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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
Stella, hope all is well with you. Please post as chronicles.
I have a strong suspicion that my aunt had a longterm affair or flings with my father decades ago. This would be my mother’s sister.
I cannot go into any details because you never know who is reading and the internet never dies.
They are all older ppl today, in their 60s and 70s.
I will see my father next month, first time in many years. I am tempted to ask him about my suspicions, not as an ambush or any negativity, just to know. This aunt is a problematic individual who believes in her juju and my grandmother warned my mother about her before she died.
The only child of her 12 children that she gave any warning about.
Should I ask my father about my suspicions that they had an affair? Do men even answer such questions truthfully? Insights from male BVs would be helpful.
Thanks Stellz and BVs.
Should I ask my father about my suspicions that they had an affair? Do men even answer such questions truthfully? Insights from male BVs would be helpful.
Thanks Stellz and BVs.
If you are close to your dad, you can ask him for laughs sake and you guys end it there but if you are not close to him, you gonna be starting something by asking him oh...
Poster, please let sleeping dogs lie.
ReplyDeleteI won't accept this..
DeleteReason is, what if at the end of everything (after baba don go) then appears to have a child with the aunt which will make them share their father's properties with..
My thought
And what if she finds out he truly has a child for him now that he's still alive. Will anything change about that. What if the anity fights her spiritually after finding out. Pinky
Delete@ Mc Pinky, when they get to that bridge they will cross it.
DeleteThe family can conduct a DNA test on any child(ren) brought to them, even after the baba don go. In such a situation, knowing the truth becomes very necessary and mandatory; but right now it is not.
This is my opinion.
Leave it alone any such affairs happened
ReplyDeleteHow’s it your business to bring up now.
Do you caught them red handed?
ReplyDeleteWhat and what makes you to be suspicious??
You are suspicious not like you are certain
Oyinbo - "do you caught them red handed"😁😁🤣😂😅
DeleteNa curiousity go kill your cat as I dey see am so.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you intend to do with his response if yes or no? Somethings are better left in the past.
Felicity
Forget the issue Abeg. Haba!
ReplyDeleteWhy do people like giving themselves stress? At this point of my life, if you ask me what I don't care about knowing, its what happened in the past. Poster! after learning about this and you discover your aunt had something with your dad in the past, will it give you peace? Poster, don't carry the cross of people sin. Forget what you feel about your dad and aunt and face your life. If your mum is still alive, give her a good and happy life that is what you owe her now.
ReplyDeleteLet sleeping dogs lie.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is: don't ask unless you're prepared for any answer—or no answer at all. You only have suspicions, and even if your father answers, you'll never know for certain whether you're getting the full truth. If this is your first time seeing him in years, consider whether raising the issue will help your relationship or simply create tension.
ReplyDeleteAsk yourself: What will change for me if he confirms it? What if he denies it? If neither outcome brings real closure, it may be best to let it rest. If you do ask, keep it calm and non-accusatory, and be prepared to accept whatever response you receive.
Please don't ask him.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, just forget that matter. I don't see the need for you to ask
ReplyDeleteYou didn't tell us why you believe the answer will change anything.please move on your mum didn't send you to any errands and I don't believe the answer will affect your family positively in any way. That she was a trouble maker doesn't necessarily mean she was promiscuous
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