SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED
Stella please I urgently need your red pen on this and BVS opinions about what to do.I got two restaurants jobs at the same time earlier this month with the same salary, let me explain how the two jobs go.
The first job: 5am to 5pm, and most of the time, till pass 6pm or 7pm, hardly do staff close by 5pm, a very poor staff food, only eba, okro and stew or white rice and stew, which some times, the stew will be sour or fresh less, with no protein, the only time staff are permitted to eat protein is when they have Titus fish head that has been cut off from the ones that will be sold to the customers, and the fish head will not have a single flesh with it.....
if there's no fish head, no protein, the salary is always paid at the middle of following month or beyond, which means if you work there this month, you're going to collect your salary next month at the middle of the month, and you must give one month notice before you leave, otherwise your salary is forfeited because it won't be paid at the end of the month....
So nothing like you want to leave at the end of the month after collecting salary, but the accommodation is okay at least, and it's very Trekable.
The second job also has accommodation, but very far from workplace and spend at least #1200 for TF, or more than that most of the time, they have bus that always go there at midnight and came back early in the morning, but not every time, the accommodation is too full of crowd and there are a lot of bedbugs, the house is choking, toxicity, playing of music by staff which you cant complain, least they will be offended...
The water is very bad, the workplace is another thing on it's own, if you always mind your business and can't lick supervisor, head of team and chef's ass, you won't be in their good book, and if they hurt you either by mistake or not, you're expected not to complain because they will say you're rude and disrespectful, but their staff food is okay, less working hours compared to the first job, and overtime sometimes if your reliever doesn't come early, but ever since I started this job, I've not had peace, no proper sleep because of the accommodation issues...
You will be forced to leave the work premises after your shift, and they won't permit you to wait for staff bus in the midnight unless you're hiding somewhere either you have TF or not I'm thinking of resigning and give them two weeks notice according to their protocol, go back to the former one or endure till I see another one, note that sitting down at home isn't an option for me.
Let me explain some incident that happened at my current workplace about the toxicity, I was at somewhere sitting down at the workplace and two people were playing, and one wanted to splash water to her second from inside kitchen through window but the water poured on all my body and it was a hot dirty whitish water, I complained and instead of that person to apologize immediately, she was asking me from the kitchen who was talking, and I told the person to be using her sense next time she wants to pour water because that was the second time someone would pour me water from that building in the name of playing with someone else and no apologise.
Let me explain some incident that happened at my current workplace about the toxicity, I was at somewhere sitting down at the workplace and two people were playing, and one wanted to splash water to her second from inside kitchen through window but the water poured on all my body and it was a hot dirty whitish water, I complained and instead of that person to apologize immediately, she was asking me from the kitchen who was talking, and I told the person to be using her sense next time she wants to pour water because that was the second time someone would pour me water from that building in the name of playing with someone else and no apologise.
She came out and started ranting that why should I insult her because I don't know who is who, while her second that she wanted to pour water on started insulting me that what if it's HR that poured me water, is that how I would talk and I said that I don't care who that person is, so far the person poured me water and refuse to apologize and questioning me instead, I will insult that person again and again, they were now carrying the statement up and down as if I said I will insult HR if she pours me water without them mentioning it at first...
I'm losing my mind here and regret coming here at the first place, and nobody even corrected her or see anything wrong in what she did, even the head chef was saying who gave me the right to insult her despite knowing what she did and said she asked the right question by asking me who was talking after I was complaining, that I suppose to answer her that I was the one talking...
I later learned that she's a supervisor...
Does that mean they can do anything because they are superiors at work?
This your Chronicle seeking for advice stressed me reading..I got upset with it....Please leave this Job and go back to the first one that you eat fish head without protein....You must not eat protein...

Stella, mba. None of these are jobs in the true sense of the word. These are slave jobs in toxic and equally unhealthy work environments. In civilized societies both places would have long been shut down.
ReplyDeletePoster, don't say you have options because if these two are the only places you have available to work, then clearly you don't have where to work in. I understand that the economy is terrible right now but is your mental health and self esteem that disposable? I suppose hunger can be a motivator and conditioner forcing people to tolerate dogshit environments and abuses but please keep looking around for other opportunities.
Godspeed and best of luck.
The two jobs are so toxic for a human being. May God give you a better Job..
ReplyDeleteAll the best
Look for another job entirely. God will see through. 🙏🏿
ReplyDeletePending while you are looking for a better job, please your former place of work seems better, at least you will have rest of mind. You will eat plenty of protein when the time comes.
ReplyDeleteIt's well poster,are you new in that environment? Do you have somewhere else to stay in case you leave the both place of work? Do you have savings to start up a business? I really feel your pains,I have worked in such environments before,I understand how those things goes.
ReplyDeleteYou need to keep looking for work. Have you applied to big name brand hotels? I couldn’t finish reading your chronicle because the level of exploitation is beyond comprehension. Both these jobs are dressed up servitude. I don’t know if you can cook or not, but if you can, get your food handler’s permit if you don’t already have it and seek connections at office towers to do lunch delivery, or run a staff canteen. Try to control your destiny instead of depending on these restaurant jobs cause those ppl are shyt and you don’t live in a country with a tipping culture so there is no extra money to look forward to.
ReplyDeleteIf you are not a good cook, go learn from someone. Even a bukka in a safe neighbourhood, not one with hoodlums bothering ppl, a bukka in a safe place will make you five times what you do now and you can eat more than fish head. If you savvy you could even raise your own chickens and goat to supply your business and charge whatever you want.
If life don’t get so you can do your own hustle and you must work one of these jobs go with the first one. These are desperation jobs, so keep looking and don’t get comfortable in any of them. Don’t get comfy with bad treatment. Never accept that shyt as normal even if it is in the culture. You must stand against injustice and folks treating you like garbage. Have a plan and keep looking. Practice your English and ensure you are always well put together and hygiene on top so you are ready when a good opportunity favours you.
I can cook very well and I even have a certification in catering and Hospitality management, I can get a food handler permit, but I don't have connections at office towers and I don't know how to go about it, I don't know if anybody can help me, I will be very grateful.
DeleteSorry dear
ReplyDeleteYou write so well
Maybe there’s a writing job in your future
I would keep this one over the other only because the working hours for the first one are just too much
You better look for another job
ReplyDeletedo not settle for the tow jobs you just mentioned, both will finish your mental health. You should look for something better. How can they serve you meal like an animal? some animal eat better meal than what you have described, please and please look for another job.
ReplyDeletePeople are doing these jobs
ReplyDeleteHaba they haven’t died
You can’t be operating ceo lifestyle with employee salary
What’s your qualification?
Consider upping yourself and your resume.
If you are getting two jobs at same price range then that’s your market value
Do better…okay
I’m not bashing you and do not intend to alright.
The first one is a lesser evil in my opinion
Whichever you choose…. Improve yourself more so this rat race will be behind you okay
All the best
No its not her market value
DeleteIt’s the state of Nigeria
Anon, you don't wish to work in these places. It's more tedious than you can imagine. The 5 to 7pm they gave her will be extended to 8 and sometimes not going home. They told her 5pm just to make the job look eazy. Lol, my dear, you will not understand. What about the standing till the end of the day? You won't even be allowed to buy foot there. They don't want to see money with you etc
DeleteAnd they relieve them if their jobs so easily. That's not a job, at all.
DeletePoster read Proverbs 17: 1
ReplyDeleteU are doing well. U no even get problem apart from Fish head get skin
ReplyDeletePlease can anyone hear with connection to the high end hotels or boarding school, help the poster get an internship job. Hopefully for starts, it will upgrade her CV after the internship.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, all I know is that, it will get better after now.
Honestly, if I lived in Nigeria and had the connection I would help the poster. These employers are wicked to the core, just evil and acting like their cheap paying yet backbreaking work is something special.
DeleteI believe this is a fastfood eatery . This is their pattern. This is exactly the narrative of those I know who worked with R****Ys
ReplyDeleteThe job with fish head is manageable than this one. Be looking for a better job.
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