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Tuesday, November 18, 2025

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I am 25, just completed my service year, and I come from a polygamous home. My mum is the first wife, but my stepmother gave birth to two sons before my mother had me. My mum’s earlier children were all girls before I came along.

In most Igbo traditions, the first son inherits the father’s compound, and my father’s first son has been using that tradition to torment everyone. He insists loudly and constantly that he is the rightful heir and deserves the family house even though it was my mum and my older sisters who practically built, maintained, and renovated that house over the years.

The issue didn’t stop there. My father once sold the choicest portion of our land to my maternal uncle, who built a large poultry farm on it. After my uncle died and the farm closed down, my stepbrothers went after the land. They claimed my dad never sold the land but merely gave it to my uncle, and since he was now dead, they wanted it back.

My dad tried to explain to them that he actually collected money from my uncle for the land, but they argued that they were ready to refund whatever money was collected so that their own second son could build there. This dragged on for years, filled with quarrels and tension, until my uncle’s children finally presented the original documents properly signed by my father confirming the land was indeed purchased.

Now, my mum wants me to approach my uncle’s children to buy the land from them so I can build on it. She believes my sisters will support me financially, and owning that land would help us escape the endless trouble in my father’s compound.

Honestly, I was considering it until the chronicle that the man wanted to gift his son the land and say he sold it to him..I also read the comments and the comments made me rethink everything.

My uncle’s children are from another local government, and from all indications, they will likely sell it. My mum is pushing strongly for it. She believes if I don’t take the initiative, others will buy it and things will only get worse for us where we currently live especially if she is no more.

But should I go ahead?

Should I talk to my uncle’s children and attempt to buy the land, knowing it might trigger more fights with my stepbrothers. Or should I step back and avoid getting entangled in even more family drama?


Anything that has to do with land..Pick your legs and RUN FAST!!!

57 comments:

  1. Why not get another piece of land outside your uncle's.

    Make a clean start??

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    1. Please get another land, pay for it yourself and leave that environment. Your needs to choose between peace of mind and the harsh current reality.

      In Igbo land, you can also buy land and build on it, it must not be your father’s land.

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    2. Do not buy back the land.
      Your father has a reason why he sold it out on his first son.
      Men rarely sell such land out.
      Do not let your elder brother(s) put his/their anger over the sale of the land on you.

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    3. Same thing my Dad did.
      Went far away from family house to build his own.

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  2. Is it not better to buy another land different from the land in question and stay away from your step brothers all together..

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    1. Half brothers not step brothers. They share a parent.
      Even you, Stella.
      Damn.

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    2. 17.05
      Did you see what my red pen posted?so what exactly are u correcting me or anyone else for?stop this nonsense if you know that you will do it so disrespectfully...nobody beg you so carry your grammar and go away...we understand each other, step, half, quarter or whatever....

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    3. And you can’t correct people without sounding condescending and feeling like you are better than everybody else??? God forbid ur kind of education. Tufia!!

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    4. I wonder oh, poster is that the only land in town? Shey your mum won't carry you and her children away from that mess before they kill you all because of ordinary piece of land.
      I wonder why your mum bothered building and maintaining with her money when she already had an inkling of what's to come based on your traditions.
      Look my friend, life is too precious to loose it on-top 1 or 2 plots of lands, move out of that place, let them eat it.

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  3. When you have money,buy land far from them . Your dad didn't arrange his home well.

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  4. Chronicle poster, please do not buy that land.
    Go elsewhere and look for a land and buy. You see the brouhaha that comes with land matters, it is not funny.
    I am eve surprised that your mom would encourage you to purchase that land, haba!!
    See eh, forget about what your father has and try to acquire your own and must be far a way from your father's property.
    These days, responsible men don't sit back and wait for what their fathers acquired.
    Life is beautiful, sweet and interesting, you must enjoy it. Who die na e lose. Don't give room for spiritual/physical attacks.

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  5. Your reply is making me laff. God abeg in Bam ban's voice 😁

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  7. Why going for that particular land?
    Get a land somewhere far from the family house and build with Ur sisters so Ur mum can leave that house..
    Your mum and sisters should stop investing in the house..
    You people should face yourselves and mum, your father should live with the problem he created alone..


    For further future reasons, don't buy that land..or any land close to Ur family house..e get why.

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  8. Poster, you can get a land from another place far from the family land.anything land doesn't end well so avoid it.your life is more crucial than the land.

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  9. Poster, please buy a land somewhere else to avoid story that touches the heart.

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  10. Your mom wants to see her children settled before she passes on and her intentions are coming from a good place, but you see all the constant wahala already, she really wants you to venture into that mud pile. Polygamy is truly a headache for those who are born into it, no only the man enjoying.

    Try and see if you can source land elsewhere, even in another lga. And please make sure that you do your due diligence to ensure all legalities before you sign anything.

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  11. What exactly is your sisters' opinion in this?
    With their support, please buy another land elsewhere and have your documents and witnesses like your maternal uncle's children.
    I doubt you will ever have peace of mind if you purchase that one and start the process as soon as possible

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  12. Sweetheart if God has blessed you so much so that you can afford to buy a Land I'm sure he has also the perfect Land for you far from your father's compound.Use your tongue to count your teeth.

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  13. Please find another land to buy and build a house

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  14. Since they are your maternal uncle, do as your mum said. Express your interest in buying the land so that if they decide to sell, you will be at advantage. Just express interest.

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  15. Use the money to buy a land and build elsewhere. You are too young to be thrown into the chaos that comes with family land disputes and I'm surprised your mum is the one pushing you inside.

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  16. If you love advanced migraine,anxiety and "having premium problems" as an occupation;go and buy the land..

    If you prefer long life and peace of mind,look for another land elsewhere and buy,and if there is no other land in your village to buy;go to another village and buy.

    If you want my advice;know that staying alive is better than dyi*g before your time;because of a piece of land.

    Wish you all the best..

    @MARTINS

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    1. You have said it all. I know your mum wants the best for you but on this occasion, don;t listen to her.

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    2. πŸ’―!! It's not worth it at all.

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  17. Please stay away from that land.

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  18. Do you want to buy the land to pepper your step brothers or why is trouble sitting jeje and you want to go and use yanga to wake it up, is that the only land in that area? Please look for another land if you like yourself

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    1. Clearly, his mum wants to pepper the older sons.

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  19. Please look elsewhere for your safety πŸ™πŸΏ

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  20. Pls find another land to buy elsewhere in your town don't look for trouble just let them look for trouble elsewhere .Your step brothers will go after you seeing that getting the land will show that you are more than them.Some battles are avoidable in life this is one of then

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  21. Pls find another land to buy elsewhere in your town don't look for trouble just let them look for trouble elsewhere .Your step brothers will go after you seeing that getting the land will show that you are more than them.Some battles are avoidable in life this is one of then

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  22. Either your mum is hiding something from you about that land Or sorry to say she isn’t very smart or doesn’t mean well for you
    Some mums think too much about showing off instead of protecting their children
    You should be getting as far away from this mess as possible
    This is why some children don’t live long

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  23. Either your mum is hiding something from you about that land Or sorry to say she isn’t very smart or doesn’t mean well for you
    Some mums think too much about showing off instead of protecting their children
    You should be getting as far away from this mess as possible
    This is why some children don’t live long

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  24. Must you have land in your father's compound?

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  25. please if you love yourself, mum, family to stay alive. Kindly avoid going to buy that land, i will suggest you go outside that your extended family to purchase land and build for you and your siblings. Land property is what kills people so fast, before you know it those your step siblings will send you boot with just 500 naira only. Is so common and easy to send boot to someone with small money but to treat it will be forever that one may not survive it. Just tell your mum to stop and face your front.

    If you have money or your sister go build in your state capita. You can buy a land in your community and build but this one please allow your uncle's children to keep it. Avoid trouble before they will take you away from your mother.

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  26. Please try to buy the land elsewhere so your mum or sisters can settle down. Moreover it mustn't be in the village na, if you're bouyant and your sisters are willing to help, you can get in the city. Good luck to you and your family

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  27. Men never learn always marrying and marrying to keep issues when they have passed on. Poster run 40 40 from that land.

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  28. Why not fight to legalize the one your mum is living in?

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    1. That one will be inherited by his elder brother.

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  29. Why not buy somewhere else to avoid these back and forth stories?

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  30. This is 2025. Go buy land elsewhere. Save your life and your family.
    Leave that sentimental talk of your mom.
    Land that was causing issues you want to go become a rightful owner?
    What if they decide to go diabolical?

    Forget my father's land, my father's house, my father's heritage.
    And if building in your village is waste of resources, kindly build in the city , then relocate your mom and sisters.
    Village ke? In 2025? Use your head ooo
    Use your resources to do better investments and leave polygamy war ooo. Think and plan how to buy houses in Ikoyi , Asokoro etc. think how to make money that your mom can be flying round the world chilling.
    Not to be struggling to own village land.
    Think. Think think.

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    1. Some people living in their hometowns are living better than city dwellers.

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  31. Your mum wants you to buy the land your uncle bought from your dad because she initiated your uncle buying in the first place so that your half brother will not take it from you since as you described it's a large portion. It's was her plan all along. Unfortunately your uncle is gone.

    The way it is your mom will not rest until you buy back the Land

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  32. Must it be that same troubled land? Why not look for land elsewhere and buy? All buy na buy right?

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  33. Think about it very well.And be very careful bfor you cause problems for your self.

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  34. Is that the only land being sold in Nigeria???

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  35. The issue raised by this chronicle is mainly of outdated tradition (native law and custom).
    Even in monogamous families, this “first son-is-inheritor of the family home” and “women-cannot-inherit land” is a problem. We have read chronicles from women on such matters here.
    We have also read the case of sisters ganging up to send their full blood elder sister out of their mother’s (family home).
    Cases abound of first sons squabbling with their mothers over the choice city property in his father’s Estate.

    If the Poster were to be the first son, his mother would have insisted that he is the sole inheritor in the polygamous setting, he himself could also claim the right vis-Γ -vis his sisters.

    Poster’s mother apparently has an agenda over the land.
    Why is she pushing Poster to make an offer to buy the land?
    Did she push her husband to sell it or pushed her brother to buy it as a placeholder for her and or her children?
    Or is Poster’s mother the purchaser of the land by proxy of her brother, and she is now attempting to close a long running well-orchestrated plan of circumventing custom?
    Or is she interested only in scoring a victory over her step children? Victory at any price?

    How much does she want to pay for this land?

    This is not an advocacy for or a defence of polygamy.

    Erhm, Erhm, where is the Poster’s father in the equation.
    Sad that a young man at the cusp of full manhood cannot seek advice from his father if he is alive.
    What is going on?

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  36. Nigerian mother
    Instead of looking for investment for her girl children, she wants her 25 year old son to buy land and she will now pressure the girls to “help” him build it. Yeye dey smell
    You too be letting your mother use your sisters to serve you
    Nonsense

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    1. And his wife may not let them sleep in it on a visit home for holidays
      Lol

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  37. Hello Poster,
    Stella said you should run, and babe, you need to fly off that ish. One of the things I learnt early in life is never to fight over anything called 'land', the battle never ends. Looking at your story, like the one you also referenced, it feels like a slow, heavy rain on a tin thatch roof.

    The heaviness in your words carries the weight of a house built on broken trust, where the walls echo old quarrels and the ground shifts, waiting for someone to swallow. The battle is already drawn, swords are off their sheaths, clanking and clasping over the unfinished quarrels of adults who never cleaned their mess.

    Buying that land would be like stepping into a room where the lights flicker, the air is stale, and everyone inside already marked you as the enemy. Your stepbrothers have shown you who they are. They dragged your late uncle’s name into the mud, ignored the deed of ownership, argued against the truth, and only backed down when the evidence cornered them. If you buy that land, you will murder sleep.

    Your mother’s fear is real. She’s a woman who has lived too long under the shadow of a house that never loved her enough. She wants a place where her children can stand without being pushed aside. But good intentions don’t override danger. Mothers love deeply, but they can miscalculate too, especially when panic holds their breath.

    Family land is not a seed you plant for the future; it’s a mirror that reflects every hidden rivalry - especially in a polygamous home. One signature, one block, one bag of cement, and old ghosts come out with sharpened teeth sneering.

    If you love your family, walk away from that fight. Let that land remain what it already is: a wound. Buy your own land elsewhere. Another village, another town, another soil where no one can knock on your door at midnight screaming entitlement. Build something fresh with your sisters, something clean, something with no shadow chasing it.

    You’re 25. You don’t need to inherit a never-ending war. Because that land is a trap, where your future isn’t buried. You need to build a life that walks where the ground is calmer.

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  38. I don't know why people like wahala to be very honest. Why do you want to invest in a land that would keep bringing sleepless nights? Please let it go and build somewhere else abeg

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  39. Poster, almost everyone are advising you NOT to buy land near your father's house. Pls listen to them πŸ‘‚
    E get why.
    I know your mum wants you to inherit that land by purchase but it may not end well. Land issues breeds bad blood, jealousy, unbelievable wickedness & untimely death. May it never be your portion in Jesus mighty name πŸ‘ Pls apply wisdom πŸ™

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  40. Must it be that particular land? Please, run for your life. Better still, look for another land elsewhere and buy it if you have the money.
    Don’t start a battle you cannot finish.
    Land disputes are dangerous and have taken many lives. Be wise.

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  41. Must it be that particular land? Please, run for your life. Better still, look for another land elsewhere and buy it if you have the money.
    Don’t start a battle you cannot finish.
    Land disputes are dangerous and have taken many lives. Be wise.

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  42. So land nur dey another place. peace of mind is paramount

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