I was at the clinic recently and I saw a lady speaking in a low tone with one of the workers there. I didn’t pay attention to what they were discussing.It was after she left that the worker started telling her co‑workers what the lady had said.
I still believe the man deserves the option to know what he is getting into.
This reminds me of the Facebook content creator whose story I shared here and he was deeply hurt by his late wife’s betrayal because she hid her status from him for years. I know not all men will stay like my husband, but they deserve to know. Whoever will stay will stay.
There are also many dangers in hiding your status from your partner. In case of a medical emergency, he needs to be able to speak on your behalf. Think of the feeling of betrayal if he finds out later and it could even push someone into doing something terrible out of anger. I don’t encourage sharing your status with people you don’t have a sxxual relationship with, but your partner should know and be given the chance to decide whether to stay or not.
I’ve even seen a woman married to a polygamous man who is hiding her status from him. What if he gets infected without knowing and spreads it to the other wives? There is also the risk of missing doses when you’re hiding medication, which increases the chance of transmission and also harms the person living with the virus.
I also recently found out that ARVs are not meant to be kept outside their original bottle for a long time. Nobody ever told us this at the clinic , in fact, they encouraged us to keep them in another container to avoid suspicion. I was shocked when I learned that the original bottle is designed to keep the drugs potent. I only use another container when I’m travelling, but when the children started growing, I changed the container too. May God help us.
There are also many dangers in hiding your status from your partner. In case of a medical emergency, he needs to be able to speak on your behalf. Think of the feeling of betrayal if he finds out later and it could even push someone into doing something terrible out of anger. I don’t encourage sharing your status with people you don’t have a sxxual relationship with, but your partner should know and be given the chance to decide whether to stay or not.
I’ve even seen a woman married to a polygamous man who is hiding her status from him. What if he gets infected without knowing and spreads it to the other wives? There is also the risk of missing doses when you’re hiding medication, which increases the chance of transmission and also harms the person living with the virus.
I also recently found out that ARVs are not meant to be kept outside their original bottle for a long time. Nobody ever told us this at the clinic , in fact, they encouraged us to keep them in another container to avoid suspicion. I was shocked when I learned that the original bottle is designed to keep the drugs potent. I only use another container when I’m travelling, but when the children started growing, I changed the container too. May God help us.
I’m a doctor. That is falsifying records . If this your story is not lamba, find a way and report them to the health board of your state or area. Anonymously of course. They deserve to be fished out and health with.
ReplyDeleteLamba,how? You're a Dr doesn't mean you know what is going on at the hiv clinic, we don't even have dr's their except you need to see a Dr, no Dr is assigned just the NGO workers,so saying you're a Dr is irrelevant. And yes,I narrated what I witnessed
DeleteLol @lamba
DeleteThis is heartbreaking from every angle. The fear and stigma are real, but the clinic workers agreeing to issue a false result is completely unethical nawao. Being undetectable does not remove the need for honesty in a relationship
ReplyDeleteMay God help everyone. Thanks for sharing
That lady and those staff are crooked. I just feel for the young man who might mistakenly get married to a liar.
ReplyDeletePoster kudos to your hubby.
Greetings from me to you .
Why are you hiding it from your kids?
ReplyDeleteVery stup!d question
DeleteWhat is wrong is wrong o. Why falsifying results to suit a particular situation. Lord have on innocent people 🙏
ReplyDeleteYou're not much different from her tho because you're hiding it from your children
ReplyDeleteSeriously? 🤔
DeleteIcefish dear are u infected cos what is this defense
DeleteIn response to last week's post.
ReplyDeleteLet it be known to all that are positive and deliigently taking their mediation that 99% of people working at any HIV treatment center are in the same boat with you. They may pretend or hide their status from you, but that's just the truth. They are just doing transfer of aggression. Most ate low paid workers, facing everyday issues like every regular individuals.
I know this too. Most people working their are also hiv positive, one even confided in me when we were gisting and asked for advice on a particular issue
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