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Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

Hmmm *sigh*







STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LONG DISTANCE RELATION -ISH

Dear   Stella,

I read your blog several times a day. It is interesting and very real. Please allow me to delve in.

I am a 31 year old guy, currently living in the UK, double UK masters degree holder, earning 7 figures annually in naira lol.

 In summary i am not doing badly by Gods grace. I met my girl in January 2012 while working in a telecoms company in Nigeria. I was 27 and she just turned 23. We were hi and hello friends, because we were both in serious relationships. 

It happened to be that my ex (3.5 years relationship) cheated with a 'just a friend'' (she was a student in a different city) i found out and walked, while her ex got another girl (his tribal girl) pregnant, my gf found out, was devastated and broke up with him.

Theirs was a long term relationship as well.  

During the period that followed, i wasn't interested in any relationship and just focused on my career, while lots of girls came around, i made it clear that i did not want anything serious. My GF and i used to trade stories and just chat about how we were both doing post break up and after 3 months of being confidants we just clicked, made it official and started dating.


In the weeks that followed i dropped every single post break up fling i had. I am not one to lead girls on.

So our relationship started, 8 months later i left for the UK for my 1st MSc, my girl just finished poly and i worked on getting her a Direct Entry into Uni which she said was what she wanted. Though i was far away, i did my best to make my present felt, i handled all and every bill she had, rent, furnished apartment, monthly upkeep and called several times a day everyday for 1 year.

 I also did not sleep with anybody while abroad. You see,Stella i did not plan to do the celibacy thing, its not like i didnt meet ladies, i met so, so many of them, white, black and they were willing, i have never had a problem getting close to ladies, but the truth is they weren't her. 

I know this sounds crazy but from a guy who used to be something of a ladies man i just no wan do again. 

15 months in total of no sex.

 I remember when i was leaving naija , she tearfully asked me if this was the end and i told her trust me K, i will come back and marry you. I was her 1st don't know if i'm her only right now. Also she got pregnant just before i left but we had to have an abortion because i was leaving in 2 weeks and it would have been to hard for her to deal with alone (that was the saddest day of my life) and we have since decided if it ever happened again we would keep it. 


Then i returned to naija last year for 8 months and as usual when i am around we were inseparable, did everything together, my family got to know her and although my parents had initial reservations (different tribes and socioeconomic background) my parents warmed up to her solely because of my persistence that i wasn't interested in anybody else.

I had to leave again for a year last August, but before i did i made sure i met her dad and made my intentions known sort of unofficially. That was my 2nd time meeting him, the 1st time he wasn't too polite (went to her house in the evening after work, we sat in my car talking and got carried away till late, he came back from trips and met us there lol. it was embarrassing). 

This time around we spoke like men and he even calls me a few times from naija     

Now the issue is this, sometime in January i found out that my girl had been getting close to a certain guy, they had been talking for months and i had no idea, truth is because of the distance we operate a no secrets no lies policy, it helps with the trust, she lives in the apartment i got with her male cousin in the same uni, before i left we both agreed that she wouldnt be allowing guys.

 Truth is she in Uni and she is a beautiful girl and i understand she will have admirers ,that is normal. I was devastated because i found out that not only had they been talking, the said guy and her had been hanging out and he had been coming over.

 This was the 2nd time such would be happening and 1st time was a different guy. I recently caught her in so many lies all bordering around the same thing that i am now  so confused. 

she claims she isnt lying until i hit her with evidence then its the cycle again, crying, swearing they are only friends and she doesnt do anything with them and i am just overreacting. It all got to a head recently and i spoke to her parents about it, that these recent behavior gives me concern (abruptly dropping calls, not picking calls late at night, hanging out till late). 

Her dad spoke to her and told me he is certain nothings going on and she assured him that these people are just her friend. 

The thing is i cant tell anyone about this, i have ignored and still ignore so many beautiful, smart and loving young ladies because of this girl, i don't know what to do. 3 and a half years seems wasted, not to talk of my energy and resources i put into this lady. I was gonna propose in 2 months, this is someone i felt i knew, but now i dont know if i do, each time i remember how she lies with ease and blames it on being scared of how i would react.

 To think that she was hanging out with someone for 3 months and i didnt even know. Can we ever know a person?
Even if i start all over would it not be the same thing. I cant tell my folks because they just warmed up to her and now mum teases me about her every time we talk.

 I cant tell my friends, because they all advised me that student, Corps members and long distance relationships are a no no. i figured she is 27 so she should be mature. 

Please i need your red biro, and BVs wisdom. I am so confused. should i walk away or should i wait till i get back?.  



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    1. Long distance relationships? Kolewerk. Forget her and come to me... I will love your sorrows away.

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    2. Sorry bro,

      Na you be the maga! And you dey pay on pounds. Lol. You dey wash car, another fella they drive. Sad....

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    3. You are simply over reacting, insecurity is ur problem,enjoy ur relationship,and leave looking for evidence to throw her away,...if she is cheating, she will do that without talking to any guy,..please rest ur mind and come marry her,stop giving urself hbp

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    4. Sorry poster but red biro haff finished.
      oga, if u wanna be a faithful bf, be faithful. You make it sound likes its punishment and you are being forced.
      Well am sure u had imagined this will happen cos dating a youbg student comes with its own wahala.

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    5. Abeg, marry her! Give her belle and chase the flies away!!
      There is a possibility that they could just be friends. Or she's just flirting (which is bad). But marry her and give her belle.
      My imemdiate senior was like this. Very beautiful (honestly) her husband was worries about all the flies hovering around. But I tell u, the next birthday after he engaged her not even ONE PHONE CALL to say 'happy birthday' from those flies. This is someone that will have cakes flooding in like drones. My parents used it to form dong for her that day ehn 😂 And even she was like 'is this how a woman's life is?' Cos she was very hot.

      Engage her, make your engagement public. Then marry her and give her belle. Even she won't have energy for yeye guys. And she will give you 101% attention.

      Also, are you very clingy? I've talked about an ex I had years back on this blog. That threw my phone down 7 floors in dxb. Lolol. He was 'too good to be true'. There was nothing I wanted that I didn't have. But I had a problem with him? Overreacting and over protection. Very rich guy, but very dry. Lol. Doesn't go out, have friends or anything. All he does is work. 247 he's at home. Nothing excites him (except me). So if I go out with my friends for girls night out, trouble. A male colleague visits me, trouble. My car won't start a male colleague gives me a lift, trouble. I chat with a friend he hasn't heard of before, trouble. Then he starts accusing me of cheating. In that anger I start crying and getting dramatic. Cos he won't even let me say anything. He won't listen!! Even his younger bro who is married go be like 'bros nothing dey this matter nau!' Yet, he won't hear. But I never lacked anything. He spoilt me silly. And will profess love till thy kingdom come.

      I'm a free spirit. I have male friends and female friends. But I don't like being caged. I like frequent communication but you lose me if you try to put me in a box and set rules. So I left. I was DAMN faithful and my male friends respect me die! But the trauma of accusations was too much for guys That see me as a fellow guy sef and not a girl. New bf understands this and even though he doesn't have as much as ex, I find that I'm happier.

      So make a choice. Put cart before horse. You wanna lay the rules, marry first. Don't be laying rules for gf or 'almost wife'. Tell her how you feel and hear her side of the story. You may be overreacting. Also, you can Investigate if you need to be sure. If coast is clear, do the needful sharply. Good luck!!

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    6. My brother, you are a mugun. With all your education, you still don't know what is going on? Who still train a lady up to university level this 21st century? May God help you as i can't advice you.

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    7. No she isn't just friends with these guys or else she won't be lying about it. It's actually that simple. And no it has nothing to do with distance or massive admiration from guys. There will always be distance and there will always be guys. An honest person is an honest person and one who isn't will always explain. Simple as that. Am a pragmatic person and we always tend to complicate things that are not. We court each other to know each other better and when we do, we become confused. Having said these, the truth is it comes down to what you can deal with. Love or trust, which is more important to you as a person? Knowing what you know, can u deal? Ur question to answer mister. I was in tis situation a few years ago and I chose love and gave her the benefit of doubt and there was a sequel, as is often the case, then I just walked and now I am proud I did cos am with a far more honest person. Time and resources spent are Ur least problems. Forever is a long time and when u analyze, be real, love would fail soon and all that will matter is virtue. Cheers

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    8. Chikito giving her belle will not stop her from flirting.Yea,some ppl are loose like that.
      Poster do not propose until you are sure of what you are doing,come back home and see things for yourself,dont rush it.
      Btw,if you confirm your fears and she's truly a cheat but you still want to put a ring on it, make sure you take her with you out of the country. Else its another man that will be enjoying what you have paid for.
      Married women that stay with their hubby in same house cheat(we have seen a lot of their comments in anon mode on this blog) how much more someone whose partner is in a diff country entirely.
      Like i said,come back,see things for yourself&make your decisions.

      ShanzEmpire

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  2. Chronicles don land, let me go back and read

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    1. Mr poster, you have nothing to worry about. If you dont cheat, do it cos of God and religion and diseases. Dont feel bad cos its not a punishment. You sound like you're about to break and a dam of sperm about to pour forth.

      I get how you feel but its your mind running away and playing havoc on you. Sometimes people lie cos of fear of the unknown.

      This girl is just being a girl of that age. If she doesnt have men hovering around her, she is not beautiful or social. People have harmless flirting, chicks need a little attention. Its taking it far that is bad. Of that, you have no evidence.

      Don't allow paranoia over your last girl and petty jealousy ruin your choices. So far, the girl has waited for you even when she may have had other suitors.

      I've met a guy who caught his wife in bed with another man but after much issues, didnt break up his marriage. The elders in his village asked him:
      1) how are you sure the next girl will be good?
      2) even if she is a saint, how are you sure you will love her?

      Love is important for a man in a marriage. Without it, you wont sit at home. Anything your wife is giving you will not make sense to you.

      For a guy who couldnt cheat cos those girls werent her. What makes you think you can date another girl knowing that you had this one and she's somewhere in the world? By the time your anger has cleared, you will forever feel incomplete in your next marriage + the next chick is meeting a made man. You will never love again. People you feel this way for comes once a lifetime.

      So shake off all the flimsiness and go get the woman you love and make her yours forever before you lose her.

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    2. A lot of people on here talking about love. Love isn't everything, people. And it's mainly the sisters. Please and please, love is not enough. Whether ur a guy in the midst of relationship storm or a lady, always remember that love isn't everything. Am sure the egbeda murderer loved his wife and probably still does. Infact if ur a sane adult, love should be secondary for you. So enough of all tis 'if u love her. Bros, if u love urself think am well. Trust is just as important. Virtue is the koko.Hopeless love is for insecure people. If u loved before u can love again and again. I broke up with a lady that cheated on me twice or more and now am with someone who is honest to a fault and may I add, more beautiful and yeah I love her to bits. Imagine if I had believed the lie that I won't find someone better or fall in love again. Ladies and gentlemen, never get to the point in ur relationship life where u believe the love lie. Gbam!

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    1. Uncle, propose to her now, I mean today or hook up with me,I'm a viable prospect. Lol

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    1. Poster please leave her.
      She's cheating on you.
      Why would she hide things for three months and still deny it until you gave her the proof.
      If she wasn't up to something shady with the guys, she would never lie to you or hide something from you no matter what.
      Her excuse is not just cogent enough.
      Please look for another girl. And move on.
      See the things you've done to her as if you are God sent.
      You are a guy and it's. Never to late for a guy to move on.

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  5. Hmmmm. So students and prospective corps member stand no chance of having a relationship in this country again? Nawa oooo

    Poster, I would have reached out to you, but i'm a prospective Corp member so let me find somewhere and lick my wounds. Lol

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    1. Quik...the last time I checked, you were a serving Corp member. Now ure a prospective? When will you stop hovering around nysc or at least finish

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    2. Dude knows but violated the first rule in the game: Never get serious with a student or corp member unless she's not beautiful.
      These lil bitches are never loyal. Just let them grow

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  6. Please someone out there say a prayer for me, am hurt. Deeply shattered

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    1. At least u'd hv stated ur real name na, so we channel the prayer properly. Pele.

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    2. May God heal your heart. May His face shine upon you. Speak to God there is nothing too big for Him to you. This is your season of restoration. He will give you beauty for ashes and may the joy of the LORD be your strength in Jesus name. Amen

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    3. Better days ahead boo

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    4. May God heal your heart.

      In other news, you will see how bvns will rush this guy with pins and numbers.LOL.

      Poster, please calm down. You did not catch her pants down did you? Although the dropped calls and avoiding calls at night are signs she "might" be up to no good. You need to have sound proof, in order to act on this. Distance relationships are difficult, especially if no commitment has been made by the man. Don't let your insecurities get the best of you okay? Goodluck.

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    5. May God heal your heart of whatever pains you might be going through and give you the strength and wisdom to deal with and overcome it IJN. Amen.

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    6. May God heal your broken heart. As much as whatever it is hurts right now, please know that 6months from now, u won't feel this hurt again. So it's only temporary. Be strong and God be with you.

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  7. Bros marry her if u love her, I don't like men who nag,did u expect het to put all het eggs in one basket, stop wasting time and do the needful,even married women cheat let alone a single beautiful girl.

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  8. Poster, did you know why Stella didn't use her red pen? It's because you talk too much, abeg, come and do the right thing and marry her.




    *Larry was here*

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  9. Poster,
    You lied!....
    I don't beleive you didn't gbensh all those times you were not with her...you just decided to play safe so we won't cuss you out!...
    You have not married this girl so why are you being jealous?...
    So she can't keep friends again because you are who?...
    Mtcheeeewww....
    Don't go and make up with her....the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know...
    Nobody is perfect!...

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    1. Queen, it is possible. I have a friend that has never cheated on his wife for over 7years of marriage. And even before they got married, she was in the UK for masters and he was in Nigeria, he never cheated, not even once. Very good looking catholic guy, and funny to bits. Those are men that give me hope. Some men are good and disciplined like that, however rare.

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    2. @Nma... did you follow his penis to know if he cheated. Forget something jere

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    3. @Dudette, if it's that one, I will vouch for him. He is one of two men in this whole world I can vouch for.

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  10. Why don't you wait till you get back, before taking a decision?

    Don't be too hasty, especially, seeing as you've put a lot into the relationship.

    I don't know what kind of evidence you got as proof, but it won't be bad ironing this out face to face with her.

    Oh well, you're the one who wears the shoe.

    #WhiteDiamondOut

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  11. Oga she's didnt do anything behind your back. The guys were just fulfilling the "occupy till I return commandment." most girls flirt when their guys are not present, but that doesn't mean the lovers' place in our hearts has been taken. Please marry your girl.

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    1. Lol... @Occupy till I return. Poster just do the needful and put a ring on it...

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  12. Hey poster you sound like a good man. You see in life everyone deserves another chance. Wait till you get back then watch her. If shes not faithful, you will find out. It will hurt you if u decide to leave her but then again you will be fine after a while. God bless your good heart.


    #I am a fruitful vine, I am a joyful mother of children

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  13. poster you sound like a really nice down to earth guy. i understand that long dustance relationship is very difficult. and when i say long distance i mean different countries not cities. with such relationships, you need trust. of course your girl is beautiful. men will chase her but if she is dedicated to you, she won't give in. SHe might have friends who will put ideas in her head. How do you know he will marry you? you are here keeping yourself while he is there sleeping with other girl and so on. its up to her to choose who she decides to listen to. its also up to you to choose who to listen to. either her or what people tell you about her. give her sometime and if you feel she's into another guy, you should tell her straight. since you are in contact with the dad you can also speak to him and tell him i really wanted so and so for your daughter and i but see what she is doing so the man wont think you abandoned his daughter and ran with someone else. but like i said, watch her in the meantime for a little more time.

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  14. I dont advice anyone on long distance. Dont worry, she is only trying to eat sphagetti until Egusi and pounded yam arrive.

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  15. All I just noted from your long epistle was you trying to paint yourself a saint. I'll comment when I read her side of the story.
    **sips moringa juice**

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  16. She is probably bored because you are not around and she needs male company.

    In cheater's language: you are the main boo, the other dude(s) are side-boos. Come back home when you can and see for yourself what she is actually doing, a lot of misinterpretation might be passed across with all this your "speculations".

    Side note: Now, you are making me freak out, le boo might be gone for years outside if his Ph.D research grant pursuit happens. Will we make it?!

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  17. I noticed something about you...you brag a lot!
    I dont blame her at all if she has side guys.You havent paid her bride price and you are busy monitoring her movement. ..who she hangs out with and who she talks to!
    If you want her to be yours,do the right thing and marry her...stop babbling!
    If I hear say u never Gbensh another babe all this while......

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  18. Pls do not walk away, never you assume anything. Wait till you come back to see things yourself, bros you too dey wait time. Try and do some certain things to give her the
    assurance that you will wife her in future cos time and age waits for no one.

    Try and be patient with her too, give her sometime before you mess the whole thing.

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  19. Long distance relationship isn't for everybody.

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  20. O God!!! Some ladies sha,see what other girls are praying for with midnight fasting n prayer,that's what some silly's are taking for granted.

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  21. I was in a similar situation,my candid advice? Go out there and lash like a ravaged dog! Have side chics, and don't leave Dat girl cuz she's ur numero Uno jus like u r to her too, u can't blame her u r far away and temptations abound!what u don't know won't kill u, if u r rily bent on having her, den come down do the needful and take her away! After all like u said, she ain't a gagool!

    Kelvin Dat Edo Boi ( Stellz Cousin )

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    1. for the first time you made small sense in your comment

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  22. Na wetin bros, a girl can't hang out with male friends again
    pls take a chill pill
    Is she seeing/sleeping with any of them?
    You INSECURE man
    Abeg come back and propose joor

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  23. Long distance relationship is all about trust, if you don't trust her just let her go

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  24. Given ur doubts and suspicions, pump ur brake abit on the proposal, time reveals alot... Such things are bound to happen in a distant r/ship wit a beautiful chick, if its not admirers, it'd be her coursemates, or mothers sisters cousins son will be seen hanging out wit her, its inevitable, but she's also not being transparent enough to ease ur irrational fears. A ring wldnt change her lifestyle if ure in different continents, trust me, i tried dating a 9ja babe, and she was very flexible with the truth, even when everyone network is on full bar to Skype, hers will be zero..... Sorry dude! Keep a watchful eye.

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    1. Poster, lemme give u a manly advise, I've been in ur shoes, but she was in Ife OAU while i was in PH, not even abroad oh, she had betta nyash, that type that even ladies turn around to look, then the guys will say "Oh boy, so na my fellow guy de chop this thing?"..... I gave her my money, love, attention, sacrifice, remaining soul..... Made all genuine promises to her as long as i could put it in words, we dated for 4.5yrs cus we started wen she was in year1, i can swear i was faithful .... I literally ran away from girls giving me green light, i was called names like impotent, gay, jew man, fear fear, lover boy, Romeo without juliet..... But i didn't care, cus i was in mad love with her, ttavelling to Ife from PH was like Surulere to Lekki, i didn't feel an itch, cus the mind blowing sex she gave me was worth it, her neighbours and coursemates always stare at me wen i arrive, it was a confusing look, but she convinced me that they're always saying " this guy is so lucky oh"...." So this is the guy enjoying this big nyash alone"???? For where..... The real truth was that they were seein me as mumu, feeling pity for me, which translates the side eyes to "Chai, if only he knows his babe is a coded collector".... I was damn blind to see, too immersed in love to doubt her cus my heart will shatter to pieces, so subconciously i protected it and eat watever she said.
      It turns out that, i didn't make friends wen i visit, so no one cld codedly tell me "oh boy see wetin de".... It was all behind my back..... You see money eh, money dsnt only open vaginas oh, it opens mouth also, both facial lips and the lips b/w ladies thighs, money will loosen it up.... I suddenly understood why she never let's me be close to any1 wen i visit, common strolling sef hard, wen i talk about strollin she'd initiate sex, which was way better sha, and after sex, na sleep get me...

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    2. So one day she went for lectures i was alone and nepa ppl came around, so the few guys around came to bribe them not to cut the power, being that they were all stufents n me the worker amongst, i just paid the whole thing, besides it wsnt mch..... So they started hailing me oh, u knw hw yoruba ppl can hail u even wen ure fucking up, that how i got talkn to one of them oh..... In the space of 2hrs, the guy sang louder than celine dion, my ear full, he said he'd prove it to me that if i can stand the site i shld pretend to leave for ph, and camp inside his room, i won't bliv my eyes by 10pm..... Na so i gree oh, after mch convincin, the guy say he cnt stand n watch a cool guy suffer wat i'm suffering, the 11hrs journey sef de pain am pass anythg, so the nxt day i formed one urgent call oh... Poster listen oh, this one na my xperience, no be them say! I didn't let her escort me to the park as usual, so i sneaked into his room, na so i stay there oh till night, callin her n tell her i'm in ph and all.... Night reach na, i ws peepin from his window, cus u cld see her door from his, no bobo show, that night i had a special respect for security guards, he kept assuring me that i shld chill.... I made up my mind that if i don't see anythg the nxt night i'd leave, na so oh that night, i was even too weak to be stretchin n peepin, so i went back to my movie, only for him to come in and say did u see? Did u see?? See wetin na guy? Ah ah...... The bobo don enter na, wetin u de do?? This was by past 9pm... I called her immediately formin all ok and relaxed, askin wats up, she said she's preparing to sleep na, and in night wear sef.... I said ok! I ws restless, lookn at time and imagining all rubbish.... Aftr like 30mins i went to the door to see if i'd hear moaning, cus she's a loud one on bed.... Nothing!! He says i shld just chill cus if i bust in now, she'd claim he's just visitn n wld soon leave, i said ok..... I try hold body till past 10, i just cldnt anymore, na so i bang on the door oh, serious bangn like police, i told my guy to be screaming fire fire oh, so he obliged while i ws banging..... With such scream the bobo rush open the door with boxers sef, running out n leaving his clothes, while she stood lookin out for the fire with wrapper around her......

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    3. Jeeeezzzz!!!!!! Busted!!!! He didn't even know me, she wan faint, me too wan faint..... I cldnt bliv my eyes!!! I was speechless for minutes, the guy finally knew she had a bf, i just told him to waka, that she's not my wife if not i'd hv cut his balls.... I started packing out all what i bought for her in the room, fridge oh, TV n decoder oh.... All the clothes i cld get my hands on oh, i de dash all out to her neighbours, the fire fire attracted ppl already, see shame..... Her room became empty, the nxt day, back to ph..... Serious heartbreak set in, then depression for weeks, but i got thru it all... It wldnt have been so painful if i was also gbenshing,.but i put all my eggs in one basket.... So poster i advise u to fuck any lady u can oh, once u say " I DO" all is forgiven..... Make i stop here.

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    4. So one day she went for lectures i was alone and nepa ppl came around, so the few guys around came to bribe them not to cut the power, being that they were all stufents n me the worker amongst, i just paid the whole thing, besides it wsnt mch..... So they started hailing me oh, u knw hw yoruba ppl can hail u even wen ure fucking up, that how i got talkn to one of them oh..... In the space of 2hrs, the guy sang louder than celine dion, my ear full, he said he'd prove it to me that if i can stand the site i shld pretend to leave for ph, and camp inside his room, i won't bliv my eyes by 10pm..... Na so i gree oh, after mch convincin, the guy say he cnt stand n watch a cool guy suffer wat i'm suffering, the 11hrs journey sef de pain am pass anythg, so the nxt day i formed one urgent call oh... Poster listen oh, this one na my xperience, no be them say! I didn't let her escort me to the park as usual, so i sneaked into his room, na so i stay there oh till night, callin her n tell her i'm in ph and all.... Night reach na, i ws peepin from his window, cus u cld see her door from his, no bobo show, that night i had a special respect for security guards, he kept assuring me that i shld chill.... I made up my mind that if i don't see anythg the nxt night i'd leave, na so oh that night, i was even too weak to be stretchin n peepin, so i went back to my movie, only for him to come in and say did u see? Did u see?? See wetin na guy? Ah ah...... The bobo don enter na, wetin u de do?? This was by past 9pm... I called her immediately formin all ok and relaxed, askin wats up, she said she's preparing to sleep na, and in night wear sef.... I said ok! I ws restless, lookn at time and imagining all rubbish.... Aftr like 30mins i went to the door to see if i'd hear moaning, cus she's a loud one on bed.... Nothing!! He says i shld just chill cus if i bust in now, she'd claim he's just visitn n wld soon leave, i said ok..... I try hold body till past 10, i just cldnt anymore, na so i bang on the door oh, serious bangn like police, i told my guy to be screaming fire fire oh, so he obliged while i ws banging..... With such scream the bobo rush open the door with boxers sef, running out n leaving his clothes, while she stood lookin out for the fire with wrapper around her......

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    5. Poster, lemme give u a manly advise, I've been in ur shoes, but she was in Ife OAU while i was in PH, not even abroad oh, she had betta nyash, that type that even ladies turn around to look, then the guys will say "Oh boy, so na my fellow guy de chop this thing?"..... I gave her my money, love, attention, sacrifice, remaining soul..... Made all genuine promises to her as long as i could put it in words, we dated for 4.5yrs cus we started wen she was in year1, i can swear i was faithful .... I literally ran away from girls giving me green light, i was called names like impotent, gay, jew man, fear fear, lover boy, Romeo without juliet..... But i didn't care, cus i was in mad love with her, ttavelling to Ife from PH was like Surulere to Lekki, i didn't feel an itch, cus the mind blowing sex she gave me was worth it, her neighbours and coursemates always stare at me wen i arrive, it was a confusing look, but she convinced me that they're always saying " this guy is so lucky oh"...." So this is the guy enjoying this big nyash alone"???? For where..... The real truth was that they were seein me as mumu, feeling pity for me, which translates the side eyes to "Chai, if only he knows his babe is a coded collector".... I was damn blind to see, too immersed in love to doubt her cus my heart will shatter to pieces, so subconciously i protected it and eat watever she said.
      It turns out that, i didn't make friends wen i visit, so no one cld codedly tell me "oh boy see wetin de".... It was all behind my back..... You see money eh, money dsnt only open vaginas oh, it opens mouth also, both facial lips and the lips b/w ladies thighs, money will loosen it up.... I suddenly understood why she never let's me be close to any1 wen i visit, common strolling sef hard, wen i talk about strollin she'd initiate sex, which was way better sha, and after sex, na sleep get me...

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    6. He who gives you sex can give another sex. The only ladies to 'manage to trust' in long distance relationships are those that don't allow u have sex with them despite years of dating.

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    7. Wow.... That babe is loose, she can't even wait for a week before inviting another man. Lucky escape

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    8. Cherrie the pussy distributor is talking too? Hian! Wetin person no go see for this blog. See this forsaken nympho oo

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  25. So with all the spending and lavishing u are doing on her,she still cheats? She is so disgusting and wicked,plz my advice leave her and look for someone that will appreciate u more.

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  26. Poster, don't be in a haste to take drastic decision. Be patience till u are back in country. She might just be friends with these guys with nothing attached. When u come u observe things with ur eyes and reaction from her.

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  27. Poster shit happens... i dnt knw wot fo tell u without sounding like a hypocrite, we have all done things we are no so proud of. I suggest u give her another chance, from ur writeup i deduct u love her alot. Alot has been put into this relationship to jst throw it out the door. Look at it this way, she is a beautiful girl, so many admirers n many lonely nights without u. Many pple arent strong in the self control games n im sure that she might be keeping some bad friends who were giving her wrong advise. Wen ur dating someone n having distance btw u, especially as a lady,ur friends mk it their sole aim to convince u to have a side guy, stating this wierd theory as how guys cnt be without sex n definately ur man must be cheating on u. They come up with alot of examples n u start believing them. Give n another chance please, because if it was me, i would plead the same. Take away some of the things u give her so easily bt dnt tell her its because of wat she did, jst tell her that things are alil tough for u right nw, complain alot abt that.
    To answer ur question, u cnt entirely knw someone, bt if u give them this lil tests u get to knw how they will react to the real ish, i dnt knw as i might be wrong. Bt one thing i knw is that relationship is hardwork n u dnt toss it out bcos its nt wrking the way u want. The test is to knw if she would still got u wen things arent soo comfortable with u or her. Wen u dnt give her up to the usual allowance how would she react, is she there for love or for the privileges she seem to enjoy from u. Hold out on the proposal for a bit, maybe till December, see if she changes, n how her attitude improves or otherwise.
    Goodluck bro.

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  28. Good for you.. Majority of single Nigerian men in London have got issues, inferiority complex and are busy chasing girls in Nigeria when we have better quality babes here in UK. Its a shame but it's the bald faced truth....

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    1. I hope you are not counting yourself among the quality girls in the UK? If i can remember correctly, you said here that you are sleeping with your married boss and planning to snatch him from his wife and you started sleeping around when you were 13..is that the quality you are referring to?

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    2. Mind your own beeswax.. My body counts is not up to a dozen... Town crier

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    3. Lol @ annoymous... You people can remember dirty laundry on this blog. Chai!

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    4. @cherrie..not up to a dozen indeed. I am rooting for the man's wife you are frolicking with to pour you acid. Useless home wrecker!! God will not allow you wreck that marriage,instead you will die a painful death!

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  29. You have the same mentality with Mi Amor,someone can't keep male friends again. Keep on listening to people you hear? Till you loose her, my boo realized his on time and till now he only hears from me..

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  30. If can't deal again,pls move on.
    Do you think she no chop raw preek?
    I hope she will change,but if she doesn't then take a walk.
    You know what u want,so follow ur heart.
    But I don't believe u have not been chopping tohto.
    Forgive if u can!Buahahahahahahahah
    Oga should manage it like that or better still,go for CS next time

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    1. Smh.. very local and classless human. What the hell is 'do u think she no chop raw preek?'

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    2. Portable nwa.
      Good to have you back.

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  31. Long distance relationship works along REAL LOVE,UNDERSTANDING And A high level of TRUST..

    If you cant do it or cant afford the above qualities;Quit the Relationship!!

    I as a person can never bother myself with someone who isnt willing to make A relationship work out(Long distance or not)...

    Now look at it this way @poster;she is A lady,she has her own weak point,she needs physical companionship(Everybody does),she needs A talk-to kinda friend to avoid boredom;and on the long run if she doesnt hold herself well;she might give in to another guy in Uni for the sake of that same "companionship" whilst she still holds on to you as her main BF and someone who foots the bill..so what am i saying?? Everyone cant have the strong heart!! Neither can everyone handle A long distance relationship..

    Like i said earlier;IF you cant cope;Quit it and move on!! Life is not that difficult bro;and always note that every relationship can never lead to marriage..

    Make your decisions wisely!

    @MARTINS ABOY

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    1. iPhone is a very useless fone.
      The fone just dey disgrace me any how....imagine!
      Pls,the last paragraph is not for chronicle ooh

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  32. @poster, if you truly love the girl, go ahead and marry her. She is hanging with another guy bcos you hv been away for long. And u are not yet her horseband.
    U 2 seems to be made for each other. If you miss her, u may never meet another girl u will love like her.
    Dat's is how I allowed my tall Edo babe to marry another man bcos I never make money then. But if I had known I would have borrowed money from the banks and marry her. I thought I would meet another girl like her. But never it never happen. I am just wandering in the wilderness of love.

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    1. Aww James...pele u hear. But u sef your wahala too much. U sure say no be wetin pursue the babe

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    2. My love,your head done dey correct small small
      Kisses James

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    3. Lol @wandering in the wilderness of love. James the real prof. Wole Soyinka.

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    4. James are you sure you are the one writing these things lately? Am beginning to think someone stole your phone and is commenting with your blog ID

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    5. I love James.

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  33. If I have a guy that loves,adores,celibate,cares,trust and lavishes on me...what else would I be looking for? whether he is around or not.

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    1. Your own too much,ignored you twice,wetin he won't ask for your number oshi,you have nailed and crucified this lady you have not even heard her side of the story all to paint her black,i know type boyfriend snatcher.

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    2. Keep coughing under my comment,u will soon vomit blood (obara)

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  34. What has your monthly 7 figures salary got to do with your story or whatever. You sound like a proud person.

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    1. Don't be too jealous. The 7 figures is in naira. SMH

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  35. Honey, just be calm. Things will be better when you return. Don't always judge from a distance

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    1. Why you dey call am honey? Desperate fool! You think he will ask stella for your contact abi? Keep deceiving yourself.

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    2. i don't get how people call just random people endearing names ment for just loved ones

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    3. Shut the hell up at anon.you are very stupid.

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    4. Mother confessor..you are an idiot. Married hoe!! So because you hide your ring and fuck anything you see makes it acceptable for others to do so abi?? Useless whore!

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  36. You are just overreacting....They might just be friends with no strings attached.
    Don't allow this bother you

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  37. Keep ur ring in ur suit pocket..resume gbenshing...when u r sure she's not cheating,reach for d ring in ur pocket,get on ur knees n propose..simple. Till den,keep tearing em apart like ryan giggs

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    1. She's actually telling you the truth trust me. U guys will say u need someone who's honest but when ur girl tells u she's hanging out with a male friend u start thinking she's cheating. So because one is in a relationship u shudnt have frnds whether male or not. For one to trust wholeheartedly u need to overlook petty things. You even sound as if you being faithful means you're some rare gem of a man. Look! Being a cheat means you have no atom of integrity or principles you aint doing it coz u want ur partner to love u more you're doing it for yourself shikena. Most bvs will tell u to go ahead and cheat coz most of dem are in miserable relationships/marriage. Na u know your girl o and within 4yrs u shud knw what she's capable of doing.

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    2. Long distance relationships isn't for babies. Stay if you truly love her. Put yourself in her shoes. You've come here seeking for advice, do you know where she's gone to for advice as well? Today, you'll get tons of advice both good and bad. It'll be up to you to chose which one you'd go for. There are so many time wasters out there, do you know if she's scared?
      How is your communication like with her? I'm currently in a long distance relationship so I understand certain things. Just marry her and forget all this stories.

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  38. This nigger is a fool. No matter how much a woman loves you, she would always be attracted to that man she can see and hold atleast once a in while.
    Stella the feminist. If na woman write this piece. Ur red pen go turn Picasso own, u go paint everywhere but as na guy he deserved none.

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    1. Don't mind stella
      Feminist my left ass

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    2. Portable, who opened the cage for you?

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  39. Dude, do nothing at the moment except remove your heart from the relationship.
    Of course you should know you are not the only guy in her life.
    That said, you can also get the answers you need, just pray about it and God will reveal all to you.
    Do people still marry without hearing from God first?

    May God give us all wisdom.

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  40. You are very foolish if you like her as you claimed why didn't you propose to her since you expect her to put all her eggs in one basket. Keep deceiving your self that you didn't sleep with any girl

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    1. Smh.. why do we have stupid pple on this blog. Wat d hell anon 15:33.

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    2. Rubbish, did u give her any ring, official introduction as a sign of commitment b 4 u left. My guy do the needful so that she will know her stand.

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    3. Bia baby ok shut up dere, wah do u mean, as far as there s no cuff on her finger. , abeg make una free the girl joor, what if the reverse was the case, this guy turned out being the one to disappoint the girl, waht is it u spent on her oga that's more than marrying her? Puullleeaaasssee go and propose to her and marry her and then shut he fuck up.mtchewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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    4. You are so damn shallow @ anon 15:59. So commitment in a relationship can only come after a ring has been exchanged?

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    5. Anon 16:50. Help me and ask these pple.. anon 16:42. When u r able to answer the question below ur comment. Then u can talk to me.

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  41. Seems Stella has ran out of red ink. Poster don't go into marriage with so many skeleton in the cupboard. Make sure you sit her down and talk things over before proposing. It is well.

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  42. Now lemme change this your mindset, Am currently serving and faithful to my boyfriend too, if your girl is cheating then deal with it, i hate generalization eh

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    1. Asin ehn,my guy travelled out for 3years,2years I was in school 1year I was serving,i swear to God I never even kissed any guy,asin I was faithful to the core meanwhile he was busy cheating over there and I found out after 3 wasted years chai,i left the relationship though because I can't stand a cheat.

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  43. Hmmmmm

    Guy walk away after all you did for her she still couldn't stay loyal.

    Keep it moving
    Loyalty is everything

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  44. Take a walk bro!

    I'm sure you can get a decent girl close to you. Makes life easier!

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  45. Stella, he said he need your red pen but you didn't even put any pen at all. Lol.
    My brother, she might be telling you the truth, whoever is giving you information might be giving you wrong inform. Take your time to investigate properly, you can come come to Nigeria unaware and pay her surprised visit. Set her up before you make your decision

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    1. Are you okay at all? Why should he set her up? Who is perfect on earth? He should be calm and understand her better when he's back

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  46. poster 2. That girl is very open to you...hold on...marry her... you will sure get the best...forget others ok. be patient. what you are seeing is just a mere distraction... be calm ok. she loves you.

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  47. Ehya, if u r ibo, kum let me link u up to a nice girl biko, who isn't ready for all ds

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  48. Wait till u get back nd grt all your facts right before making any decision

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  49. Just start cheating too no tym lol
    All ds everyday chronicle dah involves abortion like it's jst a normal tin..God epp us all

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  50. You are in love poster,will be difficult to walk away...i guess the babe ain't serious with you,moreover she needs congo shiner as you no dey around..lol.
    Start planning for an option B,unless you can tolerate her unfaithfulness.

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  51. A loosed girl is a losses girl if you like put hervin a golden house it will change nothing

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  52. My dear i have been in this type of relationship and trust me when i say you should marry her. it not easy being in a long distance relationship. the most important thing is the love you have for her. Trust her since you didnt catch her red handed. As long as she is ready to marry you then stop doubting her.

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    1. Lmao..you go fear advice. Oga abeg free d babe. If you can provide for her and she still frolicks with another man or men sef..then she is bad news. Btw, why are you seeking advice on a forum filled with feminists? Ofcourse they will support her na. All or almost all the girls on this blog are confirmed prostitutes..i am saying this because i have fucked plenty. They sabi dash pussy!

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  53. What are you on about?

    @Mr 2 Masters
    @Mr 7 figure digits



    Abeg look bush joor







    @Galore

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    1. He had to list em out...before una label am "broke ass" and get distracted from his problem. Lol

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    2. Very annoying piece of shit




      @Galore

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  54. I have ended several relationships once my girlfriend introduces any guy as 'just a friend' because I have fucked several girls on being 'just a friend' even from this blog. They don't use eyes to see young handsome rich guy. Though some of them come online to form boss especially that stefsoft girl that works as a hotel receptionist in bauchi. Lol is always my mood. Students and youth corp members are the worst to depend on as a wife in their position, because they are always free giver provided u are rich and handsome. It's better to marry a working class lady that has fucked enough and ready to settle down. So my brother move on. You will find a suitable lady to enjoy u. Girls fuck alot of just a friend guys. Talking from experience. Bear the loss both in cash and emotions. You will overcome triumphantly

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    1. chio!!!!ur thinking is messed up

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    2. Lol. ..guys hare to hear he is just a friend...to them that's a red herring.

      It's better the girl says the guy is some one disturbing her than just a friend...

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    3. Anon 15:46 can you please STFU. U are a very stupid foolish senseless shameless irresponsible man.
      U fine U are rich. How much you get sef .Can you reply under my comment? .
      U beg girls for sex as if your life depends on it. Only to come to blogs and start talking rubbish. U are a idiot. Did any of the girls beg you to fuck them? How did they know you? Are you not the irresponsible animal chasing everything in skirts? U promised them heaven and earth just to get in between their thighs. Only to deceive them and move to the next prey. U are worse than the girls u are condemning. They are simply the victims of your cruelty and deception.

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  55. I like it when I read chronicles from men!...*shines stella's big teeth smiley*

    truth is my guy you are just over reacting..do you have concrete evidences against your woman? all what iyam reading doesn't show that you have strong evidences to these points you just made. Or you have been listening to them say?...you can call your woman and ask her questions, if you are smart enough you will know whether she is cheating or not. But then again I ask, why would she? you sound like an ideal man to me already, but there is this thing that is not right about you and I cannot just figure out now......................jesu fix it!

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  56. I like it when I read chronicles from men!...*shines stella's big teeth smiley*

    truth is my guy you are just over reacting..do you have concrete evidences against your woman? all what iyam reading doesn't show that you have strong evidences to these points you just made. Or you have been listening to them say?...you can call your woman and ask her questions, if you are smart enough you will know whether she is cheating or not. But then again I ask, why would she? you sound like an ideal man to me already, but there is this thing that is not right about you and I cannot just figure out now......................jesu fix it!

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  57. Dear poster, if u are in Manchester, help me say hello to nnaemeka. He works with Talk Talk.
    Tell him Chichi his childhood friend sends her regards.

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  58. Hmmmmm.. distance issh.. not easy. Trust issues and lies.. not easy oo.. well I think when there is Love, there will always be forgiveness. Forgive her. When u return back to nigeria, dnt propose immediately. Watch her closely for some time. Give urslf time also.

    Plus relationships isn't based on how long rather it shud be how well. And no bro, u can't know sumone fully. We all have got our hidden sides(whether good or bad).

    Wish u both the best.

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  59. I dated a girl for 6 years before I left for my phd in the Uk. Thesame scenario of keeping male friends without any knowledge until I found out happened. When I dug deeper she was already sleeping with 2 of the so called male friends. This is a girl I practically paid all her fees throughout university and she met the guys she was sleeping with at her NYSC primary assignment location. The same place I got for her with money and through the help of my family cause she was already a part of the family. Forget all the sentiments because you already know that it's time to leave the relationship.

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    1. Everyone is nt d same. She may not be doing the same thing ur ex did..

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  60. These hoes aint loyal!

    She is fucking them all, you better forget all the money and things you have done for her. Maybe she don lock you for bottle sef- you no fit thik straight again.

    You berra leave her sharp sharp
    There are plenty plenty nice, sweet, delicious fishes in the river.

    As you talk say she fine, plenty are finer than her
    you berra give yourself brain

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  61. Nna you sound like a very nice person its unfortunate you ended up with a cheat. But wait is it even possible for a young man to stay 15 months without sex? You dint cheat on her but you mastubated abi? Hehehehehehe cheating na Cheating doesn't matter if its physical or emotional lmao dont mind me joor. Its her lost honey, a better lady that is more deserving of you will come. Don't let it shake you. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. You really sound like the emotional type and I feel your pain. E hugs.
    But wait why do bad gals end up with good boiz me I don't understand oooh.

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    1. Someone said he had sex with you up there and that you are a receptionist in a hotel in bauchi state,is that true?

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    2. Says the bauchi hotel receptionist

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  62. Dear Poster, I ADVICE YOU GO BACK FIRST. YOU KNOW SOME TIMES WOMEN CHEAT EMOTIONALLY. IT IS DIFFICULT IN LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS.

    The culture in Naija promotes girls as sharp babes able to have many magas that buy them stuff etc. Especially in Uni where so many girls have 3-4 boyfriends at a time while the rest are doing runs. The girls get greedy. It is a rotten society.

    She is clearly being influenced by it - hardly any girl in naija who has studied there is not. However It does not mean that she is having anything to do with them sexually, or intimately. It may mean she is just trying to play the game, 'let me collect from the maga'

    On the other hand she may be cheating with someone she could not resist.
    Do not do anything rash.

    Go back with your intentions still in tact, observe her, observe here personality. There are certain things that being in close proximity with a person over an extended period of time you are yet to learn. be wise. You need to learn all this before getting married anyway.

    Good girls in Nigeria are very hard to come by, but ill tell you in that society, if you find someone that is just perfect, she is probably a runs girl revamped.

    good luck
    London Doc.

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  63. Poster, just hold on with the proposal for now, I lose interest in people when I find out they lie and I guess that's how u'r feeling now. A relationship without trust is a NO NO. As for your friends n folk, don't mention a thing about this to them yet till your certain about it. Am sure this is just distraction and nothing serious.

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  64. My guy on blogs the advice the give their fellow ladies is "don't put all your eggs in a basket" so she is doing just that.if she can't trust you and belief in your words my guy let go. The excuse is always "am scared you will leave me"

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  65. She could be telling the truth
    She could also be lying
    But you should stop being her provider and know if she'll still hang on......
    Also first and only are two different things......she might still really love you but she's just catching fun while you're away

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  66. Bro., why cast all your eggs in one basket. Get on already! Tidy as many girls as you can afford to (guard yourself ooo). Trust me, you had find someone much better than your 'ex' in the course of your escapade.
    Stop been emotional cos of any girl you aren't lawfully wedded to.

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  67. She has fallen for the new guy. Don't propose.

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  68. Don't move on!!! Come back ND see tins for ur self, nd Decide

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  69. So here is the thing, your girl friend knows that you are consistent, she knows that you will always be there for her, she knows that you are not going any where and so she uses this to her advantage. You were her first and back then she was doe eyed and innocent but now she is a more experienced self assured and confident woman. The fact that you have given her a comfortable life makes it even easier for her to mix and hob nob with "it boy/it girl" demography on campus. As you know there are a lot of fine happening boys on campus who are in her circle. Meeting this fine guys and have random hook ups especially in an environment where everyone has raging hormones is just inevitable my dear. What you need to do is meet other people I'm not saying that you should break up with her just let her know that you are also seeing other people trust me she will get back to her senses. And why do I think she is some where telling her friends oh my boyfriend in the UK is so obsessive, he is so stiffling, he doesn't give me any breathing space.

    My point is, give her some space, see other people but not the same person twice and may be get laid. That way she will know what she is giving up for a few months of seedy sex.

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  70. Very INSECURE braggY, holier than thou and CONTROLLING. DUDE PLS CHILL. JEEEEZ!

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  71. White diamond ....I really like u ....*sensible*

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  72. Trust me it can be hard especially when you are in a university and your friends are flaunting their bfs and aristos..dont give up like what makes you think you will find someone better.please just talk to her and make her understand if you find anything else you will opt out..you can talk when you get back in the country too.

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  73. So here is the thing, your girl friend knows that you are consistent, she knows that you will always be there for her, she knows that you are not going any where and so she uses this to her advantage. You were her first and back then she was doe eyed and innocent but now she is a more experienced self assured and confident woman. The fact that you have given her a comfortable life makes it even easier for her to mix and hob nob with "it boy/it girl" demography on campus. As you know there are a lot of fine happening boys on campus who are in her circle. Meeting this fine guys and have random hook ups especially in an environment where everyone has raging hormones is just inevitable my dear. What you need to do is meet other people I'm not saying that you should break up with her just let her know that you are also seeing other people trust me she will get back to her senses. And why do I think she is some where telling her friends oh my boyfriend in the UK is so obsessive, he is so stiffling, he doesn't give me any breathing space.

    My point is, give her some space, see other people but not the same person twice and may be get laid. That way she will know what she is giving up for a few months of seedy sex.

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  74. Poster has for me u are a giver may u never lack pls make frnd with the best lady over there so that ur time would b wasted use ur one stone to kill two bird at onces if she say no them proposed to best frnd for marriage and may God take control

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  75. I totally understand wot yur goin tru bruh...Dats why i dump ma ex girl six months ago cus of shhii lyk dis...The chics aint loyal anymore bruh...Specially wen yur in a long distends relationship...Dat the koko bruh

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  76. Poster, i think you are an arrogant man, what is the big deal with two degrees that you have to announce, then your seven figure salary and lastly the girl social status. Do you think a beautiful girl that is determined to be a university graduate instead of sitting at home with her polytecnic qualification will be interested in sleeping around. The girl is not cheating on you but she needs to breathe from your over possesiveness. The same girl that aborted a pregnancy for you, dated a guy for over 3 years and didn't sleep with him, till she met you. Don't mind the fake advices here.Propose to her and wed her, she is a responsible girl.The fact that you have met her dad says alot about her, do you think the father will allow her to bring all sorts of guys home.

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  77. So sad,if she's truly guilty of this,then dats bad,Trust is a vital part in a relationship,once lost can't be fixed.

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  78. But where do girls meet these nice guys? I need a good guy with a good heart. Someone that I can call my best friend...u know, talk about things. I'm very playful, goal-oriented & down to earth. I need companionship!

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    1. LOL @anon, 16:37. U want guys to ask for your contacts through Stella. I like ur style. No dulling. But you forgot to write that you are very beautiful.

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  79. Hian! Bros kilo de? All this long story for wetin na?

    Either you break up or continue. Please the excess stress is not needed jare.

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  80. Hian! Bros kilo de? All this long story for wetin na?

    Either you break up or continue. Please the excess stress is not needed jare.

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  81. I don't think she's cheating on you. truth is when guys see a beautiful girl they tend to want to be around her hoping that she'll fall for them. However, the ways in which she handles it is what matters. You can't stop her from having male friends.

    So here is my advise to you, don't break up with her because she lied too. Evidently, she was scared. And you said also that you are her first, she probably doesn't know how to handle their advances.

    And my advise to your girlfriend will be that she should learn how to properly handle these advances as some have ill intentions. Allowing them visit them at her place is highly unwise, and she going to theirs is also a bad idea. As much as she loves you, 'body no be firewood' especially now that the door has been opened, it can't be closed.

    Summarily, have a heart-to-heart talk with her. All what you've mentioned it's not enough to break up with her. I am sure you love her as much as she loves you. And kindly stop involving your family or hers in your relationship issues except it's very serious.

    Peace...

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  82. Oga go and wife her and stop disturbing us

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    1. Lmao @ ceecee. Don't mind the yeye man. Make he stay there dey ask Jamb question. Until another sharp guy wed the babe.

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  83. Oga go and wife her and stop disturbing us

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  84. Emmmmm poster just incase she is lying, m loyal.....kikikiki please take me with you. Truth is there r lots of temptations in skool , shes just handling it differently, would drop my digits bt m a little shy......

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    1. U hear 7 figure salary , ur P don dey wet

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  85. I don't think she's cheating on you. Truth is when guys see a beautiful girl they tend to want to be around her hoping that she'll fall for them. However, the ways in which she handles it is what matters. You can't stop her from having male friends.

    So here is my advise to you, don't break up with her because she lied to you. Evidently, she was scared. And you said also that you are her first, she probably doesn't know how to handle their advances.

    And my advise to your girlfriend will be that she should learn how to properly handle these advances as some have ill intentions. Allowing them visit them at her place is highly unwise, and she going to theirs is also a bad idea. As much as she loves you, 'body no be firewood' especially now that the door has been opened, it can't be closed.

    Summarily, have a heart-to-heart talk with her. All what you've mentioned it's not enough to break up with her. I am sure you love her as much as she loves you. And kindly stop involving your family or hers in your relationship issues except it's very serious.

    Peace...

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  86. This just seem so like me n my relationship... She is not doing anytin bad but just keeping busy... U will miss out of a good girl if u live her. From a lady take it she is not doing anytin Bad

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  87. She is 27 years for christs sake! in Nigeria, do you know the pressure to marry on ladies here??? all i see here is ranting over nothing, i don't blame her , in this country she can't put her eggs in one basket, for all she knows you might have wife and kids abroad and thats fact, she seems sensible to me, i wonder what you have been waiting for since if you love her as you claim, biko come back home and put a ring on it, wed her and seal the deal , i bet you all the flies around woupd disappear please dont leave her at this stage if you do you are wicked and selfish.
    Long story short : Marry her Asap.

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    1. Thank u oo. Toke Makinwa that waited for Maje for 12 years. What did she gain? Anita and a son...

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  88. INsecurity can cause HBP.
    If you love her, marry her and stop monitoring her. Love God more and He will show you the way.

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  89. Anonymous 15:46 u are brainless jst becos u ended up fucking ur female close friends without shame does nt mean all guys are as shameless as u are. U need God mercy.

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  90. Poster dont let your negative thoughts get the best of you. If you trust your girl then why worry? She is a beautiful girl like you said, guys will always come around.. For me sha the only thing i see is overreaction.

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  91. I hope it isn't her friends reporting to U trying to spoil her , so they can enter and start enjoying what she is enjoying with you.
    Listen to me - we usually get knw chance at this 'one hit wonder kinda love ' . If you lose her , you might never feel like this with another woman .you asked why? Because loosing her would change you .you would become hardened and close off ur heart albeit subconsciously and Ud never trust so implicitly.

    My advise .do not make rash decisions .they might just be her friends . U might be holding her too tight . do not suffocate her , trust her ... Okay ? What is a relationship without trust ? The end is almost near . Engage her ... And all that keeping guys close would stop as she would know she has nothin to worry and needs no MR B

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  92. I think you are overreacting, she might be hanging out with guys just for securing herself from some male admires, I have been in a long distance relationship now for 7 good years, which after 3 years we got married with 2kids that follows after two two years and we are still trust each other very much. Please poster i believe that your girl love you very much just like you love her too, do not break up with her.

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  93. Well, she might or might not be cheating. Some girls including me are better off with guys than with girls as friends but the problem here is trust because she lies about those guys it makes it difficult to trust her. for me I had and still have closer male friends that wanted more than friendship but I managed them to become my good friends without strings and my ex will keep worrying and I assured him they are nothing to be worried about because I keep to my word and was very open to him. But all you can do now is go back and observe her, no rush. The truth always gets out no matter what so in your observation you will discover the truth

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  94. Mehn i think you are over reacting u said u call her alot during d day i think u are d obsessed type callin every seconds to monitor her movement not giving her a breathing space
    Dear poster u are just jealous for nothing i guess she didnt tell u cuz she knows u will react to it and frown at it some ladies find it more easier to hang out with men dan ladies
    I for an instance i have a male bestie and we always hang out on sundays and i know his girl d bae was once jealous and he made it clear if shes not comfortable with my presence that he cant be with her" imagine" that and d naughty guy self still carry d matter come give me lol
    My point is she might be d type that like hanging out with guys so i will advice u to have a heart to heart talk with her and sort things out but if u dont or cant trust her again den pls walk out we no wan hear another chronicle on domestic violence God bless....

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  95. She said she's not cheating, they are just friends, what do u want us to tell u again?
    To leave her? Or are u looking for wats to dump her?

    U said u have been faithful, Abeg how do we know?

    The problem here is that u have trust issues, u monitor her, call her late at night n if she doesn't pick u ll assume that she's cheating!!!


    I have been on long distance relationship was faithful, infact, I revirginized but the idiot still dump me n my secondary virginity lol
    Always suspecting etc

    Dear poster, stop looking for excuses to dump her, better come back n marry her

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  96. Screw any lady that come your way except another man's wife. But always use a condom. Have who love help? Poster u be maga. Oyinbo love and body sweet pass. 9ja girls name yawa

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