Where did she say one thing about this man that warranted that Mariam Ba's ''So long a letter' sensational press release? That was too much toxicity loaded in it and he said he left because she was toxic? Oga you ARE the toxic one and your toxic is sitting with you waiting to offload again...
For someone who has found and married his peace that is a lot of bitterness offloaded..
You sent her on a vacation because blah blah blah, gosh where is maturity? Oga how old are you?What is your business if she is living a fake life on the social media or not? Are you monitoring her? Didnt you move on with your peace?
GOSH!!!...In trying to refute whatever you thought needed to be refuted, you have shown us why that marriage did not work.....!!
I am happy that she found love again and is married..Oga you do no have the power to hurt her again!
Oga you are too bitter, please drink some honey!
EX FROM HELL!!!
EX FROM HELL!!!
Hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteHe acted like man-child in my opinion. Besides, that testimony video was an old one
Imagine being married to this old man if he can respond in this manner. And how many failed marriages or relationships now? Next phase is to keep marrying the young ones.
DeleteGOD BLESS AND KEEP THIS MARRIAGE AGAINST ALL ODDS ๐
ReplyDeleteAMEN and AMEN๐๐ป
DeleteI wonder how I was able to read the long rubbish that he was vomiting, maybe because I love amebo.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading, I went online to search for more stories about them and found out that the said testimony was a long time ago, she didn't share it after getting married recy. Then I began to wonder what sort of a bitter man he is.
I just hope the lady and her man ignore him henceforth ,no matter how much blogs and newspapers offer them to talk.
Recently* what's wrong with this phone sef?
DeleteOmo, their news is hot, especially the comment section of Facebook ๐คฃ
Let me go and read more, I love amebo die
I hope she doesn't respond.
DeleteMy people say that Ana anu ogu,anaro eti anya mu,anya mu o, you don't hit someone and when he replies, you turn round to complain about where he hit you at war,it's not done.If she quietly got married like he did, we won't be here discussing this.You may argue that the video is an old video but during the wedding people kept dropping comments that portrayed the guy in bad light and he's just supposed to take them all in so that people won't term him toxic?
ReplyDeleteLet's stop running from accountability, this same thing just happened with Ned, his issue was brought online and when he replied,people faulted him for replying the way he did,what exactly was he supposed to do?Yes, he sent her on a trip on his dime, how many of us can do that for someone you're in the process of breaking up with?this two face doesn't fit
Exactly my point as well. You're greatly in order. When a man tells his side of the story, he's labelled petty and when a woman does, she's celebrated as being strong.
DeleteIt happened to me here so I understand better.
© TEEJAY
Some people do not know that reputation is a wallet loaded with Fx and Naira.
DeleteIf he did not do a good job, his reply would not have gotten 2 posts in 12 or lesser hours on this blog.
The Bible says to let sleeping dogs be on their own. Read Proverbs.
@spongebob and 11:42, you both made so much sense. Kudos to your critical thinking skills
DeleteStella, the Grand Dame of Naija Blogging.
ReplyDeleteYou know the algorithms of your business and the major source. You do all to keep the numbers.
Some of the greatest headlines in Nigerian Press consisted of only two words. Ever heard of "Akin....Taku". Ask the older folks about that headline.
Even a word says a lot and more than a million in context.
How about you teaching the younger of your greater numbers here to be better, than always riling them up whenever it is between a man and woman. Will a man and a woman not have issues in this world? As they do with their separate gender?
Let her go ask her father if he called him to apologise, and she should come out to tell the public if he lied. Better still ask her for her father's number and do the interview yourself if the father apologised as alleged. That is the plumb line on this matter.
Doh. We ko be ruo.
Peace
Her new marital union is blessed and may God uphold it❤️❤️
ReplyDeleteThat exposรฉ was too spiteful as though he wasn't pleased that she has moved on and found love again. Na wa!
He has done his worst. I pray Shawn handles it maturely and concentrates on his new family.
Very spiteful and many women can read between the lines of his subtle dragging.
DeleteStella's write up was apt. Just because men bully women who support others on social media, many women are too scared to express their truth. It's not even about taking sides, just being fair. His response was ridiculous in comparison to what she may or may not have said in an 'old video'.
Oh dear! Break ups,divorce shouldnt be this bitter, just pick yourself up, drop the baggage and move the Hell on!
ReplyDeleteStella,
ReplyDeleteI think I have a diverse opinion on this. See eehn, everyone has a right of reply in any given circumstances. Yes the video was an old one but did she lie in the testimony? Let's start from there. How would she have said the man woke up one morning and walked away without saying all what really led to it. It was a wrong narrative to paint the man bad. It's good the man opened up all that transpired.
Men are human beings too and shouldn't be blackmailed to silence.
The only problem I see here is the bloggers that reposted an old interview that gaslighted the man to react. Probably the man may not have known or recollected it was an old video. In life, it's good to set the record straight. Sometimes we may feel people give out too many private details until it happens to us. We all know in Nigeria silence means admissibility.
Until the lions have their own historians, the history of the hunt will always glorify the hunter. Men shouldn't be shut down from telling their own side of the story. A man is always painted bad by the society until the story are set straight.
© TEEJAY
Hmmm! Stella, sheath your 'pen'. Only two people were in that marriage.
ReplyDeleteWhat is in it for you?
Allow her to enjoy her honeymoon period in her second marriage.
His ex-wife has not bothered to reply/rebutt. Hopefully, she doesn't.
Both parties have remarried.
*YIMU..
ReplyDeleteBreeze has blown and we have seen the nakedness of the fowl butt ๐..
A man that invested so much in she and her family would just wake up and end marriage bah,. If not that he has just decided to count it all as sunk cost and escape with his life..
But werey now went to play victim disguised as testimony so the family of the new guy won't ask her the reason her last marriage ended..
Someone play me that - "E don cast, last last" song ๐๐..
My anger with the man is him still forming bigger man after divorce, sending werey to Italy and Paris as per say he already promised her before divorce.. ofa you are a dundie.. money wey you for come share give me and ezege here and you go earn a loyal friend that got your back anyday so far you're living right
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DeleteNo be lie bro. We would remain loyal to him I swear. Now I'm even defending him witiout a penny๐
© TEEJAY
You no dey fall hand at all?
DeleteWhich kain man you be sef?
Lol
Sure say na those trips money pain the man pass.
Which bitter such after payments dey assuage.
Me come rethink know say the man really deserve the thanksgiving testimony
Hahahahaha
Lol..
DeleteThe man lost the game even before it started..
When the babe started telling him all those sob stories on the first day of meeting, babe was expecting Baba to nack and give her some cash or give her some cash and nack after, whichever comes first.. but Baba go Jones himself..
Something wey him for just do pay as you go,. Him go dey do captain save a h0e๐..
If na man meet am with all those stories him for listen to am? Lol.. Baba for the girls isonu lol
11:49 please, be objective.
Delete@DANTE and @TEEJAY made valid points.
Her ex-husband made a FACTUAL response to clear his reputation and with accountability for his own flaws in humble repentance.
Stella and other bloggers should let this matter REST and STOP milking it with SENSATIONAL and INCITING headlines ❗️
So the man that allegedly lifted you and your family out of poverty should keep quiet while you make him appear bad before the public. If he did all those things he mentioned despite your short lived marriage, give him his flowers. What did you give him in return while the marriage lasted?
ReplyDeleteExtremely well written.
DeleteThank you for this. So well said. I could never find the words to describe how I feel with some comments here blaming the man.
We all have our moments in life that we regret.
© TEEJAY
She talk her testimony, we wowed, Oga refute, we say, haa. Wo, na una know. That part Oga said side chick turn wife and ended up not being wife material, I thought Oga was married and had her as girlfriend. That was demeaning sir, to say about someone who just had her wedding.You were double dating then, that is dating her and another person. You both are just trying to do whose hands clean pass for all wetin happen in the marriage. For anything that is good, it takes two people, who through self sacrifice, ego death, positive communication, understanding, patience and a win win approach to things to make it work. For anything that is bad as well, the people played a part, it takes two for things to tangle. When we make choices, and it leads us down a path, or rewards, let's pick lessons, take time heal and move forward. It's a lighter weight. Abi you people want to build a presence with your stories.
ReplyDeleteToo much of shalaye laced with degrading words for someone that has moved on.
ReplyDeletePeace of mind indeed!
You’ve been crying since yesterday. His response really pained you
DeleteMany a time Stella's commentaries to posts are skewed and infantile.Everyone has a right of reply to claims and accusations that mention them. You dont let it slide, silence is consent.
ReplyDeleteThe man has every right to reply cos of what she said about the man ending the marriage abruptly..the narrative out there labeled the man as a narcissist, so he has to correct it ❗️imagine all he did for her and her family, if the man didn’t talk, we couldn’t have known
ReplyDeleteSince both of them have moved on to different partners, they should face their marriages abeg
Thank you
DeleteIn my own opinion, what the man did is not wrong, he cleared his name.
ReplyDeleteEveryone is guiding their reputation.
Mariam.
Guarding not guiding.
DeleteThank you anon.
DeleteMariam
The man have to defend himself. His reputation was at steak with the old testimony.
ReplyDeleteStake not steak.
DeleteThank you anno 14:04
DeleteAt the end of the day, the woman you're being a simp to will still never hail you for being a simp to her, or the organisation of the women folks too, will never praise you but hate you, for not continuing in your simping.
ReplyDeleteImagine sending her to Paris while in divorce process, (what lady would do that in this world?) and holding hands to wish her well on the last day and even settling her! And what did you get in return from her?
Inshort if she has a string to pull so your life will be cut short now? She will without bating an eyelid, simps would always learn the hard way!
Wrong.
DeleteWhat the woman did is wrong
I like as the man came out to defend himself. Even though we don't really know what truly transpired in their short-lived marriage.
ReplyDeleteYou can't come out to say someone just ended a marriage just like that without any tangible reason, when it's not as if the man was mad or something.
Everyone has a right to reply when you think you are being defamed or painted in a bad way. And you can't also dictate how a person responds or not.
And as for people saying the video is an old one, maybe the man is just seeing the video for the first time, just like us.
When it gets to your turn, let them defame you and don't come out to defend yourself. Na you sabi.
Because na man nau, he shouldn't have responded in the manner in which he did๐
They have emotions too
Muah
DeleteAbeg na who una dey talk about o?
ReplyDeleteThe guy has earned his right to "rant". If this woman as much as paid for a single haircut of his, piranhas will be convulsing in the comments.
ReplyDeleteDivorce without attachments. Taking that European tour was his final receipt for him to keep blowing his trumpet for life and a terminal stain on her character. You don't consume the shell with snail. Which one of his Greek gifts has she been able to deny collecting? Where is the class in dating someone who was engaged? According to her, her marriage ended the same way the other lady's engagement was truncated so what's the tragedy that she suffered that is new to mankind?
The wise, classy, honest and dignified response to that holiday offer was "no" but she saw her and her family's ATM card and ladder of success throwing her more coins her knees buckled at the sight of Mammon yet again. Eat it, you said it's all egun/ bone. Okay, throw it away, you said eran wa nibe/ meat still day there. . Pick a struggle. This is the mindset of the people who have been claiming to be hungry since 1960.
Avoid atenuje. Even for a casual date, have your money and offer to pay. If you're not being driven there, pay your way and have your return fare. If you're stepping out or infact, in every situation in life, , leave with CONTENTMENT which prevents "see finish" or arifin in Yoruba.
If you're not married to the person, save your desperate family these kind of insults by giving what you have, not trading your dignity for crumbs and ongoing insults. And the elders in your family too were collecting on what grounds? They are getting paid for their daughter's 53x role in a relationship outside marriage or as advanced payment of bride price? Aunty Gina is back home to keep paying the mortgage for her mother's house and the flight trips and drug trips they have taken on credit. Nothing is more expensive than those things tagged free.
The Blog owner using the story for traffic has not done 10 percent of this for her giveaway recipients but blows her own trumpet to the high heavens and so how much more this brother?