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Sunday, October 23, 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

OH MY GOODNESS!





STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
WHEN LOVE BECOMES HATE IN A MARRIAGE.

 Stella, 


I hate my husband with every bone in my body. I can't stand him next to me. He makes me feel lonely. He makes me hate my life.

I hate when we have sex feels like he's raping me, I'm always dry to the point I started thinking I had a problem.  He just makes me feel so empty. He told me his prophet saw us getting a divorce, lately I have been really feeling like filing for divorce. I feel empty when I'm with him, I look at other man. 


I crave the touch of another man, a manly man(I know it's a sin) but this is how I really feel. I am so tired. He So unromantic, he uses verbally abusive words to speak to me sometimes, i.e "I will punch your face, If I beat you enh...you will know me well." He even calls me fat(I put on weight after having two kids). 

This so called husband of mine is a boy. I swear, I cry everyday regretting marrying him, he is so immature. He is 32 yrs old but still acts like a boy. I am so fed up with him. Two days ago, I tried telling him that I don't want to have sex with him anymore that we should live like friends for the sake of our two children, can you believe this boy said to me "oh, to me sex is all about going in and coming out, I don't have time for foreplay."  

He has made me depressed,I hate my life whenever I think of him. He is selfish. I can't remember last time we went out or he did anything romantic. He is so immature and verbally abusive towards me. I am so fed up. I am thinking of moving out and then filling for a divorce. 

We are about to get kicked of our house because of financial problems, do you know what this boy said to "why don't you work and pay bills, why depend on me." Stella, ever since I met I have been working and helping but this goat does not want to grow up. I am so fed up. 

I am 26 yrs old and I feel I can still get my life together and get married again in the future. I am thinking of going back to my family house and start fresh. I know the kind insults I will have to put up with from my family is not for here but I am ready just so I can leave this goat. He I need advice. Where do I go from here? 

Please be nice and sensitive with your advice. 

Give me smart advice that can help me stand on my two feet. Thank you all and may God bless your homes.


*OMG..how did it get to this level?I am lost for words.i dont know what to say right now.I read the strong words,analysed your feelings and shock has numbed me...
I guess his being broke ass and not being able to cater for his family has also contributed to these feelings?
I am sorry darling but i may have to read comments too.Dont know what to advise right now.
You will be fine okay?Keep us updated.

226 comments:

  1. You did not see the signs?
    Divorce him na. He's broke sef. Work on your weight for the next man. Lol

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    1. I pity the man that married you just imagine your write up

      He is a goat
      He is a boy
      Am craving for another man
      Bla bla bla

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    2. I knew that him being broke would surface along the narrative. Very typical of some aggressive men. And Yes, money is always a major issue amongst couples no matter how much you love yourselves.

      It's a different thing if a man is broke and willing to strive to change things, but yours seems to be unrepentant and it makes advising you a bit difficult.

      It is obvious that you've lost respect and love for him, So it'll be unfair to ask you to endure. Once love is out of the window the union is as good as dead. No compromise.

      If you despise each other this much then it is advisable to separate for a while to see how things will work out. Sorry dear

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    3. Reading the chronicle alone is depressing
      Divorce him abeg

      Both of you have obviously falling apart
      He said sex for him is to go in and come out. Chai Chai chai!

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    4. Here from both sides before judging...

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    5. Lmao @ goat. This chronicles is strong but then it bores down to lack of money. Where there is money and comfort,understanding tends to abound.

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    6. You guys need a holiday. A long romantic holiday.

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    7. @RICHBEE,don't mind her. For her mind she has finished her husband. She think she is mature without knowing that she is the biggest fool.
      Poster you are nothing but a pikin. You are not even qualified to be a kid.
      Just sit down and read that nonsense you wrote up there👆.
      I pity the man that married you.
      You want me to tell you to go and commit adultery abi?
      Clap for for yourself as a mature pikin that you IS nau.

      I will tell you, Never change change. Keep on living that stupid life you a living but make kwa sure that you did not regret it at last.
      Greatest fool of the year.
      Mtcheeewwwwwwwwwwwww

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    8. How will someone tell is his wife "I will slap you" one minute and be having sex (not making love) with her the next minute. How do you expect her to feel? Of course she will feel like a prostitute who is being raped.
      Poster, this was me about 5 yrs ago. People who have not been in your shoes cannot even begin to understand. I left. I cannot describe the peace I have in my life. It's worth all the money in the world.

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    9. Marriage is work and obviously it requires both parties involved. It's clear you are not in a place to work things out with him, but I'd advice you take a break. Then when you are calm, discuss how to work on the marriage.

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    10. The only cure for hate,is love!!

      You can never heal over this or be at peace with yourself or your marriage if you keep on allowing the hate you bear towards your husband keep increasing as each day passes..

      What you need is love!!!
      Love is the solution!!!

      Hate has its own way of making you see only negative things about A person!!

      How many times have you tried showing him love without reservations??

      How many times have you tried having A couch section with him and thus talk him into believing that peace and love can still be restored in your home??

      How many times have you tried rubbing minds with him as man and wife??

      How many times have you tried loving him and make him realize you both can still sort this out??

      How many times have you prayed about this??

      Love is the answer!!!
      Love is the option you seek!!

      Love could still be restored in your marriage madam!!

      It is never too late...Dont allow the devil win!!

      You have given up,i know!! But there is still A part of you that keeps telling you that this phase shall also pass..else you wouldnt have sent this very chronicle..listen to that voice and work on yourself and your marriage!!

      Heal yourself first of this hate you bear towards your man;and you would see things from A different view...

      It shall all end in praises!!


      @MARTINS ABOY

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    11. This makes no sense. I hope the guy replies so we can see the full picture.

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    12. The guy does not love her plus see finish syndrome. There are couples with financial troubles who still relate with love. Only divine intervention can help this case.

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    13. I think you're the problem big madam 26 Calling 32 small boy,so u don't feel him after 2kids, he isn't romantic anymore after estimated 5yrs of living together, it's quite obvious you married him then because you ain't that exposed you jumped lot step to marry and you see your friends doing better because they calm to choose rightly, my dear you said you work pls how much do you earn and what kind of work. It shows you hid some true stories 1) who are those manky men that touches you and make you feel the urge? 2) where did they touch you?. I think you need deliverance telling your husband to let you live like friend and no sex, Stella biko uar biased with your red pen, * if a woman send in such chronicle and say her husband request for no sex and live like padi alone, you will curse him and say it means he has someone spicing him up out there. This 26yrs old didn't complete learning before graduating, I'm sure u ain't ripe for marriage morally before u puma.

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    1. Let me perch here and drink chilled water as I'm in shock.*opens water bottle*

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    2. Poster!

      First of all from your post I can say you come as a very insultive person- imagine the names you called your hubby.( forget anger, we all get angry but if you ain't Insultive on a normal day you won't descend to this stage)

      Secondly, I saw money is also a major p in your family.i can't point why at this age and time you are not doing anything to bring something to the table. My findings of women that don't have any source of income is that they are very wasteful. They simply don't know the value of money. Trying to live above the means of their husbands without being appreciative of the little things he bring. They won't bring money, and won't manage the one his brings to ensure longetivity.

      Poster are you wasteful? Do you live above your means? Then want to top it and drag shokoto with oga? Madam kole werk.

      From your write up I see your relationship has nose dived and the best will be for you guys to separate before you nurture children that grow into thinking toxic relationship is lit.

      While at it darling, re-evaluate your life, tell yourself hard truth and most importantly get something doing

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    3. That's y I keep refrerring to men in their early thirties as children. Very immature. He's now taking out his frustration of being broke on you. Imagine being with someone who tell you of I punch you ehh, if I beat you you'd know me well like he's talking to a child. I really fell for you. You sound so frustrated. For it to get up to the level of you referring to him as a goat, you better leave him and move on with your life. Get a divorce cos you're neck deep in hate for him. Can you take care of the kids? What is your plan exactly? Anyways loose some weight cos you sound like you hsve low self esteem too. Get your thinking on track and think of what to do for yourself and the kids.

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    4. Insulting not insultive@anon16:42

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    5. So.... all the married people in the house.... a friend of mine once told me that at some point every couple will hate each other due to certain disagreements. But reconciliation is in sight. And they usually always make up. Is that true?

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    6. My Ex is 42 n he so Immature, Childish, Insensitive..Hes a totl fuck man

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    7. Shut Trinity whatever nonsense you call yourself. Have you heard from the both sides. This useless woman came calling her husband names. She couldn't point out what the real problem was. You're here supporting her. Because a man thirty something years impregnanted you and ran and you now have a grandfather that want to marry you. You have the gut to insult men.

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  3. Young girl, without even hearing from your husband shows you're the wicked one here, why paint your hubby this bad? This is too much, please divorce him and let him find a better woman and you too will have a good husband. Also, why did you even rush to marriage when you're not mentally, physically and spiritually ready? Divorce him and start afresh




    *Larry was here*

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    1. How is she the wicked one?

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    2. It's obvious that she's not guiltless. She comes on a blog and insults her husband,imagine what goes on behind closed doors. The husband might not be a saint neither is she. SInce its degenerated to this level, they should separate and hopefully work things out. Not an advocate for devorce. But madam ........

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    3. Larry must support his fellow broke guy na... Oga you don load shoki? Broke men no suppose get opinion.

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    4. How is she wicked? So If he's bad she should paint him like a saint?

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    5. She is not the mean one biko! That is a rant of a frustrated woman! She is probably overwhelmed! Make Una suffri dey conclude!

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    6. Starry Larry I support you 💯.
      If her father is not a broke ass why can't she collect money from him and help her husband.
      Just see the way she painted the man black. I strongly believe that she is the cause of her chronicle.
      Madam if you need advice tell me the way it started from the beginning.

      Single slim ladies that are in there father's house have not finish getting Married and you that is fat and with two kids think you are still intact for marriage. Stay there and be deceiving yourself.

      I don't support domestic violence. And I put it to you that you are the one abusing your husband.

      And all you BV ladies that call men broke ass at every slightest opportunity, I put it to you that your father is a broke ass. They say "birds of the same feather flocks together". If you are from a posh family you will only mingle with posh family.

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    7. Starry Larry I support you 💯.
      If her father is not a broke ass why can't she collect money from him and help her husband.
      Just see the way she painted the man black. I strongly believe that she is the cause of her chronicle.
      Madam if you need advice tell me the way it started from the beginning.

      Single slim ladies that are in there father's house have not finish getting Married and you that is fat and with two kids think you are still intact for marriage. Stay there and be deceiving yourself.

      I don't support domestic violence. And I put it to you that you are the one abusing your husband.

      And all you BV ladies that call men broke ass at every slightest opportunity, I put it to you that your father is a broke ass. They say "birds of the same feather flocks together". If you are from a posh family you will only mingle with posh family.

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    8. How is she wicked? There is a way a man behaves and talk to the wife in times of lack and not abusing or making her depress. Believe you are not married.

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    9. I know the man is not a saint as well but the way she addressed her hubby is alarming. She didn't even say any tangible offence the man committed, she's only looking for an avenue to paint her hubby bad where others will join her in cussing the man out. @Anon 16:56, in your wildest dream abi? I'm a 'she' not a 'he'




      *Larry was here*

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    10. Larry she can't tell all in a way we could understand that is why she sounds insultive. She is broken hearted not wicked, the horseband is not handling their broke state well. She is dying of lack of love, what she for see as marriage is not what she is getting and she can't change the situation. Poster thank God you have kids already, go to your parent's house, build a career for yourself, if he still want you he will come for you and by then he will realise you have alternative if he is not willing yo be a husband. God bless and uphold you.

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    11. Constant abuse can change a person, the husband did not water his love but gradually killed it. A marriage counselor can help, but only if they are both willing. Go to God for help and in doing so you will have to forgive him of the deep pain in your heart.

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  4. That term GOAT is very much inappropraite for the father of ur kids, if not for the love that once existed b/w you two... This must hv really gotten really south n twisted from ur choice of words, instead of living like flatmates or friends, you both need seperation for awhile, so u could learn to redefine ur perspectives & maybe, just maybe miss eahother. Therapy will do u both alot good also, i recommend it.

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    1. Exactly, separation is advisable at this juncture.

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    2. They are both too young for all this. They probably rushed in early. At 26 she had 2 children and they are having old married folks issues.

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    3. ....waiting for the husband's Right of Reply.
      The story is one-sided abeg

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  5. See rant!...
    Poster,come and answer all these questions abeg...
    didn't you date this your husband?...
    Didn't you see all these signs when you guys were dating?...
    How can you allow your self to blow up after having two kids?...
    Can't you exercise?...
    Did you guys settle una spiritual partners before getting married?...
    Are both of you from "that side of Nigeria"that dosent in a marriage?...I'm very sure you guys are from there!...
    See,marriage is for better and for worse and their is no excuses what so ever for leaving!...
    Both of you should go home and sort your selves out!...

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    1. Who hacked ur account??
      No talk of her gettin a side boo?
      Or blaming her for marrying a broke ass??

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    2. First time queen is making sense🙌🙌

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    3. Intelligentia princess loves chikito,peace maker and Linda Eze.23 October 2016 at 16:30

      All hail the Queen.. mamana may God bless you for this observations.. poster,you have to stay put ooo.. marriage is for better for worse. I knew when you married earlier than your mate you gave them **sdk side eyes** forming I was picked on time without scrutinising that horseband of yours well.
      Now,run along with your pathetic chronicle go and sort it with your horseband,God hates divorce.

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    4. Typical end result of I must marry syndrome

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    5. Linda you can't advise someone who obviously HATES her husband to remain in that marriage. It's wrong. She's here calling him a goat. Shows how bad the relationship has gotten. The husband is taking out his frustrations of brokeness on her. It's not fair. And men change. Just like women pretend before marriage, some men pretend till they marry you and then show you their true colors. How can you be telling her to stay with someone who has a tendency to abuse her physically?? Their marriage is obviously dying or dead already. They need seperation so they can think and know what they want to do. I understand those people from that side of naija lol to them matriage is nothing. They can walk out any how but with what this woman just wrote, seperation is needed at least for a while. Or maybe even divorce.

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    6. Queen Queen, you always amaze me.
      You are becoming unpredictable this days.
      Lol@ from that side of Nigeria

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  6. Madam. U are fat and u still get mouth to talk.Are Other women that eat right, work out and look normal and good after having children not human being ? U are just lazy

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    1. Lol...
      Chai, sugarcoat ur words small na.

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    2. James, shut up!!!

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    3. @Peacemaker, shut up.. An aggressive man will always be one fat or slim, shapy or shapeless

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    4. Lmao! Werey alaso!

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    5. Anon who told you Peace maker is James? He's an impostor. James is still hiding. Check the style of writing and how he cuts across. This person is trying to be James

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    6. James or not James, peace your words are truth.
      Tell her she don't know

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    7. Shut up your gutter mouth, is your mother not fat? Why didn't your father divorce her or call family meeting for her?

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    8. Woman, you are too rude!!! Get your home together.. Divorce him and come back here to start ranting for not seeing who to marry

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    9. I think you're the problem big madam 26 Calling 32 small boy,so u don't feel him after 2kids, he isn't romantic anymore after estimated 5yrs of living together, it's quite obvious you married him then because you ain't that exposed you jumped lot step to marry and you see your friends doing better because they calm to choose rightly, my dear you said you work pls how much do you earn and what kind of work. It shows you hid some true stories 1) who are those manky men that touches you and make you feel the urge? 2) where did they touch you?. I think you need deliverance telling your husband to let you live like friend and no sex, Stella biko uar biased with your red pen, * if a woman send in such chronicle and say her husband request for no sex and live like padi alone, you will curse him and say it means he has someone spicing him up out there. This 26yrs old didn't complete learning before graduating, I'm sure u ain't ripe for marriage morally before u puma.

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  7. Abeg leave the goat and go back to ur parents house before he kills u,marriage is not a do or die affair.
    This buhari regime don dey frustrate the man.That how broke men behave.If you can take care
    of those children biko shun that man cos his behavior will surely affect your kids.Nna which kin husband be this???

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  8. Madam, watch war room or go on 3days dry fasting and prayers, God will show you the way forward.

    Erm erm, abeg oo, on which post did Doppelganja bash Ideato my friend? I want to see it so that I will know how to defend my friend Ideato Bride.

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    1. My dear go and Check thursday or Friday's chronicle. Chai! E sweet me DIE! 😂😂 She was like a lizard struggling out of a hole. With its tail cut off. 😂😂😂 Pls go and enjoy the 'ride'. Xx

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    2. http://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2016/10/decent-single-ladies-do-not-live-alone.html?m=1

      There you go!! Found it just for you 😂😂😂😂 'Listen and be blessed'

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    3. And please while you're at it teach your friend to mind her biz. It's difficult but it can happen.

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    4. Doppelganger finished Ideato, tear welled up in my eyes for the poor idiot. Next time, she'll know she shouldn't mess with her elders...Lmao

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    5. Thanks Chikito, I will go and read it so that I can advise her well, cry for her and also fight for her if need be..

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    6. Abeg no be so the thing sweet reach, una can exegerate for effect on this blog. It was on the couch session of single ladies living alone I think.

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    7. Wat dopple did to ideato is called FLAWLESS VICTORY. Lol.. she has been humbled since dat day.

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    8. Lol, true she finished Ideato.
      Don't bother yourself defending her.

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    9. Chikito you have now turned busybody, learn to mind your business.

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    10. Look at what you people are gloring in. Shame!

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    11. 19:34- when the idiot of the blog trolled me where were you? See if you people talk to me on this blog I will reply. Because I have that much time. I actually do. There's no ratchetness in my real life so permit me to release my alter ego. So if you like be 100 years from Camden Town, or 16 years sucking your mother's breast before waiting for staff bus. if you insult me I will fire back. I'm not looking for class or approval on this blog. I have it in reAl life.. I've never insulted anyone on this blog or started a fight. But hungry irritants won't let me be. If you send me insults and i find the window period, id fire back. It's not negotiable rara. Let kukuma keep the blog hot. Gone are those days when I keep quiet. We need some verbal discipline on this blog. So try me....

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  9. How did it start....for every problem there must be a Genesis of it.


    We also need to hear from ur boy,,,, he has a right of reply abi


    Boy Pls narrate your own story

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    1. Seems they too kept sweeping issues under the carpet

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  10. So he's boy now eh? Oya go ahead and commit adultery. Mtcheww

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    1. Lol..i just don't get what the fuzz is about! They keep rushing in..and painting a deceitful picture online meanwhile they are dying in silence! At 26 u already want to quit? No do not quit o.. stay put..for better for worse my dear! U can separate for a while though.. divorce is not always the answer..and pray madam! Pray!

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  11. Its stories like this that makes me scared of marriage.... Chai God please o.. Abeg

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    1. Forget story don't be scared your time will come and you will enjoy your HOME.. if you respect yourself and people around you no man will take you for a fool

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  12. And u must be among those married women calling single ladies gwegws

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  13. I will advise you to to endure and go for family planning ... For sexual enjoyment, you can get a secret boyfriend faraway from your house. I'm in a similar situation with two kids, and I have a guy that makes me happy, last night he gave me £300 to buy things for my kids

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    1. Poster don't listen to this Anon pls.Never you cheat on him instead go Fr divorce!

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    2. Secret boyfriend and still married? Just divorce him and be free

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    3. Poster if you listen to this anon, then you have issues

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    4. My advice to the poster, sit your husband down, tell him that he should promise you that he wouldn't get angry. After he has settled, start from the beginning and be honest with him. Tell him how u feel. Give him time to change first before any separation decision

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    5. Poster 15.13 I beg please where did you find this secret boyfriend. I need someone like that

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    6. I wish, I get the lever to get one. The max my husband has ever lasted is 3minutes plus foreplay. I regret marrying my first love.

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    7. How shameless are you!! Even me wey be single girl I can't even sleep with a man for £300. That's an insult! No man can even propose that rubbish to me. When they advice you people to get on your grind before and/or after marriage you won't hear. If no be exch. rate that's just 75k. Even with exch rate is that what you should defile your bed for? You no even talk say them buy you house or brand new car make I know say the temptation strong. Abeg, some of you married women are truly a disgrace.

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    8. And you an 17:48- are admiring this destructive path!! Ewww...:

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  14. You hate him that much and you are still in his house? Still married to him ? Goat Goat Goat and you still open your legs for him ?
    Hmmm

    Abeg I'm 'looking' for my friend Dammy.. lives in uk, east village stratford.. The last we spoke he was on his way to cinema, it's over a week now and I still cant reach me. Oh Lord he's my only sure nija male friend keep him safe for me please.
    Dammy is 5"7ft, dark in completion, Bearded, uses glasses, IT guy.
    Do you know him ? Please email.
    He's a BV

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    1. Did you not read the part where she refused him sex? Foolish human being, after she begged you laggies to be sensitive.

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    2. Dammy dumped your stinky a** leave him alone.

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    3. A 5'7 guy? Tufiawka! You must be really desperate. With beard and glasses ... so Noble Igwe is your spec? Desperate chick.

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    4. Are you crushing on him? Does he even send u?

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    5. Anonymous 17:38. I said "friend". Wow what a funny mentality you people have in this country.

      Anonymous 17:4, 5 and 7 lol same person. HOE go get a life

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  15. I guess he was not Like this before you got married to him hence you married him. The truth is whenever there is no money in marriage, sex is never enjoyed. Sex is enjoyed in a comfortable and enabling environment.

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    1. That is 100% correct! My hubby and I had this argument recently. He accused me of no longer being attracted to him. Money is a woman's viagra. To make matters worse, I'm the sole breadwinner. It's very difficult to remain sexually attracted to a broke man who asks you for money to fuel his car. Very very difficult. Sex becomes a duty and not something to be enjoyed.
      The posters husband is most likely broke.

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  16. I guess he was not Like this before you got married to him hence you married him. The truth is whenever there is no money in marriage, sex is never enjoyed. Sex is enjoyed in a comfortable and enabling environment.

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  17. Sister, do you think you can get counseling? It might help you return to the reason you got maried.

    If you just want to leave, do it. Dont overthink or you will still be thinking of leaving when you are 40 like me.

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  18. Stop Marrying Broke Guys. If he was rich you wouldn't send a chronicle, rather Manage the marriage.

    Single ladies, there is no love where There's no stable Finance.

    Stop marrying for love alone. Love doesn't pay bills. You either agree to be the provider or he does!

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    1. My dear no man plans to be broke.life happens. Your reasoning baffles me.

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    2. What if she married for money and all the things money can buy and now he's broke and she's tired of her goat.

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    3. U are as dumb as ur comment some times! Haven't u seen or heard rich people go broke after marriage? I pity you and your mentality! Yours is obviously for better, for better! Let's see how many men will take u serious with this ur crazy thoughts!

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  19. You guys should both go for counseling. . It's not bad yet , just a bit rotten . It can be sweet again . Loose some weight ,look after urself look sweet and attractive again. U guys must've been in love with each other before getting married abi . Rekindle that love again . U too werk on urself. Make ur marriage work for the sake of ur kids . Pray and watch war rooom. Lastly drink coconut oil.

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  20. I understand the feeling. Madam is frustrated!

    You know contrary to what some people think, money is not the root of all evil.. money is good living, money brings happiness and peace in every home.

    I'm not sayin lack of money is the main problem you have in your marriage but it has contributed a lot to it. Your hubby is frustrated and being the selfish man that he is..he is taking it out on you. Which is not right!

    I think you both need space, take your kids and go home for a while. It doesn't mean you'll be getting a divorce yet, it simply means the both of you need time away from each other. Talk to your pastor or see a counselor first, who knows maybe you guys might start missing each other.

    Any man who threatens to hit his wife will one day carry out on his threat, i really hope it doesn't happen to you. But you need to be careful how to talk back at him and if you nag him, please stop.

    If at the end of the period of your separation, you still feel as you do now, then you should make the separation permanent! Life goes on

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    1. Also try and shed some weight you hear? Try and look sexy again for yourself, you'll feel good when you start getting appreciative glance(s) and comments from people around you. It's well

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  21. I guess that thing that brought you guys together is lost deep down in the ocean. If you can recall, do you think if you dive into the waters which brought you 2togeda you can find it?..

    If no, I think the best way to get off this is to let each other go. I know it's gonna hurt the kids but you ve to cus I can't find myself faking a good morning to someone i dislike not to talk of Faking a whole relationship when you know it ain't real.

    Summary: Either you back off orrrr Get a side boo if you can't bear the depression that accompanies a divorce.

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  22. Take it to the Lord in prayer. There is nothing impossible for him to do.

    Fast and pray fervently.
    Also show your husband some love despite every situation.

    Don't give up

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  23. U are even lucky he still do it with u considering ur massive weight maybe it is due to his financial condition.I prefer to go a year without it than do it with a fat woman.

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    1. .. and you're trying to make people believe you're not money maker by begging for giveaway? You lie, you're money maker/James

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    2. Shut the fuck up. It's men like u they call goat. What do u mean a fat woman? There's a way u can actually say a woman is fat like she has added weight or other polite words.

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    3. Lmao! Jamesssss o

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    4. @Oluwatoyosi, excuse me!! U mean fat is a cruel word???

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  24. Hmmmmm! poster this your narrative no be here o, I'm short of words, but, one thing I know is that I can't stand a man dats not romantic, would do I no sef, let me just read comments .

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    1. Me too, I love romance, if you can't romance me, oyo is your case.

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  25. Hummmmmm,chornicle chai,the devil has creep into your marriage, my advice is for you to put God 1st,because what God has join together let no man assunder

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  26. Anh anh...poster what's with the 'goat' and 'boy'? Was there no courtship before you said I do? Something made you say yes to him...Madam give us the complete sorry

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  27. Hmmm. Issues!!!

    Some will say U guys marry early with no clear path. I think I'll go with them on this one.

    U'r 26, U r still goin 70. At least that's the age Ed-Sheran gave in one of his love track. It's still a very long way.

    I pity U but I pity ur "goat" husband more.

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  28. You wear the shoes and know where it pinches. Marriage is not a do or die affair. If deep down you know you can't cope, why seek our advice? I'll never advice you to leave your marriage. The decision is yours to make.

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  29. OK.Solution?
    Lose some weight, look good and attractive.Maybe he will stop regret marrying u.Maybe he will have one more reason to work hard,take good care of his family and love u.
    Since DV is not involved, forget about divorce. U already hv 2 children & u r fat & has not very tight p***y. Getting a new better hubby won't be easy.There r too many single ladies out there.

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    1. You need to be flogged on the bumbum sometimes. Watch your tongue. How sure are we that you no get 1 million commas yourself? Yet you hide behind this peacemaker id and make many insensitive comments. It's not good

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  30. So you saw all this and still married him, still had 2 children. I'm not understanding. At 26 half of your mates aren't even married yet you've already rushed in and are dusting your shoes to rush out. Hmmmmm.

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  31. This womanist foolish and also a hoe. There is no money that is why you call your husband a goat. You madam are mrs goat.

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  32. I feel your pain dear,i wont ask u to leave him now but take things patiently just ensure u know what u are doing in whatever decision u will be making.

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  33. You yourself are nasty,why are u using such words like goat'?to a man u took a vow and married.?u sound like a fair weather wife!things are bad for d guy now,ur love has turned to hate!gerrarhia!i know ur type.mtceew

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  34. My darling poster, my advice to you as a much older person is this.... Take a deep breath.... And relax... I understand perfectly how you feel but believe me, its a phase in your life that will pass. Life isn't rosy anywhere. The major challenge you guys face right now is finance. My advice to you is to find something you love doing and turn it into a business and watch it grow even if you work. You are still very young and have a long life ahead of you by Gods grace so make it count. As for your hubby, just keep quiet, his words shouldn't hurt you anymore as he says those things to hurt you also out of frustration. Your main focus should be to set yourself at least a 5 year plan and run with it. Even if you marry another husband, you will still meet with one obstacle or the other. Be strong, draw up a success plan, follow your plan and succeed. When you are successful im sure you wont be having petty fights with your hubby as you would be very busy..... Remember my first advice.... Relax.

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  35. If this man gets a job that pays him a lot will you still hate him?
    If he buys you a brand new car will you still hate him?
    Don't you see that the 'Buhari times" syndrome has affected your marriage?'
    Divorce may not be the way forward but working on your greed, being patient and persevering in the midst of scarcity.
    Find joy in your kids and someone who will encourage you.

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    1. Questioner how sure are you that if the man has money he will do all these things? And no, I am not the poster.

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  36. BTW why d extreme hate in ur language? I didn't read where u wrote that he forced u to marry him.

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  37. I have never seen a more stupid person like you in my life.

    You met, dated, married and have children for him, you are now here cursing and insulting him to us and asking what to do.
    Didn't you see all the red flags?
    Oh, you taught when you get married, an angel from heaven will come down and wash away your partner's imperfections?

    You are 26, and have 2 kids, that means u would have married at least around 22 or 23 or so.
    Common sense is very far from you.

    Look, I have continue to tell people who cares to listen that, anything you do in life is risk and you will be responsible for your result, that's why it's always advisable to take calculated risk, so all through this years and stages, you have been there and suddenly woke up from your slumber to portray someone's brother in this matter.

    Am very sure, you are one of those ladies that will insult your husband and expect that kind of E-money love, hehe KOLEWERK.

    The way you describe your husband is just the way you are, because birds of the same feather flocks together, him own bad pass your own, you come dey weep

    Since you are so perfect, so romantic, so respectful, so beautiful, so lovely, so rich and so adorable, then just Jejely Pack your load, go out and immediately get married to someone like you.

    Ode Oshhi

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    2. So there may have been love at the beginning, but continuous abuse eroded the love until soon there is nothing left. Then negative feelings like hate begins to build up.

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  38. Wow...Your resentment is really heavy, felt the waves from here.
    Your piece up there informed me you two had zero compatibility before getting into marriage.
    The missing link is your courtship days...if you had any.
    I feel so heartbroken for you, reading the word goat you use in describing your hubby, knowing it's a word used to mask your lash-out and hurts. You are tired and it shows.

    What i won't do is sugarcoat here though... but then why did you marry this guy? I failed to see that here. What attracted you to this guy? For this to go so wrong, you guys built your marriage on a non-existent foundation.
    I would not advise you to watch war room or fast and pray and others. I deeply believe God is the ultimate answer, but the answer i sense for you is Leave!!! You need a break, a seperation!
    Your home is madly dysfunctional, and your hubby has no idea what marriage is about.

    Your hubby had terrible role-modelling, and chose not to be different. That many of our mothers walked on eggshells, submitted and sacrificed their self worth, dreams and lives for men like this just to answer Mrs and cut anniversary cakes never makes it proper. This is not how to live. You are married to your enemy and you will only be wrecked in a short while.
    Your hubby is deeply insecure, he has projected enough to you as well. He believes the prophecy of your marriage ending...his legs are outside already and he is frustrating you in order for you to get out. Dont wait to be thrown out. He is abusive as well and deeply insensitive...there is no marriage to save, no image to protect. He is messed up and you are close to that point as well. Put yourself first and save yourself.

    Open up to your family. Spill all, let them know the damage done you. This man wants a broken woman, he needs one who trembles at his sight and begs to be in his life. Don't be that woman. Society will gossip, will talk, will discriminate, will shame you. I haven't heard society give awards to broken "superwomen". Go get your life together, rebuild your confidence, take care of your kids...step out from that negative atmosphere before you snap. Your association is poisoning you and you can never do right by God in that state. This is absolutely not God's will for you...holding on to this is making an idol out of your marriage and you will hurt more.
    May you find true peace...i will put you in my prayers.
    Hugs and kisses.



    I hope ladies in relationship getting the christmas itch are taking notes. Courtship days are not for questions like Have you eaten? they are not to console your partner when his team loses during the UEFA season. They are not to cook up a storm, chat and gossip rubbish. To takee excursions to all the fastfoods, waste time on phone discussing the cold weather, packing waist and strolling round your local govt or doing the 50 Shades of knackson. It is a period to love smart and have your eyes wide open. Float in the haze and indulge them hormones in your early dating days. When you sense something might get serious, pick your telescope, microscope and all the scopes and choose right. And date guys you can communicate with,build friendship and carry God along. Nothing is foolproof, nothing is guaranteed...true. But do what you can in your mortal power to avoid hell on earth in the name of bad marriage.
    It would be a fair story if you ask for tips on what you to do in a relationship, questions to ask, what to look out for, how to make a team out of a relationship, tips for true bonding, tips for keeping the spark for newly weds.
    Many sensible B.Vs will be happy to give some ideas...i know i have loads to offload and will be happy to give them tips. Don't get to this pls.

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    2. Rob, you are the depressed one here. Did you even read her comments?

      Empress Cho, you have finished work. Very insightful epistle. Very long but worth the read. I hope all the single BVs and the ones in marriages that are not working will take a cue.

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    3. 👏👏👏👊👍👍. Empress you are the bomb! Art thou a counselor?

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    4. Rob how do you go about calling people depressed? Do you know the gravity of the word? Leave her alone!

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  39. I must marry kind of girls, please learn from this o....

    No romance without finance.
    If U don't like any behavior of he's in courtship, don't think he will change in marriage.
    Most women see the warning signs before marriage, however I must marry dey hold them

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    1. You people are getting it wrong. The foundation of a marriage is not finance. Finance is important but it is fleeting. God, Jesus is the foundation, combined with love, it is unshakable and can weather any storm.

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  40. Dear poster,i can relate wit ur story,mine is just like yours bt I hv endured for my kids.i live wit my husband bt we dnt have sex,discuss or do things like couple bt he doesn't beat me.i am still nd will remain married bcos am a Christian nd God hates divorce.pls pray I believe God will change him.i perfectly understand u,some BV's may call u names bcos they hv nt been there,u may meet a worse man after u live him so I advice u remain there.try nd get busy.God will surely touch him if u believe

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    1. Thank you Anon... Same here. My marriage has been sexless and Hell without money. Two handsome boys. I can't divorce him. He goes around gossiping about me in our vicinity. But I handle the bills. Of course I don't have any business with him what so ever. We live like housemates. Go out with your house key.. Don't knock, no one is going to get the door for anyone. The kids are fine... I distract myself with work. Its hard... Yea it is. I miss sex, those cozy moments. But that won't pay my bills or that of my kids. And I can't make him feel important by cheating on him.

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    2. And you really think that bringing up your kids in a loveless marriage is the better option for them? You are just deceiving yourself. Those children will not thank you for your "sacrifice" o.

      I don't know why you assume that when women leave a marriage they must enter another one. Your comment about the next man being worse than this one is lame.

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  41. Poster, you did not really say what the problem is, you're just screaming you hate your husband, he's a boy, he's a goat. You called the father of your children GOAT online, I can imagine what you call him in real life!
    You sounds very angry, you need to calm down.

    You said he says you're fat, then, why don't you hit the gym, do some nice exercises, plan your diet and eat healthy, give yourself a good treat.
    The hate you have for your husband, all because he's broke financially is bad, you are still very young, but you have a responsibility, which is taking good care of your children. Your children needs both you and their father.

    Why not pray for your husband to be successful while you get yourself busy with your job. Whether you hate him or not, you need him to be a success, for the sake of your children.
    Both of you need to see a marriage counsellor, something is spiritually wrong somewhere, you need to pray and ask God to remove the spirit of bitterness, hatred and stagnation from your lives and home.
    If you were ever in-love with him, contemplate on the good old days, don't make a decision that you will regret later, you can re-ignite the spark.
    I pray God help you find the peace and comfort you need.

    Why are young marriages breaking these days????

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  43. OlaGold (add up 58BF8F56 for 18-24k raw gold dust and bar)23 October 2016 at 16:04

    Lol @ Goat.
    I say Idiot instead lol.
    It still ends with a 't'

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    1. Some men are goats, some men are dogs, some men are pigs. Real men are scarce.

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  44. Please make me anonymous for the comment that just asked for for friends with my BBM attached thank you ma

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  45. Madam, just leave if u can't bear abeg.

    Take ur kids and go.

    And he's broke? Lol.

    More grease to ur elbow

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  46. Please just go for counseling with your hubby or remove yourself Temporarily from that situation to re access things...
    The hate in you is too much, I hope you don't end up hurting someone.

    Now I understand why people lash out here...
    #Shivers

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  47. You sound really bitter, I wonder if you ever loved him because from the way you sound there's no lost love between you two, which brings me to the q why did you marry him? And your husbands lack of romance doesn't warrant so much hate and venom, as for me tho I don't support divorce except when the man is physically abusive or promiscuous.
    Besides since you've already made up your mind what do you want us to tell you? Just in case you need advice tho I'll say try and work it out with him at least for the sake of your children, communication is always key in a marriage...good luck..

    Allergic to bullshite*

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  48. Anon 15:13. When he finish f*cking you he will move to the next hoe like you. Hoeloshi ashawo.

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  49. My sweetie leave that marriage while u still can. Do u know d emotional n psychological harm u exposing ur self to.Trust me u may find it difficult but u would one day look back n thank God u did.
    I always say this ur peace of mind is greater than all the riches on earth coz when u at peace u coordinate well both physically n mentally n therefore u become a better person.U are jx 26 it is better now than later,living like this forever might turn u into a monster.Truss me darling I understand how u feel forget what pple will say n take that bold step.

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  50. So much insults from wifey! Take it easy o, it's obvious two of u ain't matured for marriage

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  51. Oh wow! My darling, your rage is almost palpable. I hope there isn't a "new kid on the block" inspiring this emotional volcanic eruption? It's one thing to loathe your hubby because you feel your union has run its course or you find him irritating, but it's entirely different if you want out because you've found another man you feel is everything your hubby isn't. If you must leave him, do so but not because someone new has surfaced.

    Your words are quite strong and passionate in a negative way. I'll advise you to get a legal separation and assess how things go. It's unwise to remain under the same roof with a man you claim to hate so much. A day may come when ur‎ rage will exceed the threshold and you'll end up killing him. So, honey, do yourself, your kids and even him, a favour by removing yourself from that "hot zone". Some space will do you all a lot of good. Take time out to reflect before you make any hasty decision that may come back to bite you in ass.

    I'm tempted to ask if he has always been like this but it appears that ship has sailed. You're practically a baby and you have your whole life ahead of you. Of course, you can always start again but life has no guarantees. You may end up with an amazing guy just as well as a demon in human skin. It's unfortunate it has gotten to this stage because the more resentment you show towards your hubby, the worse he will become. He will reflect whatever you throw at him. If you guys are separated, your wrath will definitely abate, plus you both will know what leaving apart from each other feels like. Sometimes you have to lose a thing to realise its true value.

    #e-bearhugs.‎

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  52. Has he always been abusive, unromantic or it is a recent development? Can you both sit and talk it through or invite a wise and sincere person to help you two? If it doesn't work take a break from yourselves, get a job, a life and take it from there

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  53. Maram abeg clam down small, i know say as him no get money sex go dey taya u. But try your best think of your children, talk to your hubby show am how to make love to you, show am how you want am try make your marriage work.i know say you don try, but try again. Why you wan give up just like? No be only you things hard for, sex dey taya me too wen money no dey house. Make you pray for your hubby and trust God

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  54. This is one reason i prefer to read chronicles when the posts are closed and not before. I can't be nice to who doesn't deserve being nice to. Normally if the complaint is from a woman, advice arrives from left, right and centre but if its from a man all the refrain is let's hear from the other side and more often than not, the advice poured make matters worse.

    First of all, whatever the offence of the man, that man is a candidate for assassination one way or the order. From the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks and no one ever speaks out all in his heart at any given point. A woman that sees her husband the way this woman sees hers would eliminate him.

    Okay, without prejudice to the culpability of the man, all the woman's complaints smark of greed and selfishness. I didn't see where she said the man uses her as pynching bag or makes money and lavishes it on himself and others to her exclution. All i see is not giving her money and material things as her greed demands, a situation occassioned by the man's husle not paging in mega amounts. She says he uses abusive words on her which by all means could be true but compare her abusive words and his and see that they cancel each other's.

    If the man is such a devil, why continue to live with him as 'friends' if it isn't to exploit him as much as you can without giving anything until his doomsday. With this era of women liberation, i dont understand why women still rely on men do everything in their home where children belong to both and in the cases they (women) do, they make much fuss about it.
    If it's not about selfishness, let her show the man her write up or voice exactly how she feels to the man so he knows what the woman she lives with thinks of him.

    In the final analysis, if the man is such a demon or at least you think of him as such, you have no reason remaining in his house a day longer and finally succumb to the urge to poisoning him slowly or hiring other men to do your dirty job as some will advice you here.

    Without hearing from him, i can only be afraid for his life

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  55. I really don't know what to comment
    But if u really want to loose weight, just email me

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  56. #Forcing happiness makes you miserable*

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  57. Instead of saying you hate your husband because he is broke you are looking for how to give a dog a bad name so you can hang it.you need money to express care and love before you talk of romance. Nobody wants a liability so do something. Your husband isn't the problem search yourself...genuinely he is only letting out his frustration due to his broken state which your selfish self centered being refuse to see and think how to calm and assure him.

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  58. @ Iphie ehn. Yes I now understand why people lash out, see hate for her husband the father of her children, calling her husband a goat??!! And it is possible the guy had money when she married him and now that he is going through difficulties he has turned to a goat.

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  59. Poster give your marriage a short break to workout things, you can go and stay with your family house for the time be

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  60. This is quite serious. Both of you have an important role to play. Marriage is supposed to be a beautiful thing but with you using all these words that means something is wrong somewhere.Go back to the drawing board and look at where it all started. You should be a role model, an example for your children to look up to at all times. Please let God Almighty order your steps aright. At the end you shall testify to God's greatness. Amen

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  61. This is quite serious. Both of you have an important role to play. Marriage is supposed to be a beautiful thing but with you using all these words that means something is wrong somewhere.Go back to the drawing board and look at where it all started. You should be a role model, an example for your children to look up to at all times. Please let God Almighty order your steps aright. At the end you shall testify to God's greatness. Amen

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  62. Poster calm down,u need to analyse what went wrong,wen and ow,and if there is hope of reconciliation And ans this qns becos it's obvious u resent him so much.and it takes two to tangle
    Can u single handedly pay ur bills and d kids urself if u walk away.
    All those abusing her,dat she is fat should take a chill pls. We can't all be thin neither can we all be fat.life itself is in catergory. I wonder wen being Big bold and beautify has become a crime in nigeria. But a man Is allowed to a add flesh and pot belly.
    Poster luv urself first,try reconciliation,pray,and be hapi.

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  63. Women will see all dis signs and kept quiet then enter out out of desperation.
    If u leave where are u going,what u need is God right now.if u don't know how to pray go and learn,put Ur knees down fast and pray .
    U know he's immature and u venture into dat marriage..so don't come here and be complaining and calling him goat...pray and tins will turn around

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  64. This person sound a lot like my brothers wife Victoria. People should learn not to believe everything they read online. She tried to distort some details but you can tell she sent this to Stella. Victoria Okolo Dania please work on yourself before attacking my brother. You have a lot of flaws but you defame him directly and indirectly on all social media platforms. We will continue to ignore you till you return to your senses.

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    2. Really. Please spill the beans already

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  65. Na wa..ppl can be so judgemental. Y can't we just give advise without being judgy..asp all the didn't u see the signs questions, guess what she's already in the situation. And I totally understand u...usually feel that way sometimes too. Marriage isn't a joke and if the guy isn't helping that makes it worse. Have u tried telling him how u feel. Prayerfully tell him if u haven't . and if u v pls do what's best for u and ur sanity esp if u r sure u can take care of the kids. And maybe separating for a bit may help him appreciate u...we 'll never know. May God see u thru

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  66. Dis man maybe a good man but bcos of financial difficulties d woman has changed her character too towards d man and bring out d animal in him.u ones love this goat and married him.Remember those old times and work out your marriage

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  67. Ynawagoooo
    Madam bros no get money now how dick no dey sweet again
    Now u want another man
    Now u hate the man
    Madam u re the bad luck in that guys life
    Kindly pack ur things and leave with innocent man alone
    Evil woman

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  68. Person force u into the marriage

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  69. You first of all have to forgive him for his past mistakes and prepare to be hate free in d future. That will take a lot of work on ur part, ask the holy spirit to help u. Bcos u cant afford to let all the present animosity remain in u..for ur own wellbeing and also to be in right standing with God. Secondly u need to also know that stimes pple do things bcos that is d only way they know to do it, based on upbringing, past experiences or just sheer ignorance. It is impt that u let ur husband know the things he does that make u feel unloved or make him appear immature. But u have to say this in love, pray abt it first asking God to help u speak right. And just talk more abt how u feel than blame him. If u cant talk to him, write it in a letter, remind him why u fell in love with him ( if u ever did) or at least why u chose to marry him) and then how u got to where u are today. Also u need to love urself, and a good way to do that will be to pay urself some attention and take the focus of him. Build ur self confidence, set a weight goal and achieve it. Work out, shed weight, switch up r style etc. U will be amazed how the energy around u will change, and how ur confidence will grow. Another thing that wld help is to make a list of the good things u love abt ur husband and focus on these things. On the other hand, u sound like u need some time away/apart, to help u think things thru and stimes it may be a wake-up call for ur husband (if he loves u, but there is no saying if reconciliation will occur after this. So consider it thoroughly. It can be frustrating to live with an immature man, some are able to grow up with a nurturing patient and supportive wife while others just never will. Its ur call, if u think the situation is hopeless, then leave now. But ask urself if u did all u cld have done to make this marriage work, before u abandon ship. Finally, it appears that ur husband is also not enjoying the marriage. As women we have to stoop to conquer bcos men are egoistic, and really love is more abt giving than taking (God so love he gave). So switch up ur mindset, and put urself second. Sincerely ask ur husband " what are the things u do/say etc that he doesnt like; he needs u to do, for him to enjoy this marriage", and listen, try nt to be offended. You will be surprised at what he says. And try to do these things, its d law of sowing and reaping, he in turn will feel the need to pay u back, and want to meet ur needs. That is if he is a good man! And when ur marriage becomes healthy u will see that he will also begin to put u first and himself second. But u have to lead by example and show him how.

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  70. Continued: This is for the financial aspect. You have to ask urself an honest question - is ur husband lazy? is he not putting adequate effort into making money and providing for the family, or is he just not getting successful at it? If u answered yes to the first two questions, then u made a bad choice and these are things u should have watched out for while choosing a mate. and honestly, i wouldn't know how to advise u. There are women who spend all their lives being the sole bread winner because of this initial blunder, and it is ur call to make. However if it is the latter (i.e. he is trying but not successful), then he needs ur support. Sometimes his acting up may be him carrying out his frustrations of not being able to provide on u, because as his wife u get to see this weakness, and he is covering up his shame by acting the way he is. You need to encourage him, let him know that you see and appreciate the little effort he is making. Generally, it is hard for women to respect and love a man who is not able to provide for their needs (bitter truth), but there are also women who have stood by men when they had little or nothing, so u need to ask God for grace to look beyond the present circumstance. Most importantly, u have a key role to play in ur husband being blessed , ur prayers are invaluable and more so the prayers both of u make together in agreement. So u have to let him understand that for God to bless ur home, u have to be in unity and peace ( Ps 133:1-3) and he needs to treat you right for God to answer his prayers (Malachi 2:13-14). Above all, the spiritual controls the physical, take out time to pray and fast for ur husband/home, make whatever adjustments u need to make, ask God to give u the wisdom to know what to do /say....follow the "good advice" people have given ( bearing in mind that no two cases are ever the same). So that when u look back on this marriage and this time, u will be able to say u did all that was humanly possible. Remember u haven't told us that he hits u, if he becomes physically abusive then u have to leave ASAP!!!!!!!, to protect ur life.

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  71. D devil u know is beta Dan d Angel u dont ....u can make or mar ur marriage....choice is urs

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  72. NNE biko take it eazy on the insult,instead of this many insult pray for him of will be OK, there is always up and down n marriages. may God take control because he knows best

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  73. Kai! It is well. I am way older than you poster so am thinking you have a lot of spiritual , mental and emotional exercises to do. From experience My husband is a good man but some expectations i had from him that i wasnt getting almost made me hate him. I was angry, resentful bitter at him most of the time. Complaining of how i am unable to change him. But i just realised that i cant, only God can. I can have an absolutely perfect man if i will only submit to God and do my part in the marriage.i ve started and changes are rolling in already. I advise you to maybe while you are away from him, take stock of your time qith him. If you seek God over this, you will be amazed how much God is more than willing to do for you to restore your marriage. It ll be hard yes but its doable.

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  74. You called the father of your children a goat

    You called your husband a goat


    The importance of financial empowerment for men before they marry cannot be over emphasized. If this man was rich, i am sure you would stick it out.You are a rude woman. Go back home na and see how things are. It is greener outside right? Until you leave. You would understand.

    Also, your husband is untrained. Fathers train your sons. So many boys getting married without having an idea on how marriage works.I wonder how your kids are coping in such unloved environment.

    It is time for both of you to accept Jesus Christ. Let him restore your marriage.

    KING XOXO MYSTERY

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  75. Chai your husband is goat pepper soup and you come be nkwobi. The love just disappear like that. Come and see my Bishop to wish you and hubby faces with word of God so that when you see your husband you will call him honey, he will call you cupcake. It is well. God will bring that love that made you husband and wife. Both of you should forgive each other because blessings can never follow una.

    I had to comment now. I wanted to read and walk away. It is well

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  76. Poster, buy these Nigerian film...Trust your wife Part 1,2,3 and 4, you know Naija film na but it is interesting.

    It is quite educative.


    KING XOXO MYSTERY



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  77. I think you're the problem big madam 26 Calling 32 small boy,so u don't feel him after 2kids, he isn't romantic anymore after estimated 5yrs of living together, it's quite obvious you married him then because you ain't that exposed you jumped lot step to marry and you see your friends doing better because they calm to choose rightly, my dear you said you work pls how much do you earn and what kind of work. It shows you hid some true stories 1) who are those manky men that touches you and make you feel the urge? 2) where did they touch you?. I think you need deliverance telling your husband to let you live like friend and no sex, Stella biko uar biased with your red pen, * if a woman send in such chronicle and say her husband request for no sex and live like padi alone, you will curse him and say it means he has someone spicing him up out there. This 26yrs old didn't complete learning before graduating, I'm sure u ain't ripe for marriage morally before u puma.

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  78. TO MARRY SOME NIGERIANS GIRLS IS LIKE KEEPING A JUJU SHRINE IN YOUR HOUSE.\
    COS ANY TIME YOU STOP GIVING FOWL AND HOT DRINK THE JUJU WILL COME AFTER YOU.
    I PITY THE YOUNG HUSBAND.
    NA SO IF YOU RETURN BACK TO NIGERIA FROM EUROPE 1O NIGERIAN GIRLS WILL LOVE TO MARRY YOU.EVEN
    SOME GIRLS YOU SAID HELLO OR HAD A DRINK WITH WILL EVEN GO AT UR BACK FIGHTING OTHER GIRL
    FOR YOU WHY? NA SHE GO DEY ASK YOU ABOUT MARRIAGE..NO LOVE IN SOME NIGERIAN GIRLS HEART,
    JUST MONEY,,GOOD HOUSE,,NICE CAR,,,GOOD FAMILY,AND THEY ARE COMING TO DESTROYED THE
    GOOD FAMILY MY MAMA MANAGE TO BUILD BY TAKING MY PAPA THE WAY HE IS IN NATURE,NONSENSE.
    SOME WEY NO SABI COOK GO TELL U SAY I CAN NOT COOK FOR MY BOYFRIEND BUT MY HUSBAND,,
    DECEIVERS TO ANSWER MRS.BEFORE SHOWING THE REAL CHARACTERS....NO WOMAN NO CRY,,,you still married
    a goat as a husband....?
    FROM SWISS

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