Friday In House News

 Finally Friday Hailings!

FRIDAY MEMO

How is everyone doing?

Make una send in una Chronicle ooooooooooooh.

The Friday night amebo post has shifted to Saturday night because change is constant and because there is no in house news or gisting post as covered by the other day...Friday already has in house news...

On Friday night, we will be doing other thing....wait for it....I hope say una go like am.......

So let me explain why i dont upload comments early in the mornings....The last time i had flu that i could not sleep, all the tabs i took gave me side effect when i got better and the side effect is that i sleep anyhow oh.....After making breakfast in the mornings, i will just say let me close my eyes for 5 seconds and me and sleep will be doing shoki aaaaargh...lol.......That is not an excuse oh...I am just explaining and i go explain tire....

Tomorrow Saturday between 12noon to 2pm,i will be going for a walk in an outside pre-loved market..walking around and looking at things is an exciting way to walk around.... So i will schedule some posts and i will snap some things to show you people on Monday in house news......
Please send in your Chronicles........Good oh, bad oh, the one that needs advice oh...All join......
As for that Pizza, i didnt do it again yesterday cos i forgot to bring out the minced protein from the deep freezer, so when i was ready i was shocked to see i had forgotten and just kept everything back....About to do it now sef......Maybe i will snap if i remember and use it for Breakfast post....

Hugs!!!!

PS-BV Sandra, play play eh you don become in house news time keeper, see me rushing to meet time with you on my mind...thank you for that.....

Please do not miss the 8pm post...its gonna be exciting.....

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HILARIOUS COMMENT

Comments like this activate my drama queen mood/mode...loooooooooool.

First off, I didn't send Waju to make any comment and i was quite pissed that she apologised but hey that's her personality, she is calm and those who have interacted with her will bear witness to her gentle nature.....

Second off, I have a data account with Waju and have any time about 50k with her cos i always send my workers and others to collect monthly data.....She is also my PA when it comes to sending money......So she has no reason to lie at all.......

So i go dey lie about money because you are? listen up, ELEDUMARE DON BLESS ME, na you know who you dey follow drag this nonsense but not me!!!

My namesake Stella Odu dey thief govt big money you dey here dey accuse me of thiefing my own money wey no reach buy puff puff sef? make that make sense abeg!

Abeg bye bye!!! #dramaqueen mode/mood deactivated

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MEMO TO SHOOTERGAL

I see some of your comments and delete them cos i believe you are going through a phase and will grow one day to stop cursing out and fighting...I was worse than you and i applied that to my Job and is one of the reasons people will not forgot me but i grew up and became better and will never go back to the old me..So when i see people asking for the old me i laugh it off.......I was a baddie!

So i wont give up on you shootergal but you need to change your ways cos love doesnt hod on for too long, only hate does...

I want people here to be proud of you and I want to blush when i am referred to as your mentor..I will wait but for now make nobody call me her mentor..PLEASE DONT..

LOL

Stop fighting and be a shootergal who shoots love or money or kpekus sef..LOL

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DO NOT NEGOTIATE RE-FRIENDING SOMEONE WHO HURT YOU

Be careful that you don't take your idea of forgiveness too far. Whoever tried to stab you before will always carry a knife.
Even if they wear a smile....... Especially if they wear a smile.
Envy is patient. It can wait around for years until the right moment to strike again.
People like these don't return out of remorse or regret for their actions. Their apology is often just a means to regain access.
---They return because they see you rebuilt yourself without them. Nothing wounds an envious person more than watching you stand tall after they bet on your downfall.
---Do not take back anyone who exposed you to your enemies through gossip or by giving away your vulnerable secrets. 

---Do not tolerate anyone who used you for their selfish gain when you trusted them with your resources or relationships.
---Do not negotiate with anyone who diminished you or blocked your growth. They may seem polite now but such a malicious heart doesn't just go away.
----Avoid educated enemies. Those who have tried to extinguish you but you survived are wiser now. They know your evasive techniques and you may not survive their second attempt.
----Always respond to disloyalty with distance. It may feel cold but it's the only precaution that will make you survive in this world of human intrigue and mischief.
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Which of these paragraphs touched an old wound in you?I took someone on this blog like my own but this person betrayed me at the sight of a preek.....I dont want to talk about it now but i will open that story one day cos of the useless anonymous comments trying to gaslight me to be dragged if i enable them.........

If you dont have the correct story, dont start anything.....

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TEACHER LIFE
One afternoon, a child in my class suddenly developed a high fever.
She was fine in the morning , playing, participating, laughing. But by noon, her temperature had skyrocketed.
I rushed her to the school nurse. Paracetamol was given. We waited.
Nothing.
Her temperature didn’t drop.
I called her mum.
“I’m at my shop in the Island oh… okay, I’m coming.”
More than an hour later, she arrived and took her daughter home.
Naturally, I wasn’t expecting to see that child the next day.
But lo and behold , there she was.
Walking into school with a cannula still in her hand.
Her mum called me over casually.
“Miss C, the nurse said she’s fine. It’s just malaria and typhoid. Her medication is in her bag. Please help me give her.”
I had to stop her right there.
“Ma’am, this child is visibly unwell. She has sores around her mouth. She is weak. What exactly do you expect her to learn today?”
She got offended.
“The nurse said it’s nothing serious.”
I replied gently but firmly, “If it’s not serious, why does she still have a cannula?”
Silence.
There is something we need to understand as parents and educators:
School is not a recovery center.
Yes, malaria is common. Yes, typhoid is common. But common does not mean mild. And medication in a school bag does not equal readiness to learn.
When a child is sick:
They need rest.
They need monitoring.
They need comfort.
Not class activity.
Sometimes I think some parents worry more about absence records and the disruption in their day than their child’s actual healing.
Thankfully, our school policy is clear. The HM supported my decision, and the child was taken back home , though not happily.
But here’s the bigger issue:
Why are we normalizing visibly sick children being pushed into classrooms?
Why are teachers expected to administer medication that should be monitored at home?
Why is productivity more important than recovery?
A sick child cannot learn effectively.
And as teachers, part of protecting children is knowing when to say no — even if it makes us unpopular.
Because at the end of the day, our job is not just to teach.
It is to safeguard.

God forbid oh but if anything do the pikin, the mama go talk another say nah una Kpai her pikin.....

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NOTORIOUS FOR JESUS

Y'all remember the good old days of MTN chat, right? I met this guy called Tobi and we would talk endlessly into the night with laughter and fun. He was so fluent, funny and lively. But it wasn't love, it was just pure friendship. 

Those days, you don't meet a man and ask for cash, relationship was not transactional and people were authentic.

Well, at the wake of Facebook we linked up and became friends on, with chats on and off. Even though we both live in the same geographic location, we never thought of meeting. 

The conversation never popped up so we never met physically but the connection was strong. I guess there are just some people in your life who isn't meant to mean much. He has a daughter that he seldom posts and last week, he suddenly messaged me out of the blues asking after my family and if I was married.

 I was shocked because you and I were friends for more than a decade when social media had not surfaced but you never asked me out or asked to see me.

 I wondered how people could wait that long before pursuing a woman. 

You do realise as a female, our biological clock is different from men? Did he expect that I would still be single at 36? or probably a single Mum because I sometimes post my children but never my husband. 

I felt somehow because if we were meant to be at all, it was too late because he took too long. He ended up saying my husband was lucky and he just wanted to check in on me. End of discussion.

Hmmm he just wanted to check on you but you had already assumed different things ..Women na wah!!!!

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD

I mentioned before that two of my kids are both sensory seekers and are also sensory sensitive. Sensory sensitive behaviour is actions/ behaviours done to minimise exposure to overwhelming inputs. Such as light, texture, smell, and touch that causes distress.

Kids who are sensory sensitive are usually very picky eaters, dislike being touched unnecessarily, especially their hair. Sensitive to how clothes fabric feels, hate loud noises. Hate strong smell ( this is why I don’t use perfumes around them). Feels pain more than most people, are highly cautious, and get anxious in large noisy spaces.

My kids have both, so it means the same kids who like to shout can not stand loud noises. They are constantly swinging, jumping, and spinning when they feel safe yet will withdraw and be so still if they feel “unsafe” and would hide away for hours until they feel safe. E.g, when I have guests around.

They chew everything in sight such as pens, the neckline of their clothes, erasers, bottle cover, remote controls yet won’t eat proper foods like they should , their food choice is very limited and they don’t do a lot of food textures like purees, cereals and many more.
They are picky about their outfits, too. The fabric matters and can go a long way in helping them feel calm and regulated.

My kids love to hugs and cuddle and they see me as their personal trampoline but its strictly on their terms other than when they ask to be touched, touching them unnecessarily can make them very uncomfortable and make them panic. We had a relative visit recently, and he put his hands around my son’s shoulder while talking to him.
I could see the fear and panic in my boy’s face as he tried to hinge away. His wife noticed on time and told him to let the boy go.
Yet when they accept someone into their space, they would stick to the person so much. I don’t know their criteria for liking people.

For example, it took a while for them to allow my mom into their space, yet they took an instant liking to my cousin and her kids. They would instantly like some family and friends but remain terrified of some no matter how nice they are.
I tried putting my first in school when he was three, and he was so traumatised that till date he is still scared of school.
He hated being touched by his classmates, and this led to constant meltdowns.

He had his crayons and markers arranged in a specific order and would freak out if a pupil or teacher disrupted the arrangements. It was always blue first, then black, red, purple, and brown before any other colours.
They have outgrown a lot of their early quirkiness but have developed new ones, too. Every time I think I have figured things out, they switch up on me.
We are on the journey of getting proper diagnosis and hands on help with them because Autism, ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder have a very wide range that can overlap with each other and also with other disorders.

WAIT OH...........but growing up eh a lot of people have these things you are describing now.....These things no serious na ajebota dey do you.

People still get am plenty nah......nah oyibo give am name....

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