This is a different kind of Omugwo!
Greetings Stella, so I read your post about the single parents singles and mingles and it made me wonder why no single mum ever sent it Omugwo chronicle so I am taking the bulls by the horn.
This might be long but oh well.
A little background, after being a mermaid for a year plus I finally did 'IT' with an old friend, 3 weeks later I had the worst cramps of my life that I had to go to the hospital for pelvic scan. Because I wasn't 'collecting' from anyone I didn't bother tracking my menstrual circle so when the cramps started I thought it was my period but there was no blood so that scared me that I had to go see a gynae.
He recommended a PT only for the result to come out +. Stella see me and confusion. 'Collecting' wey no last up to 15mins and this is the result? I was numb.
I am an extroverted introvert, I have few friends and confide in only 1. I cried and cried with my pillow and my bed. After a few days I decided to keep the baby. The odds were in my favour somehow. I am a graduate and I had a small job I was doing and lived on my own though 23. I figured I could do it.
I did tell the father to be and he suggested I abort it but I refused. Stella that was how my pregnancy journey started o.
I used to be very close to my mum and I feared what the news will do to her cause she had so much hope for a super rich son in-law as I am not bad looking, I knew even my extended family will be so disappointed because they believe me to be very smart and assertive.
I jejely didn't tell anyone till my last trimester when I told my mum. All hell broke loose. From threatening me, to forcing me to provide the man to come marry me, to guilt tripping me I had it all. Fast forward to 9months, went for ante natal with back pain doc said it was time. Started labouring from 1pm till the next day, it was hellish. I still wonder how some women do it more than once and some even 4 to 5 times.
After 36hours of labor I was so weak and scared I might not be able to push when it's time to do so. So I asked for the doc and opted for CS. Thank God for my friend who was there and my sis who came in the next day. I had my baby around 5pm the next day. When I came out of the theatre I called my mum to deliver the news, she came to the hospital the next day spent the night and left saying people at home will be wondering where she went to as she hadn't told anyone I was pregnant.
My sis stayed with me till we went home after 4days. While at the hospital the nurses bathed my baby, my major concern was how I was going to do it with my fresh incision. I had already prepared myself for no omugwo seeing as my mum was yet to come to terms with me being pregnant.
I joined many pregnancy groups online and many of those oyibo women didn't have anyone to help them so I told myself I could do it as well. It was hard. The 1st morning at home my sis and I didn't know what to do. The baby was so small, I was scared I'd break him and I couldn't even bend to give him a bath. I knelt and squatted and sat giving him a bath all the while crying.
Later in the day my friend visited and suggested I go tell my neighbor to help with baths till I am stronger. Luckily the lady agreed and came mornings and evenings to bath my baby. Chores were done by my sis while I minded my baby morning and night. I wouldn't even let him out of my sight. A day to his circumcision my mum came saying I can't handle a circumcised baby and she stayed for 4 days before she left.
4 days spent berating me and telling me I need to get married and what a shame I brought on everyone. I had my bundle of joy so nothing anyone said was going to get to me.
9months later my baby and I are doing great, got another job with better pay in a different city so baby goes to daycare while I work. Only thing I would have done differently is eat and eat and eat while pregnant since I ended up having a CS after eating all the fruits, nuts and veggies so my baby will be small and easy to push and I won't be fat, exclusive breastfeeding still made me fat.
On a final note, unmarried ladies, biko become mermaids o except you know you can have an abortion as childcare is damn expensive especially if you want the best of everything for your baby and you do owe any child you bring into this world the best.
*Wow,your baby is so BEAUTIFUL and I thank God you didnt abort the preggy
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