STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN HUBBY AND HIS SISTER ARE BEST OF FRIENDS.
I have been married for 10 years and I have 4 kids with my husband. My husband's sister had marital issues with her hubby so she left the marriage which produced 4 kids to come and stay with us in Abuja .
She stayed in my house for 6months and during her stay ,anytime my husband is going out she must follow him,even when my husband had gone out she will call him to come and carry her to wherever she wants to go.she calls him to pick her up and follow her to buy things,they hang out together during weekends ,these are things my husband has never ever done for me.
When I was pregnant with my twins,I will beg my husband to drop me at a junction when my car was bad,he will always complain that he is a very busy man. I became independent ,I don't disturb him any longer but I was shocked when all of all sudden he became less busy when the sister was in our house.The day I delivered my twin boys I drove myself to hospital and did all the hospital errands all by myself because he was nowhere.
He doesn't hesitate to tell me that his sister is his bestie ,his closest friend and that hurts me so bad.
When I married him,he lost his job and i used my salary to pay house rent and make sure there is food in the house for him to eat .i shed blood to birth his 4 kids but he appreciates his sister more.i am close to my own sisters but my husband and kids always come first . She later moved out when she got her own apartment but anytime I call my husband ,he will be in the sisters house eating or relaxing.
I later got opportunity to travel to US to work as a nurse but his sister told him not to travel that I will kill him there!!
We quarrelled because of the sister this morning,because the sister bought a car and wants my husband to drive the car from Lagos to Abuja,I begged him that the road is bad,armed bandits are everywhere it's better to pay a driver that knows the road very well rather than him to take that risk.i even accepted to pay any driver to bring the car to Abuja so that peace will ruin.
He became so violent ,brought down our wedding picture and broke it into pieces with a big axe,this happened in front of my little kids and they are tormented right now.
Please I want to ask this question,is it right for a husband to put his sister above his family???
Am I wrong by feeling he should put his family first before the sister.
Stella,am so so depressed right now,can you post this real quick.there might be errors because I was crying while tying,I just can't sleep.
*Excuse me?you shed blood to birth his four kids?what kind of mindset is that?
You make it sound like a job....Do you tell him this all the time?...thats scary!
From this Chronicle,it looks like your relationship with your in laws is South.
The more you interfere or try to break them up,the worse this situation will become,you know why? When blood talks,it is thicker than water and sharper than a knife.
You should have your hands full with four kids and your job,please concentrate on that and let them be otherwise this might escalate and break your home.
Some men run away from a house full of kids and i guess your hubby might be one of those and his hiding place is his sisters house.Since you do not have a solution,please leave them alone and if you can ,try to cultivate a relationship with your in laws,if not then take your nose out of their business.
If you must interfere,then look for a different approach.
If you ask me to be really honest?I dont see any problem with his being Best friends with his Sister.This kind of relationship between siblings is cultivated from childhood and their parents if alive will be so happy to see that their kids are so close,you cannot break this bond so please look for new ways to handle it or let them be.