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SHAMELESS LEECH
My husband is a shameless leech. He thinks he was born into this world to take from people and never give back.
My husband is a shameless leech. He thinks he was born into this world to take from people and never give back.
He's the type that will beg you for money when you give him the first time, he will keep coming back until you block him out of your life.
The moment he meets a rich person he begs them money. He has lost a lot of good connections, because of his need to always beg for money, and to think that he has a job that pays him almost 200k month.
I am a caterer. I shoulder the responsibility of our home 100%.
He uses his money to buy expensive clothes, take pictures and post on Facebook to show his friends that he has arrived. Meanwhile his owing people up and down.
He has always been like this when we met, but I thought it was because he didn't have a job. I didn't know that he's stingy and very irresponsible.
There's this rich man in our church that my husband has been stalking, but he hasn't gotten the opportunity to meet the man. The man's wife hired me to cook for an event. I didn't tell my husband about it. He saw the pictures on my business page on Facebook.
When he saw the pictures, he was very angry. He called me a wicked person and the enemy of his progress. I thought the issue has ended there, so I went to bed, because I had to wake up very early the next day to start cooking for another Job.
Only for me to wake up in the morning and find out that my husband has poured detergent into my big pot of cowhead stew that is over 200k.
I am livid. I have not been myself since that day. Only God knew how I managed to deliver on that job. This is no longer a marriage. if my husband can attack the source of my livelihood.
I no longer trust him and I don't feel safe with him.
I want him out of my house, but first I will burn all his clothes, documents and every single thing that is important to him. Then I will kick him out.
I no longer trust him and I don't feel safe with him.
I want him out of my house, but first I will burn all his clothes, documents and every single thing that is important to him. Then I will kick him out.
WOW what kind of wicked husband is this? please do whatever makes you happy but please do not try to hurt him......Shameless man.
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ReplyDeleteVery useless and irresponsible man.. nonsense and ingredients
DeleteWow, what a terrible and DANGEROUS MAN!!! Divorce him IMMEDIATELY and NEVER RECONCILE, he’s dangerous and he might be poisoning you next… Please don’t revenge, he’ll get his reward.
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ReplyDeleteThis is not the right post for this madam.
DeletePoster, please do not burn his clothes or take out any form of revenge. Your husband is not normal please. He might do you harm… please if it is possible just move out without him knowing. If the house is yours sell it. Please move out secretly and quietly.
DeleteKick him.out before he ruins you.
DeleteEvil, self centered, selfish and irresponsible
Pouring detergent in your soup is EVIL. Abeg eh, do not burn his documents, but go ahead and kick him out.
ReplyDeleteBabygirl, kicking him out may trigger his anger. I think she should involve the police. He sounds like a vindictive person.
DeleteGod have mercy!!!😳😳
ReplyDeleteWhat?!!!
There are levels to this thing called "wickedness".
Alot of people are married to their enemies, that is why I'll never stop celebrating people who hit milestones in their happy marriages. It's really worth celebrating.
Infact the comments on yesterday's BEP was really worrisome. More than half of the comments were giving negative vibes and it kept me wondering.
Dear poster, I hope you shield yourself before he harms you
Please don’t burn his clothes and his documents but by all means, throw that ur enemy out of ur house!
ReplyDeleteYou're not a serious person, see who you're still calling your husband.
ReplyDeleteThere are lines you don't cross, one is attacking one source of livelihood, my friend's wife did this and he ended the marriage immediately.
I'm not going to tell you what to do, if you like stay there and be sending chronicles
Detergent in soup 🙆
ReplyDeleteWhat if you have delivered the soup without you knowing 🥹
This is not good
God Abeg!!!!
ReplyDeleteYour Husband's Action is Mean.
Please do not Burn his Properties,Let him carry his Meanness and go Far away.
May God give You A Big Job that will Elevate You Financially.
A man who destroys his wife’s livelihood because he couldn’t beg from a rich church member isn’t a husband , he’s an unpaid liability pretending to be a partner. Poverty isn’t his problem,entitlement is. And entitlement is a sickness detergent can’t wash off. And for real though don’t destroy his property. The most painful revenge on someone like him is removing access to you, not matching his madness.
ReplyDeleteCut his access and he’ll feel it more than any burnt shirt.
That was really mean, some men lose it when they are angry. Please be careful. He is wicked.
ReplyDeleteHa! This is really bad o. Detergent in a pot of soup ke? What if you didnt realise it on time n took it to the event 😲 Be like the man wan end your career o. I go with Stella's advise biko.
ReplyDeleteSorry,you married your enemy
ReplyDeleteIf he can pour detergent into your food
Only God knows what evil he is capable of.
Pls don't destroy his things but it's better you move to a different place entirely where he won't have any access to sabotage or harm you.
I wish you best of luck.
She should burn his stuff, kick him out and relocate
DeleteGod Abey ooo. This is no husband. But then poster do what you deem best for you.
ReplyDeleteAh! Your husband is really wicked oooo
ReplyDeleteno need to burn all his clothes and certificate, just allow him to go with them but do well to kick him out of your house. Your husband should get some shame, why all the beg beg? is too much for a man who is earning something to continue begging not like he is using the money to take care of the family but he uses it to stay on a fake life.
ReplyDeleteBut he can pour detergent in her pot of stew?
DeleteYou married a loser. Unfortunately this type of person does not give up. Rather than throwing his things out, divorce him but pay him off. Change everything about your movements. Move if possible.
ReplyDeleteHe sounds very dangerous
Pay Wetin off?
DeletePay him off because? He has a job, that's more than okay for him.
DeleteMadam, kick him out. I hope you took pictures and videos of the soup he poured the detergent.
That man is wicked and an enemy of progress. He'd rather kill you than see you progress on life.
You dont have enough time, Kick him out now.
Pay him off for what??
Deletewow, this is serious.
ReplyDeleteOh my God sorry about what you’ve been through in your marriage. Please don’t burn his belongings. Just kick him out
ReplyDeleteDo whatever you want to do with him except burning his certificate/document.
ReplyDeletePoured detergent into the pot? He’s a very wicked man. Please stay away from him before he hurts you more
ReplyDeleteThis man is evil...
ReplyDeletePlease don't do anything to him, send him away before he do something terrible to you
Your husband get mind o.
ReplyDeleteDo what you've got to do biko.
Honestly, he sounds like a very mentally unwell person. You got married to a sick man. Have you told your pastor, his family? If he can do what he did, then he can physically harm you. I do not know if there is any way to force someone into psychiatric treatment where you live, since he is high functioning your best bet may be to first consult with a good family lawyer.
ReplyDeleteI would not recommend any act of revenge, you may find yourself in greater legal troubles. At this stage just seek to preserve your life and end the union in the swiftest and least painless way possible. Try to document and record his weirdness if possible, proof helps, but is not a necessity. However, if you have proof of his past shenanigans and how his begging has led to devastating consequences, his lack of contribution to the household, his fixation on buying clothes and posing for Facebook as his life’s sole mission, then provide to your lawyer or judge in the divorce proceedings.
Please use wisdom now and not just go with emotions.
Such a wicked and shameless man. I support you burning his clothes and documents and kick him out in the dead of night. Useless thing
ReplyDeleteLol! Shooter oo. Not in the day time. Hahahha
DeleteYes @Mhejay, let forces of the night descend on him. He deserves it
DeleteYes @Mhejay, let forces of the night descend on him. He deserves it
DeleteWhat!He is shameless.May God help you to do the right thing.
ReplyDeleteHow did he come up with such level of wickedness?burn his clothes and other things he's using to do Bobo oku but leave his certificates abeg.Don't forget to send an update when you send him out, he has a dead conscience and may harm you further in that house
ReplyDeleteYour husband is an evil man
ReplyDeletePoster don't burn his clothes and credentials. Move out of the house, rent another one since you can afford it. He doesn't deserve someone like you, I don't want you to regret your actions later.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster you are still calling that man your husband hmmmm. Let me not go further because what i will say you will not like it!
ReplyDeleteSORRY FOR YOUR PREDICAMENT. YOU NEED TO MOVE ON. BUT MOVE WITH WISDOM.
ReplyDeleteExactly my thought, please move on with wisdom.
DeleteA man that can do such a thing can do worst and please you don't need to burn his properties.
And you still dey with am for that house dey send chronicle? Madam kick that leech and user out of your house or leave the house for him if its his own. Like you are 100% providing and still calls him your husband? Are you worrying yourself about what people will say when you end the marriage? I ended mine without giving an F about what people who don't feed me or pay my bills will say
ReplyDeleteYOU ARE IN TROUBLE, ESPECIALLY KNOWING THAT YOUR PARTNER SIMPLY DOESN'T CARE. FIND YOUR WAY, MY SISTER, BUT PLEASE, TRY NOT TO HURT HIM IN ANY WAY BECAUSE ONE REAPS WHAT ONE SOWS; IT IS BETTER THAT HE REAPS THE FRUITS OF HIS WICKEDNESS ALONE.
ReplyDeletePls don't burn his clothes and documents, since u are paying for the rent or maybe u owns the property, kick him out and make sure u involve the police force not to come near u again.
ReplyDeleteYOU MIGHT EVEN LEAVE THE CURRENT HOUSE FOR HIM TO AVOID DRAMA. DISCUSS WITH THE LANDLORD AND GET SOME MONTHS PAYBACK AND THEN LEAVE.
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DeleteIF YOU DON'T MIND, I WANT TO ASK WHAT THEN ATTRACTED YOU TO HIM? THERE ARE SO MANY LIKE HIM IN OUR SOCIETY IN TERMS OF DEPENDING ON THE WOMAN FOR SUSTENANCE, BUT VERY FEW WILL EVER TRY TO HARM THE ONE THAT FEEDS THEM.
ReplyDeleteNDOO. JISIE IKE. CALM DOWN AND USE WISDOM TO MOVE.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you not arrest him for that act. You are the cause. You've harboured him enough
ReplyDeleteWomen please and please stop enabling lazy and selfish men.
ReplyDeleteMoving forward, don't burn his things, leave him with his conscience, walk out if you must but in all your actions don't pay evil with evil.
Detergent in your pot of soup,Ahhhhh that man is Evil.kick him out of the house but Please don't burn his documents .
ReplyDeleteWhat did I just read? 😯
ReplyDeleteAnd you're still calling him your husband. Pls go far away from that man before he poisons or harm you 🙏 I repeat, take yourself & kids far away from him. God's protection I pray on you.
🛑 P.S. You need to involve the police That detergent in soup is a criminal offence detriment to human life.
What an evil, unstable man. You really need to separate yourself from that man, but please don't go down to his level by burning his things. If the house is rented , I suggest you move out without his knowledge and don't let him know your new place. Such a man is dangerous and can plot to hurt you. Be very careful, please.
ReplyDeletePlease be careful /watchful with him when making food for occasions…..make your husband no go put bad stuff for large crowd food.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness, this man is evil evil. He wants to destroy your source of livelihood. Kick him out of your house this minute and make sure you deal with him in a way he won't forget in his life.
ReplyDeletePoster please don't not revenge, just kick him out without a fight,if that man truly poured detergent inside that stew then you're not safe around him.
ReplyDeleteSuch a vile man. The marriage is now toxic. You guys needs separation.
ReplyDeleteWalk out of his life without letting him know. Let it shock him that you have walked out. I mean, don't let him see it coming. Don't let him know that your next move is to silently move on without him. Doing so will really make him feel worthless. Shock him
ReplyDeleteHello Poster,
ReplyDeleteSuch was this compost fellow's disturbingly familiar pattern, which you have indulged and tolerated beyond human limits. A man who has built his entire identity on consumption will always react violently the moment he encounters a woman who produces, creates, or stands on her own feet.
Yes, he is a parasite. And no, his parasitic behaviour wasn’t born out of frustration. It’s rooted in a deep resentment, the kind that flares whenever other people’s determination to succeed exposes the emptiness inside him.
People like him don’t beg because they need help. They beg because dependency is the only power they know how to wield. The moment you didn’t feed that cycle, he attacked the only thing that makes you matter to yourself - your work - just to diminish you to his level. That stew wasn’t just food. It was the one place where your competence, dignity, and progress live without apology. Contaminating it was a statement of suffering.
This is how small men fight: not with fists, but through sabotage. Their violence is always aimed at whatever gives you a future and keeps you happy. And a person who can harm your livelihood will one day consider harming your life.
Marriage aside, titles aside - you’re dealing with someone who sees your success as an affront to his stagnation. Someone whose ego thrives only when you are not flourishing. The real worry isn’t the detergent, but the mind that thought of it.
Your next move should not be revenge - you might fall off the cliff in anger. When someone has shown you the depth of their pettiness, take them seriously. Protect your work, your body, and your sanity. Some relationships don’t just break, they rot from the inside. And the first step out is recognising the stench for what it is.
Whatever you decide, let it be rooted in your safety, not play into his broken self-worth. You’re not fighting a man; you’re stepping away from a bottomless need. And nothing drains faster than a woman who stays to negotiate with emptiness.
Poster change the locks in the house, that's the first thing you should do.. then plan ur next move, either you lock him out for some days or u just throw his things out After changing the locks.
ReplyDeleteNne, I need you to apply wisdom here, at least thats what I will do if I was in y our shoes. Do not ever pay evil with evil. please from henceforth move in SILENCE. Get another apartment far away if possible, if you live in a house, then i will say involve the police. gradually move your things without him knowing when you are sure you are in the clear, kindly serve him divorce papers through your lawyers, you are living with your enemy and this type of person can kill.Since you shoulder the responsibilities of your home , you don't really need him...All the best..JISIKE INU
ReplyDeleteThis!
DeleteIf I don't arrest him and collect my money before he was released, that means I'm a bastard, anybody that will convince me to do otherwise wasn't born yet, what a husband from the very darkest part of hell.
ReplyDeleteThis kind of man can harm you with acid. Please pray and ask God for guidiance on how to leave him.
ReplyDeletePoster, from your narration, the man you married is evil and dangerous. He has the potential to harm you. As a result, you can not "kick him out of your house" while he still knows where you live. He can set your house ablaze with you inside.
ReplyDeleteDon't take any revenge on him: Simply go away to a safe place, if it means relocating to where he will not know your whereabouts... Stay safe 🙏