Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Memo To Men -MUST READ.

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Sunday, 25 September 2016

Memo To Men -MUST READ.

This writeup should be an eye opener for you Mister man!




I had a friend at a drinking joint I used to sit so many years ago. One day we
fell into a talk on family, women, wife, etc. In his contributions, he said "I
cannot sit at home with my wife for five minutes, we will fight. We will just
pick a quarrel. It's either she is not pleased with something I did or I am not
satisfied. We pick quarrel always so I don't even care to sit at home with her.


So if you see me at this joint always, that explains it." And truly, go to the
joint anytime, he was there, either sleeping or smoking or drinking.
He was so loud about this status with his wife. I have heard him say it so
many times that his wife or marriage is of no value to him other than go
home eat, sleep, bath and walk to the joint.

At a stage I didn't go to the joint for about a month. Was busy outside town.
The day I saw him on my return, he was a shadow of himself. Emaciated.
Sorrowful. Spent. Drawn. Taciturn. I hailed him and asked him to be served
his usual beer. He rejected it. I was shocked. Him rejecting beer? I walked
close to him.

"Wetin happen? I asked
"Bola, haven't you heard?
"What?
"My wife is DEAD." Vocal emphasis on "dead".
"Jeeeesssus!" I shouted as I walked back to my seat.

He fell into his sorrowful, quiet mood again. And it was like I saw tears rolling
down his cheek. As people came in, he was quick to announce to them
sorrowfully: My wife is dead. I heard him announce it to more than 20 people,
who commiserated with him.

That was when it occurred to me that why would he cry. Why announcing it?
Didn't this man say his marriage and wife mean nothing to him? Didn't he
say he could not sit for five minutes with her? He was never at home, an
absentee father and husband. So now that the woman is dead, what is the
noise about?

That is marriage for you. Some couples treat themselves as if they don't
matter. Issues that could be resolved by a mere roundtable, they walk away
from it. And in most cases, even if you remarry another woman or man, the
same story repeats itself. Those who quit one marriage for the other, ask
them how it feels. Let us work the marriage. Marriage is work. My Yoruba
people would pray that "may couples not know each other's value when
death has taken one away."

More often than not marriage dictates if someone will succeed in life or not.
Marriage is not a creation of man. That is why you need to think properly on
your values and choices. On what your reactions to each other would be.
Some homes have been destroyed just by ONE careless statement the man or
woman made. In most cases, women are more sensitive. Men must know
women for that.

My guy, sit at home with your wife. Watch African magic or Telemundo with
her. They like it. When she is ill, sit with her. Call her from your office every
now and then. Behave as if a vital part of you is also ill. Offer to cook for
her. Pray for her. Let her see that her sickness affects you. Simple care! If
wives do this for husbands, why can't husbands do it for wives?

When you wake up, squeeze her hands. Squeeze her bum. Let her believe the
love is still like before. Ask her how was her day yesterday. Talk about the
children. Any food at home? Soup still dey? Even if you have no kobo to put
down, discuss it. Show you care. Most times these women have money. The
care you show will make them bring it out. They are no fools!


If my friend did these to his wife, that poor woman could still be alive today.
Till now, my friend is still drinking, smoking and sitting at the joint.
Disorganised. No home. Children distributed to family members and I am sure
he is not catering for any of them. The wife who catered for the children and
paid rent has gone.

Someone told me recently that he is even holding his wife's death responsible
for his misfortunes. He was quoted as saying "My wife warned me, na me no
hear. If I had known, I would have listened to her when she was alive."
Painful words. Painful lamentation.

Some people will never know the value of their spouses until they are forced
apart. May your home be very blissful. May your marriage be a loving
experience. But be ready to work it!


To show care for your wife is not a sign of weakness.


BV James (not that James)


227 comments:

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em jay said...

OK ohhh.

amanda favour said...

This James you get sense wella
God bless you


LMAO 😁 @ not the other James

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

Had to check if its abati.




*hangs leg on the cupboard*

Falz´s Wife said...

Of course it's not that JamesπŸ˜…πŸ˜…. That James will never write something like this.

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Eze Henry said...
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Jasmine said...

Squeeze her bum!!! Lol.


But seriously, people don't know the value of having their spouse alive and around.

My landlady is dead but everyday, u'll hear the husband talk about her. This is someone that hardly praises any1 even his kids but now that she's dead, he praises her at every given opportunity.


RIP Mrs Soyebo

benny Ama said...

Hmmmmmm, I love dis. God thank u for giving me a loving and caring wife, even dou I never born for Am, he love me scatter And he can spoil me with gifts ehnnnn, make I no too talk, make I go pray so I go born plenty pikin for am, cos he is gonna be a good father.

stelly ozoms said...

Well said!!

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Wow!...
I hate seeing women die in their marriages!..
It's better for the man to die than the woman mehn...
When I was reading this,I knew the drunkard must be a yaraba demon!...
That's why I keep advising women here not to allow any man give you HBP cos when you are gone,he will simply marry another babe and your children would suffer!...

I enjoyed your writeup James!..
The only sensible yaraba man I have seen...I hope you practice this your preaching at home sha...

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

Wooow what a man? Are you married? Can I cheat on Lee boo with you just once?
Kwakwakwakwakwakwa hopes Lee boo doesn't see this.


Cc: Brad
*hangs leg on the cupboard*

RICHBEE said...

Nothing but the truth, some men turn woman into monsters there's no woman you show love and affection that will in turn show you hatred
God give me the man that will not bring out the beast in me AMEN

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Lol @not that James.Well said poster.Couldn't have said it any better myself.
Men,una hear? God bless as many as will heed this advice.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

I partially agree with you, but some women are demons straight from the pit hell, no matter what u do, u can never satisfy them, everyone should pray not to marry a bad man/woman.

Anonymous said...

Lol @ 'not that James '.
well said dear BV

Sweet Mother said...

One man's meat is another man's poison.

Chidinma Grace said...

I love this write up but how many men will adhere.

Timeyin Amorighoye said...

Woooow,stella I love this write up, I am not yet married but as a lady I have learnt a lot from this, Thank you

Anonymous said...

Very nice article but I have a question to you "Yoruba man". Why do Yoruba men treat their wives so badly because "their mother does not like her or suggests so"? If their mothers say divorce her, they do it immediately. If they are engaged and their mother says she doesn't want the girl, they quickly dump the girl no matter how many years they've been together and no matter how in love they are. I am A MAN and I say this from the character of my Yoruba friends. Their mothers seems to be "in charge" of their homes and relationships.

Default Smile said...

Lmaooo at not that James....James is still Stella's love and our blog entertainer....happy sunday people.



#I am a fruitful vine, I am a joyful mother of covenant children

Cynthia Iyede said...

True talk up there. Loud it bro! May God give men and women the desired wisdom to run their home and also value it.

Khedira said...

Wow really touch by this word though not marry yet but learn something from it. God bless me soon with the right woman for me.

White Diamond said...

Lwkmd @ not that James.

For once, a reasonable memo to the men.

Let me sit back and watch them try to extricate themselves per usual.

#WhiteDiamondOut

BLUNT said...

Telemondo, Africa Magic etc may be the problem afterall. How do I even cope with a lady that watches these channels?

EESAH WAS HERE said...

The main reason for all these is that once the men get or marry their women, they stop doing all the things they did to make them say I do or I agree to date you.

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times always with the same person.. Continuing to be loving and caring.

stunning slim shady said...

Dear I want to be married to d man who wud love, adore, worship n respect me 4ever n a day more.


Marriage is not a child's play n I must enjoy it to d fullest wen d time comes. Amen

I am blessed said...

Lol at not DT james

my opinion said...

Nice one

Anonymous said...

Mr James we knw already dat it's Nt dat James bcos hm no fit write dis tin.lmao

Miss Ferragamo said...

James not that jamesπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

Anonymous said...

Lmao @"not that James".well I bless God.the husband I married will know my value very soon.i Was working in another city before we married,i gave birth to my first child and suddenly I couldn't support him with part of my salary as usual(responsibilities of a child na)before my child would reach 12 months my husband got another girl pregnant!started staying with her.my parents called begged and prayed so this marriage will stand,for where.he was set in his ways.i kept praying too doing good wife.Lol.second child came(boy)na der I see shege.my little money I give him when he's broke(he gives me too)he started giving his mistress.i had to stop work and move to the town he was so we can work things out,i begged him to come and drive us der,he refused.i drove my car to the city.my brother gave me money I paid rent bought small food for kids and started hustling for a job!hubby showed up.moved in with us no shame sef.i accepted him.when time reach for kids to resume he started picking fights.mind u I got a job not too well paid but can feed us.insults here and der.under this same roof my YOUNGER brother paid for this husband of mine still cheats on me and insults me to whoever cares to listen.all my neighbors know I'm dis and dat,just becos I let him stay.hmmm.marriage?my grandmom always says it's by luck.im in God's hands.im moving out to an unknown destination.

Ada Nwanbueze said...

God bless you James for this write up. If you show a woman love and care she will make your life worth living, but if it's the reverse she will make your life a living hell. A woman has the power to make and break a man.

white Berry said...

What a lovely piece of advice to the men out there. He who has ear let him hear.

Falcon said...

Lol, not that James, wetin u mean na.
Nice write up, preach it!!

Iyke Emma said...

I like this. But whoever will die will die when the time comes. Amen to the prayers.

stunning slim shady said...

Wow i love LoVE. Stella nwunye Korkus pls stat a series on how i met my beau/better half/missing rib/boo/dh. It would be enlightening n lots of fun. πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ˜˜



I suggest u replace it wt ihg of Saturdays n Sundays.


Thanks.

1nigeriangirl said...

Hahahaha stella said Not that James. Is he still hiding?

Men, learn to love your wives as christ loved the church. I can't shout o. Una go still come bash this memo.

Phew october do and end o, I'm still in September and I'm tired already.

School do and resume.

Gift, you better create a blog id and stop reading under anon. Ok bye

Anonymous said...

@poster. The man is irresponsible.The reality is that some wife are bad and some husband are sent from hell. Pray never to marry one.I regret marrying my wife She querrell all the time .our marriage was arranged stuff by parents . We never did Courtship After the bride price she came to stay with me and I discovered that she is very rude.I told this girl that I did not want to marry her again , that I don't like her manners and we will not be happy in our marriage. Told her to go back to her parents but she refused and stayed put. I called my parents and told them I can no longer want to marry the girl and I want to cancel the wedding. But they will have none of it. They begged me to go ahead with the wedding ,that she will change.I always listen to them since I was small so I agreed. I am not trying to shift blame I am the one that fucked up. After the wedding,she pretend to change cox she knows that I will divorce her if she continues to misbehave. But after she got pregnant, she brought back her true colors, there is no day we don't querrell and It is always over unnecessary things. Presently,I am tired of her but can never divorce her cuz of my two kids. It has been two years we made love cox she always misbehave ,disrespect u after you sleep with her or play with her .We are trapped with each other. I don't want my children to experience broken home. I give my wife everything she wants but I can't sleep with her again or play with or joke with her. She will become rude again .
Moral of the story . always be careful when it comes to marriage. U may never get a second chance. Don't do it if you have doubts.

fresh roses said...

This write up can never be from that james.lol.nice

Mhzzbee int'l said...

Very beautiful write up and story, it doesn't mean husband should be home 247 but not hanging out every blessed night drinking and smoking when your wife needs your company at home too. Only if they will hear ooo.

Obed Nwafor said...

God bless you very insightful and I have learned from this too

Chysugar said...

Loud it!!!...

Anonymous said...

What men don't know is that it takes very little to make a woman happy. What most women want is attention. Ask married women that are cheating what they lack at home. Majority of the time, it isn't even money they lack. But lack of attention from their spouse.
I am not encouraging cheating o, but men instead of going out daily after work, never being home even during wkend. Why not spend some quality time with your wife, that is what most women crave for.

SDK Babe (AMAQ COLLECTIONS)..fashion designer at your service..bbm 58DB44B1 said...

Nice one.
Lol @ not that James😁

Favourite Girl said...

I wish all men could read this, u will put in your very best yet no word of appreciation. God pls safe your own. Women, learn to make wise decision when it comes to marriage

OlaGold (add up 58BF8F56 for 18-24k raw gold dust and bar) said...

It's so good to know that James is now a brand new man. Indeed James is now born again. Old things are passed away...

Anonymous said...

na wa o. I am not married but I learnt a million lessons from this. because me I be stubborn person. Thanks for posting/sharing

@DGoldenJenny said...

Thank you poster(JAMES)
Same goes to women
Always be a shoulder for your husbands to rest on
Submissiveness and prayers is the only key to a successful marriage
May almighty God help us In Jesus Name....AMEN.


PEACE

Anonymous said...

Stella, please do the needful to this comment and the one he posted above as anonymous. Delete sharpish. Silly boy! I'm glad that Stella diligently deletes all the comments you post.

Blackberry said...

Story, after now we will see her with big belly, 3rd b on d way. Guy work things out with ur wife, u too have a problem, two of una head dey hot.

Oj said...

Yes sassy, we have heard and we'll try our best to make our homes happier

SDKprincess said...

True talk my dear very very true....wish all men can think like this

Anonymous? Lol said...

@angelray True, but such women aren't many. Even all the noisy seemingly aggressive ones here, na lie, most of them will make good homes with (decent) men. U see, it takes being good n decent to bring it out in others. And since God says men are the head of the men & as such home, the work of bringing out d good & decency in Eka, Linda, Odi, runs babe, ideato, shanny et al rests with a good & decent man. 9 out of 10 times, a man will get what he gives to his woman, good or bad.

Ok bye!

sussan ogbuli said...

Sex kee u dia.Your mentality is your weakness.
May God help you!!!!!

SDKprincess said...

Uhm sorry but u look the way u think....what a pity

Ohjay #_# said...

Nice one.

Sylviaasss said...

Really??? This is the dumbest thing I've heard in my whole life. Eh Pele o Mr strong man. You shouldn't even sit and spend time with her when you want sex kuku tear off the pant and have your way.
I'm sure it's a puppet you want to marry not a woman. Keep being a strong man and see how you'll end up mschewww
Opkonu oshi.

karma?...please said...

Please is your love a transgender? No vex abeg

Anonymous? Lol said...

So every foolish man who let's his mum run his life is Yoruba? Even d oyinbo ones? You must have a very narrow sphere of interaction, or just a narrow mind, period. Who go mumu go mumu, got nothing to do with tribe.

I for say na James b dis but dis person articulate pass am, except James don dey go night school!

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Not true...
I cheat because I'm tired of eating egusi soup all the time...

Anonymous said...

I swear! I hate it when women /Mothers die! Men seem to eat their cake and have it all depends time.May I live long to reap the fruits of my labour over my kids in Jess name!

Anonymous? Lol said...

Nay bro, the real question is how will ANY lady cope with a dude that reasons like u! U wan make she follow u watch football & action film & horror movies but u can't join in watching wetin she dey enjoy!? Kindergarten reasoning.

RICHBEE said...

Husband you mean?

Chynaza said...

Where did this nkakwu resurface from again? Hian. Anu mpama, men are talking, this nitwit is joining issues. Mshewww

Rhoda Rex said...

πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’. U sef

Anonymous said...

You are indeed an ugly little under fed child

Anonymous? Lol said...

Great aspirations! But babe, are you also preparing to do same as u desire? And are you living a life that will attract u to D kinda dudes who can do what you want? Don't forget, the guys too have aspirations

Chynaza said...

Are u in a lesbian marriage? God gave a caring and loving wife? Issorait

Anonymous? Lol said...

Too true!

Sylviaasss said...

Nice very nice!!! Learnt a lot from that.
Value and cherish what you have now...tomorrow may be too late
Communication is key! Talk about everything and anything you can ever imagine. Be each other's friends

Anonymous said...

Many of us do my dear

Anonymous? Lol said...

Arranged marriage, bro & you agreed? Abi did this happen in 1986??

Ehlarh said...

See guy, everyone of us on this blog know u as a Stupid person. I am sure if we check your DNA,we will find out that you have the Gene of a Goat,keep displaying it for the world to see. Itibolibo.

Ehlarh said...

See guy, everyone of us on this blog know u as a Stupid person. I am sure if we check your DNA,we will find out that you have the Gene of a Goat,keep displaying it for the world to see. Itibolibo.

Anonymous? Lol said...

No decent husband goes out daily, least of all cheat, or beat, or be stingy. There are bad husbands like there are bad wives. Let's all work hard & pray to be good, a blessing to our spouses.

Anonymous said...

True talk! I cheat. A beg don't come and "cum" under my comment because hubby started the cheating spree! Emotional cheating on. ..nah him! Sexting o...nah him! Has slept with all my maids including the 14 year old one I got last year till I decided I cannot come and go and die mbok! As sexy as I am after 3 kids, as soo as my new boo said hello, all the pain and bitterness and hurt the idiots cheating ways dealt me vanished! Chai! New boo is a master head giver...mk I leave that side. It's true I didn't set out to cheat there is no woman under heaven u show love and care to that will show u wickedness!!!! Even wild animals are tamed by love. I met hubby when his salary was 15K. He never gave me recharge card 100 let alone engagement rings, we stuck it out the money started tickling in and boom!other women became pirioty.

Anonymous said...

My husband came home in the middle of night delirious and hallucinating, Found out he took a girl and she gave him a tablet drug and also took SK( I think that is the street name). Please what is SK and what are side effects. He has refused to go to the hospital. Am just confused, I can't even get made at him right now.I don't want him to die. Help me

Anonymous said...

Go ask your father how his mom controls him. Stupid pig of an Orangutan.

Anonymous said...

What did you do to him? Two sides to a coin my dear.

Anonymous said...

What happens when after showing her genuine affection and care and she goes on to cheat on you and make your life hell? I'm so done being the nice guy. No need for the niceties on these babes. Its just wasted to no avail.

Anonymous said...

Idiot.....u ain't a man na

Olori footwear said...

Wow!your comment today will make it to heaven. Which soap you take baff today? Lol.

1nigeriangirl said...

Will you ever say something that makes sense. I pity who ends up with you o. Childish to the core

1nigeriangirl said...

Asineh. Medicine after death

1nigeriangirl said...

Ur wife abi ur husband?

Anonymous said...

U r dumb sha!!!u born first,he showed u his true colours and u fucking got preganant again????damn!!!u noh get sense abeg.

Olori footwear said...

You are right anonymous 14:21. Most of them are like what you just described. Each to his own

1nigeriangirl said...

Do you have sense? So you were giving him half of your salary, as a sharer that you is. You lay your bed, lie on it

EmmyBennie said...

Better for the man to die. You are sick.

EmmyBennie said...

Just as some women turn men into monsters

franka said...

Wow... You are one of the problem In this world. I pity your wife

1nigeriangirl said...

Are you yoruba? Cos i wonder how your parents chose wife for a grown up like you. Who knows if you dumped your loyal gf just to please your parents. Carry your cross

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

I'm not understanding
Na you be wife and husband altogether?

Empressitta said...

Big SMH for u.

Ed said...

As a child with low mentality DAT u r!

Eka Joy said...

I think it's a made up story

Mrs. Romas said...

Good message.
A happy wife is a happy home, make your wife happy, she will in turn make a welcoming home for you.
Make your wife always sad, you will walk on thorns. Wives are the blessings that complete their husbands.
Don't make separate rooms. Separate rooms prolong quarrels.

May God bless us and help us keep our homes.

Anonymous said...

The poster also frequents the bar. Why not stay home bro? Practice what you preach man.

Eka Joy said...

Why are u complaining. Didn't u follow him to another town? Didn't u take his ass back in? Pls stop disturbing Jare.

Stella maris Baby said...

Continue..

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

How I wish I can hear your wife's side of the story!...
There is no way you will be treating your wife right and she will be misbehaving...
I'm sure you cheat and rub it on her face...your type will even use her as a punching bag!..
Oga,go home and make peace with your woman!...

Isaacson said...

This is quite interesting.
(To men) Please take time to ponder. ��
(To women) Just enjoy the story. ��
Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighbouring kingdom.
The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.
The question was:
*What do women really want?*
Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.
He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.
Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.
The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but first he would have to agree to her price.
The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur's closest friend. Young Arthur was horrified.
She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.
He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden.
But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered.
Arthur's question thus:
"What a woman really wants?"
She said, "A woman wants to be in charge of her own life."
Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth, and that Arthur's life would be spared. And so it was. The neighbouring monarch granted Arthur his freedom. And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.
The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him.
The most beautiful woman he had ever seen was sitting by the bed.
The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth become her horrible and deformed self only half the time, and be the beautiful maiden the other half.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Is that you on your profile?...

Anonymous said...

I am not understanding, ur man is the wife??

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

Are you an animal? What specie are you?





*hangs leg on the cupboard*

Isaacson said...

."Which would you prefer?" She asked him. "BEAUTIFUL during the DAY... OR at NIGHT?"
Lancelot pondered the predicament.
During the day, he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!
OR,
would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day? But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous moments with?
(If you are a man reading this) What would YOUR choice be?
(If you are a woman reading this) What would YOUR MAN'S choice be?
And Lancelot's choice is given below...
BUT, please make YOUR choice first before you scroll down below!
OKAY?
Knowing the answer the witch gave to Arthur for his question, Sir Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.
Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.
Now, what is the moral to this
The moral is...
1. There is 'witch' in every woman, no matter how beautiful she is.
2. If you don't let a woman have her own way, things are going to get ugly.
So, be careful how you treat a woman and always remember:
IT IS EITHER "HER WAY" OR IT IS (NO WAY).
Most men would not realise this until their old age!!!
This is food for thought

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Yes oh Stella,it will be fun!...

Ed said...

Since you agreed to the arranged marriage and went ahead with it,why don't you try n make ur marriage work n for peace to reign by always avoiding anything called quarrels... Whenever she starts,try n kip calm n maybe walk away from increasing d quarrels... I believe as tym goes on,she would realize her doings n change. Always put it into prayers,there's nothing God cannot do

Anonymous said...

Desperate yoruba people everywhere. What kind of men and women do u breed

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

This is not marriage oh!...
It's better you are single nau...what's this rubbish?..
Madam divorce him sharply and get a boyfriend that would be helping out!...

Anonymous said...

Why will ur parents be begging an irresponsible man to stay married to you, are u that ugly?? And u even got pregnant d 2nd time, I can't deal abeg

Stella maris Baby said...

Interesting post.
Lol @ not that James.
Men take note..

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

It's because most of them are brought up by their mother!,..
Their men don't play a good role in raising up their child!...
They leave everything for the woman,..the woman will pay house rent,feeding,school fees etc..

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Sweet mother longest time....

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Na wah oh!,,,
Are you a woman or a man?...

Godiya loves Linda Eze, Portable Viv and Atheist said...

Fool

Tynu Akom said...

Henry se ko re e? U need to be checked.

Ugochi I.j said...

Eze Henry. hahahahahhaahaha .You are child! Why did you bother to go on anon mode only for you to cast yourself. Hunnie, adults are talking , go read a book.

Godiya loves Linda Eze, Portable Viv and Atheist said...

I hate divorce, but at this juncture, i'll say I support the decision u want to take.

Ugochi I.j said...

Hunnie it will be ok. Just concentrate on your kids and yourself.

Anonymous said...

You don't understand the write up from your comment. Are you an illiterate quin and bus???

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

What's with the generalisation of Yoruba folks as demons? My 2 elder brothers are married; one married a Yoruba lady and she conceived immediately after marriage. The eldest married an Igbo lady and although it took her years to conceive, my brother never misbehaved, neither did he abandon her and now, God has blessed them with a very beautiful baby girl. An irresponsible person will always be irresponsible, irrespective of tribe, age or creed.

ov o said...

It's people like u that will end up like d man in d story. Mugu

jay said...

You are a compound idiot!

Loveme Jeje said...

Anons 14:43 it is well with you. Go and look for a babe outside to satisfy you. Na wa for the dead on arrive marriage.

Our James is otolo.

Yemi7up said...

This is good write up. Some men think is only the women that builds the home, a man that keeps malice at every little misunderstanding is not a real man. A man who will not appreciate his wife's contributions to the growth of the family is not a man.

sassy barrister said...

U re a mugu. And it's guys like u that end up like d guy in d chronicles. Mumu.
U only spend time when u want sex. Why don't u get a prostitute. Goat

Anonymous said...

I thank God, Men are the ones held accountable for their marriages before God, no matter the excuse men build on earth.

Starlight. said...

Thanks Mr James.

Uchechi Jane said...

Nice one,hope we learn from it.

Anonymous said...

Ehen!!!

Weaknes is knowing people like you exist.

Anonymous said...

Fool

Anonymous said...

Be strong o...very strong. Just be strong enough to bear the loneliness that comes with this kind of stupidity you just displayed here. Anu Nkita!!!!

Anonymous said...

Because u aren't a man, so you won't know. check down there to be sure cos you might just be missing the balls.... EllaM

Fab Mum said...

A caring wife or husband?

Anonymous said...

Ur Mama for use u do period. Total waste of effort on your birth. Guess prolly this was the way she was treated by your father. What an utterance of complete rubbish. Na men like u no get kobo for hand and dey wait woman to take care of u. I just can't deal mehn. Sign of weakness my black ass.

Anonymous said...

Lol see as the guy sharply deny James because we know say James no get sense

Anonymous said...

And someone married you?!! Good Lord. Just said a prayer for your husband.... EllaM

Anonymous said...

Are you bisexualπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl loves Aeegurl said...

As I got to that part of 'squeeze her hand' 'squeeze her bum' I smiled. You sabi the irk jare.... God bless you James. Men can you people hear?

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

And them rejoice when dem born you o.

Sensa Greene said...

Lmao at not that james

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Chai,I give up on you!!

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

For once,I agree with you.

Sarah Bella said...

Yes marriage is work.. I and my husband be having issues and i use to pretend as if i dnt care until recently he started joking with his job...hmmmm i no won hear that one cos that is what pays the fees and takie of us in the house.so i went on my knees day and night and now i know better,he has totally changed and everything is now working together for good. I will not stop praying and i will never stop praying.

Francis ezekwonna said...

lesson note to bachelors:
Do not marry that girl out of sympathy. if you have doubt about her behaviour, do not marry her.
pray and ask God for a better partner even when you are not ready for marriage.
finally even if you've had s3x with her don't let the styles she gave decide your love for her.

A man will only claim to have been blessed by God only after marriage to a good wife

Anonymous said...

Please calm down my Dad is a yoruba man, my mom died 10 years ago and he didn't remarry anybody, we haven't suffered for 1 day. I am presently schooling abroad even in this recession and my brother is literally in the most expensive uni in Nigeria. I am not bragging please because everything is God's mercy and grace, but please don't assume all yoruba men are alike. Individuals are different and behave differently, it's not about the tribe.

Lady C said...

Really he his d only sensible yoruba guy u have seen,I tink all ur life u stay in d east dat y u dnt knw aw lovable yoruba men are.

Anonymous said...

I enjoyed your story

Anonymous said...

God bless you, I need to forward this link to Hubby. The part "SOME HOMES HAVE BEEN DESTROYED BECAUSE OF ONE STUDIP STATEMENT " got me and that's why I need to send the link to him.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

*mothers...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Lady C,I have lived in Lagos for over a decade now and I have mingled with yaraba people wella so I know what I'm saying...

Anonymous said...

You are a fucking tribalist. Well mannered being they said begins at home, you just lost a fan.

Alinco said...

The small boy in you is talking

Anonymous said...

Lovemejeje it is dead on arrival. Oya thank me now

Miss Ferragamo said...

English palava πŸ˜…

Ed said...

Exactly! Thank you Anon 15:12. They don't know d sacrifices n compromises DAT we make just for a relationship to work.. You wouldn't blame them. They always reason differently from us

Roseflower said...

Nice story.

Anonymous said...

Oluyomi coward go upthere and ask Queen and boss this question. Fear fear, yaraba men are demons. Loud it

Alloy Chikezie said...

Hmmmm...

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Anonymous said...

SK means skunk....Igbo mixed with chemical or something....

Alloy Chikezie said...

Hmmmm!

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Anonymous said...

SK means skunk....Igbo mixed with chemical or something....

Ed said...

Wow.,. Wat a piece! πŸ™‹

Anonymous said...

Olori footwear what do you mean by which soap she use baff? OK U that use the best soap to baff u have taken part in all the SnM abegi what is the result?

DaSparkles Beads Abuja 08035239797 said...

For those that don't value or listen to their wives

Cherry Wine said...

Sk is like weed but stronger, I don't know about the side effects but anything he's feeling would wear off

T said...

Wow! Great piece

Chike Anumba said...

Hhahahahahahahhahahaha..
No fear, Abati no get special chair for madam Korkus home

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

Lol very sensible guy

Anonymous said...

Don't blame the poor guy. He comes from a rubbish family. In mama no know his father

Chike Anumba said...

He is just a good case of abortion

Chike Anumba said...

Na small pikin be dis naaah. Just look at his pic.

Chike Anumba said...

He is a gud case of abortion

Chike Anumba said...

Hhahahahahahahhahahaha. Bekee bu agbala. As English take come na so e go take go
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Anonymous said...

I married for love. She married for green card. I no do again.

If only I sabi better babalawo...

Anonymous said...

Skunk. It's a higher version of weed and a lower version of coke

Eze Henry said...
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Uriel (Freshdew) said...

Nice writeup

Anonymous said...

I know it cannot be the other James. That one does not have enough sense that can cover the head of a pin.

Anonymous said...

Queen and Boss I don't think your dh will always "worship the ground you walk on" if you don't respect him .

Nwanze Ifunanya said...

Wow wow wow wow!(ambulance mode)! This is so beautiful! Welldone!

Nwanze Ifunanya said...

Interesting piece! A word is enough for d wise!

Anonymous said...

Well said, Linda

Anonymous said...

You must be interacting with dregs. R u one, too? I know queen and boss is.

Anonymous said...

Igbos have no shame. Well most. You hate yorubas but u have lived within them for over a decade. And you are saying it boldly. No shame. Y dont you relocate to Onitsha that is a bubbly as lagos? You truly are the lowest of the low. Na ur type dey shout biafra pass but you can neva contribute to the cause or move to the east to show support. Fool

Anonymous said...

And if it is? Ashewopedophile

beeolah said...

Well sald poster, god bless u plenty.

Anonymous said...

Anon, you are the coward. Oluyomi has answered the entire blog visitors. She does not need to pick out one individual and fight with . Im sure she would have done that if that was her intention. Plus she is obviously too mature for that. So fuck you Anon.

Anonymous said...

I bet you guys that are talking about Yoruba men in a negative way are either myopic or stereotyped in your mind to your perception of who Yoruba men are,it is myopic to attach a certain trait to a particular tribe or Nation because not even twins behave in the same way.I am a Yoruba man married to an Ibo woman and when people says Ibo's are stingy,i simply laugh at their myopism/ignorance because my father in law is one of the most generous human being i know.So please on this blog say no to tribalism.

Ebony Ama said...

I think she means Husband

Lagos Shopper(get your goods from the popular Lagos markets at the market prices from anywhere in/outside naija,call us,07030493148,u donot need to travel. said...

This is quite beyond me...lol

Chidinma Gift said...

My husband loves me and I love him too, i know say na lack of money dey cause all these our quarrels, Baba God abeg pick our calls and give me a good job and bless my business and let my hubby's dream of becoming a pilot come to pass even though we don't know how it will happen but we trust in you

Lagos Shopper(get your goods from the popular Lagos markets at the market prices from anywhere in/outside naija,call us,07030493148,u donot need to travel. said...

@1nigerian girl......enough of the tribalism abegi,im 90percent sure hes not yoruba.im a yoruba lafy married to a yoruba man and our home is an example to others(Thank God)!

Anonymous said...

Linda Eze Oya clap for yourself U and your husband sleep and fuck around and u are OK with it don't worry continue you hear Don't two of you ever stop

Anonymous said...

15:27 your problem is that you choose the wrong women. Maybe the good ones are not up to your standard? So if you treat the next one who may be innocent badly, you will bear the brunt and suffer the consequences.

The Traveller said...

Hmm... I often wonder about humans, stereotyping and blaming. I have read the many comments that blame women and those that blame men. And some are blaming being Yoruba.

When will we learn that while that is an easy and convenient model, it never really works?
Whether male, female, Yoruba or Chinese, if a person has a bad habit, wrong attitude or values. Then it is that. Admittedly, my association within groups, we may learn some poor practices. However, the problem is usually never with the group but the bad practices. Being part of a group doesn't demand that you have a bad practice too. So imagine how those who work hard to not be associated with poor practices feel when people make sweeping statements about the group they belong.

Labeling a group won't make anything better. It just condemns people and distracts from the real problem - some bad practice, attitude or value was learned and needs to be unlearnt.

The simple version I apply to myself regularly is this, "If God deemed it fit to believe in humans ability to change enough to allow this son's death for the hope of such change happening, why should I be quick to label people like change is impossible. It's easier to label".

It's harder to believe in people despite what they represent. But if Christ's would give his life with the expectation of a man or woman who will change, I should be able to put my feeling on the line. Our world has indeed become very self-focused (self-centered). No wonder Christ wondered if there will be any love in the world by the time he returns. Let's be wise. Let's change ourselves. Let's help others achieve the change needed to make love (unselfish love) increase around us.

Stay blessed.

Anonymous said...

Enjoyed this story. Maybe she will turn into the grumpy witch during aunt Flo's visit.

Anonymous said...

Lovely story, Sir Lancelot a very kind, loyal and noble man. He surely got what he deserved. Thanks Isaacson.

Anonymous said...

Anon15:27are u chuks from orlu,dat came back from dubai june or july???cos u soo sound like him.emi nii nk

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