This is really really sad!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIAGE BLUES DUE TO AZOOSPERMIA.
Good day Stella, God bless you for the amazing ways you are touching lives.
Please dear I need advice from my fellow bvs. I am a 25 year old lady married to a 32 year old.
I met my husband in 2009 and we dated till we got married last year. All through our relationship I knew he had issues with his sperm (azoospermia) but i loved him regardless. He continued taking treatments and in 2011 his sperm count showed improvement.
My issue now is that we have been married for 9months without any result. After about 3months of our marriage, he went for a Lab test only for him to have no sperm count. He has been taking treatments since then but there hasn't been any positive result "even one". I love my husband a lot and aside this issue, i have no other problems with him.
I can't even show him that am sad cos he will start crying and blaming himself. Please is there any bv that have battled with this issue successfully? How did you do it? What steps do i need to take?
My husband is the only son and i really want to have his baby. Bvs please pardon my typos and help a sister.
I dont understand this no sperm thing....does it mean he doesnt reach Orgasm or what? or that when he does nothing comes out?Nothing as in nothing or water comes out?This is really sad,i am sure some answers will bring you relief but if its that bad,would the two of you consider using a sperm donor?..Just asking!
How sad!
ReplyDeletehian Stella @reach orgasm n nothing comes out or water comes out.go an read ur biology text book joor lol. Sperm and semen are 2 different things. Semen u can see with d naked eyes but Sperm cells can only be seen with d aid of a microscope. Yes he reaches orgasm n semen is released without any Sperm cells which are supposed to be swimming in it.
DeleteWe just thanked God on a TTC post and now a 25 year old is being told about a sperm donor.
DeleteHoney, wait on God. He'll make everything beautiful in its time. You're still too young for all these worrying. Don't you have a job? Get yourself occupied and encourage your hubby to do whatever the doctors have asked him to do. It's too early for such extremes.
Poster just give him time and believe in your heart that you will be a mother. You never can tell.
DeleteBut woman it's only been 9months... Be patient, at least he is seeking treatment... Work with him to continue treatment. He may need a higher dose...
DeleteAbove all, I have a Caucasian friend that her husband had this problem, oyinbo people don't keep things hidden the way we do... They eventually had to do IVF. Today they have twin boys...
Please quietly start saving for IVF as well just as backup. even if his sperm count increase it may not be significant enough to get pregnant due to mobility... With IVF you only need one...
But please you have only been married for 9months, chill enjoy your marriage, save money even if it's pennies, and in time it will sort itself out. People wait years for their children to come. Your husband already has the right attitude seeking treatments, stand by him.
Please don't forget to come back and give your testimony when the time comes
Madam...don't be deceived, u guys should get a donor. Azoospermia means no sperm cells at all. Just don't tell your problem to family relatives and close friends, let it be your little family secret,get a donor and birth a child ASAP. Maybe your husband suffered from some diseases years back that burnt his testes, hence killed the factory of sperm cells. Like gonorrhea and co.
DeleteJust saying, I don't know what caused his.
At this stage, all i can say is HOPE ON GOD. Buy praise and worship CDs and praise God like your have never ever done in your life. Thank him for the miracle babies he will bless you with and above all, have FAITH in God.
DeleteTrust me nne, he is a God of wonders.
It is well and congrats in advance.
Stella, u talking semen.. the white thingy we all see like 'akamu' is the semen.. the one in d semen that can only be seen with the aid of a microscope is the sperm..
Delete@Poster, IVF pls!!!
If ur husband is azospermia, there is little or nothing that could be done depending on the cause, ur Dr should be able to do a hormonal profile for him to know if there is sperm production at all, if there is, then there may be blockage (which surgery should resolve), but where the testis does not produce any sperm cell (that's total azospermia), ur only alternative will be to look for a sperm donor n go for ivf, adoption is another way and ofcourse God is the master planner and there is nothing difficult for him.u have to bear in mind that the primary reason for marriage is for companionship so enjoy ur spouse.
DeleteThought Chronicles box was empty???
ReplyDelete*was* past tense mumu.
DeleteNigerians and backwardness..So if he wasn't the only son u wouldn't mind being childless...smh..Girls are equally important as women. ..Haba...A friend of mine who had low sperm count, impregnated his wife last year. ..Have faith
DeleteU sure say na e get pikin...😜
DeleteMy dear,low sperm is different from NO SPERM .My husband has the same issues and unlike yours, He does not have the right attitude.we have been married for 6 years yet he is very relaxed abt d situation .To see doctors,wahala!!.I am so oo fed up and almost moved out but for the intervention of pastors in church who believe God still does wonder
DeleteI think you guys should get a sperm donor. That's the only solution.
ReplyDeleteOuch! Send me a message and lets talk anonymously. I may be able to assist u.
DeleteHi dear.please Can we talk as well. My husband has got the same conditions.
DeleteUr best shot is ivf with TESE to get d sperm if there's improvement after treatment.
ReplyDeleteThat's true, the active sperm cell will be captured. Stella I'm really surprised you're asking this question, semen is the liquid that is released and the sperm cells are supposed to be in it.
DeleteIt is well with you poster.
ReplyDeleteThe Lord is ur strength poster. Love conquers all, u n ur hubby need to b strong for each oda. Inugo.
ReplyDeleteUr testimony of conception will b among d 100 to b shared on ds blog ds year. Cheers.
Amen
DeleteAmen...
DeleteAmen
DeleteStunning lady you are wonderful. I love your answer. I am on the train reading this and I am saying Amen. It is well my dear. You are a mother already. NA
DeleteThe Lord is ur strength poster. Love conquers all, u n ur hubby need to b strong for each oda. Inugo.
ReplyDeleteUr testimony of conception will b among d 100 to b shared on ds blog ds year. Cheers.
Mumu love, u knew he had no sperm yet u married him, if u were the one dat had no womb, wud he ve married u, deal with ur ish cos I don't ve any advice for you, u did not ask for our before u married him so u are on ur own.
ReplyDeleteI know a man who married his woman, even after knowing she wouldn't conceive...... Although the girls dad has mad money sha.
DeleteThat he might not do it if the case was reversed,does not mean that she should be like him.
DeleteHello poster,I don't know what made you marry him despite what you know, again take your time and search your heart,deep down there,you will find your answer.
I know of a pastor who married a young lady who lost her womb as a result of the abortion she had, he married her despite knowing that she has no womb. Yes,there were storms,he almost gave up on her but he remembered the God he serves and who he believes is with him and His promises. He became strengthened,shortly after that,his wife who has no womb was confirmed pregnant and now they have four children.
You married this man out of love please don't break his heart. He did not hide his problem from you,please don't leave him or cheat on him. The path may be long and rough but you will get to a beautiful palace at the end.Add God and His words to your love and it won't be long anymore for your children to surround your table.
I will be praying for you my dear.
Like seriously. I'm with you 1000%. She KNEW. Not like she didn't know. Why didn't he start treatment since?! Why are you now complaining because you obviously knew the meaning and you obviously knew there's a 95% chance you won't be able to have his children. Love blinded you and now you're coming to cry here. Go seek help in silence.
DeleteWhat's all this?! Mscheeeeeeeew.
Ah!!! U are so STUPID!!!
DeleteMay u never find love idiot. Bitter soul, selfish devil
The fear of remaining single can make girls of these days to do anything to be called madam. But I think it's different with this poster because she married for love. I don't think all hope is lost. If you guys have money, I think you should try the IVF thing. It might work. I wish you all the best and I hope you come out victorious. I love love jare.
DeleteIt is your type that falls into wrong hands on singles and mingles.
DeleteMay you continue to fall into wrong hands; fool.
@poster God is able and he is alive. Take it to him in prayers
@angelray, trudat!
DeleteI don't think the guy will do same if he's in her shoes. Women are so desperate to get married this days that they will rather settle with any man they can lay hands on than stay single!
You knew your husband was having sure problem and you went further to marry him, if you were to be the problem, would he have done sure. My dear I don't know what to advice. Am not impress, solve your problem yourself.
ReplyDeleteThere was a significant improvement in his medical condition, she didn't want to throw away the baby with the bath water.
DeleteI think I've read this chronicle before. Madam only thing you guys can do is pray and then go to all doctors you can afford. Something positive will happen. You're a good woman though. If it was you who couldn't conceive your husband woukd probably have made your life living hell. If not him, his family will. Then he will go and get a woman pregnant outside. That's men for you. You're a good woman. Your husband is lucky to have you
ReplyDeleteIt was IHD dt sum 1 complained of her hubby having azoospermia
DeleteGod will do a new thing poster,just believe, it's situation my look bad,but love will conquer cos God is love
ReplyDeleteThe doctor is your friend, tell it to them and jesus.
ReplyDeleteGod will do a new thing poster,just believe, it's situation my look bad,but love will conquer cos God is love
ReplyDeleteStella some men dey cum without sperm/liquid showing . Y some liquid na just water. Please madam stick by him if he's rich and keep enjoying is money before miracle happen. #myopinion
ReplyDeleteMoney can't buy happiness or peace of mind.
DeleteDo children do?
DeleteAdopt
ReplyDeleteShe shouldn't adopt oh, i wouldn't advice that.... Adopted babies de sabi misbehave, courtsey of their biological parents that abandoned them and ran away, she should find a donor, at least her traits will be in there.
Deleteè easy?
DeleteHe reaches orgasm but can't impregnate a woman. Eyah, madam, join the women doing TTC prayers and believe God for a miracle
ReplyDeleteAwwwww...so sorry poster, I pray you find answers..bless your heart.
ReplyDeletehmm low sperm count! with an only son! serious ish. now embrace God .
ReplyDeleteMadam maybe you should go and gbensh any of ex dat is tall, handsome and intelligent skin to skin. But do not tell him ur problem. So he will not attempt to claim the child in the future.
ReplyDelete*ur ex
DeleteJames, na real agbaya you be! Haba kai!!
DeleteI have been reading this guy's comments nd am so embittered at the annoying utterances you vomit. Must you comment on every post? Abeg if your unemployed ass is tired of sitting get something doing. Your mates are earning intelligent awards n d world only uses n dumps your kind of people. Hug a future bro.
Delete@venessa,must all of us earn intelligent awards?
DeleteHow many hv u earned? Are you not a human being? OK. Are you a baby?
Pls think with ur brain and not with ur wet Toto.
Lol.. I don't take his comment serious, I think he's just having fun..lol
DeleteOne problem with sperm donor usage is dat you will not no if the donor is a yeye person
ReplyDeleteJust like you
DeleteJust like u abi!!!! Kikiki Yames 'in calabar accent', u no go kill person for ds blog.
Delete...Yeye person like you abi
DeleteIdiotic sombori
Like make person go collect sperm from coconut head like you.
DeleteLike make person go collect sperm from coconut head like you.
DeleteYour thinking is so distorted James. See how you are vomiting everywhere. I pity who hate you biko.
DeleteWow.. The medical practitioners here should be able to help this
ReplyDeleteEyaa post talk to God concerning it, an sure he knows what to do, he will be fine ok
ReplyDeleteAzospermia means no sperm cells, if it was oligo spermia now there might be hope! Madam don't be deceived o there's no treatment that can bring out any sperm cells as long as its azospermia! Stella the semen looks normal but its only under the microscope that u can see the sperm cells! Good luck madam.
ReplyDeleteHonimumi
In this case you CANT SEE ANYTHING.
DeleteChai...
DeleteWith God nothing is impossible.... Jst be patient and keep Praying... He will surely do it dear. Be strong
DeleteLol..madam Stella during ejaculation what comes out is seminal fluid which consist of sperm cells and seminal fluid.so during orgasm something must come out but whether that fluid has viable sperm cells in it is another story. To the poster its a really tough situation where only PRAYERS AND HOPE can help.medically much may not be achieved except the cause can be traced but if its inborn or genetic then its not likely much will be achieve medically. Sincerely I feel your plight, a donor is the best bet for now.keep it between you guys
ReplyDeleteMadam, some folks have passed through worse things. Offer a home to orphans; adopt one and see Jesus work wonders. You will have your own kids and that orphan knows no mommy but you.
ReplyDeleteYes anon 15:23 it does wonders. God somtimes uses adopted children to open the way for some women, if after a year of trying. U and ur hubby shld look into adopting a child. I hv heard of a family who had bin TTC for 14 yrs. they adopted a daughter. 2 years later the mother took in and gave birth to her own. If dey don't tell u she adopted d child u won't knw. So look @ this option too
Deletesorry dear, this is truly sad. May God see you and your husband through.
ReplyDeleteOffer love to a homeless child and see Jesus work in your situation. That is what will open the floodgates in this situation.
ReplyDeleteSince with his medication his sperm count once showed an improvement, let him explore stronger meds then when it improves, try IVF.
ReplyDeleteOr, like Stella said, try a sperm donor, an unknown one though, to avoid stories in future.
Above all, never forget the power of prayers.
Good men are hard to find and though children are important, God instituted marriage primarily for companionship, since he's a good man, explore all options, may God grant you your heart desire.
Goodluck.
SHARONNA
Its well with u madam, just adopt if u love ur husband.
ReplyDeleteSo Stella, you don't know the difference between sperm and semen?
ReplyDeleteSemen contains sperm. It is the sperm that swims and fertilises the egg.
In this poster's case (from what she had said), the husband does reach orgasm and ejaculates semen, but with low or no sperm count.
Menn! It is well.
ReplyDeleteWell I don't think our opinions ll help very much but all the same you are a very nice and understanding somevborry
ReplyDeleteDon't change!
Maybe he should join ttc prayers, both of you
And if at the end, its not working, you people should consider ANONYMOUS sperm donor.
Not brother o nor friend
A complete stranger with favorable profile
Good luck
I will volunteer for free through the natural method on a serious note poster.
DeleteI think he does reach orgasm,just that the sperm can't fertilise an egg.Not sure though.Just my thinking.But how do you go ahead to marry someone you know has such a problem though?Nawa o.
ReplyDeleteWow... This is the time he needs you most Babe. You knew he had this challenge yet still stood by him, this is not the time to back out... Your breed is rare.
ReplyDeleteIf you don't know, the issue eats him deeper and harder than you can imagine, and you may be his only source of hope and life you know.
There's nothing that's impossible medically, and spiritually... He needs you more than anything else to cross this bridge...and believe me; you both are gonna cross it
First of all madam I will like for you to put your sorrows in God's hand,he is the only healer and then please read online about this condition...You may find answers there and then please see a fertility expert..Thank you
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteGod is your muscle
@poster, u should gbensh any man u like his qualities using condom. After he don pour. U will remove the condom and clean him up by yourself You can use the sperms to have ur child
ReplyDeleteJames if i slap you eh, with this eye advice.
DeleteYou this idiot this is the 3rd or 4th time your commenting on a single post and I can see you are senseless and jobless. Advicing someone's wife to commit adultery now if you ever get lucky to marry would you advice your wife this way if you are in ds situation? Idiot.
DeleteYeye
DeleteHahahahahahaha James u no go kill person for this blog, poster follow James advice oh, go and gbensh ur ex..
DeleteYou talked Rubbish. This is serious issue. Haba!
DeleteDis child james.. shut up now haha. U keep saying nonsense. Wtf
DeleteMadam poster...come 2 my church and your problem will b solve.
DeleteOur GOD is too faithful to fail.
Werey leleyi o
DeleteClean 'him' up.. shey sperm je gegebi eyan ni?
Olodo oshi
Kikikikikiki! James is just a fowl.
DeleteSorry bout ur plight lady, the fact that ure so young to bare this burden in secret breaks my heart. You must sure love ur man, to know bout his shortcomings & stick with him to see it through, i applaud that.
ReplyDeleteGiven that ur DH is the only child of his parents, brings me to my conclusion that his case may just be hereditary, in that case eating nutrient dense whole food diet will do him alot of good, and improve his chances for his semem to contain healthy sperm ready for fertilization. Another type of azoospermia is the Obstructive one, in this case he may be able to be treated with surgery to remove the blockage, no fear, na small procedure. Another thing is most azoospermia patients are fat (in james voice).... He should exercise & work on that also, try not to scare him, it is well *hugs*
Bear*
DeleteSemen*.....
Side eyes to Oxford scholars.
But if the tables were turned I'm sure he would not have married you.
ReplyDeleteYou were a fool inlove
May God see you through
Mumu na you go turn the table! Bitter soul
DeleteSome people will just come and give us heart attack,aunty poster e joo did you know all this before getting married to him?if yes,my dear the Lord is your strength,that your husband must be super-rich o;hope no be oshi lee fii sewoo laro kutukutu aye yii bayi?make una find correct fertility clinic gone e joo.Azoospermia loun loun ,Barka llahu fii o.i kuku never marry,I'm almost there sha.i'd pray for u to find your way sha.
ReplyDeleteSorry dear,if his family is bothers you about not being able to concieve,tell them its their son's fault.
ReplyDeleteTake your husband to another hospital or try native medicine(it works too).
If after 3 years he still can't impregnate you,give him two options;
To allow you get pregnant by any man of your choice or both of you should go your seperate ways.
Am sure that if you were the cause,he would have either kicked you out or marry another woman!
1st of all she knew his condition before deciding to marry him. Also madam not any man of ur choice but any man of his choice or u use a sperm donor wch i prefer. But I browsed on it just now and since u said dere has bin some improvement before dere is still a likely chance for him to gv u babies. So just b patient and pray for some improvement. God wld see u both through. Also try and open ur mind to the fact dt u may adopt ur kids or use a sperm donor. U cannot pressurize him or make him feel bad since u knew his condition right from time. May God gv u a miracle ,in Jesus name.
DeleteMy dear...There's Solution. I would advise u to go abroad if u can. My ex had the same problem. Watery sperm. It took him two years to have child with good docs. And also Pray cuz there's nothing God cannot do.
ReplyDeleteIm not saying ignore science,but Please go to winners chapel, any branch of living faith closest to you will do,and if ure in lagos,pls go to canaanland and take the communion every Wednesdays,try this with your husband,also try buying bishop David oyedepos book, power of the communion table,and just believe.makes no sense losing ur peace,joy and marriage over something Jesus already settled on the cross. May this odd turn in ur favor.I wish you God's best for you.
ReplyDeleteBut there are a lot of Winners members trying to conceive. So what's the efficacy of this suggestion?
DeleteGOD works out things in HIS time. It is not only at one place one stands to watch the masquerede.
Its like someone who had a vasectomy. What comes out can't fertilize an egg
ReplyDeleteIt can be cured medically. Have faith in God. Join TTC prayers. Miracles will come your way.
ReplyDeleteMadam, since u knew before marriage, keep trying with him and enjoy the money. I'm sure if he were not rich, u would have have dumped his sorry ass. You felt money would get him the right treatment to improve his condition.
ReplyDeletePoster, the lord will see I thru. Just trust in him.
ReplyDeleteJust here to read comments
ReplyDeleteYou met your husband 2009 and you got married in 2016 that means you were 18 when you met him. Anyway, my advise for you and your husband is to seek the face of God. Nothing He can't do and no sickness He can't cure.
ReplyDeleteSo what is the essence of this your calculation now?
DeleteMadam, since u knew before marriage, keep trying with him and enjoy the money. I'm sure if he were not rich, u would have have dumped his sorry ass. You felt money would get him the right treatment to improve his condition.
ReplyDeleteSo you two knew about his medical issue before marriage, what plans were put in place? isn't this what couples discuss before tying the knots? Anyway, since you're an understanding wife, you should make alternative plans, adoption, sperm donor etc. It doesn't stop you from still trying to conceive the natural way, you just need to be realistic and open to real solutions.
ReplyDeleteTying the nuts. Thank me later.
DeleteTying the nuts. Thank me later.
DeleteTeacher don't teach me nonsense. 'Tying the knot' as in getting married;not 'nuts'!!!!
DeleteI know a place u can get help. U can give me a call if u like. 08074795419
ReplyDeleteThis is a case that I find so sensitive as this poster sounded like myself almost 13 years back when I newly got married.
ReplyDeleteI met hubby and we got married two years later.
Prior to going to the doctors I too have never heard of the medical condition call Azoospermia meaning Zero sperm count.
without mincing words, you can chose out of the following four options,
1- Keep praying for a miracle( Even tho I and hubby are yet to receive from God) I still believe that with God all things are possible.
2- Adopt a child, It will make the pain bearable. The earlier the better as the approval can take years in Naija. ( I and hubby finally adopted a baby boy last year after lots of arguments. He finally agreed to the adoption when I threaten him with DIVORCE and wanted to go solo with it.
3- Use a sperm donor.( Hubby didn't agree to this . I on my own went for IUI using sperm donor but lost the pregnancy due to a lot of stress. It caused a lot of friction between us and resentment against him because of his attitude( African/Nigerian mentality though I know it was not easy for him too)
4- Leave him if you know you cannot cope cos believe me its not easy at all speaking from my experience in these past years.
When my hubby finally decided to support the use of a donor sperm, I was given the shocking news that I had a big fibroid that has cause a deviation to the womb. I don't know how true it is but was told it's probably developed as a result of no pregnancy over the years and advance in age( I will be 40 in a no of weeks)
Would I have done things differently? a big yes. I wouldn't have waited this long to start trying because believe it or not a woman's body or biological clock is real and ticking fast.
Today I and hubby are still together only by God's special grace. He is a good person but as human being had his fault. Trust me if he is one of these horrible men we read about these days I would have left him ages ago. I can't help but feel sad for the unfortunate situation we found ourselves in. Even his family had the bravery to tell me they will show me pepper during the heights of it all, till date we are just cordial to one another no closeness. My hubby has not even informed them we now have a son.
This is just about 1% of all I've been trough so above all pray, pray to God for direction. One can never overpray but we can't afford to underpray.
Yours is the most insightful response to this post I swear. God bless you.
DeleteYou are a very strong woman, God will still surprise you!
DeleteThis is a case that I find so sensitive as this poster sounded like myself almost 13 years back when I newly got married.
ReplyDeleteI met hubby and we got married two years later.
Prior to going to the doctors I too have never heard of the medical condition call Azoospermia meaning Zero sperm count.
without mincing words, you can chose out of the following four options,
1- Keep praying for a miracle( Even tho I and hubby are yet to receive from God) I still believe that with God all things are possible.
2- Adopt a child, It will make the pain bearable. The earlier the better as the approval can take years in Naija. ( I and hubby finally adopted a baby boy last year after lots of arguments. He finally agreed to the adoption when I threaten him with DIVORCE and wanted to go solo with it.
3- Use a sperm donor.( Hubby didn't agree to this . I on my own went for IUI using sperm donor but lost the pregnancy due to a lot of stress. It caused a lot of friction between us and resentment against him because of his attitude( African/Nigerian mentality though I know it was not easy for him too)
4- Leave him if you know you cannot cope cos believe me its not easy at all speaking from my experience in these past years.
When my hubby finally decided to support the use of a donor sperm, I was given the shocking news that I had a big fibroid that has cause a deviation to the womb. I don't know how true it is but was told it's probably developed as a result of no pregnancy over the years and advance in age( I will be 40 in a no of weeks)
Would I have done things differently? a big yes. I wouldn't have waited this long to start trying because believe it or not a woman's body or biological clock is real and ticking fast.
Today I and hubby are still together only by God's special grace. He is a good person but as human being had his fault. Trust me if he is one of these horrible men we read about these days I would have left him ages ago. I can't help but feel sad for the unfortunate situation we found ourselves in. Even his family had the bravery to tell me they will show me pepper during the heights of it all, till date we are just cordial to one another no closeness. My hubby has not even informed them we now have a son.
This is just about 1% of all I've been trough so above all pray, pray to God for direction. One can never overpray but we can't afford to underpray.
Wow madam u r strong. Are u sure this poster shldnt contact u personally through Stella or mail. U wld be able to gv her and her husband very good counsel since u hv experienced this 1st hand. God wld do it for u ma.
Delete@anon 16:36, Wow. It is well with your home IJN.
DeletePoster, try confirming in another hospital if your husband own is obstructive or nonobstructive azoospermia, with that you will know if there's treatment or if he will undergo sperm retrieval method and you use assisted reproductive technology to conceive. But most importantly, don't fail to join in the TTC prayers, our God works in a different dimension, if only you and husby will have a little faith. Be STRONG AND MORE COURAGEOUS.
ReplyDeleteMadam azoospermia is not the end of the world and it doesn't mean sterility. Now, since his sperm count showed improvement in 2011, it means his case is non-obstructive azoospermia. This is harder to treat than obstructive, but it is still treatable nonetheless. However, for better chances of conception, you guys might be looking to do IVF or IUI or other methods that extracts sperm cells directly and fuses it with the egg. I know children are expected in marriage, but you didn't marry your husband for children. If all these methods fail, both of you could look into adoption. Don't try that anonymous sperm donor crap or sleeping with a random unsuspecting guys or exes. Trust me, you'll regret it. Women that do those things always regret it. It might seem sweet in the beginning, then something happens and things fall apart, literally. I have been in the fertitility journey with lots of women so I know what goes on and the end result.
ReplyDeleteAlso pray! You both are still young, there's still ample time to save for assisted reproduction. Enjoy your child free life and use this challenging period to bond and become closer. I married at 23, had my first biological child 39. I and my husband already adopted two children and closed the having child chapter. At 39, I magically became pregnant. Mind you, we had seen every fertitility specialist and expert in every developed country. They all said they couldn't find anything wrong with either of us. My point is that God gives children, ask him for yours. Don't be desperate and do God's duty for him. I love all my children immensely. Right now, it's the ones I gave birth to that are giving me wahala. They never behave themselves.My first two have been nothing but a blessing. My husband and I can never trade them for the world.
This is sad, I hate such news. Na wa oooh some men will be giving gals belle any how and making them abort it. I no one who got gals pregnant and made dem abort it 8times yet others cant get dia wives pregnant. not even av once. It ain't fair mhen.
ReplyDeleteNigerians and backwardness..So if he wasn't like only son u wouldn't mind being childless...smh..Girls are equally important as women. ..Haba...A friend of mine who had low spermicide count, impregnated his wife last year. ..Have faith
ReplyDeletePoster there is nothing impossible for God to do. Forget all the condemnations some idiots have been posting. I won't judge you. You ahve your reasons for going ahead with the marriage. As you walk this stormy road, never let your trust in God waiver. Wake up at night and sing praises to God. Even if you don't pray even if you want to cry out your eyes but sing praises to God from your heart and then go to sleep. You can do it for 7days, 21days or as the spirit leads. After that believe in your heart that God has heard you. Worry about nothing. Keep encouraging your husband and God will surprise you. You will come back here with a testimony
ReplyDeleteyou make sense Jess.thanks
Deleteso ok cos of this poster i just went to read and do my research.there are two types of azoospermia
ReplyDeleteobstructive and non -obstructive.
obstructive is when the fertilizable sperm is locked in the testicle and doesn't come up towards the ejaculate to fertilize the eggs
and non obstructive is when there is just no viable sperm at all. in advanced countries, they both can be cured, the percentage is NOT very high, but it can be done.
if its obstructive there is a chance that viable sperm can be removed from the testicle and then used for ivf to fertilize the woman and in the non obstructive there are treatments that can be done as well.
now i found this link which am going to post below.
http://theturekclinic.com/services/male-fertility-infertility-doctor-treatments-issues-zero-sperm-count-male-doctors/azoospermia-sample-causes-no-sperm-count-success-stories/
check out the doctor and if possible get in touch with him. in this part of the world sometimes when u have a case that u feel is hopeless, doctors take it on as a challenge and in some cases you may end up being treated for FREE.you will have to do a lot of research reading calling and asking questions.
remember that God also said that if you have faith even as small as a mustard seed then he will surprise you. so while u pursue medical methods also commit your journey into the hands of God and i am sure that he will see you through.
please do not listen to people saying if it was you, it is not you and you decided to stand by your husband and i personally applaud you for that. when u start to worry, read phil 4:6. i will be praying for you and i cant wait for you to come and testify. GOD BLESS YOU .
I think u need to discuss with ur husband so that both of u can get a good fertility clinic (a lot on the island ;Trucare or Omni medical centres).
ReplyDeleteProper treatment will be given and intrauterine insemination can be done immediately sperm counts improve.
In addition, keep praying and God will answer your prayer.
I'm a Royal priesthood.
dear poster you and yours need to be at the healing school only God can sought you out
ReplyDeletePoster,you shoundt give up hope cos you agreed to marry him knowing fully well his condition. it's a big risk you took and I can only hope that God smiles at you soonest.
ReplyDeleteMy best best for him is to go through the IVF route. There is a procedure called icsi where the sperm is collected directly from the testicle. Maybe you guys should give it a try.
D lord is ur strength
ReplyDeleteDear poster u do not have a problem, u suffer from an excusable ignorance.
ReplyDeleteU have lots of options but first u need to visit a fertility clinic ASAP! U are still young, remember a woman's fertility declines naturally with age.
First option is the use of a donor sperm for IUI. What happens here is that u are given drugs to grow ur oocyte (egg), once the egg is mature, u are given an injection to cause u to ovulate then the prepared donor sperm is deposited into your womb. The perquisites for IUI is age and open fallopian tubes.
Secondly you can do TESA and IVF. What happens here is that the doctor goes to ur husband's testes and collect some testicular tissue, then check if he has spermatozoa in d testes. If he has, the spermatozoa are used to fertilize ur eggs in the laboratory. The embryo is then returned to your womb and expected to grow.in the case of TESA, if there's no sperm found in the testes then he has to resort to donor sperm.in IVF ur eggs are grown and then extracted out of ur body so u do not need ur fallopian tubes.
U don't need to worry ur head about the donor cos these fertility clinics provide u with d donors which are anonymous and u are also anonymous to them too.
Ps : Stella azoospermia simply means no sperm cell in d ejaculate. Men with azoospermia can have normal ejaculation, and normal sexual intercourse. Azoospermia can be caused by poorly treated STIs,childhood mumps, undescended testes, testicular torsion, groin surgery or genetics
Hmmm! God help me..Am 30 years old, single not married..Am a victim of Azoospermia..but currently on treatment for six months of N280k..I decided to start dis treatment despite my low salary of N40k monthly..The doctor said it's 50/50 treatment..The comments abt the wife knwing the husband condition and agreeing to marry him scares me. Dat means I have to keep dis a secret and do a sperm donor witout my wife knwoing..dats d doctor advice..Even sacred of getting married..God help me.
ReplyDeleteI wish you good luck but,those medicines are not very reliable, I wish you can go for herbs like my hubby did,its really working for him
DeleteI wish you good luck but,those medicines are not very reliable, I wish you can go for herbs like my hubby did,its really working for him
DeleteDoctor Jesus will help you fix it....call on Him,it is well with you
ReplyDeleteStella daft since 1900
ReplyDeletePLEASE.
ReplyDeleteTELL HIS MOTHER and FATHER SO THAT THE DON'T BLAME YOU FOR HIS CHILDLESSNESS.
Poster just hold on to Gods word. You will definitely carry your babies. Google cissus populnea and the benefits on sperm count. It increases sperm count (if your husband has no obstruction). It's called afato or ogbolo (Yoruba). Grind the stick... Mix a cup of the afato powder with 3 cups of water. Leave for a day then mix throughly with undiluted honey. Store in the fridge. He should drink this twice daily (half a glass) and after 4 weeks you can do a test to confirm any improvement. I got this off TTC Nairaland. Maybe you can try this before going the IVF or sperm donor route.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is taking supplements and will start to drink this soon and I'm only looking forward to good reports. Be strong and hold on. It will end in praise.
My dear sister. I knew of cases when i worked in the clinic that even with treatment there was little or no improvement. There is no doubt that the situation appears bad but if you loved him well enough to marry him then you need to be patient and pray. I believe in the power of prayer. Women without womb carry babies to full term and deliver then why won't your hubby get you pregnant eventually. I hate all the negativity here. If you put your trust in God and pray you will have as many kids as you want and doctors will still not be able to explain it. Get back to God because at the end of the day we are spiritual beings and the physical is controlled by the spiritual. Stop talking to people who are already sad and angry and will only make you feel low. I do not know you but i will hold my children's hand and pray for you continually. You will testify in this place.
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