Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Happy Monday,please enjoy the narratives.

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

AT THE BRINK OF LOOSING IT

Dear Aunty Stella,

Thank you for this platform you have created to help people solve, at least, half their problems... as the saying goes; a problem shared is a problem half solved. May these stories shared never be your portion, Amen!

I work with an oil servicing company in Lagos and have been with this company for 9 years now. infact, i started the same year the company was registered and we were very few staffs. I had dropped out of the university because of lack of funds to get a job, my plan was to begin a part time program later on. My boss took to me the second year and made me a PA, i thought i was the luckiest person alive because their family is prominent and well known in the oil and gas sector.

I worked like my life depended on the job, it did actually, cos i became the breadwinner of my family after my dad absconded with another woman. Over time, the company grew and a whole lot of staffs were employed, i gathered so much experiences from the various departments, which i am most thankful for. I thought i would eventually be promoted or my salary increased majorly...but no, my salary was only increased by 20k. The PA to the director of a major oil and gas company and my salary is on the same level with an office assistant. i never complained, i endured, even when my boss would employ a "senior PA" and pay hundreds of thousands as salary but will never trust them enough to do the job, which always ends up on my table. 

I would work both in the office and in the personal establishments which are like 5 of them, managing, supervising and giving reports on their operations. My work also got extended to the boss's house, infact i became a house manager too...lol. when its time for summer trips or enjoyment trip, someone else will be taken along. i have only been on 2 trips and on both occasion, i wished i never agreed to go along because i worked my brains out. I worked ernestly and was loyal to the core but anytime i looked good to the office, Boss would claim monies have missed from the wallet...lol! I have never ever stolen a dime or even thought about it, wasnt raised that way.

I resigned sometime last year, boss's mother, father and friend called me to ask me to come back which i FOOLISHLY did, thinking everything will change. After i returned, i was asked to go to HR to review my package but until now, nothing has been done... infact boss is now worse, cussing me out when THERE IS NO FOOD IN THEIR HOUSE....like i live and eat with them...lol cussing me out for no reason at all. 

I want to resign but i am yet to complete my part time program, ends next year. I am also considering my family, especially my aging mum. i have put out my CV's, my experiences are huge but for the BSC certification... i want to go into entrepreneurship but no capital. My sister advises that i stay but i am so hurt, I am almost loosing my mind...i have destroyed my phones in a fit of anger when boss last called to cuss me out about FISH NOT BEING IN THE HOUSE...LOL im mentally tired! i dunno what to do.

Is there anyone out there that has passed through same situation, please how did you manage it?

My dear i think your job has been turned into a Corporate housegirl without your knowledge oh...AH AH!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

TIRED OF BEING MARRIED.

Hello Stella, never knew I will be sending in my own chronicles but here I am. mine is a bit long but will try and make it as short as possible... my name is Enam and a very loyal Ghanian blog visitor. Not a day goes by that I don't read your blog... I have commented a few times too.

Stella, I am a young lady married with 2kids, I went into the marriage with one and have one with my husband... my husband and I never really dated cos he was out of the country and so ours was a long distance kinda relationship... my then husband to be made me believe he was a very busy man especially with work, he made me believe he was a hard working young man who was very comfortable. I never for once asked him any money or anything from him ever whiles we were dating cos I am a hard working young lady who was comfortable and was catering for both my child and I before I finally married.

My problem now is, after I got married and my husband moved back to Ghana, I have realized most of the things he made me believe were all fake and that he was really struggling at where he was. we have all been managing on my salary for a while now and its no longer funny. things are really tough and when I tell my husband to go look for a job, he will say he doesn't believe in working for someone but believes in doing his own thing. 

truth is, hes been moving around a lot but nothing seems to be working for him and I am really tired now cos we practically living from hand to mouth and all the savings i was able to save have been used up cos that's the only way we can survive. and also, I try to do everything so my family don't get to know exactly whats happening.  

Lately, I have been having thoughts of leaving the marriage...

just needed to talk to someone... I need advice from you and your blog visitors. thank you.        

He sounds like a good man but a lazy one.....Why do you really want to leave?Your explanation up there isnt clear to me.

I am a sucker for love ,the type that has its two eyes opened.

Will leaving him improve the money situation or you are angry becos he cant provide for his family?