PHOOLISH HUSBAND WITH STUBBORN SIDECHIC
Some men are just horrible and wicked.
My husband brought the girl he is having affair with to his father's burial recently, from Friday the first day we came to the village and both of them lodged in the hotel close by and I asked this man why he chooses to disgrace me this way.
My husband brought the girl he is having affair with to his father's burial recently, from Friday the first day we came to the village and both of them lodged in the hotel close by and I asked this man why he chooses to disgrace me this way.
I knew from his actions and I also got to find out later because he was initially hiding her where all his friends were staying and he told me that "I should not create a scene and asked if anybody is dragging my home with me........
I didn't fight her when I saw her, I Only approached her to leave and she refused. Before coming to the village for that burial, my dad called me not to fight anybody coz of the dream he saw...
His elder sis poured soup on the girl and ordered the girl out of their compound and this man had the guts of trying to fight his elder sis because of this...
The thing is the issue created a big scene and we're still in the village as I write and the elders have called for a meeting after all burial rites have been performed. I don't know what to say or expect at this meeting....
WTF...Its her audacity to refuse to leave and then still be around?JESUS!!!.....My bad advice is to leave that thing you call marriage at once cos you are not safe with that man at all......what!!!...I am in shock!!!
Let me borrow Stella's word, that thing you called a husband is not worth to be your husband, and that thing you called marriage is not surpose to take your peace of mind.. so the choice is yours to make..
ReplyDeletePls don't leave oh.. Except you have your own income that can sustain you and your kid(s). Nothing dey outside oh.. No leyt Stella or faceless BV push you oh. Applying for give away no easy oh
DeleteEh. She can stay na. Apart from emotional torture distress, syphilis, herpes and the rest are coming.
DeleteMadam, he loves her or whatever adrenaline rush she's giving him. Leave them to be together. Face your life like he died. No sex, no convo, just roommates. Start prepping yourself because he'll soon marry her.
Kill him in your head and see how peaceful and nonchalant your life will be. As it is, knowing you care is making this enjoyable to both of them. Do the opposite of everything you are doing today and see yourself blossom. Don't forget to look and smell good, hang out.
Nawao. Some girls have mind sha. Using their own hand to dig their grave. You know a man is married and you chuk head? To the extent of following him to his village when you know his wife is going to be there? Some men sef ehn, always staining the white of innocent women. The disrespect is much. Poster the Lord is your strength. My own is as a man or woman, if you know say your eyes still dey street, why marry then? Why not remain outside and enjoy all the enjoyment to your fill
ReplyDeleteThe answer is that the society criticising him for playing away match pressured him into marriage.
DeleteIf you think is a lie, go to that Don Jazzy post and see comments mocking him for still being single.
He know he is not ready to settle down and he respected himself to be single, but hypocrites still want to pressure him into marriage and once he marry and cheats, they will be the 1st to criticise him.
As for the poster, she is the one in problem. The side chick has all her informations and can easily know where she is and attack her, but the poster probably don't have any information about the side chick.
15:56, thank you Jaree! Hypocrites everywhere. Madam manage your husband like that. Shebi una say nothing dey outside.
DeleteShebi if the elder sis waka on top the girl head, people go say she wuked abi?
DeleteBefore you advice this woman, pls find out if your sis is dating married men and caution them o
My dear nobody is digging grave. Men and women have been adulterous since time immemorial and nothing happened to them. Good and bad people suffer, good and bad people prosperity too. She may marry the man, have kids and keep a happy home. And she may not. Live with it. Its better than this simplistic view with no validity you promote.
DeleteMy dear nobody is digging grave. Men and women have been adulterous since time immemorial and nothing happened to them. Good and bad people suffer, good and bad people prosperity too. She may marry the man, have kids and keep a happy home. And she may not. Live with it. Its better than this simplistic view with no validity you promote.
DeleteThere's something they are not telling you, or you're yet to know. It's her audacity for me!
ReplyDeleteWho are the "they". His family? The elder Sister who poured soup on the other woman is she out of the family? For now, leave the matter between Husband and Wife. Let couples take responsibility for what is going on in their marriages. When a husband is good, few attribute it to "they" who may actually be the reason. but when a husband is not as good as desired by the wife, the "they" are ever looming behind him.
DeleteThis wan na see finish, or maybe the girl don cook ogbono soup for am.
ReplyDeletehappy you are not the one who created that scene at the burial, since it was his elder sister who did that just allow the whole game to play. Everything will play in your favour since you did not fight her or disrespected your husband in front of everyone.
ReplyDeleteDuring the meeting just speak your mind but never be disrespectful to your in-laws or elders why expressing yourself on this case. Since your husband sold his shame, respect and manners because of a side chick, you should make sure you deal with him in silent. No need to start shouting and telling the whole world or villagers what you intend to do to him but do a silent exit from this marriage and allow him lick his wound.
Please be strong because is not easy to stand the shame, disgrace your husband and his sidechick gave you during his father's burial. That girl have no shame to follow a married man home for burial and even lodge in a hotel with him without any shame.
Good advice
DeleteIt's the audacity for me
Be strong in the Lord and submit that lady's name to God as the person that's putting asunder in your marriage.
DeleteDon't leave your marriage or confront your horseband o.
Your hubby is a buffoon for bringing the girl to his Dad's burial. Right now, no one can tell you whether to stay or leave, do what you want to do.
ReplyDeleteDon't say anything at this meeting. You already talked to him about her and he is not hearing you. Don't fight. Your Sis inlaw has fought for you.
ReplyDeletewhat goes around comes around. Her day is coming.
Some of you ladies like unnecessary complain.
ReplyDeleteCan't you walk out of the marriage and get a divorce.
I always say this, if you don't have a plan before confrontation, let it slide and endure.
It is quite obvious that you can't leave that marriage, so why raising the dust?
If your husband happens to be the one that catch with a man, you will be in your father's house by now.
Leave the marriage and have you peace and sanity intact or stay , endure and stop creating drama, because no amount of drama can make him change if he doesn't want to change.
So elders that will support polygamy and use culture to back it up are the ones you want to settle you people? Dey play.
What if he tell the elders that he wants to marry the side chick as second, what will you do?
You know the right thing to do.
1. Walk away.
2. Stay, endure and Hope he change for good.
The choice is yours.
Anon 15:27, you're very funny by telling Nigerian women to walk away from bad marriages and stop being Mrs, they will rather be fasting, praying and moving from one prayer house to another claiming their husbands are jazzed by strange woman(side chick).
DeletePoster you're in the shoe, and you know where it hurts, nobody will advise you against your will, but just know that you're not safe because that side chick audacity is not from Temu, she ordered the audacity from Alibaba express, na confirm audacity, and she's ready to return anything you give to her.
Madam, I hope you know you are the sidechick at this point.
ReplyDeleteGod bless your Daddy for warning you ahead.
What I will tell you is that, if you have decided to stay, make sure you don't show your husband he has hurt you. His type will do more painful things to you if he knows you are hurting. Concentrate on yourself and be so happy that,, your happiness will make him confused and shiver. Also remember to protect yourself.
Some men are irresponsible.
ReplyDeleteThe first mistake you made is asking him why he chose to disgrace you that way. Women need to borrow some audacity from men, you could have pay them no dust, he wanted to disgrace and you played right into it.
ReplyDeleteSilence is golden in situation like this, don't say much during any meeting, tell them to judge it they way they deem it right, African elders will always support men in situation like this because they were either and ex-culprit of similar offence or don't see the need why it is a big deal.
You need to toughen up before he turns you to foot mat.
You were a being before marriage, why are you trading your selfesteem and worth because of a man who doesn't care about your existence.
Distance yourself from your husband's friend, they can kill as well.
Felicity
It has been a while. Nice to see you here Felicity.
Delete16:26 Thank youuuš„°š„°
DeleteFelicity
Imagine nonsense..
ReplyDeleteThe disrespect is too much,you can take it,fine but if not leave for your peace of mind, marriage is not do it die
Arrange her na why are you dulling. If the man is very rich stay if not please bounce
ReplyDeleteYou sound like someone who is or have been a side chick.
DeleteIn all you read, you are advising her to pick money over her sanity.
That's why men don't rate some of you ladies at all.
How many sidechick will she fight.
Has it occurred to you that the sidechick knows about the wife more than the wife knows about her.
I agree, I know it's bad o but her audacity made me livid, then knack pigeon for the man head, keep am on side.
DeleteThis is the reason why some women that don't play pour acid and tie men in bottle, cuz what manner of embarrassment is this???
Una think say na every man can be tied in a bottle?
DeleteOr have a pigeon knacked on their heads?
Thgis kind of advice reminds of a female BV comment on a post here.
The wife of her colleague at work saw a photograph of the BV and her husband.
The wife went out to harm the BV diabolically.
Mid length comment cut short to the end, the man (her colleague) came to the office to report that his wife was gradually slipping into insanity.
Let the advisees beware
Some of you ladies like unnecessary complain.
ReplyDeleteCan't you walk out of the marriage and get a divorce.
I always say this, if you don't have a plan before confrontation, let it slide and endure.
It is quite obvious that you can't leave that marriage, so why raising the dust?
If your husband happens to be the one that catch you with a man, you will be in your father's house by now.
Leave the marriage and have you peace and sanity intact or stay , endure and stop creating drama, because no amount of drama can make him change if he doesn't want to change.
So elders that will support polygamy and use culture to back it up are the ones you want to settle you people? Dey play.
What if he tell the elders that he wants to marry the side chick as second, what will you do?
You know the right thing to do.
1. Walk away.
2. Stay, endure and Hope he change for good.
The choice is yours.
Have you discussed with your family? Esp. your father who dreamt and forewarned you? You know your marriage was challenged before the burial anyway. This is just a tipping point. Your family collected the bride price. Let them know a meeting is to be held on this issue. Let them guide you on what to do or say if you are allowed into the meeting.
ReplyDeleteYour husband didn't do well at all. Poster just know that your husband did not rate you. Be guided.
ReplyDeleteMadam no go anywhere for that small girl. If he his not associated to DV. Also improve your self worth
ReplyDeleteThat's your co wife in the making.Your husband is supporting her however she behaves .The outcome of the meeting will shock you.
ReplyDeleteYour husband lacks a lot in character. Used to be a time when men kept their mistresses hidden, but maybe they are legally married and she is the lawful second wifeš¤·š½♀️ I don’t understand how polygamy works outside of Muslim ones which have set rules.
ReplyDeleteOne thing you never do in this life is to try and force anyone to love you. Even if you must continue to be yoked to him for financial reasons, maintain your self respect. You can cut off seck for your health, you can sleep in a different room. You can refuse to go to social gatherings with him. You have more power than lamenting about being embarrassed and asking a woman to leave. Who told you to utter a word to that woman? Who told you to be weak? Who told you that you need to beg for love?
You Are Still Calling Him Husband
ReplyDeleteThe He Goat Is Now Horseband Nahhhhhh
Madam Arrange Yourself oooo
And Think Fast Faster Fastest Before Him And His Concubine Gang Up to Poison You ooo..
Hello iya Boys
Always making very low IQ comments
DeleteIs it until this man dash you an incurable disease before you leave that marriage?then how many sidechicks do you want to pursue? you have 2 options: leave or stay and endure the disrespect, the choice is yours.
ReplyDeleteThat side hen could be your co-wife because the audacity eeh and he even kept her where his friends are staying before moving her to an hotel.
ReplyDeleteMadam just carefully plan your exist if you don't want to be numbered.
Madam poster don't say anything in that meeting,let the elders decide the fate of your husband/side chick and the elder sister before they twist words against you madam poster talking from experience.
ReplyDeleteStay mute poster
DeleteFight for your right. I don't mean physical fight but make sure you dominate. Many of these laddies use something to trap them especially those ones that sell food. Dominate and make the home uncomfortable for her so she won't see any reason to come in. I thank God your sis inlaws
ReplyDeleteis on your side. Don't let your husband's relatives to mistakenly eat her food. Even if it's bread because if they do,hmmm ..
What sort of advice is this fight for your home?? It takes two to make if one has checked out mentally and shows no respect to the other, why fight? Just leave that marriage...separation but then of course you may not have the means to!
ReplyDeleteSuch a big insult. Kudos to your sister-in-law. Hold her tight. I think it's time for you to move away for a bit from that ma. He no be am
ReplyDeletesister-in-law is fighting for you because you have a good relationship with your husband’s family. I hope some women would learn from this. Some women, after getting married, turn their husbands against his family. In a situation like this, how do you expect your husband’s family to fight for you? Poster,you wear the shoes and you know when and to remove your shoes when it doesn't fit your status anymore. It's either you fix it or dash it š¤·
ReplyDeleteWhen women are being advised to get into careers that pay very well, they dont.
ReplyDeleteThey get stuck in poverty and have to endure things like this.
OP you need to upgrade your certificates to where you can support yourself.
Staying and calculating hoping he ll notice you dont care about him....what the heck is that?
If he is somebody like me,I won't even notice you wia I m focused on my baby.
Dump him