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MARRIED SIDE BOO

Hi Stella .

I’m married and my husband and I base in different states due to our jobs.
I have been a “good girl” most of my life. Married à virgin and my husband is the only man I’ve ever had sxx with.

However, I recently got involved with a married man whose family is based abroad.
What started as a friendly convo on WhatsApp graduated to dates and making out occasionally.

Now we can barely go a day without seeing or talking to each other. We get each other so well I wish he was the one I had married instead.
We both have kids. And married to good spouses.

He treats me so good and pampers me. I feel like a teenager with him.
We agreed to a no sxx affair and so far he has been very very compliant, never tried to pressure me into doing anything I’m not comfortable with. Even for our first kiss, he asked me if he could do so and only went ahead with my consent.
He so sweet and gentle. I’ve never met any man so well to do yet humble and kind as he is.

We both initially agreed to just be each other’s companion due to our long distance marriage arrangement.
But recently he has been saying that wants more serious commitment with me.
It started with him asking me one day if I would ever consider leaving my marriage for him, and I said no, he noticed my mood changed afterwards and apologized that he was joking.

But after wards I noticed he was a bit distant and I decided to give him space for over a month as I don’t want anyone complicating my life more than it already is.
He called last week and pleaded for us to see, I had actually missed him a lot as he was like my best friend and confidant.

When we finally met, he told me outrightly that he wanted me to be his wife. That he was willing to start the divorce proceedings with his wife if he had my assurance that I would leave my husband for him.

I was shocked. Was wondering how we went from thinking we had broken up to marriage proposal.
He said the past month without me was what gave him the clarity he needed to make this decision. And asked me to please think about it.

Now to my concerns.

If I take this chance I have a strong feeling his family would never accept me because I see how close they are to his wife. His siblings and parents often travel and spend time with his wife and family over there even in his absence, I follow her on sm and see all these.

I love him very much. I’ve known him for over 3 years now and he has been an amazing friend even before we got involved but my one concern is that if he could cheat on his wife with me he would probably cheat on me too in future, even so with his full chest as I may not have the moral rectitude to demand fidelity from him then considering our history.

I actually have peace of mind in my marriage, my husband respects me and treats me well. I have never had to worry about another woman though I cannot vouch for his activities over there. We have never really been love doves just understand each other enough to do this marriage thing amicably but with my side boo our connection is so strong and so fulfilling.

In the past I used to nag my husband a lot for more emotional intimacy as I had that deep longing for such emotional connection and he wasn’t meeting it. But ever since I started this affair, I’m happier and more deeply fulfilled. I hardly even get upset over anything with my husband anymore as i’m always in a happy mood.
My side boo and I talk all day, any time any where. We are completely free with each other. He insists he doesn’t want to leave things as they are has become a little more bold about our affair unlike before. He introduces me to his friends now and invites me to attend important events with him though I have declined all.

I have thought deeply about his proposal and I’m honestly worried. For my kids and our spouses. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I actually like his wife. It’s weird. I hate to ever hurt her

My parents too would be so disappointed as they are so religious and even though I’m not a religious person I wouldn’t want to hurt them with this as they worry a lot about what people say.

A part of me wants to go for my happiness and love and just agree to his proposal. I can comfortably take care of my kids though I worry this may destabilize them a lot emotionally. Do I stay for them, Lose my Boo and be miserable for the rest of my life?

Has anyone been in this situation before?

Why are you letting this give you sleepless nights? It is simple...Devil use your ring tone dey dance.....

That man will break your marriage and return to his wife when the passion dies down.no mind am oh...... And read my lips.....He is not filing for any divorce...HE CANNOT!!!

He just wants to start the process to opening your cookie jar, once he gbensh you and him belle ful, he go enter voicemail.

let me give you tip on how to break the relationship....Ask him for a huge amount of money and you will see how this sweet love story you are yarning us will turn to dust...LOL

Thank me later.