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CONFUSED'
I need advice before i make a big mistake!#
I snooped on my partners phone and found serious evidence of him cheating with our single neighbour..In fact they are dating..
I have been acting cool cause i know how to handle this at all and i dont want any fight that will send me out and send her in.....
I wished that i never found this out at all cause nothing will ever be the same....
The house we live in is ours, its a four flat unit of three bedrooms each and we live in one and rented out three…..
Like I said, he will deny or beg but it doesnt change what has happened...what do i do? So confused and too ashamed to discuss this with anyone.
CONFUSED'
I need advice before i make a big mistake!#
I snooped on my partners phone and found serious evidence of him cheating with our single neighbour..In fact they are dating..
I have been acting cool cause i know how to handle this at all and i dont want any fight that will send me out and send her in.....
I wished that i never found this out at all cause nothing will ever be the same....
The house we live in is ours, its a four flat unit of three bedrooms each and we live in one and rented out three…..
Like I said, he will deny or beg but it doesnt change what has happened...what do i do? So confused and too ashamed to discuss this with anyone.
This same person has been trying to be friends with me and coming to my house..I became suspicious when she stated coming even when i am not there...As per my friend visiting me despite me not being there.....
I have forwarded all the details to myself and deleted all proof but this might go South....
Hmmm, do not confront. Just set them up and catch them red handed..be acting all nice and naive but set them up...Be free with them and let them get too comfortable...
Please note that you should not get physical when you catch them...Just walk away to cool off.
Put a camera in your house and travel to see what happens
ReplyDeletePut a camera in your house and travel to see what happens
ReplyDeletePut a camera in your house and travel for a day, you don’t have to be scared. When you get their naked pictures then you hold the dice, you can play it any how you want.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you scared she will take your place, start working on your self confidence please, don’t lose yourself cos of marriage.
Go get tested and ask him to get tested too
ReplyDeleteStop playing with your life
Hope you're financially stable and can take care of yourself? This should be what you should be planning now. Because, he can decide to wife her tommorrow or make their relationship known.
ReplyDeleteSo, if you feel, your life revolves around hi and can't live without him, then make roo for your co wife, otherwise, plan to leave.
We really need serious marital laws in Nigeria that when you have been found breaking your vows, you should be the one to lose!
ReplyDeleteImagine a situation of the victim still being the one to lose!
Maybe if they have the fear of losing their homes or investments when they cheat on their wives and she decides to take a walk, this nonsense will reduce!
This woman is majorly scared of confrontation because she doesn’t want to lose out totally.
Dear poster sorry about what you passing through. Please set camera with plenty of evidence and expose two them. Please stay put in the marriage as long as there is no DV. No one dare take your place.
ReplyDeletewhen they tell you women to build your own house when building with your men, una say NO! since you don't want to leave, keep managing him.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why people are always scared of leaving a cheating partner because the other woman might move in.
ReplyDeleteIf the other woman moves in, the husband will eventually get bored of her and seek his thrill elsewhere. He is a cheat, you didn't make him one so his escapades won't end with her. She may just end up in your shoes a couple of years later, feeling more hurt than you do now, because It's usually the side chick who cries the most when they can't take what they dish out.
You may feel like the other woman is better or chosen, but a cheat isn't upgrading, he is just repeating a cycle. Once the secrecy and thrill are gone, reality sets in, and the new partner usually inherits the same disloyalty.
The real win isn't keeping your husband, it's walking away with your peace of mind, your dignity and your fair share of the assets intact.
Your only fear should be being cheated out of your share of the house you both co-own.
For that you can consult a property lawyer.
Partner as in partner, or partner as in husband?
ReplyDeleteWhat I wanted to ask because the answer determine the approach to take.
DeleteSome women do not have shame,how on earth do you laugh with someone then caused her pains? Poster no faithful man out there,my pains is why his tenant? No respect no shame..😡 you got to sit up,look good,transform yourself.
ReplyDeleteThe fact yout husband is not faithful does not mean you generalize all men as unfaithful, ok
DeleteAlthough the definition of "partner" is not clear, but I will say, first, calm down and don't make any decisions out of anger or pain. Please, don't fight the neighbour or confront him impulsively.
ReplyDeleteYou have more at stake here than a cheating partner. You have a home and three rental units. Protect your interests first. Get a camera in your bedroom and living room, quietly preserve your evidence, understand your legal rights to the property, and seek legal advice before making any move, especially moving out. But one important factor that could change everything is for you to get tested, first.
And please, don't blame yourself or feel ashamed. You didn't betray anyone. You may be heartbroken, but don't let their betrayal cost you your peace, your dignity or what you have worked hard to build. Be wise, not reactive. You can cry, but don't lose your head.
Poster, read the above post three times. You need legal advice and to cut off all seckual contact. Please also stock and pile in the meantime, all with a smile on your face. Do nothing before you understand the legalities. Make copies of all pertinent documents. Start getting your receipts together. You need strategy not emotions.
DeletePlease tell someone you trust, because wickedness is increased on the land so much do not keep silent. Tell someone trusted who is also wise and who you respect their counsel.
May you be guided in wisdom and discernment.
I go with what Stella said but also, put camera just as bvs have said. You will be fine and don't panic. This is your home. Do what is best for you
ReplyDeleteSince you don’t want to leave (na you sabi) do as Stella says, catch them red handed and C allow them to beg you. Ask your husband to send her packing etc etc
ReplyDeleteConfront him and go get tested.
ReplyDeleteHow can you pretend about such? At this stage of my life, I can never pretend like all is well when I am hurt.
Is the house in only his name?… i bet the tenant is already staying there for free?… you have to confront him with evidence…
ReplyDeleteTake Stella's advice it's the best. Men can deny when confronted so it's best you catch them red handed .
ReplyDeleteVery devastating. I'm sure they'll slip up very soon
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