perfect man for you, help when you can and God will bless you more.
ReplyDeleteIgnore him or give and block.
ReplyDeleteCuz if you eventually give him, he will start making demands from time to time.
You don't wanna be starting something do you?? Next thing if him and madam have issues, he will use you for emotional support, next thing you know , you are sleeping with him.
Gifty
Poster if you can afford to help him kindly do so. See it as sacrifice.
ReplyDeleteIf you are sure the need is genuine and you have the capacity to to give go ahead for the love you ones shared and for humanity sake. I have ones gave an ex money after the delivery of his child through cs and he needed help and I looked beyond the past.
DeleteIt takes deep humility for that ex to reach out. Economy must be dashing marathon of sufferation. Do your findings to make sure he is legit in need and not just trying to scam you. Once your findings prove true then by all means help within your capacity. Do not loan anything, give without any expectations cause loaning will only set you up for disappointment. A one time gift is all I would do, and likely that is all he needs.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I would never want to see someone I once loved and intended to marry suffering, especially if we parted amicably. I don’t even like to see strangers suffering much less someone I actually respect and care for. But that’s me.
No it doesn’t take humility for many people to beg
DeleteY’all keep judging people based on how you are and that’s how good people get scammed
He might be saying she doesn’t have child and doesn’t have what to spend money on so her helping him is nothing
16:39, perhaps you’re correct but also perhaps not
DeleteGod bless you 🙏
DeleteIn my father’s generation, it is a shame and taboo for a man to ask for monetary favour from a woman. There is no shame in this generation, Tufiakwa!
ReplyDeleteAs a woman who has a good heart, I will give him once as Stella suggested but if he wants to use me as his onye ocha, I will block him.
Nigeria youths, there is no glory in asking a lady for money except she is your wife. Go out there and be a man. Go to building site and earn a living. It will give you more self-respect/worth than asking a lady for money. Oh Chim.
Ok I know Nigeria is tough now but don’t make it a habit, people don’t think great about a man that always depends on a woman.
And before you give him the money, ask him specific questions on why he has to stooped this low.
Help him .
ReplyDeleteIGNORE HIM
ReplyDeleteGET WHY ?
LONG STORY !!!!!!!
YES , I AM SHOUTING
He quickly move on , may be he is dating two of you at the same time.
IGNORE HIM
Help him if you can and don't allow him use you constantly.
ReplyDeleteYou can choose to offer support, set boundaries, or decline the request, depending on your comfort level.
ReplyDeleteThe reasons for parting ways are genuine. She needs support, and since I have the means, why not? Asking for help is not a crime, it’s an act of courage.
ReplyDeleteIgnore him and block him, this maybe his way of getting back into your life.Since he moved on so quickly,he should keep it moving
ReplyDeleteIf you can afford to help him, do so but do not agree to physical meeting with him or indulge him in phone calls that will rekindle old flames but at the same time, do not let him turn you to ATM.
ReplyDeleteMy instincts say block him before you turn to ATM. Don't let your empathy and compassion lead you down the path of Okafor's law. If you must give, give what you can afford to lose and block him everywhere. Men know the women they can take from. Shine your eyes.
ReplyDeleteDid you follow him for test result
ReplyDeleteMaybe he faked it to move on
How did it take 4 years for this to come up
it's not only men that gives women. women if you have, give. it's not a gender thing.
ReplyDeleteHelp him on one condition that he send his wife account or that he should tell his wife about it and let the wife call you.Men can be funny so that latter nobody will accuse you of wanting to break somebody marriage because you never marry
ReplyDeletePlease ignore and block him. There is no long story about this issue.
ReplyDeleteBlock,block,block,sista BLOCK Ooo
ReplyDeleteDo whatsoever your mind tells u
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately most Nigerians don’t beg once and go away
ReplyDeleteDon’t start what you can’t finish
What is the request for anyway? and how much
Please help him in any way you can. I know you feel betrayed, but I'm sure before he came to ask you for help, it wouldn't have been easy for him
ReplyDeleteWould you have been truly happy with him knowing you two could have brought kids into this world to suffer? Why are you skeptical about lending a help to someone you once loved, whom you seperated from because of natural isues?
ReplyDeleteHelp if you can, but block him afterwards so he doesn't return for more financial burdens.
They could have done ivf
DeleteBut he probably had another option on the side so he left
I have a problem with people that only reach out when they need help
ReplyDeletePlease block him asap before the wife start calling you out on Social media that you want to snatch her husband. If you want to do charity, please look for someone else.
ReplyDeletePlease help him save his marriage. If the wife hears he is collecting money from his ex , she will not like it ,just as he will not like it if she is collecting money from her ex. The door is closed leave it like that
ReplyDeleteDo not give to this man. If you must, tell him that you need to speak to his wife as well to make sure that she is ok with it. If he refuses, block him pls. 2mr the woman will start shouting that his ex will not let him have peace. Meanwhile na the man dey reach out o. Pls bring us update abeg. Don't give without a witness and the witness must be his wife.
ReplyDeleteYou sound as if you want him back despite the genotype issue
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