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Friday, 12 August 2016

What Do Men Really Want?

Been a victim of this kind of love where in the end,the things you thought he liked and you DID GLADLY,were the same things that disqualified you?

Lets discuss it after you read through the attached meme....








Years back a lady used to leave school to go spend weekends on end with her boyfriend ...One day a loud cry was heard from that house and in the morning she told someone it was anal and the guy had told her if she loved him enough to marry him then she should give him what he wants,they were engaged.....and they continued...That man dug a hole in every part of her body but when he was ready to marry he went to the Church and what he told her was retold to me by someone else so i cannot confirm but he allegedly told her that Marrying her would mean still living with the old life he was walking away from..that he needed a wife figure....She almost killed herself but he married the Church girl and they have three kids now.



146 comments:

Kelvin Dat Edo Boi said...

All I want is a NYMPHO!!!!!! is that too much to ask for?😒😚

Kelvin Dat Edo Boi ( Stellz Cousin )

xxxTrinityxxx said...

That's why it's good to do want you want and not allow yourself to be pressured into doing anything just to please a man that will wake up one day and leave if he pleases without looking back

Joblesshousewife said...

hmmm

Anonymous said...

Kwakwakwa @ any girl who takes a boyfriend serious and gives him her all.
Marry me first then every other follows

Ibukunoluwa said...

I don talk am tire
Nobody fit force me smoke,have anal sex
All these girls no just won elevate their sense
Dem full Fb

Ibukunoluwa said...

U go just peme befr ur time😩

Mama Afrika said...

Its a lesson. Just do your thing and be urself not trying to please people. What of girls that will go and cook, clean, wash and do everything for a guy but he still ends up marrying the "i dont care bad girl". Dont change whom u are for anyone abeg.

OlaGold (add up 58BF8F56 for 18-24k raw gold dust and bar) said...

Men can't be pleased.I've learnt not to please a man and please don't please me in return. I please just me and my kid alone. I can't shout

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Even if you put gun for my head i won't do what i don't want to do.

cassy 7757 said...

Nt every guy,I knw of a married couple who smokes weed together.they hv four kids,3 girls and a boy.they hv been married for more than 40yrs now cos the 3girls are married and they are all doing well,the husband and wife still smoke till today.they are my neighbours so am pretty sure .

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Do not change who you're for anyone, there is someone who will like you for you and just the way you are.
I don't want my partner to change who they are for me. If who they are isn't enough for me then I'd take a walk.
Human being not a robot.

Full Gist said...

What girls fail to realise is that,a already knows WHOM he wants, and no matter what you do, IF u r d side chick, u'll kuntinuu being d side chick.
Girls just need to find a way to know IF they r d side or main chick.

white Berry said...

Will ladies ever listen to this. That's men for you, they always wants to go for the decent ones when it comes to marriage.

Anne said...

Ladies should know that some of these guys telling you to drink, smoke and do drug with them are doing it to test you.

Monkeynofine said...

Wish decent girls are dey marrying? Tah bad gurls keeps winning wen it comes to marriage! Abi all d singles babes here praying everyday and night are they junkie?

IVORY said...

Be you. Do you. It pays.

Tuscany said...

If you wanna be a junkie, be one.
Who wants u will want u.
But truth is, no sane person wants a junkie raising his kids even if he himself is a junkie. So that enough for the wise

Anonymous said...

I will have to go anon on this,what do guys really want.I met a girl not quite long,I felt so happy after been lonely for a while.he told me he luvs me here and there.only for me to go to his Fb wall,he wrote he was in a relationship ,I was so happy that he was happy and proud of me ,only for Me to see comment that he was talking about another girl.what then is my offence ,he cald to beg me but I refuse ,he has been apologising and I have decline cause am confuse.what am really to him.not that we have even had sex or kiss but nothg of such,what is my offence here.I need your advise pls.

Anonymous said...

I know someone that did anal with another friend. The guy got disgusted after and told me he can never take the girl seriously. They finally broke up. I felt for the girl because she was trying to show the guy that was also a baddass in sex

Anonymous said...

Set of ungrateful animals. U will do, do, do: Go out of ur way to do abnormal things only for Dem to dump u for a cheap slut.. Its better u stay wherever u r dog, cos d moment u come bk home to us; I will personally poison u... U will die slowly so dat u can Av a taste of d humiliation u put I & d children thru. Ungrateful animal

Monkeynofine said...

I was never a decent girl even after marriage. But my waka waka leads me into d hand of my husband who turns out to be d best man in the world! Speak for yourself.

OlaGold (add up 58BF8F56 for 18-24k raw gold dust and bar) said...

Even in marriage, men can't be pleased

Monkeynofine said...

If I may ask , does smoking cigarette make one a junkie? Meaning all female westerners who smoke are all junkies? Chai Africa dead mentality.

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

Yes oh
Marry me first
I don't even let a man touch my boobs and I read on IHN yesterday how one guy has turned his gf boobs to playing toy.

Some women dey try
I can't please a man and displease myself lai lai.

NORTH DAKOTA SIOBHAN said...

As an adult, you are responsible for your actions.
If you consent to sex, it's because you felt like having it.
If you let a guy who isn't your husband live out his sexual fantasies with your body, you allowed it happen.

So I would never in a hundred years understand why a girl would date a guy, have all the fun, grant him his sexual request, and then when he leaves you to go marry another, you start talking about how he drilled holes in your body.
Like did he put a gun to your head?
You are solely responsible for you!

Anonymous said...

An average thinking Nigerian man might see a girl who gives him every sex style as a hoe. Even the smoking part isn't advised. Men are stupid but when we want to make a serious decision, we become smart and logical meaning that those girls we've been messing with might fall off the chart as we look for a life partner. This is my subjective opinion and I know individuals are different. So I would advice every girl to check up your situation thoroughly before you know what you and him can do before marriage.

Mz complicated said...

This girls no dey hear don't give u bf all ur juice n flavour. He no go value u. Do what makes u happy not the other way round. If u r making such mistake berra learn from this.

brown said...

I can't do that to satisfy a man,anal sex,chai big no to me,them never even born that man,i rather stay than to do that even with a million naira

telema Cr7 present wife and drake girlfriend said...

Only Gullible girls do that
No man can force me to do what I don't want to do.

Blackberry said...

Men simply want to fuck naa, as many as they can before they kick d bucket, or u think men want a woman to play chess with all day? Hahahahahahaa.

cool porch said...

This is a tough one u know, most ladies don't have a mind of their own maybe out desperation or the good girl quote cos that's the only way a man can make use a you and then decide to dump you off, once you learn to think for youself, make ur decisions by urself and then do your thing without any regrets in a relationship then u can't experience this or be in this such of a situation. to avoid stories that touch my dear choose your part and stick by it cos for every woman there is a man be it good or bad. Some men dig into bad gals @ times u konw

And for the men hmmmm their matter no be here ooo only God knows wat they want

Anonymous said...

Kelvin, honestly, I am with you on this... I need a nympho too.. My libido is way too high... But I decent sha

Anonymous said...

Most of them don't know what they want!!! They get something they think they wanted, and they suddenly want something else. They're insatiable!

Esty Esty said...

Ure right Trinity.

Anonymous said...

Anal sex is sweet, stop pretending... You could be doing it.

Precious Ibik said...

As for anal sex, you would have to let me use a dildo on your ass first. If u love it and moan very well, then I'll let u use mine stupid mofo!

Anonymous said...

And so shall it be, you wish is granted...lol

Anonymous said...

All I want is sex and food if ure gud @ dat I will make u my wife

Anonymous said...

Funny enof my husband took interest in me cos i tld him I smoke weed and married me cos I didn't smoke weed...... Irony of life

Anonymous said...

And so shall it be, your wish is granted...lol

Atheist. said...

I want a girl that share same views & perception to life like me, beauty shouldn't be left out.... I've even found lots who don't mind my atheism, but failed in other aspects.

Esty Esty said...

Women, let no man forces u to do otherwise in the name of love. A word is enough for the wise.

Anonymous said...

My own is never sacrifice anything for a man. Never help a man in trouble. Be careful about the kind of man you intercede for, even if you are married to him. When he gets what he wants you will become his trash. Unless a man is raised by a God fearing and upright woman,don't expect much from him.

Anonymous said...

But Tuface did all these with Annie and he still married her, and they still smoke weed together no....what works for one may not work for another

Anonymous said...

I don't and will never do anything of such for any man, ladies make una try get sense haba must we be go forever Nna eehhh I tire for some babes biko

winnifred said...

Thank God my mind is tuned to never over doing and killing myself for a man.....If you like do 360 degree,69,upside down, etc when hes ready to settle down he would go for who he wants...Men know what they want so women stop doing wife duties and stop deceiving yourselves.

Anonymous said...

Dnt lose urself trying to please a man....
#PAM πŸ‘„ #

Yummy chick cum mummy said...

Just do u.... I can v fun as I wish. But can't be pressurized into it.. Who d person b? Guys r confused pple.. Best attitude is be kinda hood,kinda classy and use ur head... #FUCKBOYS EVERYWHERE..

Eka Joy said...

Me I know ,no guy can make me do what I don't want to do. If I do what one asks me to do, it's cos I want to do it and not cos he made me do it.

Cyndilicious said...

Dnt try to over please ur bf..it pays well to just be urself

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

I will read comments

dee dee said...

Any man that want to have anal sex with me must allow me put my five fingers in is ass first. if he agrees to that no wahala, atleast he should feel the pain too.

Anonymous said...

That's how this man am dating will be asking for anal sex all the time, I actually let him have his way once after so munching begging,na so the guy got carried away with so much pleasure and started telling me that he's enjoying me so much,he can't imagine me with another man that he doesn't do it at home with his wife the way we do it,that I make him feel complete.he was hoping that I would feel flattered but I borrowed sense and stopped anal sex sex with him,that was his first and last,I never give in to his begging anymore and warned him not to ever ask that of me anymore.

Anonymous said...

We want money n den we want obo.totot,kpekus,ikpu,duri,pussy,punani,vagina, can someone please remind me of any oda oriki it has

Anonymous said...

That's how this man am dating will be asking for anal sex all the time, I actually let him have his way once after so munch begging,na so the guy got carried away with so much pleasure and started telling me that he's enjoying me so much,he can't imagine me with another man that he doesn't do it at home with his wife the way we do it,that I make him feel complete.he was hoping that I would feel flattered but I borrowed sense and stopped anal sex with him,that was his first and last,I never give in to his beggings anymore and warned him not to ever ask that of me anymore.

Anonymous said...

Telema do you say gullible? And you use another girls pix as your dp? Talk about hypocrisy

BECKY'S DIARY said...

Okay oo
I think you and Cissy are perfect for each other.

You both can watch Game Of Thrones and read the quotes all the days of your lives. Think about it plz

PLATINUM said...

How is he sure that the church girl hasnt done worse with her life.
Smokers are liable to die young!!!

ibo geh said...

I don't get why people would be trying to please a boyfriend or even a fiance.For me, only a husband is deserving.. just be yourself , if he truly loves and cares for you, there wont be pressure. Make women receive sense.

School Life said...

Just be natural, if itz not you, it's not you.

Robyna Fenty said...

It's simple, SO YOU. Don't compromise your beliefs cos of a man. I have also met guys that have left "good girls" for bad girls. Christian brothers that say they want to bring bad girls closer to God. Some leave their good girls under the pretext that they don't want a boring marriage. Don't change for any man. If you are good remain good,a man that likes that will come your way. If you are "bad", like a naughty idgf kinda girl dont change, a man that likes that will come. Men are different, they all don't want the same thing. This is a generalization. Some man love it when their wives/gfs are scantily dressed, mini skirts and plenty cleavage. Some won't even allow their wives come out in a tank top. Different strokes for different folks.*shrugs*

Anonymous said...

I learnt my lesson in a hard way, first time i allowed my bf try it, i saw hell on earth. I was naive and trying to please him, relationship sef didnt last. I came out strong and better, never will i devalue myself again. Thats a promise to myself. Am married now with Gods, i thank God each day for saving me from that toxic relationship.

Pinky Success said...

No matter how good a woman you are, you can never be good ENOUGH to a man who is not ready!

Ayomide Adenike said...

hmmm ladies should pls be careful , don't go extra mile to please a guy it does not worth it. Trust me

chi exotic troll said...

Chi u are a lesbian.. so I guess u give it to women. Fatass

Anonymous said...

Lemme go anon on this. My ex opened my eyes sha cos I was a 'good' girl. Smoking,spontaneous sex,stuff I thought I could never do. In fact ehn,he gave me free hand to even party cos he wasn't the party type. He would drop me at the club and come pick me up. I let loose with this guy to the extent I didn't know myself again. I had never loved the way I loved him. He cheated on me,kai. If he had just broken up with me I for even understand. He kept stringing me along and dropping hints so that I will code and leave him. Discovered he was cheating. Started dating the girl a few months back while we had been dating for 2 yrs. In summary, he is begging me now for marriage. Trailing me upandan but I no send am o. That breakup really opened my eyes. It was then I realised I didn't know who I was anymore. I did practically everything for his approval. I had no say for myself. I love the fact that despite the love and all that I had for him, I still respected myself and let him go when I discovered he cheated. I also learnt something about myself. It will be very difficult for me to forgive a cheating partner. Thanks for SDK blog all in all for lots of lessons learnt. Abeg forgive my epistle and typos.

Adanne said...

Oh poor you...am.glad you received sense.... Sidechickthings

Adanne said...

The girls will not listen, when money is involved, they forget their senses.

Anonymous said...

Same thing I told my 'boyfriend' when he asked for anal... I know we both dont love each other, im jst bored and he's too busy. can't wait for my main guy to come back into d country jare

Monkeynofine said...

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Ayzee said...

Ladies...do not focus on becoming what men WANT...rather focus on becoming what they NEED. Every and any man can want anything but every man needs the same thing (whether they know it or not). Become an embodiment of wisdom and strength...wisdom is strength...don't just focus on beautifying your outer self πŸ’… πŸ’‡(pancake, Brazilian weave and all πŸ˜‰) but also work at beautifying your inner self..your mind...master the art of being independent...being creative...the beauty of this is that you wouldn't only be attractive but would also definitely attract your kind and be able to recognize him when he comes along. ✌πŸ‘

Zeddicus said...

Anon 14:02,it's not working for Annie!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Seriously you can never have answer to this question cos the list is endless. Men want a lot just as women but as a woman never allow a man live his fantasy through you. Always be you only. Do only that which you enjoy and makes you at peace with your God. At the end of it all you will only have yourself to blame if things don't work out especially in relationship. Why demean or dehumanize yourself to please someone else. I did mermaid style and my hubby waited till wedding night for me. That's what I wanted and today we have an awesome sex life. Ladies should respect themselves and be financially independent and I tell you no man wiΔΊl disrespect you. God bless you all

Anonymous said...

Telema, are you ashamed of yourself? Put your own pic nah!

Anonymous said...

So anon he's just fucking you like a whore? Sorry

Anonymous said...

You only stop anal?? Hmmmm

Tush baby said...

It is better to be forced to do chores than forced into smoking and anal sex that will affect ur health

Lady j said...

U still dey dis blog?

Lady j said...

Anon anal sex sweet? U done put ur finger there once and see how dey feel? Aaaaah..not talk of put prick there? Forget dat thing ooh dat one na die ...

Anonymous said...

Why cant bitches just be themselves

Must everything be about marriage


Stupid hoes

XOXO MYSTERY said...

Another day, another story that touches.

Like for me and all my men.
I have the one that requires me to use very hard hand on him, if i am calm, he does not feel me, he likes me when i am fire.
I have the one who likes me to compliment him always and stroke his ego.
I have the one who likes to be given some space sometimes and he would come back chasing you furiously.
I have the one who likes you not to do a damn thing in his house, he does not respect women who turn to house-girls because of relationship.
I have the one who is a foodie, he likes different food, he fell in love with me because i prepared some tantalizing food for him.
I have the one who likes me to check up on him, every minute.
I have the one who likes me at first sight
I have the one who likes me to compliment his mother always.
I have the one that i don't know what to do with him.

Am i married? The answer is tin kom, tin kom, amebo mind your business.
I know some humans are reading these to save for IHN news. Hope i am entertaining you?

Anyway, the moral of the story is, study your man and know what he wants. For him to marry a good girl and keep a concubine outside, it means he married out of societal pressure and not what he wants. There are men who loves 'bad girls' like that and most of those 'bad girls' are married.There are men who loves 'good girls'.

The fact that he married the anal virgin does not mean he is happily married.
Once someone is married and we have eaten their rice to our satisfaction, we do not care what happens afterwards. Getting married in our society is like happily ever after so whether the couple fight everyday or not, we don't care, for us, their story has ended. You might be shocked, the other anal defiled lady still married a better man.

One thing you should know, someone who has formed a habit of having anal sex is not going to stop just like that, marriage will not stop him. Just like a woman who tasted oral sex, she will almost continue to crave for it.

Moreover, we cannot all control everything.
Some kept themselves, got married and gave in to their husband sexual desires which might include anal sex or 'nasal sex' or any hole required and the man still married a second wife.

The definition of bad girl vs good girl is all made up by society. All are saved by the grace of God.


Then again, i am so against anal sex whether married or unmarried, if the front one is not enough for you then fuck off.

By the way, Naija girls
Every sex must not lead to marriage. That is why most men come with marriage and love tales to deceive good girls, once they open, the men will run. But a 'bad girl' girl will fuck you and will start running before you wake up in the morning, the man will be the one chasing her.

Most 'good girls' will have sex with a man then leave one of their shoes, bra,pant thinking it will keep another girl from sleeping with him...really?

Y'all should smoke some blunt sometimes, it is not that serious.



KING XOXO MYSTERY

Anonymous said...

If Other girls can leave the mumu relationship after his cheating. Some will still hold back and come here and write chronicles.

reemah said...

Becky's Diary ya wikid.

Anonymous said...

Kelvin do you have a job?

Rhoda Rex said...

Lol, Becky idi wicked.

Anonymous said...

Anon 14.02...πŸ’‹ U couldn't have said it better!
Babes even for ur hubby do not overdo urself, unless he has repeatedly shown not said o, SHOWN, dat he can die for u and d kids.....else handle him with ur number 6.

Anonymous said...

This is a classic example of people blaming someone else for their stupid actions. Asking what men want is like saying you are God that knows it all. Don't forget no two individual, men or women are the same. So one man's meat is another man's poison. When a man ask a woman to do something and she accepts its her decision and should be able to take responsibility. Most times women accept and start using the fact that they love the guy is the reason why they did it. It's all lies and their reasons for doing it is as a result of peer pressures,trying to belong to certain class and group, insecurity and wanting to explore. So men want different things just like women and in the quest to find what they want they take advantage of women who are also not sure of what they want. Going through a lot of chronicles and relationship issues on this blog is enough evidence to show that a lot of women will settle for anything in trousers rather than the man they dream of. Women too are the same and also do take advantage of men who are all over them. So men and women actually knows what they want but drift all in the quest to explore and catch some fun. Some get a way with such actions and some pay the price. So women open your eyes through your brain and not open your legs with your heart. Love is how you define it. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

I remember when my hubby was demanding for anal sex I said no and he started given me attitude, hubby is a sailor until one day he board a ship and the other sailors are gay he told me one toasted him and said wil fuck the help outta ur ass hmmm hubby left on friday was to be expecting him in six months time only to see him on saturday morning telling me he is scared of loosing is shit hole , I ask him bt ur demanding for mine he said he wanted to try is luck.

Chijioke Okafor said...

Kelvin are u sex starved?See as u dey fall ur hand

Kelvin Dat Edo Boi said...

Anon oh yes! I have two jobs, can u do half of what I do,?nope! So nyash down πŸ˜›πŸ˜š

Kelvin Dat Edo Boi ( Stellz Cousin )

ukwu dimond said...

no comment.

Anonymous said...

With your tinny d**k I guess!!!Fat boi

La'creamie said...

Gbam!!!

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Anonymous said...

Ladies go to Tavarn Lounge & Bar@ Wuse 2 opp Emab gardens, it's the coolest place to meet great guys.
Thank God it's Friday.

Booboo kitty said...

King xoxo! Loool I love your good girl nd bad girl analysis. That's the pure truth. Bad girl will fuck nd won't call u for dayysss hahahha that's my style. D nigga will be the one calling kikiki. While good girls will be blowing up the uncle's fone nd be keeping tabs on him, making the nigga lose interest.

Anonymous said...

Wetin you write so? Did you mean you met a boy?

Anonymous said...

Bad girl keep a good home better ,I prefer to marry a runs girl wen done see life than the one way dey form good girl

Mao Akuh said...

Don't do something that when you remember it, you won't feel happy.

Anonymous said...

Thank u my sista! Real dead mentality. Dey dnt knw d diff btw being a junkie nd hvin bad habits. if dem c junkie dem go fit talk? Wen u say junkie, na those psychos wey no fit stay without hard drugs like heroin, cocaine, and all dat. Those who sniff nd inject themselves with all sorts or ecstasy re called junkies. I'm married to a med doc with two kids nd we smoke weed/skunk together. Infact na me dey wrap am for am self. So my dear bvs, no be my dat one.

Anonymous said...

I just pity the lady that will marry Uche Kanu Kingsley my God!! I can only imagine. Very evil and devilish guy. That guy is just a pure sadist and highly unnecessarily secretive. His heart is just black and can never be cleansed. The devil is his god father.

Stella that your story explains the guy above.

Anonymous said...

Just imagine, he wants to tear your anus but doesnt try it with his wife.

Anonymous said...

Stop looking for perfection when you yourself aint perfect.oh please

Anonymous said...

Right?

Anonymous said...

Your offence is your bad English.. Just kidding, maybe hes not into you.

Anonymous said...

Why did you have to be anonymous to post this? Why didn't you put out your name so that we can know that your story is real...For all we know you might be a lady who stole from him...or a gold digger...or a jealous whore. Next time don't be anonymous.

Anonymous said...

Becky😁😁😁😁

zion said...

Nice comment,that just what it is

Anonymous said...

Very true

Anonymous said...

Your own is different because u wanted it or u r naturally inclined that way. You didn't do it because it husband forced you or because you want to b loved more. I drink well with my husband. All these spirit and coke or alcohol apart from beer. I don't drink bcos I want to please him I drink cos I am in d mood. And e Don tey wey I drink.

Anonymous said...

Am with you on this, ungrateful animals that's what men are for real.

Anonymous said...

Useless hopeless girl, you will always be a sidechick idiot!

Anonymous said...

*a guy

MISS DIASPORA said...

Why would u blame someone else for ur own actions...if u are matured enuf to make a decision,be matured enuf to live with the consequences...dnt blame d guys!!!

Anonymous said...

U are so on point!!!

Bae said...

That's how they do. Dump you after bending backwards for them

HEAD MASTER said...

Honestly and truthfully all I need is steady inflow of cash and every other thing will be added unto our relationship.

Anonymous said...

True one demon thought God is dead crocodile! Vampire!

Anonymous said...

My dear Full Gist, you are the realest. You have said it all. When someone is putting you on a long thing, just know it is time to shift.

Anonymous said...

He just loves your person, with or without weed

Anonymous said...

That is the summary.

Anonymous said...

My boyfriend,now husband, wanted a lot of things. I told him, dont worry, once we marry, i will do everything. That was my constant response to things he wanted that i was neutral about. The things he wanted that i also wanted, yeah go for it. Once w got married, ehn ehn, i did everything i told him i would do :-).
Point is don't agree to do anything either sexual or not that you are not 100% into with a boyfriend.

Anonymous said...

Even a husband has limits. We women should learn not to lose ourselves.

Adibuah Felix said...

North Dakota you are the best for this comment. Your head dey there. Ah! My dear you are too much

Anonymous said...

Decent or not, bad guys like them decent and decent guys like them bad. You will be fooling urself thinking the bad gehs wont get married, in some cases, na them they marry first and good husband o. Most of this women shouting decent, na their husband dey mess around pass. Btw, i am not indecent o, just hate it when people judge.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ @Anon 16:15

Anonymous said...

I have a small problem.... Can someone help??
My bf was raised by a God fearing woman, only for him to start having agnostic atheistic views. He didn't have a saving culture, despite earning well and he doesn't seem to be as classy as me. Don't get me wrong. I earn way less than him and save way more than he does. But if you see both of us, you will think he's the pauper. He just doesn't know how to allocate his 700k a month salary. And it freaks me out cos I know he doesn't have responsibilities apart from himself.

So, I've talked to him about church ish, he said he's started going. I talked to him about saving plan, he said he's saving. I talked to him about trying to make his personal space habitable (it was a wreck when we met and I had to organize it) he said he's working on it. I've never caught him cheating, even though I smell a rat. I don't want to dig into the rat hole. I'm not the type. In all this, I don't hound him about the corrections I made. I expect that once we talk about it he deals with it and we move on. Can't be checking up on him to remind him. I mean, he's not a baby.

But it took a whole lot of arguments to get us to the point where he agreed to start doing things reasonably. Mind you, he's 31. And a part of me doubts that he's changed for good. I think he's just putting things together to marry me. Cos sometimes that stubborness comes up.

So even if he might have changed, I feel drained from all the arguments and I've lost my attraction for him. I lost all the energy and zeal I got into to the relationship with. I don't feel the same. Not even the physical attraction. I got really drained at some point and I even commented here. He tried making ammends but the spark has been lost.

So what do I do? Do I try to rekindle old flames, or walk away? Last time we spoke he talked about marriage next year and I dunno.... I didn't feel excited. That's not the way I want to feel about a future partner. Am I at fault?

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ mumu in your mind now you're a strong wise woman *yimu*

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

He is preserving his wife and using her to catch trips and she's feeling smart

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

If you keep acting like you're saving it all for hubby they will keep using marriage as bait for us.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Like Ciara's hubby. Left all good girls for Ciara. Isokay!

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Preach! πŸ™ŒπŸ½
Financial independence baby.

sisi eko said...

See, if I didn't marry early in life ehh I prolly would die single. Yes!!! Reason is, the moment you start to attach conditions to our relationship, that would be the very end. Who u be? In fact I tell my hubby he's a strong man to have taken my trailer load of shit. No, I'm not arrogant or non like that. Never was. I just happen to love my peace of mind and I like to do me.

Why would I say to a man that.. if u want bla bla bla.. marry me first then I'll be so and so to you? Meaning that you'd be doing me a favour and I just want u stuck with me, hence the bait? Nahhh mate, NO can do. Sorry, but that's my interpretation of such nonsensical conditions. I tend to pride myself in certain areas, and this is one of such.

See, again, I wasn't even looking to settle down when I got hitched. It just so happened... while you may not be God's gift to any man, or vice versa, better believe it that there's always a monkey for every gademn baboon, no matter how uncoordinated u may see yourself. Adjusting to suit another person's life should be done at will, and better make sure it's sustainable. Not to impress before marriage and afterwards start to have issues because you can't keep up. At any rate, marriage isn't meant for everyone. Believe it or not, Not everyone will get married. So you see..

Just be yourself. No one is better qualified.

OK bye

sisi eko said...

True. I know a couple like that too. They both have their smoking time and it's their bonding moment. If you like, carry all the money in world Bank to them when they sit to smoke in their conservatory, they won't attend to you at that moment o. Quite a respectable couple, in fact they are public figures I wouldn't want to mention their names here. My point is, some couples are bound in love by what others consider a bad habit.

I also came across some friends while in college. The guy was my friend and I got close to this babe he was dating then. They also were smokers. Guess what, anytime they had a fight, they made up by lighting each other a cigarette. And at that point they'll ask every mediator trying to settle their ish to excuse them. Before they finish the cigarettes they are back kissing and giggling and those of us on standby will just waka pass like mumu. Lol.

So the weirdest of things can be a thing that will bind u with another person because u both are in tune to the same things. Gerit

sisi eko said...

Yinmu. Go to section 8 and see correct crackheads raising a battalion. As the mother is sniffing something the father is already high on whatever. Poor kids. Lol

sisi eko said...

Don't I just love u?

sisi eko said...

Your offence is that he prolly only considers a woman he has been intimate with as his Gf. So perhaps, because you haven't given in, he decided to put u on the side. But listen girl, HIS LOSS. Don't mind the mumu boy.

Anonymous said...

@Sisi Eko. Tuscany probably sounded too sensible you couldnt comprehend.

alicia said...

What do you mean left all the good girls for Ciara? Does having a child outside wedlock make her a bad girl? Have you ever heard her get involved in any Hollywood scandal asides the whole Future fiasco?
Just to school you a bit, who belongs with you, belongs with you. Although our choices may affect who ends up with us or who we lose. What's the definition of a bad and good girl if I may ask? And while answering that, remember that perceptions differ so don't choke down your definition and labels on others.
Another truth, many times, opposite attracts.

Do you even have sense? My folly was ever thinking that you were sensible and wise. You are simply an Ode.

Lepa shandy is back said...

What about Olu Jacobs and Joke Silver? Them smoke together like people wey dey chop fish pepper soup from the same bowl

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Alicia are you done....
A good decent girl will never date bow wow and 50 cent and future. There are other decent guys in Hollywood, but she was always rolling with her kind. While she ended up with a guy who quotes bible passages on Twitter. There are girls like Jordin Sparks who don't go nude in their videos, but he didn't see her. He saw Ciara. Ciara reminds me of Janet Jackson when she was younger. Always showing boobs and ass everywhere. So she's not decent. She didn't have any self esteem until she met this guy. That's why she will date guys who are younger than her or guys who have baby mamas upandan. So maybe she's got mentor and she gives you hope, but she's not mine.

If you are a baby mama and its paining you that you luck isn't shining, doh oh! We didn't send you to spread your legs round the whole migerianto come nd be bitter on a blog. But the God of Ciara will answer you one day. Hopefully, you're still young enough to brag about your foolishness turning in your favour. Until then, keep being bitter and hoping your waywardness will turn it for your favour.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Alicia are you done....
A good decent girl will never date bow wow and 50 cent and future. There are other decent guys in Hollywood, but she was always rolling with her kind. While she ended up with a guy who quotes bible passages on Twitter. There are girls like Jordin Sparks who don't go nude in their videos, but he didn't see her. He saw Ciara. Ciara reminds me of Janet Jackson when she was younger. Always showing boobs and ass everywhere. So she's not decent. She didn't have any self esteem until she met this guy. That's why she will date guys who are younger than her or guys who have baby mamas upandan. So maybe she's got mentor and she gives you hope, but she's not mine.

If you are a baby mama and its paining you that you luck isn't shining, doh oh! We didn't send you to spread your legs round the whole migerianto come nd be bitter on a blog. But the God of Ciara will answer you one day. Hopefully, you're still young enough to brag about your foolishness turning in your favour. Until then, keep being bitter and hoping your waywardness will turn it for your favour.

Anonymous said...

Anon 04:15 give yourself a break, you've got so much going on in your head right now. Try to rekindle the love, remember you're not perfect yourself

Mrs Bee

Anonymous said...

Hahaha My hubby left all the yansh opening, breast displaying, sexting and club days ladies for me. I am one of those who fear for the unknown future, I was so cautious that I fear to date twice in a city. I have heard lots of disgraceful news that made me want to never make love except i am married. Well I didn't end up marrying as a virgin, but my hubby choose me over the ladies that were doing everything for him. After we got married, I am no better than the other ladies because I now send nude pics to him, go clubbing and getting drunk together.... He taught me all but I have always wanted to do such stuffs myself


My conclusion is most men prefers to be the one to expose their wife

alicia said...

This is how you all talk nonsense on this blog. You're a real life efulefu. A confirmed block headed drone.
A good girl doesn't, a bad girl doesn't..... Just read what you typed? If it makes any sense to you then keep being stupid. There's enough stupidity around so goodluck being one.
Saying what's right and logical has nothing to do with who one is or what one isn't. I am not a mother, talk more of being one out of wedlock. Now will I judge a girl or call her names cause she's one? Hell no. Will I attack an efulefu such as yourself who defines a female by the mistake she's made and labels her? Oh yes I will.

I still didn't get the definition of a good and bad girl but I'll let it slide ad you're simply a first grade, efulefu. Now run off and get hit by real life badluck, you stupid good girl.

alicia said...

And on the issue of self esteem, you must have a lot of it to choose such a good, decent and holy blog ID. I mean, after all, you're a very good and decent girl who has made all the right choices in this life and deserves a great husband like Russell. Awwwwww

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