Why are people making it look like only women are the victims in domestic violence?I know of a man whos wife beat him any time he tried to be a man in his house.she was very strong and used to over power him in everything...one day they got into an arguement and she landed a hot blow on his chest,when he got up from the fall,she grabbed his denim pants and told him she would kill him,he wanted to walk away but couldnt,she was holding tightly to his pants.
He took off his denim pants and made to run but this time was different,she grabbed his manhood and twisted....she twisted so hard he woke up in hopsital...As soon as his eyelids opened,she was the one sitting down by his bedside but my friend knew he would die if he stayed,he immediately got up and ran,he kept running like the devil was after him...that run saved his life.
You can still run if you are alive!
When early last year, actress Monalisa chinda granted me an exclusive interview revealing details of how her ex hubby used to beat and tear her down,there was an outcry and many people felt she should not have walked out but stayed and tried to make it work.
Many felt,maybe the actress pushed her hubby to the wall and his reaction was beating the living daylights out of her,even in front of their only child together!.
This is what Monalisa said in that interview in January 2010.
''let me tell you the truth,there was signs of violence when we were courting .you know when you fall in love with someone you just met and feel he is the one you want to be with,regardless of both our shortcomings,women we have this tendency of not facing the truth and the harsh reality that this thing can remain and become a problem if you remain with this person.i am a woman who sticks to something once i make up my mind to do it no matter what,which is not very good because you have to place yourself in a place of reason so that when your mother or older ones tell you ,something is not good for you,you listen but i didnt listen.i saw a bright future with him.i didnt want to be concerned with his short comings,especially when he gets angry and wants to get voilent,i just thought that the maturity that marriage brings would change him but he didnt change.at a point i wanted to leave 2yrs after we got married but i thought about my family,i thought about my friends,especially as i was warned to look before leaping,i thought about that and then i thought about myself.i kept thinking how people would look at me if i left the marriage,people were already saying actresses could not keep their marraiges.i considered a lot of things and so i stayed and prayed he would change but it got worse instead,so i began to pray, i wanted God to bless me with a child that would give me joyand maybe bring back some sanity into the marriage.i wanted a child to give me hope and make me stop thinking about the things i could no longer bear.when my baby arrived,i felt things would change for the better,i thought the cry of a baby in our home would make things better,i thought we would become more mature and concentrate on the baby but this didnt happen,he didnt change and i knew deep within me that if things didnt change i would leave him.six months ago after we had a very very serious altercation,i decided to leave.
i am happy that i came out of that marriage with my whole body intact.i didnt loose an eye,a leg or a hand and my baby is intact as well and nothing happened to her physically or mentally.there are challenges as a single woman,you and i know that.i am satisfied with where i am right now.i am happy with where God has brought me and i am happy i had the strenght to walk away from what was happening to me before it was too late to do so.''
Maybe,just maybe titilayo read that interview and shrugged her shoulders,maybe she didnt.We will never know because she couldnt run like monalisa did.
The reason for this flashback is that titlayos case has become an eye-opener of some sort for lots of women/men.
If you are in an abusive relationship believing you will change that person,my dear,think again before someone turns you to corned beef in one moment of anger.
If you are in a home where there is doemstic voilence going on,please help the victim and report to someone of authority.
Titilayo didnt/couldnt run because she wanted to stay and make it work,you still have a chance to run like monalisa did,pick up your slippers and run,run like the devil himself is after you and no matter what words or gifts he/she tries to get you back with,RUN AND DONT LOOK BACK!.....RUN!
Titilayos case has re-opened old wounds for Monalisa and she wept on hearing titlayos case.The actress is thanking God for her life today...run now and do the thanksgiving later.