The mind is strong but the body is weak...or is it vice versa?
Narrative number one is da real ISH!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CHEATING HOUSEWIFE GETS MARRIAGE PROPOSAL FROM LOVER IN
FRONT OF HUBBY.
compliments of the season, the year has come to an end and i got myself burnt.
i am a 28yrs old married woman with kids. my marriage is like two consenting adults agreeing to live together in peace. i had my kids through CS, and my husband and i don't always have sex.... we have a time table for sex which is thrice in a year. of course i am okay with it. well so i thought.
...... So after my last child i started working. it felt like being single again. i met this man, we started talking and the man took me for an innocent young girl, because we always talk, am always where i say i am. never gave him doubts about me. for some strange reasons i accepted to have sex with him.
On the agreed day, before i left the office i was having waist pain. but i ignored it. during the act i was so shy and very uncomfortable, because of my sagged breast and stretch marks.
After the act, i stood up to go and clean up, i saw blood everywhere, i became scared. i started crying. the man was so sorry, pleading with me to take it easy. that he didn't know i was a virgin. but that was my RED CIRCLE for keepsake.
I became shocked, i noticed penetration wasn't so easy for him. but he later had his way. so why the virgin talk. he was just saying things and acting silly. he refused me to go home, after i strongly told him to let me go else he wont see me again. he asked to drop me off at my house. so i directed him to my aunt's house. we parted,he gave me a check of 250k. he started sending gifts to my aunt's house.
Since then i have fasted and forgave myself and faced my marriage. on 25th Dec my husband and i stepped out for a short outing and decided to buy ice cream for the kids. while we where waiting to be attended to, someone tapped my shoulder and i quickly frowned instantly and became aggressive.
When he noticed my husband, he excused himself and went out to his car, just when i thought God has saved me. the man came back with a ring box, knelt down asking me to marry him, that he was so sorry for taking away way my innocence, after i strive to keep it still now, that he hasn't been himself and all.
Stella Dear all this was happening in front of my husband, the man i had kids with, the man that dis-virgined me at the age of 22 and made me his wife..
I DIED A MILLION TIMES... So i denied... the man started spilling details. Mentioned how many times he has been to my aunts house to look for me... i kept denying.
Stella SINCE then till now my husband has not spoken to me.
On 31st DEC, my husband sent me a text which said >>>>>> ''you're an interesting woman and i'd like to know you better''.
Please DECODERS in the house what does it mean.. i am so worried that all i do is cry everyday.
OMG....You are in a lot of trouble...I think your husband believes him.Do you know if they have met and discussed without your knowledge?
That man you slept kept spilling as you kept denying?wow,Nemesis really caught up with you!
Why didnt you tell him you were married?..You are a dangerous woman oh!
I think at this point you should confess to your hubby and beg for forgiveness.start on a new sheet and tell him about your frustrations.I cannot think of anything else to tell you to do.Good luck!
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
DECISION TIME CONCERNING SERIAL CHEATER
Hi Stella, please do hide my email. Compliment of the season to you and all BV'S. I am an addict to your blog especially chronicle. I have typed my chronicle and almost sent it to you but changed my mind. I read everyone's and get little advice but today I feel it is time to actually send this and get your opinion and that of BVs. Please bare with me this is going to be long.
I met Patrick a year ago, we started talking, he told me he wasn't looking for a relationship so we both decided to be friends. Down the line one thing to another we had sex. We were both hiding our feelings but I later told him about mine and that he should tell me his unless we cut off the whole friendship charade because it won't work since we have crossed the line. He then later started treating me as his gf without the title. I insisted he either make it clear or stop treating me as hes gf but then act single. He said OK we should watch each other for 3 months and if all checks out we should then make it official. He ordered me to do the genotype test to make sure I am AA. We did the test I am AA he is AS.
I asked him why I had to so that he said because he told himself that the next relationship he goes into, he must marry the girl. So after we did our blood test and std test we made it official in Oct of 2014. I told him do not cheat on me and as human if you do please just sit me down and talk to me. Stella Noemberv we had a little fight and what do you know he cheated. I dont mean to brag but my instinct is on POINT.
I kept asking him he finally confessed that yes he cheated. I was mad I broke up with him. He kept begging and begging and followed me every where. I told myself OK its a new relationship let me give him a chance. We disagree just like any other couple, but each time we do the idiot goes off cheating. So in the course of 1 year and few months of relationship he has cheated on me 4 times.
One of the ladies I actually met at his house, we had a fight and he invited her over when I made a surprise visit she was there, both watching a movie, I ordered him to send her out and he did. I asked him ''did you sleep with her''?
he denied it for months. Then one day I asked him again to tell me the truth and he said yes he slept with her. I was so mad and then he confessed that there has been others. That those times we fight and I break up with him, he gets mad and that they only way to distract himself is to go with another lady.
When he made this confession Stella I was broken. I thought it was only that one time, he started again begging, that he doesn't want to loose me, bla bla bla. I am the love of his life and yes he has been awesome, asides cheating there is nothing else I can say is wrong. He's patient, nice, he does not abuse me in any way. Verbally or mentally, if I needed money he would give me but I usually dont ask. I have a job that pays me well. His family loves me, the only thing is I can't get over it.
I did forgive him after much begging, but occasionally the thought consumes me and I get moody and tell him I can't. Which he will of cos beg. Now what broke the camels toes was Christmas Eve, in one of our conversation he said he slept with one of the girls multiple times, and the first time they had sex we were not fighting, this information I did not have when I decided to take him back, but now that I know everything has changed and I told him I am done.
I can't do this anymore. I know I was stupid for staying the first time he cheated. I know I am stupid for taking him back after learning of the other people. But knowing few days ago that he did it multiple times with one of the girls and that on one occasion we where not fighting has changed a lot. I want to be done with him. Please advice me guys, how can I move on, everything says forgive him, and everything else says run. He hasn't cheated since then I know that. But the past still Haunt's me. Especially now that I know more. I just want to hear you guys, he claims I am the one and he won't stop and he won't give me up. That i changed him and made him a better man so he not going any where. Should I believe him guys? Sorry this is long but I had to spill my heart out to my family which is you guys. Thanks Stella. And please use your red pen too.
You made him a better person?HOW?????
I dont know what else to say other than you should watch this one well before you marry him.He seems to be a very weak man..Weak in the sense that his mind says no but his body says yes!
He will keep begging and keep crying for every time you catch him..do you wanna deal with this?can you handle it?
The choice is yours,this is 2016....