STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED
My marriage is not up to a year but I have had sxx only once..... I was pregnant when we got married and my baby is 7 months old npw but no gbenshing since i got pregnant:........
I love gbenshing but Oga keeps complaining of money ...He says that his mind is not there because he is always thinking of money.
I am tired at this point and I really need advice...
Awwwwwwww
You be remodelled vargin? If you have gbenshed only once, how come you love gbenshing.....Nawah!
Please just take it easy with him, he is broke and thinking of how to make money and whats on your mind is gbenshing? Na wah oh.......Please just remove it totally from your mind and face the baby.....
Instead of outrightly demanding for gbenshing you can spend time massaging each others tensed spots...discuss the way forward with finances for the sake of your kid....Hope you are not another stay at home wife Cos he may be scared of you falling pregnant again and he has to carry the load alone.
Meanwhile, please send in your chronicles and stop using your stories to interview with the posters stories..it prevents them from getting advice...Thanks
Please send in your chroncles...folder ti empty
Maybe he doesn’t find u attractive anymore..truth is u can’t force him; codedly buy sex toy ; watch porn to satisfy urself… don’t mention sex again to him
ReplyDeleteHonestly, marriage is overrated, cos wtf
Really over rated
DeleteSee advice... I am very sure he go be Amotekun. Please poster intense arousing massage will do work. Also talk to him how the lack of sex affects your relationship . Two hearts will become one.
Deletehow are you helping the man with all the bills/ hope you are not a sit at home mom and expect manner to fall from heaven. You both should sit down and talk things out, he should not hide under the umbrella of no money instead of him to perform his marital duties. If he is afraid of you birthing another child, there are better ways to handle that and not totally stop his wife from enjoying what she should enjoy.
ReplyDeleteI hope when you get used to staying without him, he will not come out one day to cry that you are cheating on him/ he should find away to balance every thing. You too find something doing to support the family, do nit just birth babies anyhow before you increase the stress. Make sure you speak with him because this is a very serious matter to handle well in marriage, if he is not giving you good vibe you can involve family members and those who came for your hand in marriage. Please never you go outside to get what your husband should provide for you.
Some men don’t like zx
ReplyDeleteWhen it’s time for another baby he will do again
Sit him down and have a food conversation
Even Bible says don’t deny each other so what’s this nonsense he’s doing
This is why I laugh when people cite sexual compatibility test as an excuse to engage in fornication. The man that was obviously doing it well before me marriage ( she says she like s,x and was pregnant before marriage which means she was enjoying what she was testing before marriage) has changed suddenly . Imagine having s,x once in her marriage
ReplyDeleteIf you married with pregnancy and your baby is seven months now yet your marriage is not up to a year then that means you were almost due when you guys wedded. does that mean he married you because of the pregnancy? His excuse is watery and doesn't seem to love you. .
ReplyDeleteHave you added weight beyond normal? Your hygiene, is it top notch? Do you still keep yourself attractive? Or you've let yourself go? Not too many men fancy nearing lactating women.
ReplyDelete7 months is too long for any man to stay without sex. If your husband hasn't touched you in months, that is by no means an ideal situation. As much as financial pressures exist, relief of sexual tension is still a worthwhile pursuit for most men.
Sit your husband down and pointedly tell him how his actions are affecting you. He should draw up a schedule to accommodate your needs. If he doesn't find you attractive anymore, he should be bold enough to say it. On your part, make sure you aren't deficient in any of the issues I mentioned in the first paragraph.
Why did you like ai so much
Delete"If he doesn't find you attractive anymore, he should be bold enough to say it".... DOGgedity.
DeleteLol
Guy, Women don't want to hear the truth.
That truth will hunt the man for the rest of his life.
Anon. 16:12. I'm sorry that you think a simple block of text identifying possible causes of an issue and proffering solutions to it appears to you like AI. Some of us actually paid attention in school. Something you appear so unfamiliar with.
DeleteI hate this for a young marriage, because the intimacy helps to build a strong marriage bond. With the state of marriages and how easy they crash, these days, you have a right to be concerned. Anyway, I will leave it to the men on the blog to advise you, because they understand the male brain better than I do.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your baby and new marriage.
His side chic just put to bed also and that's why he's behaving anyhow and money conscious. Find your own chike
ReplyDeleteAs a young lady, you need cuddling time with your hubby, but what he is thinking is different. When the mind is disturbed, sex may be the last thing he will be thinking about. Why don't you get something doing so your husband know there's another source of income for the home.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster ,
ReplyDeleteIt’s not easy to gbensh when Nepa go soon come cut light and food no Dey house .
Also,look for your old photos before the pregnancy you will find your answers there .
I thought women agreed that they don't like sex? And its only men that enjoy sex in marriages and relationships? What has changed?
ReplyDeleteWhen we say that sex is a beautiful experience to be enjoyed by two consenting adults, they will come for our heads.
Every day, we are told that women hate sex and that it is merely a transactional act tied to money. We hear how a poor man should never have an erection because women only have sex for the financial gain, not the experience.
Help me ask them oooo.
DeleteThat gender and self denial na 5&6.
Maybe they came for your head because you were talking about it outside marriage and expecting same access without doing husband duties and going against the word of God. Inside marriage it's your marital right.
DeleteAnon 18:55 , I'll save this your comment.
DeleteIn the next 1 month, there will definitely be a Chronicle from a woman complaining that her broke husband wants to have sex with her.
You'll see the advice that will be given when that type of Chronicle drops here.
Our blog women have told us severally that women do not like sex unless money is involved.
That is what is preached year in, year out
Your husband doesn't have any reason to treat you the way he is treating you right now. He's only using the finance part as an excuse. Maybe you added weight or he no longer finds you attractive. That's still not reasonable enough. He's your husband and supposed to be committed to the vows he made to love you come rain and high water.
ReplyDeleteAn husband should lead by example. He's supposed to be the one holding the family together not the one trying to pull everything apart. Children should just stop getting married. Using finance as an excuse to abandon the emotional needs of your immediate person for 7 months is childish.
Men on the other hand should learn about headship. It is not by eating two meats. Selah.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lame excuse! Lack of intimacy in marriage is not ideal. Zip him down and hold his thing, don't let go until you are satisfied 😂
ReplyDeleteOturugbeke!
ReplyDeleteDid you gain a lot of weight during your pregnancy???
ReplyDeleteSometimes, when a man is broke, everything around irritates him, including his wife and even children. How broke is your man? and how are you helping with finances? if you are a sit at home mum, abeg manage whatever you get from the man o, cos he is stressed already. I know what I am saying.
ReplyDeleteThings are so hard these days. It's so difficult for men to get erections these days. May GOD help us
ReplyDeleteI guess if you’re barely feeding and t
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