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BROKEASS LOAFER BROTHER
My mum’s first son was living in Lagos some years ago. He claimed to be working, then COVID hit.
I was working in a small store and saving money to buy a phone, but my mum kept taking my money and sending it to him for months. He eventually came back home because he saw he would be taken care of.
It has been six years now. Everyone is out of the house, and she’s left with him. He doesn’t have a job, doesn’t lift a finger in the house, waits for her to serve him, and even sells her things when he needs money.
I’m so confused and don’t know what to do. Women, biko, train your boys!!
This is such a pity but you see the love a mum has for her child?Sometimes it can so much that it becomes like a weapon fashioned against that child....I will say to you not to judge your mum until you have your own kids, then you will understand why she cant say no or stop helping him.....
He is an adult that decided to be useless.......Give your mum what you need to give her and let the matter rest.....
Why the women train your boys. So she didn’t train him but she trained you!
ReplyDeleteWhat you should do is pray that he receives sense. Leave your mum out of it
Poster is right anon. Many parents raise their daughters and neglect their sons. Their sons have later curfews,
DeleteTheir daughters friends are tightly curated or controlled
Their daughters have serious daily chores while their sons can be outside playing ball etc etc
This is so wrong.Your mum is enabling him.Very soon he will start selling family lands and she will cry out .ln the world of today no woman should love a child to be useless.
ReplyDeleteEyah only a real mum can love like this . Leave her with her son like that . I actually feel sorry for both. It is well.
ReplyDeletePoster, don’t mind Stella. Love shouldn’t be destructive abeg.
ReplyDeleteI wonder why some mothers do this when you know you will still leave such a child alone in this wicked world, besides we will all give account of how we raised our kids to God.
We have a case like that with our last born(son), out of three sons being a thorn in everyone’s flesh due to our mom’s over pampering.
Just give her what you normally give, then face front.
Sadly, these mothers suffer it the most in old age.
Always pray for him, that God should deliver him to know what to do .
ReplyDeleteHe needs prayer .
Both male and female needs prayer.
My dear poster. The love between a mother and her children can't be measured. Don't stop helping your mom because of your brother.
ReplyDeleteyou cannot do anything to that man, your mum spoiled him. All you can do is to gift her what you gave for her and face front. Do not say anything about him lifting a finger because your mum was the one who spoiled him, do not even complain about him to your mum. Whenever he brings up his matter just listen and say nothing, if the conversation is getting long just tell her you will call her back and end the call. Your mum spoiled him, i pray when she is no more he can be able to feed himself.
ReplyDeleteKeep giving her what you have, she should keep giving everything to her spoiled useless son if she likes.
ReplyDeleteAs for your brother, don't bother about him, that's how he wants to live his life, let him be
See name calling ontop another person pikin
DeleteIt's so painful and scary at the same time. May GOD give me the grace to raise my kids right
ReplyDeleteI understand your frustration, but this isn't just a "train your boys" issue. Your brother is an adult now, and your mum has unfortunately been shielding him from the consequences of his choices for years.
ReplyDeleteThe best thing you can do is encourage your mum to set boundaries and stop enabling the behavior. As difficult as it is, some people don't change until they're forced to take responsibility for themselves.
Also, protect your own peace and finances. You can support your mum, but you can't carry your brother's responsibilities for him.
Don’t encourage your mum anything poster. She will only go and gist him what you said
DeleteWe should emulate the Chinese and punish parents for the failure of their children in society
ReplyDeleteWe should emulate the Chinese and punish parents for the failure of their children in society
ReplyDeleteDon’t do it
ReplyDeleteStop giving in
Don’t hope take action
In our case we stopped letting money go his way when if it meant not giving mom
He has changed. Mom still tried to get money to him but at least he has his own
Do what you can for your mum as your would have done on a normal level. Reject any random call for extras or sudden emergency needs.... it will surely be because of him. If she chooses to give him the money, its on her. It is well.
ReplyDeleteNo vex Stella but sometimes when i read your red pen, i start to wonder if there is a brain in your head. How can you spew such rubbish.
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