UNALIFED BY MISTAKE
One day, I woke up to noises and jumped up to check the time.
It was past 3 a.m.
I peeped through the window and saw the security guard beating a young man, accusing him of stealing from the street. The commotion woke other people and I went outside to see. His face looked familiar, but I couldn't place him.
People were shouting questions at him, but he wouldn’t answer. He was proving stubborn and trying to fight back.
Others joined in and began beating him, and because I have a phobia of such scenes I started to panic and ran back inside.
By morning, only a few people and the security guard remained; the young man was tied up. I went closer and asked if he knew me, but he didn’t speak. He only stared.
Some of the men warned me to leave or they’d rough me up, so I left for work.
Before I returned home, I heard he had died and that the police had taken his body.
Since then I’ve been restless. I keep thinking where I knew him from.
Two days later, I saw his picture on someone’s status.
An acquaintance posted it and said the family had reported him missing. I asked and learnt that he was the younger brother of one of our classmates.
We grew up in the same neighborhood here in Lagos. I knew him. He wasn’t a thief. Even as a child he behaved strangely and would sometimes run away from home. He is not mentally okay but it's seasonal.
I got my classmate’s number from the person who posted the photo and called to offer my sympathy.
While discussing, she said their pastor told her he is alive and would return soon.
I saved her number and started viewing her status updates.
She posts about him often, writing about waiting for him and can't wait for them to fight as usual. So many emotional write ups.
Yesterday was his birthday, and her post had me in tears. She’s still hopeful. When I replied with prayers and got emotional, she told me not to to be.
That her brother is safe and will come home soon, and asked me to keep praying for his return.
I haven’t been myself since; I’ve been crying.
How do I tell her that her brother is dead?
For the record: they reported him to the police. including the same station that handled his body but they didn't do their work well.
When I visited them. She almost beat up one of our acquaintances that told her to stay strong, that his brother must have died.
And since then, she've been avoiding her and saying bad things about her.
I peeped through the window and saw the security guard beating a young man, accusing him of stealing from the street. The commotion woke other people and I went outside to see. His face looked familiar, but I couldn't place him.
People were shouting questions at him, but he wouldn’t answer. He was proving stubborn and trying to fight back.
Others joined in and began beating him, and because I have a phobia of such scenes I started to panic and ran back inside.
By morning, only a few people and the security guard remained; the young man was tied up. I went closer and asked if he knew me, but he didn’t speak. He only stared.
Some of the men warned me to leave or they’d rough me up, so I left for work.
Before I returned home, I heard he had died and that the police had taken his body.
Since then I’ve been restless. I keep thinking where I knew him from.
Two days later, I saw his picture on someone’s status.
An acquaintance posted it and said the family had reported him missing. I asked and learnt that he was the younger brother of one of our classmates.
We grew up in the same neighborhood here in Lagos. I knew him. He wasn’t a thief. Even as a child he behaved strangely and would sometimes run away from home. He is not mentally okay but it's seasonal.
I got my classmate’s number from the person who posted the photo and called to offer my sympathy.
While discussing, she said their pastor told her he is alive and would return soon.
I saved her number and started viewing her status updates.
She posts about him often, writing about waiting for him and can't wait for them to fight as usual. So many emotional write ups.
Yesterday was his birthday, and her post had me in tears. She’s still hopeful. When I replied with prayers and got emotional, she told me not to to be.
That her brother is safe and will come home soon, and asked me to keep praying for his return.
I haven’t been myself since; I’ve been crying.
How do I tell her that her brother is dead?
For the record: they reported him to the police. including the same station that handled his body but they didn't do their work well.
When I visited them. She almost beat up one of our acquaintances that told her to stay strong, that his brother must have died.
And since then, she've been avoiding her and saying bad things about her.
YOU ARE A WICKED PERSON FOR KEEPING QUIET....I am shaking with tears and anger just imagining that she has hope and waiting for her brother to come back but you that watched him being beaten to death said nothing.....
I am too shocked to comment further.
Very sensitive matter
ReplyDeleteDear Poster
ReplyDeleteI think you should use a private number and direct her to the police station
Did you read that the sister reported the matter to the police station, including the station that handled his body?? It’s up there go back and read, so which station is she going to direct her again?
DeletePoster are you normal like this?
ReplyDeleteAre you okay??
that means the police did not arrive on time and they killed that poor guy, he couldn't speak because of his mental condition and you all felt he was stubborn or a tif. You have to find away to speak to his family about what happened to him and plead them to forgive you and all your neighbors else you may never have peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteThat her pastor is just giving her false hope and since the hope is coming from her pastor she may never believe what anyone will say. You may also try and see how you can reach her pastor or anyone who is close to her and can handle the situation when she get to hear it. May his soul rest in peace and may she find the heart to forgive. The guy went missing and they saw him in your neighborhood and said he was a tif, they killed him without proof of what he stole.
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteThis is an extremely painful and complicated situation.......You witnessed something traumatic, and it is normal to feel guilt, fear, and confusion afterward.....Please be gentle with yourself....
Regarding the family, you have information they do not but sharing it directly could lead to anger, blame, or even danger to you...... If you feel a need to help, one option is to contact them anonymously with what you know.....Another is to step back completely to protect your safety......
Right now, the family is still in denial and holding onto hope.......When people are grieving, especially if they don’t yet have closure, hearing the truth from someone close to the incident can make them react very badly......
Whatever you decide, consider reaching out to a trusted friend, counselor, or matured pastor or lawyer for support....Please stop checking & monitoring their WhatsApp statuses and getting so invested in this so they won't be disappointed that you were in the know all along.....
Please be very careful....
All the best....
I'm not surprised at this Nigerians are inherently wicked
ReplyDeleteUhhm better keep quiet afterall you were not there when he died ?they told you if you follow go tell police they will pick you up and asked you to identify who told you ,from there you will take them houses of people that kill him
ReplyDeleteUhhm better keep quiet afterall you were not there when he died ?they told you if you follow go tell police they will pick you up and asked you to identify who told you ,from there you will take them houses of people that kill him
ReplyDeleteUhhm better keep quiet afterall you were not there when he died ?they told you if you follow go tell police they will pick you up and asked you to identify who told you ,from there you will take them houses of people that kill him
ReplyDeleteOh God, This is disturbing ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
ReplyDeletePpl just jumped in and started beating someone too? And everyone in the estate knows he was merdered in cold blood and everyone is just going on about their lives because he was supposedly a thief so it doesn’t matter.
ReplyDeleteI don’t have any advice to give you because your conscience is already dealing with you. You already have no peace and for the rest of your life this incident will be on your chest because you know that deep down you could have saved his life. You failed a spiritual test twice, you did nothing to help the innocent person and you are stringing their loved one along.
Hnmmm
ReplyDeleteYou should have saved that man by reporting at the nearest police station, you knew they were beating someone on the accusation of theft and it was even someone you knew, yet you went to work.
ReplyDeleteInstead of you to even tell his sister the truth and direct her to the police station that took the body away, you are giving her false hope, you're not a good person, tell his sister the truth or find elderly people or a pastor to tell her, so that they can find closure and move on on time.
Sensitive case as this is Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteInforming the family directly would put you in danger.
The system would work against you. I pray you find peace because you tried but the threat was not having your opinion.
May God rest his soul.
She could have reported anonymously. She didn’t even have to use her own cellphone. This is why I believe phone booths should still exist. So many places got rid of phone booths with the surge in cellphone access but they still serve a purpose.
DeleteWhy didn’t you report this matter to the police? Stop hiding behind emotions or guilt trips, you remain a culprit under the law.
ReplyDeletePoster is not a culprit
DeleteYou’re not required to intervene to prevent a crime or harm to another unless the person is in your care
Just imagine if we find ourselves in an unfamiliar area and one person tells a lie on any one of us, you’re good as de@d. Life should not be so easy to lose and ppl should not be so happy to jump in and beat others. I can’t believe something like this happened in 2025.
ReplyDeleteEvil person may that guy's soul haunt you all
ReplyDeleteI know you must feel like you don't want to snitch on your neighbors, but the right thing for you to do was to have said something. Just for closure sake. It's something you would have wanted if you were in their shoes
ReplyDeleteOP you own this. You stood by and let them beat him to death.
ReplyDeleteThis is why we intervene. Because you never quite know whether it is somebody you know.
If you feel they won't listen to you, run and speak to somebody they ll listen to.
I wouldn't want to be you right now and forever.
Find the pastor that is giving her false hope, tell him what you know or simply send him this link anonymously and let him do what he will with the information while you move on from it. Stop watching her status too
ReplyDeleteGod will punish you poster for keeping silent twice leading to the death of this young man whether he looks familiar to you or not. The same fate that befall this boy will befall you.
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