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Wednesday, September 03, 2014

African Women At War In Another Man's Land!.. A Blog Visitor Narrative


The situation described in this narrative is herewith referred to as ''Aduro''..where you chop one paper and go into freestyle confinement to get another one depending on.......

People caught in this situation are helpless and have no choice but to come together as one but when they turn each other and their open confinement into a war zone then wahala dey!

Imported gossip!







   Hello Aunty Stella,
I am a 26 year old African lady living in Germany, Wismar to be precise. I am an addicted blog visitor even though I comment under anonymous. I would like fellow blog visitors to advice me else i will do something really bad with a perhaps grave outcome.


           I live in an asylum house *Aduro* a place full of jealousy and undeserving insults from desperate fellows.

            Now the main issue is, a 23 year old pregnant lady came to live here in March. And in fact, the situation in which she found herself was bad: her husband was far away in Dortmund and she was without food utensils and nothing at all. She just came with a little bag. She started asking for various kinds of help from me, from foodstuffs to giving her directions to places, to watching movies in my room and to even buying stuff for her unborn baby. Aunty Stella if I told you into details the time, energy and money I have wasted on this girl eh, you would cry for me. She slowly crawled her way into my life that when I got my visa, I told her the exact number of years I was given. All this while, she was as humble as a child addressing me with the prefix ^sister^, not knowing she was a wolf in sheep’s clothing waiting to pounce on me.

             Now on 2nd June, this lady gave birth, in the hospital which I had given her directions to. As soon as she came home, she changed. She no longer called me sister. I didn’t mind. One time after bathing, having forgotten to open the bathroom connecting door, this lady came knocking furiously on my door and when I opened, she insulted me to the extent that I felt like crying.

           She soon started making friends with my ^enemies^, whom she at first was on just hello-hi terms with. They started gossiping about me which I happened to hear and she joined them to indirectly verbally abuse me.              

           Yesterday, she came back from town claiming to have gotten her visa and this time around started her verbal abuse directed at me because she claims she had more years than I got. Because of this, she has started ridiculing me together with my ^enemies^, who don’t even have a passport.

            Now my problem is this lady is really tempting me. For such a person that I took pity on and wasted my time, energy and money on to insult and ridicule me, I feel like beating the hell out of her, in fact to a pulp. Aunty Stella, it has gotten so bad that, I can’t enter the kitchen we all use without been insulted by this girl that I virtually upgraded into a modern day girl.

             Please fellow blog visitors I need advice, else any moment from now I am going to do the unthinkable.

*We are all from the same West African country.
*Please note that I am still in this house because I haven’t gotten an apartment yet in Hamburg.


Thank You.



*Women and wahala!
Let me sit and read comments.




155 comments:

  1. No ( small women and wahala. My dear that it's o. People will always pay good with bad. Just avoid her any way u can. If it's possible do everything within ur power to move out, trust me u don't need to fight cos u two will still lose if things go wrong. Pls be save.

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    1. Move to where? You no read where she said she is in asylum? Go back to your country and stop constituting nuisance in another man's land biko

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    2. What do you mean by " you upgraded her" I wish she could get some street gangster and beat the hell out of you.

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    3. It is simple, jes keep ignoring her and having patience while working on getting ur own apartment.

      SILENCE is the word, sometimes whn u repply pple's yapping with silence, it pierces them deep in2 dr souls than exchanging words wid them



      *lips sealed and watching*

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    4. I don't even know what to say. Human nature




      only girls should read this post

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    5. The best revenge is getting successful. Ignore their insults tho I know its so painful esp from that dirty stinking girl u brushed up. Get ur aperttment and move out. They will talk less wen they see their actions don't affect u anymore and they will finally die finish when u move out ahead of dem!

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    6. U sef get wahala too much,which one be enemies?cant u stay at peace with people most especially as u are in asylum.Forget all that u've done for her,God will reward u on that....e full ur body too!

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    7. From personal experience poster, I will advice you to get an apartment and move out/on with ur life. When someone you have been kind to turn against u, just create deep space and let them be. Karma is so real. Those she is seeing as besties now will soon show her pepper, unfortunately, she won't be able to come back to u. God bless all our hustles.

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    8. On a second thought,how can we know U are telling d truth????
      U might actually be d one benefiting from her or U want her tied to ur apron strings cos U are helping her.

      Cant U fight ur own battles???
      Am sure U are of those bullies here and now d chicken has come home to roost.
      U need Ezenwanyi ibilibi Ogada to hold ur hands and give U courage abi??
      U want to turn me to a mercenary knowing fully well that I'm a christian and my faith shuns violence.

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    9. I know they are all Nigerians

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    10. You wey get visa wan fight with people wey no get passport. Continue, you hear?

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    11. Ezenwanyi u no well
      Hahaahahahhahahahahaha

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    12. Whenever you are going near them just start singing and praising the Lord, it works for me. Wish you all the best dear

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    13. OK, I read the story but I cannot really PICK the REASON why someone you were kind to suddenly made a 360 degree turn esp after putting to bed and would need your help the most!

      All the same, don't do anything to Jeopardize your stay. SILENCE IS GOLDEN! Try and look for a tiny apartment by all means and leave.

      BTW, why do you have so many enemies in 'aduro'?

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    14. GW nwanne,but U know am a spirit filled woman.







      Bwahahahaha. .....

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    15. Please be very patient and just ignore.

      I wouldn't say much cos I consider you have read it all here.

      In the mean time try to get yourself alternative accommodation so you can move on. All the best.

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    16. Buhahahahahaha@Ezenwayi..she wants you as a mercenary and she knows your "condition" ooh. kikikikiki

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    17. Anon4:07. Thank u very much. That was what I said. Was reading on to see what precipitated the sudden grievance. Unless she has a mental imbalance, then the poster hasn't let us into the whole TRUTH. Therefore I cannot pass any judgment or give an advice until clarity.

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    18. @Iphie,d thing no tire U??
      Bwahahahaha. ....

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    19. Ezenwanyi you take up comedy.

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  2. Na wa o! Women with their wahala


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    1. Poster, NEVER EVER regret doing good for people. NEVER regret it. What you did, you did too the Lord.

      Forget that girl and focus on yourself. You must learn to wear a thick skin, never let what people around you do to affect you. Look on to Jesus the author and finisher of your faith.

      Be nice, be polite, don't judge, just focus your mind on anything that makes you happy. Don't let haters rob you your joy. If depression attacks you, read 1Corinthians chapter 13.

      I have a Christian blog. Click my name to get to it.

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  3. Sist..Ignore the girl..I know it hard, but just do...it my prayer u get an apartment soon...It will be over before u know it..

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  4. Na wah ohh...
    Poster,you have not told us what you did to the girl that made her change overnight..
    I don't buy this your story biko...

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    1. Me too......she isn't saying the whole story. Btw, what is an asylum? Isn't it a place where mental people are being cared for? I don't know what aduro is....

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    2. Asylum is more like a place where people seeking refuge in a foreign country are kept temporarily......

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  5. My dear pls DO NOT fight oh, u don't knw if d woman is even sick, when u raise ur hand now she falls n dies, u would go in for murder. Most ppl looking for trouble here and der don't even ve d strength to stand d trouble wen it comes. My advise to you would be, try ur best n look for an apartment n move. Ur reward awaits u.

    Stella ohhhhhhhhhh accept my FB request

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  6. Na wa ooo....we women are our own enemies....anyways people like her you put them in their lane, just ignore her till you get your apartment...you just have to tolerate and endure...and don't do something that people will start blaming you for...abeg na my 2cent be that

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  7. Avoid her, ignore her, make her feel she doesn't exist, and your enemies also, abeg fashi them. Like me, when I'm so angry I want to kill somebody, I fix my ear phone into my phone, put on some rap music, Iggy, Eve or Minaj and I listen to kill my anger. Try some music.

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  8. Abeg gi!! U no talk true!! Something is missing in this story. Were you oppressing the girl when she was new? Why do you expect her to bow to you?

    Free her jo, put a smile on your face and move on. Women and their wahala.

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  9. Petty women.
    So that's what is giving u sleepless night.
    Chineke mere gi ebere.

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  10. *No be small*

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  11. Jay-sth na you be this?
    So some of you claiming 'live abroad' are really suffering? This post is funny init. What do you want blog visitors to tell you?

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  12. Dear Poster i'll simply advice you to leave her alone even people she gosssips with just ignore them,i know it's not easy buh try not to do anything funny by fighting her because they are waiting for your downfall.BE WISE !just have it in mind that you helped her nd she'll never forget that.

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  13. Dear Poster i'll simply advice you to leave her alone even people she gosssips with just ignore them,i know it's not easy buh try not to do anything funny by fighting her because they are waiting for your downfall.BE WISE !just have it in mind that you helped her nd she'll never forget that.

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  14. ANGELRAY SAYS
    I will advice u get another apartment as soon as possible, there's really no point fighting cos she's not worth the trouble.

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  15. Btw, fight ke? You think say na Naija you dey? You go chop 'aduro' still carry market woman attitude join sef. Go fight na...Mtcheeeew. I come dey advice you well before. Go fight!!! In fact, kill her.

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  16. The devil is really knocking on your door! If you open na you sabi!

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  17. Madam pls dnt degrade yourself fighting with anybody. What you did for her, is what is required of you to do as a christian. Don't ever you regret your good deeds and never you expect any reward from anyone in any form because your reward is in heaven.
    Ignore the little girls with little mindset...you are not a fool to have helped your fellow human being so dear forget their jesting at you and mind your own business. it is a tree that bears fruit that people throw stone at(is a parable). Keep being fruitful, I wish more success in the land of the Germans!!!
    Nwunye Okeke

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  18. Dear Poster, just try as much as possible to ignore her.Don't allow her taunting to get to you,show her that you are stronger and braver than that.
    Karma is a bitch, nemesis will surely catch her.

    PURPLEIVY

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  19. I'd have asked you to use her and do oshisco pepper soup, but you just have to ignore her so that you can get what you are seeking.
    Don't let the devil use her to take your blessing away.
    Keep avoiding her please.

    Be the bigger person.
    God bless you.

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  20. It happens and I don't think you should resort to beating her. Y dont u be a step higher, ignore them and move on. Work in getting your apartment. Sebi u don get your visa, the rest is rubbish. Beating, shoutting andabusing yourselves are ridiculing behaviour.

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  21. U ddnt do anytin n she just turned agnst u? Hmmmmm. Wow! Issorai

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  22. My sister, thatz human beings 4 u.
    you dont need to quarell or fight wiv her, just leave her 2 herself so dat wen d worst getz 2 worst, nobody will have any cause to blame you. Kip urself to urself until u find anoda apartment. u dont xpect people to pay good wiv good, most people pay evil wiv gud.

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  23. How to retaliate in this kind of situation? Be focused. Get busy, look for means, I mean, go get money and then move out to ur own apartment. Try and act like u don't notice her. Seriously, spend less time with them. Just get busy and get good results.

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  24. Tho it aiint gonna b easy but just ignore her ,cuz if u fight her dat may lead 2 a bigger prob n I'm sure u don't want dat..4get about the help u rendered cause nt every one really appreciate it..u just act like they don't exist n I tell u dat ll kiLl em...dem go tire..

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  25. And in all these, u did nothing to warrant it? Hmmm it's a one sided story jor

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  26. RISE ABOVE HATE my dear. Invest in large headphones.

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  27. Focus ur energy on getting an apartment please. No matter what, do not respond. Silence is golden! Its not easy but try to ignore. I tell u, she ll get her payment in full and God's willing u ll witness or hear about it. She isnt worth it.

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  28. Small pikin talk ... Next

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  29. Sdk am ur blog visitor that comment under anonymous, pls I want to have a blog name how do I go about it.

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    1. ...awww...Rubbynia,always willing to help.
      U are a blessing to this generation.

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  30. After God fear woman before devil...my sister please take it easy on her...u just need to be patient until u get your apt...try not to pay a listening ear to her gossips,blasphemy,jealous attitude OK...all iz well.....(jefferminator&Natasha)

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    1. Ah ahn. 2 ppl commenting as one. What won't we see on this blog. Lol.

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  31. Wat are u waiting for!
    Go get ursef a pair of gloves, and beat 'asylum' outta her.

    Two jobless ppl,
    No be una fault na?
    If to say na naija u dey, and u stat to dey hawk hot agege bread as early as 6;30 to 7am, u no go get time for all dese nonsense.
    Infact if ur neibo, dey fite u, na beg u go beg, cos u no hunger awaits u in d afternoon.

    Wen too much time n comfort dey person hand, na burst belle, na I'm dat person go dey find.
    Go do d wan wey go land u go jail or back to sufferhead naija.
    Wen u r done ur eye go clear, Madam holyfield aka black belt holder.

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    1. Lobatan!!!!!
      ...and someone called me evil.


      Pink Shell,that's too harsh naa....(lwkmd)oooo.....

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    2. Lol@burst belle,
      Pinkshell u are a clown,dont know who is better btw u and dat Ezewanyi......(she has plenty surnames,dont know which one too use,!

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  32. Just ignore her. Concentrate on getting an apartment so that u can move out. Beating the lady or fighting her will only spell doom for both of u.

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  33. Sorry to say this, but a lot of places that have our people in congregation (especially women) always have such wahala. @ poster, you should have kept her at arm's length, works all the time.

    Click my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers

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  34. I know that feeling! This is what you get when you pick someone from the gutter!when they're. Done with whatever help they getting from you,they just change,mock you and even insult you! That gutter attitude never leaves them! She wants trouble nd don't be suprise the day you decide to beat her up,all your enemies with even gangup nd beat the living daylight outta you! So I suggest you ignore her.trust me thts what she deserves! Ignore her!

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    1. I beg to differ, the problem with women is that when they are above someone and help them they expect that person to be an asslicker but such a person stops as soon as they get something better to do with their lives. Now when they stop the helper sees the other as a challenger even when the person minds their business. You don't expect one to be a maid all their lives. Also, that you assisted someone in life doesn't mean shit, they don't owe you nothing, its up to the person to be grateful or otherwise. Besides, I thought you religious fanatics believes your worldly reward is in some imaginary heaven abi na paradise. Why bother with an earthly reward from a human lol.

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    2. I beg to differ, the problem with women is that when they are above someone and help them they expect that person to be an asslicker but such a person stops as soon as they get something better to do with their lives. Now when they stop the helper sees the other as a challenger even when the person minds their business. You don't expect one to be a maid all their lives. Also, that you assisted someone in life doesn't mean shit, they don't owe you nothing, its up to the person to be grateful or otherwise. Besides, I thought you religious fanatics believes your worldly reward is in some imaginary heaven abi na paradise. Why bother with an earthly reward from a human lol.

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    3. Mr C....you are such a FOOL!!!! A bloody pagan and you will surely rot in hell for your messed up statements!!!!

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    4. Err, Mr. C, Stella's actually correct. I had an encounter similar to this a few years ago but it was a guy and I helped him secure admission to the same university in England for post graduate degree. He was suddenly confrontational, competitive like we were chasing similar dreams or pardon my french, like say we dey measure phallus. I almost lost it one day and came pretty close to fisticuffs.... That's when I decided to cut off all contact as it was poisonous.. Never wanted any praise/hero worship from the said person but you know they say about the pig with a golden nose ring? So lady, if you can find it in you, move on and away, it lessons that life throws our way.

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    5. @Anonymous 5:37 Why don't you correct me if I am wrong with facts, when I say facts I don't mean quotes from your super holy book. Each time one question or say challenge the said book you lots resort to cheap insults and attack without countering it with common logic. How intolerance can religion make people. Over 70% of the English are pagan like you chose to call me and its one of the most powerful nation on earth. The story is same in other parts of europe. These are countries people like you could die to get an entry visa to. And they are same people who brought you the religion you are following sheepishly. 'Pagans' like myself donates to more charitable course and do good more than you and your believers but guess what, we don't do so for any heavenly reward as it doesn't exist. We do it for humanity. Now can you please stop cussing someone coz their belief differs from yours. How hard can that be? And talking about rotting in hell lol...the joke is on you really.

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    6. @Anonymous 5:37 Why don't you correct me if I am wrong with facts, when I say facts I don't mean quotes from your super holy book. Each time one question or say challenge the said book you lots resort to cheap insults and attack without countering it with common logic. How intolerance can religion make people. Over 70% of the English are pagan like you chose to call me and its one of the most powerful nation on earth. The story is same in other parts of europe. These are countries people like you could die to get an entry visa to. And they are same people who brought you the religion you are following sheepishly. 'Pagans' like myself donates to more charitable course and do good more than you and your believers but guess what, we don't do so for any heavenly reward as it doesn't exist. We do it for humanity. Now can you please stop cussing someone coz their belief differs from yours. How hard can that be? And talking about rotting in hell lol...the joke is on you really.

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    7. Mr.C biko nu proof read. Ah ah

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  35. My dear I know how u will be feeling now, but take it from me who ve been there b4, don't say anything , just give her space , and pls hold ur mouth, pretend u re okay with the rubbish, let 's see who will laugh last.

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  36. Just leave her to her problems be calm God is perfecting things for you,that girl go hear am based on what you said

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  37. Germany again?? hian!!

    U see y I don't like dis "aunty" "ma" drama? all dis green snakes n wolves in versace attire go " ma ma ma n aunty u, plus prostrate join till u start loosing it mtchewww!

    Anywayyy poster, keep keeping cool ok
    Since u re already planning n moving out of dat place, continue to ignore her

    *Remember, he who lafs last, lafs best*

    Gudluck!

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    1. Lololololol. That was why Stellistica called them out to stop calling her aunty. When Nigerians want something from you, they fuss around you and flatter you so much!

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  38. Ignore her.pay no attention to whatever she does.if she does anything stupid,report her to those in authority.

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  39. Madam poster, let me call you sister on her behalf, how would you like for me to greet you, stand, squat, lie on my belle, or on my head?? You don't need lip service gratification to feel good. You don't need that negative friend to feel blessed or wanted either. You don't want to get arrested for someone who is not worth it too. Till you vacate the asylum tenancy swallow your pride and be patient, wear a bulletproof vest. You will be better for it. I pray that God fill you with the wisdom and understanding to know that temptations are never permanent. Be at peace with your inner self and avoid this lady.

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  40. Trouble dey slip yanga cum wake am! Dear poster it is wel! If every1 shld strt teln dia different stories n xperiences both home n abroad ehn,u ll thank God 4 ur life.
    Leave d idiot alone o! Hu knws if ha tym 2 die don dey nearly reach n d witches 4 ha village dey wait 4 hu dem go put 4 wahala. B4 she go cari ha yeye wahala cum spoil ur mata drop ha like its hot!

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    1. Let's assume her time to die has reached like you asserted, what if she dies and go to heaven? Heaven and earth which is better? If people are sure heaven do exist and is better of than here then why is everyone afraid of death. Abeg leave God and Satan matter. None of them exist. Life starts and ends here, the day one dies that's the end of it. Shikena!

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    2. Let's assume her time to die has reached like you asserted, what if she dies and go to heaven? Heaven and earth which is better? If people are sure heaven do exist and is better of than here then why is everyone afraid of death. Abeg leave God and Satan matter. None of them exist. Life starts and ends here, the day one dies that's the end of it. Shikena!

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    3. You are a bastard @mr c

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    4. Waoooooo Mr C. God and Satan do not exist, u say??? Hmmmm. It us ur type that when God arrests you ehn, you will do exploits for Him. I pray you meet with God soonest. And I also pray that it will not be adversity that will force u to ur knees to reckon with Him. Amen.

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  41. Stella where is that liquid lounge gist biko

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  42. The next time she insults u, beat the shit outta her, ingrate buruku!

    Well I never hear the babe side so too early to conclude, because me sef know some people, when they do you small favour dem go wan lord over you forever and ever like say na them first help someone.

    My advice to the other babe too is to diss the shit outta you...hehehe

    On a serious note tho, can't you just free?? Are her insults breaking your bones or giving you ebola virus? Abeg learn to ignore childishness my friend, and whatever favour you rendered you did it unto the Lord... silence remains the best answer for a fool.. use the weapon of silence, it never fails, it doesn't make you a mumu! it's just wisdom. Cheers

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  43. Menhhh madam you really write so good to find yourself in such a country, Germany is not for your type seriously speaking is for the type of woman that fights you. All you should do is to report the problem you have with the lady to the office in charge of the Aduro also report your situation to the office that gives you visa( stadtamt/burgeramt) ask them to transfer you to another camp until your house is ready in hamburg. You can as well inform the office to transfer you to hamburg early to avoid further problem with the people. Make sure your problem is reported to the office to enable them open a file on your behalf, in case there's a problem they know you have reported. If you have to fight make sure you have at least three witnesses who are ready to be witness if there's a case in court because you alone can't defend yourself unless there are witness to support your case. Am sure both of you are Nigerians and una issues are more of tribal war/jealousy.

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    1. Yinmu jor. U think the office will have time to address baseless crap like this one? When they are already a liability to the office who has to house and feed them. This is pure domestic nonsensical stuff because even the poster has refused to fully narrate what happened. From what she has written there's no basis for settlement. She should just mind her business and count the days she has left in the accommodation. Make I bounce comot for this thread biko. E don do.

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  44. Haba Stellahipsy, which kain wick-end chair be dat naa. Lolll. @ Poster, please control ur temper. I know it is not that easy but please try as much as U can to ignore them. Silence is Golden. Am sure ur days are numbered in that house. Just be prayerful to God. He will surely reward each and everyone accordingly. Thanks

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  45. In the course of your friendship with her its obvious you might av divulge so much about yourself to her to the extent of she has seen you finish levels. Just avoid her, simple

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  46. Just act like they don't exist a beg. Why stress yourself over them? Abeg a beg a beg. ..
    www.lifeasvira.blogspot.com

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  47. Y should she move out???
    Iron sharpeneth iron!!
    D bible commands U to be angry!!!
    Play mind games with her and her cohorts.
    Sow a seed of discord amongst them,trust b4 long they will start scratching their eyes and leakage of secrets will follow thus and U my friend will step in pretending to settle them but ur mission is to cause more confusion and by d time U will be through with them not only would they doubt themselves,they will evrn doubt their shadows and guess who will come out smelling of roses???

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    1. On a second thought,how can we know U are telling d truth????
      U might actually be d one benefiting from her or U want her tied to ur apron strings cos U are helping her.

      Cant U fight ur own battles???
      Am sure U are of those bullies here and now d chicken has come home to roost.
      U need Ezenwanyi ibilibi Ogada to hold ur hands and give U courage abi??
      U want to turn me to a mercenary knowing fully well that I'm a christian and my faith shuns violence.

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    2. Onwa, this your advice no be am!

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    3. You are evil

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    4. Really @ Rubbynia???
      Y then does it sound good to me???

      @anon 2; 45,na now u know???

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    5. Ezewanyi of life!hahhahah!
      U can sha give wicked advices oo!@mumufying the man issue,chai,and now plant seed of discord!lol!ur manipulation no go get part two in real life,dia is God ooo!

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    6. Hian!!!
      Queen,d advice no good????
      Bwahahahaha. ......."all this bloods U are sharing. ..

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  48. You have enemies in an asylum? Wonder what could have caused that. Just try as much as possible to avoid her ok and try and move out as soon as possible. If she did all these without provocation, she really is an ungrateful person. Whatever you do pls stay out of trouble.

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  49. Germany is not Nigeria or Africa. You do shit in this part of the world (europe) and you pay for it dearly. No matter what she says you have no choice but to condole her excesses, you can only react verbally too. Sorry about your case but prolly you were feeling happy and gloated when she was calling you 'sister'. Many Africans love to be call; brother, sister, aunty or uncle etc. Bullshit! They forget such titles doesn't mean respect or what have you, and once you stop calling them so one become a rival. Anyone who calls me brother I caution them immediately, call me by my name, it doesn't make me any less of who I truly am. People shouldn't let their ego and brother, sister thing cajole them, it doesn't mean those calling you so are submissive, its a smokescreen.

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  50. Germany is not Nigeria or Africa. You do shit in this part of the world (europe) and you pay for it dearly. No matter what she says you have no choice but to condole her excesses, you can only react verbally too. Sorry about your case but prolly you were feeling happy and gloated when she was calling you 'sister'. Many Africans love to be call; brother, sister, aunty or uncle etc. Bullshit! They forget such titles doesn't mean respect or what have you, and once you stop calling them so one become a rival. Anyone who calls me brother I caution them immediately, call me by my name, it doesn't make me any less of who I truly am. People shouldn't let their ego and brother, sister thing cajole them, it doesn't mean those calling you so are submissive, its a smokescreen.

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  51. its simple, just ignore her and concenterate more getting an apartment.thats all that matters now.fight her and then the police are involved which I know u dnt want.just pray for an aprtment and also tell ur social aboit the situation so they can help u search for an apartment.

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  52. @ poster pls if you love ur self go and buy kalms from the pharmacy it will make u swallow anything for the sake of ur sanity don't know if it's av in Germany buy mine in uk . If not one devilish person will put criminal record on ur name and they might cancel ur stay don't think they worth it .

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  53. Why let her get @ u?
    That's what she wants and u re allowing her
    Ignore this girl
    Is her mouth let her use it
    Will she glue the insult on u?
    NO
    Show her she doesn't even exist
    Go by ur activities as if nothing happen my dear, u have better things to worry about instead of this
    Plss concentrate and leave NONE issues abeg
    Minding her is making her important and as far as am concern she is not
    Best way to ridicul someone like that is to completely ignore
    See as if u don't see
    Hear as if u don't hear
    Even wen she knowingly push u
    Tell her sorry and walk away
    Make a fool outta her
    Its not easy but plss try it
    Its works
    Good luck

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  54. Dear poster ,that is why we are called human being , Tampa mercy with justice .people can just do the unthinkable .all we need to survive. In this life is tolerance .

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  55. There is an adage in Igbo land which says... If a small bird grow teeth, It will bit the person who nurtured it to death. Life is never fair most times. Its those you labour for that turns back to hurt you.

    ....Take it easy with her, guess you know the consequence of killing someone. Did I read that she just gave birth?. please be careful.... Just ignore her. Behave as if she is not existing around you. Take care.....e-hugs........

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  56. My dear, u sound like u hv been agrieved badly....but one thing yu need to know is that Humans are still Humans! Whatever good yu did to her was for God...so if she is payin you wit Evil, u shouldn't allow it bother yu..I will advice yu hold urself, think of a better way of Avoidin all her problems....Two wrongs can neva make right, show her Maturity and ofcourse ur older than her....Soonest she will come begging....talkin frm experience my dear. Pls pls dnt engage urself in a fight,quarrel etc....ur biggr than that, I tink u hv more serious tin to do....via Infinix

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  57. How does that saying go again sef.. Before you embark on a revenge mission, first dig 2 graves. She must have heard about some nasty things that you did and your "enemies" told her another version. You too have to check yourself. According to Myles Munroe, living with another human being is an art and to live successfully with that person, you need to study the art. Put your energy into getting an apartment but in the meantime, love your "enemies". Hate is for the weak minded. Its easy to hate another person but love is for the strong. Be strong. Everything loves attention, don't give them that satisfaction. I know of someone who everyone "hated" when I was in school, some students went as far as turning lecturers against him. That period was very dark for him. He had to stay back because of a course. Didn't serve with his mates. After service, he got a great job with a multinational firm and some of those "enemies" now address him as "sir". One thing I noticed about him is the fact that he detests no one. Be strong.

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  58. Pls dnt do d unthinkable_ hand dem over t Jesus n kip doing wot is right. U will heap coals of fire on dia head soon!

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  59. This story get K leg, she just came from the hospital and became disrespectful? Just like that? Una matter tire me, an African living the way you are living is not embarrassing enough now you want to start fighting like agberos, that is how you all bring shame to the black man. Please find something better to do with your life.

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  60. De best tin u cn do 4 urself is 2 lgnore her by all means nd focus all ur energy in getin a private appartment nd move, pls pls pls dnt beat or touch her cos u might go 2 jail or loose ur visa in germany cos of such stupid act , u hv learnt ur lessons on hw u help pple in de future...... l hv experiencd such as wel cos l live here in europe as wel, after l experiencd such heartbrkin journy, l dnt hv anymre blak friends tlkless of helpin anybody cos they ll all cos u pains nd regrets at last.

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  61. I totally understand how u feel esp having helped dis lady
    And I get it dat u wanna retaliate
    Buh come on,ask urself?
    Is it worth it?
    Cos she won't go down without a fight

    And if u decide to engage her in a fight,ofcourse her co-allies wil gather too
    It might be u dey wil even beat to a pulp
    Nah!
    It's not worth it
    Have dis attitude towards haters:
    I can't down down to ur level
    So ignore d babe n her co
    Just pray dat very soon u move out
    And always remember:
    Silence is GOLDEN
    Esp to an enemy or a hater

    Sorry my dear.sending u warm hugs!

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  62. What's your bizness and small girl? Pls face front and move on, u are no longer in sec sch where all your friends must keep malice with your enemies....they haven't fine to her what they did to u so she won't share your sentiments.... That y when u do good do it for Gods sake cos most people take kindness for foolishness and never appreciate it..... I understand u are angry but just be calm, she is not worth the trouble.....

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  63. There are 3 sides to a story - A's side, B's side and the truth ! This is only A's side ! My advice is that you should find a way to move out and move on. According to your story, you have done your best to accommodate a fellow African lady in need. Don't expect any good from her & stop gossiping around to check what is being said about you. You are in Germany for a reason and I'm sure the objectives are not to babysit an adult to like you; gossip about who likes you & who doesn't. Move on & grow up ! May God lift you up beyond your aspirations. All the best for the brighter future !

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  64. Will also await mature comments cos with d way I am, I sure need the advice too. I would have bn deported by now if I was the one in ur shoes.

    Aeegurl...

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  65. Chai after typing my epistle it disappeared..mtcheeww

    Poster don't get physical with her..it is not worth it..don't stoop to their level dear...There is something about you they envy..that is if you are not a trouble maker yourself oh(having plenty enemies)...They probably want to be like you or compete with you...So wake up every morning singing joyfully,greet them well before they even see you,ask of her baby join..this kills faster than Ebola.lol....Do not share your secrets or success with them,no TV time,dont share your things..these people can be deadly(jealousy does that)...
    Get an apartment and leave that place...She will crawl back into your life...don't ever be close friends with ...I wish you well!

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  66. Whatever you do, never get physical with her. I have been in similar situation in the past and I moved out ASAP. Avoid her! I will never live with girls ever again, the jealousy and envy in some people ehn!!!

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  67. You better give ur self brain and just ignore her till you get an apartment, but wait we have not heard the girls side of the story aswell so I can't judge. Pass me some vodka and chilled coke let me take a long sit like Stella.


    Mr Lyca

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  68. Women! My dear, please fast track the process of moving out and in whatever you do, don't get into any form of physical altercation with her, it may just be what she is waiting for.

    See everything you have done for her as an investment with no returns, not even gratitude and move on.

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  69. Women are other women's worst enemies. African women are special; they taught the devil about envy, hate and competition.

    Don't fight her; it will be to your own detriment...find a place quickly and move out.

    *The lady in question might also be suffering from post-partum depression.

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  70. Women are other women's worst enemies. African women are special; they taught the devil about envy, hate and competition.

    Don't fight her; it will be to your own detriment...find a place quickly and move out.

    *The lady in question might also be suffering from post-partum depression.

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  71. don't you have your own room? ignore the gossips and enter your room, lock door... women sha... you are obviously into that lifestyle because from your comment you are acting as if you are better than her " a village girl you upgraded". Really? is that necessary? Obviously you much have said things about her too and made her feel somehow hence she saw the need to insult you. who knows what you have done to her. I am a woman and I know how women behave. In your mind you are better than this woman and you yourself are filled with the same jealousy and hatred. God knows what you have told her. No enter your room, lock your door. your room get key shei?. if you too no go look for amebo, amebo no go find you.
    You show am way.... na today.. you too person no show u way?

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  72. LOL...the only thing that caught my attention in this write-up is that chair..Lmaooo

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  73. I knoW how u feel poster. Been there b4... Do not grant her what she is scheming for which is to cm down to her level. Its hard to ignore but just try whatever way u can and hasten ur house search. Some ppl are ungrateful, but that shouldn't chg who u are. This is one of life's lessons be more careful next tym. HELP FROM AFAR. *kisses* cheer up today's a cool day

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  74. Stella's Newest Fan3 September 2014 at 12:28

    I refuse to swallow this story cos it just doesn't add up, there are lots of missing links. I will not judge cos this is a one-sided story. Poster, are u claiming u didn't do anything wrong to warrant such behaviour from her?? Also, how come u have so many enemies in the asylum house? Why do u think she shouldn't speak with pple u consider ur "enemies"? I rest my case. pls. re-examine urself and come back with the complete story.

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  75. Stella's Newest Fan3 September 2014 at 12:29

    I refuse to swallow this story cos it just doesn't add up, there are lots of missing links. I will not judge cos this is a one-sided story. Poster, are u claiming u didn't do anything wrong to warrant such behaviour from her?? Also, how come u have so many enemies in the asylum house? Why do u think she shouldn't speak with pple u consider ur "enemies"? I rest my case. pls. re-examine urself and come back with the complete story.

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  76. Na wa o...see people with small small problems. You and the lady are very stupid and petty. My friend grow up jor and ignore her ass, you no get problem to solve?

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  77. Better avoid her and her wahala. Before she came, you were already there oh. Unless you want to find yourself back to square one. Such women are not worth wasting your time and energy. And please pin your mouth next time. No need famzing with people on the number of yrs you were given. Mwhle sha remember to keep your passport well hidden oh. We women get nsogbu wella. Reserve the beating for people who will deserve it, not her.

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  78. Hmmmn...this story is incomplete #my opinion# and if completely true,avoid her as best as you can while speeding up plans to get an apartment of your own!

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  79. I'm looking at this from another perspective.

    They are trying to set you up and if you fall into the trap, your own don be be that!

    You have legal permit and the rest don't have. Do they think they are happy about it? They want you to either join them in the waiting queue or get thrown out or deported sef. (GOD FORBID!)

    The girl is a nursing mother and you wan beat am shey? Na police case be that and you don't wanna find yourself in police and authority wahala.

    See, they are ALL ganging up against you. Just maintain your lane. All the insults and abuses are tactics to make you SPARK and BAM! They have something to use against you before the authority.

    If you have been patient, pray for X 100 of it to withstand the wilderness you are in. Trust me, something BIG is coming and Devil is using them to make you fall so he can use it to prevent that BIG THING from coming to you. You said it, she wasn't like that and SUDDENLY she changed.

    You story remind me of what my mom experienced when she was being interviewed in her place of work for her postgraduate sponsorship. A woman in the panel was assisted by my mom to enter the service. My mom thought she would have a smooth interview since her person dey the panel; for where?

    This woman antagonised my mom to the extent she couldn't hide her emotion and asked the woman: "ABC, why are you being hard on me?" The woman no send my mom oh. After the interview, the scale fell off her eyes and she realised what she did and sent people to beg my mom but thank GOD my mom's application was approved.

    So you see, your story isn't different, just tread with caution and apology when the need be. It maybe hard but you are doing it for your future and about the time, money and effort you invested into her? See them as SEEDS you sowed to better your life.

    #my apologies for the long epistle#

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    1. Nice, very nice.
      Probably your best comment ever.. Lol

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  80. Hmmm, madam poster you better be careful. Do not put your hands on her. You just said yourself she has all these friends who happens to be your "enemies," so when it it really goes down, it's going to be their words against yours. Obodo oyinbo is not naija, I don't know about Germany but that is going to be a battery charge and it might affect your papers. God has better and bigger plans for you and those women are devils. Be warned, I don talk my own. I've seen it happen a lot of times, even in my own family.

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  81. An adage says "silence is the best answer to a fool" if all those things are not reducing who you are then there is no need to answer her. IGNORE and I mean IGNORE her and those calling you names or giving you insults. She will come looking for you for help someday. The thing is she doesn't know tomorrow.
    What if you beat her and injure her or she dies, she would have succeeded. You don't want to end or mortgage your life because of an ungrateful person they are everywhere.
    Get a place and move out, but whatever you do IGNORE her completely. So what if her years are more than yours, it doenst matter. Only God knows tomorrow.

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  82. Please. Just leave her alone, you don't want to do anything to give you a criminal record if you are planning to renew in future.. She is just jealous, just leave her, insulting her is like a rich man insulting a poor man, you dont need it... Keep your head high and stay in your lane..



    *am out *

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  83. Hello Stella, thers this big gist that happened in \London this past weekend involving Kemi and Nikky and Muyiwa.
    You ve written about the guy before. The gist is like a movie plot. Pls get sm1 on your blog to give u the gist as i am too lazy to write even tho i av the full gist.

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    1. Amebo raise to power 2. U should av just shut ur trap. Did we ask u for gist before?

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  84. What did you do???? you havent said what u did that wud make d girl start going against you. yes u helped her in ur little way. there are some ppls hlp i wouldnt need cos when they do, they tell d world abt helping someone. how come u have so many enemies????? and u claim to b d only good one??? your story is skeletal, you are obviously the bad person. its only logical that if you keep having issues with people then its you that have got an issue! and thats your exact case!! work on yourself. you cant be helping somebody and telling the world abt it. the God that sees in d secret will reward u in the open. what did u do to the girl and ur so called enemies??????? Am out!!

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  85. Better ignore her they might be up to something to deport you be careful

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  86. Silence dey say is golden. Hard as it may be. Ignore that gutter ingrate. If u like go and fight. They will catapult u back to ur country.

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  87. That's Europe for u, all of dem are Ex prostitute so wat do u expect. .... dis poster is pained bcos d other lady is playing with her enemies if u are dat good, u won't have enemies b4 her so STFO face ur work.

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  88. Shame to you all. This is reason thé far rights ré winning élection in Europe. Everything free.

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  89. Don't do anything stupid. Ignore their actions. Put your time and energy into planing your life after leaving where you're now.

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  90. Hmmm she doesn't have 2 do anything oooo ,she sounded like some1 who likes minding her business like me and with dat pple around will start saying u ar felling 2 big . At d same time i know some1 who is going through such ridicule. She is jovial and all both some girls just made it der duty 2 hate her. *Praz*

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  91. My dear, this story too sweet for your mouth. She just started abusing and disrespecting you without any reason abi? Until I hear her own side of the story, no advice from me. We women are full of trouble, jealousy, hatred, gossip, etc. Rose

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  92. Aduro in my Ghanaian language which is twi means ”medicine”. Take heart dear

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  93. Hmmmmmmm!! Silence is golden,,pls becareful,,stop giving dem attention

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  94. PD Young Billionaire3 September 2014 at 18:55

    Ignore those people biko, focus on getting a place.Focus more on your success and surround yourself with good people.Avoid gossips!

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  95. This ur fairy tale story is so annoying. I live in germany too. Abeg i don't understand u ..u have ur paper she has her own paper. U are saying she is telling u she has more years than u. What she can do with ur paper ur can do with urs. Why can't u concentrate on getting an accommodation instead of the idea of losing ur patience and fighting. Abeg concentrate on ur life. The way u are sounding u are the troublesome one. Abeg do something beta with urself.

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  96. Poster, it's funny how you chose to react...This is quite petty of u and I must say you sound quite envious of the fact that she got more years on her visa than u...

    Pls control your mind and leave the girl alone.. u should know better than to do good for reward. ?.

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