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Friday, 1 July 2011

Domestic Voilence:Revisitng The Monalisa Chinda Case!

Why are people making it look like only women are the victims in domestic violence?I know of a man whos wife beat him any time he tried to be a man in his house.she was very strong and used to over power him in everything...one day they got into an arguement and she landed a hot blow on his chest,when he got up from the fall,she grabbed his denim pants and told him she would kill him,he wanted to walk away but couldnt,she was holding tightly to his pants.
He took off his denim pants and made to run but this time was different,she grabbed his manhood and twisted....she twisted so hard he woke up in hopsital...As soon as his eyelids opened,she was the one sitting down by his bedside but my friend knew he would die if he stayed,he immediately got up and ran,he kept running like the devil was after him...that run saved his life.

You can still run if you are alive!

When early last year, actress Monalisa chinda granted me an exclusive interview revealing details of  how her ex hubby used to beat and tear her down,there was an outcry and many people felt she should not have walked out but stayed and tried to make it work.
Many felt,maybe the actress pushed her hubby to the wall and his reaction was beating the living daylights out of her,even in front of their only child together!.

Monalisa and ex hubby Dejo Richard.

This is what Monalisa said in that interview in January 2010.

''let me tell you the truth,there was signs of violence when we were courting .you know when you fall in love with someone you just met and feel he is the one you want to be with,regardless of both our shortcomings,women we have this tendency of not facing the truth and the harsh reality that this thing can remain and become a problem if you remain with this person.i am a woman who sticks to something once i make up my mind to do it no matter what,which is not very good because you have to place yourself in a place of reason so that when your mother or older ones tell you ,something is not good for you,you listen but i didnt listen.i saw a bright future with him.i didnt want to be concerned with his short comings,especially when he gets angry and wants to get voilent,i just thought that the maturity that marriage brings would change him but he didnt change.at a point i wanted to leave 2yrs after we got married but i thought about my family,i thought about my friends,especially as i was warned to look before leaping,i thought about that and then i thought about myself.i kept thinking how people would look at me if i left the marriage,people were already saying actresses could not keep their marraiges.i considered a lot of things and so i stayed and prayed he would change but it got worse instead,so i began to pray, i wanted God to bless me with a child that would give me joyand maybe bring back some sanity into the marriage.i wanted a child to give me hope and make me stop thinking about the things i could no longer bear.when my baby arrived,i felt things would change for the better,i thought the cry of a baby in our home would make things better,i thought we would become more mature and concentrate on the baby but this didnt happen,he didnt change and i knew deep within me that if things didnt change i would leave him.six months ago after we had a very very serious altercation,i decided to leave.
i am happy that i came out of that marriage with my whole body intact.i didnt loose an eye,a leg or a hand and my baby is intact as well and nothing happened to her physically or mentally.there are challenges as a single woman,you and i know that.i am satisfied with where i am right now.i am happy with where God has brought me and i am happy i had the strenght to walk away from what was happening to me before it was too late to do so.''

Maybe,just maybe titilayo read that interview and shrugged her shoulders,maybe she didnt.We will never know because she couldnt run like monalisa did.

                                   Late Titilayo and the hubby who Dismembered her body.

The reason for this flashback is that titlayos case has become an eye-opener of some sort for lots of women/men.
If you are in an abusive relationship believing you will change that person,my dear,think again before someone turns you to corned beef in one moment of anger.

If you are in a home where there is doemstic voilence going on,please help the victim and report to someone of authority.
Titilayo didnt/couldnt run because she wanted to stay and make it work,you still have a chance to run like monalisa did,pick up your slippers and run,run like the devil himself is after you and no matter what words or gifts he/she tries to get you back with,RUN AND DONT LOOK BACK!.....RUN!

Titilayos case has re-opened old wounds for Monalisa and she wept on hearing titlayos case.The actress is thanking God for her life today...run now and do the thanksgiving later.

Hubby Who Killed Banker Wife Cries''It Is The Work of the devil''.

Details have emerged of how Akolade Arowolo, a jobless graduate, suspected to have killed his banker wife, Titilayo, last Friday was arrested by the police.

******** gathered that Akolade was arrested on Saturday at their residence at 8, Akindehinde Street, Isolo around 11pm.
“He came back to his flat the next day at about 11 pm; perhaps, to pick up a few things before making good his escape. Policemen had already laid ambush and were waiting. He was immediately arrested.
Titilayo’s family have been contacted and they have taken custody of her daughter. Kolade is now in the custody of the SCID, Panti,” the source, a policeman, said.

Prior to his arrest, *********gathered that some policemen had flagged down Kolade’s car around Aye Bus stop, Isolo and quizzed him on account of the bloodstains on his clothes but he tricked the policemen  and escaped.

The source said, “Kolade escaped on Friday after the murder when some policemen apprehended him somewhere around Aye Bus Stop. He was covered in blood and even passersby thought he had been involved in
an accident.

“When they stopped him and started quizzing him, Kolade collapsed on the ground pretending to have fainted. As they were making efforts to revive him, he immediately got up and rushed across the road,
nearly killing himself in the process because he was knocked down by a car. To the surprise of those present, he just picked himself up, boarded a bike and fled. Kolade’s car was immediately seized and taken to the Aswani Police Station, Isolo.”

Another source at the SCID told one of our correspondents that when Kolade was quizzed, he simply said, “It was the devil’s handiwork.”
The Police Public Relations Officer, Lagos State Command, Mr. Samuel Jinadu, confirmed Kolade’s arrest to our correspondents on the phone, adding that investigations were still ongoing.
At the residence of the couple, a neighbour, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said the Arowolos had frequent quarrel, which often resulted in fights.

The source said, “I cannot say for sure what led to her murder. I was aware they fought frequently but because it rained heavily that Friday morning, I don’t think anyone heard their noise. The next day
(Saturday), her body was discovered; I came back from an outing to meet a huge crowd on the street. I was shocked to learn that Titilayo had been murdered by her husband. Although they had frequent fights, no one expected this.

“I never really had cause to relate with Kolade because I live with a sibling who rented this flat. I was surprised to learn that Arowolo was married because he frequently brought in different girls every  day to his flat. As a result, I never knew who his wife was.”

The source also described the murder scene as gory, saying “Arowolo was stabbed severally in her chest and her eyes gouged out; in fact, her husband mutilated her. I couldn’t even bring myself to look  at the pictures some of the neighbours took with their phones.”

Another neighbour said, “I don’t live here, although I run a business on this street. I learnt that the man murdered his wife and escaped after dropping off their two-year-old daughter at a day care centre.
When the parents did not come for the child, the day care employees were worried and came to look for them. There was no one at home and it seemed none of the parents could be reached. Matters came to a head the next day when a putrid odour was coming out
from the Arowolos’ flat. I don’t know if it was the neighbours or the day care employees that called the police but they just came here and before you know it, a crowd had gathered.”

At Skye Bank, Marina branch, where Titilayo worked until the time of her murder, her colleagues were still mourning.

One of Titilayo’s colleague, who was recently transferred, told ******** that the deceased was hardworking and was reportedly due for a promotion.
 Describing her relationship with the deceased emotionally, she said, “I’ve known Titi for more than three years. Titi was working at Skye Lounge Victoria Island. She was later transferred to Adeola Hopewell  before joining the Marina branch over a year ago.

“She joined Skye bank around 2007 and I can tell you that she never received a query from the bank. That is to show you how committed she was to her job.”

Although she said there were times Titilayo came to office with injuries, the source said nobody suspected that she was being abused because she did not discuss her problem with her colleagues.

She said, “There was a day she came to work in bandage but when I asked her how she sustained injuries, she said she fell from an okada.

“Two weeks ago, another colleague saw marks on her hands but when asked how she got the bruises, she said she slipped and fell in the house.
“It is now that I’m beginning to connect the dots. Titi was small in stature and her husband was big. I can only imagine the sort of beating he would have been giving her. I regret not noticing on time.
Probably, we would have been able to avert this disaster.

“Titi was so in love with Akolade. On many occassions, she would distribute copies of Akolade’s Curriculum Vitae to colleagues in the office because she was eager to see him get a job.

“Akolade, however, never appreciated her. Sometimes, he would seize her cheque book, ATM cards and her car keys as punishment whenever they fought even though she was the one sustaining the family financially.

“Titi was very happy last Thursday because her leave would start on Friday, which happened to be her husband’s 30th birthday. She said this period is for ‘me and my husband.”
The source told our one of our correspondents that Titilayo was extrememly close to her father having lost her biological mother at a tender age. This was why she always visited her father every week.

“I suspect that Akolade must have been targeting her leave allowance which was over N250,000 that she had just received the previous day. Also, I think he was her next of kin in all her official documents  and he had a lot to gain from her death,” the source added.

Meanwhile, a page has been opened for Titilayo, Facebook. The page titled “RIP Omozoje Titilayo Oyakhire” and opened on Monday by her friends had been a washed with messages of love, and condolences and  curses on the suspect.

As at the time of going to press, no fewer than 50 messages had been posted. One of the users, Bolakale Akintade,” This world is becoming more wicked everyday, since I got this news I just can’t trust  anybody anymore. Was he blindfolded when he married her? For every woman in such kind of marriage, let’s keep our head straight on. This is the second story am hearing this year and they took lives.”

Meanwhile, Titilayo’s corpse has since been deposited at the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital’s mortuary, Ikeja. Funeral plans are yet to be announced.


Actress Anita Josephs's New Look.

From moives to Controversies and now waxing a soon-to-be-released album but whatever she has done and failed at, you have got to give it to her...Anita parades one of the hottest bodies in nollywood....ah ah!

Great body!!

Spotted:Actress Stella Damasus!

The beautiful actress was spotted yesterday june 30,2011 at a seminar in ikeja.
You must agree that Stella looks good for the cameras everytime....how does she do it?