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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MARRIED TO A SEXUALLY ADVENTUROUS SPOUSE

Dear Stella,

Thank you for this platform. May the good LORD bless you.

I have a big problem. I know I’m conservative. And so are many fellow Nigerians. That’s good, right? But not with my husband. He thinks I’m a hypocrite. When I got married, I was sexually active but there are some things I have not done before. My husband on the other side is very adventurous. He just likes experimenting new things. At first, it was rubbing hands on it; then to putting it between my breasts; to putting it in my mouth. All these things disgust me. But to be honest, he eats me out too. 

S3x with him is like a religion. It is done with all diligence. He’s not a selfish lover. I was partially okay with all these things until he brought s3x toys into our marriage. He just wants to watch me squirts. And I can’t achieve that without the vibrator. When he sees this, he becomes rock hard and starts pounding.

Before I got married, I have heard about people like him and I just call them pervs not knowing I would end up with one. The sex toys almost broke our marriage but we survived it. Now, he wants to put it in the an*s. That’s the problem we’ve had in the last one month. He has refused to touch me. He even threatened to get it from these university girls outside. He said the whole world do these things except me. I only wish he knew what I have gone through in our marriage as far as s3x is concerned.

I know him to be a very principled man before we got married and I think that hasn’t change but his threats of cheating scares me more than the pain of the an*l sex. The only time I allowed him, I jumped off the bed in pain with blood in my bum. I was practically bleeding and crying at the same time. And we haven’t even done anything. He claimed it was because it was the first time. That it is like losing one’s virginity. But this is really more painful.

Since I had our third baby four months ago, he has been complaining that it is not tight enough again down there. Of course, I had tears but to the best of my knowledge, I’m fine. Even my gynaecologist confirmed that. He is the only one complaining.

One of those days that we had a heated argument, I asked him if he can take it in his own bum and he said no that he is not a woman. This is sheer wickedness to me. Why would anybody want to put that very big hard thing inside a woman’s bum? It’s absolute inhumanity.

Any medical advice from the Doctors in the house? Will my bum ever heal if I try this again? Should I do this to save my marriage? What would he ask next? Are these trends I have not heard about? I have no answers to all these questions and I need answers. 

I have done my own research. The danger of an*l s3x unlike vagin*l s3x is that the an*s was never made for sex and the anal sphincter could be damaged forever. When I told him this, he said was the hymen not damaged forever. I told him they are not the same but he won’t listen. How would I control my sh*t if the an*l sphincter is broken? That’s the question I have been asking myself?

I spoke to a close friend of mine who is widowed. She is almost 10 years older than me. She said she use to do it with her husband before he died. She said her husband was wild too. And that it is not as dangerous as I think. But if I cannot take it, I should talk to our family members and if that doesn’t settle it, I should just walk.

Stella, I’m not sure I want to go with her advice. My husband is a very private person. I need your red ink please. I don’t know what to do.

Once more, God bless you, Stella.

I am sorry i ran out of red ink but if i will manage with my blue to say anything,I would say this...DO NOT GIVE ANYONE YOUR A** TO PIERCE ,IT AINT WORTH THE SH*T YOU WOULD HAVE TO DEAL WITH!

Apologies to those already busy with theirs!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

GETTING OVER A HEARTBREAK AND THE TRAITS TO LOOK OUT

 FOR IN A HUSBAND MATERIAL

Hi Stella,

I need you to post this for me so I can get feedback from fellow Bvs. I just need to tell someone, anyone about my drama , hopefully I will find some closure or something. Been meaning to send this in for a while now but not had the courage to because I've been afraid of how my boyfriend (or ex) will react because he doesn't like his business in the open but I am tired of smiling through it all. I love my boyfriend (or ex) and I think he loves me too. We are same age both mid 20's, we both work. 

I think we are both doing okay in that area for now but the problem is that my boyfriend has a lot of issues. I keep making excuses for him to my friends and siblings as I thought that everybody is different in their own way but now I don't know what to think anymore. We have been dating since he graduated in 2011 which was a year before I did, he is nice, warm funny smart and we get each other like crazy, he almost always knows what I'm thinking and I used to know what was on his mind too but he switches up sometimes and just becomes moody and angry, always trying to pick a fight especially when everything is really smooth, mostly after a nice weekend together or something.

 I've tried to analyze the behavior but I can't understand. To talk to him about it nko, that will probably cause another quarel so most times I jus swallow it all nd let this things slide and find myself apologizing for things that don't concern me sef just because I'm trying to keep the peace.

 He could just pick a fight and not talk to me for months, one time it was for almost a year. Trying not to bore you with details but he's always full of apologies when he comes back. Which most times I initiate the come back. If he was cheating that would have been easier to understand and handle but he's not. He talks about marriage all the time and has asked me to marry him at least twice, I just told him we weren't ready yet that we should focus on other things for now but the truth is that I want to marry him so bad because I love him plenty but I'm afraid, because I don't know how this behavior will progress if it will get better or worse. 

As it is right now we are not talking again over something really flimsy, I think we are done for real this time because I have decided to remove myself from the receiving end and concluded that maybe it's not God's will for me but Stella it is so painful ehn, Is this how stressful love is supposed to be or have I been deceiving myself? I have never really taken relationships serious so this is like my first real heartbreak. Stella I'm really pretty and have no problem getting men neither I'm i desperate for anything, I'm just stuck. I can't focus at work, everything just seems really dull suddenly, my life seems colorless, most times I don't feel like I have any reason to smile.

 I cry in my office bathroom every now and then because I get tired of wearing a brave face. He's even still on my bbm and our pictures are all over my phone, I can't bring myself to delete him (don't know if I want to sef). It's been like this about 2months now and I still feel this bad. Please Bvs how do I get over this? What is the quickest way to get over a heartbreak? 

Married Bvs, what are the key traits to look out for when trying to choose a partner? 

Please keep me anonymous and my pictures are for your eyes only

Thank you. 

WOW fine babe.!!!

please BV's advise her i dey come back to read comments