Hmmmm,this Narrative leaves me speechless and breathless...WTF is going on?
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE...
THE RIGHT TIME TO WAK AWAY...
Hello Stella I'm so impressed with your blog and want to inform you that ur blog keeps me company apart from my lovely kids, I'll really like you to post my story on your chronicles bcos I'm really loosing it,I want to get real answers from ur blog because this is my life story!
When I read comments on cheating men on your blog I see everyone telling the woman to take a walk out of the marriage and I ask how many marriages are you going to walk out of?
My story goes like this...
I got married to my first hubby and I thought he was the best man ever, after the wedding he showed me his real colours, coming home with condoms and coming back home in the morning, he hardly spent a night at home.
Every day in the marriage was like I was in hell, and mind you Stella, he wasn't cheating when we were dating or maybe he was very smart with it because I always paid him a surprise visit both at home and work and never suspected anything.
Though I could never acess his phone then because it was always locked, I never heard him answer any strange call before marriage because I know your bvs will say I saw the signs before marriage, there was no signs.
He then started sleeping with every random girl, our neighbors' daughters, even wives. He just turned to a dog on heat.
What finally broke the camel's back was when he raped my little cousin I brought to help me at home. After that incident, it was so shameful because she told her mum who is related to my dad and I really had to leave the marriage to avoid suicide and I left with a 1year old baby girl.
I suffered to survive because I was in my final year in the university then, so I finished school and was selling everything sellable for me and my daughter to survive. Then I went for NYSC in another state and left my daughter with my family.
I was looking for a job like air after service. I finally got one very good job and was doing so well when I met this great guy.
He was so loving but we were not staying in the same place, so I visit when I have time and he visits too.
Almost one year after dating, he proposed and I was sooo shocked because I really wanted to be a single mum for life but I couldn't stay a day without talking to him.
I was in love and all through this one year of dating, I snooped ooh. Anytime I visit him, I will check every thing but he was clean so I decided to marry him. We got married, he accepted my daughter as his, takes her every where he goes, Stella my dad even said in the presence of every one on my wedding day that he does not want any divorce again.
This time around, the cheating started from our wedding night. He didnt sleep in our hotel room, I slept alone with excuse of hanging out with friends till almostnoon the next day. Different girls everyday, he is on every social network chatting with different girls, calling them every minute because he's a business man and only comes home to spend like 1 or 2 weeks.
He is always having new phones, shoes, bags and perfumes in his car boot for girls. In fact, he spends his time in clubs or hotels, he never sleeps at home. Even when he decides to stay at home with us, he ends up driving out after receiving a girl's call as usual.
Stella dear, I have prayed, cried, fasted, prayed and even called those girls; begging them to leave my hubby.
It became worse, I've followed him without his knowledge but he still ends up in hotels with them. I've caught him timeless times pants down with these girls even with my house helps but he is always sorry for some hours before he continues again. He is worse than a chronic womanizer.
So I want to ask your bvs that in this my situation what will you advice me to do?
Walk away again like my first marriage? And go to where? My dad has banned me from his house and I stopped working after marriage because I had to relocate to join him.
Anytime I get pregnant and I'm like 4months gone, no sex till 3months after I give birth. I just had my second baby almost 5months ago and he has started reminding me to get ready for another baby because he can't afford to leave me without pregnancy.
If I leave again won't pple think I'm cursed? I've come to believe that all Nigerian men cheat.
I'm just 30yrs old, please bvs help me!
I need to get some meaningful comments because I'm at a crossroad. What do I do now with 3 beautiful children?
He gives me money for housekeeping only and its barely enough and he is very rich ooh. He spends it all on women I'm so confused now! And we all know how difficult it is to get a job in Nigeria now, so what do I do?
He gives me money for housekeeping only and its barely enough and he is very rich ooh. He spends it all on women I'm so confused now! And we all know how difficult it is to get a job in Nigeria now, so what do I do?
Fear no even let me shout ''JESUS FIX IT''
If you walk you have no one,if you stay you run the risk of STD'S,HIV/AIDS and emotional damage!
Why is life and love so complicated.
Your situaion is pathetic ........
Let me read comments first.
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
I knw if I say dis now,bvs will wanna crucify me,swthrt u can't continue to change husband like handbag,now u need jesus seriously,u don't work,let church be ur second home,if u re a Catholic even if u re not,let d blessed sacrament be ur bedroom,give it a try,our God is indeed a faithful God,i remember one chronicle of hope I read here,where d wife chase after d husband who was with a side chick,and d man insulted and made gist of her in public,wat did she do,she went on her knees join sanitation department in church,and d story later turn arud,she was even helping Dh receive calls later,give it a try,visit d blessed sacrament today,it will definitely end in praise .
Delete*****LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*****
Lol na real jesus fix it
ReplyDeleteStella where's Lady Igo?
ReplyDeleteAshton
Jump and pass, the Lord is your muscle. Please check yourself you're probably doing something wrong to attract these types of men.
ReplyDeleteO ga o! Awon okurin ma ka sha.
ReplyDeleteIt will end in praise for you dear.
ReplyDeleteI am confused on ur matter, make I just face my own work. Will just read comments. Dear just go and talk to God.
ReplyDeleteI'm tired of hearing about cheating men. It's always the men that cheats. Too tired I'm speechless.
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This is more than serious
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ReplyDeleteAll this story about cheating is getting me scared o.over to married bvs.
ReplyDeleteNa wa. O!
ReplyDeleteJesus arrest this man by fire by force pls!
Let this lady smile again.
U said u decided to live as a single mum but gave it a 2nd chance my dear.if I were u I be living single in that house with that man I turn a blind eye and just live my life with my daughter he likes he comes home or not not my business u can't live your life for a man.
ReplyDeleteThis is why I don't like reading chronicles I hate sad stories coz life is too short to be miserable and confused.do u have any child for him ?better u have at least one then move on with your life u don't need to walk away coz people would point fingers at u for being in a 2nd failed marriage .
Maybe u didn't study the men well before marrying u didn't even pray for God to reveal things rather u went snooping u think is by your power?
I can't give u the best advice coz what I would do in this situation may not work for u.
*cleans sweat* honestly eh, am tired of giving advices to daily chronicles, yet no one comes back to tell if it was helpful or not..... I'm so reading comments today. *grabs chair*
ReplyDeleteChai!...
ReplyDeleteThis story touched me...
Poster,your mistake was leaving your job...well,you need to start looking for another one or a business so you won't be staying idle and be thinking about his philandering ways....
Go for a deliverance...who knows you might have a spiritual husband...you can do that in my church or any good prophetic church...
Don't divorce him!!...please don't at least for your kids...
Close your Tohtoh...no more sex from him...hope you can endure but if you can't,get your self a boyfriend codedly...
Forget what all the religious entities say. The truth is marriage is not for everybody. Everything in life is not for everybody. You are in a dangerous situation because this guy may be skin-diving some. There are some girls that are so good that using condom to sleep with them is like a waste of time, and thus, skin-diving issaloud, like bad belle.
ReplyDeleteFor the first husband that slept with your relative, that one is suffering from lack of multiple quality pussy distribution. If not, he would not bother going that length.
For the second one, that one is playing a sport.... counting scores.... out of greed though.
It is important you see the need to leave.
Preserve yourself, get a job, enjoy life, have fun sex, eat healthy, travel and so on. Forget the things socialization has placed upon us..... but dont just break any law of any land you find yourself sha.
Marriage, could be worse than being single, if not calibrated properly. But these days if a girl is not married, she will be depressed.
odd world.
Thank you!
DeleteMarriage scares d hell out of me! I just want to make all d money in d world,travel around,have kids and still serve God. I am in a very good relationship right now,he is ready to settle n am 27 now yet I don't feel like doing that.I don't even like SEX!!! Guess my libido is low..hian!!!
DeletePlease, have anyone seen Lady lgo lately.
ReplyDeleteShe is needed right now
You need to pray and fast and break every evil spirit that doesn't want you to be happily married.
ReplyDelete"We do not wrestle against flesh and blood but again principalities and powers, against spiritual wickedness in high places...."
Walk and don't look back..its not going to be easy but walk anyways, relocate to a different place. But b4 u do that make sure u take enough of his money, better still sell anything very expensive in the house and walk...I am singing walk because if u don't na ur dead body them go carry comot.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I rily feel sorrey for u. Do u know wot u'll do? Try as much as possible to video his act with these ladies. I don't know hw u'll do it o but if u can, do it. And also get other proof. Wen u arr done with gatheering proof, take them to your parents and narrate everytin u av bin thru to them. Also show rhem d proof. They are your blood so dey shuld be on your side. U av to leave that marriage. It's toxic.
ReplyDeleteFor once, I'm speechless - I wish I knew how you could handle it
ReplyDeleteIt's simple, change ur prayer point to ''Lord May he go broke'' that's just the first. When he does,pls come back let's discuss the next prayer point.But my question,which kain curse be this sef?Mschew, u know y ppl keep saying leave? Cos they've never been faced with ur situation.Ok, if u leave nw u intend carrying 3 kids to give to which new man naa? Like Linda Eze will say get urself a bf but my hand no dey there.As u have cried, fasted and prayed just stop crying, save up whatever u can from the upkeep money and keep to urself.Make urself smile like ur life depends on it.Its not easy darling, don't focus only on ur kids focus on ur happiness.Goodluck princessa
ReplyDeleteYour husband is a dog.
ReplyDeleteAs a married man, I believe one side chick per time.
I don't feel sorry for women, when I was in university they were sleeping with yahoo boys and married men who had money. My dick was dry in university. In short Vaseline was my girlfriend.
Now that I have money, shouldn't I enjoy what I missed. Or only girls are meant to come to this life and enjoy?
Stupid married women always complaining about infidelity, you can't see American and UK babes opening kitty for their mates to enjoy. So that sex tire them and they marry and stay focused after taking fuckology as course in uni. But naija guys dey suffer as una no dey free or gree. Pls let me fuck when I want oooooo.
If you want divorce abeg na ya luck
Hi, soo sorry about your predicamentssss... ill advice you stay in the marriage,but for everytime he wants sex with you,use protection or tell him to run a test to ascertain he isnt carrying any disease, if he says no, tell him no sex since you both know he isnt faithful... secondly find yourself a lover abeg, if he can do it so can you but be careful not to get caught ooo (some might say it isnt decent for a lady to cheat but is it decent for a guy to be a womanizer?)..someone to take your mind off things...finally look for a job,im sure youll find something if you look hard.all the best
ReplyDeletePoster, you said they are always clean when dating you but change immediately they get married to you from day one. Are you sure you are not the problem? Have you gone for deliverance? Many people might say it's nothing spiritual but I think it is. Try and be delivered from evil spirits following you.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I do not have a single word of advice as I am not married, but if you choose to leave him, don't stay back because of what people or your dad might say. Your happiness and sanity and the safety of your children should be your priority. I wish you well.
ReplyDeleteI tell everyone that cares to listen, to avoid stories that touch like this seek the face of God personally and hear from him.even if it means fasting for years it's worth it.the next thing after hell fire is a bad marriage. God help u oh......daz all
ReplyDeleteMy advice for you my dear is to pray more. Abeg look for the nearest MFM church near you and go for deliverance. There is more to this situation. Why do you always fall into the hands of such men? and from what you said they are usually not like that before you marry them. Pls do some spiritual checks on your family too. Do other female in your family experience church? God will see you through. I pray you don't get infected with deadly diseases before help comes your way.
ReplyDeleteBrb lemmi finish parking........
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Brb lemmi finish parking.
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Hawtbrowny
sis the only solution for you now is to walk out of the marriage (bitter truth)cos as it is now you can't change the man at all
ReplyDelete#GODWIN™
Na wa ooooo. Stella are you sure these tales are not made up?? People are going through sh*t.
ReplyDeleteMadam if you love yourself and your kids better go for family planning cos that man will just ruin u. He will make you his baby making machine, old and miserable while he has enough time to chase other women.
My advice is you start planning your future now, get a job or some sort of business so you dont have to move back home with ur parents.
Also never leave your 1st daughter alone with him to avoid stories that touch.
The aim of walking away isn't to jump into another marriage in desperation to show people you can stay married, the aim if walking away is to get self respect and build your esteem. You mustn't be with a man to be complete
ReplyDeleteWe are sorry..... well Incase u divorce him, try to get a job and date a broke Man instead, the type that will depend on u a little atleast he won't have the money to afford hotel bills wch means he will def sleep at home everyday Better yea?
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I know this is difficult, but it works, ignore him, dont fight him, manage whatever he gives you for upkeep, intensify in your job search and focus on your children. All men cheat. Abi u wan die untimely death? If you need to talk to somebody. please email todiedi@gmail.com.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oooooooo!!!!
ReplyDeleteJesus help your children!! Father help your daughters....Lord give us women of worth hope!
Why is everyday a chronicle of pigs disguised as husbands??! Why take vows if you know you're going to disregard them and break them?
Why put someone's daughter through hell all in the name of marriage?
Dear poster I don't know what to advice you but the most important thing is, STOP OPENING YOUR LEGS to him before he infects you with AIDS. I'm very sure he doesn't even use condom with all those women so be very very careful!! Take contraceptives and ask him to wear condom if you must sleep with him!
Look for a job and live like roommates... Don't even think about begging him or crying! Nonsense!!!!! I don't even know if Jesus can fix this because your husband sounds like a possessed animal!
God Hates divorce but he has infidelity even more! I wish you were in the UK because you'd be able to live him very quick.. The government would look after you and he would have to pay child support.
Don't loll yourself because of marriage please
Hmnnn.this is sooo sad madam.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, and as many people wil say to u today (guessing), you need prayers and I mean fast.if all you say about your men being clean and then sudden changes is true, then there is a negative force behind your life o.ask your parents to think hard o or yourself too, hope you havent offended anyone while growing up....
He said he cant leave you without pregnancy??
Is there no other way you can be saving from his richness.
I dont even know what to advice you again.but if its me o.my option will be that I will stay, wont allow sexual intercourse without condom, try means of siphoning money from him, and most of all, dust my certificate and start looking for job.if he says he must have sex wt me to get pregnant,or I shld leave, I will.i will go to my fathers house and let me see if he will chase me out. He probably said those word to make you work on your marriage but dear if u stay and get HIV or die of depression, its your parent that will suffer. He will keep fu**ing all those girls even on ur burial (God forbid)
All in all, walk away.i hope a kind hearted person here wl be able to help you secure a job to start saving for yourself and kids
*kill
ReplyDeleteJesu!!!!! I just tire. Why d men cheat? I hate infidelity wt passion.
ReplyDeleteWell, poster I'd advice you to walk away with your kids,try and look for a place to stay, start looking for a job and try to rebuild your life..
ReplyDeleteThen you need to seek the face of God,look back on your past to see if you once dated a married man, cos your situation sounds so bad..sounds like karma for something..
Yes men do cheat,but some do that and still live up to their financial and marital responsibilities.
You have tasted marriage twice..in my opinion, if you do walk out, I don't think you need to get married again..
Its just a piece of paper afterall..
Rebuild your life,look for an elderly man in his late 40's to date,maybe a widower or divorcee..you've tried the young single men, maybe you should try something else.
You can have a long-term and healthy relationship with a man without getting married to him. You already have 3kids..
You either stay and put up with your hubby's philandering ways, or take a walk.
Jesu!!!!! I just tire. Why d men cheat? I hate infidelity wt passion.
ReplyDeleteI got soo emotional reading ur chronicle... my dear it is well with u. Firstly i will advice u to start looking for job else try n get money from him no matter how and start a business. Bcos its either u get to leave him sooner or later else u wil just end up getting disease frm him and he will just ruin ur future .ure still young and have 3beautiful kids to live for. It is well wit u.99% of Nigerian men cheat but dis ur so called husband's own is too much.
ReplyDeleteWaoo.. nawaoo. what i will advice is just have a heart to heart talk with him.. also call a family meeting on him.. if all these prooves abortive.. just then u take legal actions since u are married legally.. give him ur conditions as per taking care of u and all that..so u wont lack anythg... then leave ur own life too.. u are not old.. go out n meet people that will appreciate u wella..
ReplyDeleteI'm just tired of ladies getting married to unbelievers and will come bk crying about their attitude. A person who doesn't hv d fear of God is capable of ANYTHING. U want some peace in ur marriage, know God! Marry a man who knows God.
DeleteMy dear, there must be something wrong somewhere. you need to go for deliverance and look within you. is there anything about you that your hubbies find repulsive. look within and the solution will come. I have often heard that spiritual husbands can cause such problems and that is why I suggest deliverance. Goodluck and thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteBabe your village people have hand inside this one o
ReplyDeleteChoi......woman! You should have remained single when your instinct told you to remain single for life......my sister,life is too precious and sweet!
ReplyDeleteCan't ask you to quit dat marriage again,not just again!!!! Dis is your trying times and you just have yo be soooo strong!!
What you will do is this,,remove every bit of affection you have for him,from your heart and place,Dem on your kids,look for a job please....i detest jobless women.....you nid to see the way i romance my Job like my life depends on it!! Sometimes Na my husband go come dey,para sef dat am not giving him enough time!!!
If you had known,you would have just gotten,preg for one,baba alaye Wey you no go marry o,but he go throw like 20million put for your account first to dey manage!!
This goes to show that marriage is not for everyone!!!
Sad, really sad!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, one question, If you contact any disease and you die, please who will take care of your children? We need to start making decisions not just for ourselves!! It is really sad but my dear, if you cannot take the heart break, take a walk!! As to getting pregnant again, just go and tie your tubes secretly! Another child must not enter this kain home!!
If your dad warns you not to come home, please send them a suicide note and ask them to sign it!! They would rather you die in a stupid guy's house than bear the shame that your marriage is dead...Some parents are really the cause of their children's unhappiness!!!
Come to think, it might be a spiritual attack on your hubbies as you said they hardly did this while you guys were dating..Mind bugging also that a groom will leave his new bride to go party with friends on their wedding night!!
Game plan
Get a fictitious story that you can use to get money from all of them..Your hubby, dad, and maybe friends you can tell the truth and get a place of your own...Start something and trust God completely!!. I can't even say pray for him cos to pray for someone who constantly hurt you is hard..Pray for your happiness and that of your children..Your father will come around in the long run.. Parents always do..
I have seen widows raise their children with close to nothing and the children become people to reckon it..
It is well my dear!!
Meanwhile, Irene, you be cray person! lol... your comment on somersaulting to the Ben Bruce post really got me laughing..hehehehe... I had to go check the gist..
Will I call this tough luck or what? This is a really hard one. The only thing I will say is that God will minister to you and teach you the right steps to take. My love and prayers are with you.
ReplyDeleteYou need deliverance cos something in you is chasing these men away from you
ReplyDeleteI think something is wrong. Witches have entered molue bus to follow u from your village Walahi!
ReplyDeleteFrom your story...you meet them nice and good but immediately after the wedding the chronic cheating starts.
Men cheat but yours are worse than dogs!!
It might be spiritual...strong one! I pray you find solutions
This is so pathetic . pleases poster for the sake of your cute kids, please stay thier for some time. learn to collect more money from your husband pls. you need to save
ReplyDeletePoster i want you to know that there is nothing God can not Fix... You have your kids. Love them and love God more and see the difference.. And also watch your tongue. Nag more to God and you will get the desired solution...
ReplyDeleteMy Dear,First things first, get a good job. I believe you can again.
ReplyDeleteWhen you become financially independent, ask yourself this question 'What do I want'? I'm sure you already know the risks you run though.
May God help.
Pls poster i beg u to leave cuz even d bible says d only two. Acceptable reasons for divorce is
ReplyDelete1. If ur mate cheats on u
2.if ur mate dies
Ur dad said u shud not cum back home so no mata wat u shud endure... Plz wat u shud do now is to start saving... Tell him u want to do business.. Maybe from dere u can b saving small small.... And plz b4 having sex with him he shud do all d necessary test ohh.... For ur own safety....
Dis just reminded me of one woman i did hiv test for... Wen she found out she was positive. She started crying and cursing her hubi dat he is d one dat gave it to her.. .. D one dat even made me sad more was wen she brought her one month old baby to test we found out dat he was positive too..... I dont wish dis kind of experience 4 anhbody... Leave dat marriage
Why would your dad ban you from his house? Family is where we should find refuge. No matter how long we grope in the dark, our family should be a beacon.
ReplyDeleteI don't like divorce but you need to leave, either you're not cut out for marriage or you keep meeting the wrong men.
Can't your family at least raise money for you to find something doing.
People are different sha, some people's bulls..t metre is really long. Can't deal.
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeleteLemme sit and read comments...
This z a typical case of from frying pan to fire..
What a complicated ish dis is...
Fix it Jesus!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
hmmm, am just speechless after reading this my dear, plssss go for deliverance. pray more. Jesus will fix it
ReplyDeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeleteLemme sit and read comments...
This z a typical case of from frying pan to fire..
What a complicated ish dis is...
Fix it Jesus!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Complicated story
ReplyDeleteOhhh my GOD do not allow my hubby to change for a day.
Amen
God will fix ur marriage IJN. Amen
Lawa oooo! Are some people destined to marry a cheat ? Jesus pls fix it,cos I'dnt know what to say, u need to commit ur marriage to God hmmmm
ReplyDeleteHmm am at the moment without thought. May God help you decide that all I can say for now
ReplyDeleteHow do these he-goats select you?? Do u use any perfume that begins with G??? Givenchy or Giovanni or Gucci?? Change it pls.. Or more importantly wat makes them change after the wedding?
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteYou no just well
Madam i feel for you ooo. Both husbands have same characteristics!
ReplyDeleteBiko let me read comments.
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The more reason ladies shouldn't give up their jobs just in a bid to be called Mrs. If i may ask,y den did u go to d university in d 1st place? U wouldav just saved ur parents d stress and money,since u know u weren't gona be working. My dear u are better off stranded than 2b in ds THING u call marriage.u left ur 1st marriage and so what???,wld ur dad have preferred u become a laughing stock dan leaving d marriage,im sorry 2say this but ur dad sure needs to get his head examined. Frankly speaking,i dnt blame men dt treat their wives as scum cos u clearly know he's cheating on u and yet instead of u 2ignore him since u ain't ready to walk away,u still end up having sex wv him and getting pregnant!!! Most wives are just plain silly and shallow. Poster it's better u leave wv ur sanity intact dan to stay in dt sham u call a marriage,r u waiting for wen u contract a disease or prolly wen he molest any of ur kids b4 ud leave. If u can't leave den hence forth start ignoring him,no sex i repeat no sex nor pregnancy,4all u know,he might still be treating u like trash cos he knows u ain't got a mind of ur own. Maybe wen he sees ur really serious and not cut out 4his bullshit,he might indeed change cos wen a woman starts ignoring her hubby,he gets scared and start thinking she's prolly riding another's man D and that kinda thing messes dem up cos no man except a dog wld bear d thought of his wife wv another. Talk 2ur parent and his,tell dem what is going on...women always acting like slaves and making excuses 4dia hubby,abeg i can't deal
ReplyDeleteBtw poster better don't get pregnant again.
DeleteOne question... Did u have an affair with any married man before you got married?
ReplyDeleteLoool. Good question.. Could be karma. Especially if she hasn't asked God for forgiveness
DeleteDon't know what to say. How could the cheating have started on your wedding night? Some men just don't have a conscience. Madam, you need to ask for more money. Increase your demands so he won't have extra to spend outside. Put the kids in very expensive schools so that will take a huge chunk out of what he spends on those hoes out there. To all those hoes calling married men when you know fully well he is at home, may it be so with you IF you ever get married.
ReplyDeleteMadam, tell your Dad what he's doing and after you get a job and able to fend for you and your kids, leave this man before he gives you HIV. AIDS is real. Some women just have bad luck when it comes to men sha.
But truly it is only JESUS dat can fix dis situation.
ReplyDeleteCandid advice though you don't have to take it sha o! But na wetin me I for do. Plan well as u said he's very rich, either u scam him or u steal the money, and start planning your relocation far away from him. What u need is accomodation money, and upkeep for a few months, during which u will hustle for work and take care of your kids.
ReplyDeleteStill walk away, I think you fall for a particular spec of guys that's it keeps happening. you should have left your job for any reason too.
ReplyDeleteThis could be spiritual, like someone has vowed she won't enjoy marriage. She should pray and praise. Jesus gat 2 fix this.
ReplyDeleteJesus is Lord.
Your story is so Pathetic and emotional..
ReplyDeleteMen! Men!! Men!!!
Jesus Christ fix it
At this juncture, am not looking forward to marriage.
U made a terrible mistake, y did u not tell him to establish u before marriage considering the fact that you left ur Job becos of him, for
ReplyDeleteHeavens' sake he is rich, steal he's money if u ve to, ur first marriage should have tot u a lesson never to trust any man, u resigned from ur work to be a full blown house wife, u are not wise at all, as it is now u don't ve a choice but to endure what ever shit he gives u I hope u will not make this kind of mistake in ur third marriage.
For starters,please can someone get this lady a job?
ReplyDeleteIf you eventually get a job,don't give him the slightest clue!!!
you are so walking away because it can only get worse if you get pregnant again!
...and I pray you get a job you can do without having to stress yourself much to give him a clue.
Be on any contraceptive you can think of and not get pregnant till you gather enough money from your job and run away so far from him...take your CHILDREN!!! Plan well,on one of his traveling..run oo
Go to somewhere like Badagry if you are in Lagos..
Plan well within a year...you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you!
It won't be easy,but it'll be worth it.
My momma walked away in her first marriage and this wonderful woman never remarried! With two girls.
All I said above were more like the things she did. It's been over 10years now...tho dad is playing his role now.
His case wasn't about cheating but sometimes else.
You can do this,trust God!
You are attracted to really good bad boys, pretty men...
ReplyDeleteLook for a spiritual church and attend... things will change.
ReplyDeletejust has stella said,God pls fix it.........
ReplyDeleteCheeiii! Ekwelibrum. Madam I just weak, I tire sef because with all this chronicles wey I don read, na to marry Oyibo na him sure pass! Chimo!...My advice to u dear, pls listen attentively, let ur husband set up a business for u, even if he tells u he doesn't want u working, madam sweet talk, let him no u wanna be busy, u don't wanna be idle so two of u can work in peace and live a busy life, say it in a way he will think freedom to have unlimited fun, when I say business, open a good business that's profitable, that brings immediate income ( go into latest uk dresses, make up, spa all in 1 shop,mini gym for girls, loosing tummy et all, quality stuffs.. girls will find u and patronize u as long as ur price are reasonable and ur goods and services are quality or better still a mini eatery in a business place..after u have secured that, collect money nd save, dats emergency money, after all dis is secured. Divorced the Bastard, don't listen to what anybody will say, divorce his ass and find urself a matured boyfriend who doesn't want marriage by d side so u won't be lonely, ur children will survive without a Bastard as a father so keep calm..them born u to come suffer for this life? As if to they husband house na do or die affair abegi!
ReplyDeleteMy dear,i feel your pain walahi. Why are men allowed to cheat in their marriages? Why can't a wife cheat also to spite the cheating horseband? Nobody should say two wrongs don't make a right abeg. Why can't a man's dick reduce an inch every time he cheats? Why do they always say it's a man's world? Therefore he can do all sorts. My dear poster,if you leave that marriage today nobody will say you are cursed...I know how hard it is but forget your horseband for now and focus on your beautiful babies,also dust your certificate and start looking for a job...there's nothing like being independent,when you have enough money move out with your babies without his knowledge of course trust me you'll be just fine.... But if you choose to stay with him,get ready for the STI's STDS hepatitis or even hiv.,,the emotional torture and he might become violent. My dear,focus on your babies and get busy asap. My 2cents.
ReplyDeleteOluwa fix it
ReplyDeleteJesus fix it.
ReplyDeleteNegodu
***mynameisskelewu
I will just say a prayer for you.
ReplyDeleteNot all men cheat!
Not all men.
There is nothing without solution, except death. Yes some people might say maybe you have been jinxed or something, but you better be one happy and healthy jinxed single mother, than a mentally tortured depressed "married?" woman. Our tradition, culture, and what people would say, affects us greatly, hold on to having any other child now, look for a job or something that will keep you occupied, mentally and physically. You either live as room mates, you keep on hoping and praying that things would be better, or you take a walk. Your safety and that of your kids should be paramount.
DeleteI honestly don't support dis men, but has anyone asked dis pple sending dis chronicles what they are not doing right? And ur first husband that raped d Lil girl, he will meet his doom one day.... Most of this things we read is more than what we imagine.... Plz if that marriage isn't helping ur life nne swerve away from it as fast as u can while u r still alive before u get to depression and that's disastrous... forget what pple will say after all u r d one wearing d shoe and know where it pains.
ReplyDeletehmmmm*putshandsonmyhead this one na real gobe oh,tough one mehhnn...God help you
ReplyDeleteMadam you keep giving birth in this your condition? If you walk away will you die? If u become a single mom will u die? U better go and beg yout father to accommodate u and yo kids while u look for a job. Even if u liv him u can stl take him to court so that he can cater for his children.
ReplyDeleteI join you Stella to shout in FEAR
ReplyDeleteJESUS FIX IT
The repairer of every damaged ...isshhh
My dear, sorry about this. My advice is that you keep praying. Sometimes answers to prayers doesn't come as quickly as we expect. God might be teaching you patience.while you are at that, look for a job and get yourself busy. Build a career or business for yourself. Focus on that and the kids. That will help take ur mind at least to a large extent away from ur husband indecent behavior. Make your self beautiful not for him but for ur self. You owe it tonurself to be happy. By the time he sees u no longer worry ur self abt him, he will start seeking for ur attention. Also while u are doing this, be loving to him as much as u can. I won't advice u to leave the second time. People will begin to think its you who has a problem. So stay there and make it work. At least give it a try. God help you
ReplyDeleteDon't even know what to say. Your family ain't ready to stand by you if you leave, staying is also a big risk cos of all sorts of diseases. My dear, settle this on your knees in prayer to God. I know you've been praying but this time be fervent about it and include fasting. There are worse cases than yours that JESUS has fixed. Let me tell you a testimony of a woman who came to "Discovery for Women" by the late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya of blessed memories. She said for 21 years, her husband has been sleeping with everything in skirts or pants including her house helps, she decided to lay them off so she could stop his philandering ways but for where? It grew worse. Since there was no maid to sleep with, he started sleeping with his own daughters (teenagers). He'll sneak out of their (his n his wife) room to his daughters' room and when his wife found out, she stopped sleeping in her husband's room and started sleep in her children's room. Anytime the man comes at night to sleep with them, he'll find their mum there and will just turn back. While all these was happening, she said she cried to God in prayers especially at night and God heard her. One day, the man came back to his senses and asked for forgiveness which he hasn't done for years. So there is nothing impossible with God.
ReplyDeleteTry and also get a job or persuade him to open a business for you since he's rich so you can fend for your kids. Prayer is the KEY....Sorry for the epistle Stella.
My dear u don't have to run away . I will advice dat u go for deliverance maybe there are hidden issues around u dat u can't see but don't stop praying he will answer you stay bless
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to say. I'm 34 and just walked out of my 5th marriage. I had a baby for someone when I was 19. We never got married. When I met a guy and he proposed, I was so ecstatic and thought I was the envy of all my friends. I didn't really love him to be candid. But I thought I was lucky and blessed as a single mother to be getting married. I took in immediately and it dawned on me fully that I didn't even like the guy. In fact, it was like he used jazz sef on me. Lol. I had another child and left the guy. I met my 2nd hubby. That one was a dog. Tho maybe I turned him into a dog because I was still flirting with my first baby daddy. He found out and changed. I was pregnant for my 3rd baby and left. 3 kids now, 2 ex husbands.. enter hubby 3, my dad had since stopped talking to me even. But my mum was supportive. I didn't tell him I had 3 kids by 3 different men tho. Told him it was from one man. Hour was a divorcee. We got married and he found out later and kicked me out. No pregnancy tho. Hubby 4 was a chronic womaniser. I couldn't deal tho had another baby with him. Left even before I gave birth. A mutual friend of ours took me and my kids in then and married me traditionally. He started womanising again and I walked out pregnant with twins. For my own peace of mind. Not before he gave me an std tho. Yes people talk and some call me and my kids von trapp family . But for year own peace of mind walk away. Let them laugh.
ReplyDeleteMadam close your legs. Hian
DeleteI'm very short of words for you. But I seriously pity your children. You really have time to beg God for children but you forget to ask for husband.
Delete*Larry was here*
And u just kept having kids? I don't know how some people reason. Ordiegwu
DeleteI think u have a serious problem @ 34? Smh for u
DeleteOP you see
DeleteRead and be encouraged, even this Anon, is not even the worst case scenario, this Anon 15:45, fit still read another story which will still give a moral.....bottom line, shit happens.
My brethren in the Lord who like to say what God has joined together,let no one put asunder. True but IT IS NOT IN ALL CASES THAT THE LORD JOINED TOGETHER. SOMETIMES, IT IS THE DEVIL THAT JOINED TOGETHER
ReplyDeleteMY dear poster after reading ur story I can say that u are operated under a marital curse because the men suddenly change immediately after they wed u. My only candid advice is seek out an MFM church or go to the prayer city for deliverance. God will see u through, and please don't walk out just yet till u find a proper solution and please stop having sex with him for now so u don't contract any stds and don't have any more children for now with him or run into the arms of another man, make u no go dey born born for different men up n down if you don't nip this problem in the bud. It is well
ReplyDeleteMY dear poster after reading ur story I can say that u are operated under a marital curse because the men suddenly change immediately after they wed u. My only candid advice is seek out an MFM church or go to the prayer city for deliverance. God will see u through, and please don't walk out just yet till u find a proper solution and please stop having sex with him for now so u don't contract any stds and don't have any more children for now with him or run into the arms of another man, make u no go dey born born for different men up n down if you don't nip this problem in the bud. It is well
ReplyDeleteI wish you had signed a prenup before you got married,at least you'l know that if you get a divorce,you wont be left with nothing.its difficult to stay with a man like this,your health is at risk and if anything happens to you,your kids get to suffer it.if its possible to sneak out enough money to learn a skill or start a business..you know,so that you'l have something to hold on to when you finally leave him.dont let your dad's words decide your actions for you,he doesnt understand half of what you're going through..whichever decision you take,be fast about it and be strong for your kids.
ReplyDeleteBabe dis is really difficult o.if he is nt hitting u,take ur time and organize yourself well on wat u want to do.if u av to leave b sure to know exactly hw to takin of urself and d kids and u'll stay,stick to takin care of ur kids and kip searching for a job.as for d sex angle,my dear try avoid it or better still get families involved.let dem hear u nw and nt crucify u when u decide to leave.alwaz pray also.God will lead u better.
ReplyDeletemadam this situation is really a pathetic one but first thing first is putting God first in all you do cos hes the author and finisher of our fate. i will advice you get a job or business which will give an edge in the marriage and also in the society,And this is where the help of a mentor is really important if you there's it better.you need to see a counselor or your pastor or imam. will advice you watch this movie dou it an old one but i believe it will help in your situation (MR & MRS) my dear sister your life should be your priority.May Divine help from God locate your marriage.
ReplyDeletehave you reported this issue to God?
ReplyDeletecheck yourself well to know what roll you have kept from playing as a married woman. its not easy to cheat hence i disbelieve that all nigerian men are cheats.
i always say that "divorce is not always the best solution".
have you reported this issue to God?
ReplyDeletecheck yourself well to know what roll you have kept from playing as a married woman. its not easy to cheat hence i disbelieve that all nigerian men are cheats.
i always say that "divorce is not always the best solution".
That is what happens when u remarry after your first. It is better to look for someone to spend time with than to get married again. Most men around are not worth it. Just hang on a little longer
ReplyDeletePoster on a second thought e be like say na spirit husband (oko orun) dey deal wiv u.
ReplyDeleteyou are a strong woman for giving love another chance but its sad how it has turned out. I pray God gives you the grace to get through this. Prayers works darling and i will b praying for you.#. you do also need to protect yourself from std's though. try to work on getting a job or do some business so u can plan your next line of action. Pele
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm,am short of words..The lord is your strenght.I dnt even understand marriage again,as if its not the same marriage am also in,My advice,since you dnt have a job,just stay put becos of the kids and before people start counting husband for you oo ,but do not have sex with the man to avoid HIV and other diseases and please be prayerful.
ReplyDeleteI remember someone making a comment on this blog about tying men like this down. Madam, this looks like your only solution. Don't quote me oh, and I don't know how effective it is.
ReplyDeleteAre you a good wife, do you nag, what about your hygiene, and are you a good housewife? Please pay attention to these little things. Good luck.
This is why I detest divorce. Telling women to leave their husbands to start searching all over again is fruitless, hence I hardly give that advice. I'd rather you separate from him to see if he can becom remorseful and that's in cases of domestic violence and chronic cheating when the woman can bear it no longer. I don't support divorce bc you're not guaranteed a perfect man in ur next marriage, the bible condemns it except on grounds of adultery and on the condition that a divorcee must not remarry until the living partner dies. Now, how many women can actually live without a man and sex starting may be from their 30's to about 50 yrs of age...u might even find urself praying for the man to die.
ReplyDeleteAt the risk of sounding insensitive, I must say that you women get so hurt when your spouses cheat bc you expect so much from marriage and bc ur lives revolve around a man. Relocating to join ur man shouldn't translate to idleness. Get a job, no matter how little it pays and keep urself busy. While at it, get to know God. Stop letting him know that he's hurting u. Stop complaining. Look good for urself. Get a separate bedroom and never sleep with him unprotected, if u must. Men like to bask in the attention of broken and emotional women. When a man sees that you're emotionally strong, he wil hardly ever mess with u. You can take this to the bank
Enough of this fix it Jesus jare...
ReplyDeleteAm short of words ..seriously..
Are u sure someone or something is not working against your marriage??..u sound very unlucky
Mehn..guys that are too clean are the chronic cheats..they wipe everything out of their phones..lol..even normal messages that mtn sends..Nawa o
I dunno what to say..if I say run now..it will be your second marriage that hit the rock..if I say stay now..u wil turn to an emotional wreck..
Who will come down and fix this one eh???
Stop having sex and babies with him biko and get a bf..chai
The exact question that came to my mind o! R u sure the problem is nt from u or someone dat dosent want ur progress? But if u ask me, I think u shld forget about men and raise your 3 children properly.. try to get a job too so if he stops taking responsibility it dosent affect u much. Some women are not even up to your age and they are widows already taking care of their children without help from any man.
DeletePlease my dear, try to read matt 5 : 31 -32 (MSG translation) don't divorce him! Whatever happens be yourself nd raise your children properly...
He can leave you without pregnancy,are you a dog that wil hv children evry year??madam pls wake up,3children is enough na,haba!if anytin happns wht wil becom of u nd ur kids?use ur brain naa,thats why you have one.
ReplyDeleteMy opinion,stop bearing kids like pig,close ur pussy and concentrate in takin care of ur kids,keep prayin for him,he wil one day com bck to his senses and change.if u leave,same thing wil happen.but pls madam close ur tastus.
Awwww i am just hearbroken at ur poor plight.
ReplyDeleteCHAI....
M just speechless.
Its well my dear.Its well nne m.inugo?
Right dis Very minute,i pray God helps u and restores to u Joy,peace n happiness.
But Let me remind u dat once we start thinking too much of wot people will think about us,esp Wen we take good decisions aimed at positively helping our lives,den our Happiness wil be compromised. We wil be lost.
If dis man,God forbids,gives u HIV now,wot wil ur Dad say? Would hé rather à divorced,happy and fulfilled daughter or A married Dead one??
Ask him dis pertinent question....
A cheating hubby is bad enough.Buh d one who Cheats on His wife indiscriminately and without respect and any iota of decency is a Sick Wicked Man!
Sending u loads of warm hugs my Darling sister and hoping that God fixes dis for u.
Take care of u and d little Ones Sweetheart.
AnD remember:
This Too Shall Pass!
wow........pple are going through things ooooo. pls close your legs oooooo, make he no give u STDs oooooooo.
ReplyDeletewow........pple are going through things ooooo. pls close your legs oooooo, make he no give u STDs oooooooo.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I suggest u start looking for a job no matter how small. Where are u based. Pls stop sleeping with him or u buy a female condom. Don't worry urself Karma will catch up on him. So it means ur dad supports ur husband cheating on u or he likes to see u suffering emotionally or otherwise.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm….So you did no wrong both in your first and this second marriage?…Hmmm..
ReplyDeleteVry pathetic.
ReplyDeleteMadame sorry about your condition. Please as soon as possible start down family planing so u can space your kids and have rest. U can't be fasting and praying over man then be pulling 3 kids at the same time, u will just start looking10 times older than yourself! And please try and package yourself well, don't start all this mama behaviour! Men sha!
ReplyDeleteHaba where r d comments nah! Abi I no refresh dis page wella.
ReplyDeleteAnyway poster if u can bear HIV and others plus step children frm diff baby mama then by all means stay. But if on the other hand u gather sense then take dis steps
1. Start saving money frm d house upkeep money no matter how small
2. Stop complaining or confronting him. Thank God he is hardly at home so utilise dat absence.
3. From d money u saved, learn a trade. Anything in d fashion world sells; be it makeup, sowing, bead making, hair and nail fixing just anything we females need. Every lady wants to look pretty. Or, u can go towards small chops, chin-chin, pop-corn, etc.
4. Anything u decide, make sure it isn't capital intensive
5. When u r ready, meet ur MUM. She will direct u. Lay d cards on the table for her. Tell her how far u have come n how far u r willing to go. Work on her n make sure u ave her on ur side b4 u approch ur dad. Cuz he will be paying for ur rent he just doesn't know it now.
6. Don't give up on looking for a job. Start again. Infact start NOW!!!
7. Bear in mind this plan is a long term plan. Who knows b4 u r ready to leave, ur hubby might have changed.
8. Prayerfully keep blessing him and binding all d evil people manipulating ur marriage.
Above all nnem don't mind want people will say. Its better u survive 2 broken marriages than to die in one. Live for ur kids, raise dem well n they will surly wipe ur tears. Involve God my dear. He knows abt u. Remember d case of dat lagos banker whom her hubby murdered. Its a good tin yours isn't physically abusing u.
It will only get better. After d rain u will surly see d sun. Get busy n see how go u will start feeling.
No matter what u chose God be with u.
You are not going to walk away from that marriage because:
ReplyDeleteYou are jobless
You have tied your life around your husband
You have no self esteem
Your father has said no more divorce
Society will brand you irresponsible
You will be advised to keep praying and fasting
You are his baby making machine
Your heart is ugly with no self love
You love to cry and fast for a dog
You want to be told to keep f**king with condoms.
I say no to slavery
I have being delivered by Jesus, I refuse to allow myself to be a captive of unhappiness.
I stand for empowered women.
I stand for a positive society, that understandsunderstands people's plight and not judge.
My advice:
Stop praying for him.
Pray together with him.
Strategize your exit.
You cannot tell me you don't have a kobo to your name.
Get an apartment.
Move out with your kids
No matter how much he begs, walk away, he has visitation rights and should pay child support.
It is not easy, but it can be done.
You have your kids to focus on.
If you can't move out, start living like flatmates, because your marriage is dead to me.
No sex, with him, get a dildo if u no fit hold body.
When you get a job, you can move out.
Do not go through his phone, think of him as dead.
It can be done but it won't be done, because you are the weakling I described above. PROVE me wrong
You are not going to walk away from that marriage because:
ReplyDeleteYou are jobless
You have tied your life around your husband
You have no self esteem
Your father has said no more divorce
Society will brand you irresponsible
You will be advised to keep praying and fasting
You are his baby making machine
Your heart is ugly with no self love
You love to cry and fast for a dog
You want to be told to keep f**king with condoms.
I say no to slavery
I have being delivered by Jesus, I refuse to allow myself to be a captive of unhappiness.
I stand for empowered women.
I stand for a positive society, that understandsunderstands people's plight and not judge.
My advice:
Stop praying for him.
Pray together with him.
Strategize your exit.
You cannot tell me you don't have a kobo to your name.
Get an apartment.
Move out with your kids
No matter how much he begs, walk away, he has visitation rights and should pay child support.
It is not easy, but it can be done.
You have your kids to focus on.
If you can't move out, start living like flatmates, because your marriage is dead to me.
No sex, with him, get a dildo if u no fit hold body.
When you get a job, you can move out.
Do not go through his phone, think of him as dead.
It can be done but it won't be done, because you are the weakling I described above. PROVE me wrong
You are not going to walk away from that marriage because:
ReplyDeleteYou are jobless
You have tied your life around your husband
You have no self esteem
Your father has said no more divorce
Society will brand you irresponsible
You will be advised to keep praying and fasting
You are his baby making machine
Your heart is ugly with no self love
You love to cry and fast for a dog
You want to be told to keep f**king with condoms.
I say no to slavery
I have being delivered by Jesus, I refuse to allow myself to be a captive of unhappiness.
I stand for empowered women.
I stand for a positive society, that understandsunderstands people's plight and not judge.
My advice:
Stop praying for him.
Pray together with him.
Strategize your exit.
You cannot tell me you don't have a kobo to your name.
Get an apartment.
Move out with your kids
No matter how much he begs, walk away, he has visitation rights and should pay child support.
It is not easy, but it can be done.
You have your kids to focus on.
If you can't move out, start living like flatmates, because your marriage is dead to me.
No sex, with him, get a dildo if u no fit hold body.
When you get a job, you can move out.
Do not go through his phone, think of him as dead.
It can be done but it won't be done, because you are the weakling I described above. PROVE me wrong
This right here is beyond me in all ramifications. God help women
ReplyDeleteHmmm. Na wa. Which parents brought up all these men?
ReplyDeleteHe told you to get ready for another pregnancy when u have a 5 month old baby cos he can't afford to leave you without pregnancy! So na like that you go de born every year?
Thank God you're educated oh. Jobs are difficult but people still get them, good ones too and you will not be the exception. My dear, it's time to think with your head, not your heart.
If you don't want to leave him, please stop sleeping with him without condoms. Protect yourself. You have 3 children already, better stop there cos the economy isn't encouraging. Also look for ways to get extra housekeeping allowance from him and start saving like crazy too. Once your baby is weaned start job hunting or a mini business- anything that brings little returns and keeps you busy.
When you're all consumed with work/ business and taking care of your children and start ignoring him, he will start paying you more attention, and that will be the time to make your demands. Get some capital for a business or investment even if you're working then. You need to safeguard your future.
If you decide to leave him, you may still need to plan slowly and stand on your feet financially before doing so.
If that's your choice, don't think about what people will say, all gossip will end after a while. Life is too short for you to be unhappy or live for anyone.
Live for you.
Women need to be financially independent. If you are, no man takes you for granted because they know you have options...
Seriously only Jesus can fix this one.
ReplyDeletePoster, I'm short of words and actually have nothing in mind as i type this but let me just go on and let it flow.....i'll title it:
DeleteYOU'VE DONE YOUR PART, LEAVE THE REST FOR GOD.
Sometimes life confuses us and d devil comes in to smile and rejoice but guess what swty.....God remains God, He would never forsake his own. Your situation might seem helpless today but uv done your part, let God's will propel you.....I can't advice anything more than this...just seek solace in God's words, He would raise ur kids to make you proud and you shall enjoy the joy of motherhood. No man has the power to dictate your life except God.....this same man would come back to you someday seeking for your forgiveness, he would apologize in tears.....just stay strong darling, God's got your back, He knows where it hurts most, stay strong for your kids cos uv done your part....Leave the rest for God.
Li-yon Vls.
Hmmmm Lord hv mercy,this is all so complicated I swear,its so sad!
ReplyDeleteBabe firstly,dont b in a hurry to walk cos clearly u hv nowhr to run to n u can't take care of d children all by urself,u cant,also remember dt u don't want to fight wt him in court over custody of ur children,u'll end up miserable bcos all u hv will b taken 4rm u,u'll need to start job hunting again asap,pls dont take in again no matter wht he says,u need to be on birth control of some sort,go n see ur gynaecologist to gv u a long term contraceptive,stop having sex with the man biko,he has all d sex he can ever want,wht does he want ur body for?see infact I'm just heart broken for u I can't go on abeg,im just pained...n ppl r asking me to go bk to my cheating bf mtchwww
perhaps you should organise some traps for him using women, that he will never forget and be scared of women in general. Stella is right. if only you had a job, it would have been nice if you left with your kids and just be focused on them, and not give a damn what anyone has yo say.you are not cursed- you are just not lucky to have met the right husband. your happiness is most important than being in a sad, risky situation.you need to protect yourself from STDs.
ReplyDeleteTo all the singles out there instaed of grumbling you are not yet married, you are supposed to pray the kind of man or woman you want. Pray to God to direct your steps, single people go and read Christian books on relationships the have a way of guiding us and to those who believe God doesn't have a say in d person we marry, you need Christ. When we follow d steps of God we wouldn't have this kind of prayer burden..Poster, u need to seek God on this matter, He says d heart of a king is in His hands and he turns it whichever way He pleases so He can also change ur husband, go and read d bible and use scriptures to pray most importantly beg Fod for God's mercy. Don't forget to repent of every known or unknown sin, conscuously&unconsciously so u can acend His throne of Grace.Only Jesus can fix this. To all parents out there&those waiting on God,now is d time to start praying to God for the right husbands&wives for ur children
ReplyDeleteThey werre not cheating before marriage but cheat after marriage,ok
ReplyDeleteMy opinion,you cld be the problem,the spirit that want to to be moving frm house to house shld be bound.
If you blive it or not,it cld be the issue.pray against powers that wnt to move frm house-house.
I don borrow u the advise I get.
My thoughts too. Poster, I think the problem might be from you. You need to surrender your life to Christ, and see a Pastor. You might have had a covenant in your past . Seriously these things happen. I think you are suffering from a demonic influence.
DeleteDo not walk away from that marriage. Let God fix it. Where do you live? You should visit my Pastor in living faith church
dear I'll advice you to get a job make sure you are financially independent and walk away, before he brings home STD/ HIV.
ReplyDeletePARENTAL ADVISORY
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This one is more than d ancestors...
its spiritual and its from your end. i dont see why they will be nice during dating and turn ur life upside down once you get married. go and check out your ex hubby, if he has remarried i guess he is not cheating on his present wife. the first one can be considered a mistake but madam d second one...hmmmm. go for deliverance. it might be your spiritual husband or myt be a convenant u entered as a child. keep praying but start working on how you will be delivered.
ReplyDeleteposter your problem is you trust too much. Not all men are like your husband. there are bgood men.One would assume that after you left your first marriage you would have kept your eyes to the ground, get born again and choose your next partner with the directions of the holy spirit,but no,you fell for a rich,nice guy. Nice guys do not make good husbands,Real born again husbands who fear God sincerely do. Which church do u go to? you need to change what you listen to and begin to yield yourself to the leading of the holy spirit.Meanwhile,Invite your parents over for a one month vacation at your place so they can see exactly what you are going through. trust me,na them go beg u to move out. you cannot go and die now. you are too young for all this stress. if u ask for a solution i would say leave. you dont even have to remarry. sex isn't food. Did u do court marriage? abi mr nice guy confused you not to? well if you did,that is your passport to freedom. you will leave him and he will still pay his kids bills. Goodluck to u.
ReplyDeleteSEARCH URSLF AND PRAY WITHT SIEZIN,,,TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm, plz don't even think of getting preggers again o. Haven't you heard of family planning?
ReplyDeleteAbeg just stay in your marriage and try to make some money for yourself.
*Ayah Shehu #
1st of all, I really doubt that your hubbys weren't cheating b4 marriage, if a man can cheat on his wedding night, he was definitely cheating b4, 2ndly, So if you get HIV, Is it your father that's going to bear the pains. My dear society puts a lot of pressure on women to their own detriment. Do what's best for you and your kids. Talk to him gently about it, cry if you must, tell him how depressed it makes you feel, don't shout, then change your total look, your hair, dress sense, be hot for him again and tease him once in a while. continue to pray also. If all this doesn't work, TALK to your father and let him know you're at risk of getting a disease staying in the marriage and then take a Walk! infact runnn! Think about your children, That's such an unhealthy way to grow up pls. May God be with you.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm, very dicey..
ReplyDeleteFor the first time, I don't know the advice to give.
I think u av not been prayerful enough..its obvious derez sth spiritually young cos dere r similarities in the first n second marriages strting from the wedding nyt!
ReplyDeleteYou said and I quote: "If I leave again won't pple think I'm cursed?"
ReplyDeleteWoman, you don't owe it to anyone to keep up a front.
He is a serial cheat, it's not working and you don't want to work at it, then don't work at it.
It's your prerogative.
Who is anyone to judge who you should or shouldn't put up with???
I don't read chronicles cos I find them very annoying.
If only these women would stop letting dicks dictate their lives.
Y'all deserve to be happy jor
Poster. Pls let your dad know what you are passing tru.dont kill your self!!!
ReplyDeleteNot all men cheat though
So u actually thinking of what people will say??madam plz get something doing n save urself n ur children..
ReplyDeleteChai
ReplyDeleteWe dey suffer o....
So first one did u bad
Second did u worse
Give up on them already
There's still life without those decorations called husbands.
I'm a very lucky lady
In that God gave me so much beauty plus my added make up n bleaching
I'm cork sure no man can shakara for me cos I have that self confidence I can do it alone.
Poster Na your cross o
Device a way not to be bitter....
Go back to school....
Masters/PhD/etc
Just keep acquiring them to keep your mind busy
No more babies if u already got a boy.
If possible get a bf.
You no get ex?
Don't leave your home for any bitch
Poster I don't know what to advise u now, I hope God looks ur way very soon. Buy in the mean time, make ur first daughter from the first marriage ur best friend. If he sleeps with ur house helps, then he is very likely to abuse her before she gets to puberty, just be on the lookout for her.
ReplyDeleteOh God! Leave b4 u get STD'S, AIDS is real o. Dts what we keep telling u gals, don't leave ur job for a man. Now see urself, tell him to open a shop for u, boutique, salon, anyone. So. Dt u can av sometin to keep u busy. Don't u ever get preggy for him again. Are u a child bearing company?
ReplyDeleteI am not married and I have never been married but I think I can tell you something you can do. Please dear, start saving. Yes. From the little he gives you. It is possible. Then ask him for a lil money to start up something. If he doesn't give you. Still keep on saving. When you have had enough to start up a small business even if it's a kiosk. Do it. Live for yourself and your kids. When u have saved out of your profits to rent a one bedroom flat or something close, leave with your kids. It's hard but God will see you through. IMO!
ReplyDeleteI am not married and I have never been married but I think I can tell you something you can do. Please dear, start saving. Yes. From the little he gives you. It is possible. Then ask him for a lil money to start up something. If he doesn't give you. Still keep on saving. When you have had enough to start up a small business even if it's a kiosk. Do it. Live for yourself and your kids. When u have saved out of your profits to rent a one bedroom flat or something close, leave with your kids. It's hard but God will see you through. IMO!
ReplyDeleteMadam,Prayer is still the master key.Go a marriage counsellor to counsel u on what to do.Show him love and communicate with him often.This is a lesson to those who think if they leave their husbands,they will get better ones.The grass is not always greener on the other side.
ReplyDeleteMadam,I would advice you leave or HBP will kill you.in terms of cash,before you go,decieve him and ask for money in large amount,if he doesn't give,when he leaves for business,sell off what you have at home,everything and raise cash,take your kids and get a new life.
ReplyDeleteGod will do the rest..so sorry love
The only thing that seems to be stopping you is that people will say you are cursed.you don't want to be there
ReplyDeleteIf that is your only reason....then kmt.
People will always talk...regardless if bad or good!
Live your life for yourself and not what people might say.
*Shivers* I won't be able to advice myself if I was in your situation. I wish I could advise you, but am still shell-shocked.
ReplyDeleteAll I can do is to give you a warm hug.
Honestly, I won't advice you to walk away "again". Instead try and make yourself happy.
*Save enough money and start a business or do something that makes you happy.
*Ignore his excesses and act like you don't care.
*NEVER get pregnant for him and use a female condom if need be.
He will change only when he gets into trouble with his philandering ways. Like the saying goes, "Revenge is a dish best served COLD", so take your own pound of flesh, but DO NOT CHEAT!!
Prayer can do it...
ReplyDeleteI can't advice u to leave nor can I advise u stay.
But this is the time to be smart and start gathering whatever money u can from him to secure urself and your kids in d nearest future. Start looking for a new job codedly,cos u may need it soon. U r obviously tired of the whole shit.
Men sha.... smh.
God is ur strenght and God forbid he infects u.
Poison him.u have a better life as a widow, all his property will be urs, it's not a sin.God will understand.or he will poison u first
ReplyDeleteAs harsh as this advice sounds it's soon going to be the lot of so many men who have decided to wear the garment of cheating.
DeleteMen should be very careful and afraid of their wives. There are poisons that will take up to year before it starts killing the man and trust me no traces at all. Just Google it. You treat ur wife like trash and still eat her food, hmmmmm I pity you. Hell has no fury like a woman scorned. Dear poster, don't get pregnant again, he is trying to render you totally helpless. Family planning is cheap in federal and govt hospitals, so get an IUCD, then start saving and demanding like there is no tomorrow, when you Ve saved a substantial amount, relocate and go get a room, start a business in the market and continue from there. When you are stable you can now look for a job. Forget all this what will people say trash, ur hubby knows you are trapped and that is why he is misbehaving plus he feels he did u a favour by marrying you. Leave and Live for ur kids before he gives you STD's free of charge.
so sorry to hear about that... he is trying to use kids to tie you down...stop having them...try to get money off him...if u can succeed in getting more money from him, save some and use some for the kids till u have enough money...also start looking for a job or something
ReplyDeleteGet a job by all means no matter how little, totally ignore him n always wear condom if he comes close to you, moreso, check ur bacground to see if there is a generational curse affecting u. It is well sister.
ReplyDeleteno everyone is destined to marry, obviously u make pple very impt in ur life making dem ur only source of happiness. Now that source of hapiness has become ur worst night mare. You have a child from ur last marriage, why the rush into another wen u wuld have taken time to fisrt love urself and ur child. Love is sweet oh buh when u r blinded in that 'love phrase', u will wish u never had to. Lessons to learn, be prayerful always to God, first love yourself n find happiness in urself as well. live to please the creator and not the creation, f**k what society or family says about it cuz its time to walk away for good else u will consider suicide one day cuz of the serial cheat u call a husband.
ReplyDeleteNot all marriages are destined to be oh, sometimes na devil join dem together.Abge make i face my work
no everyone is destined to marry, obviously u make pple very impt in ur life making dem ur only source of happiness. Now that source of hapiness has become ur worst night mare. You have a child from ur last marriage, why the rush into another wen u wuld have taken time to fisrt love urself and ur child. Love is sweet oh buh when u r blinded in that 'love phrase', u will wish u never had to. Lessons to learn, be prayerful always to God, first love yourself n find happiness in urself as well. live to please the creator and not the creation, f**k what society or family says about it cuz its time to walk away for good else u will consider suicide one day cuz of the serial cheat u call a husband.
ReplyDeleteNot all marriages are destined to be oh, sometimes na devil join dem together.Abge make i face my work
Why oh why?
ReplyDeleteMen! Men! Men!
Jesus pls fix it!
I am speechless but I understand you. How can you leave another marriage and not be tagged the 'bad' woman/wife in our cultural, half-a-century backward country?
ReplyDeleteI dare not even ask you to leave. I am tempted to... but I won't. No, I won't.
You know why? It is you the devil is playing with. It is you, not him... not the unfaithful husbands. It is you. He is playing with your destiny. He wants you out there as a mockery, a laughing-stock among families and peers. He wants you shamed and ostracized.
Don't let him win!
I know you have prayed. I don't doubt that at all. But you haven't prayed enough. You haven't prayed right.
Don't get angry, calm down, listen to me. There is a right way to prayer. And it requires GREAT PATIENCE. It requires NEVER GIVING UP.
I have never on this blog, told a wife to sit back and PRAY. And I promise you, I usually, 'silently' curse those who tell them to.
But not all cases require sit-and-pray-and-keep-praying... Yours does. It does because it is not about your husband(s), this war is about you. And you've got to FIGHT. You can't let satan make you a laughing stock, heck no!
PRAY... Not just for him... In fact, PRAY MORE FOR YOU. Tell God what you want in your husband. Tell Him what you deserve in a husband. Surrender yourself completely to God and handover the keys of your wheel (your life) to Him. let Him do the driving.
Don't pray alone. Form a network of prayers. get Prayer-partners and Pray, everyday, every minute, always. Never stop.
Meet with your Pastors/Priests and make prayer requests with them.
It's going to take time but you will win of your persist. Remember the parable of the judge and the widow? HARASS GOD! I say it again, HARASS GOD... don't let Him rest. Tell your Father in heaven there'll be no rest for anyone until you get a good marriage. And meant it!
God hears the cry of the poor, the cry of the orphan, the cry of the widow and the cry of the wounded soul. Cry to Him like a wounded soul and son't ever stop crying.
It won't happen like magic but it will surely happen.
Meanwhile, get a secret contraceptive, because you can't just keep popping babies. Then get busy with something. It might be work online. Anything you can. And don't stop talking to him because you are praying. Pray and Talk.
That's my sincerest take on this matter. Don't let let win by making you a divorcée twice.
Best of luck.
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I love ur comment. 1m likes. Words of wisdom
DeleteJesus fix indeed cos this is so#speechless
ReplyDeleteAs much as i detest the fact that Nelo had to involve Jaymoore's son in their drama but i feel she was pained as a result of Jay moore's unnecessary call out which reeked of childishness upto d point of stating degrees acquired.
ReplyDeleteNelo, on your part, u come across as proud and quite bitter but at the same time this is a case of same charges which can never attract. Both of you are quite similar especially with the pride u guys exhibit.....the pretense just couldn't last hence the fallout.....Maybe Jaymoore was in it for the puny while she was in it for the money.....either ways u both should take ur grievances to any studio and make a movie or drama series and let us be.
Li-yon Vls.
There's something about you and marriage. Scary that they both avoided you on the respective wedding nights.My advice may sound lazy,but that's the only help to offer.Seek major deliverance. This could be a spell.yes!
ReplyDeleteDifferent shades of marriage exist nowadays...lagos marriage, elopee marriage, rebellious marriage etc. That's why ppl are advised to marry a believer committed to godly/spiritual activities and service in a bible believing church where marriage counseling precedes marriage proper but these ppl do not want such standard. I'm not saying that our "Christian brothers" are all saints but believe you me that there's always that fear of God factor guiding their actions provided he is a born-again Christian.
ReplyDeleteYou may wish to agree with me 9or not) that your 1st husband is your heavenly recognized husband (don't know if you walked to the Alter) but until you reconcile with him (though painful & unfortunate his actions), you'd keep experiencing this in marriage, betterstill you remain a single mother and not indulge in any serious relationship goingforward.
"Walking away" is NEVER the solution....only Forgiveness & Reconciliation
For me I'll advice you start looking for a job, even though its difficult getting job out there but there're jobs. If possible hook up with a friend from ur previous base to help u look for job. Me I'll suggest u leave that marriage jaree, ur life important pass any dis owning of barring from ur Father. Cool down and explain things to ur dad, if possible get evidences to buttress ur point. Ur dad is a human being after all, he'll understand. My point all these while is, try and get a job and get the fuck out of that house before that man injests or infests u with all diz STDs flying around.
ReplyDeleteN/B pls not all men are cheats, its just that you're unfortunate in meeting d faithful ones like us. mind u the cheating is paired, man and woman. so u ppl shud stop saying all men are cheats. As for me, I love my darling wife and can't look elsewhere.
Uche Onye Adighi ya Njo
I'll suggest prayers, it might not be ordinary. Especially the "never sleeping at home". Pray against forces attacking your marital destiny. When you have repetitive unusual* problems, it is usually spiritual... It is well with you.
ReplyDelete*if
ReplyDelete*don't
*Popping out
*Don't let the devil win...
*apologies for the errors*
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Hi, This is my first time commenting on this blog. but I think, you need help and QUICK!!! Stella, she needs to visit MFMLEKKIYOUTH CHURCH and ask to see the pastor counseling days are Wednesdays from 10am.. Only Jesus can fix it o.
ReplyDeletePoster I tink you shud check urself there is something you're not doing right, I know men cheat but not to the extent of not sleeping wit me on my wedding nite. Be nicer to him in all aspect and be patient. Jesus will fix ur marriage, just believe
ReplyDeleteThis is so pathetic. Am in shock. Poster please reflect on your past, did you offend anyone? Check to see if someone perhaps cursed you out of annoyance. My dear it's only Jesus that can give you a new life. Am perplexed and speechless, things are really happening.
ReplyDeleteSuch terribly sad story.
ReplyDelete-_- My dear, you select horrible men. I can say this to you because I have been in your shoes. Yes, the signs were there. You saw them and took them as nothing. A man without discipline is a man who will cheat. Your first marriage is excusable, you were young and not sharp. The second, you didn't look well. A single mother remarrying after a year of long distance marriage...nne come on. Like I said, I can say this to you because I have walked your shoes.
ReplyDeleteNot all Nigerian men cheat, I had a cheat and abuser but I can tell you NOT ALL NIGERIAN MEN CHEAT. A man does not go from 0-100 all of a sudden, you did not pay attention. Yours don't cheat slowly they cheat full on. There are women here who are married to cheats but they do not know because the men are not messy. Yours are messy to a fault. So my dear, this is the one time I will ask you to look inwards. Why do you keep gravitating to these kinds of men? Why are you not paying attention and WHY ARE YOU STILL GETTING PREGNANT? Go and look for work. You are a single mother who married and stopped working? What? Don;t you know single mothers who marry are meant to be selective. You do not quit your job even for Dangote. Your husband can change and stop catering for your other child and then what next? Please get work, face your kids and keep yourself safe. Your parents will not support divorce and you can't cater for your children as you are like this. Please get work and get your self respect back.
WOW
ReplyDeleteJUST PRAY WITHOUT CEASING
CHECK YOURSELF, GO FOR DELIVERANCE
PRAAAAAAAAYY
CONCENTRATE ON YOUR KIDS
DON'T SIGN DIVORCE PAPERS, BUT BE SINGLE IN YOUR HEAD
COS IT SEEMS YOU DON'T WANT THE SHAME/STIGMA OF BEING DIVORCED TWICE...
Hmmn! Ur case be as e get o! I mean, dis one is strong. Well, do something to make him jealous too. Something that will jolt him back into reality! Something like what Nse Ikpe Etim acted in the movie,"Mr. & Mrs"...starring Joseph Benjamin too. E fit work O...Ghanaman signing out!!!
ReplyDeleteIt is always a big no no to give up your career because of a man. When they leave you have your job. That's your only security. Men aint loyal.
ReplyDeletewish i could send my chronicles but people will think i'm crazy whereas i'm very sane.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster .. I have so much to say to you.
ReplyDeleteYour just 30 years old, married twice with 3 kids.
What are you rushing to do?
You cannot tell me you waited to hear the voice of God before choosing a spouse because if you did, there is no way you will be going through this.
Desperation is the cause of your problems.
Your husband will never respect you until you learnt to respect yourself.
The question is what do you want out of your life?
Your story is sad because you went into two marriages spiritually blind. A certain friend of mine was so desperate to get married at 30 and she was dating a billionaire. She knew her man was a cheat through her intuitions but she could not prove it. Boyfriend proposed and she told him she will think about it... of course he was surprised. She snooped and found nothing but her instincts keeping tell her there more to the man that meets the eyes. So gf went on a 2 day dry fasting and of course the secret came out into the open. It turns out her man was shagging her PA who happens to be her cousin. The relationship ended immediately but not before she chopped money from the guy.
You have two choices.
1 – You need to act like a fool in order to catch a fool. Since your DH has decided to kill you before your time let him know you are aware of his bullshit and you no longer give a shit. Start to plan your exit, start gathering his money since the idiot has so much to dash girl. Whatever excuse to collect money - use it. No more children, go on the pill secretly but don’t tell hubby let him believe belle no dey come again. No more sex – let him go fuck the girls outside. If he comes for sex – ask him you need money to treat all these pussy infections you keep getting. If you need sex – use him for a fuck (sit on him and ride him, when your done get off, if he want more … lie on your back and think of Nigeria). When you have enough funds, if he still remains the dog that he is, leave his ass.
I bet you, he will come looking for you. NO MORE BF/MARRIAGES until you have developed yourself physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally.
2 – Endure or Walk away.
I pray God gives you wisdom and strength to tackle this situation your find yourself in wisely. These Nigerian men aint loyal that is why you need to be a bitch to keep them in check.
Very pathetic. Jesus is your helper.
ReplyDeletewhat kind of men are we breeding these days? This is getting out of hand! If you a man out there and you treat your wife this way, just know that your doom is nigh!
ReplyDeleteMadam, you need to be strong now. i cant ask you to pray now because there is absolutely nothing to pray about anymore. That being said, i want you to do these underlisted things...
1. stop brooding ok? he is not worth your tears.
2. Always look your best, get new clothes, sexy ones at that. fix your hair, do your nails, make sure you look very good and attractive always.
3. stop having sex with him, nos 1 and 2 would get him attracted to you. DONT allow him lay his filthy hands on your sexy body, Tell him NO, your children need you, let him carry his HIV infected dick else where.
4. Can you steal? pls do so without shaking, God understands. Fake sickness, fake miscarriage, fake anything to get cash from him.
5. make sure you are saving, get a secret bank account where you will depositing these monies. if you are bouyant enough, get landed properties.
6. Meanwhile, keep doing your duties(excePt SEX) as a good wife and mother. Be kind to him, care for his needs, cook his meals et all. BUT NO SEX.
7. Be nice to his family, visit them once in a while. Help those ones in need. Make them comfortable whenever they come visiting. Buy stuff for his mum, dad and siblings. Attend their parties, do souvenirs, cook sef if necessary.
8. Lastly, go out and look for job.
i dont believe in divorce, i dont advice it in as much as he is not beating you. STAY my darling. GOODLUCK!
Start saving as much money as you can. Take his money, lie to him and start a business. If he doesn't change then you don't have a choice but to leave him eventually. Forget what people will say, your happiness is more important. Don't let anybody into your home even house helps and watch your daughter from the 1st marriage so he doesn't rape her. Stay strong.
ReplyDeleteSmh.. Stella abeg hook me up with one oyinbo nau.. Black men are the devil himself
ReplyDeletePoster, I'm short of words and actually have nothing in mind as i type this but let me just go on and let it flow.....i'll title it:
ReplyDeleteYOU'VE DONE YOUR PART, LEAVE THE REST FOR GOD.
Sometimes life confuses us and d devil comes in to smile and rejoice but guess what swty.....God remains God, He would never forsake his own. Your situation might seem helpless today but uv done your part, let God's will propel you.....I can't advice anything more than this...just seek solace in God's words, He would raise ur kids to make you proud and you shall enjoy the joy of motherhood. No man has the power to dictate your life except God.....this same man would come back to you someday seeking for your forgiveness, he would apologize in tears.....just stay strong darling, God's got your back, He knows where it hurts most, stay strong for your kids cos uv done your part....Leave the rest for God.
Li-yon Vls.
All these chronicles sef. Hmmm it is well.
ReplyDeletePoster sorry for ur predicament oh. I think u shud intensify ur job search and DON'T give up, u can also try 2 save from d little he gives u to start a small biz, like snacks or something. Whatever it is just get busy dear.
Inasmuch as dis is not abt u but a man's decision to cheat, try 2 evaulate urself a bit, cud it be ur personal hygiene? How do u look wen he gets back? Do u nag? Please check these things.
take care of urself, look nice, dont make him feel like without him ur world is over. Also insist on using condoms.
Most importantly Pray Pray Pray. Join a good church or fellowship, get prayer points n prophetic declarations, use them daily. Keep praying for him also.
It will end in praise.
Na wa ooo. Some pple never see husband yet some don get two. Lol.
Don't leave d marriage my dear, prayer answereth all things, he will soon get tired of it nd reduce it den finally stops it. How many marriage can u work away from. Just act like he is nt cheating to u, I know it's difficult but act it, so u don't die of BP be4 ur time becos of his cheating habit. God is ur strength, neva cease to pray.
ReplyDeleteMy dear ist go for deliverance in any mfm,it looks like person no wan make you enjoy your matrimonial home ooo. This one pass me.
ReplyDeleteThis one is somehow o
ReplyDelete- Start saving
- Tie your legs together to avoid diseases (3 kids) thank God
- Look for a job no matter what
- Keep praying and go for deliverance
- Try make yourself happy by going out with some real friends
- Ignore him but first sit him down and tell him to continue having sex with anything he sees, but on the other hand, keep praying/showing him love.
- Plan for yr kids future, tell him abt kids savings, collect money n open accounts for them (each).
- Maybe you can hint yr dad abt his behaviour in case.
FEELING YOUR PAIN DEAR - GOD IS STILL GOD.
This story has all shades of Spiritual Problems. The pattern is repetitive. After experiencing the cheating problem in your first marriage, you should have given yourself time to heal and build yourself up - spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, financially, etc. Marriage is not a bed of roses, I'm not married yet, but my elder and younger sisters are married. I know deep within my heart that I'm not ready, forget age(I'm 35), but I just want to have peace concerning the marriage issue before going in.
ReplyDeleteBack to your story, no need for blames or long advice, leave fasting alone for now, just do the following:
1.) Repent sincerely from your heart and ask the Lord Jesus Christ to become your Lord and Savior;
2.) Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you on how to go about this problem and forgive your husband;
3.) Read the passages in the Bible that relates to marriage;
4.) Memorize scriptures that talks about your rights in Christ(there are a lot of them);
5.) Prophesy over your husband, speak all the things you want him to be to you and your children, and bless him calling his full name;
6.) Never complain or nag him or curse him(whether secretly or openly), there is power in your tongue as a covenant wife and child of God, FROM THE LITTLE HE GIVE YOU, PAY YOUR TITHE;
7.) Round up with thanksgiving and praise. I mean high praise and worship to God for your changed husband.
YOU WILL TESTIFY BECAUSE MARRIAGE WAS ORIGINATED BY GOD AND HE HATES DIVORCE.
My dear pls kindly do a little flash back,did you sleep with people's husband?did any of the women place on curse on you?if so then pls talk to a genuine man of God now,but if not,then let Jesus fix this whhile you pls live ur life,be in a good shape and frame of mind for ur kids!it's well.
ReplyDeletePoster am sorry for what you are passing through, but it seems you are unlucky with men. Spiritual husband at work. How committed are you to God. Give your life to Christ. Keep yourself busy with Gods word. Stop noticing him. Be busy with your children and God. Try to set up something. It musn't be white kola job, learn a skill and always demand more money from him. Always request for more on whatever he is dropping. I must tell you, until you solve your spiritual problems, this must continue to occur even if you marry another man. Dont relent on prayers. If you are a catholic, look for a prayer book called :Release me oh Lord" for your self deliverance. Always say it at night (12 midnight) with St. Michaels candle. Call on our mother Mary to intrerceed and secure your family for you. Going back to your parents house is not an option, so many women are in your shoes, yet they pretend and look good outside. Lets Jesus fix your home for you.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm in this case only Jesus is the answer
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