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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN HE REFUSES TO BE FRIEND ZONED
Hi Stella, keep up the good work. My narrative is quite long so please bear with me. OK, so am about to lose my mind and its no joke! Here it goes... Am a female in my early twenties, am very pretty with a great figure, good job and Godly ( stating it will help understand my story). i am currently dating a guy (I love him to bits and vice versa).
Now, sometime last year I met a guy, a medical doctor, at first he lied about how he got my contact but later told the truth that a friend gave him, although he won't tell me who and claimed to have seen me several times at work but was too shy to talk to me, I said ok. Along the line we became friends , we would hang out n gist about work, life, relationships n stuff, chat and call (we're both in the medical line).
Two months later he asked me out and I said I was with someone. Stella, that was the beginning of my troubles. Honestly at least 1 guy asks me out each day but once I say no they understand and we remain friends but this guy won't agree. For over 8 months now he keeps repeating it over again, he gets sick and cries anytime I avoid him(am serious, I know), his dad knows me and wants me to be with him. he told his dad about me and even arranged a surprise meeting where I met his sisters from the UK.
I told him it was for no use that he should move on tho I liked him. I left my job for another place( we worked in the same place) cos I couldn't bear it yet he kept showing up at my new workplace with gifts and persuading and looking all sad and depressed. I even relocated to another state again hoping that would make Him forget but he came and insisted I see him, I did cos I didn't want him to get sad and be lost in thought and have an accident on his way back.
He once deleted all social apps on his phone cos i didn't pick his calls for a while and bashed his car once cos he was lost in thought about me (weird but true cos I know that one cos.I was angry wen his dad told me he bashed his car so he told me the truth) This guy has everything a lady needs, he's tall, young, very handsome , very wealthy and successful, extra caring, understanding, intelligent ,shy but outspoke around me (he's not so religious but doesn't drink or party).
I like his personality but can't be with him (he also wants to settle down soon), How do I make him go away. I pick his calls out of pity these days, I reject his gifts and gestures too, I hardly reply him but he keeps flooding my phone with sad messages and he has had a suicidal thought once, he's tall and slim so I know he's prone to depression and schizophrenia (medical bvs will understand me).
The last time I saw him he kept begging and pleading for me to date him so much that people would think I jazzed him. Your red pen is highly needed. I also didnt tell my bf cos he'll blame me that I didnt tell him from the onset cos we don't keep things from each other. Please advise me.on how to make such a person go away without hearing he killed himself because its that serious. I have even introduced him to other girls and arranged blinds dates for him, but he insists its me or no one
Please help.
*This kind of love and wanting someone is sick,really sick..You shouldnt fear for him alone but also for yourself cos he might decide to hurt you as well when he gets really frustrated.He sounds sick.
So you changed work and location and he still found you?How?Who gave him the addresses?
You know what i think?you are the one holding unto this guy even though you say you dont want him.STOP BEING NICE AND AVAILABLE TO HIS Brouhaha.
Oya clap for your foolishness๐๐ป
ReplyDelete@anonymous 15:36..I don't understand myself..why are they so many ''longer throat girls' everywhere
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DeleteI loaded all the airtime o...stella biko post. I am so delighted. For the first time!
DeleteHappy birthday dear...may God favour and replenish your pocket. Amen!
He is mad,run,!!!
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her, liar! You left town, quit job? Poster you can lie ehnnnnnn
ReplyDeleteChukwu aju!! Poster, you have what they call an OBANJE STALKER. That's not love please, it's chronic demon possession. You have to cut off ALL contact with him. He'll be alright, trust me. Block his numbers and delete him off everywhere. If he handles rejection so badly what kind of husband/father figure/ leader would he be if you eventually decide to be with him out of pity? If you really love your boyfriend as you claim, you'll cut off this wizard completely before he totally ruins your relationship. I repeat, he'll be alright. He should "chest it" biko.
ReplyDeleteSTOP enjoying the attention. It's becoming deadly.
I'm late but let me fill in the blank. You guys hung out,became friends and even though you were seeing another who I guess is in another country or an "ass" you got down with this other guy a few times and he loved it. He's "obsessed" with you because he does not understand how you guys had something good and you want to stop if all of a sudden even when he knows the other guy you claim to be seeing is just on paper as you might have told him a few times that you don't really love your boyfriend that much. You like this guy but you can't date him properly cos of things you've refused to mention. So dear poster,he's not a freak as you think, he just doesn't understand why you can't leave your assumed boyfriend for that thing you guys share and feels so good to him. Oh! And I noticed how you didn't even use the word "boyfriend" just someone you're seeing. Make up your mind.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I can relate oh! I can sooo relate. My own wasn't this bad sha. but my folks got involved.
ReplyDeleteEhen.... remind me.... how did you get to speak to his dad? How did you even start arranging babes for him? Madam, you sef aren't helping matters. You're doing stop it i like it. Playing with fire. Ok.
As a memo to others: any man who isn't bold enough to tell you how he got your contact should be hushed up immediately. That's a sign that he has hidden snakes #IMO you letting sleeping dogs be in that aspect was wrong. You should have woken them up and warned them not to bark again.
Now solution: Get a restraining order from Nigerian police. Yes nau.... it's possible. And this case go sweet, you know why? Nigerian police hate chicken men. Chickens in general (ideato take note ๐ฉ๐). They will abuse his brain back into his skull. And even give you their number to call them whenever you see him let them help you flog that devil from his buttocks.
Next, change numbers. Did I hear you say it's inconvenient? Ehen that the price you have to pay for entertaining a guy who can't tell you how he got your number nau. Change it.
Then lastly when bae asks, start crying that you don't know ooohh..... one of your ex colleague is disturbing you and you thought it was a joke but now it's scaring you. Bae will shout that you didn't say since. Ehen.... normal. After shouting, both of you will join forces and fight the yeye guy together.
Of course the guy isn't sane so his family should take him to a rehab centre for counseling and stuff. That's not your job. You are not drug to cure anyone's craze so he should leave you alone. Indeed many are mad but few are roaming.
Exactly
ReplyDeleteFirst of,i don't get why posters love to praise themselves...."im hot with a coke bottle figure blah blah" pls get to the story already,in reality now they have big tummy with pimple and spots face..mtcheew. besides this story sounds fake AF. Nne wake up from ya dreams.
ReplyDeleteEyahhh..... so that he will die in the house and they will say it's her? You don't even know what you're saying my dear. I kid you not
ReplyDeleteChronicles of queen of England
ReplyDeleteRubbish full of her self
Get it into ur mind that guy is not in love with you
No be u gave him ur address of ur new place
Over sabi
I'm wondering why his father wouldn't slap some sense into him. I also don't agree he is in love. Love is not obsession and stupidity. Poster, may the forces be with you. It's also high time you told your bf and be careful.
ReplyDeleteHehehe. Talk true oh @ poster, you've compared your current boyfriend with this guy and your BF falls a bit short, that's why you subconsciously don't want to let him go.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to let him go, you know what to do jare.
You changed jobs and even location because of him? Or because that was in the pipeline for you?
Cos I don't see why anyone would go to such extent to get rid of someone clinging to them and still entertain their calls and even provide their current details for this person to see them.
If you really want this guy to leave you alone, drop his contact details here under this comment.
You've stated that the guy is a catch already, by the time SDK 'single minglers' stalk the living day lights out of him, he will forget what you look like.
I dare you, if truly you're looking for a solution to your 'problem'.
Lol. But u just nailed it
ReplyDeleteAjo nwa de badoo. Epic advice though kikikiku
ReplyDeleteChikito what is the meaning of this ? I am ashamed on ur behalf.
ReplyDeleteThank God he did not phone you 27000 times in a week!
ReplyDeleteLMAO!
ReplyDeleteI also need to know.
To be frank, ayam not understanding either@ IVORY
Anytime I'm too swamped to comment on chronicles... I totally look forward to your comments.
ReplyDeleteAnd I read every single line@ EMPRESS CHO๐
Gbam, gbamer, gbamest!!!
ReplyDelete... Jesus is my worth!
I agree with u dear,its pure obsession n u r really in a big trouble cos it doesn't come out fine. You need to tell his family to caution him before it gets outta hand
ReplyDeleteThe guy must be a dumb*Naija women are cheap*
ReplyDeleteFantastic response.
ReplyDeleteSpill na...
ReplyDeleteThank you very much. That is if the story is even true because it sounds fabricated.
ReplyDeleteI love your comment chikito the professional runz girl
ReplyDeleteDont mind the day dreamer..you changes location my foot. Nton mkpo
ReplyDeleteChanged*
ReplyDeleteSee this yeye poster o..coming under anon to type shit. Who gave him the new address if not you! Please sit your sorry ass somewhere!
ReplyDeleteSee this yeye poster o..coming under anon to type shit. Who gave him the new address if not you! Please sit your sorry ass somewhere!
ReplyDeleteMy favorite BV @ QUEEN. you dish out horrible advice most times but I like how realistic you are. Lol
ReplyDelete@atheist am I not falling in love with you already!
ReplyDeleteIdeato please calm down! Your desperation is too obvious and men will perceive this and take advantage if you are not careful.
ReplyDeleteReally sick. This can't be love, it is obsession. He needs to deal with his suicidal tendency too before it is too late.
ReplyDeleteLmao.
ReplyDeleteThere is a difference between love n obsession. It's good for a man to love you but if u date a guy obsessed with you, he can kill u if he thinks u r cheating. His kind won't allow u keep any male friend be it colleague or whatever. They will be suspicious every time n that will wear u out. R u ready to live that kind of life which can make u die b4 ur time?
ReplyDelete*hian*
*weed*
I didn't send in this story, but I have been in a similar situation. It wasn't funny then. I almost lost my mind. It was my fifth year in school. Crazy thing is I never in any way led ds one on, cos he was never my type. It's a crazy situation to find one's self. Had to run to his friend to help me out. In fact, the friend was shocked when I explained the entire situation, cos, according to him, his friend had never exhibited such behaviour. I think the lady should report the guy to someone he listens to. Obsessive love is very real and unless you have ever experienced it, you would never fully understand. Forget what u see in movies!
ReplyDeleteOnly dr ibeaja
ReplyDeleteWhat's even funnier is her saying because he's tall it makes him more prone to depression. Please give me journal articles and references.
ReplyDeleteI am not understanding too. Lmfao
ReplyDeleteYou shattap. She didn't say it was because he was an introvert but because he was tall and slim. Please give me journal references.
ReplyDelete...... at first he lied about how he got my contact but later told the truth that a friend gave him..... I left my job for another place( we worked in the same place) cos I couldn't bear it yet he kept showing up at my new workplace....... I even relocated to another state......
ReplyDeletePoster, you work with someone in same place why were you surprised how he got your number?
You indulged him. Just find a way, I've never had an obsessed friend or know anyone who did so i gat no advice for you.
No mind am.. She's a conceited narcissist. She dey form irresistible beauty and brains. Juliet ibrahim face, mercy johnson shape, Dora Akunyili brain. Lol
ReplyDeleteAt least they fly Fromm US nah. Your own is ilaje bound
ReplyDeleteOh Lord! Stella what happened to my comment? ๐ฉ๐ฉ After giving better advice comment disappeared
I'm reading comments and its appalling that many people don't knwo the differnce between love and obsession. So you guys are actually saying she should go with this guy like really??!!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I can relate oh! I can sooo relate. My own wasn't this bad sha. but my folks got involved.
ReplyDeleteEhen.... remind me.... how did you get to speak to his dad? How did you even start arranging babes for him? Madam, you sef aren't helping matters. You're doing stop it i like it. Heheh!
As a memo to others: any man who isn't bold enough to tell you how he got your contact should be hushed up immediately. That's a sign that he has hidden snakes #IMO you letting sleeping dogs be in that aspect was wrong. You should have woken them up and warned them not to bark again.
Now solution: Get a restraining order from Nigerian police. Yes nau.... it's possible. And this case go sweet, you know why? Nigerian police hate chicken men. Chickens in general (ideato take note ๐) . They will abuse his brain back into his skull. And even give you their number to call them whenever you see him let them help you flog that devil from his buttocks.
Next, change numbers. Did I hear you say it's inconvenient? Ehen that the price you have to pay for entertaining a guy who can't tell you how he got your number nau. Change it.
Then when bae asks, start crying that you don't know ooohh..... one of your ex colleague is disturbing you and you thought it was a joke but now it's scaring you. Bae will shout that you didn't say since. Ehen.... normal. After shouting, both of you will join forces and fight the yeye guy together.
Of course the guy isn't sane so his family should take him to a rehab centre for counseling and stuff. That's not your job. You are not drug to cure anyone's craze so he should leave you alone. Indeed many are mad but few are roaming.
Suicidal ideation -tall and lean-schizophrenia..abeg which medical school you go?
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ReplyDeleteThis was what they were telling Toke and now she's divorced! 21,22,25 haha! You people continue deceiving yourselves. I didn't have a serious relationship until I turned 26. Funny part is I didn't even want to. And na better fish I still catch. Far Better than the guys who approached me in my early 20s. How's that? #SayNo to relationship stereotypes. Ignore such advice
ReplyDeletePoster,this is pure obsession. It is very deadly!!! I had such an experience, with a grown ass mom's boy. His mom was the strongest force. He talks like a baby,pampers me in an irritating way. He had my pix all over his bedroom,framed in his sitting room...everywhere. Umu nnem,that was when fear gripped me. How did it end? I remembered I too was dad's lil gal. I told my dad. Na so he calmly and manly settled my obsessed "family ". The kain lie my papa lie,no be here. Lmao
ReplyDeleteWhat does tall and slim have to do with schizophrenia, Biko? Stop misleading people.
ReplyDeleteI know right, it's sounds so made up. Especially the medical thingy. I'm a doctor and there is no relationship between slim and tall males and schizophrenia. Whoever sent in this story is in serious need of a slap.
ReplyDeleteLol @ Atheist
ReplyDeleteBest comment here!!!
ReplyDeleteMouth is saying No while body language is shouting YES!
Abeg help me and see oo!!!
ReplyDeleteLol
Can't wait for the response already!!!
ReplyDeleteThe girl sounds like someone who leads men on and cut off from them when she feels bored!
Gbam!!!
ReplyDeleteLol @ Miss LINUS...
ReplyDeleteAre U the poster?
ReplyDeleteOr her sister?
Mtschhheew!
My dear, I can relate oh! I can sooo relate. My own wasn't this bad sha. but my folks got involved.
ReplyDeleteEhen.... remind me.... how did you get to speak to his dad? How did you even start arranging babes for him? Madam, you sef aren't helping matters. You're doing stop it i like it. Heheh!
As a memo to others: any man who isn't bold enough to tell you how he got your contact should be hushed up immediately. That's a sign that he has hidden snakes #IMO you letting sleeping dogs be in that aspect was wrong. You should have woken them up and warned them not to bark again.
Now solution: Get a restraining order from Nigerian police. Yes nau.... it's possible. And this case go sweet, you know why? Nigerian police hate chicken men. Chickens in general (ideato take note ๐) . They will abuse his brain back into his skull. And even give you their number to call them whenever you see him let them help you flog that devil from his buttocks.
Next, change numbers. Did I hear you say it's inconvenient? Ehen that the price you have to pay for entertaining a guy who can't tell you how he got your number nau. Change it.
Then when bae asks, start crying that you don't know ooohh..... one of your ex colleague is disturbing you and you thought it was a joke but now it's scaring you. Bae will shout that you didn't say since. Ehen.... normal. After shouting, both of you will join forces and fight the yeye guy together.
Of course the guy isn't sane so his family should take him to a rehab centre for counseling and stuff. That's not your job. You are not drug to cure anyone's craze so he should leave you alone. Indeed many are mad but few are roaming.
His family may know something about him that they are not telling.
ReplyDeleteMadam have you heard of obsession? Calm down o. Before you go give mad man "one chance"
ReplyDeleteAs Kim k that u is now๐ฎ๐ฎ๐๐๐
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